If Narcissists Trained You To HATE Yourself Watch This Video

[@sharobb6904]

If not hate, they definitely teach you to disregard your own feelings.

[@Lyrielonwind]

Feelings, emotions, self perception, love, esteem... and a whole bunch of limiting beliefs about ourselves.

[@shereeherring874]

They make you feel like a bad person. Even when you leave they try to take faimly away from you and disrepect you

[@sharobb6904]

@@Lyrielonwind absolutely, they are horrible company to keep

[@sharobb6904]

@Lyrielonwind Seriously, they are miserable truly and because of that they desperately want to see good people miserable too.

[@LION-on4gd]

​@@shereeherring874Says everything about them..their true colors..

[@michaelgarrow3239]

Knowing this stuff years ago would have saved me untold heartache.

[@EvelynFluyeVida]

Yes, as a child they teach us to dissociate, and even worst, to reject our own feelings of pain in the body.

[@MeribelMGoldwin]

Sometimes they gaslight you to the point where they imply that you having those feelings in the body is shameful.

[@littleleah310]

Duhh

[@EvelynFluyeVida]

It actually is Deeper than that, reaches the core.@@MeribelMGoldwin

[@michaelgarrow3239]

How are things going on your journey? I just saw this video today. Thought I would reach out.

[@gertrudewest4535]

Humans are psychologically wired to each other. It’s why we’re are so successful as a species. We need positive feedback from others in our daily communication with others. Our narc culture is constantly reflecting negatively- so it’s difficult in our collapsing society. These times call for a lot of positive self talk and reality checks.

[@MeribelMGoldwin]

👌👌👌 And those who are not narcissistic need to understand that the most important thing is a lot of the opposite of what narcissists do.

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

💯 %❤

[@sandyhenry3238]

❤

[@michaelgarrow3239]

Some people are wired to demons. 🤕

[@michellesellick6827]

So true, they don't want you to love yourself or have any self-worth or self esteem because they need to control you and yes they will use experiences in your life to throw shame at you.

[@halloweengirl7492]

I do wish you wish you would talk more about childhood narcissistic abuse.

[@Shadowman...]

Whats scary also, is that Narcissists will disrespect you ~ You try to ignore it and not let it get to you ~ so what happens is, when you least expect it ~ you take out your anger later, on a innocent person who just might have slightly without realizing, disrespected you. Your subconscious kicks in and says " Ive been taking ignoring, gaslighting, and subtle remarks all day long and acted like it didn't get to me " Now your going to GET IT!! And you find yourself screaming at a poor lady who didn't mean to bump your carriage in the supermarket ~ THIS IS HOW these evil narcissists destroy our lives.

[@Shadowman...]

They also love to fill people with Self-doubt. They do it by telling you your wrong on matters of little importance.

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes.

[@navydogsadventures3500]

I never feel comfortable in anything I choose to do anymore.

[@sunnylight5753]

I’m ok the way I am. It’s ok to be me👍🏼💪🏼

[@sue1190]

Every time I see some of these NARC video, I find new things that occurred with my old me. But now I am good and happy.

[@mariajmc6557]

be blessed 🙌

[@Lyrielonwind]

I have been doing some inner child work and I went to when I was 4 years old. An unknown dog showed up barking and my sister and brother climbed a fence (4 and 2 years older than I). They were the first to climb and I had vertigo. I was half way on the fence scared of the dog jumping trying to reach me but unable to climb higher while my siblings were laughing at me for being so coward. My adult self had to point to my inner child my "brave siblings" were the first ones to run and climb (I was probably mimicking them and fear is contagious). That kind of humiliation and projection get stuck in your mind and you think you are a coward instead of thinking you are protecting yourself of a possible danger (the dog probably just wanted to play, it was abandoned). Those recordings along our childhood really mess up our true perception of ourselves.

[@user-so6so5pr2p]

Hi Michele. Have you ever heard of stories of covert narcissists as therapists? I had a terrible experience with a covert narcissist in therapy and it would be nice if you can make a video about this to warn people about it

[@LizDavinciLand]

I think there is a huge movement going on to learn to love ourselves. An important part of this movement is having videos like this on KZbin. When I see how much content revolves around dealing with narcissism it makes me see how common negative behaviours have become. Thanks so much for your work Michele! All the best, Liz

[@douglasmcgregor5511]

I can relate a lot to this. Especially about repeating what they said to me and internalise it. It can be much more difficult when your mum does it. They called me an alcoholic and because I didn’t understand these things back then I gave up and let it define me. Now I’m focusing on healing and radiating positive energy. And I still enjoy a few ciders.

[@bronwyntanner4501]

I changed so much during the 14 years of insane marriage to the passive aggressive covert narcissist. The friends who love me have told me I was a monster and compare to who I am now ... six years away from the nightmare

[@Amylyn..]

As a small child i had to project whatever mother said i was .. i had a list of what mother said i am and repeat it back to her as she beat me... so i know nothing about reclaiming something i never had❤ i would ask everyone if she was wrong about what she said i believe to be. But i was a very small child and she told everyone im an actress. i look back on family pictures and i can tell you whos hands come from the bruises all over my small body at 2 and 3 years old. How did no one else see this? so i really had no one and no help

[@HeartFeltGesture]

I have been trapped in this cycle for a long time. I have toxic shame and emotional dysregulation, anxiety, depression........and it all sabotages my interactions with people (on my bad days), I can feel my crippled state but push through it to try to relate and be normal, but I can tell when someone doesnt "buy it" and it compounds my shame, because I feel like Im acting and have been caught not being genuine. I remember feeling like an actor at home, around my parents, it was like I was always giving a performance of myself, rather than just being myself. This I think stems from conditional love from the narcissistic parent, it is designed to get the child to adapt itself to the mothers preferences of behavior, or be shunned or rejected, physically hit, verbal abuse, showed displeasure, punished etc (well beyond healthy behavioral discipline in a normal parent / child dynamic). Since I had to compromise my natural self so much in order to survive and be accepted by my mother, I essentially lost or forgot my authentic self. So we become lost and awkward, dysfunctional and confused, deeply traumatized, obviously. Then in order to survive again we have to face the adult world in order to earn money. They say narcissistic abuse often leads to varying degrees of Agoraphobia, I can relate, I have self-diagnosed myself with avoidant personality disorder.

[@Angell_Lee]

Such an Angel, thank you infinitely ❤

[@dimples5933]

Silent treatment = punishment for me, took years to identify why it triggered so much fear. Parents made me wait for punishment that could come at anytime, sometimes days later . GREAT POINT on meanings !! Thank you

[@jessicamontoya8219]

Oh my, this is me to a 'T'. Ive been married 29 years. Wemet at 14 years old. Ive been through hell with this man. I wish i could get my story out there. Not only have things changed me but he has disabeld me from physical injuries. He has not hurt me physically in 10 years but now i see something that i didnt realize is happening and i need to figure thisnout now. I wish i could personally talk to you.

[@divyapoduval4402]

True i hate myself for being in this shit for so many years making a fool of myself

[@OGDESIGNS-r9j]

Truly Eye Opening. Thank You Michele. Your Support is always Appreciated. Much Love One🗡🔥🔥❤️⭕️❤️🔥🔥🗡 Love

[@Boujeekorc]

For years I’ve watched videos trying to figure out what I was experiencing and then reflecting on what I experienced in my marriage. I usually watch videos from my AppleTV app and there’s no way to comment but tonight I wanted to jump onto the mobile app and say thank you. You literally make it make sense. The cause/effect. That helps me heal the heartbreak but also understand how to prevent the best you can again. Your content is life changing and I’m forever grateful. May God continue to bless you. Thank you! 🙏🙏🙏

[@treysmythsandtunes]

I feel like your innerstanding of somatics gives your content a lot more value - than even some of those who talk about narc-is-issm with degrees in psycho-logy. I have seen my chronic physical illness grow when I acquiesced to the narcissist's shameful, low vibrations. Much thanks for the wholistic, full-spectrum healing.

[@emp5920]

I'm growing more aware of how my confidence, competence, sexual feeling, and intake of real-time sensory information in my gut (solar plexus) is rewired to act against me with self-hate and shrinking. There are increasing bouts of openness to new experience and confidence in the face of it, and the awareness of a recoil and an immediate, almost stroke-like shutting down (left side of face drops). Man were my parents cruel at times, it really does feel like a minute to minute struggle to stay fully awake and aware. I have faith healing can happen.

[@Susan876543211]

I am so thankful to have found your channel. Thank you so much for these videos. ❤

[@EvelynFluyeVida]

Is like narcissists don’t know who they are, right? They are gaslighted by their own lies.

[@purplepatch7]

Having a malignant narc dad and mom with narc tendincies, a narc sister and potentially narc twin brother i honestly at 30 for the first time realize that it i fawned the first 25 years of my life. I have always been independed but i now realize its because i couldnt trust anyone. New goal is to trust myself more around good people so i can finally have healthy people around me. My fear is that i will never be healthy enough for healthy friendships/relationships.

[@benwil1715]

I feel guilty and pompous when I fee ll "good".,,,,,always waiting for the next shoe to drop ....

[@benwil1715]

I deserve to be out of my mind!!!..

[@Juamo-tn8we]

Me too

[@LPD15ponce]

If one party in a relationship says, "I hate myself, and you made me this way", who's the actual narcissist? By that I mean narcissists take no ownership for their shortcomings, and consequently how they fell about themselves, preferring to blame others. If you continually foil a narcissist's head games (especially a covert one), she's likely to rage out and blame you.

[@thankyoujesus2836]

Are you saying the victim who’s saying that is the narc? I mean narcissists don’t really let you be, they break you so If you as the victim don’t break them or keep them in their place first they come after you so you have to dominate them. But yes they are good at twisting shit and blaming and projecting.

[@LPD15ponce]

In answer to your question, yes, especially near the end of the relationship. They are highly emotional dependent people. Their unresolved insecurity, combined with their keen sense of guilefulness, could very well sense the "supply's" confusion, self-doubt, and even at the extreme, self-hatred, and be projected, as you suggest.@@thankyoujesus2836

[@micaelagallegos9673]

1st viewer!!! Wow i guess i was meant to see this damn video!!! Hits so close to HOME!!!!😢😢😢😢😢

[@alltheworldsastage.]

You have an intellectual mind!

[@JanineCandra]

Ms. Michele's voice always soothes me into a trance. I continue trust her eyes hold me there. I trust her complety!

[@kenyettagould6364]

Ur a good coach at narcissistic relationships

[@artluvr6170]

Your videos are amazing. Thank you.

[@2009RB1]

Thank you 🧡

[@BAKER22-l4u]

AMAZING video!! THANK YOU

[@EVZimora]

You are really really good.

[@michellesellick6827]

Thank you michelle.

[@dclarke1896]

Thank you for all that you do! You have helped me so much! 🙏

[@jasonjones4492]

Thank you Michelle good topic!

[@feliciajoy2264]

❤😢THANK YOU. TRUTH❤❤❤

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yes they did.

[@feliciajoy2264]

TRUTH😢

[@littleleah310]

Yes

[@loriesoliwoda-truong]

I had a lot of wounding from my mom who was a narcissist...I have my own daughters that I try very hard not to do this to but I have one who's like me and must test by doing rather than by hearing or seeing others go through something..... there's some things that she's doing that are unhealthy others that are illegal and I feel bad because I have called her out on it but now I am triggering myself because I feel like I'm becoming the narcissist not letting her be herself and that I'm shaming her... how do we manage not becoming the narcissist narcissist?

[@feliciajoy2264]

Thank you❤❤❤❤❤😅

[@benwil1715]

I never knew this planet housed so many demons!!!.... I

[@littleleah310]

Duhh😂😂

[@MackAxyzz]

love your content...and you are the most beautiful person on youtube 😎

[@jonathanwelter]

I give my spouse the silent treatment, but that is only because every time that I voice my opinion, I am minimized at best, or ignored or when I tell her that I have had enough during a discussion because she keeps pushing it toward a fight and it is ignored. Therefore I just refuse to speak to her. I will walk away and she will typically follow to continue to apply pressure and make the fight worse to cause a blow up. What do I do?

[@tamaralombard2916]

I'm just curious if narcissists ever show up for treatment.

[@liammcguigan4578]

It’s so scary you don’t even see it happening embarrassing 🙈

[@sunnyadams5842]

Does anyone know if there is acway to get in touch w Michele? I have a Q about Thrivers. . An email? Or anyone enrolled wjo can answer a question about tuition?? 🌞🙏🌞

[@erikalarsson]

I dont consnes how i do it small doses ?

[@sunnyadams5842]

Hi Michele- Loving your work!! What's the half-price Thriver's deal you mentioned in a previous video. Is $79.99 the galf price or do we wait till the 15th was it you said?? I can't wait but suffering (lol😂) post- narc abuse poverty so watching my pennies. Thank you So much in advance❤🎉😂

[@sunnyadams5842]

??

[@julieadams930]

How does one deal if they are not just plain terrible and that this person helped you become aware of it because you are and it to blame it on them it’s just an excuse

[@patrickdaigle5239]

🙏🫂🙏

[@mariajmc6557]

YES , they pick something about you and tell you how bad you are, but is all projection.....

[@walkerpercy8702]

I like your videos and your insights but I'm wondering isn't narcissistic abuse the same as sociopathic abuse? Or if not I'm wondering how they might be different. It seems the word narcissist is overused these days.

[@Lola-mt1ne]

Abuse is a big deal, as is narcissism.

[@ThankYouJesusTheChrist]

Narcs are abusive and more common than we realize

[@lorikeetpocket9030]

Yes it is abuse, it’s a more nuanced explanation of a certain type of abuse, I.e. narcissistic abuse.

[@madeleinegrayson8372]

We all have narcissistic traits, but NPD is different. NPD is also different from sociopathy. Sociopathy is an unofficial term for antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), a mental health condition that involves a long-standing pattern of disregard for social norms and the rights of other people. Narcissism refers to narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), a mental health condition that involves grandiose attitudes and behaviors, feelings of superiority and self-importance, and an extreme need for admiration.

[@user-zy8gk2nn7d]

covert narc is a sociopath so exactly abuse is the same. narcs are developing in their abuse so with time they get more and more sadistic - those subanimals reach level of psychopathy later on - it depends if they can be held accountable or not.

[@flyincosmo9356]

Michele, appreciate you, and your brave/insightful posts. Three years into my awakening of being with a covert narc. wife... your channel, paired w/ education via a lot of reading, therapy, and opening up to family/friends/community were key to arriving-and-striving even closer to my most authentic self.❤‍🩹⚖🕊