If You've Ever Been Rejected - Then Watch This... | Russell Brand

[@karenjeankeeler2909]

Mom taught me resilience young. "If they're treating you unkindly, they aren't your friend." Years later I learned healthy minded people do not tear others down but lift them up.

[@forreal245]

I agree with mom.

[@hitchhiker8798]

Great mom

[@ianto8823]

Great advice but you may find in life there are people who deserve to be torn down.

[@karenjeankeeler2909]

@@ianto8823 🤷🏼‍♀️ They are likely already operating at a frequently below you. Best to let them wallow in their own misery.

[@ianto8823]

@@karenjeankeeler2909 But what if they are decision makers, leaders or people trying to tear you down. Sooner later you will be brought down to their level.

[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

*A rejection is only a step closer to your true purpose or to the person that's meant to be in your life.*

[@randomelvis3359]

Person, people, environment....true words friend 👍🙏🏻

[@Buttjournalist]

fuk yeah dude

[@schopenhauerassplower4223]

The Jaxx Channel - Self-Growth Health Wellness Not true at all, and in the words of Louis CK: “stop saying it because it’s mean to people who don’t find anyone”

[@naraposthumus8478]

I agree. Forces push people together or separate them. Rejection hurts bad. Then you find another. Only 100 years to live though?😏❤

[@GrowingDownUnder]

so that means i'm supposed to be alone because i'm getting closer to being alone? lmao

[@teacherfromthejungles6671]

You look like a perfect stranger in some bar. Always knowing what to say to a lost soul.

[@teacherfromthejungles6671]

@Omar Reid lol

[@metastract]

Such a great description.

[@georgekurgansky5986]

Except he probably has better things to do than hang out in bars every day looking for lost souls lol..

[@teacherfromthejungles6671]

@@georgekurgansky5986 except you are so fun at parties.

[@jamesbennett5189]

That might be the best comment i have witnessed. Beautiful. You are that stranger id buy you a beer

[@treeseer1573]

This always helps me “ The version of me you created in your mind is not my responsibility “

[@dp_saveslives24]

This is a powerful thing to say...I once had a very perceptive fiancee who said this..."Do you love me or the idea of me?" This basically means that we can idealise the person we would like to be with, rather than seeing the flaws and the reality of the person in front of us. It is important to be clear and present enough to accept we are all broken to some degree. Acceptance is in realising that we need to love whats in front of us, and not what we would like someone to be. We cannot expect more of someone than they can give. Their maximum ability to give starts at the sum of their flaws. Also we have to remember that to judge someone is to ignore our own flaws, which is a fundamental and costly oversight. I guess the answer is in realising that we have to feel comfortable with the person in front of us and not the fantasy we create for ourselves. The more we focus on the reality, the more we align with our ideals.

[@thenateyoulove]

wow that's beautiful

[@malcolmnicoll1165]

So true. Every word.

[@NB-lx6gz]

Wow

[@daisyviluck7932]

@@dp_saveslives24did you wind up getting married?

[@jockmaraisasmr5700]

I’ve just been rejected by someone I really liked who appeared to like me as well and I am living in a fog now, just trying to get over it.

[@jessiefrye3045]

Your clarity will return . It takes a minute. Don't force yourself to just get over it, because there is no such thing. It takes a little time to heal.

[@jockmaraisasmr5700]

Jessie Frye thank you. There’s a sense of feeling dumb for caring so much when it was never exclusive or official, but it almost makes it hurt more.

[@mialove8709]

Sounds like you need a love reading for the mental clarity

[@jockmaraisasmr5700]

Mia Love probably

[@andreialopes386]

same here, it's so sad

[@Sam-ml5wt]

“Rejection is redirection, divine protection”

[@catubefun]

@MorbidManMusic do you not get it? It means who or what we were rejected by is a way God can steer us towards the life He has planned for us. It helps us grow into the person we were meant and created to be as opposed to what we thought we needed to be and who we needed to be with.

[@guychi-chifly950]

I like that, very nice

[@AidenCassaroArt]

MorbidManMusic I think it’s called a phrase

[@monkeyrevolution1964]

BULLSHIT

[@mgsBicycleO9]

Thats good! Sometimes you're not meant to be with the people you're trying to get with. The universe (or god if you like that better) works in ways that cannot be calculated and predicted by our little minds i believe. Not to say we are powerless, just that it's important see the context in which we humans exist and that we often can't see the bigger picture of all the so called "bad" things that happen to us. You never know what new opportunities are opening up for us thanks to the rejection we experienced!

[@Kuutamo73]

I choose to reject those who reject me. I simply eliminate them from my life, I don't waste my time on this kind of ppl anymore and, most important, I don't reject myself anymore

[@tranquillo2741]

Amen brotha (or sista). Better to move on and connect with the people you're meant to connect with. Not everyone will love and accept us and connect with us in a special way.

[@martinhopaour5744]

Hell yea brother!

[@thomasweeks7992]

I have been doing just that for about 10 years and it has worked out great for me.

[@Notoriousnipple]

How do you do this? I have complete resentment because it’s happens a lot to me. At first they are so different and then all the sudden they want nothing to do with me and I’m alone again. I don’t even show insecurities or awkwardness I just don’t understand

[@chairgang5206]

If you were rejected, fine. I have been rejected many times, but I have learned that rejection doesn't have to ruin a good friendship.

[@gamingNFTs]

I don't think I've ever heard another human being so eloquently and efficiently communicate his ideas with such a well-versed and articulate vocabulary.

[@theresachung703]

So true

[@LadywatchingByrd]

It's amazing to listen to Russell speak. He is a fantastic comminicator.

[@MrBrindleStyle]

lol

[@keener1137]

He's truly brilliant.

[@6789uiop]

since finding this channel I've come to appreciate Russell Brand as more than just a delightful actor. we need more people like this, and speaking out.

[@rebeccayoungblood4136]

I was ghosted by a new acquaintance and it was likely a blessing and a good redirection as that person had many troubles and was obviously too immature to have a conversation... it hurts one’s pride but this video helped me to continue to see it in a different light. Perception is everything.

[@coffintears5821]

Can relate to this

[@sagesage8939]

The new acquaintance was trying to protect your peace.

[@akazeek]

Yes! Can relate.

[@mattmetal8083]

getting over an obsession of somebody is without doubt the greatest challenge ive had in my life, and i feel it may never go away. The rejection was what made it so unbearable.

[@mattmetal8083]

@@dancing-queer deefo, know that feeling. the heart wants what it cant have. the irony of life truly can be cruel lol

[@mattmetal8083]

deffo*

[@mariejae]

Its taken me 5-6 weeks... I had good days and bad days. It's weird because when I have a bad day, the next day is better.

[@mattmetal8083]

@@mariejae i believe it never goes away completely. a shadow always remains inside, but maybe thats a gd thing in a way? a constant reminder of what mistakes not to make, and to remind us of our humanity, that we are capable of such strong emotional feelings.

[@mariejae]

@@mattmetal8083 Yes 💖 I def fucked up, and I must stop it and remember this crucial time 🙏🏽

[@Infinite_AM]

Thank you Russell I was ghosted after a six year relationship, ten years ago. it still hurts, it's shadow still lays across my life. Without answers or reasons why, I can only see it now as a "movement towards truth", you're right.

[@ltraina3353]

Daniel I’ve been ghosted a couple of times, but it happened within the first year. You are right, it is acutely painful, because there is seemingly no reason or answer to the question “why”. No closure. You are left with an open wound, and it’s so hard to get it to heal. I guess I’m lucky that both happened within the first year, I can’t imagine how awful that would be after 6 years! I’m so sorry that happened to you. Logically, I know that it says more about the person doing the ghosting, that they are the one in the wrong, but it really just doesn’t help ease that pain. I hope you are in a happier place in life now

[@Neurozumim]

The person is a strange coward to not give you closure after 6 years of relationship. Either they felt a lot of guilt because they knew the break was going to destroy you, or they feared you in some way. I'm going to say this: my longest relationship was 10 years, and it ended in full closure, with an extra friendship of 3 more years (that could have gone on, I ended it), but the reason I was given was simply "I don't desire you anymore". So, sometimes there is no real reason, some people just fall out of desire or love, and because there is no much logic to explain how that works, some people may feel it' pointless to try explaining it, as they cannot even explain it to themselves. But this was 10 years ago, you should move on eventually. If you are still having an obsession, this is a different issue. It's ok to want to enjoy life with people that like us too.

[@PATH2INSPIRATION]

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[@hnholdings7776]

MGTOW look it up

[@jaylee6769]

The worst is when it's the person closest to you. It may take another 5 years to get over it

[@antoinettefernandes8133]

Sometimes when you get rejected .. it says more about the person who rejected you..Sometimes actions speak way louder than words ..what breaks my heart normally opens my vision .. visa versa ..

[@pbillups34]

Ohhh, that's so well put! Yes. This.

[@spencer8440]

Antoinette Fernandes yeah rejection cuts deep but we pretend it doesn’t

[@naraposthumus8478]

True

[@forreal245]

I LIKE "OPENS MY VISION"...WISE COMMENT

[@Lindsweightloss]

Antoinette Fernandes i totally agree Antoinette ☺️

[@kayrose3384]

I'm dealing with rejec tion at the moment. My husband of 10 years is rejecting me for another woman. I'm so devastated that it's making me reconsider my entire life. I'm at rock bottom but that means the only way to go is up.

[@Hawkeye19821]

@ad izzle no thats not good advice haha. Please don't advise people again

[@martaolivia5213]

@@Hawkeye19821 for real 😂😂

[@carloskerrigan-mock5071]

❤❤❤

[@rahmasamir909]

Stay strong

[@cpm1584]

My head: I understand that rejection is divine intervention and an urge to redirection. My heart: this pain is unbearable, how will I move past this, why was I not good enough, please come back. Physically it feels as if my body is breaking from pain. I would almost do anything to make it go away.

[@xYamya]

I feel you. Completely feel you. I've been in this state for more than a month now. This constant shift between the logical mind and the emotional heart is so draining and exhausting. Hope you are doing somewhat better now 🌻

[@deathrager2404]

stay at home. the game is not for you.

[@outsidersongs2682]

Lots of compassion to you. I hope you have found your tribe now and are feeling safe and cared about again.

[@LadywatchingByrd]

I very much empathize. I have been in a fog for 3+ years since I got dumped Iike trash. I swear I can feel the pain of his loss and mental abuse in my bones some days. It does lessen with time, but damn. 😰

[@outsidersongs2682]

@@LadywatchingByrd it sounds like you were subjected to a great deal of injustice: treated like trash, dropped like trash x I have been there, and what keeps the pain present is the injustice of it: that they got away with this, that it is not fair, that the world does not know how horrible this person was. I actually never dated again after it happened to me. I am 50 now, never went on one more date since him, never been kissed by any person since him. And now I don't even care about him or what he does. In my head he no longer exists. He didn't care about me and he was not worth all the emotional energy I wasted on him. In reality he was just a very pathetic person. It's been many years. I still can't see myself ever dating or being in a relationship again and that's a sad thing really, but it's a block now. Writing songs (really bad songs lol) helped me purge the hurt, and I healed. Just needed to let it out. Talking to someone can help too. Don't let this person take anything more away from you x

[@danpeck1626]

"rejection can be regarded as a movement toward truth" - awesome man, thanks for that

[@dp_saveslives24]

Dan, there is a universal truth as I see it. Negative is always tendency towards the positive. Our behaviour can be construed as negative but we always react constructively to achieve a positive outcome. The best we can do is wear our heart on our sleeve and react honestly to the situation we are presented with. As long as we did what we did with good intentions, then we are learning what needs to be done in the future to make things right. The world is as hard as we make it for ourselves. If we try to achieve a personal standard, a code of conduct, we can see clearly when we achieve that standard and feel comfortable with it, or alternatively recognise when we fell short of those standards. This is a good thing. It means we can identify very quickly what needs to be changed. When we fool ourselves, or don't hold ourselves to a standard, we have no basis of comparison which hinders our self development.

[@KoShinMusicOfficial]

Lots to think about. When kindness is more important than being "cool" - we will see a shift in the world.

[@annipsy2185]

why not consider kindness "cool"? i think its pretty cool.

[@OGtrushalpatel]

@@annipsy2185agreed😊

[@hgzmatt]

No.. kindness alone is not a good goal. If you are focused on kindness alone honesty will suffer. None of these should be taken to the extreme.

[@OGtrushalpatel]

@@hgzmatt yeah that's true i guess

[@AntuDas]

@@hgzmatt yeah but people leave when you don't agree with their viewpoint

[@Rome274]

Being ignored or excluded is another form of rejection

[@naraposthumus8478]

Worst ever. Now there is cancel culture. 🙄 so unconnected true Russ. ❤

[@forreal245]

OF COURSE, JUST DIFFERENT WORDING, "SILENCE IS GOLDEN" IS GREATEST FORM OF REJECTION!

[@naraposthumus8478]

@@forreal245 aw yea. ❤

[@jcronin3155]

That's more being disrespected than rejected.

[@naraposthumus8478]

@@jcronin3155 yea I think it's our ego. When others know about your vulnerability. They may see a flaw in themselves and use it against you. Disrespect sucks. Necessary for growth though imo.

[@antibalas79]

Once a man was travelling in a forest and sees a cocoon moving he sees that the caterpillar was in that phase of transition into a butterfly. The butterfly was struggling and struggling nearly dying to break out of the cocoon. The man decided let me help this little creature as he witnessed the struggle for a good half hour. He opened up the cocoon helping the butterfly escape and the struggling and pain stopped. The butterfly was beautiful but unfortunately the wings were so weak it couldn’t fly and now was just a paralysed beauty. The point of this story is that we need pain, rejection and struggle for us to grow. The reason why the butterfly couldn’t fly was because the struggle of breaking out of the cocoon is what provides blood-flow to the butterflies’ wings. The man helped and opened up the cocoon with his hands with nothing but good intention yet this was a struggle that the butterfly HAD to go through. Even though at the time this may have not been the case. Everything that is thrown our way is to test if we can fly after this struggle and to give us blood flow to the wings of our minds! Every struggle comes to an end! Wish you all nothing but peace love and unity ❤️❤️❤️ I felt really inspired to comment. Love your work bro! You are a breath of fresh air in this online jungle. Peace,salaam!

[@forreal245]

You should have your own site. Great story. We do NEED pain in order to appreciate joy.

[@Russel_at_whatever]

Butterflies don't have blood.

[@KryptonKr]

Medhat they do pump some kind of blood to the wings

[@big-loss_9043]

.............im stealing your comment and spread the word

[@banhezalein]

God bless you, Tarin.

[@BlueRedGolden]

I've spent countless hours/ days recently questioning myself and getting in a bad way ..... listening to Russel has put me in a much better place. It's like someone else out there not only knows what I'm experiencing but has a voice to explain it......thank you

[@sweetangelbonnyta]

Rejection has made me love myself. 🌺

[@givemestrength8416]

Can you explain? Rejection is killing me from my past with girls rejecting me because my face isn’t attractive enough

[@snicker_38gaming]

Give me strength attractiveness has nothing to do with it. Even attractive people get rejected romantically

[@givemestrength8416]

snicker_38gaming It has everything to do With it I was even told I was rejected as. I wasn’t that good looking

[@snicker_38gaming]

Give me strength well, I know it’s not my looks for me. Because I clearly attract them sexually it’s just the men not ready for a woman like me to love them

[@givemestrength8416]

snicker_38gaming good for you

[@herbivorosaurus]

You knock it out of the park every day Russell. Needed this.

[@catherinelink428]

I agree, Russell is fabulous. He has helped me tremendously.

[@bty1471]

Rejection of the heart stings the most

[@julifunnygirl71]

Yes 😭

[@ciziazyke5662]

@@julifunnygirl71 im here bb😊😘🌊

[@bty1471]

@@browncatwithblurredbackgro2461 I disagree. I've gone through both. Rejection hurt the worst

[@xzonia1]

I've never felt like I belong anywhere. That's just life. Love your videos, Russell!

[@kaikk2776]

I do feel like I have no phylum sociestically.

[@JPMM316]

Same here , I'm a misfit for sure

[@leandajane8155]

Me2

[@jules.wins.]

That is so true.. go after the pain instead of trying to escape.. because there is freedom inside its lesson..

[@PowerMatrixAnime]

Rejection and pain are signs of progress.

[@thecelticcrone7927]

Power Matrix - Master The Dark Arts That is immensely incorrect. For some, especially Children, Rejection & Pain Are Extremely Detrimental, to the point of Stunting Emotional Growth.

[@walkingalive1093]

@Tara king Did you ever read a book that was a happy story from beginning to end? No you gotta wait till the end to know whether it's a happy or sad ending. Stick thru with life and see where it leads you, compared to the eternity of being dead, life is rather short, so use your one and only chance and see where it gets you. And go 100 percent mother effer, you only got one damn shot.

[@howmathematicianscreatemat9226]

Is this true for downsndrom people, learning disabled people, people in wheel chairs, women who don't feel beautiful, highly autsitic men and mentally retarded men?

[@egeegee7146]

Oh I agree. Very often when we are turning into our authentic self you watch the ones you have been with walk away as you no longer vibrate at their level. You will lose a lot as you grow but... you gain the new tribe the new life.

[@TakeOffYourBoots]

Don’t know how to spin this as advice, but I’ve found that an extended period of isolation can greatly orient you in your navigation of social frameworks. Even should that aforementioned period be painful and lonely, it gives you the space to understand precisely who you are alone. For me, (and I imagine many others as well) the general answer was that I was NOTHING while alone, and yet paradoxically, there is a power that comes from realizing that, and realizing that even in that state of purposelessness, it’s a position that is both survivable and reboundable. It’s a trade-off, if you will, of social connection for knowledge of your own inner strength. The cool part, though, is that knowledge stays with you once you re-enter society, such that you’re no longer bound by the impressions of others. Whereas in the past, relationships may have absorbed or dissolved your sense of self, now they only ever buoy you; and should that ballast ever leave, that indeterminable, hard kernel of self-ness will always remain.

[@savannah2053]

Wow-this comment is especially pertinent and powerful in the current moment. Thank you for sharing.

[@bill8383]

Nice! - When you realise that you are NOTHING , and without means, and no purpose anywhere to be seen - you find Yourself, to make your OWN .. and so the will to Create comes to BE > Or simply I AM , I Aim, And I shall Sea **** Quick! , Now Say She sells sea shells by the sea shore 10 times real quick if you still find Yourself , Still, unsure... And quick!, Quick. Don't let it slip .. I am high enough now that I probably don't no what I'm talking about .. For realss :D

[@mishimoo685]

I love my man Russ. I love watching him grow and evolve. His beard grows longer as his spiritual journey develops. I’m exploring rejection at the moment and I’m finding that the fear of it slowly dissolves when we get out of the way of the thoughts associated to the fear of rejection, and just let love in. Love becomes the focus

[@karifaller9284]

Well said...Russell would be so proud :)

[@jamesdunkerson2908]

"It is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a sick society."

[@socawarrior1263]

Amen

[@MM-uj4th]

.... It is lonely though ....it's like David versus Goliath, when everybody is so mean and smug and cruel and they all stick together.... and then you're just there alone by yourself 😐 so it's really hard to deal with, but I guess I would rather be alone, than be around mean nasty snotty smug arrogant people (!!!)

[@Andre-hm5vo]

@@MM-uj4th It sure feels like a lonely world, absolutely shouldn't be considering there is billions of people on the planet, just fucking madness really.

[@slumdogjay]

This makes a lot of sense. Having been through a marriage break up in 2018 which was instigated by my wife, I know full well how bad rejection can make you feel. I am happy to say I am through the other side now and am more at peace with myself than I have been for many years. I feel like the dark journey I was on for almost a year has made me a stronger person and helped me to find who I am again as an individual rather than having to be just half of something, if that makes any sense. I feel I am a better Father to my Daughter and am back in control of my life.

[@AB-fq4mr]

At least you got married, so consider yourself lucky. Some of us never had that honor and are past our prime already. Appreciate every drop of love you ever had, once you get older, no one will want you and there is no pair of shoes or type of makeup that you can buy that will make you feel wanted.

[@slumdogjay]

@@AB-fq4mr Being married isn’t always a positive thing. Sometimes it’s healthier to live independently of anyone. You won’t find happiness with someone else unless you are happy within yourself first. If you only want a partner to make you feel happy the relationship will end in tears. Distressing when it breaks down. That is absolute rubbish about not being able to find a partner when you are older. I know a few couples that didn’t hook up until they were in their 40’s and 50’s. In fact one couple I know met in their early 60’s. My ex and I should never have married. It was toxic and caused me years of depression and I am still on antidepressants because of the mental abuse. Personally I am much happier as a single man than I ever was in a relationship.

[@AB-fq4mr]

@@slumdogjay I don’t see a point in getting married if you’ll be childless. My opinion.

[@slumdogjay]

@@AB-fq4mr You also don’t have to be married to have children. To be honest I don’t really see the point of marriage these days. Unless it’s for religious reasons etc. I was 29 when I got married. Split when I was 43. I’m now 47 and have been single 4 years now. As I said in my original comment from a couple of years ago the time I have spent as a single man has really helped me discover who I am now and what actually makes me happy. I honestly have no desire to even get into another relationship. I value my own space and my own time too much now to compromise my happiness.

[@slumdogjay]

@@michaelsilverfoote6272 Hang in there. It does get easier. May seem a long way away at the moment but you will get there eventually. Try not to ruminate too much. Make plans for your future. Try to stay sociable. Best of luck to you.

[@ghoulage]

This year I think I've learned that I was emotionally rejected by my family as a young child and that's caused some major deep rooted trauma and now I'll chase for people's attention and then cut them off once I feel they're getting too close because I fear they'll reject me. I like the idea of trying to view the positive side of rejection and focus on that rather than reliving my traumas. It's difficult to reprogram ur brain especially when you have no one to support you through it. I'll give it a go. Try to take control of how I'm experiencing the situation.

[@forreal245]

I was also rejected as a child & did the same with men when I was younger. Use em, find someone "better" & break hearts. My motto was, "Toss him before he tosses me." As I grew older I realized my behavior was wrong & hurtful. Counseling helped.

[@ZahSoZen]

Hey ghoulon we share the same experience and I see you’ve just posted this 6 days ago. Please go and watch the videos from the personal development school they will REALLY help you in your healing,new r on the same path and I have been using KZbin as a recourse for months and it’s genuinely helping.

[@suzannegreenwood5155]

I feel for you and can relate so you're not alone. Also when you say "no support" that makes it double hard . May you find happiness within.

[@Ruylopez778]

Dr Gabor Mate talks about 'compassionate inquiry' - it might help. As regards support, yes it's important, but we also have to be our own support

[@izziemercury]

That sounds like fear of abandonment. There's a lot of information online about it. I'm suffering from the same thing, and only just starting to try and tackle it now.

[@Hughesless4086]

Russell's videos are genuinely helping my confidence, if you ever see this Russell, thank you👍🏻👍🏻

[@libbyperkins7099]

"rejection is seen as a neccessary part of spiritual evolution" - yes! thankyou x

[@LeScandal]

i feel Russell is speaking directly to me

[@ethorii]

It's easy and natural to feel like you're inferior when rejected. Oftentimes it's only that you're different than others or not ideal for some role, but will excel in other roles.

[@trudy_triad]

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[@sallyr4268]

Great topic Mr. Brand. What we think we want may actually not be good for us. Having been through so much, I now truly believe "Rejection IS MY PROTECTION!"

[@offgrid6369]

Like this woman I grew up with that became a model/artist thats way out of my league, we were two peas in a pod back in the 70s.I still try to text and get involved with.But she sends me packing Everytime.I suppose she is sparing me the heart ache and pain by rejection which makes her caring in a way.I see her on tv or online and it makes my heart feel just like when I was very young.Two have or not a broken heart ,both equally suck but have a bright side to experience.

[@davidkrynauw4314]

Beautiful Russell and perfect timing. Its often the toughest news that creates new beginnings.

[@Lindsweightloss]

Everyday Mindfulness totally true ☺️

[@jarijansma2207]

Exactly! Why create anything truly new if there wasn't a radical need for it to be different? In this way, I'm mordbidly grateful for my addiction

[@LisaGemini]

First, know who you are and love yourself. Be authentic, that's the best advice. Thank you, Russell, for sharing your own feelings about people rejecting us. We learn from our mistakes. And then we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and MOVE ON. Life is about saying goodbye to a lot of people. We are born alone and die alone. Once you accept that and realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, then it gets better. That and knowing that GOD LOVES YOU no matter what, no matter how many times you fail.

[@defyurselftv7554]

I’ve lived as an outcast and reject til now. Even a girl I fell in love with whom I thought understood me felt I was a burden and didn’t reciprocate. I’ve explored this pain deeply and have broken down mentally and need meds. I’ve found friends I can barely count on both hands with good hearts and my family went from fighting to supportive. There’s a silver lining, and though my experience with rejection makes me drive myself deeper into suffering, I still believe you’re right that being impartial and exploring it can guide our selves to authentic connections and experiences. I doubt I’ll ever be zen about being a reject, but understanding it rather than being ignorant is the fruitful path. I really appreciate your words on this matter.

[@kaylastawasz9230]

Awwww you are not a reject. I believe most people on the world are wounded and dysfunctional. A lot of what people do is due to their own issues, not you. It took me a long time to learn that. I pray you find your tribe and know what a valuable person you are!!!!

[@coffintears5821]

When it comes to rejection it's not necessarily have anything to do with you. But more with them. You can try your hardest to get someone to like you but at the end of the day all you have is yourself. Don't hurt yourself being in someone else's company who's actively trying to hurt you. It's not worth the hassle. Most people aren't worth my time now a days. And friends are few and far between

[@saraheatonwriter]

I will listen to this again and again when I'm feeling rejected to remind myself what I'm learning from those feelings and that I am worthy of feeling connected to another.

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life. He once helped me and can help you too. Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here, this was what really happened to me. he helped me attract (Jeremy) the guy I wanted in my life the most.

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

Whatsapp him

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

[phone]🙏🏾 🙏🏾

[@saraheatonwriter]

Andrea my exs name was Jeremy so you're welcome to.him thanks 😂

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

@@saraheatonwriter lol funny you. So have you messaged him now?

[@randomelvis3359]

We have to remember...what is it people reject about us?? We can feel awful when rejected....but remember...they may reject your boundaries, your intelligence challenges them too much, so they “trigger” and reject you as a person...this is covering , work, school, personal relationships and family....stay strong and believe in yourself...

[@randomelvis3359]

Tara king Absolutely 👍

[@cutzymccall7675]

Thank you!!!!

[@randomelvis3359]

CutZy McCall 😃👍

[@pfcsantiago8852]

No..I was a dick head.

[@randomelvis3359]

David jordan Maybe?....maybe not, that’s your call 👍 if rejected because you feel you were a dickhead...vow to never make the same mistake again 👍 best of luck ...

[@blessedmommy7349]

I feel so much agonizing pain from a lifetime of rejection. I've always had quite a resilient attitude. I've been through some things and came through it with severe PTSD, but NEVER have a self-pity kind of view. NOW though, the pain is getting to drown me and I feel suffocated by it. Thanks for the video. Many of us need this. Especially those of us that are empaths

[@CherylMuir]

“There are enough tribes and groups for us all to have a sense of belonging and meaningful connection. But so often we’re not connected to ourselves.”

[@deskreverse]

"from your wound can come salvation"

[@david-y1s]

Wow, that's a great ... thanks for sharing it

[@ifrazali3052]

Rumi is amazing

[@LadywatchingByrd]

Rumi🥰

[@leandajane8155]

Iv never felt iv belonged anywhere and very grateful for your vid Russel, thankyou

[@jacquibevilacqua6715]

you are so insightful and have a blessed talent for communicating so eloquently.... your journey is beautiful to watch - thank you Russell

[@miraclehands9040]

Truly Well said Jacqui..

[@grannybemx6729]

When we don't know who we are we vibrate inauthentic... thanks for bringing me some understanding. Expansion is awesome!

[@andrewlivett142]

I was with my wife for 16 years, I came home from work and a note was on the table, never see her again and she had decamped with another man. These videos are a blessing, many thanks for your sincerity Russell.

[@thepriesttarot4492]

Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him

[@thepriesttarot4492]

Wh@tsApp him for heIp.

[@thepriesttarot4492]

[phone] 🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷🇱🇷

[@chrissturk5539]

Feeling the pain, instead of running away.. zo easy yet profound, thank you🐺

[@andys3035]

This video has really helped me especially after dealing with rejection in relationships. The rejection has caused me to look at myself and make changes to be a better me. It has been a big part of rebuilding and remaking me mentally, physically and spiritually.

[@chuksbryt8935]

Andy S I know someone who can help you out. He helped me solve my relationship issues and now I'm happy together again.

[@andys3035]

@@chuksbryt8935 that's awesome. Who's that?

[@outsidersongs2682]

Very well said, wise words. I have an MSc in human cognitive evolution while also suffering severe social anxiety, decades of depression, agoraphobia, PTSD (diagnosed). I know social pain very well and am experiencing it now, as is my adult daughter, which is how I found you. I believe the social pain attached to rejection is the most painful of all pains to humans. I've been through childbirth, live with chronic pain (there is a connection between trauma, depression and chronic physical pain from hormonal changes in the brain and spine). Anyway, I like your suggestion of facing the pain, feeling it, and that there are enough tribes out there for everyone to be able to find theirs. It just takes time. This is a very serious topic not spoken about enough. The link between rejection, social pain and *hiding the word for trigger reasons* self-ending. Social media is brutal too, the terrible and cruel ways that people talk to each other, insults, making threats, laughing in people's faces, attacking celebrities... this is all adding to it. It's a hundred thousand tribes at war out there and for many it will be leaving stings of social pain, which then over stimulate the amygdala, changing its structure, which then starts the spiral into depression, makes us hyper-vigilant, makes our brain think we are in constant danger... brain hormones change... it's not good. Humans need to find their tribe:their people. If they have that and are there for each other it gives resilience, no matter what life throws at us, because we know we have our people and therefore we know we are still safe.

[@joshclyde9347]

23 and never even had a relationship so I feel thoroughly rejected. Good stuff though Russ.

[@richardkimble2627]

No Josh, you havnt been rejected yet. Dont worry when it happens it will hurt but it cant kill you. It'll make you stronger.

[@marykissel9273]

No worries

[@lemonmochi8669]

@@richardkimble2627 maybe he tried to have relationships and has been rejected

[@AiRbaL2000]

Same, 22 here, every attempt ends in failure. I won't give up, I have hope, but somedays it feels rough to even walk.

[@dynamitereborn99]

Same here. I'm 21, nearly 22. I almost did on a few occasions when I was like 19-20 but then lockdown happened. It fucked my life up that I'm back to square-one again.

[@FrancisTrach]

Russell killing it as usual! You inspire to post videos every single day and follow my Life Purpose and passions! Thank you! 🙏

[@TheNurseryChannel_1]

'We attract and cultivate relationships that aren't authentic' - well said

[@charichari]

Russell's voice is strangely very calming to listen to.

[@TommyTorit]

The pain forged me brother. This is wonderful xx

[@catherineo4151]

Because the light in you repels the darkness in them. Some people are dark because they are hurt. I know pain well, rejection, broken heart, but I’m not dark. I will not become dark & that’s the only power I have sometimes.

[@DRKJFOSTER]

This is my favorite video so far!! Pain is the touchstone to all spiritual growth and I love the way you talk about our pain and suffering as part of our personal cultivation. I am so grateful for my pain and what I have learned from it, and how it has led me to connect with my true and authentic self!! Thank you, Russell 💜💜💜

[@lioydwilliams1850]

DR. kJ FOSTER -FOSTERING RESILIEN,you look stunning

[@loca-cola9218]

Right now. I wish Russell Brand would let me cry on his shoulder. I am 44yrs old and it is always monumental for me to be rejected. It's very primal.

[@ra.h.8840]

Rejection doesn’t bother me anymore. It lead me finding and discovering great new turning points. Heartbreak haunted me for years till I found out that those who hurt me weren’t mature or good enough to see the truth. I was physically assaulted by a predator in 2017. I struggled with PSTD. No one was there. On the contrary, I was mocked for falling in the hands of a serial predator. I had to heal on my own. Gosh, eventually I’m feeling stronger than ever. In our Brave New World, rejection is part of our everyday life. Differences might create different ways of sharp rejection. So I take it as bad medicine. I take it, and don’t think about it! Rejection made me a better person and a better artist. Thanks Russell for this lovely channel! Cheers 🥂

[@raiseacoldone]

I can say that constant rejection made me resentful I have made up mind that I have come to acceptance no one is going to like me it is what it is.

[@LyricalWhip2012]

I really liked the point you made about maturing and seeing rejection in a different light over time. On some level, rejection still hurts me at times. But I've often looked back in retrospect and am glad I wasn't accepted into certain things or by certain people. Most times I was just rejected and it sucks. Being rejected for so many reasons and by so many people over time has forced me to define my code--standards and values I won't compromise on. I had no choice but to be introspective and know myself better. I find myself doing the rejecting now sometimes. I tend to absorb others' emotions and people rub off on me. People really don't want to know each other today. They just want your data. I crave solitude now.

[@TheMirrorAndTheWindow]

Rejection is nothing more than repeating a childhood pattern of feeling the emotion of not being good enough, unworthiness and perceived rejection by parents/caregivers. When it happens, it’s just the universe bringing up the same pattern in order for it to be cleared. So if it manifests for you, one way is to work on your subconscious feelings of low self-worth. Ignoring it or moving on by numbing is not understanding it for what it is- It’s actually a gift presented to us so that we deal with the underlying cause and never have it come up again.

[@tequilabumbum4373]

The Mirror And The Window YES YES YES. I grew up in an abusive household and while I always knew that I had the trauma that needed to be worked on, I kinda pushed it under the rug, hoping it will all be ok. Not untill my past two relationships ended, and triggered me in such a painful way, where I was feeling rejected, unworthy, not good enough... Its time to work on them, Im starting my therapy sessions next week, I cant wait. The only other concern that I have now is that Im turning thirty this year, and I feel afraid that Im starting the healing process too late... and that who knows when I will be able to have a healthy relationship and start a family...

[@kimbrauer209]

came across this today.... i needed to hear this... i experience a lot of rejection in my life... social and romantic.... and ... have been struggling for a while.... but... I choose me... I know my self worth... have been in hermit mode... connecting with my inner and spiritual self... and ... I feel... better.. thank you........

[@jeanne_margaret]

I’ve always believed this. I’ve felt it. Not knowing where you stand is unbearably. I’d take a full blown outward act of anger rather than feeling invisible.

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Jeannie K,you got a pretty smile

[@iconjourney4695]

"There can be no external connection without first achieving inner connection."

[@andrewb4470]

Amazing how in a few minutes, Russell imparts more wisdom than other guides do in hours of rambling. Thank you so much!

[@ts3858]

Absolutely...very intuitive and spot on...🙏

[@MakingLifeWork]

I love that you point to the need for us as a society to be more mindful of those who are rejected and feel hurt. I think that is so very important. I also love that you point out, on an individual level that experience of rejection can be a time for self-reflection and growth. That is a powerful truth. I am of the belief that even though yes feeling rejected is natural but it doesn't mean that we cannot or should not take a look at it from a logical standpoint to learn about ourselves. We often feel rejected due to our own perception of what took place. We put meaning which points to our already owned insecurities. If we all took responsibility for our own emotions, we would all grow and we would have a far healthier society as a whole.

[@mercury8023]

I sacrificed everything to build a business because i didn't want to care about money anymore. Now its running and growing on its own and its like coming out of a cloud and looking back at the path of destruction to my relationships and my identity. Your video is soothing. Ive decided to spend my time reading, playing classical guitar, meditating and going to the gym. Thanks for the content. Ive yet to find my tribe but the pain of rejection from the current ones, while painful will hopefully steer me toward my people.

[@chrisy6707]

That pivotal touchstone can be well sore...but what a relief and joy to get through to the other side!! Love your gratitude xxx

[@Gemelli2906]

I think most people just feed off of the pain they cause other people. They thrive on it.

[@naraposthumus8478]

I've met those types. Horrible.

[@gyandesilva1647]

some not most

[@AnnafromHungarylvNW]

That's not nearly most people. Most people cause pain to other people because they are feeding off of them. It's a huge difference.

[@NikkiDocherty74]

I want health, happiness and healing for all. I have dealt with covert attacks from an adult family member my whole life. They only use it to alienate others from me and to attempt to isolate me. In order to move on, you have to openly acknowledge it and push through particularly if that person has social manipulation techniques.

[@Nancy-yw1rr]

You're talking about narcissists. There are alot of them out there, but they don't represent most people.

[@audreyolives1642]

Loved mentors Russell! Such a simple concept but has changed my life so much, the people we look up to truly affect our lives deeply and i am so much more thoughtful about the process. You are such a wise man! Your videos are my therapy

[@cunningfoxx3678]

I just got rejected after I felt like I was getting the right signals.

[@anushkdua277]

bruhh same

[@donovan942]

same

[@shegoesla_lala]

Same

[@kristiannoel4866]

Same. It stings like nothing else, and nobody understnds that. :-(

[@darktheme8852]

Same here....

[@antoinettefernandes8133]

Hurting people hurt people ... know your worth ....

[@MA-yz7ef]

Rejection is an inherent the part of the redirection process. Big respect!

[@angierox6964]

I was rejected. He chose alcohol. He broke my heart. My heart is trying to heal.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Angie Lazare,your story touched my heart 💓

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Angie Lazare, you deserve better

[@mylastday1037]

Aw....well keep going.

[@Reservation4Dorsia]

"I'm not a scientist, you know this about me right?" 😂

[@Bixdreamy]

I'm shocked 😂

[@phataton8206]

He’s one of the best scientists out there IMO.

[@iREZARECTEM]

LOL

[@amandal4419]

Lmao. I caught that too. His poor momma had to deal w that smartmouth 🙏😊😊😊She's blessed 😉

[@AlexandraAttics222]

Brilliant video, I will always marvel at how you're able to perfectly form such meaningful sentences right off the bat. Well done, thanks for this, we appreciate it!

[@zengal5685]

Best and healthiest explanation ever on the topic!!!

[@stuartdryer1352]

More people need to see this. I'm glad I did.

[@ladyfaye8248]

'socially induced mental health issues'.......this, near the end of this video, really so well covers the malaise of our human society.

[@charlottebruce979]

I've been rejected romantically twice, both men were extremely similar. Both are text book narcissists. I looked to myself and concluded this was my doing I was attracting these men in. I'm not perfect but I know I did my best to love nurture and support them emotionally and financially. They both betrayed me. A rejection is so painful because it's a rejection of all you are. But having been through it, you have to learn that your validation does not come from people but yourself. I believe in a higher power it also comes from an unconditional love from your creator, only yourself and God can be relied on. Also turn to loving kind people who have strong ethics and smile. It takes time to love yourself and a core of steel but it's very possible. Keep striving and leave bad people alone.

[@mcpartridgeboy]

AHAHAHAH AHAHAHAHA AHAHAHAHAH TWICE FFS, you can tell your a woman lol, TWICE AHAHAHAH, good job your not a man, men get rejected way more than twice a day, lol TWICE AHAHAAH, sorry, its almost laughable how easy women have it, if only i was rejected twice lol, ive been rejected hundreds if not thisands of times, and if i want the chance of another date ill be rejected another few hundred times, if not thosands, lol TWICE, just a word of advice, if your on a forum with guys please dont complain about rejection because you will be laughed at, one rejection isnt so painful, but thosands is, for decade after decade getting rejected by all women for over 40 years until you never have a hope in hell of getting anyone, no gf EVER, no love, no human touch no hug no life ong partner no chance for children, nothing but cold hard rejection FOREVER, THATS PAINFUL, your 2 rejections lol, your soooo lucky your not a man, youd be fucked and in my place rn if you where !

[@TinglesNTarot]

Thank you, for the wisdom, insight, and most importantly, your sincerity and heart in delivering this message ❤️

[@lauriesolis1026]

I asked the universe what it wanted me to hear, and this was the first thing in my feed. 💜

[@carlitacabrera5845]

One of the best explanations I ve ever heard.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Carlita Cabrera, you look stunning 🌹 🌹 🌷 🌷🥀🌷🌺🌺 🥀🌹🌹 🌷🌷 🌹🌷 🌷

[@Its.nosferatu]

Ghosting is the most painful thing to go through 😔

[@johnD1998]

That's true. All my "friends" ghost me all the time and it hurts.

[@Seattlegal2]

Same. Ghosting guts me to my core. It's so painful.

[@AiRbaL2000]

same, it sucks, we'll find better people soon..

[@mast3rchief536]

Dude, try taking your crush to your friends house and when I say I wanna go she turns around and says "I'm gonna stay, you go if you want". Had to drive home by myself and just felt gut punched by rejection. Hope my friends did the right thing too or I'll feel betrayed also.

[@martaolivia5213]

@@johnD1998 these people arent your friends !:) you will meet the right people someday 😊

[@simplybiking]

I’m separating from my family in my 50’s! Thank God I have my teenage children, or I would have no family at all. It’s complicated being a human being these days. Love and support family, yet is they just want to use you as a doormat, you can always leave, as I have to do.

[@ahakangard]

It's quite the delight to take part in - and be part of - the journey you've been on over these years. It is really remarkable. You bring the topic of spirituality and inner growth into the public domain in a way that is both grounded and pragmatic. Looking forward to stay connected 🙏

[@redmotivation.]

Russell brand is the biggest motivation i learn alot from him,

[@chrisprou9216]

I appreciate your process of verbally taking the wound then shifting perspective in order to learn what shortcomings or "inauthentic chiming" caused it. In your willingness to talk to/with me/us you have created a community that allows us to transition from "the rejected one" to "the investigator in charge of finding the cause of wrong resonating". I helped a person that needed to be helped, and the story ended there.

[@meshachogan2473]

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days ❤❤❤

[@meshachogan2473]

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯

[@meshachogan2473]

Whtsaap him**

[@meshachogan2473]

+ 2 3 4 8 1 4 0 7 9 9 3 2 3;

[@samsamich2342]

REJECTED and BETRAYED? Listen to this: We feel weak and wounded, after rejection and betrayal, because we bleed with love and love is power - energy heart uses to pump. The sooner the bleeding is retained with time, the sooner heart heals its wounds, like a scratch on skin does, and we recover. It took me an adult as much as I am, 4 fking months, to come to my senses..... one thing is clear - rejection is probably the best that may happen to us - as painful as it may sound before you realize the truth in that. Don’t have casual sex, don’t do anything about it, u will be even more miserable and prolong the pain if you do. Instead feel the pain, feeling it, makes it fade, especially that “sword that goes pushed slowly down from you shoulder, to your heart and to your liver” kind of pain... feel it, listen to it, and soon u will realize it gets weaker and weaker, in fact cause it, bring it back to feel it more...bring memories, the cause of that pain, cry and feel the fk out of that pain again and again, until nothing remains out of it to offer to you, nothing ! 5 months later, at least for me it was, you will start laughing at yourself for not realizing that sooner....do that instead of being “logical and doing the getting ex back BS... I spent too much money, learnt nothing that I could morally make use of and just prolonged the fkn misery.. Don’t lie to yourself that it is heard for your other couple and try to “help”.. that is an ego lie, pure weakness in a mask... Truth is that person is happy, or confused of sleeping in your bed with someone else, while you are reading this...Why else would they reject you ? Their heart doesn’t belong to you any more, in fact they don’t a fk what you feeling now..Very likely that you will get that offer of love back and u will simply and happily not want it any more... u will just be in a different world... wishing you the soonest recovery...!

[@LikeSomeDude]

Bro, you are REALLY helping people. It’s been amazing to watch your evolution over the years. Your compassion, off the cuff eloquence, and earnestness are truly admirable

[@sarajane5306]

When I was 4 my parents got divorced. I remember them talking calmly one evening and getting the idea that I could live with my mum and my sister with my dad, to me it seemed very fair. My mother turned round to me and told me she didnt want me. My dad got custody and all the hate he had put towards his wife he now put towards me. That was the ultimate rejection. Ive been rejected my whole life one way or another but Im so used to it it now just bounces right off, their loss! Nothing could ever hurt as much as ones own mother telling you they dont want you, thats the ultimate rejection and everything else is just pale in comparison to that hurt.

[@wilson8979]

Wow that’s very powerful. I’m sorry you went through that. Sounds awful

[@LadywatchingByrd]

😢My mom told me straight up having kids ruined her life and its her biggest regret. She discards me also like trash. Shes happiest when Im suffering. Narcissistic family LOVE to constantly reject in order to INFLICT PAIN.

[@rahmasamir909]

@@wilson8979 💚💚💚 i love u

[@rahmasamir909]

@@LadywatchingByrd sending u love

[@marylourdes4498]

Feeling of ' rejection ' is an outcome of ego....Ego is hurt, the self-image is hurt...the superiority of one being is hurt, many a times we fail to understand, everything is connected to our thought process, feelings, emotions, love, hate, anger, empathy, passion, rejection and so on... Whenever i was rejected, it helped me to go on a deeper level of understanding, and emerged in a state of higher self...🙏👍

[@anandanabila8439]

❤❤❤

[@hypnotechno]

very calmly said Russel, you are a healer

[@stephenridley1153]

Fingers burned Heart broken Soul destroyed Lesson learned

[@Neurozumim]

Cute.

[@itchyscratch6328]

Life doesn’t give you the people you want. It gives you the people you need; to help you, to hurt you, to love you, to leave you, and to make you into the person you were meant to be.

[@pam164]

Rejected in dating, rejecting in looking for jobs etc i hate rejection!!!

[@VilleGardian]

Me too.

[@Lindsweightloss]

Look at rejection as an opportunity ;)

[@pam164]

@@Lindsweightloss No i don't see it that way wish i could.

[@Lindsweightloss]

Karen H That’s okay Karen, it takes time! I wish you all the best!

[@pam164]

@@Lindsweightloss Thankyou. But im not going to change 58 now and have always hated rejection all my life. Thats me

[@OddSalma]

I needed this, I don’t have a tribe that rings true. My friends are unauthentic and make light of my problems. The only reason I don’t cut them out is because I’m terrified of being alone... I’ve been distancing myself from everyone to read books and watch tv series. For some reason, I’m happier with myself when I’m by myself.

[@imdcoolest1685]

Mixed signals are worse than clear rejection because you always have that hope and when it is not happening you start to feel like you're doing something wrong/did something wrong

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

Hi 💢..... Sending you alot of love 💞 and positive energy. Dr Steve can actually help you attract someone you really love the most and want in your life. He once helped me and can help you too. Believe me I'm not bragging or trying to make unnecessary comment here, this was what really happened to me. he helped me attract (Jeremy) the guy I love and wanted in my life the most. Seek his help thanks...💞💞☺️☺️💞💞

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

[phone].

[@AndreaGomez-nv4dq]

Send him a message on Whatsapp 💕

[@Aworology323]

1000%. You start to question whether something is wrong with you after. But I think it’s just that people are afraid to hurt your feelings sometimes and so they lead you on and when you finally make your move is when they tell you the truth not knowing they’re hurting you even worse than if they would have just been honest from the start.