If Your Partner Does Not Want To Save The Relationship or Marriage

[@Ch2.0ris]

Well if someone can’t stay with you in your tough time, that person was never made for you anyway, people who actually love you like your family, close friends and God,never leave you no matter what

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Ch, you speak the truth. When you love someone, you're together thru thick and thin, no matter what! ❤

[@442Carew]

Amen, after a three year relationship she dumped me on my final deployment and was with another guy less than 90 days later. The heartbreak is gut wrenching and im certain it’s totally over.

[@sloanmagnum5009]

It depends on what you mean by tough times. What you consider tough times could mean the relation should end for the better

[@dampergoldenrod4156]

you cannot include family. often people tolerate foul behavior from family they would not tolerate from non family. coach lee's advice can apply to non sexual relationships including family.

[@winterkai12]

💯

[@Angel-em2kh]

If they don't like you it's fine. In the end it's always their lost. What matters is your moving on and doing what you love. I am on my 3 months no contact and feel so much better 🙃

[@varuns6842]

Trust Coach Lee and follow everything he says! I was in NC for a week with my girlfriend of 2 years. We were physically together for 2 years and then we had to do LDR for 5-6 months. She broke it off 2 weeks into the LDR and I was devastated. I made the mistake of trying to plead with her but to bo avail. The next day she told me she does not want this anymore and I politely accepted her decision. But after a week of total NC she came back literally crying asking me to take her back. People, do not try to convince your partner of your worth. Let silence do that for you. Just walk away peacefully and never look back. If your relationship lasted for a decent amount of time and healthy for the most part, there is a very high chance he/she would be back ( atleast to breadcrumb you). Stay strong and always know you have the strength deep down to do this. Thank you Coach Lee you are the best!!!

[@sloanmagnum5009]

Theres a very high chance that your ex went and had sex or tried to have sex with someone else and it didn't workout like she thought so she came crying back to you. It happens all the time, especially when you're away from each other. Something to consider

[@chriswalker955]

@@sloanmagnum5009 that's not true

[@Daisy.lee.25.11]

I've been blocked by my ex a month ago and we were in a long-distant relationship. He blocked my Skype, phone numbers, emails after our heated argument. I was so idiot when I pleaded him and beg him to come back. I was crying and blaming myself for the first two weeks and he suddenly appeared in my class's group chat when I started taking care of my self. I did politely say hi to him, but he completely ignored my greeting. After that, I mirrored his actions and ignored him even when he was talking with other people on our Skype group chat. After tormenting me for nearly two weeks by bragging about his exercise routine and how he would study in the U.K to trick me to befriend him again so he could crush me one more time. He finally left the group chat and blocked all of my social accounts even my youtube account . But this time, I have become numb to this childish behaviors.

[@Daisy.lee.25.11]

@@sloanmagnum5009 that's so true. My ex was bragging about gossiping with someone. A little update, my idiot ex unblocked all my social media contacts and tried to post some crap to grab my attention but I don't want to contact him because I'm enjoying this healing process. To be honest, being deprived of sleep made me withdrawn from my friends because I couldn't find time to hang out with them.

[@Lovedrug96]

Exactly like mine , hopefully she comes back

[@elmalanmalan2175]

They think they already worked on the relationship.but the problem is they did it all by themselves. Instead of working on together as a couple

[@jannlewandowski5540]

elmalamalan2, that's exactly what happened. You must work together. The Workshop that Coach Lee is talking about is excellent! It will help you immensely and make you feel better. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@bread-guy001]

EXACTLY!!! They didn’t give me or us a chance to work on it together, she just said “I tried” and “I don’t want to give up” and “I still love you” but doesn’t realize that it needed time and effort and cooperation from both of us to fix it

[@katrinagarnett3256]

THIS

[@Prupru_1.0]

I want to say that I started watching your videos shortly after my breakup and went no contact. It’s been about two months now and we saw each other yesterday and held hands again. The rest is yet to come but things are looking bright. Thanks for all your advice coach lee!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Prupru_1.0. First let me say CONGRATULATIONS on your accomplishment. Coach Lee will be very happy for you both. He would recommend you join his Workshop which is excellent and POWERFUL. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@chriswalker955]

Holding hands is part 1

[@vg211]

Thats great, good luck to you 🙏🏼

[@nestorcolt]

Good luck man! My ex an I saw each other 22 days after we broke up and we kissed and held hands, but we understood that what we had needs to die in order for something new and better be born. We decided to go no contact for 30 days. In 2 days these 30 days will be over but I don't know if I should wait a litte bit longer before contacting again. I'm not in the best mental space yet, However I miss her a lot. Probably I will wait another 10 more days to give offset and emotions to settle. I hope she still holds the hope.

[@SimplyPreet]

@@nestorcoltupdate ?

[@Sunitha001]

Absolutely! You do not want to save it today. Also - If they dumped you, saving it is their responsibility. Not yours. Trust the Journey..what is meant for you, will find its way back. If it is not for you - you are good. You are saved. 😊

[@jgentile34]

4 months NC and I haven’t heard anything. Watches stories but that’s it. Overall I have let go and whatever happens happens but I’m focusing on me

[@jannlewandowski5540]

jgentile34, even if you focus on yourself, that's a very healthy attitude. You should also join Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you immensely. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@jgentile34]

@@prettybird7597 same… honestly just in limbo it feels like but trying to embrace it all

[@alexandralc16]

Exactly the same here

[@tjmurphy2759]

Same here

[@Braveh3artGirl]

If you guys still have love you can break no contact and ask how they are. No contact past 3 months is too long

[@millyardopeacecraft9778]

No Contact works. The hardest part is maintaining discipline through it. But harder than that is if they do decide to come back. Is maintain the relationship. Because so many new factors are evovled.

[@comparecards5688]

How do you stay in NC when you have children?

[@urienswolfeson3065]

Coach Lee is spot on. Do not push them. In my personal situation, she left for another. I didn't know she was a narcissist. She had planned on taking everything including my home from day 1. I did indeed go no contact, I kept a distance. Once again, not pushing. She made the choice to be with another. I focused on me. I worked on me. I sought out counseling, I found my attitude changed, I found I became more attractive, and yet she still has not let things go. She still speaks about me (although in a poor light). I tried to save my marriage using coach lee's advise. Unfortunately it did save, but I am better off. A win.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

urienswolfeson3, YOU ARE A BIG WINNER...👍

[@urienswolfeson3065]

@@jannlewandowski5540 thank you. Yes I am a winner. I have learned so much about narcissists, I have found my peace and happiness within me. I found me. It was Coach Lee's advice witj no contact, work on myself that has helped me be where I am.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@@urienswolfeson3065 I can relate 100%. I was with one for 5 years. NOT MUCH FUN!! Take care of yourself! ❤❤

[@urienswolfeson3065]

@@jannlewandowski5540 we made it out. We are stronger. Take good care of you.

[@whoareyou4565]

I wish I you had this video out 2-3 years ago! I could’ve used this valuable information then to possibly save the relationship.

[@ruthcrawford3015]

Always good/practical advice! I say get on with your own life, be friendly, fun, forgiving, with SP. You may not 'win SP back" but you WILL have their gratitude and respect!. Plus, you will have time to discover weather or not you really do, or really don't want them back. I can vouch for this one! Thanks Coach Lee...

[@sloanmagnum5009]

Their respect? You should even be concerned whether they respect you or not. They're gone. In all reality, what they think doesn't matter

[@punisher6449]

The worst thing is when you help your partner trough toughest times and support them the entire time, you are always with them always checking on them and they even tell their friends how awesome you are etc..And yet they still decide to betray you. This happened to me after almost 1 year of relationship. She started ignoring me and eventually told me that she lost her feelings. But the worst thing is only few hours after the breakup she is with another guy, that she has been texting for a long time. My heart was shattered and this happened 3-4 months ago, and it still hurts when I remind myself of what she did to me. She moved on extremely quickly so I guess that she is unaware of the consequences in a long run.

[@sloanmagnum5009]

She was just using you. You were being used. She doesn't care how you feel. Learn from that mistake and move forward

[@jannlewandowski5540]

punisher6449, I am so sorry that happened to you. I cannot imagine the pain. You think you know the one you love, and they take advantage of your feelings. Coach Lee has a workshop that I suggest you join. It's excellent and it will help you immensely. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@punisher6449]

@@sloanmagnum5009 it's unfortunately harsh reality. I wish I never met her or at least knew her true side from the beginning. She was gorgeous and that but that's the only thing that she had to offer, while I offered everything.

[@dajackal7]

Sounds more like the behavior of a person with borderline personality disorder. Idealization, then devaluation. Then, moving on quickly.

[@agnespawelec9006]

This happened to me. I have been there for my ex through the whole years while he was going through divorce and just in one conversation out of the blue he said he’s not ready for relationship. The moment he signed his divorce papers he decided to leave and his gone. I haven’t heard from him since is like he’s just disappeared as he’s not using any social media ext…. He’s gone and I feel like I’m dying 😢

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Relationships aren’t worth it in modern times. Sad. It’s the most important part of life, and it has become the most elusive and screwed up.

[@ElliotSlade]

On month 4 kings and queens. They started dating their crush less than a month after our 2 and a half year relationship. Stung like hell but NC has been the absolute best thing I could have done. Let them live that life without you and see what that feels like - If they love it, they aren't for you.

[@remyd1984]

Have they reached out yet?

[@ElliotSlade]

They reached out for logistical reasons and were very nice about it. We had to close our bank account, I had to sign divorce papers and get some stuff from the house. I did everything I could to keep it brief and to do it when she was not there. I found out she wanted to tell me in person that she was dating someone I knew after I found out she was dating them a few weeks after the breakup. I have been doing very well with improving myself but learning she was dating someone else so shortly after STUNG but allowed me to move on more. I sent her a last text saying if we ever find each other single in the future I'd be open to reconnecting as new people. She blocked me on social media. Since there's no ties left to her financially or physically - There has been no contact.

[@Alchemist_171]

​@ElliotSlade I will pray for you my man! Stay strong! Keep working on yourself! You're really awesome, you kept your cool. I wish I had this wisdom and strength. I hope you get whatever you've been wishing for. A tip- Swimming daily really helps.

[@sloanmagnum5009]

The whole kings and queens thing needs to stop. Yall are not royalty

[@ElliotSlade]

@@sloanmagnum5009 We're just trying to stay positive and regain some self worth. No harm in that my friend,

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

Well, I will agree with you Coach Lee it is a marathon. You can love a person, but there are limits.

[@ObscureManifesto]

After watching every single one of Coach Lee's videos and also the Emergency Breakup Kit I can conclude that his message is pretty much Don't ever contact them again, Move on with your life, Find a new partner and if eventually one day in the future that ex reaches out to you that you will have the option to try it again with them if you want to. It's all about gaining your power back ASAP.

[@zackor3]

been waiting for this moment

[@Paulina7605]

NC for almost 2 months. Found out he’s in a new relationship

[@aastoicmind]

Hello guys! I will keep you updated, to go through together this awful feeling. Sorry for my english. So... After 1,5 years in peace and love, she decided to brake up. Everything was fine always in the relationship, but as Coach Lee says she doesnt see a future with me right now. As she said. We broke up 3 days ago in peace, because Coach Lee told us not to be cold and rude. We both agreed if the fate wants us together in the future we won't resist. So 3 days of no contact now... It is hard, so hard... I'm watching Lee's videos, movies, i play games, yesterday finally I could do some workout. I don't know what will happen during no contact, but i have to try, i have no better chance to ger her back. The worst thing probably is that I don't know what is she doing, maybe she meet with other guys, i doubt it, but my brain kills me... So thank you Coach Lee, and you guys stay strong, as I said, I will keep you updated.

[@aastoicmind]

Okey guys, 9. day, she wrote a message to a close friend of mine, that se misses me a lot now. Her relief stage was 9 days probalby, now she started to miss me. Coach Lee is a genius

[@Lovedrug96]

@@aastoicmind so happy for u but honestly take ur time , don’t just jump into it . And also make sure some certain u wanted her to change in the relationship has change and this is the better version of herself. I wish your relationship happiness, love and care . Stay blessed

[@anothergalaxy1418]

Why would you want to be with someone who is unsure of you ? The only time is acceptable to try and retract them is when you somewhere messed up , not putting effort in and blaming it on being yourself

[@jannlewandowski5540]

anothergalaxy, I know exactly what you're saying, but if you take the time and show them that you care about THEIR needs, you have a great chance. Listen to what she likes, where she wants to go, and you may be surprised. Try it..❤

[@Excava750]

That’s right

[@vanessat829]

I broke NC yesterday and I feel ashamed. I am devastated by my break up.

[@mobilemcsmarty1466]

a top vid here Coach, thanks! experience shows that you can't talk them into it no matter how much sense is in your argument. if you want the last one back, or even keep a new one, you still have to invite and pull that candidate into the relationship ..while refraining from applying any pressure. the cake analogy was great. turning up the heat will not bake it any faster, while guaranteeing that the result will be utter failure. this is a message that bears repeating (easy to forget when your libido is at work) 😎

[@reinalooper3314]

Omg coach Lee you’re speaking right into my identical situation 😭💔

[@jannlewandowski5540]

reinalooper3314, this is really a heavy topic, and it does hit home for a lot of us. If you're interested you can join Coach Lee's Workshop which is fantastic and POWERFUL.Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant

[@elharrop]

They usually come back, they just have to sulk for a bit first and stalk you on social media. Incredibly irritating that they come to same the conclusion that you were already at WEEKS/MONTHS later after you've already put yourself through hell and probably damaged your mental health and professional life as a result. What a colossal waste of time...However, i understand for some it's the only way as people don't tend to like to do things if it's not their own idea. *Sigh*

[@williamjarbo3650]

30+ years, she ghosted me and nc, I was devastated and I didn’t act correctly at first. This happened 4 weeks ago, still no contact from her. I have been nc for a few weeks now. I know for a fact that she has a boyfriend and it was going on before she left. To be honest, she broke me. I’m still hurting from the fact that I still love her. I’m over the initial shock of the ghosting and no explanation. It’s been 5 weeks since she ghosted me, I have picked myself up and decided that I am not going to allow her to beat me down anymore. I started going to the gym and I actually met a lady there and we date. I’m not ready for a serious relationship and I told my friend that before we went out. I have been researching her behavior and I have learned that my wife is a full blown narcissist. I do still have a love for her but I will not ever let her back in my life again.

[@johnbrown1851]

This was one of your best videos! I needed to hear that advice.

[@chriswalker955]

Excellent I got my gf back, I'm going to listen to this

[@RealCoachLee]

Chris, I’m thrilled for you! Would you be willing to share your story with me/us? We will keep your name private but we can encourage others with your story. Please email us at [e-mail]

[@chriswalker955]

Dude you saved me alot of pain

[@chriswalker955]

I'll do that for you

[@chriswalker955]

Coach Lee is exactly correct your gf,bf will come back

[@chriswalker955]

But be prepared for some adjustments

[@travelartcreate509]

My ex broke up with me a week ago saying she is afraid that she is going in to a long relationship thinking I might break up with her. I did broke up with her twice and I think she lost trust. On the second break up with her, I felt bad looking at her cry so we decided to work it out but a month after, she broke up with me. Our relationship is really good. I wonder if there is hope still after 2years. I begged and pleaded before I saw Coach Lee’s video. But now, I am only into 3days NC. Staying strong.

[@stigsofficial]

Unfortunately my partner did not want to continue. We tried the friends thing but it was too much for me and I needed clarity. I put it on the table and she said she just can’t do it right now with everything going on. She recently got a new friend group, and will be transferring schools around 2024/25, she doesn’t know where she will end up (location wise) and wants to be a doctor. We are in different life stages as I am already in my career and graduated 2020. However I would’ve put in the effort but I guess she didn’t want to. Maybe NC will give her the time she needs to reflect on how great things were in our relationship and put her in a better mental place with capacity for our relationship in the future. About a month and a week down so far. Wish me luck!

[@jannlewandowski5540]

st, you can always join Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you immensely. It's POWERFUL and has strategies for every situation. Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant

[@brentmoyer5686]

I genuinely hate all of the comments giving advice. You’re not the expert here, you’re most likely going through a break up giving horrible advice

[@velriri624]

😂😂

[@tac0drew5]

My girlfriend of a little over a year left me right before we left for college. She was always asking for love letters or that I would surprise her with dinner or just small things that would show her my appreciation/love, and I assume she broke up with me because I didn’t give her these things as often as she wanted them, and she just doesn’t trust me anymore (I have no idea why she left, that’s just my assumption). I’ve heard it all, from “those are unrealistic expectations” to “you hurt her”. We both said that we’ll never have anything bad to say about eachother, and she expressed how much she loved me when she was breaking up with me. This is why I’m holding on to hope that I’ll have her back one day, because we were so good together and our goals for the future aligned so well. I don’t know if any other guys out there are experiencing this, but 90% of the “pain” I’m feeling is the disgust and anger of thinking of her looking at another guy, or kissing another guy, or doing anything with anyone else. She may not be my girl anymore, but I still have tremendous protective feelings over her (and romantic feelings of course). She wants to have some time of independence and being alone, so I’m letting her go off to college, and I hope that whenever we come back for the holidays, we can meet up, catch up, and re discuss everything. Any advice would be welcome, I am really struggling with NC, but I’m holding strong. She is going to get the breakup she wants, and hopefully, she’ll come back. If not, then bon voyage.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

tac0drew5, I read your comment and I can understand her wanting to be taken out to dinner sometimes, maybe giving her a greeting card/love letter, etc. , now and then. That alone is a very nice gesture, and a lot of women LOVE that. Maybe you should have done something like that once in a while . Women Love that! At this point, give her the Time she asks for. When you two reunite, take her to a nice restaurant, send her flowers sometimes, and take care of her. I also recommend you join Coach Lee's Workshop which is excellent and it's just for people who are in the same predicament as you. This workshop is definitely for you.know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@dampergoldenrod4156]

" you are letting her go off to college" sounds like a control freak and delusional as to the power you have. And her asking for love letters is infantile. She was probably going to break up even if you wrote those letters. She is infantile and will not make it in todays' world where people cannot even afford rent and you are going to end up in the criminal justice system thinking you can allow or not allow people to do what they want.

[@imagegotbeats]

Damn this was powerful I been going about this the wrong way until I found coach Lee.. OG coach thanks man!! I been watching your videos lately really been helping me out brother

[@RealCoachLee]

Thank you for your kind words! I’m glad to be of help!

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

I don’t feel like I’m on a time clock I don’t feel like anything. This is the fourth time. The only thing I’m gonna say is I’m ashamed of myself for putting up with it this many times.

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

@@jannlewandowski5540 just poor decisions on my part we all maje them

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@@Americanpatriot-zo2tk I understand exactly what you mean!

[@sheilacoon3129]

Wasn’t really waiting for him because it had been three years. All of a sudden there he is again.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

sheilacoon31, Wow! After 3 years? That's very rare, and I hope you can take advantage of it. How do you feel about him? Keep us informed..

[@sheilacoon3129]

@@jannlewandowski5540 I still love him but have some trust issues now. I’m hoping I can work through them but he may have to show me that he can be trusted to commit.

[@miguelcampinsabildgaard7918]

I give you my like from Denmark, even before watching your vid ! Thats how good you aren :)

[@agneskorondi5551]

That is so true"heavy duty stuff"👍😆 Very much right👍 This video is just so good. I like them all They help me in the difficult times Thanks👍🌹

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

Forgive me! I will be 60 in a month and a half. I’m not in to the games my ex is playing anymore.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Americanpatri I agree with you about games. If you want to play games, go to an ARCADE! Tell them that. 👍

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

@@jannlewandowski5540 very cute. You pic is nice too

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@@Americanpatriot-zo2tk Thank you. 😀

[@Livinlife444]

Coming up on 3 months of NC. Last time I heard from her was when she viewed my story 2 weeks after breaking up with me, but nothing since. She still has our photos up tho, and her fam still follows me in social media. I’m trying to be hopeful, but it’s hard sometimes because I don’t want to fill myself with false hope. She was the only girl I ever wanted to marry and have kids with… still do.

[@Samx838]

Update

[@Livinlife444]

@@Samx838 I still mean nothing to her. She hasn’t once reached out to me.

[@wei-jen]

Thank you so much for the video, it helps me a lot ❤

[@elzzird23]

I followed you Coach Lee, after she ghosted I did no contact for 4 months. Next thing you know she messages me out of the blue and we date again for 4 months and things were going great. Month 5 she pulls away, goes out of town, slow fades, not as communicative again. Haven't seen her in 2 months - feel she's slipping away. Last message I asked to meet to clarify some things. Feel like I made a mistake with that one. Oh well.... uhh

[@jannlewandowski5540]

elzzird23, I am really sorry to hear that, but it's HER loss. Sounds like she's a player, and I wouldn't take her back again. For extra help, I suggest you join Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you immensely. I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.

[@CherryBlossom-yv9xy]

Thank you so soo much coach lee for helping me move on ❤

[@psalms1163]

Great video bro

[@CallforthePriest]

Im dealing with this right now. I had to let her go. I didnt want to but i just felt like i was doing all the work and it cant be or feel that way. If she wants to talk im open to it but i am not going to be the only one trying.

[@MultiRonnn]

Right decision

[@oulhadjs]

Same for me my friend we need to stay strong

[@CallforthePriest]

@@oulhadjs Absolutely

[@alphajoe6660]

Yes I have been working on things alone by myself for 6 months and nearly at your stage. It gets tiring when you are working on it alone. My problem is I am making some of the mistakes from this video and I want to try now without making these mistakes to see where it takes me

[@tearthangel373]

It required an effort from him and he was busy partying 😊

[@gladiatoroui1897]

He doesn’t want to save the relationship, but he keeps giving mixed messages…. On Christmas he was adamant that he wants a permanent separation; but he agrees to reassess on March 2024???

[@inesfrye8161]

32 year relationship and he filed for divorce.

[@queensangel4415]

My fiance is at a breaking point. I forced him to talk about it and I'm pretty sure I made it worse. I just want to fix our relationship and be happy.

[@aliennemesis0663]

Update sweetie? My ex and I broke up and I'm only 8 days in no contact

[@jazzy47827]

Be Being friends to see where it goes

[@oulhadjs]

Well I tried everything with my stubborn ex I will save my dignity as a men who has values

[@ULTIMATEUNITED2000]

When u say you tried everything what do u mean?

[@sloanmagnum5009]

An ex is not stubborn, they're just sure of their decision. If you cant accept that decision then it's YOU who's stubborn

[@Pickles1497]

Hi coach Thank you ❤

[@chriswalker955]

She's my world I was crushed for 8 months without her

[@jannlewandowski5540]

chriswalker955 Chris, I know how you feel. Mine was a 5 year relationship that ended pretty badly. I suggest you get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which is fantastic, and it will help you immensely. totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders!

[@louyiechen]

So sorry you will be okay in time.. i thought im gonna die of pain and longing to him for almost a year after he dumped me,but i look at myself in a mirror now and say to myself, you are lovable and strong, love your self more and you will see the result in time.. I hope you'll be okay soon.

[@chriswalker955]

@louyiechen yes I'm sad but I can't force her to love me,my new gf does love me

[@chriswalker955]

And I love her

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@chriswalker955 Chris, you still love your ex girlfriend. This is only a rebound. One day you're going to realize that rebounds don't last and you will STILL love your ex when the rebound is gone.

[@eileendom5858]

Crazy thing was I stayed positive and playful during a trip to Thailand knowing the breakup might be coming when we returned. He was positive with me. When we returned he turned cold and I gave him the space to spend time alone. Not realizing he was a dismissive avoidant like I know now. After a few days he said he had to move to his own place. I said ok and that’s it. He said, “is that all you gotta say?” …. I said “to be honest I am all talked out”. What could I say after he said he didn’t want to fix it. We weren’t working out….. what could I say? ….. I wanted counseling or coaching to learn to communicate together bc we weren’t communicating correctly. I wanted to learn. So I said the only thing I would say is I didn’t regret the trip to Thailand. … I left 6 days later while he was at work and moved out. Not telling him, but left a note telling him to take care and now he would be at peace.

[@nino_94]

Great content, just on point, thx👍🏾✊🏾

[@hansjusmeus5023]

You better listen to coach lee 💯 true . We are back together after I cheated on her and she left me for a full 8 months before we finally working on it . I told her : let’s take it one day at a time. Focus on now with full transparency and then see where it will lead us . She said let give it a try

[@Ericgodisgood]

Wow man I disrespected my ex so much was yelling at her kids yelling in the house always throwing stuff always assuming just insecure telling her negative things then she left me is been a while but I keep going to no contact in texting her but she told me I should move on in that she happy with the new guy she with she only been with him for 3 months but then she had him text me like u had your chance u mess up she is mine now she told me we will never be together I really miss her man but I begg in begg I think she thinknima weak man she had me block on all social media still do before we broke up which was may 1st

[@hansjusmeus5023]

@@Ericgodisgood feel sorry for you . Know what you are going through been there as well. Just give her space. Use that energy on yourself to level up( Gym, new hobbies, increase your income change your wardrobe, be more social on the net ) chances you may find someone’s else who value more . Meanwhile she will start finding new flaws on her new boyfriend and this is where she will be curious about you on what you are doing and what you have became. So brother my best advice and rule is to go No contact on her and level up . I follow this guy and she is back now

[@rajwinderkaur7786]

I will not do any thing on the social media.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

rajwinder, I don't blame you. I used to but not anymore.

[@jamotiTV]

Can you do a video on ghosting Coach Lee?

[@angelmontelongo4110]

I’ve been helping my ex fiancé move some of her stuff out of my house our contact is very positive. I can tell that she’s feeling comfortable and she enjoys our conversations. A lot of people think I’m stupid for helping her move some of her things back to her mom‘s place but like you say I’m trying to build positive interactions, I’m just not going to see her move a heavy dresser by herself. Of course I’m gonna help her but sometimes I wonder if it’s helping me it’s kind of odd because it feels like the more stuff I moved to her mom’s place the farther she’s getting away, but at the same time, I feel like we’re getting closer to each other, she calls me fairly frequently. Sometimes to ask random questions. I keep it as positive as possible. We have been together for 16 years. I’m doing the strategic no contact because clearly no contact doesn’t work in our situation. I’m not sure if helping her is stupid and hurting my chances. I guess it’s a dumb question to ask because I’ve already done it.

[@mr.know_it_all]

Worry about yourself. Problem with breakups is, it really shows how dependent people are on others for happiness. Get on a dating site and smash until you meet someone special. Stop wasting time on trash people. If you a drunk stop drinking and get right with yourself. If you a coke head get help. You are the reason why you are not happy, not because you are single. Feeling Loved is from within yourself not from others.

[@ferencmondik31]

Dating apps are trash.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

mr.know_it_all It's great to take care of YOU first. BTW, please stay off Dating Sites bcse they are full of nasty people. I know, and my friends know bcse we tried it. They LIE and you can get get physically hurt. Meet someone in person..👍

[@sloanmagnum5009]

Having random casual sex is one of the worst things you can so. You're also more likely to end up in a terrible relationship thru a hookup. Happens all the time.

[@dylan9676]

Exactly what I’m going through right now

[@alphajoe6660]

Me too ... She says she doesn't want to have relationship discussions anymore and wants me to let things flow on a day by day basis.

[@tearthangel373]

He chose lust instead of me

[@jannlewandowski5540]

annettelawson. People like that are ALL FOR THEMSELVES. Keep away from him. 👍

[@willpianista]

Same here.

[@cryptonitekiller1009]

God saved you bro. Lucky.

[@tearthangel373]

@@cryptonitekiller1009 I sure am Grateful God saved me from him

[@yk6187]

Same

[@fire12731]

I guess we all just need to help ourselves

[@AndrewBodley-n2d]

I assume it's continue the no contact after they've reached out the first time with the "Hey :) how are you?" , I responded and it was polite but didn't give too much away and let the convo come to a quick but natural end. I'll tell you it's an even greater effort to not reach out after she broke no contact while waiting for her to do it again

[@AndrewBodley-n2d]

It's been 9 days since the break up for context and a year of long distance is coming to an end in under a month. Relationship has been 2.5 years

[@sloanmagnum5009]

LDR relationships never work

[@AndrewBodley-n2d]

@@sloanmagnum5009 I agree. Although I feel the fact that we're both gonna be in the same city from now on is gonna help a lot to rekindle what we had. That being said, I'm learning not to care either way

[@MelissaAlberts-zn7su]

looking forward to it.

[@Paranfc]

Me and my partner of 7 years broke up in december. We live together with our son. Two dogs and our own house. We sleep in different rooms. We are still best friends and she shows jealously sometimes but shuts down any conversation about working on us and is adamant we will only be friend's... we are going to live together until april and i cant see anything changing. Ive done most of coach lees techniques and its just Bought us closer as mates.. not in a relationship sense.

[@nvsm4943]

How to start over when there is no communication...also should we go NC or follow these steps ?

[@KimoGotIt]

My girlfriend and I aren’t broken up, I’m just gonna build the attraction back while at the same time giving her space and talking to her less

[@klarkkentgr6111]

I am, on a time clock because every day that passes our daughter will realise that we are apart and it will have an really bad impact on her she is just 4 years old

[@Gwalker100]

Same here it's an awful feeling. I feel for you. Hope things work out for you

[@klarkkentgr6111]

@@Gwalker100 the same to you mate.

[@questionthingss]

what if i tried making us experience fun things together like going to a concert or event but they would just shut me off? how am I supposed to deal with that then? they don't want to talk nor do they want to have a good time.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Lilyquestions, That's a GREAT idea! Do fun things together and make beautiful memories. These are things you never forget. How can anyone NOT want that? Gee, I'd go bcse I love having fun. If you want to feel better, join Coach Lee's Workshop. You'll feel so much better about everything! Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need! /rant

[@bradarnold7125]

So when we broke up I kind of pushed her to make a decision because I felt like it wasn’t going anywhere. So she chose to end it. And now seems to be no hope, and recently discovered her mom gave her an ultimatum either her or me. I know this is wrong and we’ve had a few meetings since, it’s been close to 60 days in and out of no contact.. I’m confused and losing hope. And this woman and I had an amazing relationship. What is there left to do?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

bradarnold71,if you two were so good at one time, you can have that back if you work on it. Why don't you join Coach Lee's Workshop and learn from there. It's awesome and POWERFUL and it has strategies for every situation. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@bradarnold7125]

Unfortunately as much as I’d love to finances dictate that I simply can’t afford what you guys offer

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@@bradarnold7125 I understand.

[@sloanmagnum5009]

If it was an amazing relationship then why did she end it. That doesnt make sense

[@Libbylou77krtc]

You've given me hope in the waiting that I might be able to get the guy I love back in the future.

[@petersonyak8905]

Why would you want to save something that someone else don't want to save? I been there, I did get confused.

[@حسناءالعدوان]

I didn't get the point here coach lee , you instruct us to start no contact immediately after the break up , but in this video you said that I must have positive experience with them , how can I have positive experience and be in no contact due to their arrogance , and even if I try to act like im just contacting her to have positive conversation , she smell it miles away that am begging for a chance to be with her

[@jannlewandowski5540]

user-lg. After you complete No Contact and you get together with her, I would just be myself from the last time she saw you. Don't go overboard and make a fuss, but of course, be happy to see her. Don't change who you are. Be yourself as SHE knows you. She will not see it coming. Besides, she will be happy too. 👍 After you two get together, make sure you join Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you both.know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@jc15347]

Should I continue to keep texting my ex like twice a week, light and fun after he reached out (2 months NC) to reattract even though he is treating/replying me as a friend ? He never initiates the text though after his first reach out. Been texting (2 calls) for a month now, but no improvement in reattraction (can't meet up because we live in different cities). And he is seeing multiple women at the moment too and said he's happy I'm moving on (because I text light and fun, no drama). Back to NC until he reaches out again? I am really confused about what else to do next.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

jc15347, Hi! First of all I would STOP texting him. I really don't like to say this but I'm trying to help, so please think about this. He's dating other women, and he's LONG DISTANCE. These 2 are the most important, not even mentioning he likes you as a FRIEND! There are too many disadvantages here for you. The one remedy I can give you is go NO Contact with him. Don't ignore him when he texts you, nicely tell him that "you are very busy." Be casual. Keep this going. I wish things were more in your favor. Finally, you should join Coach Lee's Workshop which is excellent and it has strategies for every situation including yours. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@jc15347]

@@jannlewandowski5540 Thank you for your words and advise. Yes, I am aware of the workshop😊

[@ch3ngg]

what if they think that the change is only because we're not together anymore and if we get back together, everything will revert back to what it was before? would this result in not getting back together?

[@user-sk1eh3cb3r]

What if I’ve already done everything you said not to do - push, ask for explanations, fix it immediately, questioning. And he’s already walked away 😢 we’re already not talking even though we still live together, so making sweet gestures is gna be strange.

[@fd9891]

I wish I saw this video 7 months ago. I broke up with my ex of 2 years because we were having problems. He couldn’t say I love you back and I felt like I was wasting my time. I got too caught up in the “end result”. I broke up with him abruptly and didn’t really think about it or do any of these steps.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

fd9891. Whatever you do, DON'T beat yourself up over that bcse you can do better. If your partner can't say I LOVE YOU after 2 years, something is wrong. Let me make a suggestion for you. Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. I know it's very tough and I've certainly been there. I want to suggest that you consider Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's such a good guide to help you so that you aren't just wondering on your own. It covers a lot of situations and has strategies that you probably haven't thought of. The link for it is myexbackcoach.com/ebk. I wholeheartedly recommend it and wish you the very best of luck.

[@johnwick2338]

Update?

[@thyz92]

You look cute, you’ll be fine

[@Lovedrug96]

We just broke up 2 weeks ago and she is already seeing someone. We were together for 2.5 years . Any advice please

[@7351DUDES]

Month and a half of NC, im loosing hope but thats okay I guess... :(

[@redditcard9288]

She offered me the friendship and I said I cannot stay friends and it's better we should stop talking (basically told her that I'm not gonna reach out) and it's been 3 weeks now and she seems very normal about it, what're my chances? Also i asked her to reach out if she change her mind.

[@daws3173]

This is exactly the situation I'm in with my wife. Wow

[@RealCoachLee]

Get my free mini-course on saving a marriage at www.marriageradio.com/mini-course-to-save-your-marriage/

[@louyiechen]

FOR EVERYONE WHO EXPERIENCE INTENSE PAIN AFTER THEY DUMPED YOU, IN TIME YOU WILL BE OKAY. TRUST ME I WAS THERE TOO IT WAS A AMICABLE BREAK UP AND LEFT ME SHATTERED.

[@louyiechen]

TIME WILL NOT HEAL EVERYTHING. BUT ACCEPTANCE WILL HEAL EVERYTHING..

[@nova12332]

How do u do those little things that can attract them back and have a good time if they broke up with u and probably dont want to speak to u or go out with u?

[@Hamzak786]

She broke up with me. Then kept playing games, like she wanted to be chased. One min she's found someone else, next she's going away for a month, then she says that she wants a 2 month break then she's saying there's nothing to talk about yet seeked my approval for her weight loss. Then she argued with me, telling me to move on.I don't her that I don't want anyone else. Then she said focus on your life. After that deleted her number and everything. From then just went into no contact. It's been a few weeks in no contact. She didn't message me at all even on my birthday. Slowly I'm seeing that she's gone forever. Good riddance in a way but she might come back. I was out of her league and she did bring chaos to my life, which I was addicted too.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Hamzak786, I don't blame you at all. People like that just love to play games. Let her go! The worst thing you can run into is a person who plays with your feelings! 👎

[@Hamzak786]

@@jannlewandowski5540 I still want her to come back would she?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@Hamzak786 from what you said, she would most likely do the same thing. The ONLY possibility is for you both to join Coach Lee's Workshop if she'll do it. You would learn a LOT from it bcse it's excellent and very powerful.know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@fffrfrw]

But, if it the money that pull them towards you, best to keep them away

[@cristinacatcp]

What is they say they need space from you.. then you are afraid that they won't come back after they have space,or they meet someone else.. it's all fear

[@bwaen_1404]

Please help... No contact for almost a month now. We met young and were in deep love for 3 years. Then she broke up with me, but during that breakup I had to find out she had different motives, everytime it got worse and worse. Yesterday I had to find out she has slept with 3 dudes already in less then 4 weeks time since we broke up. Here I was working on getting her back. I'm in so much pain and confusing. My first 'wife' died and this monster is erasing my beautiful memories with her. The pain...

[@jannlewandowski5540]

bwaen_1404, I read your comment and I can't believe you would take her back after she slept with 3 or 4 guys. Why would you do that to yourself? Yes, you love her but she doesn't love you. NOBODY sleeps with all those guys if they love you. I am so sorry for you because that is heartbreaking! You are a MAN! YOU HAVE PRIDE AND YOU ARE A GREAT HUMAN BEING. You deserve to be treated like one. You deserve a woman who LOVES you, and not USE you. THINK HOW GOOD OF A MAN YOU ARE AND THINK OF WHAT YOUR LIFE WOULD BE LIKE WITH A GOOD WOMAN ! Hugs for you.❤❤

[@bwaen_1404]

@jannlewandowski5540 It was up to learning that she slept with 3 dudes when I realized I cannot take her back. And that hurts even more then actually breaking up. Thank you so much for your kind words. The pain is excruciating from within. But I see how this can be a blessing

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​​@@bwaen_1404od bless you also. Find a DECENT woman. ❤ You should join Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you immensely. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@bwaen_1404]

@jannlewandowski5540 I appreciate it truly but I do not seek to reignite the relationship. So joining the workshop has no full benefit for me

[@abbyklepacki]

i went no contact for about a week and they contacted me. we talked, called, and met up. after we met up, they called it off and said they need time to think. i think maybe seeing me hurt them in a way. they said space until wednesday so i’ll text them tomorrow. should i go back into no contact after?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

abby-ib3in I would go back into NO Contact for the duration. I would recommend Coach Lee's Workshop which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING you need including strategies for every situation. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you. know it's really difficult and I've certainly been there. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@Tyro2549]

Im in my 6 months of NC idk what to do to get her back i accepted being friends cause of my fear of loosing her out of my life and now she is off dating other people but each one being unsuccessful and she tells me about it, now she asked out a guy got rejected but this guy told. Her to to wait but now idk what to do to get her back she hasnt blocked me in phone number whatsapp but she unfollowed me in insta still blocked my in discord and snapchat she still approaches me to talk and etc and at somepoint wants me to go do this with her whilst inviting others to join, like as in my friends to just hang out ig to not make it awkward between both of us being together but ye idk what to do how can i get her back now 😔😭 at somepoint mny months ago i did nc she contacted sending a long paragraph saying sry etc and wanting to stay friends but anyways i was skeptical but still accepted back than but anyways how do i get her back from this 😢

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Tyro2549 In my opinion, you're setting yourself up to be hurt. If someone cares about you as a friend, and you are in love with them, it's painful. You even mentioned that she asked a guy out. If that was me, I would go NO Contact with her and let her wonder about you and miss you. Also, you THINK about the situation and how long you plan on doing this. Your best bet is to stay away and see what happens AFTER the duration of No Contact. Good luck to you. ❤

[@Tyro2549]

@@jannlewandowski5540 ur right it is setting up myself to be hurt one time she did consider getting back but die to memories of past hurts and flaws that puts it on hold but ye imma ig do as u say go no contact and vanish from her if I interpreted what u said right?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

​@@Tyro2549 Yes, you did read it correctly. I can offer you more help with Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. myexbackcoach.com/ebk This Kit is great for you to use. Good luck to you.

[@BUDGETGAMING0]

I am getting depressed and stressed not because i am going through a breakup with the women i spent more than 7 years i am getting anxious because she cant trust me and some coaches says apply no contact rule ik this rule it worked for me many times flawlessly but no some say apply no contact some say to talk to her and demonstrate that you have changed when she will feel safe with you she will think about getting back and please atleast someone reply to me someone

[@TraceyBettencourt-it9th]

How do you give reasons when they say they don’t want it

[@dandee28]

My ex said she lost some feelings realizing we have differences in values, mindset, personalities and that she has tried but feel drained now and given up. She still cares but wants us to find happiness elsewhere. What can we do?

[@JenniferGriffin-n2g]

My ex boyfriend has not tried

[@ghostgirl531]

On month 5 and im unblocked 💀still am NOT reaching out. Also feel like he tried to follow me on a “fake” account just to stalk my account…not sure what this means

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

3:50 can’t have good experiences if they don’t wanna see u or talk to you

[@jayalexander8107]

Hey there, im very lost and confused. My girlfriend has bpd and recently we had a really bad fight and she stormed out saying we were broken up she told me she absolutely resented me. I waited a few days had tried small things that had worked in the past like bringing flowers over with a letter and got no where, she was still angry. She had gotten into a bad fight with her parents which they were successful in breaking her episode but now that her episode ended she wants to break things off for good because she doesnt want to continue to put me through her episodes. I love her more than life itself and I really need help on getting her back

[@Top3in5]

So for unmarried couples, during no contact you said make it vague - if they show signs of coming back to not make it certain for them that they can take you or dump you whenever they want to. For married couple who have separated if they reach out does it mean it is a different strategy - as in be willing to take them back with no mind game?

[@coreylavars6274]

My gf decided to leave. She moved out of her apartment we used to live in and she moved back with her mom in another state. I basically let her go but over 2 weeks she told me she wants to work things out but take it slowly. It’s confusing me because some days I don’t even hear from her but most nights it’s almost like a game. I don’t want to reach out because she’s not and I think it’s the same for her. Some nights I’ll lead and say hey I’m going to bed just wanted to say goodnight to you and our son. And she will say okay goodnight we love you. It’s confusing because I feel like she’s leading me on. I’ve been playing it cool not talking about break up. I gave her the break up and went NC for 2 weeks. She reached out to me and started talking about how she is sad if didn’t work. We started talking and yes we’ve slept with each other multiple times before she left. Held hands all night and cuddled. There’s always been a lot of love between us. Together 4 1/2 years with a new child. She said she plans on coming back out to my state for work and she wants to settle here. I just don’t believe it but why is she telling me she loves me and wants me to be the one holding her hand at the age of 60. Any advice from anyone?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

cor, I think that down deep inside you two still really care for each other. I was reading your comment and when she mentioned about moving back, that's what made me think it wasn't over. You should join Coach Lee's Workshop and learn more about yourself and what you really want. It's awesome and POWERFUL. I don't know if you are aware, but Coach Lee has a live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." It's an incredible learning experience that I just can't say enough about. It focuses on saving a relationship from a breakup/separation and then keeping it after. It includes a coaching call each month for 6 months. You can talk to Coach Lee's team about it. I think the person for this is named Johnny and you can make an appointment with him to talk about it at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. I think you'll agree that it's an incredibly eye-opening and immensely helpful experience for you.

[@Me-np8fb]

My advice is contact a lawyer that specializes in defending fathers. Just protect your rights. This could save you from financial ruin and having your child taken away while you pay 18 years of child support. Chances of this ending In love and unity is unlikely. Sorry. Women will mess with your mind for the next 70 years. It never ends. Don't write her anything . She will likely use it against you in family court. 😅

[@coreylavars6274]

@@Me-np8fb I’ve been thinking about that. I just don’t want to do that because I do believe she is telling the truth. Theirs a lot more to the story that I just couldn’t write it all. I wanna believe she is coming back because her schooling and clinicals has to be done out here. I’m not sure if she’s messing with me but I really hope not.

[@sloanmagnum5009]

Why weren't you living together if you have a child? Why is the child living with just her and out of state? You should be far more concerned with your child than whether or not the mom wants to come back

[@Libbylou77krtc]

Is it ever too late, too many yrs that have passed to get your ex back? I think you have a video about this but, I can't find it.

[@GoChLo30]

That’s a good shirt!