Why Being Around an INFJ is Like Being on Drugs

[@missredumbrella]

being a infj is hard ,, strangers can talk to me for hours but i find it so difficult to make friends as most are so fake

[@CommodoreVic20]

This

[@BrittanyLynneHarrington]

You are SO RIGHT! After my own heart - trust me, I feel for you!

[@UTWREC4LL]

So true. I also find it funny with other types try to force their whim on people (ExxJs) because it's so overtly rude for no reason.

[@christine-kht]

Pro tip - be relentlessly honest and authentic yourself even if you don't always please everyone. You allow yourself to swear once a while? Say inappropriate but funny things, go ahead. You tell people in their face whats wrong respectfully but without sugarcoating- yes. The more authentic and approachable you are you'll find other people to dare to reveal most of themselves too. The veils will fall quite quickly as others feel in equal company. Trying to please people will always end in fakeness. Be who you truly are without dramatising it in a negative way.

[@SpammingY]

*YES YES YES YES YES.* This right here. Not gonna lie, I thought I was kinda alone in that. People gravitate towards me, but most aren't really my friends. Friendly terms, yes, but not true, honest to goodness friends that I'll go out of my way to spend time with. I'm so glad I'm not the only one. This is a benefit of the internet.

[@chrisstahl2653]

We aren't like the red pill from the Matrix. We are more like Kassandra from the Iliad. We keep telling people what is going to go wrong, but no one believes us until it's too late.

[@priabaruah]

I've used this Cassandra reference sometime back in one of my poems. :3 So, I can relate. Slowly letting go of needing to be accepted in one way or another while unleashing the magic of my being...It can be challenging at times but it's also fun if I can continue to let go and accept my quirks and truth. Etcetera. 💌🥲🎁

[@websurfer5772]

This is so true. And if you've got a lot of Pisces, or 12th house involvement, they might throw you in prison like they did her.

[@TheTrueNoFear]

This a thousand times this!

[@radioestensione]

That’s the point of my entire life.

[@JESUSCHRISTisGODHOLYSPIRIT]

Same shit..

[@ChimChim_1395]

The worst thing probably is being an infj is a sponge. Absorbing people's energies.. both good and bad, which is why being around the right people who healed me is really important

[@fluose]

protect your energy at all cost.

[@robinadair8918]

I highly recommend Dr. Judith Orloff books and her work. The Empaths Survival Guide and Thriving as an Empath are great books for getting started. She gives excellent strategies for protecting your energy and not absorbing energy from others. Best wishes.

[@cameronknox7567]

Didn't know the spunge bit, though that would explain why sometimes I would feel like I was drunk, granted I had never drank anything yet but looking back yeah, felt like I was drunk when around other people, and got into some trouble from that, had no idea what the hell was going on so I just went and hid for a while afterwards.

[@MayvenFunk]

You are anti-seductive. Go away.

[@r12-z1v]

It is also important for INFJs to know that we can be wrong. We may see a future or have a vision, but we might be the deluded ones in some cases. We should not get caught up in the INFJ hype. We are still just human, like everyone else, and can make mistakes. Be authentic, but be humble.

[@Juna_1771]

Good point!

[@Luckypeach237]

❤

[@IslaTsae]

[@nicolemccall4568]

This definitely should be pinned as the top comment

[@airam-sj2172]

Totally agree. We are just humans with different brain wires. I can't stand biased INFJ channels.

[@michaeljode4350]

Every single woman who broke up with me or I broke up with has come back eventually wanting me to be friends. We're different, people notice that.

[@hshfyugaewfjkKS]

Same. Except they want to get back together dating.

[@gigigogo41]

We Infj want to help people better themselves...we "Say hints" like Saints. 😇

[@GoWithDaFlowMo]

Yeppp... They wanna be friends or friends with benefits or restart a relationship or whatever... But they always come back..... 🥴

[@lextor4712]

​@@granthutchins2016 agape = unconditional love philia = love for your brothers and sisters eros = romantic love

[@skipskiperton4992]

yes, I have had that experience....

[@bumblebee_ms]

I wish I didn't do this to people, it's scary. I see demons in people. When I see the specific smirk, I know who I'm dealing with.

[@websurfer5772]

OMG. You're forcing me to see it too right now in some people who are important in my life.

[@bumblebee_ms]

@@websurfer5772 I'm sorry. I hate that I see it too. Especially when I see their eyes go dark, that is even scarier. Maybe be careful what you say and do around those who have these qualities.

[@websurfer5772]

@@bumblebee_ms Good advice. Thank you. 🌼

[@bumblebee_ms]

@@websurfer5772 My pleasure. Best of luck.

[@Kamaya-gn8pf]

💯

[@dmoon6137]

This video should have a warning label for INFJs.

[@animegirl2682]

I agree, I got slapped with the truth

[@callen8908]

A difference I’ve felt is that while other people might be ashamed or terrified by their flaws and insecurities, I own mine, and I work to address them over time

[@Chill-mm4pn]

❤💯👏🏿

[@Melody-098]

Same here

[@BeingArtful]

Yes

[@bennyton2560]

We can always improve. Growth mindset is great

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

Hehehhe, aint no worse critic than ourselves 😂 If someone would try to hurt us and make us feel small and such, we would be immune 🤭 we know exactly where it hurts and we overcriticize ourselves everyday 😁

[@khecidsdragons7777]

I’m an INFJ and a behavior analyst, and this is my WHOLE career.

[@empathicgem7208]

What a cool career.

[@hannahbeckington]

This is my dream career as an INFJ

[@Devi_Seona]

Behavior analyst? Is this an invented profession for the people who wouldn’t want to study years to become a real psychologist?

[@hannahbeckington]

@@Devi_Seona you seem miserable

[@roroxoxo9849]

​@@Devi_Seonathey often are psychologists or orthopedagogues.

[@jolindablackman-theodora1832]

This was the exact reason I had to do a major "social cleanup" and confront friends and family that were enjoying the benefits of me being an infj, but didn't want the whole complete me. This guy was explaining exactly my last friendship. I stopped being myself completely and felt like I only lived to make the people around me happy. Confronting them about this realy weeded out the ones that wanted the complete authentic me and the selfish ones who were using my helping nature. I have never been happier then how I feel now.

[@dually81]

You're far more mature than I, for me it's usually only two speeds: continue people pleasing or door slam... nothing really in between.

[@Defaulted123]

​@@dually81It will come. When time passes and your boundaries are getting pushed too far, you will find energy like Jolinda to free your self. But at first: Know thy self.

[@dually81]

@@Defaulted123 Thank you 🙏🏾 I'm only comfortable expressing myself and being vulnerable in INFJ spaces.

[@Defaulted123]

@@dually81 I know. Seek out for Sensors and learn from them. If they are to be trusted, you can gain competence in physical approaches while being introverted, which is very attractive to women by the way. That's how your tendencies as INFJ in being helpful and responsable can thrive amongst others very well without being misjudged.

[@dually81]

@@Defaulted123 Definitely For me, there is nothing better than being understood. We go through life usually being the most aware person in the room, so it's almost a relief when the tables are turned and a woman can "read me" and see through the chameleon mask. I play a good introvert, but the battery gets depleted quickly.

[@laurieleacobb]

I serve as a mirror for others in most cases. There’s always a wide array of reactions to this. Most people don’t want the truth about themselves.

[@Kamaya-gn8pf]

💯

[@pagardener2953]

Right, careful who you hold the mirror up for. Retaliation can sting!

[@laurieleacobb]

@@pagardener2953 retaliation doesn’t scare me. Their reactions are entirely their problem.

[@mart-greciaOdalyz]

INDEED!

[@demeve1]

Yeah, you INFJs mirror others all the time, and me, ENFP notice it (and I know some other ENFPs, the can see it too) in seconds, and I think to myself ‘Hey, why do you mirror me? It’s so childish. Don’t you have your own personalty? Or… maybe you just need a safe place to show your authentic yourself. Ok, I’m gonna give you a true, loving hug.’ And I do, and you run away with anger. True story, happend once in a while, until I started ignoring INFJs - and what happened? They started showing their ‘I really need help’ self, and I still can’t decide wether it is something they think I need or it is their own self.

[@lauramc4fun]

I'm an INFJ with an INFJ friend and i can tell you that when i talk to him, i know he's going to figure me out. It's scary, but also freeing. We need people like us too sometimes. I provide the same for him. If he talks to me about something, he knows I'll get to the heart of it.

[@KeepRolling1000]

I know you feel.

[@nahoooli]

Yea that sounds scary - i dont think i ever met another one. Id rather stay my mysterious introverted self without that kind of intrusion, even if its harmless, lacking ill intent, and meant to be helpful. Atleast not regularly.

[@lauramc4fun]

@@nahoooli I can understand that. 😂

[@mart-greciaOdalyz]

I have recently met another INFJ person. At first, I couldn't believe he would be one, for so often I've been disappointed. I have this frown mark on my brown, for I am always hoping there are others like us. But this person is proving himself, and I feel relieved. I feel less and less the scar of the frown on my brow, because he makes me smile.

[@lauramc4fun]

@@mart-greciaOdalyz it's always a blessing to find others like us.

[@ac3414]

I consulted for a company recently. They wanted a quick fix for something they had been doing incorrectly for at least 4 years. I first wanted to understand their needs and why they did things the way they did. 2 hours into collecting data and 1 hour speaking to them. I reported back to my boss what they needed and a plan. My boss was delighted at my work. The clients were not. They did not want to see how the handling of their business had lead them to where they were. They did not want to change those patterns. They expressed their annoyance at my "not showing them how" to fix it. Unfortunately, this is more often than not my interaction with most people. They do not want to look. They'd rather stay in ignorance than change. People do not want to hear me. ~Infj

[@susmateja]

Very relatable!!

[@patrickglaser1560]

I easily point out stupid... and shocked Pikachu is always the reaction

[@websurfer5772]

Ever watch those Business Rescue reality shows? Nine times out of ten, the boss/owner doesn't have good boundaries and isn't enforcing them on their employees. The boss/owner also needs to give more direction, rules to follow, and they need to give more power to their managers to correct employees, hire, and fire. And the bar owners need to stop drinking. (Boundaries on Self.) Is it like that?

[@ac3414]

@@patrickglaser1560 Sometimes they surprise me with a shocked Baby Yoda.

[@ac3414]

@@websurfer5772 Yes. The mentality needs to shift but very few are prepared to do that.

[@imnoel8214]

Most people don't like truth tellers. It really stinks having to hide who I am and dampen my abilities at work. It's a tricky thing to figure out just how much of myself I can let show to both maintain my mental health and keep the paychecks coming in.

[@kencornwell]

I can relate to that. But I am not going to stop telling them the truth. If they can't take it then it is their problem not mine.

[@INFJcircle]

You know, the problem with hiding away the truth or softening it too much is that it doesn’t work. I’ve done this many times in my life, and it always ends up in a disaster. So, my conclusion from literally years of research is to be humbly yourself. this means telling your truth, and not forcing anything on anyone. So I say, go with the truth, but with a lot of kindness and humility. One example I think of is with things I like, or don’t like. If someone likes something I try to relate to them on it, but now I’ve started to tell them you know, I’m not really that interested in that subject. maybe I won’t be able to talk to them about bass fishing or whatever it is, they like, but at least they won’t ask me to go fishing with them either. lol! As for the abilities, they will creep out just enough to make everyone dislike you anyway if they’re that type of person. So be humble, but go ahead and show your abilities in my opinion. Jay Jay

[@lextor4712]

​@@INFJcircleWell, if you ever thought people hate liars try telling the truth. "Most people are not just comfortable in their ignorance, but hostile to anyone who points it out." ~ Plato

[@spmoran4703]

When one tells the truth . Then be prepared to lose friends . But, were they friends in the first place .

[@Chill-mm4pn]

Using tact when communicating the truth I find to be the most effective way. Also how people react to you telling them the truth is on them. The truth simply is as it is.

[@language4today295]

hat's why INFJ is constantly trying to live quietly with just a few close friends while in reality people are drawn to them once they got to know them. So INFJ often gets surprised that they are quite popular more than they think they are.

[@100bl]

The mirror the subconscious perception… learning things everyday.. knowing your boundaries things calm . Off & on interest then watching videos like this then you start realizing & things make sense again. Great video 🤘INFJ-A

[@INFJcircle]

Thanks so much, appreciate the comment! Jay

[@teresacarle294]

​​@@INFJcircle 😊Yes, videos like this bring so much relief after feeling so misunderstood. I am an INTJ that morphed into an INFJ later in life. Perhaps I was always on the line between them. I have read that's possible. All I knew is that I grew up in such an emotionally chaotic environment, that I valued thinking & logic over emotions. Always been classified as "too sensitive" according to others. Honestly that became such a point of shame. I unknowingly soaked up all this energy around me too. I 💯% trusted my intuition over that mercurial inner barometer. That Introverted feeling had me safely focusing a lot on my personal values. It was also about how I wanted to be treated & also to treat others. Great at being an admin asst. Steller at planning & organization, but the component I liked most was taking care of my boss. Later, the "advocate & mediator" function slowly started to emerge & take dominance. I was in this accountability group w/two outstanding women that blew up in my face. I was sincere in my efforts for growth, but perhaps not as forthcoming as them. I explained that I usually agreed in my head w/them, but I must not have spoken that aloud. Anyway, one of them accused me of being competitive & the other jumped in agreement. I certainly am, but that's mostly centered on myself. 😉As a "recovering" perfectionist, it wasn't enough to get the "A". I needed the A+. I practically wanted to kill myself over my only "C" in college. An upper division Geography course on Russia〰️it was glaringly outside my Sociology major. Going back to my story, they shockingly accused me of female rivalry. WTH? These were accomplished & remarkable women. My mean girl phase was long I took a test on spiritual gifts in order to help understand where I might fit best as a volunteer in church. Mercy was the top. Teaching & Exhortation were tied next. Great at one-on-one teaching, but only effective in a classroom setting where the students actually want to learn & respect the process. Happily nannied infants/toddlers, but grade school kids could walk all over me. I had zero authority w/them. The prospect of teaching theology was quite intimidating. Mercy was also quite scary. It's one thing to make a casserole for a grieving family or do another act of service for someone in need. Seeing people suffer is so impossibly hard. I can hardly show compassion or encouragement when I am caught up in excess emotion. Of the 3, I identified w/Exhortation. I felt like I was organically developing into an encourager & cheerleader. I was It's been later in life that I started to become aware of the Extroverted Feeling function started to be more dominant. Complete strangers started to pour out their woes

[@Nix_Ulysses]

Why are some people obssessed with us but wont approach us ?

[@lextor4712]

Cuz you're freaking intimidating to them. You unmask them and see them for who they really are.

[@tiagonthego]

@@lextor4712or you may just not seem friendly.

[@shedeeforreal]

They also don’t appreciate as much either

[@UniqueGeekFreak]

Ppl like predictability, it creates safety for them bring in control of how ppl might be. They can't read or control us, (usually) and that is VERY risky for them, being in the unknown. Also ppl like to be lied to , as long as it makes them feel good...they like to be BS:ed, because that’s all they know, and that’s what they do as well, BS others When they see a truthful almost transparent person, it creates fear in them because it is never seen or heard of & again it's unknown territory. They want to know what's coming. They are obsessed with us, because we acknowledge them & see them & listen to them. Ppl don't feel seen, heard or understood, that’s why they get an obsession with us, because they want to be saved or feel good about themselves again

[@OLive-md2qr]

Don’t delude yourself, you are not that important.

[@andreasophia7764]

thats why eyeryone hates us until they come back ten years later

[@mushaboom44]

So true! They always come back.

[@WanderingxStars]

THIS!

[@ophilianecr]

😂. Im currently in a situation where one person (ex) both hates me and fights me on everything but will continuously want to hang out. I want none of it. I figured out the manipulation and I admit, I've been brazen in my scathing approach to holding up the mirror. Why he keeps coming back for more of it, is beyond me🤦🏻‍♀️😂 But he's not the first who does

[@bLackmarketRadio]

They always come back.

[@andreasophia7764]

@@ophilianecr we show people things about themselves, if they have a big ego they run, but some want to learn, then it feels like were a therapist. both is a weird role sometimes.

[@cherylberk4593]

A million thanks for this video. If you never watched another video on INFJ this one sums it up completely, honestly. I could never understand why people so over reacted to me. I am an attractive, mannerly, kind person. Too often an inocuous comment would upset someone for no reason, even a compliment can be mis-construed. people didnt seem to have a problem criticizing me about everything. By the Grace of God, I found my calling as an international consultant and forensic accountant. It took a while but I found people who wanted, needed Truth and were willing to pay for it! You are so correct in your assessment. You have to eliminate all the naysayers from your life, because there is a whole world of folks who value your trustwothiness, straight constructive thought for making things better, deep analytical abilities. Be your self, be kind,, realize you have been given a gift, even if it sometimes feels like a curse. God bless❤️

[@beckyb1797]

I’m so glad you commented the part where you said, “people didn’t seem to have a problem criticizing me about everything “ yes I know that oh so well! I wonder what we put out into the world that people think they can do that to us? But I do try to warn people about that because when I finally do snap you might have to commit yourself to some kind of therapy afterwards. Also I totally resonate when you said our personality feels like a curse! I’ve said that so many times! 😂😂 also may I ask…what is a forensic accountant and international consultant? 😊

[@INFJcircle]

Great comment, you’re very welcome for the video. I’m glad you found your calling giving out truth. yes, just being ourselves causes an intense reaction from some people. I agree it’s a gift that sometimes feels like a curse, thanks for your insight! Jay

[@brendamarie7241]

I so resonate with your story. I retired 5 years ago from IT consulting and now a corporate leadership coach, for fun. At 70 I now really have less patience for people latching on to me and not being accountable for their life. If you come to me for help and continue to do the same things over and over, you will lose me and my support. On the other hand, I have clients that have been with me for 3 years, who do the work and have become the best of who they are and better people overall. It frightens me at times that they have become addicted to me and maybe challenged to let me go. I feel the gift I have been given is to really see who they are and give them permission to show up and fully live their lives, putting boundaries in place to no longer be taken advantage of.

[@TeaRose9]

@@beckyb1797same for me , I’ve always noticed that people have no problem at all giving me criticism. They would be offended if I give that back to them.

[@organizedceo]

I’ve also done forensic accounting and operations consulting. I pretty much fell in to forensic accounting because I had operations clients that had embezzlement and didn’t know it. It was a wild time with clients and the criminals that worked for them.

[@kiawalker6203]

So true! And it's hard to stay around people who don't want to wake up

[@daydreamer_asmr]

damn you hit the nail right on the head deadcenter. only an INFJ can understand an INFJ - thank you.

[@somethingbambi875]

I know an iNFJ and we can't get each other on a deep level, she is so closed off, very easy going on the surface... have a hard time really believe she is Infj? 😮

[@self-care_warrior]

Being an infj without the knowledge and tools to understand and have compassion for myself caused me to attract very dangerous people who caused me a world of pain. I'm thankful for the knowledge I have now but still trying to heal from intense shame. I'm no longer gullible and I no longer assume people have good intentions which is good but I'm a bit resentful for being this personality type.

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

That’s a hard thing to realize. I’m not an INFJ , but I had a very close INFJ friend who didn’t realize this until he shoved away the group of us that actually cared about him… I think it truly hurt him and us all . I’m not sure if he’s figured it out yet because he’s not reached out to anybody . The hard thing was one of those people who was treating him extremely poorly with his own wife… she was awful to him in front of people and behind his back. He ended up cutting off a group of people that were truly looking out for him and making sure he was doing OK.. just wanting all of his INFJ gifts and his kindness and servitude at his expense. In the end , he blamed me for what other people were doing and kept them with him instead of seeing what actually was going on… even worse I got to hear the rumors was awful. People spread to undermine his opinion of me. Trying to be a friend and understood him I could tell he had not experienced very often: Someone genuinely caring about his state and what he needed, his interests and desires and thoughts. I guess those people I was dangerous because I was waking up this INFJ just by being a friend and caring… He started seeing the toxicity around him and started challenging those people, but they destroyed the whole social group before he could kick any of them out and for some reason whatever they said to him caused him to believe that I and others were the ones that needed to be removed.

[@cristinaapas1625]

Im too late😢 but here i am im trying to get up😊

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

I am so sorry, you sweet little soul 🥺 i hope things will get better, sending you hugs 🤗

[@gayathridevi4069]

Same here. Today I too Was scared whether there are people like this in this earth. But I wanna tell you,there are good people out there. Be happy. You deserve to feel safety and peace. It's gonna be alright.

[@RM-gp4ur]

Bless you. I've been there. THE most healing thing for me (apart from self awareness and acceptance) was letting go of that quite natural resentment and releasing FOREGIVENESS! I forgive them (because their behavior Requires forgiveness!), I forgive myself, and I forgive the circumstances and my ignorance. Total forgiveness does not vaildate their treatment of me - it simply frees me from all soul ties!!!! :) Now, and only now, do I have the healthy balance necessary to navigate more healthy relationships. And yes, IN types - with good character - are always a good bet for INFJ friendships! :) My best friend is a very wise INTP. She almost functions like an INTJ, but the difference is her extreme creativity and reaching outward to try, learn, do, and get it better. :) I recommend not stressing over exactly what personality type, however, as knowing someone's character is vastly more significant. The rest will fall into place naturally from there.

[@christiridley1009]

Thanks Jay! You have found your true calling by helping other INFJs embrace their true nature. I am so grateful.

[@INFJcircle]

I appreciate that and appreciate your donation as well. Thank you so much! 🙏 Jay

[@triplejmom7826]

We also create a feeling of safeness & for those who are going through things the feeling is intoxicating & sometimes create limerence. Some can feel a connection due to our ability to mirror them. But when we show them their true selves many can’t handle it & ghost us 😢 or when we feel we can be ourselves around them that’s when we learn if they’re really our friends or just like how we make them feel. 😢

[@sarahmoeller7578]

Maybe this is why my friends disappear

[@triplejmom7826]

@@sarahmoeller7578 if so then they were never your friends to begin with. Infjs tend to have very few friends. I’m fine with it. I’ve learned to be careful who inlet in & not to get my hopes up or to think we’re friends until time has passed & they’ve slowly gotten to know me. It’s a painful reality, but I do hope you have at least one friend who has proven themselves over time. If so cherish them. They are worth more than gold. ❤️‍🩹

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

Sadly, I didn’t ghost him, he ghosted me. I truly cared and was not shocked or scared by his authentic self, but he chose the toxic people destroying him and treating him poorly over someone who genuinely cared for him. I was interested in who he really was and not just what he could do for others. … It really sucked when he believed the lies of the others that were around him who I could tell did not care at all about him and just what they could get out of him- including his wife. he chose all of them over the group of friends that truly wanted to be there for him and understand him. It’s so sad . I truly deeply cared about him as a person and it still sucks a year and a half later …

[@Saturdays.Script]

I really relate to this.

[@pretzelschannel6595]

My friend always makes me feel significant. I'm so glad that she is kind to me; not just because she is an INFJ, but because she is truly kind-hearted. I feel so happy, I am happy to have her.

[@lifenotbills]

I’ve changed several peoples lives, significantly, through conversation. They’ve told me so later. It’s helpful to know that I have a tribe and am not just a weirdo.

[@Mr.Phoreskin]

I wish I could articulate these ideas as well as you. Thank you for this service.

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you my friend! I appreciate you :) Jay

[@susanfox-mx3nv]

I have read more INFJ posts then I can count. This is the best because you are looking at this rare type from a different angle, like you're hanging from your knees and swinging. I was well into adulthood when I learned about the MBTI in a psyc. class. My heart raced, and I wanted to jump and run in circles. Something had explained my weird-oh-ness. I am happy for my younger INFJ bros and sisters. The earlier you hear about this stuff the more it can help.

[@INFJcircle]

Totally agree, the earlier the better. Thank you so much I appreciate your comment! Jay

[@ronaldviens7862]

Statistically speaking, INFJs comprise 2% of the population according to the classification people. That many sparks of interest confide in you, it's going to show eventually . So, what is it about you that affects some people so? Im not interested in using your vulnerability and I don't bite (all the time).

[@Kcali111]

The accuracy of this video is uncanny ❤

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you! Jay

[@Defaulted123]

This uncannyness of this accuracy is also a video!

[@Kcali111]

​@@INFJcircle❤

[@blinkteam9519]

Now i understand why people get attracted towards me like even some random strangers. They always try to talk to me and a lot of people just look at me like i am a some kind of interesting person or something. I always felt like am i an alien because of the huge amount of affection that i got from people but now i understood why all this happens 😅

[@DoriaWare]

I've has people say that they have a renewed confidence in themselves after spending time with me

[@tiagonthego]

That’s such a good thing!!

[@user-sh9pl1sx2m]

Beautiful

[@blackroze1980]

Yeah...I renewed my partner's confidence so much that he left me for "taller and prettier".

[@Water_is_Sacred777]

I can so relate to this. Try being ASD L1 on top of INFJ. That's my life. Consequently I need lots of alone time and space. I stay single because of it as well. But I'm also a spiritual person so I know I'm not really alone and I'm pretty content in my life though it's not easy sometimes. Right now I am experiencing Autistic burnout so I'm laying real low. I like what Drew Barrymore calls herself, "A happy little hermit".

[@michellescanlon990]

Infuse and adhd 😂emotional rollercoaster ❤

[@michellescanlon990]

Edit infj

[@annmowatt7547]

I am an INFJ with complex PTSD and find Jay's videos such a help. Life is hard.

[@sarahmoeller7578]

I am sorry things are hard, but glad to know he us helping you. I'll give him a follow! ​@@annmowatt7547

[@aaronadame418]

I sometimes feel as if I'm only truly at peace when I'm at home reading complex science books. When I have to interact with the world is when I experience exhaustion.

[@j.reneewhite915]

I've always seen myself as a bridge builder. Someone shares details about themselves and I start building a verbal bridge towards their dream. It often shocks them because we barely know each other but I come from such a sincere and honest place that they almost always find it inspirational. Over the years my daughter has found great comfort in the fact that I truly see her. I do have to steward it carefully because other people want to use me like a "Tinkerbell" and shake me over a person and request that I tell all about them like some kind of party favor. It took many years to learn how to navigate users. My personality type "Can Do" "Helper" etc attracts those who just want to suck people dry and then move on to the next do gooder. Boundaries are very important even if you enjoy flexing your talent and giftings. The best thing an INFJ can do is encourage and develop the young INFJ to enjoy who they are to their fullest potential. Learning how to steward their discernment so it doesn't fall into suspicion. Learning how to navigate the prophetic in an honoring way etc.

[@cheslinscheepers2547]

I started to notice this effect I'm having on people and now I choose to be around a little people and the right people because this world is filled with inauthentic people who automatically get triggered by my presence.

[@Mmmarie2023]

This!

[@deedrieroose3603]

As an ENFP, I love you guys! We are so similar and complimentaryly different. It's true we want to run with the herd when asleep. But once awakened to our fullest potential... there is no falling back asleep. You've always been able to see the veil of the matrix. Please give us a little compassion for when we see it for the first time... and then must live in the new state of 'being'. It's a total mind f*ck and sends us to the therapy chair... Thank you for your work on waking up the world! It might seem like a thankless gift somedays... but I'm hoping you'll read this and keep going!! ❤❤❤

[@Devi-pg4rj]

I love/ adore ENFPs. ❤ You are my fav.

[@chrysochristodoulou9620]

You are our perfect match !

[@thisisgeorge2117]

Hmmm I married an INFJ as an ENFP it was the best, until it was the worst. I attract the INFJ easily. They wish to feel understood and in fact I do. The ENFP is the flip side mirror of the INFJ. But the possibilities of major pain is quite possible with this combo. I don’t know if I would ever brave it again. I would have to see such a healthy pattern in the person. The INFJ seems to be an enigma to themselves. If one can remain humble that might help. Dear INFJs… don’t get drunk on being unusual and unique. Every human is worth an indescribable treasure. You aren’t most common, but if the world was full of your type, that wouldn’t be good either. We need all the various types of people for the sake of balance and interest. And also, don’t look to hard for yourself. You are right under your noses. If you find a quality ENFP they can help you see the real you. But don’t hate them for it either 😅 lots of love to you all!

[@monicamunoz5260]

🥲​@@thisisgeorge2117

[@monicamunoz5260]

🥲

[@RaeAria]

Most people don't want to hear the truth 🤷🏼

[@INFJcircle]

Sadly, this is true. Jay

[@scooterpatooter9484]

They can't handle the truth. An INFJ isn't satisfied with anything BUT the truth-- first and foremost with ourselves. I don't like games, I don't care if I belong to a "clique", and I'm fine standing on whatever I do. Good or bad. But most people want to seem "right", so they have to make you "wrong" by default. Not doing this for people anymore. I don't have time for dishonest people anymore -- it just doesn't make things better, so might as well go down swinging.

[@staciehaneline9533]

No, they don't. It's so frustrating.

[@DreamlandHollywood]

Truth is death!

[@DesiraeJ]

I don’t think those kind of people know that they don’t have to take everything so damn personal. Infj cancer introvert here from Seattle WA❤️🫶🏻❤️

[@STRONGfamVALUEZ]

Been told I'm like home , always make people comfortable an a hug from me is healing, I can see the best in people an want the best for everyone. I see u because I see me. I now know why some people get irritated with me it's because some don't wanna see the truth. An I irritate peoples demons. I appreciate all u do. Thank you for allowing us to understand ourselves better. Bringing us into our power more & confident in ourselves ❤❤❤ thx Jay

[@TheRealDebbieH]

He states when you allow yourself to get deep enough the INFJ opens up secrets to you that are almost eerie. Do not ever pass up an INFJ that wants to go deep. It's a love so deep and connected that you don't want to miss it. A level not everyone can handle I suppose.Just before 2:13

[@SmallOklaFarm]

This right here! Authenticity is healthy. Their denial is nothing I can fix.

[@SunShine_sublime]

Can I just be with people so kind and authentic? I always crave that.🥺

[@salemthorup9536]

People often don't like what I say until they realize I was right. Then they are spooked for a bit and then they just get curious and want to know how I knew what I knew. I honestly don't see how it's that hard to see or know what I do. It's normal for me.

[@jrobertr]

Genuinely insane how accurate you are. I knew these qualities about myself, but I didn't realize how common they were amongst other INFJs. I love it. Thank you

[@vanadyan1674]

I remember the first time I realized I had a profound effect on other people. I had about an hour conversation with a substitute teacher when I was in 7th grade, only to find out a couple weeks later from another teacher that conversation had led this substitute to realize that she had taken the wrong path, was leaving education, and going back to school to pursue something else.

[@user-sh9pl1sx2m]

[@nahoooli]

😂

[@nahoooli]

Yea people can change her values just by talking to us

[@BoudicasRevenge]

INFJ "The Original Red Pill" 😂

[@INFJcircle]

Yes! lol. Jay

[@shannon2228]

❤❤❤

[@Defaulted123]

The INFJ is the Red Hot Chilli Pepper amongst all personalities!

[@taketheredpill1452]

Agreed...

[@John-k1o5f]

⌚️ out for ⚫️ 💊

[@cherylhebert53]

The most frequent comment I get from people I’ve just met is that I make them feel calm. While I know this is not a typical thing to say to someone, I do take it as a compliment.

[@joemiller1312]

Once again spot on for me and my situation right now. I have an alcoholic who is one of the most brilliant people I have known. He is struggling to become sober, but I see a huge successful life ahead of him. I see him making plans and opening , up that he is no long a victim, but has to face his own demons first. At first he ran from me and did not want my help. But now he is much more open. Thank you Jay, you really have this INFJ in real perspective and terms for the rest of us

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you so much for this comment, yeah, we can help people and be there for them but only if they want that help themselves. I hope your friend wants help. Sounds like he has a bright future (and a great friend) if he gets it. Jay

[@alexlongoria2831]

Just yesterday, yet again another person was trying to convince me that I am crazy &/or there is something wrong with me. What they don't realize is that I am simply a mirror that is being held up to their face. I am not who they think I am, but a clear reflection of who they are, have been and will be forever be. Now where is my Windex?

[@1valerie_oakley]

Spot on!! That’s why we make great coaches. I became a coach out of desire to put this “thing” about me somewhere for good. It feels so good to show up authentically. I can’t wait to collaborate with a team of like MBTIs and change our worlds🧡

[@selenachronister9642]

This is giving me so much insight into some of my struggles with my new job. Thank you!!

[@MBAinternetmktg]

Thanks!

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you so much for the donation. It really means a lot to me! 🙏 Jay

[@cristinaapas1625]

​@@INFJcircleif only im rich😢 i also send

[@dianachoi9684]

How many Infjs prefer a life without kids ?

[@Chillingisbae]

Me🙋🏼‍♀️

[@Btwtina]

Here I am

[@shazrakawajir2904]

depends on my partner, if he is a responsible father I would.... and then would i marry a irresponsible person...... no never.so the answer is yes and no.

[@saras.1912]

Me too

[@sivapriyabiju721]

​@@shazrakawajir2904 This is what exactly I thought when I saw the comment 💯

[@webeburnin333]

I find it hard to be my true INFJ self.. I feel like I'm too intense for people to handle... So I have a kinda 'Normie' alter ago so I can coexist with the rest of humanity peacefully... It makes me very uncomfortable to shine light on my achievements.. so I often shrink myself 😢 How can I be my true powerful self when I live amongst a bunch of unawakened NPCs. This is especially hard where I live in Japan, where people are trained to follow the herd from birth.. I really dont know how to live.

[@somethingbambi875]

This! I seem so plain and boring and then get sad no one seems interested in my creativity. I tried to be myself from the start with some new friends but still enden up with: "You were not who I thought you were." 😢

[@mauricevassilitch9507]

So true As an INFJ, this is one of the reason why I eventually became a yoga teacher. I’m not a shrink neither a saviour. Just someone who see people without any “glasses”. Yoga is a good media to gently transmit good vibes to people without creating too much addiction. 😉

[@airam-sj2172]

I just had a discussion with a very good friend of mine. He is avoiding his responsibility in a failed marriage . I told him my honest opinion, and he ended up upsetting with me or so. I am sorry but I told him about the risk he was taking even before embarking on such a serious commitment.

[@waterlilynymph]

Now I understand why I have felt both used, taken advantaged of and loved deeply by others in my life. People with good intentions really love me, but those who don’t have the best intentions hates me or wishes to try to control or dominate me. Being an infj has given me a bit of a dramatic life because I have had great love and friendships, but also real power struggles with others, even when I am not playing with them, they still see me as an enemy…when I only wanted them to see me as friend or even partner.

[@tanaadams7793]

It’s family that can’t accept me. Friends and colleagues love me

[@lextor4712]

You can't choose who your blood relatives are but remember that family is actually a choice.

[@VivBeyer1111]

And I love you too sweetheart!!! ❤🧡🤎 Hugs 💛

[@lukula2934]

So true...Perhaps this is due to the fact that they've "known" you the longest.And that seeing "who you are as opposed who you were" would require that they do the same for themselves. Its like that stoic quote about "friends wanting you to better your life, but not beyond their own situation. I have family that, if I allowed, would bleed me dry, energetically and financially, all while proclaiming their love for me, This is perhaps among life's toughest lessons to learn. I'm not saying they're evil, only that they don't appear to have any conception of actual love.

[@hstew25]

another excellent video, jay! thank you! 🤗 being authentic from the onset of new relationships has been tremendously liberating (and efficient! i'm not wasting my time on folks who don't vibe with me. 😂) and has helped me to quickly develop the type of deep connections i so crave with the folks who do stick around. cheers to letting our freak flags fly. ❤

[@INFJcircle]

Exactly right, and you won’t have as many people in your life. And really that’s awesome, because the ones you do have will be the ones you vibe with. Thanks for the great comment, let that flag fly! Jay

[@josephe620]

I actually never say " harsh truths" like criticizing someone's appearance or status .. I respect, adulate and appreciate the ones I love deeply and service them with all I have But I draw the line when there is exploitation or manipulativeness.. or when I see self serving morality where the other person draws me into a narrative by twisting the highest good for his own benefits against me That's when I start telling them the truth about what they're doing

[@lettinggrace]

Thank you for helping me understand these things and reminding me to always be myself!❤

[@INFJcircle]

You are welcome! Jay

[@scrambledpp8956]

I've always been a mirror to everyone I've met. I've come to learn that people who hate themselves will automatically despise me. I seem to attract people that fall in love with who they see in my reflection, but not myself specifically. Being infj is so hard

[@ditasaule1618]

Oh my God, now this explains a lot. There have been people who basically as soon as they saw me were literally acting as if they were on drugs, looking at me as if I am some type of candy that they are eating with their eyes and soul or something I could not understand what is their deal :D So thankful I realized quite recently I am an infj, I was so lost before! Thanks for creating the videos!

[@brendadesilva8559]

This is very refreshing. I always knew I was an INFJ but I didn't really grasp how accurate it was. I was like "Very rare, cool. Anyways..." Then I watched one of your videos just for fun, and I'm super surprised how accurate this is. Love the videos, thank you for the content :)

[@spiritanimal7516]

I learned early on that its best to not reveal certain truths since its not worth the trouble since we're seen as the bearer of bad news rather than a source of information

[@anomalien6557]

Thanks for insights and deep analysis of INFJ's! I'm a Christian conservative and I find it really hard sometimes, because some conservatives are too uncompassionate and unempathetic towards some groups of people. But I stand by my values.

[@44ARISEandSHINE44]

Personality types aren't "real" in the way people think of them. They are just measuring character (good and evil) which is why when I took 3 hours of psychological testing for a job with vulnerable adults, over 90% of the people they hired were Christians. They didn't ask a single question about religion, it just worked out that way because they were testing for: compassion, honesty, integrity, love, etc.. etc... So, while it is interesting a test was able to find these qualities they are just varying degrees of good and evil. I'm a 42 year-old Christian with a Psychology degree and far more importantly: a personal relationship with Jesus. So if Saul took the test he would have had one "personality" type, and then when Jesus opened his eyes and he became Paul, he would have had a different result. God bless!

[@PricelessBinkey1337]

4:20 Helping? I'm not so sure yet. Gassing up my ego? Most certainly

[@kylehollandcustomdesigns1528]

Thank you for these videos brother it’s rare to even find other INFJs much less a whole channel for us I wouldn’t want to be anything else I love being INFJ and I’m also an Empath on top of that

[@trancemommy]

This is awesome content! I’m an INFJ and you just blew my mind! You described all my relationships perfectly.

[@theliterarytarot]

Great video. A lot of people think they want the truth until the truth isn’t what they want to hear. We can be refreshing and then triggering when it gets too deep. And then with space they miss that bc they realize how rare it is. And yup I have been ghosted a few times.

[@user-pi1de9ix6u]

It’s so hard in the workplace. Knowing the right things to do but your colleagues see you as a threat instead on moving forward together. Mediocrity is so powerful

[@sandycares2995]

My mother who was a psychopath hated my nature and did all she could to stifle it. A severe child abuser. I cried very easy as a kid. Couldn't handle a lot of stimulation. Still can't. And loud noises. I was also a chronic bedwetter. Luckily that stopped when i was about 15. Wow this is a good site. So much insight in comments also.

[@robertv9912]

I thought too highly of the powers of us INFj s or perhaps I questioned my own intuition. But then I came across this video. Confirmed I'm not crazy.

[@PVillapah]

So true, one of the reason i moved and work in a different country where i know very few people ....

[@bumblebee_ms]

I tried that too, it went south quickly. It doesn't matter where we go, people are the same everywhere.

[@ivettnagy000]

It also depends on what is the infj like. Cuz as for me I dont dare to open up to a person to tell him/her everything I see in him /her.

[@willistaylor4077]

Being Gay & INFJ is difficult in its own ways. Especially, coming from a very strongly fundamentalist/evangelical Christian heritage. I just see all the "manipulations" that religious people can use to deny who u are, especially if you're gay.

[@timm.8729]

I know.... ❤

[@2012jordie]

Not gay, but I came from a Catholic upbringing. I’m interested in the religious experiences of other INFJs, given our reluctance to “take the blue pill”. I really only cared about the religion I was born into once I started to realise how it had been used to manipulate me, and then I spent a brief time searching and looking into Christianity before deciding I would never have anything to do with it ever again. I rarely have problems with individual Christians, and am in fact quite good friends with a few of them, but I can’t ignore what I see as top-down problems in their doctrine. Christianity will never fully accept women and the LGBT because Jesus and the apostles had issues with these types of people, mainly on account of the fact that they were terrified of s*x. And since I will never accept being treated as spiritually weak, inferior, and more susceptible to sin because of my gender (or, alternatively, upheld as the guardian of chastity and virtue so men are free to be as badly behaved as they like), I cannot be a Christian. Such beliefs about women have only ever served to keep us quiet, under control, and unable to leave our abusive marriages. I’ve since fully embraced the archetype of the fierce and rebellious witch, and I’ve never been happier. I don’t hate the concept of religion itself, but I think the monotheistic religions wore out their welcome centuries ago and it’s only aggressive evangelism that keeps them alive (Jews don’t evangelise, but Judaism has only a fraction of the followers that Christianity and Islam have). Cultures are meant to grow, evolve, and adapt their values to suit changing times, not cling to an inflexible doctrine forever. I don’t know how humans can create the ideal society, but I’m certain monotheistic religion isn’t the solution.

[@timm.8729]

@@2012jordieHi! :) Totally agree with you, very well said. I'm a very spiritual in the sense that I feel drawn to the "transcendent realm" or the "big questions". Since I, like you, don't want anything to do with institutionalized religions and their oppression of people, had to find my own way. The most appealing to me is practicing opening up to the "great mystery of the universe", opening up my heart and every cell of my body and every layer of my soul to the unfathomable mystery of being like a bud opens up to spring sun. To be in awe feels like the most beautiful state to me. And this practice inspires me to be as kind as I can to everyone else.

[@2012jordie]

@@timm.8729 Hi! 👋 I’m a very spiritual person, too. I have shelves full of books on religion, philosophy, magic, and the occult. I imagine my keen interest in spirituality would seem strange to others, given my negative stance on organised religion, but I see no contradiction. Spirituality can be wonderful, and I can’t imagine not being curious about the deeper questions in life. That’s precisely why I can’t accept that all the answers have already been written down in some book. Such things are for people who don’t like to ask questions and would prefer to follow rather than lead. Which isn’t necessarily wrong, but it doesn’t suit everyone. I was very depressed until I shook off the dogma and rekindled my curiosity and love of intellectual adventure. I, too, feel that kindness and empathy are supremely important, and that my spiritual practices/research inspire me to embody those qualities (though trauma sadly sometimes makes that very difficult on some days).

[@timm.8729]

@@2012jordie ❤️

[@Starelaiapp]

As a Southerner, I love your accent! As an INFJ - I feel this! Great hook on this video. You're crushing :)

[@chelseyrance5540]

I'm an infj-a! It's exhausting but don't know how to be any other way

[@尼古拉斯-Nicholas]

So very true it's why i prefer to be alone as a INFJ but i just met a INTJ female and its like we have known each other forever..Great content @The INFJ Circle .. New subscriber ..

[@emmarae4322]

It’s tiring when people don’t take our advice. We are constantly predicting future outcomes and no one believes us.

[@katashley1031]

We also seldom receive acknowledgment when our prediction or advice turns out to have been true.

[@animegirl2682]

I just stopped believing what I say myself to be honest

[@gracelam2624]

I think every INFJs had this ability and tendency. Whether to act on it tho, is up to the person. I'd say i used to run around and give ppl advice, basically be their therapist. But as I grow older, and maybe wiser, I choose not to. Not everyone wants what you are giving. I learned to only told to those who wants it

[@janetmcbee]

I had policeman and other people even when I was in like high school asked me if I was on drugs. I wasn't on drugs. I can't hardly handle drugs except for what I need to take properly

[@powerpath659]

I have taken the test several times over the years infj every time

[@JoyceMeagan]

Thanks for expressing your mind, I resemble what you said but what it’s quite difficult is why wouldn’t they know, it’s very obvious to me as INFJ,I know by seeing and talking just as easy as that

[@Melbern11]

The speed with which we can read everything you don't say and instinctively know what makes you tick is staggering, we cut thru the bullshit and our intensity can really turn people off. People are drawn to us and unload on us all their problems without a conscious thought of doing so and it's a huge responsibility knowing so many secrets about someone, I know at least in my own personal experience that the amount of knowledge I have about people is enough to ruin them if I were to ever purposely want to be mean or vindictive and I have to watch myself if I'm in a bad mood so I'm not using words people told me in confidence against them. We get burnt out so badly from all the extra information we soak up from people that it can be hard not to break from the pressure. It's a blessing to help people but the curse is knowing too much.

[@parallel-galaxy]

I just totally felt this on a few different levels.

[@Pupmom2]

💯 % INFJ. I didn’t know I was until about 4 years ago my husband came across personality tags and he told me that fits me to a T. I was like, riiight…then I read about this rare personality and I could believe how accurate! It really helped me to know this. It gave me much more confidence in myself and why I am like I am. I really love your videos, and truly I’ve listened to others, but you are the most accurate I’ve heard! Thank you!,

[@MayBlake_Channel]

I fell deeply in love with an INFJ several years ago. Letting him go is my biggest regret

[@bumblebee_ms]

I hope you don't mind me asking, what mbti are you? And why did you let him go?

[@MayBlake_Channel]

@@bumblebee_ms ENFP. I let him go because I'm a Christian and he was not, though he had strong Christian values (which is a big part of why I was so attracted to him). At the time I thought I was doing the right thing; and maybe I did do the right thing. But I've been rethinking it lately and wondering if it would've been ok after all. Now I'm trying to figure out the attitude I should have about "us" moving forward. But whatever attitude I shift towards, it's certain (minus an unlikely "act of God") that he and I are over forever. I appreciate you asking. I don’t really have people I can talk to about him in real life so it's very nice to tell someone. I'm tearing up a bit now

[@bumblebee_ms]

@@MayBlake_Channel I am so sorry you let him go and now regret it, it sounds like a true love story. As for me, I have no one in general to talk about anything, so I totally understand how you feel. I would love to hear more about it if you want to disclose. Like, how long ago, how long did it last, how did you meet, what you had in common or not, and was he at least spiritual? etc...

[@EH_888]

@@MayBlake_ChannelYou’re not wrong for letting him go. If God is important to you it’s natural to want a partner who shares that same degree of reverence for Him. Also, having Christian values isn’t the same as actually practicing Christianity. A person could have a strong moral compass and still not accept Christ. Don’t feel guilty about letting someone go because your core values weren’t in alignment.😊

[@napfinap945]

id say you didnt deem him worthy enough as holding on to your beliefs no matter what was more important to you than to be with him. I guess this is how you felt at least, and since it isnt a secret that most women are kind of slaves to their feelings as these are their only guiding system in this world when it comes to relationships you cant really be blamed. The percentage of woman being able to recognize their emotions and feelings while standing on top of them in their mind and not letting their decisions be controlled by them must be far under 1%. But decisions have consequences :/

[@SteubeMan]

now i know why The Matrix is my favorite movie: i'm INFJ but fr tho, this video was awesome. thanks for the encouragement to be my authentic self, as well as the advice to spend energy only on those who freely gravitate towards me, and not waste it on those for whom I have to become inauthentic to gain their approval.

[@lorentaidhg8534]

True! But when your personality archetype is sigma..... you may not want to hide your true self. It becomes magnified. Authenticity is paramount. Let those whose personality deficiencies run them away...let them go.

[@TheRealAsAboveSoBelow]

This was illuminating. I'm just now coming out of my infj hiding and I'm trying to change the world now.

[@maryamismail7119]

Thanks for videos . Now ,i understand why i wear mask when being around people 🙃 😌 😅

[@INFJcircle]

You're welcome 😊 Jay

[@maryamismail7119]

@@INFJcircle what do you mean by "Jay?!

[@Chillingisbae]

@@maryamismail7119that’s his name😊

[@roroxoxo9849]

Its his name ​@@maryamismail7119

[@IH1606]

Aaah, yes! "People who need help, want to improve, have an open mind and a growth mindset." 🙏

[@HTHTNT77]

It’s both a blessing and a curse to see to the heart of people. I can understand how being a mirror to someone else can be painful… it can get dysfunctional if their coping mechanisms aren’t helpful. I don’t even mean to be this way… it just happens 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@ScottAndScarlettsDarkHumor]

Yeap, that's me. I was a chameleon for so long that I didn't even know who I really was. It took two other NFs to shed light on the fact that I was hanging around my blood family who are sheeple/herd mentality etc. Now I am learning to be my true self, speak my truth and not give two turds what anyone else has to say about it.

[@MajellaGrows]

This video really speaks to me 💖 It’s really hard to stop bending my personality and holding back what I think out of fear of judgement and being disliked. Lately, I have been showing my authentic self more. What works for me is the gradual approach. I’m not loud and I am private so baby steps work for me. I test the waters with people to see how receptive they are and gradually share more of myself. Some people have really surprised me - I found out that one of my coworkers was an INFP in hiding. Just like I was an INFJ in hiding 😌 The more authenticity I show and the more I find myself, the more that people find me in a magnetic way. It’s very slow but slow change is better than sticking with the status quo and being miserable.

[@buckleymordecai9605]

Great comments as always- really enjoy your channel. Here's the thing; I've pondered this for years now and still haven't nailed down the exactness of it. I don't know/see how other people see me. There is a blind spot there...and it affects all my relationships to some degree. I don't see how females see me as a potential mate, nor how some males see me as a potential friend. Now, to be sure when I forge a male friendship...or rather he and I are drawn together, the friendship grows and it endures. But it seems to me others have more self awareness than I...but I've heard other people tell me I have VERY high self-awareness! I'm confused! Would value your comments.

[@CHSN-1]

I have the same blind spot lol

[@buckleymordecai9605]

@@CHSN-1 Really? Interesting...am wondering if it is a common issue with other or most INFJ's...thanks!

[@BloodVixen]

I have trust issues, so this video was very difficult for me to hear, but it's what I needed. Thank you.

[@phoenixreborn1111]

Ive never had a video explain myself so well. Its so hard to make friends or date as me. Lol.

[@myiostudio]

This video is like a balm to the soul. ❤

[@noorazlinabaharuddin9463]

Muhammad Ali the boxer best quote 'Float like butterfly, sting like a bee.' Best describe infj..Don't cross us!! Terrible wrath coming😆

[@LaboriousCretin]

Thank you for sharing. I didn't think others see some things the same way. It makes me want my old friends circle back. I'll have to get another going.

[@catherinecastle8576]

Why are we INFJS? Did we have a bad childhood? Did God make us this way? Is it a genetic thing? Do we INFJS have anything (not traits) in common? Just wondering.

[@Maria9876543211]

Narcissistic parents?