If You Sleep With Someone Are You Biblically Married?

If sex doesn't equal marriage then what does? We will take a look at a number of biblical passages to find the answer to this question. The bottom line is that sex does join you to a person in a very intimate way, but that this alone does not constitute a marriage. Marriage is more than sex and it takes more to be truly married than to just start sleeping with someone.
Here's the playlist for all the videos (as they come out) on marriage, divorce and remarriage. • Divorce and Remarriage...

[@gabehcuod681]

I recently watched a movie called "before the wrath". It's more like a scenic documentary than a movie actually. It analyzes the galileeic wedding and it's similarities with the rapture of the church. In short: a woman is betrothed to a man - they spend a period of time apart - the man builds a room in his father's house for them to live in - nobody knows when the wedding is going to happen except the father. And here comes the real interesting part: According to tradition the father would tell his son to go get his bride in the middle of the night. The son would then go through the village sounding a shofar to wake up the villagers to the wedding feast. The bride was then lifted up in a chair and carried to the wedding feast. The ones who didn't attend the parade weren't let into the wedding. Anyone who knows the new testament clearly see the references. The wedding is an image of the son (Jesus) who gives the bride (the church) a promise of returning for her. Jesus is now buildning a room in his Father's house (heaven). Nobody knows when it will happen except God the Father. The trump will sound when we are lifted up to meet Jesus in the clouds and we will be together forever. I think that is one of the reasons why marriage is so attacked these days. It is holy to God and it's a wondrous depiction of the promise between God and man and a reminder for us to be vigilant and awake. This just adds on to what pastor Mike said, which is also very true.

[@heir_to_the_promise]

I think that is quite a stretch.

[@godsstruggler8783]

I heard a sermon by Jacob Prasch some 17 years ago that is identical to what you describe in your comment.

[@heir_to_the_promise]

@@anonymous_man7 Why do I have to be “smokin?” 😂

[@barnabasjthomas9983]

Honestly? Sounds like a jerk father. "Son, wake up! Yeah, it's the middle of the night. Perfect time to get hitched, wouldn't you say? Off you go!"

[@emerald7777]

@@heir_to_the_promise not in the slightest... it's quite plain.

[@davidmc1489]

Lord forgive me for my fornication in my past... Been celibate since my divorce .... Help me to be strong in my mind against sin.

[@chucksolutions4579]

When I was growing up, I always thought that if a man got a woman pregnant, it was the right thing to do for him to marry her. When I went to college I befriended a guy who was a devout Christian who challenged my understanding. He slept with a girl who was not a Christian and got her pregnant. This was in Alaska in 2003. The woman (20F) was also religious, devout Ba’Hai, and lived in Juneau, AK with her Indian/Israeli family. The young man (22m) was a blond surfer white boy from a devout Christian family. He moved to Juneau (900miles away, no road trip options) and started attending my Bible study. When I asked if he was going to ask her to marry him, he said that it would be compounding sin for him to do that, but he was going to do everything he could to be a father to the child. For the next two years he effectively indentured himself to the woman’s family to ensure they understood he was not some interloper, all the while treating her with utmost respect and weirdly NOT trying to woo her. Eventually, she ended up leaving her family and faith and converted to Christianity, but he made it clear from the beginning that was not his goal, it was to be a father. Six months after her conversion they started dating six months after that, they were engaged and another six months they were married. Four years from the time they slept together the first time to their wedding day, they were never again alone together, and he did not date anyone else the entire time. That 22 year old showed me what it really meant to man up when you sin. Today they have six children and he is a doctor.

[@semi2893]

That's a beautiful story, thanks for sharing 🥰

[@chucksolutions4579]

@@semi2893 it was amazing BUT at no point did he ever put words to that being even his hope. His intentions were only one step ahead, while most are too busy looking too far down the line. Of course I’m sure that was the outcome he wanted but whenever questioned about it, or whenever the opportunity came to date other women (which I observe happening often) he remained firm in his one step at a time focus. I’m sure that had he tried to jump the process to the ending it would not have worked out near as well.

[@starlightmckennah5241]

Very inspiring story. I will keep this close to my heart as im learning how to date as a new Christian. When you said they were never alone togther, does that also mean they didnt go to restaurants alone also? Or just that it was never JUST the two of them together without others around?

[@chucksolutions4579]

@@starlightmckennah5241 I was not with them 24/7 (obviously) but as I gathered if they went out together, they had chaperones. I was asked to chaperone on a few occasions. It was never called that just, there was always a responsible older person her family respected with them.

[@starlightmckennah5241]

@@chucksolutions4579 Thank you for your reply. Thats really a lovely way to be

[@janedoe4]

Thank you Pastor Mike! Last year my (now) husband and I were recent converts in a very similar situation to the woman who asked the question. We began attending church together and I appreciated that once the pastors were aware of our situation and saw that we were attending regularly, they lovingly spoke with us about this. I felt the same way as the woman asking the question, like we've lived together this long before finding God, we're basically already married. We had even agreed to abstain and were practicing abstinence, but still living together before the wedding. What hit home to me during the conversation and was the catalyst for my decision to move out of our home until the wedding, was when the pastor and his wife shared that other people could see our relationship and think it was okay to live together outside of marriage; like it could be a stumbling block for someone else. I never thought about it that way. We married in October of last year, and I did a lot of back and forth between an air-b-and-b in town where I live/work and my mom's house on weekends an hour and a half away. But I wouldn't trade it for anything! The Lord used that time to speak to my heart and prepare me for marriage and my wedding day was, beautiful spiritually and physically because I knew we were truly obeying God. Surrounded by family, friends and our new church community we submitted our will to His and entered into our marriage in obedience to Him. Keep getting His word out! The world needs the truth ❤️🙏🙂

[@starlightmckennah5241]

Thank you for sharing. During this time did you spend time alone in each others houses or airbnbs? Or did you always keep seeing each other in public settings?

[@janedoe4]

@starlightmckennah5241 we purposely chose to not spend time alone at home/air-b-and-b to avoid temptation. I selected an air-b-and-b with a strict "No visitors" policy. If I had to grab anything from home/swap out clothes. I did that while he was at work. We planned our 1:1 time in public places. It helped a lot with avoiding temptation and maintaining our commitment to keep our relationship in obedience before the wedding.

[@starlightmckennah5241]

@janedoe4 Thank you so much for replying. Im going to do this, too. Im a new Christian learning how to respectfully and obediently (to God) navigate dating

[@janedoe4]

@starlightmckennah5241 I will be praying for you 🙏 ❤️ 🙂 God is so good. I was so surprised by the peace and joy that He gave me throughout the whole time, the more I submitted the relationship to Him. A big blessing was staying at my mom's. My sisters and mom and I did a lot together on those weekends. That was such precious time with them. My mom's in her 70s so I know that time was a blessing and a gift 🙂❤️

[@starlightmckennah5241]

@@janedoe4 It's reallly beautiful that your decision to be obedient to God opened up unexpected gifts and blessings for you. Yes, please sincerely pray for me to learn to walk rightously in relation to men and to keep obedient to the Lord and resist temptation. My struggle in this area led me to read your comment which was so inspiring and helped me to realize there are many positive examples in the body of Christ of which I can lean on and emulate

[@MeatPuppet1962]

In my younger days I was very sinful and promiscuous. I have been married multiple times. I've been celibate since my last marriage ended in 2016, the thought of ever having sex again is absolutely disgusting to me now, sexual sin is spiritually deadly to me. I'm celibate for Spiritual health.

[@sadiek9968]

I always wanted to wait for marriage. I an adult now, but when I was 17 I was manipulated into having sex with my ex when he told me that sex was marriage so it was okay. After we broke up I was terrified that I could never get married because thought already was. The Lord has sense redemed me and now I am with someone who always puts Jesus first. However, this false teaching is used to hurt lots of people. Like it hurt me. I am so glad you are teaching on it! God bless you! 2023 Edit: thank you for the support and responses!. I'd like to share I am legally married now to my wonderful husband. Who has never treated me better. For those who seem to take such an issue with my original post. May I include the context that I was a child (17) and the person that I was dating was not (21) therefore when I say manipulated, I mean coerced, therefore under the law statutory rape, I do still consider it a sin and one that I have repented for. Whether you agree with that or not it's not my concern. I have devoted my life to the lord. And grateful and fully redeemed in him and only him. Repent and believe in the Gospel of Jesus Christ!

[@VictorMateo001]

waw, "this false teaching is used to hurt lots of people" that is very true

[@kathyh.1720]

@Dirkjan If you truly believe that, then why are you here on this channel? Do you enjoy listening to what you believe to be false teaching? Or did you just make a comment without listening to the teaching? Also, in order for you to "know" that the Bible is full of "B.S.", you must have read it yourself, because you can't know something that someone else tells you without checking it out for yourself to see if it was true. You see, Sadie K believed that man because she hadn't checked to see if he was telling her the truth or not. What she thought she knew to be true was not actually true. However, she had to have that false teaching replaced with truth. That truth came through the Bible.

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

@Grace Asher She needs to take responsibility of her choices, her decisions, was her decision to have sex and marry that previous guy; was her responsibility in doing that as a marriage. In which way could that teaching hurt her????? She believed sex was marriage, so she decided to marry that guy by having sex with him. She needs to stop playing the victim. And now she compares her ex and her currently husband saying that the first was bad, but it was totally her decision to have sex as a marriage. And you saying she has taken full responsibility????? Hahaha She blames her ex and the "false teachings" all her comment.

[@rembrandt972ify]

Don't blame your ex or your manual for genocide. You bumped uglies because you wanted to. I've always wondered what it is like to have sex with someone who put Jesus first. I never have because I'm not a sad pathetic dweeb.

[@mittwochxiv.9770]

@@RedPillOfTheBible She thought she married the guy by having sex with him. It does not sound like she planned on breaking up with him later. She wanted to stay with him and had sex for that reason. Not a smart decision, but what do you expect from a 17 year old. Obviously, given the fact that the original poster does not want to live outside biblical rules, the break up was devestating to her. How you can make this look like that's a premeditated thing. As always I'm just feeling sorry for the red-pill-guys, you all must have had the worst experiences to be quick to judge any female you never met.

[@mrmonay]

A ceremony is not required or biblical, but a covenant or commitment certainly seems to be a crucial part of it.

[@rosalinddavies8466]

I have a Christian friend who had a child outside of marriage and they were engaged, living together without being married. When I asked her about this topic to learn more she got angry and defensive. Really appreciate you covering the topic

[@ritadyer9295]

If she got angry, I would question her Christianity. She should feel convicted.

[@TaraHower]

That's what a guy told me and I fell for it. He even bought me a promise ring. Then found out he was cheating on me. moral of the story wait to get married it's so worth it. But of course get to know the person you choose to marry. Make sure there are common goals beliefs and strong foundation. No one gets it perfect and people cant be changed by you. Hope you find a great loving Godly relationship

[@curtw878]

@Joseph Sneyd Your comment clarifies exactly what biblical marriage is and the difference between biblical and legal marriage. the problem is that the Christian church mixes the two because of our culture. Biblically, if you and your partner make a covenant with God that you are one that is a biblical marriage. Sex seals the marriage.

[@shaunsteele6926]

well he wasn't wrong, when you had sex you were spiritually married to him

[@dk4232]

These comments show you didn't listen to the video

[@garouuchiha4041]

I wouldn't do that to you Tara, no lie because I am different.

[@Aquascape_Dreaming]

​​@@curtw878 incorrect. Marriage is a legally binding contract, even in God's eyes. You can't use Adam and Eve as a means to discredit this idea, because at that time, there were no other governments besides God. In Old testament times they still had contracts, much like the contract where 2 would cut an animal in half and the 2 would walk between the halves. This was considered a legally binding contract. The times have changed, the form of contracts also, but the principle has remained. You lack the evidence that any physical coupling is assumed as a biblical marriage. When speaking in terms of a man and woman, there's no difference between biblical and legal marriage, since marriage is supposed to be a reflection of the contract/covenant that God made with man, through Christ. God has a legal standing with us through the contract that he, himself fulfilled. You might not like that, but it doesn't make it any less true. You and others that think like you can point at a marriage contract and dismiss it as worldly as much as you want, but you're fooling yourself if you think God doesn't care about things like this. In the case of the absence of such a government to regulate and officiate a marriage, sure, God will provide the justification for the marriage. But when you live in a place where marriage is governed and recognized by the government, you have no excuse to go your merry way.

[@jeremyparker5660]

Very well said. I may need to (awkwardly) share this with my 14 year old daughter so she can avoid this confusion.

[@neun2609]

Even if the talk may be awkward, it will be a very special memory for her. You can tell her how much she means to you and that alone could help prevent something that is not good for her.

[@joserodolforamirez8773]

This guy is good he really analyzes the word. God bless him

[@aaronstately]

hes not, he is wrong.

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

He is a good guy, but he still lacks of understanding.

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

When you go forth to war against your enemies, and the LORD your God has delivered them into your hands, and you have taken them captive, And see among the captives a beautiful woman, and have a desire to her, that you would have her to your wife; Then you shall bring her home to your house, and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails; And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in your house, and mourn her father and her mother a full month: and after that you shall go in to her, and be her husband, and she shall be your wife. Deuteronômio 21:10-13

[@TheRealMonnie]

@@RedPillOfTheBible you are looking at the order of the wording and assuming causality. I don't think you can do that.

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

@@TheRealMonnie What are you referring to, what do you mean?

[@pastrbuzz1]

These shorter videos are a great idea. I love your stuff, but I've never been able to sit through anything longer than about 30-45 minutes! (not just yours, but most anyones.)😁 I vote for more like this!! :)

[@thekingsheiress5924]

I agree. Me too

[@jonathandixon209]

Agreed. I don't watch most of your videos due to their size, and this helps.

[@Johnnyvtg]

If you have an activity you have to do that is boring and doesn't require much mental gymnastics, I'd recommend listening to the videos during that instead of watching them. Since there isn't any other exhilarating stimulus, you will naturally be interested in listening and able to pay attention. Of course, whether this works for not depends on the person.

[@pastrbuzz1]

@@Johnnyvtg good advice! Thank you!

[@moarijoewana]

I would watch his stuff if it was shorter.

[@VictorMateo001]

A friend of mine came up with the same question a few weeks ago. His whole point was that we can have sex with our couple before getting married. Saying that as long we are committed as a serious couple, that counts as a marriage to God. He also mentions the couples in the old testament like Jacob and Leah and Adam and Eve; that they were simply recognized by God as a married couple and that's all you need today too. That ceremony is not required in order to have sex as long as we are committed to each other. I think that it is just his excuse to have premarital sex with his girlfriend. I'm happy Pastor Mike is doing a study about this. God bless you.

[@ea-tr1jh]

Mmmm. Yeah that sounds like an excuse to skip the ceremony. Does he actually consider himself to be married to his girlfriend? Although this is an extremely unlikely situation, if your in one where you can't have a ceremony or anything or you're in a country where you don't sign a legal document, I think if you truly consider yourself married to the person, and they feel the same, and you verbally make that commitment/promise to them and them to you, and if you both would actually tell someone that your married if they ask, then you'd be married. I mean he is technically right in the sense that a ceremony doesnt define a marriage. But does he actually consider himself married to his girl? And does she feel the same? Did they verbally make a lifelong commitment to eachother *and* agree, "we're married"? Is there a legitimate excuse of why they don't have a legal contract or ceremony(money?)? Or does he only say that he is married to justify the sex?

[@flora20]

Jacob and Leah were married though that’s why Jacob was cross because he was tricked into marrying her when he thought he was marrying Rachel.

[@adamjones6473]

Adam and Eve were married Genesis 4:4 and Adam knew Eve his wife and she conceived and bore cain...

[@VictorMateo001]

@@ea-tr1jh Thank you very much for the response. You have touched many interesting topics, and yes, my friend does think that a "lifelong commitment" to his girlfriend is valid to have sex her and viewed as a marriage in the eyes of God. My country is very religious, mostly Roman Catholic, therefore many, although valuing the tradition and sacrament of getting married according to that doctrine, do no really fallow it and jump into premarital sex and 70% present of the time end up in what we call here as an "OPEN UNION". Meaning that we are like married to society, even with a house and kids, but never really married by law. Then the whole subject, religious ways, begs the question, WHEN ARE WE ACTUALLY MARRIED TO GOD? I really struggled to make a case debating my friend the other day because he kept pointing out examples in the old testament of couples that do not show a ceremony when they considered married. But of course, one can debate that that is an argument from silence; maybe they did get married but the bible doesn't say. But then, when you talk about fornication, the bible does make difference between that and adultery. And the apostle Paul advises us to marry; is that only for Jewish culture? because that was another point from my friend, saying that the wedding of Cana was one of a few examples of weddings in the bible, but that applies only to a jew. And Answering your last question, I think money should not be a factor if we want to honor God, just do a small private wedding, God is the drive, not pride; once finances get better, we can always renew or vows with the big ceremony (symbolic) that we wanted. But yes, In our culture and tradition, weddings a fancy and costly, because it's supposed to be a very important family event, and of course, the "family get together/party" sense of it. And lastly, I do think he is just trying to justify sex.

[@AirChurch]

While the ceremony can be dispensed with, it provides an important venue for a public declaration of marriage which is key. Moreover, a loving union of a man and a woman is something to be celebrated. Why rob the community of the blessing?

[@mackenziebodie9]

My husband and I eloped and didn't tell anyone until after we were married so that they couldn't object. We had the ceremony part of what you described as a Biblical marriage but without the community/public element.

[@mackienzykahl]

Good on you! If you think it's right and prayed on it- follow your heart. "We make our plans but God gives the right answer".

[@prudentpenny]

The public part may have been the filing with the state and having a person officiate… it’s not going to the woods a taking vows with no witness

[@mikeelarana3768]

So good! I'm glad you're doing these shorter, more searchable videos. I think they are really helpful!

[@Apollos2.2]

I really like this single topic Q/A format! Searchable and easy to share! Thanks you Mike, keep up the good work.👍

[@MrApex04]

This is the best explanation I've ever heard. Why don't most more people give this expletives of marriage. Lots of people look to me for wisdom and I wish I would have told so many people exactly this years ago.

[@glenarledge1825]

I refuse to use the word “partner”. It’s husband and wife…period!

[@JoseSantiago-tv8so]

I totally agree with you glenarledge1825.

[@martyloveurquizo6594]

Hey Mike! I love this content format! It was very digestible. Although I love the long videos which I tend to watch them as podcasts. This was great to sit through and save to go back to. Can’t wait for more short biblical answers like these! 🙏🏼

[@colmwhateveryoulike3240]

I think separating into smaller videos is an excellent idea. I have lots of your long videos on my watch list and have watched a good number but for whatever psychological reason, I commit to youtube videos longer than 20 minutes or so less often. There are definite merits to the long expositions but I think adding more short ones to mix it up will draw in more people and ironically people like me will probably be more likely to watch more of your long content when it is broken into bite sized chunks.

[@Im-wk6vw]

I really love and appreciate your desire to touch all of these difficult and confusing topics. I'm able to see what I was taught as a kid, and what was left out! I was always taught to wait until marriage, but I never knew why. I thought it was something that benefitted my parents, and not me. Of course I was a teen who thought I knew better! But I was missing so many important details. I would love to express these topics to my kids when it's time. I want them to hold these ideals dear, because I can see how much it's affected my life vs friends and family around me.

[@rachell7744]

So glad you talked about this. A pastor told me that sex is marriage if you are committed to each other emotionally or been together for a long time. When I started to question this I was told I was being to legalistic about it. He also mentioned that Adam and eve did not have a marriage ceremony so it's ok to sleep with a long term boyfriend.

[@fredarroyo7429]

Well then it wouldnt be called sleeping with a long term boyfriend anymore right? It would be called sleeling with your husband.

[@martbell1493]

wrong, like Fred say, its now your husband, for rest of life, good luck:D

[@originalmix2546]

that pastor is deceived. And wants to justify lust and following flesh... Please, check for yourself what the Bible says and pray for conviction

[@marygifford9379]

Short one topic videos are an excellent idea! A person can watch these when they have a bit of time, and mull over it as they go through their day.

[@charliethomas4250]

Love the new format Mike, topic handled very well too. Keep up the good work.

[@lornathesewist]

I love this format and I can easily share the specific question/answer posts. Thank you

[@jenniferwenger6925]

Oh wow!! I will get to watch Pastor Mike Live for the first time!! How exciting. I was married and divorced at 16 before I was saved and 13 years my now husband struggled so hard to marry me because of that. We almost broke it off completely until the Lord spoke to him and said “ I have forgiven her, why cannot you” and because of that and blocking out everyone else that told him not too; we have been married 2 wonderful years. So I say there is definitely a place for divorce and remarriage. BUT it is a very small window that it is right in.

[@TheUnconventionalEvangelist]

Greetings Sister. I urge you to seek the LORD JESUS on this. GOD cannot go against His word in scripture.

[@BraxtonHunter]

This was a really helpful video. One of the great things about this channel is Mike's willingness to get into the details of specific and practical issues believers want to know about.

[@UltraX34]

Both of y'all channels are most necessary

[@BiblicalChristianSteve]

Don't you think that with such an important issue as sex, that if sex outside of marriage was a sin that Father God would have stated that explicitly? He told us not to steal, not to covet, not to lie all stated explicitly. But with something as important as sex, which involves the Holy Spirit, never once in the Word of God does it directly state DO NOT HAVE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE. Yet so many so called teachers are so certain that it is a sin to have sex outside of marriage. It is appalling how teachers still convey their interpretations and opinions as Scriptural fact, even after knowing how Christ Jesus scolded the Pharisees for doing the exact same thing. There are many men who are seen as good in God's eyes in Scripture that had sex outside of marriage. And the act of sex outside of marriage alone was NEVER, NOT ONCE, in and of itself shown to be a transgression. David, Solomon, Samson, Abraham, and the list goes on, all had sex outside of marriage. It was never the sex by itself that was the sin. There was always an accompanying bad act that was the sin, i.e, Adultery, not trusting the LORD, telling secrets to pagan women (Samson), etc. What is the lesson here about sex as actually portrayed in Scripture? Sex outside of marriage CAN LEAD TO SIN, therefore, you better be sure you can be of sound enough mind to not let it lead you to sin if you choose to do so. However, in and of itself SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE IS NOT A SIN. The audacity of "teachers" today is the same as in the time of the Pharisees. How can otherwise intelligent people make such obvious misinterpretations and pass on false teachings? Sex is a hugely important issue to mankind, to God, and to Scripture. If sex outside of marriage was a sin, why would anyone think that God would not simply tell us 'Do not have sex outside of marriage'? Yet that commandment never appears anywhere in the Scripture. Don't overcomplicate this. Sometimes common sense prevails. Show me a chapter or verse in Scripture that proves otherwise.

[@EssenceofPureFlavor]

​@@BiblicalChristianSteve Umm.. there's an entire commandment against adultery. Not only that but Jesus said if you even look at a woman with lust, it's as if you had committed adultery.

[@BiblicalChristianSteve]

@@EssenceofPureFlavor Yes I'm aware of the 6th commandment. When I say sex outside the confines of marriage, I mean having sex with someone you're in a relationship with but not married to. I'm not talking about being married to someone and having sex with someone else who isn't your spouse. But I'll say it again, I'm just searching for the truth of what the Scriptures say. I could be completely wrong and having sex without being married is always a sin. I truly don't know the answer. My concern is that believers get married to someone too soon and someone they shouldn't be married to just because the think having sex without being married is always a sin. Fornication means prostitution at the time the Bible was written

[@Aquascape_Dreaming]

​@@BiblicalChristianSteve it might not implicitly state it in those exact words, but it's most definitely implied. The problem most people have is that they see a piece of paper and assume God has no part in 'what the state requires'. This is pure nonsense. Signing a marriage contract and being legally listed as married does not go against, not contradict God's idea of marriage. If anything it affirms it further, because if the state thinks highly and seriously enough about marriage as to make it a matter of legality, then that echoes God's sentiment. Christian's relationship with Christ is a form of legal contract too. The blood debt was paid for the price of sin. Since earthly marriage is a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the Church, it isn't a stretch to say that men and women are forming a covenant between one another when they enter marriage. In Old testament times, 2 men entering into a contract with one another would kill and half an animal. Together they would walk between those halves as a symbol of what would happen should either of them choose to renege on the contract. It was considered legally binding, also. Don't be like those that want to dilute the importance of legal marriage in God's eyes. It's not a Catholic thing, not a protestant thing. It's propriety and obedience to God, even if it requires the representation of an institution.

[@jimgordon7305]

A very good answer. I am glad that you are taking us back to the Bible and theology behind marriage. It is good that you also explain the variety of ceremonies in the Bible

[@tessack2777]

His teaching was very accurate and true! Definitely Spirit led 🙌🏽

[@rembrandt972ify]

Short answer: No Long answer: NNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[@devroom8904]

I have many people talk about the spiritual bond you create with sexual partners, I never could find the verse for it. I am glad you started with it.

[@jorgeleon1689]

um. That was actually a very useful video. Thanks for using verses to back up every point. God bless.

[@christinewind6459]

Wow thank you for making all these small videos! They really help! Great idea!

[@vickim6990]

You are definitely one of the best teachers. Your demeanor is peaceful, you really desire for people to learn. Love that. Thank you sir.

[@ta2107]

This a question I had for a very long time, thank you.

[@Penguin66No1]

Thanks Mike, I love listening to and learning from you and I'm a big fan of this new format. God bless you brother!

[@bashirjimoh7851]

Love the short version of the teaching. Well done!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@357QueenBee]

I love long teachings. Short ones are great for people with limited time. Both formats work. Different audiences.

[@VictorMateo001]

I can't wait for this study. I was unable to post the question las week for the Q&A following the "Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage" video but Miss Sarah from the BibleThinker Team was really big help when I reached the team with a few questions about the same topic the other day. To Miss Sarah, Pastor Mike, and all the team, regards from the Dominican Republic. I hope you guys are all safe and healthy.

[@CA-rs8rw]

Thank you for these videos! They shed light on some serious topics!

[@DolioFoilio]

Wow just wow... Mike this was just great. Every word so purposefully chosen & well explained. Just what I was looking for. God bless you immensely! 😀

[@UriyahYasharal]

Great job! I also think the shorter videos work better for your audience (and for you too with the KZbin algorithm). God bless you Pastor Mike.

[@beccayourneighbor]

So many people are led astray on this doctrine, but it is important to understand this correctly. This video is perfect and so helpful. Thank you for making it separately.

[@ToothpikcOriginal]

The quality has improved :) Good job Pastor Mike

[@hazevilleflowers5477]

Awesome 👏. Well explained. Thank you. God bless 😊🙏🏻

[@xXWarBeastXx18634]

This was a much needed explanation and actually it would be beneficial to dive even deeper. I also bought into sex equaling marriage. This is a really important conversation

[@lyndavillarreal5792]

This has been on my mind! cant wait.

[@gabrieldimitrov7785]

Thanks Mike. That was a huge help. God bless you. Thank you for your diligence. Greetings from Germany.

[@ec1222]

This was a really excellent analysis, thanks pastor

[@CitizenShane]

Mike, what are your thoughts on only having the ceremony (making the vows publicly in front of family and friends) but NOT signing the legal contract and getting a marriage license? Does it require Uncle Sam and his legally binding contract to make it righteous in God's eyes? Just seems like an absurd concept to get Uncle Sam involved and quite dangerous for the breadwinner, too.

[@vadinandez]

We are to follow the laws of the land. That means a legally binding marriage and certificate, here in our country.

[@paulcosta8297]

@@vadinandez Get behind me Satan. You are such a profound ignoramus adding to scripture and pretending that there is even a criminal law requiring a marriage contract. You words are evil and accuse the Founding Fathers of sinful rebellion.

[@andrewvangils3112]

@@vadinandez that’s a terrible answer and we really need to understand what the “law of the land” verse is really trying to get at. At no point does the government need to be involved in your bedroom, especially with the laws created today. The license from your state doesn’t verify your commitment, your commitment to your wife before God does and vice versa does. We don’t need to complicate God’s word. Keep in mind though, women will hate this answer because deep down inside they understand the benefits of involving the government for themselves. The biggest red flags to me would be a woman forcing governmental marriage and not signing a prenup. She loves you so much that money doesn’t matter right? So what’s the worry? On the other hand a man no getting a prenup, just means that the government has one in place benefiting the woman, BY DEFAULT.

[@ziionn6653]

@@vadinandez follow the law of the land? Why twist what was said it was a parable Jesus used to answer a question about tax, and he stated look at the face at the back of the coin, hence give due to the owner of the currency. It never once said you must abide by government intervention and laws in regards to marriage, only tax similar to how it mentioned giving no more than 10% of yearly earnings to the church if you have the means otherwise it wasn't a sin to not contribute.

[@nostalkingzone]

@@andrewvangils3112 A "prenup"? 🤔 It sounds like _somebody_ (maybe someone you know?) got burned....

[@temitopeok9883]

This was really helpful, thanks Mike. Praying for you and family. I’ve got questions regarding vows, are marriage vows biblical?, where does this tradition come from? I’ve been thinking about this especially as my church have been studying the sermon on the mount, and this question was raised from Matthew 5 vs 33-37 on Oaths- Are making promises and vows valid in marriages or are we doing this in the right way? Thanks for diligently seeking truth in God 🙏🙌

[@hardleyvries2146]

Thanks for answering some very important questions here that I have had and wondered for a long time

[@flora20]

@mike winger Personally I much prefer a longer video if it’s an actual teaching as I like to get stuck into it, however these short videos can be good as a follow up Q&A because I think they’d be good for future reference. Hope you’re ok Mike keeping you and your family in my prayers x

[@ekeneemenike4881]

I love the way you back everything with scripture. "Study to show yourself approved"😁😁

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

Yes, with scripture but, he is studing the scripture without even knowing he has this catholic glasses.

[@theautisticpage]

Anyone can take any subject and use scripture to support it.

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

@@theautisticpage yes, you're right

[@ajlouviere202]

@@theautisticpage the divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. But when Jesus died on the cross, he caused the Jews to be dead to the law of Moses so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the law of Moses over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the whole law is no longer possible for those in Israel and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned by the unbeliever, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving permission to remarry do not understand the command, that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, is that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh in marriage puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel, because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans and Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.

[@nickwadson5731]

@@ajlouviere202 This false supposition (indissoluble marriage) is often imposed on the text because the standard for marriage is lifelong. There is an inherent principle in marriage to cleave (Matthew 19:5) unto each the other till death. But absolutely no one in scripture makes the argument that divorce does not dissolve the marriage. No one in either Old or New Testament has ever been told that they are “still married in God’s eyes.” Conversely the termination of the marriage is absolutely necessary in order for the manner of adultery to occur to which Jesus describes. “indissoluble marriage” is a false supposition imposed on scripture by those who can not explain how adultery can follow a terminated marriage. They have a fixed definition for adultery that will not allow them to comprehend that Jesus revealed that adultery can happen in different ways. In other words adultery does not exclusively result from infidelity within marriage as believed by the Pharisees and many today. If one has the integrity to acknowledge they have advocated false suppositions they can begin to form biblical limits for understanding this oft misunderstood issue. Reading Moses, Jesus and Paul congruously will produce limits for instructing others properly about divorce and remarriage.

[@worldchanger7197]

Thank you bro Mike for the great explanation on the "stay together". This is a serious issue faced by many in our socialites today. However, you did not address the spiritual implication/consequences of the "stay together" because it is considered a fornication in the biblical view. This will help draw the line for anyone thinking of taking that path in the future. Hope you can address that in the next video. God bless you!!

[@HaLo_Zz]

First time to be on Mike’s chat, and glad I am able to attend. :)

[@hankdutton8896]

Be encouraged. Thanks you again Mike. Keep up the great work. Some people are not able to receive a long video, some will receive a shorter version. Later they may receive the longer one. Biblical truth videos can be short or long, the Lord will use every medium to reach them I have found. Something, something short attention spans.

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

If ceremony or papers are required to become husband and wife, so, how do you explain this text: When you go forth to war against your enemies, and the LORD your God has delivered them into your hands, and you have taken them captive, And see among the captives a beautiful woman, and have a desire to her, that you would have her to your wife; Then you shall bring her home to your house, and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails; And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in your house, and mourn her father and her mother a full month: and after that you shall go in to her, and be her husband, and she shall be your wife. Deuteronomy 21: 10-13 ?????

[@Nicole-jx5qe]

Hi Mike, thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question, I’m so very grateful! My partner is a non believer but understands that my faith is important to me so he is willing to do whatever to make our union a biblical marriage ❤️ God bless you Mike, your ministry is a huge blessing in my life 😊

[@igwtbran9943]

Umm huh?

[@matthewfunk6658]

Nicole, marrying an unbeliever would be an unbiblical marriage. In no way was Pastor Mike endorsing you marry an unbeliever, that would contradict his other plain teaching of the scriptures on biblical marriage.

[@michaeljennings8221]

@@matthewfunk6658 well that escalated quickly 😂😂

[@rainerweishaupl1103]

God forbids you to marry an unbeliever. That is, if you are born-again! If not, then let it fly.

[@DrDoerk]

Don't marry him..... I'm sorry, but you shouldn't. God commands us to be equally yoked with our spouse. Your BF is not equally yoked, he is a non believer. I obviously don't know your whole story, but I'd get help from a strong believer that knows you. Itll be hard, but you should breakup with this guy.

[@SteveChavis]

Love this format, keep it up!

[@nataliarivera1073]

Great topic, thanks for bringing it up!

[@kennethmacgregor6427]

Great video. I was taught 35 years ago by a person who claimed sex and marriage were the same. They were wrong about this and many other issues. Your video helped me better understand this subject.

[@Ecool27]

Ouuuu this is what I always wanted to know

[@JesusProtects]

He's wrong tho. Genesis clearly teaches this, he is adding up to the text.

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

@@JesusProtects yes he is wrong. Catholicism created these wrong ideas about marriage

[@christopherleewilliams33]

Well said and clearly explained Mike. Thank you!

[@dayenayuba7580]

So much eye opening God bless you bro

[@alanbutler7712]

In the USA, each state may also have laws on their books that will specify at what point you are married. For instance, in Texas your marriage can be legally binding by stating you are married in public, like when checking into a motel/hotel, or introducing each other to friends. There are also common law marriages which are based on living together for a certain length of time, (7 years or 13 years, etc...). But IMO, this does not replace the clear statement of commitment to each other that you would have by getting a marriage license, etc. Well done on the presentation Mike!!

[@paulcosta8297]

That's all manmade BS and completely irrelevant to this video. The ""government"" calls two men ""married"".

[@brian.jrmontoya3227]

@@paulcosta8297 can’t two men be married?

[@semi2893]

@@brian.jrmontoya3227 Nope.

[@christophersmith8014]

The ceremony is mostly meant for social accountability to help you honor the covenant when things get hard. It could be said that you aren't really married as long as divorce is an option, because you only really know what it means to be married when the only way to leave the relationship is to die. This would also mean that as long as two people share that commitment to one another they don't need a ceremony to be married. But if they are avoiding the ceremony, they probably aren't committed.

[@andyb619]

The uttering of the covenant publically is the point of the ceremony and the basis for the marriage (Malachi 2:14). One flesh is what it becomes once inaugurated by intimacy.

[@BB25_25]

“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth,..” Genesis‬ ‭1‬:‭28‬ ‭KJV‬‬ - marriage is God’s blessing, his first covenant

[@jwm66]

Excellent Teaching.

[@cynthiagarcia5705]

So needed this ! Thank you for your videos 🙌💕

[@derrickwallace3166]

Mike, thank you for the attention you’ve given to this topic. It has been a blessing. Question: what do you understand about the situation of marrying someone who is not a virgin, but has fornicated with one or more people? Thank you.

[@sharlimiller7229]

Repentance is the answer, I think. God forgives!

[@kcmuanpuia]

You missed one more thing.... Marriage has legal implications. It has something to do whatever legal environment you are in, there has to be a valid consent. Jesus also discussed with the Jews about divorce and Moses' law.

[@therichchronicles1249]

After only watching one video, im subscribed, great video

[@swithinegwuchim481]

Great teaching!

[@angiegarcia1635]

I BELIEVE THATS CALLED fornication😳

[@HezekiahDomowski]

If sex creates a marriage, you can also hold the view that sex (adultery) ends a marriage. On this view, adultery would not be polygamy like you say. Adultery would end the first marriage and start a new one.

[@AllanRochez]

This makes sooooooo much more sense to me it’s the ceremonial aspect that I was lacking understanding on thanks for this video Pastor Mike God bless you amen

[@evangelistkimpatrik]

This was very interesting. I have been thinking about this 🤔

[@Antnj81]

I respectfully disagree with you. Here's the reasons why: 1. For one, when talking about marriage as we know it today, it involves making vows to your partner. The Bible forbids us to make vows and tells us to let our yes be yes and our no be no. So how exactly would you reconcile that when there is no exception to that verse given? 2. The Lord told Adam and his children to go and be fruitful. There was no mention of making sure that they were married first. In fact, Adam and Eve never had a wedding. There was no mention of taking vows or making it a public declaration. There was no mention of ceremony. That's because sex is the Declaration of marriage. If I had to guess, The Institute of marriage, as we know it today, likely originally derived from the Catholic Church. It's also likely that it began with kings, who needed to make public display of whomever the new Queen would be, would have marriage ceremonies before the people as a historical marker, so the people would know that the queen was official. I'm sure from there, other people decided to emulate the tradition and eventually became intertwined with government as well. 3. Sex with multiple partners would not constitute polygamy. Actually, sex with multiple partners would constitute adultery, as you would technically be cheating on the first person you had sex with. The example you gave about the teenagers is superfluous because we shouldn't weigh our current standards against the original standards. Although if we did, history does say that people were married a lot younger than today, possibly even as teenagers. But I digress. 4. If the Bible did intend on us having a marriage ceremony before consummating, then why is it that in all the stories that we read about throughout the bible, we never once ever read about someone's wedding ceremony? Yes we read about the one time where Jesus turned water into wine at a reception, but it is important to note that in Jewish tradition, the husband and wife sneak away during the reception to consummate and then when they are done everyone celebrates. The reason for that? It's because sex is the binding agreement before the Lord for marriage. Lastly, I can see why it is probably better to get married through the traditional American way, since it does include a sense of security in case things don't work out, but then again divorce is not part of the plan when discussed in the bible. In fact, the only grounds for divorce is infidelity. Why is that? Well it's because sex is the initial agreement of that sort of Union before the eyes of the Lord. So, having sex with someone else, AKA adultery, would negate that agreement. I think when it comes down to it, the Lord intended us to hold ourselves to a higher standard. Many people don't commit adultery because of the legal ramifications and how it'll affect their life financially or even with their children, but at the heart of it, our bond should be held intact through self-control, love, and faith. Not a marriage certificate. Not the fear of getting caught and losing it all. We really shouldn't try to mince what the Bible is saying because of our contemporary standards. It's a slippery slope and if we start doing that with marriage, then we can start doing that with everything. The Bible doesn't change with the status quo or social evolution.

[@NotOneTalentServant]

Its all about commitment, If you purpose in YOUR HEART that she/he is your wife/husband, thats the divine union, everything in Christian life is all about BELIEVING WITH YOUR HEART , because your heart is laying open before the Lord, and speaking with your MOUTH(normally in front of 2 or 3 witnesses) to come to pass, to seal it, I believe (nothing is impossible for those who believe) that you dont have to wait to get OFFICIAL marriage, because God is not going to use human system to apply His divine will, but as always test it bring it to the Lord in prayer and hold fast to that which is good, may the Lord bless you all.

[@DoYouKnowGod]

Be not just a believer but also a doer. Just believing will never be enough. Be a doer of the word as you believe

[@unamordiezdose5579]

WRONG! What you are describing is called an ENGAGEMENT! 😡 Now listen close. An Engagement carries All Of The Legal Weight Of The Marriage WITHOUT SEXUAL INTIMACY. That's the whole purpose of a Honeymoon! The sexual aspect of the marriage comes AFTER a public ceremony. Where God, the government, churchs, families, friends, employers, everyone is being made aware of and invited to celebrate the union of the couple to each other And To God. For a cord of three strands is not easily broken. THEN and only after this Holy union of God, man, and woman does sex no longer become the sin of fornication according to scripture and would now of course be okay. To anyone considering having sex, would you marry that person? If you do consider the person worth marrying then ask them! I urge you to get premarital counseling from a teacher of God's word who lives a life you both respect. Don't rush this part do homework projects that have to be discussed in the next session where y'all have studied all the different things God has to say about it in His Word, where y'all have had to observe different aspects of yourself and your partner, where you think, learn, meditate about and on many difficult questions about situations which could arise in your hearts or in the marriage. About each other's beliefs on important subjects that could be make it or break it issues; so they don't "break it" during the marriage. Do you consider the person as a whole worth seeking a way to work out those issues before getting married versus trying to work through them until you have a failed marriage. Which by the way does not equate a divorce. a failed marriage could be falling out of love and feeling Alone Together till death do you part, that's the best one too they get worse. Y'all could argue fuss and stress each other out till death do you part. The worst ones speed up the, till death do you part, part you know what I mean? FAILED. I say Make Honeymoons Great Again! There's a myriad of reasons to wait for sex until marriage but of all of them I really romanticize this idea of saving up for and setting up a vacation to begin the moment the ceremony is complete! Ideally if people are waiting till marriage everyone would therefore be a virgin upon entering marriage. So everyone has the awesome experience of it being the best sex they've ever had! And even if they're not so good at it the first time, they have this awesome freak boot camp they set up for the next week or two to drink daiquiris and eat dessert off of each other till they learn! And the rest of their lives to practice. Even if they never get it right, they'll sure have a lot of fun trying! The anticipation from the combined waiting and the expectation is so crazy that couples don't even stay for the entire reception but instead are like, "Sorry everyone, but we've been very patient for what seemed to be an eternity! So, y'all enjoy the music the food and the drinks. We love y'all, and thank you for coming. But it's on like Donkey Kong! We're outta here suckers! We're not about to be patient a second longer! Not than we have to be!" Anyway be blessed thanks for reading

[@MainframeSupertasker]

YOU NAILED IT. ONLINE ANSWERS ARE SO INSUFFICIENT

[@susuabc]

Terrific explanation !

[@pauldmckee]

May I say that if two come together before the throne and pledge to the Lord that they want to be married and than they join together I feel that is biblical marriage. If later they part then neither of them will be allowed to remarry unless there is a death involved. My opinion from reading God's word. What God has joined let no man separate. Man can not separate what God has joined.

[@malakiyahamari8448]

This is the truth according to scripture! ✅

[@Tatiana-cp1fc]

Yes, God even completely joined Adam and Eve before a sexual union. Sexual activity does not complete a God-joined union as some may falsely assert. Adam and Eve did not have a sexual relationship until God completely united them:

[@User_Happy35]

@@mcr5577 yes its marriage before God and the law. What they've done is lied on the marriage application.

[@fredarroyo7429]

So marriage is two unions?

[@malakiyahamari8448]

Tatiana according to your words, you said God didn't completely unite Adam and eve, then tell me when God completely untie l unite them? (According to scripture)

[@JohnVandivier]

bless up bro keep preaching with integrity.

[@danielo3200]

Very educational. Was looking for a simple biblical explanation to take back to "reasoning" people who opts out the 'witnesses' and the commitment before men and God. Love when you break it down and and explain so people can understand and take a stand for the values of God. Thank you Mike🙂

[@taylorthetunafish5737]

Why do you find false and misinformation to be educational? Why does your god command you to murder people who aren't like you? Why is there nothing reasonable in the bible?

[@talindakelley189]

I’ve often wondered, if two people were married and got divorced but never actually split apart and continued to live together as they were still married, In God’s eyes are they still married or not?

[@ziionn6653]

Yes unless one of them commits adultery that is the only reason to divorce

[@kayoarawo6116]

Matthew 19:9

[@Sunshine-rc7ow]

I got this very question at some point in my life...at what point of the relationship between a man and a woman is biblically considered as marriage...

[@snippletrap]

I believe it is when the community or some external authority recognizes and bears witness to the commitment the husband and wife have made to each other. Marriage is exclusive, and exclusivity cannot be honored if no one knows that the couple is "spoken for".

[@WeWantYouToStay]

When a ceremonial commitment has been made in public, and then the marriage is consummated. That is when I would say

[@paulcosta8297]

@@WeWantYouToStay You like making up arbitrary definitions out of thin air which have zero Biblical support, and in fact contradict the Bible?

[@paulcosta8297]

@@snippletrap According to your absurd belief marriage has changed since Adam and Eve. According to your absurd belief man arbitrates sin by banning marriage. According to your absurd belief the same Government that considers two men married determines what God thinks is sin. According to your absurd belief a man and woman are incapable of getting married by themselves but must hope man can marry them, violating the Bible's words, "what GOD has joined together". Insane.

[@snippletrap]

​@@paulcosta8297 My definition fits Adam and Eve just fine. Their marriage was recognized by a third party -- God. Also I didn't say anything about the government.

[@flakamulata]

I have spent YEARS looking for this exact answer. I searched for it in the video you mentioned about marriage but didn't find it, i suppose i didn't finish it. But this finallyyyy answered my decade long quesiton. Thank youu!! My main question which you answered, is basically: "what is even considered marriage?" I just couldn't get a definitive answer from anyone. "But why tho", i always asked myself. Now i understand why it needs to be a "public" thing and why ceremonies are usually the way to go. Also, it's a very intentional, conscious commitment to enter a "convenant". I suppose it's like being intentional with your salvation- you are conscious of your decision to give your life to the Lord and enter his covenant, which is for eternity. Thank you again.

[@leedobson30]

Excellent and concise well done..

[@KatesFree]

I can't believe anyone would think this! You are not supposed to be sexual with anyone until You are married. Sex before marriage (including living together which is NOT marriage) is ADULTERY.

[@Liminalplace1]

You didn't deal with concubines..was there a ceremony with that? Never were concubines or the the men who had them condemned for adultery nor fornication...so something outside of what you argue is happening. I remember the great apologist the late Norman Geisler had the idea that sex created a marriage in his book on " Ethics: an alternative view".. but he later changed that view but a new edition of that chapter wasn't made. David Instone Brewer, scholar, makes the point that the Bible doesn't define marriage because what constituted marriage was widely known throughout the wider Near Eastern ancient world.

[@MrHighlander400]

Exactly, look at Solomon..1 Kings 11...Wives she probably used differently in Hebrew...Concubines were taken care of in a harem...They were there for the King.

[@nathangriffith2891]

VERY VERY SMART MAN!!! Very educational!

[@Standing_on_the_word]

Excellent video bro.

[@GovtSlave]

A state marriage license is a contract from the pit of hell.

[@mariawollin6300]

Ok this comment is ancient but in case you're still around... what? Why? And are you saying Christians shouldn't get legally married? Are you just taking issue with the fact that a state license doesn't say enough, and you need a religious ceremony as well to emphasize the real nature of marriage and all that?

[@GovtSlave]

@@mariawollin6300 A marriage license is a contract with the state and makes the state a 3rd party in every marriage. A state marriage license is an effective waiver of all your God given rights should you decide you want out of that contract. State proxies in the form of family courts can deprive you of your children, your past & future assets, your liberty, and your ability to live your life as you choose. It is a contract from hell.

[@mariawollin6300]

@@GovtSlave Gotcha. Well, that's not very insightful or accurate in my opinion. (Maybe there's more to it, but so far it's quite vague.) The state isn't a third party in marriage, there's two parties and the state just kind of authorizes it. Now, I don't care if they recognize my marriage or not. I care what God and my family and community think. But I don't see any reason not to make it official. It's certainly not any more binding than my vows before God-in fact, it's way looser. They'd let me divorce for reasons I never could according to scripture and conscience. As for "depriving me" of various things in case of divorce, I mean... ok, sure, technically. But what they're really doing is help arbitrate disputes between former spouses and current co-parents. If two ex marrieds can't amicably figure out who gets what (and/or the kids) then somebody's got to step in. My marriage before God is what it is, and it stands and is neither bolstered nor diminished by the legal contract. But the legal contract does several good things: it helps show the world that my husband and I are serious and committed to this relationship; it helps him travel with me to my home country; smooths over many other interactions with government; gives us rights and privileges; and it shows the respect my husband and I have for governing authorities, a healthy respect that all Christians should have.

[@paulcosta8297]

@@mariawollin6300 I rebuke your incorrect Romans 13 interpretation and evil "respect" for out satanic, corrupt, illegitimate "authorities".

[@jonycruz2430]

Sex makes you one flesh with someone. That is why Paul warned about going about with your freedoms and sleeping with a harlot. All in 1 Cor 6-7

[@blazinge4207]

I really needed this video today. Thank you.

[@Alanpless]

My friend literally last week or so asked me about this and I wanna hear what you have to say Mr. Expositor Winger!! Praise God

[@Adizzle-pj7vb]

I’ve arrived at the same conclusions regarding everything besides the idea that some sort of public declaration is necessary. The argument that God officiated Adam and Eve’s “wedding” just really stretches the definition of a wedding ceremony so as to make it arbitrary and almost all-encompassing. If the “types” of wedding ceremonies differ so dramatically from a traditional modern western wedding to sitting in a garden with God and your spouse, then it’s difficult or even impossible to identify what *really* constitutes a legitimate ceremony (not to mention the vast differences in ceremonies between cultures). Even if we were to assume that the “wedding” between Adam and Eve was an example of a “wedding ceremony,” then you could just as easily invite God to officiate your own private garden wedding as well. The other examples of ceremonies you gave similarly fall apart when examined critically. In scripture, we see only one quintessential feature of marriage: covenant. That is the one and only necessary ingredient to a valid marriage. It must involve a legitimate life long commitment and the understanding that an oath has been taken. That’s not to say that a public declaration can’t be beneficial. On the contrary, I think that wedding ceremonies can be a wonderful thing. But they are no more a necessary feature of marriage than baptism is a necessary feature of salvation.

[@somebicycle6684]

I completely agree! Lifelong commitment between and man and a woman is the only ingredient needed for a biblical marriage.

[@marktester5799]

I think the Adam and Eve relationship is not something we should use to determine God's intention for us. God expressly created Eve for Adam using some piece of Adam. It is a unique situation that doesn't apply to anyone else in history.

[@haruhianderson4019]

The difference is made very clear by the literal, physical, actual presence of God at the ceremony of Adam and Eve, which is different from the perception or claim of having “invited” God to the wedding, which is still no claim of His accepting that invitation or His approval. Then there begs the question what you mean by ‘modern wedding ceremony’ if you mean the big dress and giant party and such then of course not but that has nothing to do with actual marriage and what is being claimed here. No one is claiming you must have a modern wedding ceremony to be married, indeed if a couple did have a modern wedding ceremony but did not get legally registered as married no one would consider them married. And that is what is being said and that is what the marriage of Adam and Eve signifies, Adam made a claim in perpetuity/severity (with some appeal to mortality in the example of his flesh) in public before the only governing figure/authority in existence at the time, God himself, who also serves as the family of the bride and the groom being that he created them. He received approval from this authority to do so and his claim was substantiated and affirmed by the following verse which is what confirms the above as an actual *marriage* ceremony if not a wedding ceremony. One flesh is not a euphemism for sex as that is typically simply referred to as ‘know’ one another, one flesh is a reference to property and lives which at that time would have been limited to Adam’s body and Adam’s dwelling. This claim is neither made nor substantiated by fornication which gives one only the experience or knowledge of ones flesh, not the claim or right to it. So the public “declaration” is necessary hut not in the capacity of giant ceremony which isn’t even the claim being made; the public “declaration” is the approval of the authority in such a way that it is made public knowledge; which in this day and age would be a marriage license in the public domain. Marriage, a claim on an individual approved by the governing authority with proof of witness (the public factor) that then gives that person actual, legal, physical, and spiritual right over another/over each other is entirely dissimilar to fornication and declarations of love (which, as an argument made by fornicators, it is interesting to note is not at all what Adam does in the garden. On the contrary, instead of making a declaration of love or *intention* or emotion (as is the case with fornicators trying to legitimize their sin and lack of commit with this verse) he makes an appeal to authority with a declaration of claim, a fact which serves to further support and prove that the marriage of Adam and Eve was an actual marriage, done with ceremony and approval of authority with as much legalism (for that time) as the modern method of doing so. Fornication is done in secret, in private, with no appeal to authority and no claim or right to property as can be observed or proven by outside authorities/the public and serves to no effect and is in no way a covenant which borderlines or literally is a contract.

[@Adizzle-pj7vb]

@@marktester5799 Jesus himself uses Adam and Eve’s relationship as a model when talking about the prohibition of divorce. “In the beginning, it was not so.”

[@Adizzle-pj7vb]

@@haruhianderson4019 No offense intended, but I think you’re blatantly reading modern norms *into* the Bible rather than using the Bible to guide our concepts of marriage. It’s particularly egregious to equate modern government to God in the garden. It’s very apparent to me that state recognition of a marriage is in no way necessary. If the state told you that you couldn’t get married, suddenly that means you aren’t married in the eyes of God? No, the only ingredients to marriage are a man, a woman, God, and a vow.

[@oranewebley938]

Deuteronomy 21:10-13 there were no ceremony ...ceremony is held base on tradition and affordability not by requirements ...ok you right that just sex doesn't make an actual marriage without the consent of both parties or the parents ...say that Adam and Eve had a ceremony thats reaching saying Isaac and Rebecka had a ceremony also reaching the woman at the well now think about it do you think Jesus was saying that she had 5 different cerenomy ? Take the word of God for what it says do not try to be wise in your own opinion the foolishness of God is wiser than man ...God bless you all

[@RedPillOfTheBible]

You right

[@driekiesieberhagen2562]

Great teaching! Thnx brother....Truth!

[@precedentspdr2647]

Love the short video format