The anxiety cure you don't want to hear

[@joeykidney]

this is a different style for me but I wanted to just sit and vulnerably chat about this tough love conversation that really opened my eyes. I wanted to share with you in hopes it make spark something in you too

[@lifewiththecaseys]

I love this so much! Please do more! ✨🫶🏽

[@Testifoodstuff247]

Yeah thanks alot for this thought

[@sorenzaroccaro2053]

I love this format, it feels like we are on FaceTime or something, it feels so relaxing and healing on some levels. You always find the right words and speak in such a beautiful way

[@joeykidney]

holy smokes that’s exactly the feeling I was going for! this makes me happy

[@juniorakimr]

"We are living to make tomorrow easier "that's cool

[@joeykidney]

i thought so too!

[@chellotrevino7323]

Get off the cross we need the wood 😂😂

[@lelwaonlife9435]

I'm only 2 minutes in, and you've already spoken volumes. One thing life's greatly taught me recently is, as someone who naturally gravitates towards self help books; I've matured enough to understand that I've reached a point where I have read more than enough books, and implementing is the only way forward. We have the tendency to overindulge in the planning phase or overthink acting on what we truly desire and feel. I'm 6 mins and 30 seconds into the video now, and you're so right on how we've unnecessarily overcomplicated our lives. "How can you be the best you if you don't acknowledge what you need to do tomorrow?" 👏🏼 THAT PART ❗️ "Stop phrasing life like an 'I feel like' sentence" ‼️✨️ - I LOVE THIS ! Thank you for reminding us to challenge ourselves or try, at the very least. Pity parties may temporarily stroke the sweet spots of our egos sometimes, but as we grow older, I pray that we each of us understand the necessity of familiarizing ourselves with the discomfort of actively participating in challenges. That's the true enhancer of character growth dor ourselves first, let alone our relationships. We like throwing around phrases like "pressure makes diamonds" but fail to allow our lives to article that. Joey, thank you for reminding us to shut up and try. It's about damn time we did.❤

[@joeykidney]

i love this comment because it was like live action commenting

[@ankitakhattri8464]

Really loved the way you portrayed this. Things we know deep inside but sometimes our brain take over so much that we need help from others.

[@Kairo-Ibarra]

You don’t know what you can do until you do it! Life is beautiful, it’s full of adventures and love, you just have to go through today for tomorrow to arrive!

[@renzelagmay6773]

"How can you be the best you if you don't acknowledge what you need to do" - this hits a little too hard. My best friend (whom I just met July 2024), who became a big part of my life said something similar and slapped me with a reality check when I injured myself. I hated myself because he was right. I guess, I needed him to tell me those things. To tell me that I need to allow people to help me too

[@mtryleeshae]

Everything you are saying is so true. I have just now started to challenge myself with going back to school, getting more into my hobbies (photography) and falling in love with my best guy friend. I have been the happiest I have ever been because I did things that made me happy. Was it scary and nerve-racking? YES! 1000 times yes. But oh was it worth it because I realized I don’t need all the superficial things to make me happy. With relationships, it has been a roller coaster but it’s been so eye opening. It’s different when you’re in a healthy relationship and they wanted the same thing as you want for them. Love and respect. Thank you Joey for making me slow down for a minute and think. Life isn’t hard, we just make it hard because we want to be perfect. All love to you, your girl friend and your pup! ♥️

[@faztoo]

going through a breakup right now, i found you not too long ago, your videos are awesome, they really help to set me ito a better mood and feel better about myself

[@FutTomato123]

Also going through a break up rn, good luck my man

[@World_of_C]

Yeah, that's actually the truth, humans have always been living to better their life, always to make tomorrow better than yesterday 🤗

[@amongus6593]

Hello, thank you for your words ❤! 8:30 it happened to my previous relationship, and you just opened my eyes 8 months later... Me and my ex gf used to say " together we are one" (bla bla that type of things), but in reality we must be ourselves alone, and what you said was exactly what happened, we ended by no cheating, no nothing... and thinking back, for the past months i have been focusing more on my self and doing more "challenges" then i was doing back in the relationship, and I realized it didnt go well also because i was focusing too much in the relationship and not in me.. I lost my self to it. I hope my next relationship will be better cause I also feel way more mature :)

[@shrimalidevashish56]

Bro I shed tears when I heard someone else is also going through the same.. I am in a quarrel phase with my girlfriend right now and its about she seeing her career in a field that might not turn out to be productive.. she is being emotional watching some movies.. Even tho I question my career having more experience than her I explain. But I have anyways let her choose for herself what she thinks is right.. all I ever want is her happiness.. Today itself I looked at a kid in school bus and felt like I should have been a teacher in school rather than my current IT job but everyone has a different theory on how to make tomorrow better.. HENS is so crucial and basic yet people miss out.. I was yesterday thinking the same that I need to run as fast as I could once again and u stole my words.. Thank you for this.. God bless you and ur relationship..

[@daltonchildress1641]

Love this man. I haven’t ever put it in words like that but I’ve “lived for tomorrow” for years at work. Planning many things, prepping for the next day, etc. but I’ve never done it for myself. My next day’s schedule, my future health, etc I just haven’t focused on me like that. This video opened up my mind to it and I will definitely start to focus on my near future self. Appreciate you brother

[@jesseloubilandal3578]

I barely do agree in everything you said here. This is so timely specially on the practicality of every couple. ❤

[@diego_t_sanchez]

You know I enjoyed your TikTok’s and just the way you put yourself out there. We struggle to believe in ourselves but we never struggle to believe in others and I wish I had the same belief in others to believe in my self. I’ve always been afraid of change and growing up I realize that I am not the only person that feels that way but it’s not a bad thing, we just need to give ourselves a little push and say "you can do it, you got this, I know you can, I believe in you". The people you love will never give up on you, so you owe it to yourself not to give up on yourself. Live, change, adapt and smile.

[@jonathansalazar7321]

I think the idea of loving what others are doing that you can’t never really clicked with me. I have always supported my friends and loved ones ofc but I never really thought about it deeply but I feel like after this I’m a bit more in tune with myself. Appreciate the video man!!❤

[@aathiranair6428]

This is not just for life partner but tough love is for anyone we love and i feel this is really important and your video came in just at the right time....🥺🩷Thank you Joey!

[@joeykidney]

Absolutely! I really only put it in the title because it was honestly a conversation I had with my partner haha

[@sahithyamarkonda2305]

Wow, this conversation was on point. We often forget that in relationships, staying true to ourselves matters just as much. Living for tomorrow and encouraging each other’s growth is so valuable. Thanks for bringing this perspective; it’s refreshing and so needed! Man!!!!!! Ur video is so thought provoking.....✊🏼

[@marinaginther]

I'm older now so my struggle is always getting ahead and wanting to do better. I will do something but my focus changes the minute I am finished. I'm learning to do things for my joy and not just create for others. A child creates what makes them happy and then the world loves it. I want to find beauty in making myself better and being proud of my growth rather than the value of that growth. 💙

[@AmandaFernandes1990]

Thanks for starting the conversation on tough love ❤ We don’t always take even the tiniest moment to do something that we love but somehow drown ourselves in a mindless void for hours and hours. Thank you for reminding me to stop and take a minute for myself

[@fabienneinauen9607]

I love that you are transparent and show us what could be a solution you help me in so many ways ways thank you for that🥰 i love to listen to you😊🙃

[@Hollymodz]

this video makes me feel like i'm hanging out with my friend, the truths that we all need to hear and remember

[@Lewis-s6g]

I love the way you think, i’m still in my youth and you’ve made me realise i need to start living to move on with my life otherwise i’m wasting these opportunities that are around me but i’ve been too blind to see them.

[@ili8332]

I really admire your wisdom and mental flexibility, I really learned a lot from this video and I felt understood. Thank you for sharing these insightful thoughts with the world.

[@mirandaalexis]

i agree with having tough love conversations to save relationships bc its impossible to agree on everything or eevrything to perfect the longer you've been with someone so you're gonna have to have tough conversations

[@EloraOades]

As someone who’s had anxiety my whole life, I hear you on the “I don’t need techniques for panic attacks, I need the anxiety to go away”. For me, what’s helped reduce my anxiety was knowing that I could trust myself to get through whatever was going to happen, rather than knowing that nothing bad was going to happen. Almost like recognizing that I can tolerate my own feelings made the outcomes feel safe, you know? (that and meds 🎉)

[@joeykidney]

I love that! Trust yourself to get through it I absolutely agree with you, remembering that you can make it through is a huge strength. Really breaking it down into simple tasks that you can do before and after anxiety attacks could help a lot as well

[@EloraOades]

@@joeykidneywe got this 🫶🏼

[@parastujazz1633]

This is the first vid I saw on this channel and I loved it cause its so relatable I've been wanting to start drawing for the past 3 years and I think I only draw like 6. I've been wanting to start playing the piano again and it's been 6 7 years and I haven't even tried for a week straight ,wanting to build the "ideal body" by the age of 21 an 22 and now I'm 24 in a month and I steal haven't lost the last 15 pounds. I feel like I have failed myself way too much that I don't believe myself anymore and I've been too stressed to challenge myself cause I'm afraid to fail again.but I think that overthinking about it just makes it worse and you just have to do what you wanted to do all this time.

[@VictoriaB-o2n]

Can you do a sit down video on grief? I can really relate cause I’ve lost someone who I’ve really loved and it would really help. Love your videos btw. 💕💕💕

[@fadwazlitni1717]

I’ve been single my whole life and I just turned 30! Yet I really enjoy your experiences and the way you’re telling stories is so inspiring and so much exciting. Keep sharing this kind of content. Thank you.

[@joeykidney]

Being single is absolutely more than okay :) you can still have so much love in your life with friends and family and partners. I appreciate you being here

[@kirinocute376]

I really appreciate that decided to share it with us

[@ruienteo6226]

I understand. I love it. Thank you for saying it. #stayyou

[@joeykidney]

thanks for being here

[@inesborges3827]

This is amazing! Thank you for making the difference and being open about topics that society avoids talking 🙏🏻✨️

[@joannaestrabillo2551]

Im also 28 i dont know if this video would have made sense last year when i was 26-27 yrs old. But im so glad im able to watch it today. Wow.

[@sonsvdl4344]

Tough love I never got to have a talk like this to anyone because I always kinda got a one sided love, or I love to much and rely on them to much. So I kinda learned to love myself and focus on myself even tho It is not easy But thank you Joey for your video's and motivation✨❤

[@Theconman_123]

Thank you Joey. I'm truly grateful. ❤

[@yamithealchemista]

I really needed to watch this,and I loved the part where u said ,shut up and go try❤ So am gonna try,again...🌿

[@abbiehawke323]

i love this idea because we are all of our past versions too. Good and Bad. i think that would be a good way for my husband and i to heal our inner child too

[@joeykidney]

absolutely love that

[@penstoriesoftimbidang2890]

I love this format❤❤❤❤

[@Spiderlilly4]

How can you be the best you are if you don't understand who are you sometimes we need to distance ourselves from everything to see clearly so before going into deep conversations with others about their lives before fixing other's problems we gotta fix ours we gotta heal our selves and try again to be crazy a little bit to run play let our inner selves out even if we have responsibilities as in family work or anything we gotta understand our own soul thank you for sharing this video I hope it gets a lot of people attention so much love hope y'all have a great day or night ♡

[@joeykidney]

you take it step by step and day by day. and you start filling your days with things that make you feel whole, not things that just please others.

[@bhoovichauhan8493]

There's this thing Will Smith said : I am responsible for my own happiness and my partner is responsible for her own happiness and in a relationship, we come together to share our happiness. That doesn't make us responsible for each other's happiness" and it is very necessary to realise that. We often lose our own identity when living with someone else and this is the reason you feel like one is giving more to the relationship and it's not working out. You need to be your own person and so does your partner. You both share a part of your life together. And you should pursue your own hobbies. Talking about the stress and anxiety, I think it's just a part of life. There are always uncertainties and fears. The key is to not let it take control, to always remember everything is an aspect of life - job is a part of life not your entire identity, relationship is a part of life, not your entire life. This way, when one or a few parts of your life aren't going well, you won't loose interest in living cause only a part of your life is affected. You still have other things to live for. When you understand the core of this belief, you can start to realise the power one's own mind holds on their emotions.

[@aprilmiguel5760]

This made me raise my standards for both myself and any future significant other

[@vivianpham892]

I literally had this talk with my boyfriend this week. he expressed that he was scared and worried for me because he saw that I wasn’t doing all the things I claimed to love anymore but instead I’ve replaced all of it with just being in his company and that puts like an unintentional burden on him on trying to keep me entertained in a way which I feel bad for I don’t want to make him feel like he has to do that. Instead of really taking it in and really considering it I acted out emotionally and said he was attacking me and basically made a bunch of excuses. I mean for some of the things it a hard cuz it’s true like money and time. But Ive been in a mental hole and I just don’t have energy to do anything right now but after a couple days later. I talked to my therapist some friends and my mom about it and he’s right. I told him I would try to get back into it and that I was sorry but it’s so exhausting…. I’m so tired of trying to find the enjoyment of life I’m just here to be here right now… sigh

[@hassansesay4093]

Enjoyed this! Thanks!🤍🫶🏾

[@cool90abhi]

I've been single my whole life and I'll turn 35. I enjoy your videos a lot.... Keep it up.

[@kalea24]

We can't embrace what the future has for us if we’re too busy clinging onto the past. People waste too much time wondering what could have been that they stunt their own progress to be and have something better...

[@annatosca8969]

thanks for sharing this with us♥️

[@joeykidney]

thank you for taking the time to watch it

[@balazsbalog6784]

I know it's a long shot, but you should try to do a video with Chris Williamson. I think that would be awesome. I love all your content.

[@joeykidney]

That would be a dream

[@balazsbalog6784]

@@joeykidney I'm from Hungary and it's so sad that your hoodies are really pricey to ship here. However next year for my birthday I'm going to order

[@Khushiidalal]

Ohh my god joey your voice is so therapeutic. You should start podcast or something Bty nice video though 💙💙

[@joeykidney]

thank you! I have had a podcast for 7 years, I have just taken a little break this year to try and revamp it

[@Khushiidalal]

What's it called ?? It it on youtube??

[@rodrigodenigris6778]

2:46 I understand the idea of prioritizing your personal care as a means to get rid of anxiety. But Im curious what your thoughts are about dealing with the anxiety we create in our own minds regarding external sources. For example a breakup from the person you thought was the one. That creates a lot of anxiety that even when taking care of yourself, you still fall into the “mind traps” of anxiety. In those events, is there a mechanism you use to deal with that anxiety or is it just “get it out of your mind and keep moving forward”?

[@joeykidney]

For me personally, I think reframing how I think about it is better. Instead of me beating myself up for feeling anxious because I miss someone, acknowledge that. I try my best to think about it is a logical way, they left, i miss them, i feel anxious in situations where they used to be. It stops it from being this unknown and allows me to be present with the thought that I know why i am anxious, and that is okay

[@baelsabirusbilalsabir2256]

I have always been overthinking my relationships since I’ve always feared what others felt , like it’s nothing wrong but I felt like I wasn’t equal to them where they are above me in which when I beat my self up when I do any little mistake, Its like I’m worried of what my reputation will be for my partner once they might talk about me to others

[@cameronelizabeth7665]

Jesus loves you 😁✝️🫶🏻

[@ElenaMuntean-ct6un]

Yes, but what about the "getting tired" part? When you go hard on yourself everyday to become a better person, when you do countless activities just to push forward and then you just stop. And you start doom scrooling because you feel like that is the only tiny bit of time you get on your hands to just breathe. I feel like that most of the time, not gonna lie. I mostly fight with this "revenge procrastiantion time" in order to feel like I have some time for myself. I know it is not good for me, but what do I need to actively do in order to get better and feel that I am truly living my life? Not just working for a better tomorrow that seems to never come.

[@Khushiidalal]

Plz share your podcast link ,i can't kind it.

[@joeykidney]

The Happy Times with Joey Kidney (it's in the description of this video)

[@Shadow09134]

Me and my ex broke up last Tuesday, me and her were the perfect couple, and I’m just list before I start, I’ll let everybody know that she’s bisexual. She’s dated guys and girls before her longest relationship was with a girl, 2 weeks ago she was at softball practice, she said she couldn’t control her to be around her lesbian teammate, so then we talked about it and then she was like I don’t know if I’m lesbian or what’s going on so then we are doing research everything like that and she still bought but she’s preferring girls right now and everything like that so we broke up because she didn’t wanna find out she’s lesbian and break my heart even more, She was caring she was sweet. She would always reassure me because I’m a big Overthinker and a big person and I always send her paragraphs during our relationship and so we broke up. I sent her a long big of everything and the other day I fucked up and sent her a paragraph talking about a relationship and was using text to speech so just rambling and I said I love you and then she was like if I lose because we’re friends, this isn’t healthy for you and so she said what do I have to do to make you hate me and I said there’s nothing that you could do to make me hate you, And then I said some things and then I said if you wanna go, no contact should be the hardest thing in my life, but I will do it for we both can heal and today is the first day, and it’s really hard already, it really sucks that I’m not gonna be in her life for a little bit until we both heal it really does. I just want what’s best for us and that means we contact for a bit and that’s the best.

[@aseeshera5998]

Small actions make the bigger picture.

[@joeykidney]

Preach

[@catheriner6675]

I love your content but on your website one of the books is 35$ USD *save 40$* so is that an anchor price or is your book 75$? I know you probably have mostly good intentions but it’s a bit upsetting to see that as a supporter who would potentially purchase it.

[@joeykidney]

That’s because it’s $35 for a *dedicated version* The dedicated version of my book is MSRP at $75 because I sign and dedicate each one by hand and we ship books back and forth to do this, and the sale price is $34.99 (from $75), which I think is a fair price

[@Reputation-xf1pw]

@joeykidney I have an attraction to male feet. I don't know what it means? It causes me a lot of anxiety.

[@laxmandhaware3195]

Hey are u okya why look so sick please take yourslef more care men ❤

[@joeykidney]

i am doing amazing :) thanks for asking

[@Num_nums]

First🥹❤

[@missamycarnes4316]

I’ve been watching you for forever now, and I’m still obsessed. Thank you for sharing and always being open and vulnerable with us🤎