If You're Afraid To Fail, WATCH THIS | Mel Robbins

[@FruScarpia]

I read an article this very day, where a great female sprinter (battling injury and depression) said: “I never ‘fail’ - I either win, or learn”.

[@vanillawaterfae]

FruScarpia - What a great perspective!!! ❤️

[@mozartrn1]

Yes.

[@DJVARAO]

Words of wisdom that I totally agree with.

[@laurie7703]

I believe that’s from Nelson Mandela. Great perspective!!

[@Lukas5473MVSD]

Now THAT is the mindset we women really need!!!❤

[@tatianar.9793]

fear of failure gives me an obscene amount of anxiety when it came to starting something new. so aggravating but anytime I do push through something i'm beyond proud of myself afterwards

[@carsonc6659]

That's me.

[@pedrogoncalves6662]

This is exactly me, when I get put Trough new things I didn't planned or don't feel like do but have to do it it gives me such a big amount of anxiety it paralyzes me but once I gain courage and do it I feel like I'm in the top of the world

[@silxbeats]

I went through this today for my regulation exam. While answering the questions I started to feel anxious and a bit fearful of the uncertainty of the outcome of my results..

[@maarakmehdi5294]

That circle is exactly my problem, I failed many times in different things, and felt very proud later on when I pushed through, but now I am again in that position where fear is coming back stronger because I know how it feels to fail ... hence anxiety comes back :/

[@CakeHeater]

"You can't fail your dreams, because they're meant to be pursued, not achieved" I honestly think this is so poignant, and it punched me in the gut. I've never thought of it that way

[@karla_zero]

I learned that the fear of failure is what kept me back from doing many things in life. Overcoming the fear of failure wasn't easy but it's so much better on the other side, doing new things and trying to achieve goals you've been dreaming about!

[@nalzym924]

How did you overcome it?

[@theultimatereductionist7592]

Go preach your garbage ideology to every single prisoner (all prisoners are prisoners of war) especially those with no possibility of parole. Go look them in the eye and tell them NEVER to give up trying to get out of prison.

[@vince6252]

Okay. Thank you for the encouragement. Sounds like you're going ahead nicely. Good work. 👍🏻👍🏻

[@mollytejana]

"In the middle of difficulty, lies opportunity." ~ Albert Einstein This quote has gotten me through SO much in my life when I wanted to give up.

[@IrishMexican]

Courage doesn’t come from doing something without fear. Courage comes from the person who is fearful, but does it anyways.

[@tsydamian2025]

4:07: "When you fail once, you double your chances of success." Thanks Mel.😁❤💯

[@Emmalemma90989]

This video hit me hard. I had a teacher a few years ago that destroyed my confidence by yelling at me a lot and telling me that I was wrong. This helped a lot.

[@r.k.wilson7123]

Always felt as a failure due to what my mother told me through out my life. But she’s gone now. I just launched my own blog and business 2 weeks ago at age 59. Mel you are the reason I tried this. I hope it’s a hit. Thank You Mel!

[@sharlharmakhis280]

I hope wherever she is now she's looking at how well you're doing and kicking herself. 👍

[@kaylei001]

Everything we ever want is on the other side of fear

[@EllaRingrose]

You either win from an experience of learn and grow from an experience. It's all a matter of perspective. Every failure is a learning experience. Once we decide to feel the fear and do it anyway we learn that every 'failure' is a gain because it shows we are chasing our dreams and learning along the way rather than waiting for the perfect moment (which never comes about). Remember you are one failure closer to success. Keep going, anything is possible!

[@pinkbot]

❤️

[@tejashwinikulkarni7078]

I am afraid of both failures n success ..When I succeed I doubt myself that do I deserve it

[@IntheMOMENT22173]

I think that it is called impostor syndrome...it really sucks. When you finally get over the fear of failing and succeed at something, you have to constantly remind yourself that you deserve to be in that position. It is the feeling of not being good enough that holds us back.

[@ahmadizzatshahmieralhamdul4926]

That's caused by devil agenda to harm yourself,be careful always.

[@gricosandrinotereno2960]

The simple answer is your just fucking lazy

[@faiiscutee]

@@gricosandrinotereno2960 nope that's you for assuming so

[@whitespider8998]

Me too... and when people cheer me i always think.. oh anyone could have done this I just got lucky. I never appreciate my self and my work and I work hard for my plans, i put my soul in it.

[@zofiajaneczek184]

Not good enough, been told this my whole life! Raised by abusive parents so nothing I ever did was going to be, despite whatever I did, it was not ever going to be good enough for anything and anyone! I'm seemingly stuck in a dead-end, low paying job that I truly despise and ALL I want to do is follow my dreams. It takes so much effort just for me to get to this job, to stay at this job, to pretend to be OK there. I'm dying inside from this current life and this horrible job! I have to try doing whatever I loved to do years ago, I need to get that creative spark back and try to move forward in some small way.

[@roseannebenjamin8832]

It's not too late to follow your dreams, good luck 😋

[@joud9482]

This is me, and that's why I procrastinate!!!🤦‍♀️😫😕

[@beartheburn3863]

Exactly how I feel like you

[@mahmoudmagdy8383]

"your dreams are meant to be pursued and not achieved" wow this quote has changed me a lot and I think we all guys have to change our attitude towards failure cuz once you pursued your dream once you've put an effort and strived for your dream there is no regret regardless of the outcome

[@hermetickitten]

You’ve saved me so many times. I remember I was so scared of flying and your videos pushed me outside of that fear bubble. Now I am intensely scared of failing and your words are such a great comfort. Thank you!

[@JS45678]

I perform music on stage weekly (guitar player) and I suffer from severe performance anxiety due to my deep fears of failure. Imagine taking off on a blistering guitar solo only to lose focus, hit the wrong notes, or just go blank momentarily. These are my deepest fears when I perform… However, I have learned to use these awful anxieties and fears of failure to motivate me to practice so much that I know my muscle memory will overcome the nerves and anxieties of performing in front of hundreds of people. I see my fears of failure as a blessing! I love what I do and no way will I ever allow my relentless anxieties and fears stop me from performing on stage. Practice, practice, and practice is my solution to this horrible problem. Tomorrow morning, it all starts again but I’m ready, I’m prepared, and I’m going to do awesome! 🎸😊🎶

[@Kandyrose0108]

I've been wanting to sing in public sometimes but I feel scared of looking stupid and others would laugh at me and say the same (eg Divz is stupid for trying). Inner critics come too

[@thisisgood44]

I dont afraid to fail when it comes to learning but when money joins in it gaves me the chills maan

[@yuliiaslyvka2602]

I needed this. Mel, thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@atuhairejonathan8834]

Hi its me your sister , victoria justice your twin sister😮😮😮

[@kurrves]

Failure to Succeed. Yes, I don’t feel good enough, always someone else to compete with.

[@KatyDCoach]

Karen Kurves Stippey whatever you do you are good enough as long as you take action to achieve it

[@kurrves]

KatyDBusinessCoach thank you. Yes!

[@wandalee5010]

Only compete with yourself! Be better everyday, forgive your learning processes, rid your life of anyone who holds your failures against you, they are small minded and need to go so you can achieve your goals.

[@kerryfoster1]

Everything we attempt starts in ignorance. Failure only comes when you give up. Keep trying and eventually you become the EXPERT. There are no short cuts - the more you try the better you become. All world champions do this!

[@NenaLavonne]

The only way we really fail is failing to try. We get so caught up in comparison and self-defeating thinking that we forget that everyone starts somewhere. We can't compare our beginning to someone's end product. We need to take that first step forward and keep taking baby steps. We will get there eventually! We also can't hold ourselves up to impossible standards! Sometimes "done" is better than "perfect." :) Have an amazing day, everyone! We're all in this together!

[@VertigoMusicMagazine]

Thank you ❤ it’s actually ridiculous to feel that way! It was my family of origin that made me feel that way! It’s BS! We are fabulous!!!

[@Blackdiamond929_]

Failure is a by product of success

[@flame0111]

2:48, i can literally understand how it feels to be afraid of failure... I can relate with her honestly ....

[@Salma-mj9hw]

I really needed to hear this ... I started posting singing videos recently, and I've been so self-critical, I take days to film one cover because I keep playing the same song again and again until my fingers hurt from playing the ukulele. Even after posting, I still think in my mind "ugh, I could have done better"... I honestly feel scared and embarrassed at the same time, like how could I ever be as good as other great singers. This video really helped to make me understand that it's okay to feel afraid, embarrassed, scared to fail, because all of that just means I'm actually trying and putting in the work to get somewhere. Thank you! ❤

[@busymama7903]

F.A.I.L. = First Attempt I Learn, meaning, if you fail, you have actually learned what not to do in order to succeed next time

[@onlineincomeburnette]

Love this

[@nathrose7612]

Thank you good quotation.🗝️🙏

[@nathrose7612]

Sometime you have to try several Times...

[@amandadube3981]

I like that too true !

[@TheCakeIsNotLie]

First Attempt I Leave, in my case

[@feelingnifty]

Thank you for your video, the way you put things makes a lot of sense.

[@LightnessofJoy]

4:18: “All I ever want you to do is try.” Thanks Mel💫 It helped to hear this today🙏

[@Battleganz]

Mel Robbins. Helping women to win!

[@MrAnugar]

Your video just answer a big question that I had. I couldn't see the answer until now. Thanks for your words!

[@annrice2405]

I was 'let go' at work 2yrs ago after the company I worked for was bought out. Shocking after being there 17yrs. I managed to build my own business over the last 18mths, yet I almost had a panic attack after doing an elevator speech at a networking event. Exactly what you said..... saying out loud to an audience was what induced the sheer panic afterwards.

[@naletsanaele]

Well done you!

[@InnerVisionStudios]

This was sooo good Mel! I hope this inspires people who are crippled by the fear of failure to go forward with their dreams.

[@lamargames3940]

Yes!

[@lisac6139]

We're the same age, but you are the mother to my inner child giving me the courage to try. I'm gonna do this thing. And I will learn.

[@PurplePinkRed]

The worst part is when you do try and you put 110% and you still fail. I love a challenge and I love trying new things. Yes, it is an experience and I'm not starting from square one. Thank you ❤

[@katemichelle]

Currently in my second year of med school, realizing I want to be a general surgeon after convincing myself that I didn’t want it in my first year. Now I’m setting up meetings and making baby steps towards preparing my application

[@skylebrown6070]

Stop putting yourself down if you make a mistake it's normal to make mistakes so we learning from them

[@mohamedismail6273]

Fear of failure is bad if it is stopping u from taking action but good if it make u work hard

[@NibberKSmooth]

Success takes passion, skill, time, patience, effort and energy. It will happen, keep working at it and do not expect the end result to be instant.

[@regi8838]

Mel & Friends, aren’t failures a given towards achievements? Of course we aim to avoid devastating failures, but all success stories are loaded with some failures... in my assessment of all successes, there seem to be three real forms of failure. Failure to start, failure to learn from failures and failure to get back up, dust yourself off, and get going again. Les Brown days, “Shoot for the moon, land on the stars”.... if we don’t start/launch, we’re stuck holding our fears, looking up at the stars. Let’s shoot and land among them! Thank you Mel for all you do! You’re a stars in my book! Best to all!

[@billielith]

She is incredible

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

From the first few minutes of the video, I started crying because it HIT ME. Thank you Mel, you’re wonderful ❤️🥺 . I will try . fuck the failing, I am trying and I will go through it!! F the fears and the thoughts that make me feel so little. I am doing it 💪🏻💪🏻😊

[@KatyDCoach]

If we are afraid of failure we project the failure and it happens. I love to think that the failure is just showing me that this solution will not work and I am encouraged to give it a try from another angle :)

[@NibberKSmooth]

All true. Mel, you are genuine and kind, thank you.

[@ljkoh20052000able]

Nope. I failed the bar exams because I pushed and tried outside my comfort zone. I failed not because I was afraid to fail. I failed because I did not have the right support system, I was not in the right time or place. I did not have the right circumstances or history, up bringing. Its a lot of factors. Save that you have said. And after failing the second time I gave up since I placed everything already on the line. Then I succeeded when I saw that everything comes in place for yourself in life.

[@robertjv]

Thank you.

[@kemmy1792]

I really needed this

[@Ed83295]

Thank you so much for giving me this motivation

[@tilleternity]

Thankful

[@carsonc6659]

Maybe not to expect perfection is a good start.

[@BigCaucasoid]

Wow. Thank you. I shall try tomorrow

[@analiza329]

Thank you . I just had my long breathe after watching this video

[@RosePetal17]

YES! I have always wanted to use my voice in a creative way, either singing, or doing voice over work. When I am alone, I can do crazy voices and accents, feeling free in myself. I recently took a voice over class through college continuing ed. I was in a class full of naturals, felt awful about myself, and left the animation class early...:( I inhibit myself in the presence of other talented folks :(. I had an email from the instructor after the class to find out if I was ok. I am not feeling comfortable to go back to the last class, but I will, just to commit to myself and to not run away (which has been a pattern for me...)

[@bloodmajesty414]

If it helps, try posting it online where there's no comment section (a freelance site like fiverr, or selling songs on itunes) and see if you got traction. KZbin is great too if you don't mind some comments. Most of the times, what you think as "awful" is actually "wow this is amazing" to a group of people - you just have to find your own group of people. I mean 50 shades of gray and twilight got fans...

[@RosePetal17]

Blood Majesty 🙏 I do have voice demos and songs up on SoundCloud.com and posted a bit on KZbin😉💖. Thank you so much for your suggestions...

[@marijkevv11]

So strong you💜

[@EjabiPositive]

Love you Mel. ❤️❤️❤️

[@speedlovers1076]

woman i fricking love you

[@SridharPatchigolla]

Mel you make things look so easy & you give ways and means to achieve it .. I feel indebted to you . Thank you dear..

[@ananyagarg2888]

I m trying to pass my finals and this was exactly what i needed. Thankyou!

[@Djake3tooth]

Well, the fact that so many people still struggle with this makes me feel like the problem hasn’t been solved…

[@aminulfarooque8014]

Mel Thank you soooo much... I needed this in the most crucial moment in my life...it's now or never!

[@SharonHorneEllstromBeMe]

There is no failure...just stepping stones to what we want. Love this video!

[@Jgs239]

So true

[@Ban-ge3zy]

this makes me feel real better , thankyou!

[@windflier1684]

“You live and learn. At some point of your life, you live.”

[@elizabethnotyourbusiness3655]

I'm afraid of failing with money I don't really have to to try with. This hits me in the gut because it's the truth. I don't feel good enough.

[@hobbytoby8887]

dont let failure hold you back.

[@SC_xcx]

Thank You so much this was a eye opener to life.

[@michelleworkmanclayton1091]

You are so awesome, Mel! I loved your TV show...don't give up. We need you!!!

[@agathaeagle2495]

Preach!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@vince6252]

Thank you Mel. This is helpful. I have become fearful of too much hard work. (What most people would call normal levels of work.) Because I haven't got results. In fact, since my PhD, I believe I've achieved less and less with each project or year with my hard work. Maybe including my PhD. Maybe that was a high-point in achievement per time. So, why work hard? I need to work on things: 1. I can do And 2. I want to achieve. Then, maybe I'll achieve my goals, then find new goals after those. I shall try. And I shall try again. I'll keep trying, moving forward probably.

[@sherenbaloum7127]

I love you , your words hit me always , thanks god you exist ❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@SalsitaDk]

Such a valid point one thing often leads to something even better

[@jamesdabney1135]

I'm hitting subscribe!!! Fellow feelers....she knows what she's talking about

[@melaninandaura9713]

They’re not to be achieved but pursued. ❤

[@brightpage1020]

I have ADHD. Every day, I fail at most things. I have 4 kids, 2 still very little, and 1 still kind of little. There is no such thing as a “successful” day to me because every single plan goes awry every. Single. Darn. Day. I have learned to adjust my definition of success to “Today, my kids got 3 meals and at least 1 snack. They ate off clean dishes. They started the day in clean clothes. They ended the day in clean jammies. They brushed their teeth at least once today. They all have health insurance now and we can catch up on Dr. stuff... None of them died today. None of them died. Despite the very real possibilities of potential dangers. They’re loving and compassionate and fun and smart and developing. And nothing else in the world has to go right because that’s all there is. There is so so so much more I wish would work out for us but I can tow this line day after day for years and get by... until... until they’re less dependent, can dress themselves and use the potty... can spend some time at school... Then, I can refocus on the bigger goals for this family. But right now they need me making sure they are alive, and bathed regularly... so, that’s enough. That’s ok. It’s ok. Even if it’s not ideal, it’s livable and we can improve a little bit every day or every month or every year until we get there.

[@konablu]

I am so glad to read this comment. I hope you see it. I had to do something like this myself. I 0:00 fought the negative family dynamics. I devoted my whole day to caring for my kids. I became the parent who was always there. We left the controllers, the doubters, and the people living a double standard. Lots of hypocrites. I made myself go to sleep and rest most nights. I learned about taking baby steps toward my goals of living better. I learned more lessons about who I did not want to be. I kept my faith in the face of haters. I humbled myself to Jesus and told him I felt like I was not doing enough. I needed his wisdom. He brought peace to my heart and my spirit. He led me to the mentors I needed. I became a woman of faith and a better Mom. I got brave. I walked away from all the "impostors" in my life. Former friends who had gotten so used to a "people pleaser" that when I stood up for myself and my kids, I was being "stubborn." So be it. I had found my voice, and I was going to use it every day. The word "No" became freeing for us. My kids grew up knowing they did not have to fit into someone else's box. We have all been learning how to set up the paths we desire. I put quotes on the walls of our apartments and houses. I made lots of mistakes. I got into debt. We had to leave a home I bought due to abuse. I thank you for sharing your comment. It will help other parents, who wonder if they really have what it takes to keep it together and love and care for their families. I am praying for you and your family. Especially your children. Oh, yeah, I want to tell you about the bullies in my elder family. Many of their relationships ended. They were removed from authority, and some lost their health. I am not happy that they ended up like that. But, the abuse and oppression finally stopped.😊

[@brightpage1020]

@@konablu 💕💙❤️💕🥰 love this! Thank you!

[@RH-ds4wk]

This is SUCH a nice video, thanks so much - am a freelancer unused to having to look for work and guess what am terrified! Am finding that even taking small steps make me feel better, something every day or at least most days.

[@everydayfun9531]

I just want to Try and Keep Doing my Best as I can I think that's What matters the Most to me?!

[@viviankirkham1677]

Fascinating about how your dreams and goals led you to something else. Thank you.

[@filmic1]

I was 270lbs, morbidly obese and couldn't jog 50 metres, T2 Diabetic. Chipping away with that run building on the run before brought me down fifty pounds and I did two half marathons. I didn't think of that marathon, ever. Reflecting on what you are saying here, it was just that next jog/run routine to the point I was getting runner's high. Thanks you for the video and insight!

[@andreurestrep]

Thanks, this video helps me a lot when I feel demotivated when I can't understand something, I just play and play again this video and keeps me moving forward toward my goals.

[@ayushimalviya8846]

I really needed this, I love you Thank You so much !!

[@zinebnour587]

am terrified of applying for a job and not being good at it so am just pushing it

[@aawrnnc]

There is lots of wisdom in this video!

[@redblade6768]

Thank you mel I needed to hear this.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

Every closed door leads and prepares you to another one . Nothing is wasted .

[@jamesdabney1135]

She's awesome

[@whitespider8998]

Your video made me realize one thing. Lately I have been experiencing huge fair of failure which i think leads me to apply and right stuff when i am close to the deadlines. I think in some sense i feel i don't deserve it and i am not good enough. Probably because my elementary school teacher bullied me whole time and i think I am still that 10 years old girl who has been called stupid in front of the entire class

[@Khushiiskhushh]

Same

[@phantomfriplo376]

Amazing, I will break the cycle of my mind (negative).

[@veerukabaka6470]

You are an incredible personality thank you!

[@abcxyz9852]

About pushing through; I always get stuck and can't quite get myself to try again/start. I stay up late because I don't want to lose hope that I'll do some work eventually for the day, but this just causes me to be even more upset when I end up doing nothing and not getting enough sleep to properly function the next day. It's not even procrastination, I could be crying the entire time or staring outside the window without actually plucking up the courage to look at the material that I'm supposed to work with. I have tried all the tricks from the 2-minute rule to study groups, they haven't worked out in the long run and I just end up disappointing myself once more. The current slump I'm in was triggered by several changes in my environment but I can't even think about changing my environment for the better again because I'm so anxious about the work I should be doing. So I don't do any sport, I don't do the house work, I don't eat healthy meals, I don't read, I don't write diary, I don't draw or use any other creative outputs, I don't meet friends and the music that's always comforted my in situations like these can't help me because my headphones broke once again I guess these are the subtleties I'd have to figure out in therapy, I just wish there was a temporary solution to put these feelings of being a disappointment and already having failed aside so that I can efficiently use the little time I have left to finish the project.

[@elogedossou4872]

great video

[@zeynand4039]

Im afraid to fail but it makes me fail even more. My therapist says I have negative angsts and its crippeling. It makes me act stupid, be more insecure. I behave incompetent. My whole demeanor changes when I'm afraid and I achieve failing. I'm ashamed all the time. I'm a horrible test taker. I never realized how terrible this is for your life.

[@rashadmarsh4357]

Good advice

[@janetwaterhouse1489]

Absolutely true!

[@ConstanterMotivation]

Don't be afraid to go out and achieve your dreams! Better a life of failures whilst experiencing greatly, than to die a life unlived.

[@balancedhumans3413]

Yes! It's super hard but take that first step, then the next and the next. You win by trying it and just keep going until you find that right fit. Kinda like shopping for a new pair of jeans... just keep trying them on and be open to ones you don't like before you try them on.

[@carinatiotuico6453]

This is true you are the best and beautiful and so so smart. My son struggles all the time with this situation

[@IsaacAwad.04]

Thank you so much 💓

[@ins4nutty341]

Thank you im feeling motivated now to get a job while having social anxiety

[@JulietteVeronica1201]

I've learned a lot about success and failure from the Greek myth of Orpheus. For a brief background for people who aren't aware with this story, he was trying to save his wife and get her out of Hell so the God and Goddess of the Underworld let them go to live on a happy life together under one condition. They had to walk out of Hell with Orpheus in front and Eurydice behind on the trail and Orpheus couldn't look back, but at the end he does turn back cause he didn't have enough faith in her. Success is a journey out of another world, which we call reality and sometimes reality can be hell. When doubt comes in, we can relapse and our fears from the past will over consume us. My advice, don't look back and trust that if you keep climbing the mountain you'll eventually reach the top. It will take time and effort, it won't be easy. But imagine your futuristic self is walking behind you, guiding you to your desired destination. You won't see them, you won't hear them, but if you believe in yourself you will feel their presence more which only helps encourage you to climb more.

[@naletsanaele]

Thank you ,this is beautiful

[@My_Sticky_Note_Thoughts]

I love her. I pray she is genuine thru and thru because she helps me get out of my headspace♥️

[@marijkevv11]

Why pray she's true? The inspiration feels true, your heart knows, follow that🙏🌿