If He's Not Contacting You, These 5 Things Make Him Chase YOU

[@JonathonAslay]

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[@janethalley2154]

Screw this..if a guy is interested he WILL contact you as soon as he can.

[@JJ-vb9ct]

Exactly

[@LynnSandler-j9k]

If he prefers to be around men, he wont call😮

[@survivingthriving3131]

"Dysfunctional men run away" 🤯

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes they do...

[@juliana1506]

Yes, and it doesn't mean they aren't good people. They're just lost.

[@survivingthriving3131]

I know it's not me and I have learned it's them so not to take it personally but that was hard until I heard dysfunctional men run away. That just made all the difference to me - to really be ok with it and move on - probably dodged a lot of bullets!

[@juliana1506]

@@survivingthriving3131 For me too, and I'm learning to let go. It's very hard because I tend to want to fix things, and I think that somehow I was dysfunctional too and I first met them. I guess I'm getting better at it.

[@juliana1506]

*when I first met them

[@blueazura]

1. Your action match your words - Show up consistently with your action matching your words 2. Take personal responsibility of your choices - Not in victim consciousness, less complaints 3. Know how to fight fair - Listening to your partner's needs, wants and desires - Accepting their point of view and they must be doing the same 4. Empathy - Do you care about his feelings and your own feelings? - Speak the truth with kindness 5. Be transparent - Lean into your feelings and express your most important feelings in the relationship

[@mistressevamzonia7087]

Hello I know of someone great and powerful who helpee me get my boyfriend back in to loving me again and I believe he can also help you just as he restore back my broken relationship

[@mistressevamzonia7087]

Text him directly on whtzapp

[@valencia_ryan]

Thank you so much! All of this was great information but I was absolutely too tired to get up and write it down 😩

[@siobhanrachel2969]

Thanks blueazura 💕👍

[@wandayarbrough]

Screw this after 4 years and three heartbreaks and anger i don't care anymore. I deserve better.

[@xavierwoodley]

Those men that did this to you, are the men who did not control their sexual urges.

[@MissRandom077]

When I stop carrying he invested more than b4, when we were dating for 3yrs he took advantage of my "investing". Now he stands alone in "investing".

[@tbunnyshy1]

It’s true. Women tend to overreact and assume. We need to calm down! Lol. On another note, last week he suggested we get a hotel and I said “how about next week?” I felt like I couldn’t breathe. We were saying goodnight at a visit already taking place. Women need space too. He hasn’t contacted me in 4 days. It is what it is. I stayed true to who I am and how I feel.

[@kimlarge4077]

Did he contact you yet?

[@tbunnyshy1]

@@kimlarge4077 Yes. I responded a few days later. He messages regularly. We are good now. I just feel suffocated easily. There has to be balance.

[@LisaGemini]

Good for you. Be an empowered woman. Don't let a man pressure you into having sex before you're ready, girl. You're the brake, he's the gas. If all he wants is sex, you don't need him. LOVE yourself.

[@tbunnyshy1]

@@LisaGemini I’m just tired of learning techniques. Think one way but act like something else. Basically you have to constantly PORTRAY someone you might not be. That just isn’t sustainable ya know? I think I’m going back to being alone (not lonely). Every 4 years I try to date again. I can honestly say I despise it. 😂

[@foreveryoungpisces7426]

@@tbunnyshy1 I get that. Mine is overseas (LDR) and we'll spend so much time talking I feel suffocated and pull back, and vice versa. When together in person we just had adventures, created memories, and loved being with each other. No need to talk to death.

[@Stephanie-ku8wl]

I agree with the block him comment. When he is always on Facebook but not responding to a voicemail and messages on messenger, it sends a clear sign he doesn’t care about you. You don’t have to get angry when you try to contact him but these are similar to gas lighting. You could have dodged a bullet, the hard part is to still be in love with someone who is still alive. Dating should not be this hard and trying to find your divine counterpart, should not be this hard.

[@anibrito4553]

“You say, WTF is going on?” I love your outbursts. 😂

[@giulias.5104]

I think you are right here, Jonathon. It seems to me too that leaning back too much is not the best way to act. It is perfectly ok to leave him (and yourself) space to breathe a little, but when it starts to became too much, something is up usually. I like to reconnect, say hi, and ask if everything is ok. In my experience, the guys who are reliable and most healthy emotionally, don't pull away for too long. They like to connect every day or often, are curious about you, and they move the relationship futher. If they disappear, they either not ready for investing, or not really feeling the connection, and I learned to believe the signs and trust they know best what they need. Be present and invite them to cease you, and if they don't, trust them in what they are showing you. Much love. 💕

[@mimiporter8610]

Beautifully said thanks for that.

[@maycherrie]

Theres this guy i dated and when i left the country he dont initiate a contact but when i do send a msg he replies.. he use to view my ig story,likes my ig post but he dont initiate a contact.. why is that? I want him to reach out and initiate a contact too not just always me checking in with him.

[@hawkfeatheraviation3465]

@@maycherrie You're not in the same country, and are physically unavailable to him, so it makes sense that he's only interested in very casual contact. Accept this, and move on.

[@muyoyetamarriam4267]

If his not checking in its very clear he doesn't want to

[@cassandraheiden8085]

I can’t remember RN if it was this video RN, or another one I just watched, but you said to be more open and playful that a guy would be attracted to that and it worked! I’ve known him for years, but the texting was sucking. I through a playful / sexy comment out there and he was more open and fun. It got the convo flowing more naturally on any topic and the mood lightened instantly. This literally worked less than 20 minutes after I watched the video! TY! I adore this guy.

[@terriwhalen3618]

You are right! It begins with our own healing, being able to be alone and enjoy it. Becoming emotional mature, learning who we are. Those standards have to be high, we have to be high standard as,well.

[@sebclay1526]

I let them know that I'm dating and if they want to take me off the market he has to show up...no big deal. Next. No time to get attached to someone that is not investing equally.❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@deniseballeith1884]

He ain't gonna chase you if he cheating on you. SMH

[@shesellsfish]

"Hey! What the f**kk is going on!?!" Love it!

[@zannamu]

Hilarious!

[@tamorap1614]

If someone is not interested is better to forget. Generally is a waist of time to try.

[@ingridhaughney3645]

..be in “Victor” mode rather than “Victim” brilliant advice. “In your Sovereignty” ladies be Queens

[@jessmulligan3586]

I love your videos because they remind women to be fearless in expressing our feelings in a healthy way - as a professional woman in this day and age, I need this on the daily. The practice is helping me stay grounded in my feminine and have better relationships.

[@shocked65]

Jonathon I just have to say I dig your bluntness...Don't apologize for saying the F word! I like your advice and ur style. I am 56 and had to learn the hard way about men. They were narcissistic bastards. I have kinda given up because I'm still looking for prince charming.... but thanks to u I have been able to up my standards and call em out on their bullshit! Keep it coming..You are so awesome.

[@ms.forever9282]

I'm in love with your thoughts and emotions, Mr. Jonathan Aslay. You're ultimately the best relationship coach. Please, always take care. More power and God bless you and your family always.

[@janeta3509]

Jonathan, I did the Hoffman Process 8 day journey. It was a life altering experience. I don't know what their current offerings are but encourage anyone who really wants to move forward in their growth and consciousness to look at the Hoffman offerings and if possible, attend one.

[@christinegleason5791]

Was it in person

[@helenellsworth9556]

If he's not contacting you, he's a scorpion, be patient

[@michaelsidabutar2860]

What the hell, they should be Gemini!

[@mistressevamzonia7087]

Hello I know of someone great and powerful who helped me get my boyfriend back he can also help you just as he restore back my broken relationship

[@mistressevamzonia7087]

Text him directly on whtzapp

[@liekelouter]

This made me laugh

[@bossgrammyify]

He really is Scorpio and I love his affec tion when I get it.

[@gad6347]

I love how you freely shout out the F bombs...LMFAO 🤣 oh and I just purchased Self Love and 8 Dates👍

[@JonathonAslay]

🎉

[@TheTropics4]

Yup.. you can never say the wrong thing to the right person!

[@yvonnesylten1788]

If its early in the dating process, then its not exclusive yet ...so no, we are NOT having sex. The way to get a man to chase you is don’t sleep with him right away.

[@JonathonAslay]

What's interesting is there are lots if people who have had sex on a first date and got married. But that's the exception and not the rule...

[@yvonnesylten1788]

Yes for sure, and there are people who get married after knowing each other for a week. 😃💜It does happen but it’s pretty rare. The older I get, the more I take my time to get to know a man.

[@stefanieleavitt5224]

Easier said. Most dudes will try it fairly early and keep trying it when you say it's too soon.

[@christiandavisproductions]

Not related to the topic but I've learned your intros and oftentimes when I watch your videos I say the words out with the fists in the air and everything. You're really captivating to watch.

[@JonathonAslay]

Love that!

[@linny3510]

So do i! just makes me smile x

[@tracyhobart1001]

Omg... You make me laugh so friggin hard!

[@annstar2793]

Was honest, clear, compassionate, transparent, and he had a mental breakdown and ran away. Glad I followed my intuition and did this at week 4 instead of year 4!!! Sad, though.

[@mindfullymeraki]

I love watching your videos. You are always recommending books. I love reading books to improve my life and business. Love & Gratitude

[@muyoyetamarriam4267]

Why should I start to contact him, he should do the chasing

[@btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892]

Things were easier back in the day.

[@JonathonAslay]

What was easier?

[@maidenmarian1]

Back in which day? Please share more...

[@btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892]

@@maidenmarian1 like, 20 years ago, when there was no social media, dating apps, etc. People get distracted too fast nowadays, too many options.

[@strawberryalice4150]

Thanks for the hugs! I love your “big brother” channel!❤️. So happy I found it!

[@LisaGemini]

I love you, Jonathon, because you really CARE about women and you tell it like it is! BTW that shirt rocks.

[@trace5980]

Thankyou so much for this video ..its really hit home for me because I go in total panic mode if I don't hear of my boyfriend constantly . I need to practice self love and not to stress so much but its a hard thing to do . I think my insercuites have been ingrained from previous bad relationships I think I am not worth true love and Respect but we all are worth this I need to build up my self worth .Take care Jonathan 🙂 xx

[@JonathonAslay]

You are so welcome

[@ozzyoz5210]

You're a delightful man to listen to. Thank you for your videos!

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you!

[@ozzyoz5210]

@@JonathonAslay Your information on dating is spot on! I hope you have a wonderful day

[@ozzyoz5210]

@@JonathonAslay Welcome indeed

[@TheSexy1049]

I love the way you explain, thanks so much Jonathan 🥰

[@Bellabella1118.]

He doesn't reply so i blocked him..

[@JonathonAslay]

Just curious, why block?

[@Bellabella1118.]

@@JonathonAslay his hot and cold, he seen my messages and he doesn't reply for nearly 3 days but always online. He do it all the time. He said before, that his afraid to approach me, but doesn't want to lose me. Why afraid of me, is he guilty? But anyway i feel not like his priority so i blocked him to move on.

[@muyoyetamarriam4267]

@@Bellabella1118. you did great why should u be checking on him , he should do the chasing

[@janethalley2154]

@@Bellabella1118. Yes, he deserves to be blocked.

[@shashikalasiddappashashisi7315]

@@Bellabella1118. shell I block him in whatsp same situation here...

[@andreamartin2953]

This came at a very opportune moment, thanks. I lol when you spoke about women wanting a lot of contact to feel happy and assured. That is so me, even though I place a high value on myself! I think it stems from abandonment issues as a child. HOFFMAN PROCESS is my next step. I appreciate that you suggest helpful books. Also, definately the blue looks more natural and better on you than the red shirts. It compliments your skin tone better 😘

[@JonathonAslay]

Happy and honored to help...

[@jennifere4641]

I love your endless supply of books to your left 💙💚🧡📚📚 I'm finished with narcissist videos and focused on yours now🏆🥇

[@susanarsoniadou]

Who cares? No contact means you should give up on him.Screw him. If you chase him you lose.

[@marieladyofthesea4559]

Thanks for this message. Love ❤️ the beautiful blue shirt 👕.

[@JonathonAslay]

🤗

[@roelewis7683]

Reading and doing the exercises in The Hoffman Process. Thank you for recommending it. It's work but it's worth it!

[@JonathonAslay]

Amen 🙏

[@Sweetgirl420]

I’m in a long distance relationship. He wants to just text, we used to fT and see each other. Now he makes excuses. Iv said not good enough. Pointless to carry on!! Hard after 5 years!! But I know I had to do it !! Thank you for your tips. I needed this!! ❤️

[@sharonbartley808]

Yes these will work with a sensible person. Not a dysfunctional one. Thing is, there are so much dysfunction.

[@roslyndrayton6716]

You have a lot of passion Jonathon. You say it how it is...Good onya! Love your content.

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@str5295]

If he's not contacting you LET HIS A** GO. Every single time a man is slacking off on contact he is DUMPING ME.

[@nodrama2793]

You’re the absolute best ! I love how authentic you are…”what the fuck…” looove it ! So Funny 😄 thanks 🙏

[@tomikawhesu9636]

Thank you for your encouragement. You confirmed some things for that I was already feeling. God Bless You.

[@JonathonAslay]

My pleasure 😊

[@octobermcdowell6449]

Thank you. I needed this. I am getting your book tomorrow. Love your videos and advice. You are a treasure!

[@ashleighmarie9967]

I absolutely love your book Jonathon! So many of us need it.

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW! thank you and honored 🙏

[@miamonroe4195]

I'm trying to communicate more but he's kind of on the the boring side and we havent met yet ,I think if we met it would help us connect but I'm waiting for him to ask ,but he hasnt lol

[@danielleemch8991]

Thank you that was amazing yes self-love is very important and positive self talk 😁

[@JonathonAslay]

Absolutely!!

[@shellbellplayz1711]

😂 I love when you said contact him and ask him what the **** is going on !??? 🤣

[@ritasmith1127]

If he doesn’t come on his own . I sure as heck don’t want to have to have anyone chase me . Don’t need a relationship that bad !!

[@ritasmith1127]

There is a guy who is begging me for gift cards ! Claiming he needs to get home , yea he is chasing me for money $$ which I have limited income .

[@07ecfrnndz]

Jonathan Aslay!!! U slayed it! U’re the best coach I’ve ever heard in here!! U’re very logical & practical- ur advices makes more sense than leaning back & applying those feminine energy… U gave me some balance & direction! Thank u sooo much 🌷🌷🌷👏🏼🎯💕🙏🏼🥰

[@07ecfrnndz]

Sorry for the misspell- JONATHON

[@juliana1506]

I bought the book. I'm going to start when I finish attached, and I'm almost there 😊🙏

[@JonathonAslay]

Hope you enjoy it!

[@lifeinlkn]

The untethered soul is a game changer 👍

[@JonathonAslay]

Indeed... 🙏

[@judithgallegos1748]

If a man does not contact,why would I want him to chase me.I don't like games. I never did anything to try to make my husband of 52 years chase me. Honesty is the best policy.

[@olgap.1718]

WHAT A GREAT AND SMART MAN YOU ARE!!!!! I LOVE IT!!!!!💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝😇🙏

[@sarahcroy6212]

So basically I need to dump this guy. Even though he's busy working his butt off, takes care of his other 3 families, workaholic, sends me flowers to my work, I need to dump him? He fixes my house. That doesn't seem right..He's 49 and I'm 39. Both about to turn 50 and 40 this summer.He spends the night afterwards, too. We come from separate languages, though. We teach eachother, but he's better with English than I am with Spanish. I'm younger. I need to talk to you, Mr. Aslay.

[@monicaLynn7]

I LOVE LOVE LOVE the definition of Sovereignty... it’s a beautiful and empowering gift that hi highly recommend learning and embracing... when we are willing to learn and do so we are then in the space to embrace the beautiful and magnificent self love... 🤗

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@ancoisnaude4087]

Difficult in married life, divorcing not allways a sollution. I will work on myself, he is just too busy, covid 19 situation, thank you for the device.... 🙏

[@royalqueen7965]

Lol “what the fuck is going on” ahhhh lol 😂

[@fawnmoon8848]

You always make me smile ! I know my self-worth and I believe most women do - with or without a man. I will say that sometimes the lack of that certain type of joy when one is on their own (especially in the days of reduced contact with Covid) it is easy to confuse that with the lack of self-worth. I was hoping you might address that, or at least give us a pep-talk and pointers to remind us of the difference. Does anyone else feel similarly? Thank you, as always!! 🤗

[@JonathonAslay]

My pleasure... 🙏

[@ingridramsaran5497]

Yes, I always go back to the past and dredge up failures which just compounds things even more...

[@ElizabethMcQMusic]

Hey Jon 😀 I know your channel is mainly for women in their possibly 30's, 40's & 50's & such like that 🙂 If I understood that correctly 🙂 I'm 26 & I have Autism 🙂 I wanted to share that 🙂 Sorry 😣 I feel like most of your advice & everything helps me in a way 🙂 And yes haha I watch Matthew Hussey's channel too haha I wanted to share with you if it's ok & please feel free to let me know if I do the right thing here... There is this local guy (He lives in the same city as me but we live in 2 different parts of the city. I live in Erie, PA 😀) & we both really like each other but we haven't dated yet, just have been talking & flirting (through messages & parties on Xbox & video calls on Messenger) for the past yr. Now...I totally understand if he didn't want to hangout in person throughout this yr. This yr has been crazy for myself, family & friends & for him especially. He is 1 of 8 people that works at Cheddar's Scratch Kitchen (a restaurant). He's a waiter. And I totally get it if/that work kept him soooo busy this yr be sure of being 1 of 8 people working there & working 45+ hrs a week there & then NOW he can't work at the moment because of this stupid 2nd lockdown & is kinda having some difficulty with money at the moment too because of work right now which I do feel bad for him & others right now because of that & everything ya know. Anyways...there are times that him & I don't message for 1 or a couple or few days, sometimes a week or 2 weeks or 3 weeks. Only once this yr we didn't talk for about 3 months. That was from beginning of March to about mid-June I believe. He actually told me back in the beginning of August actually that he sometimes works on himself for a few days or a week or couple weeks or 1 month to 3 months. Now...my mom has told me that some guys do actually do that. I think it's different for every guy. Every guy is different on how they handle things & their feelings & everything. Now...about possibly 95-99% of the time he reaches out to me & we would talk. Now...lately for some months or so now whenever he reaches out I would have him wait for me tfo respond back because I went him to think that I'm actually busy with something haha Now...sometimes I am busy doing something & other times I'm just distracted doing something haha Like watching a show or playing a video game on the Xbox One Slim or the PS4 🙂 Which I think that's right for me to do, to make him wait sometimes. Sometimes whenever we don't talk for some days or a week or so because he's been super busy with work or he's been super stressed or something because of work you know I...I actually try to reach out to him first 🙂 Now...is that right of me to do? Make him wait for me to respond back sometimes.

[@muyoyetamarriam4267]

Recharge battery for what, love doesn't work like that

[@Caligirl-1111]

Thank you! Makes so much sense. So glad I found your channel. I know I need to recharge my batteries a lot.

[@rachell4417]

He is interested in others, so......

[@LynnSandler-j9k]

Exhausted dont want a coach, I know how to read and peace is the best choice!

[@patricklaud590]

Those women who get freaked out by a guy not calling you for a day should not bother you… it makes you look desperate, never be that person.

[@judyperri9496]

Lol , I would feel suffocated if a man contacted me every day I need space in a relationship I feel totally different from all these woman that need a man to be constantly in their space If I were a guy , I would run as fast as I could from these types

[@carmenleeder4673]

When the going gets tough the tough gets going

[@Brix33333]

I’ve always thought that if a man isn’t reaching out or talking to you it’s because he doesn’t want to talk to you. In the past I’ve felt unsatisfied with his response after I’ve leaned forward and reached out... like I’ve lost power lol is it possible men think women aren’t interested if the woman doesn’t initiate contact and they move along/ lose interest?

[@ingridhaughney3645]

I hope you have found an answer to this because I too would really really like to know myself as initiating with a man or woman May agitate them, you can never know, do it and just test for a reaction hopefully you get a good response

[@parfecto7716]

Excellent advice as always! Thank you!

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad it was helpful!

[@angiep5514]

Thanks Jonathan. Excellent video today. Happy Holidays!

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you too!

[@suecole5543]

Jonathon you are so funny im'going to get these books. Everything you say is correct. spot on .☺❤

[@CC-ej4od]

Bahahahahahaha 😂🤣 ... I just bust out laughing so loud, I think my neighbors heard me ... "What the F%#$ is going on?" 😂🤣

[@elisabethshaefer8849]

TY HUG FOR YOU TOO DEAR JONATHON

[@popybarua3216]

Dyammmm! So much research and studies just to get the right Man! 🤔 There must me some research on How to Get away from them. I ways like what you say whenever I bump into your videos, good advices for people in crisis. I'm in late 40s, had 4 relationships and learned a lot. Some were nice some not great.... but Lessons or Blessings I'm glad they happened to me! 🤗 I'm now looking forward to love myself in every best way possible and also open to if someone nice comes up for an experience or Lesson/ Blessing... ha haaa it's hard to teach a 40+ anymore I guess. Being open to all kinda unexpected experiences is the best way and no quick attachment is the key boys and girls ❤

[@Michele-rn5bf]

So refreshing. Thank you. 💗

[@sjennyzaharakremer8720]

Huge warm hugs back to you Jonathan 🌈🤗💝

[@michellement2158]

I told a guy I’m talking to I dnt like one words, he sent 1 word I’m planning to not respond to the next messages in 3 days & it will be the first time I do this to him

[@christineb966]

You are exactly what I needed to hear today!!! Thank you 😊

[@JonathonAslay]

Happy to hear, much appreciated 🙏

[@amazingyear9042]

books: The Hoffman Process, The Untethered Soul.

[@rihus1096]

The Hoffman process 🙌🏼

[@sirennem.6890]

the best books

[@nakalemanuluyat3107]

thanks Mr Jonathan l really like your videos blessings sir

[@donnalittle8049]

If their taking drugs,gambling,take it day by day just walk away. No emotional bond.Drugs control a person until their able to realize destructive behavior you will NOT change him.

[@kimberliecarter8866]

Thank you. I just discovered your channel. I'll be the first to tell you I suck at finding a good man.

[@jeannievail]

Love this advice and I think it was the right move. THANKS! 2:18

[@shakira5872]

I freaking love you and your videos!!!

[@cathylindsay7576]

Hello Jonathan. I've spoken with you recently. Thought the LDR was progressing. We've had calls, text and intimate times. Recently he had become more impersonal. Or not even texting. I am feeling an loss. We both are in 60s. He talked of coming to visit. He lives in NM. I'm in TN. Now he isn't talking about it. We've been talking of this for 32 months. Thank you. Help

[@kaoshi_kutie]

Does this work with a Narcissist? Lol 😭🤔

[@mundoomundoo1371]

Leave him pls

[@nicoler.4356]

Why would u WANT a narcissist?? Do u have THAT LOW of self confidence, self esteem or self love for urself??

[@renoaczhary1232]

Love this, I need this. Thank you!❤

[@JonathonAslay]

You're so welcome!

[@sism3028]

Love your Channel. Thank you!

[@shahnazsulaiman9571]

Jonathan i am surprised that women are not saying that you are gorgeous every day.🙂

[@mageslvr2803]

💙💫 Thank you for your great advice 💫💙

[@loriawinfree478]

I always enjoy your powerful massages thanks 😊

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad you like them!

[@rosaperez7428]

What if after months of a good relationship he starts contacting you only every other dat? But he tells you that he loves you and uses words if endearment.

[@LynnSandler-j9k]

Is it normal for 3 guys to take 5 year old to a football game without her mother?

[@MarmiesCorner]

Great clarifications with your points! 🤩

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad you think so!

[@lmg740105]

Do you have any recommendations for how to deal with rejection sensitive dysphoria and anxious attachment when someone you're in a relationship with is super busy or taking time for themselves?

[@averagejane09]

....dysfunctional men will run away but that is ok because you don't want them anyway.....I so need to remind myself of that.