If You Have Ever Been GHOSTED You Need to WATCH THIS | Marisa Peer

[@lisajoye5721]

"The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman with no intentions of loving her."---Bob Marley

[@ElevateYourWorth]

Women ghost as well. It’s not just a man thing.

[@lisajoye5721]

@huskymomma444 Yes. It can go both ways. Personally, I would be considerate enough to tell the man something..not just completely disappear.

[@PaulGreen11]

Bob had children with beyond Rita.

[@natecorning]

While this is true, Bob had children with seven different women lol

[@lisajoye5721]

@natecorning Hmm. Did not know that. Apparently he found his intentions. 😂

[@originalgoldengoddess]

Being ghosted is a sign that they are not the right people for you... a person who is truly for you won't ghost you. At first it's a bit disappointing but after a while you realise it was a blessing all along.

[@camrencox1182]

That wasn’t my experience. Speak for yourself

[@VNL36-m4y]

That’s true i have been ghosting twice 😢😢😢I feel so sad 😞 he chose for 3rd party 😊

[@FatimaTehrani]

​@@TCArtStudio If that person was toxic it was your mistake to stay in that person's life and make fall in love You have a problem with yourself

[@Judex-bg3gz]

First love for both. He 18 me 17. After high school..For a year my job was to stay home save money . Eventually after his two-year term in the military, he would come home and we would make plans for our future together. I would work while he attended college. At that time girls would collect things for their future home life in what was called a "hope chest".. included in the things I was collecting was a little packet of things he had from when he was a baby intended for perhaps one of our future children. I was the dutiful fiance who helped him get through the military. Lots of letters. But once he got home he didn't come to see me for a week. Neither of us had a car but we lived in the same town. I knew something wasn't right. We had to attend a wedding together So I called him to make sure that that was still on. I told myself it was because he was busy working. He said he had to work a temporary job but would call so we could Be together . He didn't call and in those days women didn't call men. Finally after two weeks I got worried called his mother and she said he had moved to attend college in another town close by. Thank goodness Just the weekend before my parents saw him with another woman or a girl. So I was a little prepared but not truly. My heart physically hurt. My pride kept me from asking his mother anymore questions, such as when did he enroll in that college. He was supposed to go to the city college. But I had pride. Being a stoic I kept it inside and didn't share with anyone else. Didn't share with my family but did with a couple of friends. I shut my emotions down. Put on a facade of happiness and friendliness but inside I was dying. I was only 20 and knew that life had much to offer and though I didn't want to live I wasn't about to take my life. I kept myself busy with family activities and work. One night after I hadn't heard from him for 2 months He called me and the night I could tell they've been drinking He was complaining about a lonely he was. He didn't say he missed me and I certainly didn't sayed I missed him. I told him I had to go and hung up the phone. I bundled up his letters and pictures and things from his babyhood and lock them away in a trunk. I gave my "hope chest' away but kept the things to use when I got my own apartment. I was too hurt to date anyone and made no plans for future relationship. Time is our feiend. Men found me attractive and I started saying yes to dating. It was another 5 years before I was able to give my heart away again. I married and I divorced I had two children but life was good. I looked back upon that first love relationship and all those plans and it didn't hurt anymore I was able to see it for what it was and that was two young people who grew apart. I still held reverence for that first love though. Because it's something very special . We were so in love that when we slow dance we didn't realize the music had stopped. Our friends used to laugh at us. I wish I would have never seen him again but but a friend decided to investigate to see what happened to him. He had married twice before and was divorced at the same point in time that I was divorced. Even though we were in our 40s she contacted him and he agreed to meet me but I had no idea that it was going to happen. If I had known I would have told her no. The secret plan..the meeting was devastating. When I saw him I had to sit down. We went on a few dates but thank goodness he was moving out of town. When he left he said since we lived within a day's drive that we should get together because he said he felt love for me exactly the way it was when we first met that he still love me. He said he'd wasted time and other relationships made the worst mistake of his life. I felt the same way. But he never called me again. I had his phone number and I called him just to see what was going on in a subtle way and he was friendly but there was no talk of reuniting feelings of love that seemed to have ended. At least this time I had the courage to call. But again in a slightly different way felt ghosted. I didn't even know what that term meant until recently. I still have that box with his baby things and all of his love letters It's a big box He wrote a lot. We're both in our '80s. I think he's still alive but I don't know for sure. I never remarried and never dated after that experience the second time. Some of us just feel pain too deeply to ever venture there again. But my life really didn't begin until I had my children anyway. So I didn't go through life pining away for relationship that wasn't meant to be. I was very busy working and raising children being a single mother and had the best life I could ever have. They tell us to be thankful for things that didn't happen I think there's even a song written about it. And I'm very thankful that that didn't happen especially the second time. I don't know what to do with that box of stuff. It's a part of somebody's life. Do I bury it? Do I have it sent back to him? Why would I send it back to him? Because it's a part of somebody. It's pointed years of a young man in the military and things that he might cherish that we're from his babyhood. They mean nothing to me. It's a crazy question to ask isn't it? But I'm making plans for the end of my life and for some reason I can't bear the thought of someone taking that box and throwing it in the trash. Maybe I should give it to one of my granddaughters. Let her take care of it She showed an interest. His letter spoke a lot of Vietnam. A lot of his feelings. He wasn't in combat because he was in the Navy. Ironically he and his second wife adopted a Vietnamese child. So why did he ghost me? I think he truly loved me but he was an alcoholic and I didn't know that. He told me that at our second meeting but I didn't really know much about alcoholism. He said he was going through the program and it was at the stage where he needed to make amends. The problem was he should have made amends and walked away instead of getting involved but I think it was too much for both of us. The moral to the story is, don't ever let anyone surprise you by bringing you together with your first love and years later in your life. It can be very painful and it was for me. I know he will say his alcoholism made him that way but the way he handled it wasn't just alcoholism it was cruelty. I was a very sweet and innocent girl. Someone who could easily be hurt. He must have had something deep within his life whereby he needed to hurt me. I never did anything to hurt him at least overtly. We didn't have physical relations when we were young because it was the thing to do to wait until you were married back then. Within a year so that change considerably, of course. But he never seemed annoyed with me that I didn't want to share physically until we were married. He admired me for it. So I don't really know what made him want to hurt me in such a terrible way.... Especially the second time. Today, I think romantic love is lovely. I don't caution my granddaughters to avoid it but I do tell him to, if they can, wait until they're older to give their heart away. When you have some maturity you can be stronger. Sometimes when I hear an old song or pick up a scent of carnations my heart still hurts just a little bit. It actually physically hurts. Because when you get older you start dreaming about people you knew and you were younger, sometimes I dream about him and wake up feeling okay but I will never want to see him again that would be a very bad thing. If you were me what would you do with that small box?

[@zazlar4228]

A person who ghost ain’t for anybody

[@blumoonification]

The most immature and disrespectful way to reject someone

[@Spinnglish]

It does traumatise the ghostee

[@creatureofstyle]

100%

[@r0ck3r4ever]

well, if done for the wrong reason yes, but some people need to piss off our life

[@creatureofstyle]

​@@r0ck3r4ever Then tell them to piss off. I didn't need to piss off. I was kind and nice and communicative and he never said one harsh word to me (we never fought once) he just ghosted. It was one of the most traumatic experiences I've ever had. I wouldn't wish it on anyone

[@r0ck3r4ever]

​@@creatureofstyle If these people are so unbearable you don't even owe them an explanation, they need to piss off and never return. The message is clear and obvious, it's definitive and nothing can change things. It's that simple, if you got ghosted you should get the message and never try to even think about them, it's their life, they want you out of their life and that's it, silence is golden. Yeah, you cannot learn anything from the experience other than that people sometimes get sick with other's presence in one's life and that's fine. The world is huge, there are other opportunities in life and you don't need to be stuck at such an event. In the greater scheme of things this is just a minor event.

[@robertblake9892]

One of My Rules of Life is that if someone doesn't value my friendship theirs is worth even less to me.

[@decafmocha211]

People who ghost are very sick. Forgive them in your heart and have no further contact with them.

[@alexandrapomeroy8050]

I was ghosted repeatedly by a guy, he kept coming back. Last time he returned I told him to go away and never contact me again. Took my power back. He is a mess of a human being and I deserve better than that which is what I told him. It doesn’t reflect on me, it’s him. So much happier since I dispensed with him.

[@dominiquecadet5976]

Do you mind sharing what were his reasons for ghosting?

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Well done. It takes strength.

[@rocio7499]

did he ever come back ? and how long did it take him to come back the the times he ghosted you? was it after a couple weeks, months?

[@nichaphats6591]

@@alexandrapomeroy8050 best thing to do and I did the same, time after time that I forgive him, this time I told him I don’t want him back in my life, not even to be my friend. Now he beg but my feelings for him all dried out.

[@juicysmith38235]

I was Ghosted after 8 years!!! He is obviously avoidant, however that's no excuse for this extremely painful act. How can you disappear after 8 yrs and have completely NO respect for me or the yrs we spent together. This has been the most painful experience of my life. Ironically they called 2 months later demanding their things back and took no responsibility for the pain they caused. He even had the nerve to try and convince me to have sex with them, disgusting!!!! Praying for everyone 🙏🙏🙏

[@teal1010]

@10:03 "Remember, when you don't heal your wounds, you bleed on people that never cut you!"

[@worldofwarcraftphoto4282]

The most profound statement in this video that applies to healing from any type of experience/trauma

[@LorraineDobie]

Been dating for 2 months and he ghosted me after sleeping with me last week I thought he was the one I felt so alone and sick to my stomach I did text him back saying have i done something wrong it's so awful I try to get my self back together again x

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

​Very painful ppl who behave that way are not healthy and that's not your fault. I'm hurting atm, different situation but i will try to distract myself and keep it moving and in between I cry. It's draining but it will fade day by day they will fade from our system. Hurts to say this bc I care about him but it's true. Best wishes for you ❤

[@teal1010]

@@LorraineDobie You absolutely will get your self together! You’re sincere and ready for a committed relationship! ✅ His loss!

[@leolu9398]

"When you dont heal your wounds, you bleed on people that never cut you" 😢😢😢😢 Woooooooooo

[@nicolettavitulli4724]

🙌🏻🙌🏻😢

[@katrinw3515]

I like the phrase: The Ghoster doesn’t tell you something about you, it tell you just about themselves.

[@anitaheart]

I’m currently being ghosted by my 4.5 year partner. He started giving me mixed signals one day and suddenly disappeared, leaving me feeling like sh*t. I’m 49 and this had never EVER happened to me before, I really never imagined people could do this!! It’s so terribly painful and left me feeling terribly inadequate. Thanks Marisa for this video.

[@ashley9776]

Stay strong 💪 I was ghosted by someone I dated only a month just few weeks ago..can’t imagine the hurt you’re feeling 😔 hugs to you. Like my mom says Get Better not Bitter 💕

[@alisonl5127]

@@ashley9776 💛🙏

[@anitaheart]

@@ashley9776 thank you Ashley, God bless! ❤️

[@MsPeppersmom]

My partner of 13 years bought a home and announced he was moving on. He was a narcissist. I was shocked but not surprised. Been healing 2 years now.

[@anitaheart]

@@MsPeppersmomhe certainly didn’t deserve you! Showering your healing journey with love and blessings. You are not alone. ❤️

[@sugarandspice2136]

Being ghosted is terribly painful and the feeling of Ben g ghosted is why I let people know when I’m not interested politely. They still get mad, but I did my part.

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Exactly. Communicating is best.

[@latashalewis873]

Yep

[@conniegunn]

I have been ghosted after a nine YEAR relationship. It feels horrible! Yes, there were red flags over the years.

[@HKAMILAH]

How have you been getting through it?

[@Avoid_Low_Frequency]

I’ve been guilty of this. I’ve had it done to me. It is painful but nothing finishes a relationship with such finality than ghosting. When ghosted, leave them alone. Desperation is ugly no matter who wears it.

[@simmssherry176]

Thank you 😊 I was ghosted literally a year ago and I’ve just been healing and loving on myself.♥️

[@alisonl5127]

Hurts badly. Happened to me in January, and I think I’m still in shock. Good luck to you💛🙏

[@carolehcheng1]

Sherry you are not alone. It happened to me last year and i moved on with a man way way better for me. I will never find out why I got ghosted knowing his last message was about how much I meant to him and how important I was to him. Maybe he was sincere, maybe he was lying; doesn't matter now. He is weak and he is a coward. Thanks to him, I got the chance to find someone better.

[@kellilien1736]

A LONG TIME AGO, I had an intense summer relationship after high school with a fellow classmate. It certainly seemed "real" during the summer. He broke up with me in a very cruel manner. It would "fall under" the ghosting category today. I was crushed. That evening, I went out drinking with girlfriends and ended up crashing my car and breaking my arm. I ended up eventually marrying a very nice guy, we have two adult sons, and have been happily married 40 years. The guy who dumped/ghosted me died of a horrible disease a few years ago.

[@Phoenix12305]

It’s hard not to take it personally when I see she’s remained friends with other people, just not me.

[@ayanadiamond8179]

I feel the same way!!

[@Rsysas]

She is right - I’m older and I get it - if you’re young - listen - don’t wait for them to hurt you to move forward. This is a good video

[@user-ln4qe1sh8i]

Such a shame. Started off very strong, unbelievable chemistry but after time to reflect he's not for me, I don't play games when I like someone so to leave me unanswered for 8 days, just unacceptable. I refuse to chase or be his back up plan. Working on myself and my fitness, it's time for 'Me' season 🌻🌸🌿🍃

[@ABurningCandle]

Omg my story is the exact same. Unbelievable chemistry then ghost 👻

[@julzxcollection]

Did they ever reach out or reply to you?

[@Figgs101]

I don’t blame you it only take you a second for someone to respond to you and ain’t nobody in the world is that busy to not respond that long unless they going to the moon, fighting in a war or being stuck in a submarine

[@JessicaCVasquez-hg6zt]

Just watching u my eyes 😢 is tearing exactly what happened to me I have no idea we didn’t had argued😢😢😢

[@dianaelizabeth9594]

Wow, thank you for making this video. This doesn’t just happen with first time dates. I’m 29 years old and I am going through this as we speak. We were together for almost 9 years and I got ghosted, no conversation at all, just simply ghosted. This has been extremely painful , a roller coaster of emotions , unanswered questions, self blame, self sabotage, etc. but I am really pushing myself to keep go;ng for ME🙏🏼✨ I just keep reminding myself everyday that there is a purpose in this pain I’m facing today😪

[@drishtik6355]

God bless you girl.. ❤

[@ashley9776]

Stay strong 🙏🏻

[@tarasteward3271]

Get out there date.and when he comes back be extremely cold and say -i thought you died. Then he will know how it feels

[@kekkic]

Same thing happened to me 😢

[@socol76]

I’m so very sorry you’re going through this especially after such a long relationship. You are deserving of better. Go out there and find better 😉!

[@biljam972]

I feel like ghosting is not just when you can't reach or find them at all. It's when you can but they won't respond or respond just with "ok" or "whatever" and similar words that show you that they don't want to talk to you or text you. Or even when they are kinder in a way but never available somehow and never call or text you first.

[@LasBlackUnicrn]

Got ghosted after a 3 yr situationship. I got the courage to tell him to the truth about my feelings for him, and let him know I wanted more.. it’s been two weeks without contact 😔. the deep hurt comes in waves. I really thought we had a real bond/ love for eachother.. it sucks. I will heal though and I will be better for it 💕

[@MarisaPeer]

You are so wonderful darling I hope you feel better soon

[@Inmyownlane808]

Same thing happened, after 7 years

[@LasBlackUnicrn]

@@Inmyownlane808 hope you are doing okay 💕 it’s been 6 months for me. He texted me almost 1 month to the day of the ghosting. I told him it was unnecessary and not to reach out to me again. I still think of him often. But I am doing fine on my own

[@marimari894]

Only because men are able to shut down better doesnt mean they should do it. We should not excuse them. If they are harming others, they are bad people.

[@rose7777]

Well said

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Amen and not all men are like this..i guess de they are in the manipulative spectrum. I have to not beat mysekf up falling for his words. I tell myself I'm sweet, kind and reliable and pretty. I don't feel like it always but in between pain this flow came up to build myself up. Then it hits me again...he is probably gone. Perspective looking for wars to meet and 4 months he consistently told me we will surely meet and build from there ( he is abroad atm, lives near my city ) so it hurts extra bc I thooght it could be finally genuine connection towards love. Meanwhile I'm still hopijg to see his message. It takes time to getting used to the silence and forget.

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Edit sorry for the typo's in my comment. I'm having a keyboard issue and when I correct them yt is not saving them for some reason.

[@lcamp626]

Was in a relationship for 9 months and one day he said he was going to call me and approcated and loved me so much. Then gone.

[@MarisaPeer]

Release any negative beliefs that may be holding you back here bit.ly/3ZRKry0 Regards, Team Marisa

[@AchillesRage501]

the best revenge is to become successful

[@nichaphats6591]

@@AchillesRage501 totally agree.

[@MaryannNunes]

Amen

[@lisadudek2316]

I’ve ghosted my toxic siblings. And they don’t care and that shows me that’s why I had to ghost them.

[@jaymitaylor9937]

Exactly the same way I did my toxic cousin

[@lyndonmorris5411]

Being ghosted by someone is very hurtful and painful ghosters are a wasted of time

[@MaryannNunes]

It does hurt very painful

[@MaryannNunes]

I'm still trying to handle that person that ghosted me is still painful but I'm a survivor

[@Tokolos]

when they come like nothing happened it's even worse haha ))

[@highsez934]

I am scared of being treated like this again

[@crystalroses8578]

I admit I have done this myself before to people who I have spoken to on dating apps and texted for a while. You're 100% right, it's not about them, it's my own insecurities unfortunately. It's the fear of things starting to get more real, maybe getting close to meeting up, and the idea of being rejected by them has lead me to withdraw. I've also been on the received end of the ghost - not a nice feeling at all.

[@anatitan5546]

I wished you had a anonmynous 1-800 number🌊🏵️🙏💌😶‍🌫️

[@rose7777]

Appreciate your honesty. ❤thnk u. I was ghosted for saying the truth.

[@lisa5821]

I will say spoken to on apps is not terrible. It killed my self esteem when we went on a few dates and pretend they want serious then suddenly they're MIA after I sleep with them 🥲

[@jbroberts8807]

I’ve watched this video 2 times and it’s saved myself both times. I was in a 9 month long relationship. He said he was coming over and never showed up. I thought he was in an accident but then I realized that he was fine and just blocked/ghosted me.

[@DeniseLavoie-y3t]

Omg that's despicable! I'm so very sorry u had to go through that!

[@julzxcollection]

Did he ever message again or show up after?

[@ravenestrella2310]

Thank you, Marissa! I was just ghosted by a man I really cared for, right when we had made plans to meet up, and healing from it has been so hard! This really helped put things in perspective for me, and brought about the healing and closure I've needed! Thank you! ❤️

[@zacharystony]

One of my best friends over a year ghosted me. Not a romantic relationship, but the nonetheless ghosted. No fight. No fallout. Just ghost. So oh well I guess lol

[@gotdsinginbug]

@zacharystony I ashamedly did this to my childhood best friend in my early twenties. I deeply regret it. The truth was if I had just communicated and had an honest conversation about my insecurity when new friends appeared, it would have been better. Note that it was me and my problem and my sensitivity that led to my action. Roll on years later, I have been ghosted by someone I was dating. The pain was so gut wrenchingly unbearable, it's not as bad now .... but it's left me questioning my self worth, confidence etc etc. Karma came back around over a decade later. I realise now the type of pain I inflicted by ghosting my friend. She did reach out years later and we re-connected but it wasn't the same and even then she never asked why and I avoided talking to her about it. I really wish I had explained to her the reason why ☹️

[@sueemmel9109]

“Ghosting” might be considered a trauma response. It’s characterized by varying degrees of dissociation. Something in relationship triggers it and, poof, they disconnect and disappear. Negative judgement of the behavior is also a trauma response. The most healing response in return is compassion.

[@roxasventus2624]

I agree with you ❤️ I love my sp still I don’t understand what caused him to but I forgive him and wish to help him heal I don’t know if it was my subconscious or his that caused it but like you said compassion :)

[@msmilano7091]

I used to think that. I gave my “ex@ the benefit of the doubt time after time because I could tell he had been let down by people in the past. It was obvious…. No matter what I did, he carried on disappearing and coming back over and over until I had no self confidence left. I felt like his whipping girl. A grown person knows what they are doing. They have enough self awareness to deal with whatever issues they are facing before getting involved in a relationship. If you are in a place in your life where know you have the potential to hurt someone, leave them alone in the first place.

[@Spinnglish]

@@msmilano7091 true. It happened to me. Got ghosted. I acted with compassion and at same time i stopped contacting him because i had to protect my self too. I went through the hurt alone and did not seek his attention

[@postaelettronica1909]

Oh, “they have done me a favour”!!! Oh!! I didn’t think about it that way, this time!!!

[@nina29600]

My husband ghosted me after he inherited money. I never asked him for anything and loved him through his difficult times

[@88happiness]

Such good timing. This is physically painful to listen to. I don't think I have or will ever be hurt this much by someone. It wasn't a week it was after many years and many lies. Thankyou!

[@whitneysworld3255]

I'm a middle aged woman and my dad ghosted me about 1.5 years ago. I am still not completely sure why, but I suspect it's due to our different political views. It's very painful.

[@myriamkorstanje6922]

It’s painful. We are typically good people who can’t imagine being ghosted.

[@smartypants6198]

My bff of 10 years did this. I was gutted.

[@IreneNasvall]

Thank you Marisa! Wish I've seen this when my ex ghosted me after TWO YEARS! (I wish I was kidding - but I am not) Sadly, I let him back in - but NEVER do that to a person who ghosted you. They should not be trusted again. LEAVE - and never look back. Advise from some one who wasted two years on a coward.

[@carlah1111]

Just going through this after 2 years and blended our 3 kids each (6 kids!) and moved in together and was in pre marital therapy ready to get married! He just moved out out no nowhere abandoned and ghosted me!

[@Mari-lv1rd]

Have realistic parameters about this relationship. Some people don't really want the relationship and do not know what and or who they really want anyway. They may not even think of a few dates or lovemaking sessions as anything serious...they are off to the next challenge or fun time, not wanting any complications. Or they cut and run to avoid a deep conversation... just immaturity and insecurity allow them to put a wall in place. Pick up your pieces and appreciate that your honest heart is stronger and worthy of more.

[@decafmocha211]

Hi Marisa. I wish I could have listened to this video 56 years ago...excellent presentation

[@COSkywatch]

Best video I have seen on ghosting. Spent over a year on a woman and her true colors now show.

[@socalfriend6985]

What is meant for me will come to me. I do not need to chase after things as they may not be for me if I'm having to do so much work. Thank you 💖🙏

[@rdfbeauty]

This happen to me nearly a year ago to a person I loved so much, we dated for five years, however during that time , they would ghost me on and off and each time I would accept them back, which made me weak, because I did not appreciate myself enough. Thank you so much for this video. Everything you said was spot on.

[@jhonarivero1747]

How did you overcome them?

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

I spent 5years with a person who disappear constantly and I accepted that I deeply understand now why I stood in the unhealthy of both our behaviors I didn't love myself enough nor thought I was worthy out of all that ghosting I learn and recognize what is healthy now thank you it's taken me a long time to forgive myself because I had allow my first marriage to pressure me with intimacy then I thought I found happiness with someone outside of myself which now I know happiness is within so the process on forgiving myself for allowing this in my life receiving and giving back as well out of being hurt made things worst for both individuals so forgiveness is a process that I now know can take as long as I need it and ready

[@dawnsantoriello1358]

I was ghosted after we got back together for the second time we had a month of seeing each other and his kids 4 to 5 nights a week. After a great weekend with him and his kids he called me once texted everyday then said he was too tired to see me for 3 days straight and then just ghosted me. Totally shocked and hurt

[@doglover5519]

Same thing just happened to me. He gosted me for three weeks and came back and it was wonderful. We talked about getting married then he just gosted me again!!?? I'm really hurt. Not sure what to do if he comes back.

[@julzxcollection]

Did he ever reach out to You again or still no response?

[@doglover5519]

@@julzxcollection Nope. No Response.

[@soufia5536]

9 month relationship, introduced our kids after 6 months Sunday with the kids , Tuesday he calls me. Wednesday he ghosts me , Friday I found out he was on a dating app 😑 Not sad but so shocked I felt him pulling away a month before that , told him we can stop now , he replied that he never want to end things and showered me with sweet talk To disappear, a coward

[@julian_212]

Weak....that's the perfect word

[@bennyjeffords3065]

30 years together and ghosted. So heartbroken! And sad!!

[@MarisaPeer]

❤️ It's important to surround yourself with positivity and people who appreciate and support you for who you are. Remember, your worth is not defined by anyone else. Keep shining and embracing your journey to recovery and self-love! 🌟❤️💕

[@marciecasas8003]

I forgave my ex at his plea for cheating. He cheated again and eventually ghosted me for a few months. After 2 months he popped up unexpectedly to talk. I rejected him and walked away. When he ghosted he caused me to resent him and lose desire for him. We were together 5 years and he ghosted me. He deserves his karma ten fold.

[@claritysimone4466]

After four months…. He asked me to move in with him two weeks ago and got a key cut for me. We went to bed on Saturday and I woke up at 5am… he was gone… vanished 🤣 I was in shock after having my texts ignored…… Now I just think ‘byeeeeeee!!!!! thank you for the nice bits and thanks for not dragging it out and wasting my precious time’ ♥️

[@iiislandbreeze]

So what the hell happened?!

[@Kicklighter.A]

I think it’s normally because the person is seeing someone else and they just don’t want to tell you

[@shopbrat]

I'm being ghosted by my wife of 20+years. We have 2 kids that are now in college. We weren't even arguing. She just texted me while I was at work that she was not happy with her life and just disappeared. Won't even answer my emails. Very earth shattering!

[@julieperkins5023]

I was ghosted from my ex. Ni closure no explanation. We lived together for 18 months. We connected a little after though was always met with silence. 2.5 years later I am still wounded and hurt and confused and feel ashamed. I want to understand what happened. I think my inner little girl keeps holding on and waiting for him to reach out. He has reached out indirectly. Though no contact for 2 years now. Most painful thing I have ever experienced.

[@appleme5438]

I was ghosted :( I feel better after I watched this.

[@IlaSimblante]

Im so hurt from what he did 😢

[@brendarudman8806]

Its even worse for someone with anxiety

[@jaymitaylor9937]

I have fibromyalgia which causes anxiety and depression and this person who ghosted me KNOWS this yet chose to just disappear and that says a lot about their character not mines !

[@brendarudman8806]

@@jaymitaylor9937 Ghosters are cowards They are lazy and 💩at communicating and so choose the easy way out

[@brendarudman8806]

You had a Happy Hour Only friend😣​@@jaymitaylor9937

[@raygodmanMX]

How come there is no mention of attachment types, and that the real reason that most people ghost.. especially if they have gotten close and then vanish is in fact due to their Dismissive Avoidant attachment type? Understanding THAT is the real answer to understanding and getting over ghosting.

[@JW-cs8dr]

Sometimes the trash takes itself out. Anyone who ghosts another person for no reason they are immature, have a shallow ego, are most likely jealous.

[@izzysim9363]

So true!!!😂😊

[@MartinSasseville]

There is a difference between explaining yourself 2-3 times to them and they don’t listen. Then I go no contact cuz there are just relationships that aren’t worth spend my time

[@chrispaul8252]

I've had to ghost my ex partner who was a narcissist for my own sanity and to heal,first time in my life i've done this but my life and well being is more important.

[@jennifernewell5100]

I almost died back in 2022, was in an ICU and I’ve had ongoing health issues ever since. Almost ended up back in A&E again last year. I’m a strong person and I’ve been slowly working up my physical strength, trying to overcome my PTSD, hold down a full time job but one of my best friends since childhood has ghosted me since this happened. Someone who I thought was one of my forever friends and I’m utterly heartbroken. I’ve accepted she wants nothing more to do with me but we’re talking about a friendship of over 30 years just gone. It’s been hard to accept and I never expected this from her of all people. I’ve stopped trying to make contact now with this friend because she’s made it clear she wants nothing more to do with me. It’s difficult to accept and let go. She’s made me feel worthless. I’m still in the early stages of grieving the loss of this friendship that was so important to me. I’m trying to focus on the great friends that have been there for me, supportive and concerned about my well being. But it’s still heartbreaking for me at this stage to understand and accept how brutally she has ignored me and cut me out of her life. One thing I’ve learned about when you get really sick and are recovering you soon find out who your real friends are and warning, it’s the friends you least expect that will cut you off.

[@lucakat9262]

I knew a woman from Brazil that was ghosted by a rock star. He was in an alternative band and he's somewhat famous, especially in foreign countries. Anyway, he was in Peru with his band and he took this Brazilian girl out. She had come to a concert there just to see the band. Anyway, she met him after the show and they went out for a little while. It was like a world wind romance thing. He told her he loved her and wanted to marry her. He was in the process of a divorce and he was about 18 years older than her. She was quite taken with him. Anyway, she was so hurt because he started ghosting her with another girl. And she was so hurt by it that she tried to commit suicide. She was saved, thankfully. But it was incredibly difficult and painful for her. Anyway, she is trying to move on now and she's started modeling. She's so gorgeous I can see why. I spoke to her a couple of times and she really appeared to be a genuinely good person too. She's only on Instagram. No other platforms. But she's an amazing person and I really hope she'll be okay. Hopefully, she'll find the right person and be able to live the life she deserves. Btw, no I am not the person that I'm writing about. I know some people do that but I don't see the reason why? If it happened to me I'd just say so.🤷‍♀️

[@zainabrose96]

it's so sad.

[@janesullivan1190]

Thankyou,Marisa. I was ghosted 3 weeks ago,and I feel shocked that I chose to ignore the red flags. After a year of online connection,he pulled out twice when we were going to meet up IRL. Now he's completely disappeared from my life. No warning,just 2 or 3 rude and toxic messages before disappearing. I feel gutted, and gullible, for falling for the charm and flattery😢

[@MarisaPeer]

Sending you lots of love 💖 Marisa Peer Team

[@postaelettronica1909]

Thank you, Marisa!!! 🥰💕💕💕 Today I was just watching why nice people finish to have been rejected and I couldn’t watch and listen for more than two minutes because it hurted too much. Yes, I know I deserve better.

[@MarisaPeer]

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[@johka28]

I was ghosted by my husband of almost 2 years😢 He was my first as we were teens and dated. We rekindled our relationship. I feel bad he is so weak to be honest. He has very little self confidence and our entire union was an illusions. He dropped his mask. I haven’t seen him in 4 months and he says he doesn’t wanna see me.

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

I stop chasing because the person showed me their resistance and I now know I will never chase anyone I never chase anyone in the way I chase this person subconsciously I was afraid I had never been alone it was my first time ever being on my own so I now see it clear why I chase this person so much

[@nichaphats6591]

I have been seeing the guy for two years, we were planning on going to nice dinner in two days, suddenly he ghosted me out of nowhere. We were seeing each other 3-4 days a week.

[@kathymarsh9339]

I’m being ghosted by my eldest brother. This behaviour started when I was taking care of our mum, three years of being ghosted

[@Spinnglish]

Very very sad . I wish god guide him to end this horrible attitude

[@thashnaa]

Ghosting narcissists and abusers are an exception to that rule

[@Mossy-Rock]

It's called "going no-contact" which is different from ghosting as long as you tell them that it's over for good.

[@markusantonio4866]

@@Mossy-Rockyou’re right tell them it’s over for good and move on

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

First, let me begin with saying I love your work. Aside from having my own private therapist I have been following you Marissa for a really long time

[@storeymark]

Regarding what you said about men able to shut down their emotions. Yes men are better at this, but I believe in the end it takes a toll on them .For many their lives become a grey landscape, for others they experience a gnawing pain they do their best to extinguish through alcohol or other substances, or other addictions

[@Aquarius993]

Thank you for this video. It means so much to me right now. I just got ghosted and it felt so painful.

[@WillemBruin-y1b]

am i a coward if i set boundaries on people who ghost me? like responding 8 months later on a message? or even years? i am also the ghost then because i don't want to respond anymore.... and what about cutting people off if they are disrespecting you? Your vid make me feel guilty

[@juliehale7006]

I so appreciate your words. Two & 1/2 year relationship, &, POOF. He’s disappeared. It’s been 6 months since I heard from him; how long till my heart stops aching? 😑

[@postaelettronica1909]

Yes, “even more than once”, is continuously like this. Yes, I’ve continuously been in this situation of “been ghosted”. Yes that’s it!!

[@stormdancer25]

I had a friend who was fake, she ghosted me and I told her "good luck and good-bye"...she was immature woman aged 32.

[@postaelettronica1909]

Yes, I know. Yes the red flag of a misterious person who looks for you and then walks away, doesn’t let you find him/her to the date he/she gave you. That’s about them. The interesting thing is when they try to make you feel guilty for their own behaviour. Terrible.

[@mascara_lashes]

If someone treats you like an option, they don't deserve to be made a priority.. If they ghosted you, they have given you closure . So accept it and move on..

[@doglover5519]

It hurts so bad!!

[@mascara_lashes]

@@doglover5519 they're not hurt about you..

[@postaelettronica1909]

Yes, it’s never about me, it’s always anout them. No, I don’t think what’s wrong with me for being ghosted by that people, but what should I do to find loving and cherishing people around me. I totally realize that every time, I meet new wrong people, such as false friends, men who don’t love me and so on with workmates and people who really don’t love me.

[@shreyashelat4623]

Marissa’s voice is so soothing love this!

[@MarisaPeer]

Thank you! I'm so glad Marisa's voice brings you comfort. It's wonderful to know it's helping you relax and connect. ❤️😊✨ - Marisa Peer Team

[@Harold-fc4li]

This is why its hard to be optimistic with online dating. Not sure why people want to contribute to the downfall of what should be a promising experience for vulnerable people.

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

I am healing from it all and yes it was very painful aside from me trying to forgive myself and others thank you your brilliant and I want to do similar empowering work as yourself because your tactic hands on approach with your amazing examples of how we human operate globally

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

I also learn some great things from this person who often ghost me and I actually implemented those positive qualities I admire from this past person there were some beautiful amazing memories we created at the beginning of the relationship I learn so much positive and negatives aspect within the relationship

[@amelittaberretta9109]

Yes, yes , secretive, he terrified me.

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

Thank you and I felt ghosted many times from an ex. She did share explanations but they were on blaming me. Which made me feel like I was damaged as a woman but I realize it had much to do with them thank you and I continue to work on myself and take full accountability for my part in both relationships I had which is teaching me to do better as a human being in this earth of ours

[@MrGadfly772]

My best friend of 50 years ghosted me a coup-le months ago. We grew up together and we were both only children. He even called me his brother. I noticed in September that he would answer my texts. He always claimed he was too busy so one day I went to the barber shop where he worked and told him I was going to take him to lunch. He abruptly said no that he or anyone else wanted to be my friend, and that I didn't deserve an explanation. Our mutual friend refuses to get involved and so I still have no idea what happened. The lack of explanation is really frustrating and maddening.

[@postaelettronica1909]

Much people did this to me, even today, it happened.

[@mypov4343]

It's too bad she ghosted me because I think we could have worked thru our issues...on the other hand I may not have the complete story. I have done the only thing you can do....let go and move on.

[@MarisaPeer]

I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through a difficult situation. Wishing you all the best as you continue on your journey to healing and finding happiness. Regards, Team Marisa

[@nishi.06]

I’m being ghosted by my best friend. She has seem to disappear. She made it clear that it’s because of her mental health and not because of me. She texts me once a while….but I miss her badly. I don’t know if I should move on or wait for her. I love her.

[@traviscorder9100]

I'm a guy who was ghosted by my best friend of 26 years last March -- so just about a year now. Second time he's done this in our friendship. First time I forgave him. This time, regardless of his reasons, nope. Ghosting anyone, let alone a nearly 30 year best friend, is cowardly, weak, and emotionally abusive. Hurts to lose him, but I have to be strong like this video advises. Prayers for you. It's them not wanting to be adults, just acting like children, and like a reckless child, thinking only of their own discomfort. We need better friends.

[@penniroyal4398]

That’s so funny about having 2 phones! My ex had 2 cell phones 😮 since I didn’t know he was in a relationship with another woman for years. I actually saw her a few times but I had no idea they were living together before he started dating me. He owned a condo and he let her live there after they broke up. He rented a room in a house with other people. It was really awkward staying with him since he didn’t have his own place because he owned a condo that he let his ex live in while we were in a room he rented with other people. I of course lived in my own rented house. It’s crazy all the red flags in our relationship I was clueless about. He ended up ghosting me after he moved to another state with his “boss” and she brought them a house. I am so grateful to be done with this madness. Onward and upward! Chalk this up to a lesson learned.

[@kirstydee7345]

I've been ghosted twice 10 years apart from two different friends. I have never ghosted anyone in my life as it's a sign of weakness and immature social skills. People who ghost cannot effectively communicate their feelings and it's interesting as I look back that both of these friends had traumatic childhoods and up happy adulthood. I now avoid those women like the plague. I agree Marisa, ghosters are gutless and self loathing and both of them told me that they would never do that when we discussed it over the years.

[@user-fb1ys2lj9c]

Took me forever but I stop chasing them via text since I couldn't get them to meet me yes ghosting affected me emotionally mentally

[@vitabuonavita2565]

This was the best ever . Thank you For posting this Marissa 🙏🏼

[@sarahkennedy1481]

A man told me I was too secretive and dumped me. On my second date I do not let much on!

[@MarisaPeer]

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[@penniroyal4398]

He ghosted me after living with me and in a serious relationship for 2 years! He moved with his boss 3,000 miles away when she bought “them” a house. What kind of a man needs his boss to pay him for his work and buys him a house? Afterwards I found her posting their relationship together while we were together almost every night. He said he needed to sleep overnight in his office because he had clients over seas that he needed to take in the wee hours of the morning 😂

[@robinlee28]

I gently confronted someone that ghosted me. I was careful. I made it so that I was ready to hear the reason. Actually, it was because of me and some of my flaws. Not anything major. I'm not addicted to alcohol or drugs. It's possible that the answer I got was not genuine. Well.... it's painful. I hope I can get over it.

[@viktorcederholm6851]

Thanks for saying this been ghosted luckly some day ago here on KZbin that freaking coward is still here and im hurted i have just axepting it

[@viktorcederholm6851]

Happend 2th time for me aswell ppl be carefull of those ppl its just hurrbule how ppl are acting

[@storeymark]

About 12 years I was ghosted after 6 dates. I wasn't heart broken, but thought that was a crappy thing to do. However, this is very common on the dating scene in the city I live in.

[@MartinSasseville]

I don’t totally agree, we need to take the no contact aspect in context… There is a big difference between ghosting and taking time to explain yourself 2,3 or 4 times to that person and they don’t listen to what you say and they keep repeating the same shitty stories to you again and again… at that point I go no contact sorry guys but I can’t