INFJ Relationships: What INFJs Need in a Partner

[@just.lisa_marie7219]

I'm an INFJ and I really need someone for deep talk, ugh everyone is robbing my energy with nonsense bs.

[@asanaa444]

Just.lisa_marie this this this !!!!!

[@wwekickme79]

I feel exactly the same i feel so different so weird like I'm an alien here and my deep talk weirds people out and it's just so hard to find someone like me

[@babettelenz7995]

Same!

[@foottoast4235]

INFPs actually tend to end up doing this to me quite a lot, because I tend to have similar interests to them, and while I invest all my energy in the relationship, they just end up using me like a counselor and not treating meike I'm a friend, more like I'm their occasional advisor.

[@oliviamiller1178]

perioddd AHSH

[@bliss7166]

I’m an INFJ girl and I think I’m gonna be single for my entire life hahah

[@GalidorDragon]

Same here

[@LifeDIY]

I can relate.

[@rachananaicker5008]

Same

[@andreaglez4593]

Same :c

[@griffoboffin619]

I feel this

[@imperialtower]

- someone who can make us more spontaneous, make us take breaks from being a crazy planner - someone who has a fixed identity - someone who can decide what they want and not just be okay with "whatever" - someone whos not afraid to slap us back into reality - someone who respects our boundaries - someone whos willing to accept advice, open-minded - someone who appreciates our way of thinking and how we see the world - someone who appreciates a good listener and like to be unravelled

[@TaxEvasi0n]

What type does this typically fall under? This video really soothes my relationship soul, however I don’t believe I will find her.

[@timothyds7453]

@@TaxEvasi0n Well I'm an INTJ and this description fits me pretty well ;) ... when I start to open up to someone

[@stormeart]

IRYL My 20+ yr ESTP partner has the 1st half of the list without a doubt, but there have been some definite struggles on the latter items over the years. 😂

[@foottoast4235]

I'd say ENTPs are the best fit as long as they are using their Fe; sharing Ti and Fe with them means they can truly understand how you feel while having a sligthly different way of looking at the world, after that I'd say ENFP and ENFJs. INFJ x INFJ is also realy good though, if both aren't too similar and one is active like an ENTP generally is.

[@sos2530]

What do you mean by unraveled?

[@joshuaang3860]

1. Spontaneous 2. Sure of their identity 3. Able to understand your NF talking style 4. Able to be direct 5. Won't test your boundaries too much

[@MarcyTk1]

thank you so much, dear♥️

[@allmightymusicbot6289]

Shit. Looks like I fucked it up with 5. Me ENTP guy probably now understood why he fucked up with the girl he loves

[@lenoredavi6137]

No 5 is a deal breaker for me.

[@highhorse902]

Much appreciated !

[@GrafinVonHopper]

A grande questão é: Qual dos MBTI's preenchem todos estes requisitos? Não adianta falar que é o ENFP porque considero a personalidade deles muito volátil e não parecem preencher bem o segundo requisito.

[@taylorle1730]

I’m an INFJ and require a partner who is emotionally independent and can’t live without me. Does that make sense? Ok.

[@lauriel.4667]

😂😂😂....sadly, it makes perfect sense to me. Lol🤦🏾‍♀️😂😂😂

[@taylorle1730]

@@lauriel.4667 yes it makes sense right?! I needed that validation fellow INFJ

[@jacobodom8401]

Yes, you want that person to have a solid frame of who they are and are extremely attracted to you. That is the ideal for the average person

[@radiantly_fatime]

Perfect sense!

[@TheSockSister]

Completely!

[@MsGuitars666]

“I can’t even think of something spontaneous because it’s so outside of my day to day life” 😂 lmaooo me

[@BethsarimIAM]

I was snickering, I would be planning the example beforehand if I knew it was gonna fly out of my mouth.

[@ImNotTellingYou-ht8uq]

I know right! Some people who don’t know me well don’t realise that my ‘spontaneity’ is in fact not spontaneity as it is planned inside my head first then made to be seen as me being spontaneous! 😂

[@kleinfritzchen3226]

@@BethsarimIAM He planned it this way to be funny.

[@Bjorick]

i bought games on christmas sale.......on a whim, even though i saved and planned for the sale to come up......but that counts, right?

[@BethsarimIAM]

@@Bjorick no excuses for shopping addictions, or collecting OCD, or must buy now on sale plan to use later...

[@UzumakiX5series]

Any single INFJ women out there, we’re a rare breed.

[@sannedeheer2120]

just gotta keep dodging those hungry boys

[@1xTheDarkKnightx1]

That will be exhausting from personal experiance 2 INFJ dont mix well

[@gunjanjain5746]

Yes

[@UzumakiX5series]

@@gunjanjain5746 Hiya!

[@pouniverse9912]

damn yeah, we are 😂😂

[@Hyurno]

Me, an INTP who is romantically interested in an INFJ person (and totally isn't studying how they work): Interesting.

[@starseekers3765]

ME, ive been looking into them for 2 weeks and i still cant understand how they work

[@lyrical_profit9518]

I still don't understand how I even work lolz being an eye of Jay doesn't suck but it's definitely different most times I love it because I feel so different. And when I'm really on fire I often predict what people are about to say next very easily but it's a lonely road no one can relate to me except another infj and I have yet to meet another. I hope to become the first worldwide famous infj wish me luck

[@reviewchannel6638]

@@lyrical_profit9518 It's a lonely road only if you want to make it feel like a lonely road. I've found that not only INFJs can relate to me, but also other NF(Idealists) types. It's not hard to find some of those. Also,I do wish you achieve your dreams - which seem to be fame-related - but I'll have to let you know that INFJs are very well established in the "famous spectrum" already (M.L. King, Nelson Mandela, Ghandi, even Hitler, as well as some more recent writers, psychologists, celebrities etc). So yeah,you won't really be the first famous INFJ but I surely do hope you achieve your dream of becoming famous and using this fame for an objectively good cause.

[@dream_ing223]

same gurlll

[@jerryb7185]

Rare bird! Can you teach that to other women?

[@Vincisomething]

When someone asks a question, it's not rare for me to ask, "what do you mean?" Not because I don't understand the question necessarily, but because I could interpret the intent of the question in several different ways.

[@randomperson1714]

Vincisomething yesss.I feel you.

[@cronelilith2830]

Yes. My most used word is why?? I just wanna know what someone is thinking and really what is the point!!! Give me the bottom line!!!

[@gaia1577]

I'm an INFP and I also see many angles

[@neonsphere8041]

yeah me too. i hope the people i am talking doesn't think i don't understand what they are talking about.

[@astoldbynickgerr]

Indeed... 😌

[@sarahunser8904]

Everyone should just have a sims marker with their personality type above their heads 😂

[@ellieb.1231]

But I'm an INTP. I don't make myself visible enough for this to be useful. 😂 I'll set up an omnidirectional infrared signal from my phone or something.

[@sarahunser8904]

Ellie B. Haha 😂 yes that way people can still find you if needed, but you can keep your space!

[@wingwaves940]

Lol 😀

[@skyteus]

If they so desired.. xD

[@yonathanrakau1783]

@@ellieb.1231 if that even exist i can prank more stupid people hey this is a great idea

[@MrBrokenSorrow]

Frank: How I talk sounds weird... Me an INFJ: What do you mean you talk weird? I understand exactly what you're saying. Frank: ...except to my fellow INFJ's who are right there with me. Me: Oooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh, makes sense.

[@user-lu4fn9pe4y]

This means u haven’t understood what he meant until he explained tho.

[@Pelsik]

INFJs are sometims a walking paradox arent they

[@valeriapebble]

As an enfp I think the infj way of speaking is charming :D because it's so much more concise than my rambles, but still has emotional elements. Idk that's how my boyfriend speaks he's an infj

[@jasminemedellin5824]

@@valeriapebble I don't understand lol I'm an INFJ

[@valeriapebble]

@@jasminemedellin5824 it's ok I don't understand either 🤣 like I get on side stories about the side stories

[@lexilaughren1995]

INFJ: cant spontaneously come up with an example of something spontaneous. 😆

[@jerryb7185]

Ha! That's awesome. Verbally i am like a gun slinger. I always have a great retort. As for acting spontaneous, I'll get back to you when I have a plan for that.

[@claystahl7002]

Lastrelationshipwas25yrsagolivedondrinkingandonenightstandsimstillkindahotsoicangetlaidjustnotsober

[@sleepyhead_648]

Yess 😫, im always anxious when people starting to ask my decision spontaneously, like hold up i need to think--

[@Rin-ig3ci]

YAAAAASSSSSS!!!!!

[@IceNomada]

@@jerryb7185 It's like even when I think I'm doing something spontaneus, I already have plans for what could happen what could go wrong and what to do xd

[@bleepbloopbleep87]

I think every INFJ needs a partner who is into personal growth. Also, it would be really cool to see a video all about "NF" talk.

[@desireez5740]

Agreed. I stated the same; personal growth

[@downsjmmyjones101]

What kind of personal growth?

[@Construction_Girl]

I hadn't thought of this but wow... This is going to save me a lot of time on the dating scene.... ME: are you into personal growth DATE: Umm not really ME: Next 😂 🙏🏼🙂

[@foxinfj3472]

Yes. Growth is huge and nonnegotiable. And FJ does NF talk all the time. I need to make my ESFJ husband watch all his videos so he understands it’s not just me...😂

[@daringgreatly8473]

SJ Percy ask about books they like etc. people agree about anything but what do their actions show? If they are into personal growth you will see it throughout their life and how they talk. 😊🌸

[@khanyamdlankomo8459]

Me as an INFJ: Gives great advice to others regarding life, the universe and everything; Can't advise myself about practical matters pertaining to general living on Earth🤔😭

[@whattheduenas]

SAME lmaooo

[@grandpawnapkins7429]

I do the same thing holy shit XD One second Im helping a friend and the next I forget the tea kettle has been screaming for the past 5 minutes LMAO

[@melmel8907]

TRUE

[@heythemelhoseny7453]

yes, the same problem what we have to do guys? I don't wanna be useless

[@heyg0ld]

ATTACKED!! 😂

[@shayla_lesk1542]

“Can we come back to earth? This is where we live.” As an INFJ girl, I can confirm that I really need someone to help me with this. I can spend HOURS in my own world.

[@prakhargoyanka3891]

INFJ male Can totally relate.... it's a blessing in disguise, sometimes I get so lost in myself it frustrates the shit out of me..... best thing I can do is write it all out in a diary or something, hope it helps and take care of yourself.

[@shayla_lesk1542]

@@prakhargoyanka3891 Yo, good luck to you too! Writing down stuff is probably the best thing to do, other than talking to someone. I for one, don’t like to open up to people and seem to keep everything in my own little bubble. So good luck, but be careful! Don’t let your thoughts turn negative, or everything will go downhill! I know from experience, so just be careful. What helped me a lot is making and doing goals, it enables me to do something everyday, stay away from negative thoughts/feelings, and helps me become a better person. So have a good day! 😊

[@latademonorholditdwn2515]

@@shayla_lesk1542 We are (INFJ's) entrapped within an infinite feeling of longing, left over from "the event" in our lives where we felt comfort during chaos provided by another person or habitual activity at a stage in our lives when our imaginations were still at full throttle. The world to us was on a path too isolation from the moment of awareness but our beauty lies within the anomoly of constant awareness and our ability to describe our thoughts and desires in the poetic justice we lend the world. U are adored for being unique and human.

[@cassidytaylor548]

@@prakhargoyanka3891 yeah writing in a diary helps but then I procrastinate and get lost and then don’t do it 🤣

[@Niyuki.]

Imagine INFJ + INFJ, will they create a world for them or live in their own? I'm really curious about INFJ/INFJ dates.

[@isaa1782]

I, an INFJ, would really appreciate a partner who inspires me and helps me to improve myself and get me to do things I actually always wanted to do in a direct but not forcing way. Idk of this makes sense

[@dayalaver64]

Perfect sense. Also direct but not critical or making fun of me.

[@highhorse902]

i am your 100th like. Congratulations!

[@kikow3792]

Get yourself an ENFJ.

[@AnnieIsaLau]

Yes, it's called motivating someone and not boss them 😉 makes total sense.

[@shuangliv4633]

IT IS MAKING HUGE SENSE 😁

[@slitheringsoundcat7996]

"That sounded a little sinister, but I didn't mean it in a bad way " What a very INFJ thing to say😂

[@anne-lisepollet5071]

In the end wasn't it quite charming?! The idea of unwraping a gift or observing a flower slowly blooming...

[@CB.ENGLISH.STUDIO]

@@anne-lisepollet5071 indeed, I kinda loved the way he said it and then I giggled when he said "not in a bad way" cuz for me, it was not necessary to clarify...😅

[@twin-winds3808]

I thought when he said that, that we are trying to unravel a person's inner most thoughts ,like unraveling a dark chocolate Hershey kiss, to get past that rough foil and into the rich inner workings of a piece of chocolate.

[@twin-winds3808]

My thoughts I ment

[@kurniautami7725]

Yea, I noticed it that way and saying literally same words when he said it

[@rainbowrocks1020]

Don't forget honesty. I don't know about the other INFJ's, but if you lie to me, I never fully trust you ever again. Especially if you lie to me while seemingly opening up to me. It makes me feel weirdly offended and ruins what little trust I have in the beginning

[@ahuman3755]

I’m also an INFJ and that’s the same with me

[@laurelmalinowski1676]

Absolutely amen to this.

[@giobreakingfree3497]

THIS

[@florentineflorentine5059]

Except in relationship. For the worthed one, we can try to give second chance since they lied as a nature to survive or protect theirself. We can let them know its better to be honest even hurt, rather lie but we already know behind the scene.

[@twin-winds3808]

@@florentineflorentine5059 true

[@yo8islate]

People thought I was spontaneous for booking a trip to Ireland 3 days before the flight - but the truth is as an INFJ I have thought about this trip for months if not years and planned to the hour my itinerary before booking the flight. With our over analysing brain, we are often full of ideas and plans, some fully formed and thought out, but are simply only executed on a whim making it seem spontaneous.

[@ProdavackaDivu]

drzmak exactly. I make big sudden changes (according to others’ perspective) but i plan meticulously because the fallout from traveling suddenly without planning well is never pretty nor something my sensitive self wants to deal with. I wanna know I’ll be in a safe comfy bed and eating well etc.

[@hugmc]

drzmak I hope you enjoyed your trip 🇮🇪

[@dw9524]

Same. People always tell me "oh going to london for uni is expensive" like I haven't been planning it since I was 15. Like trust me it was a big decision but I'm fucking ready!

[@oualidnira]

I feel you 😂😂😂

[@jessicaa3641]

People think i am so spontaneous for getting tattoos "on a whim" but honestly I think about them for YEARS

[@fajrbg]

me, an INFJ : *knows what i need in a relationship* sees this video in recommendations: lets find out if im right

[@rubierianellesoundamawora9068]

same

[@gideonmele1556]

Ditto

[@anival9576]

Well...? What's the verdict?

[@heidibemis6123]

I'm INFJ and I need someone who's helpful and makes me feel appreciated. I don't want to feel like someone's mommy doing everything. I'm pretty easy to make happy. I don't like feeling used or unappreciated

[@sh2668-k2p]

Heidi Bemis Agreed. Someone who takes advantage of my kindness or tries to use me is just asking for the ‘Door Slam’ 🚪 💨

[@richasaxena6636]

Same here... I am also an INFJ. I like genuine people who don't try to take me for granted. Emotional manipulation or self centered behaviour is a big turn off.

[@Braddibwai]

This is perfect

[@AnnRomey]

Totally agree with this!

[@defiantaichi]

Same

[@mauricioherrera9959]

I just realised you’re one of the few channels that has the decency and consideration to announce when a youtube ad will show up. That’s pretty INFJ, I feel I would do the same thing 😂

[@isabelle1976]

Do you have a premium account, bu any chance ? 🙄😉

[@saxongreen78]

If you look at old British TV recordings, you'll notice the program is in two parts and there's a little bumper between the show and the ads...like a star or a camera lens fade...much nicer than getting a big jet of vomit in one's ear without warning.

[@harrycrime8836]

Wow, as that came up, you comment was the one I was going to read and I thought exactly that.

[@elevatedlife3884]

The first time in KZbin history a youtuber announces an ad. He is truly one of the few people that is capable of impressing me.

[@voyance4elle]

Yes very cool 😁

[@ayaalhawari]

"let's come back to earth .. this is where we live, WELCOME" 😂 as an INFJ, I need to tell that to myself all the time !

[@ayaaly2866]

😂Same almost every day

[@Zoovilifts]

Same 😂

[@toxsiin]

i was lost in thought when he said that and had to rewind to see what i missed

[@sewaller1384]

My partner tells me that almost daily.

[@mylenainacio273]

It reminds me of a conversation I had with an INFJ friend the other day. I said something like that. I felt bad afterwards, though. ENFP here hahah.

[@anne-lottedevries5484]

Frank: INFJs question their identity a bit too much sometimes Me, an INFJ, who wanted to post something about certain traits, but was afraid it would not resonate with other INFJs and who would therefore question my identity, causing me to question my own identity: *sweats*

[@mr.beancouldbreakmyspleen643]

HAHAHHA my exact thoughts

[@MK-mx7up]

i swear i’ve tested myself at least 8 times hahaha

[@just.callmemack]

Yesss currently sweating right now!

[@DarkCelestialConsciousness]

Lmfao love u guys !!! XD 💖🌟 ENFJ here

[@bonsyboom4531]

"U need someone..who maybe even understands, wat ur trynna say" - Frank 2020

[@BlackSnow2389]

*Sigh*. If only...

[@fiorellalescano]

Overthinking is part of me. It's the only thing I'm good at. But you're right sometimes we need to chill out.

[@jessicah3450]

"Don't overthink too much" that was my advice to myself

[@havenmanlunas4409]

overthinking is my everyday habit

[@snoozyq9576]

I can relate. But I've been practicing taking a leap of faith and just saying "go!" when I'm over thinking about something I'm about to do, and it's definitely been helpful for me.

[@almagirimai8931]

what exactly is "over" thinking. Like Mozart, I do exactly the right amount of thinking, not one thought more or less. What other persons do is not my issue.

[@5Momijichan5]

Oh dont forget, don’t get too attached !

[@orangenbluetentanz]

My boyfriend is an INFJ and I am an INFP. We literally have this discussion a lot "I want what you want" "No, you tell me what you want." "No you decide..." At the end we often have to guess what the other one wants. I am trying my best to make him feel safe to set boundaries. I am uncomfortable with deciding for him too much. Also as I am an INFP he is one of few people where I feel seen, heard and understood. We can deep talk for hours. However, he loves giving advice and helping others and I don't him to give too much, as I don't want him to exhaust himself. I want him to know that he is worthy of being cared for and listened to too. So I guess that's why I am watching videos about INFJs at 2am.

[@violettenigma]

Haha cool, I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend is an INFP 😄

[@lucy9698]

If he's anything like me - trust me, he prefers you to decide for him. If he makes a decision of his own you'll be the first to know 😂

[@EJtoU]

It sounds like you need to build trust that he can and will share his wants and needs. Perhaps a conversation about what his boundaries, wants, and needs are might help to create that foundation? Or practicing as a hypothetical, just to build trust and comfortability around those kinds of conversations ahead of time? Perhaps he’ll have a suggestion how he can earn your trust in this area.

[@donsolos]

I will take one of you please, kindly point me in the direction where I can locate a clone

[@j.j.r.6075]

So, my dating profile: *Need someone who doesn't push my boundaries, but allows me to gently unravel them...*

[@heythemelhoseny7453]

hhh, I'm still looking for my girl. the weird thing is I found myself opening up in my profile and don't care who's gonna watch it !!

[@susysnakegirl]

I love that about my husband, an INTJ. He knows when I'm not ready to hear something and chooses his timing wisely, but is also a deep and mysterious person. After 16 years of marriage, I still learn things.

[@danasima8659]

Yes, yes my Princess 🙃 xoxo💗

[@acharich]

🔥🔥🔥

[@AnqiXu1988]

Except I have been advised not to use too many negatives in the dating profile (e.g. what you are NOT looking for in a partner) because you could end up sounding resentful or cynical. I don't agree or disagree with this, but I have been following this rule

[@aidadenisa8553]

Well, for a not spontaneous person, you're very spontaneous with your hair, Frank.

[@gracenovell801]

Aida Denisa it’s the most spontaneous thing we may ever do.

[@mariethemagnificent2000]

I change my hair all the time. I say it is the artistic soul in me.

[@33Jenesis]

It is the inferior Se at work. I love changing hair, makeup, outfit style, and accessories. I am surrounded by people who hardly ever change their preferred appearance. I am the only one constantly switching appearance.

[@aidadenisa8553]

@Frank James I should really stop checking my notifications in public. I should wait till i get home to freak out over the fact that you hearted my comment. It's so hard to keep cool while internally being like *Jbdhbskabfnbsjakdbakaj* 🤦‍♀️ Don't stop doing it tho 😂

[@SummeRain783]

That’s why INFJ’s are so rare and complex. It’s so hard to figure us out completely. We look like extroverts on the outside by doing spontaneous things time to time but are deeply inherent introverted geeks lol

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

ENFP passing through here! Just a little appreciation post for you INFJs. Some of my closest friends are INFJs, and I can only speak for what I know from my friendships with them, but I truly cherish the special bond I have with each of them. We're comfortable enough to have deep conversations with each other, and appreciate each other's related, yet not identical, views on the world. Like looking at two different sides of the same coin. The other's perspective often stops us in our tracks. Sometimes INFJs have such a unique take on the world, and it's incredible. I also feel like we see aspects of each other that other people seem to miss. Being people who easily understand others but often find themselves feeling pretty misunderstood, I think it’s something we both really appreciate. INFJs are so sharp and intuitive, it's like they see a part of me I wish the rest of the world could see. I think we can also sense each other's boundaries and needs for space, and it ends up feeling really safe with them. I also love how INFJs are planners. I can be kind of an easily-distracted, go-with-what-I-feel-right-now mess myself, so I like that about them. But most of all I love how INFJs are usually great listeners, because I have so much I want to share, like I'm just bursting to share all my ideas and am longing for someone to actually want to listen and share them with me. I feel like INFJs are great people to share a lot of this with. In fact, I think you'd be appealing to different kinds of people because of your many good qualities. oh my goodness I've digressed and written an essay. Is anyone actually going to read this? Anyway, I think you INFJs are so interesting, complex, insightful, and you can also be very sweet. I hope you know you’re great and I know that not everyone really "gets" you, but I hope you find the meaningful relationships in life that you’re looking for :)

[@sakshipathak7298]

Thank you so much! I am an INFJ female and I really needed this. I have had my share of people who say that I am very boring or rude and all that non real stuffs about me. I somewhat am happy to know that people like us and that they want to have us in their lives. 😄😄

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

@@sakshipathak7298 you're very welcome! people who think you're boring or rude just don't understand your very special complexity, in my opinion! :)

[@janellegarden4689]

Awww this INFJ loves what you wrote! I enjoy hearing other types’ perspectives of us, and what you said about infjs seeing a different part of others that many might not see really resonated with me. I believe I have a gift for being able to see people for who they really are and understand them better than most. I’m glad that you noticed that!

[@sakshipathak7298]

@@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202 thank you so much!

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

​@@janellegarden4689 aww yay, I'm glad you liked what I wrote then. :) I'm sure you do have that gift, and it is indeed a gift!

[@lexilaughren1995]

It's ok having boundaries was stupid anyway is the most INFJ thing I've ever heard 😆💀😭

[@ericalbond]

That is totally what I came here to say! He was SO spot on with that!

[@kurniautami7725]

I'm in a studying my infj crush bcz I really don't get it when infjs saying this, but would u mind if u give more explanation to it? Do the infjs getting hurt and plan a revenge when they yield like that?

[@isegard2957]

oh I was asking my infj bf about his boundaries so I don't accidentally cross it and make him sad but he is like eh ... boundaries is something we will set once we reach that problem. I 'm not sure if he was polite or he is just unsure whare his boundaries are at this point either way I will try to be mindful about what I say and do to him. INTP here ( gosh I'm so bad at acting like a normal person but trust me guys I'm trying so hard )

[@EMichaelBall]

@Isegard Historically, normal people have made the world a worse place.

[@daughterofashandembers3945]

Exactly! 😂

[@Alyssav-90]

I just really love it that I feel "normal" when I watch your videos and read the comments, finally. It's quite a relief. Thank you for sharing this and putting an effort into this.

[@jodypopovich6228]

Ditto. I often feel bad about not having friends. But, listening to you feels like friendship to me. I'll make sure I listen more often especially when I feel I need a friend. Because listening to you is validation.

[@soojungbyul]

Same. I felt most of my problems with my personality were uniquely my own, in spite of the various other INFJs I'd encountered. Now with this channel, I've never felt so seen before.

[@FoldingFlowers]

Are those traits of being very intospective, and overly deep, and relenting, and having lots of boundaries and abstract and subjective typical INFJ traits? Im INFJ and man this guy sounded so familiar to me. I didnt know anyone else thought like this. I mean, i went to a psych for depression and now im stuck being tested for autism because i couldnt give yes/no or 1-10 answers. It would be awesome is this was just a personality thing.

[@snoozyq9576]

Yep. The loneliness of it all gets so hard to bear sometimes. This stuff really helps me feel less like ill be alone forever.

[@rumaduma5546]

I know. I totally feel you. Everytime I watch his videos I sort of felt at home or someone understands and I feel all happy.

[@genesiskeglar6372]

INFJ’s need relationship experience only to realize they don’t actually need a partner....friends are a necessity though

[@raziax9603]

THIS!!

[@genesiskeglar6372]

Raziax They usually just add extra stress to my life with minimal benefits. I really can’t speak for everybody, but a lot of people know what it’s like.

[@marthamurray4732]

Wait, what does this mean? As an INFJ you eventually realize that you don't need a partner? As in, you find out you don't need or want a husband/wife? Just as long as you have friends - which are necessary as you say... ?

[@genesiskeglar6372]

Martha Murray Yes. But that’s not for everybody that seems to have this personality type though. That’s just me.

[@DP-oi9nd]

Whats a friend

[@LordGadwin]

well INFJ's talk with Emotional Logic, an a lot can't take it or get weirded out by it. from my experience.

[@EmeraldEdge72]

You are 100% correct on that, because Logic although abstract is an emotion as well. I would give you more in greater detail, but it is ridiculously complex which I'd rather not have to go through.

[@elizabethaustin9280]

....that is SO true 👍👊

[@isaacsolatorio9089]

Trueee

[@isaacsolatorio9089]

One of my closest friend is an INFJ, i'm so lucky. Everytime I talk about a something he understands. Unlike others who got weirded out because we base on Emotional Logic.

[@TheSamasi]

aftonology101 what are you on about. Abuse doesn’t form an INFJ personality.

[@kimminer8156]

One day I woke up and realized most my friends were INFJs. I believe I offer my INFJ friends and family these things that they crave: 1) Structure and direction 2) My INFJ friends like to be around loudly quirky people because it makes them feel less weird and more comfortable opening up 3) Loyalty, reliability and honesty are paramount to an INFJ, who are often taken advantage of by other types 4) INFJs like my directness because they feel comfortable when they know what their role is and how they fit in 5) INFJs hate manipulation, and they would rather be asked for a favor or even commanded. INFJs usually enjoy working under me because there are no games or hidden expectations to navigate. Everything is clear and the rules are known and fair. 6) INFJs tend to come out of the woodwork to be the wingman for my masterplans. They like big plans that enact change. They want to make an impact. 7) I like to break down and discuss theory and ideas, and INFJs love joining in and discussing things they thought no one else cared about

[@just.callmemack]

Hold up… what do you do and do you need more help because you sound like an awesome thought partner to work with…

[@PlayshotKalo]

You looking for any new employees? Lol

[@theprinceofcrows8691]

So what is your personality type? INTJ? Everything you said makes perfect sense to me. We are team players by nature and though we can lead we don't feel obsessed with being the leader or controlling the show. We are great wingmen or partners in crime.😉 It sounds like you have a pretty good grasp of things to me. 🤙

[@JosjeKbaljouw]

Same here. They tend to be okay friends, less okay romantic interests for me.

[@lucy9698]

Where do I sign up lol

[@ai4052]

I am an INFJ and I tend to be attracted to extroverted people. I need someone who can take me out of my comfort zone and yes, slap me out of my INFJ "haze" that I occasionally dwell on..lol

[@Ang.143]

A I most definitely

[@phoebephoebe7063]

Hi where is your profile pic from? Its cool

[@ai4052]

phoebe phoebe - it's from a classic anime called Galaxy Express 999... The character is named Maetel.

[@phoebephoebe7063]

@@ai4052 thanks ! Is it any good? My favotite anime os cowboy bebop :D

[@danidino1645]

Same here. Not romantically tho. I like having extroverted friends to carry me around and take me out of my comfort zone. I'm a good listener so they can talk as much as they want xD

[@Victoriaward]

“You guys have watched my videos right? You know that half of what I say is like ‘what?!’” No. Native INFJs. Fluent in INFJ.

[@melissaphillis7247]

Same! I get everything he says, or doesn't finish saying.

[@amber726]

Exactly. 😂 When he said that, I was like - I don't understand, I fully understand you.

[@jamieb2732]

Yep! I follow everything he says and usually can pick up on the thoughts he doesnt finish too 🤣 It is funny seeing that play out in real life though! My friend is an ENFJ/P and while she can keep up with me most times, there are moments where she looks at me like I'm an alien freak and has me re-explain everything.

[@jaeloniala4672]

yep...!

[@revolutionfrommahbed4246]

Or you get with the NT who can listen and be all “So what you just spent 30min saying is xyz.” (In one short sentence) And NFs are all - “Yes! Exactly!” -- Hillary J ENTP/NF Interpreter 😉

[@pancakerollup5089]

Who else feels like "The ONE" for you maybe an alien sometimes and can't be found on earth?

[@mandysimmons2769]

LOL I feel like I'm from Planet nice and everyone else is living on planet ahole. LOL ex scuze my language. I married an ASpie. I shoulda got at least an NT.

[@LisePlansandJournals]

🙋🏾‍♀️I found my alien and managed to mess things up with my insecurities😔Definitely don’t think another one will be on earth lol

[@segunmola1]

🤣🤣🤣 Yeah

[@stef4oben88]

me!

[@stef4oben88]

It's frustrating seeing all the INFJs crying that they are single and can't find anyone while describing qualities and behaviours that nearly perfectly match XDDD. This entire video was just one additional piece of my confirmation bias lol

[@MerlaHubler]

“I can’t even think of something spontaneous…” 😂. Meanwhile my ENFP brain already has 3 examples. INFJs are so cute and absolutely wonderful human beings. Can’t wait to squish my INFJ later today. 😊

[@mariedodds6307]

I used to work as a drug counsellor and one of my colleagues once said that when she watched me work with clients it was like seeing someone perform open heart surgery without the person even noticing! I took that as a massive compliment!

[@martinholm1566]

That is for sure a very nice compliment. Take it to your heart.

[@that_sWRite]

look i'm spontaneous okay? sometimes i get a muffin with my cup of tea when i go out to write at the cafe does an unspontaneous person do that? i think not

[@Bjorick]

depends, what type of muffin? if you say one kind, then no...... :D

[@PrismCasillica]

Woah now calm down! Next you're going to get a cupcake just to mess with us 😨

[@colleenrawson8477]

That is my exact definition of spontaneous. Although I'd probably use the mobile app to order so I don't get flustered at the counter.

[@borcsaster]

@@anniksart907 Is it spontaneity to cancel a meeting (in the last moment) with your friend 'cause you'd rather stay home? Or that, that I late many times 'cause things didn't turn out as I expected? -I wasn't planning to be late...

[@susysnakegirl]

Admit it, you find the perfect muffin flavor and then get it every time you decide to be spontaneous. 😀

[@iluvcandy56]

I'm just going to stick with my imaginary partner for the rest of my life.

[@madeleinearcher999]

iluvcandy56 omg me me me

[@dudeidk7758]

this is the most relatable comment ever. it's so hard to have such high standards, cause no one fits in them, so I better just stick with my imagination :)))

[@lyssaw5831]

Same

[@phoenixbg2096]

and I thought i am the only one with this idea😅

[@AbubakarMuwonge]

Most of INFJ been there! But hey; you gotta feel that body on body sensation... Most magnificent feeling 😂

[@philippbatz2578]

I'm an INTJ currently dating an INFJ and I literally never felt what I feel now. She is the only one who can warm my heart and the beautiful thing is how mutual everything is about us. There are some difference in our personalities but they seem to compensate each others. I tend to be more conscious about my feeling but also more judging about them, while she is less of that but still super understanding. I love everything about her, don't wanna loose her.

[@ChaosActual1]

Right there with you, never had a relationship go as well as it has with my INFJ, we’ve been engaged a few months now, but honestly I knew she was the one I wanted to marry within months of our first date. To be fair we’re childhood friends so that wasn’t a completely uninformed decision, basically all I needed to know was how things would change after the relationship changed, if that makes sense.

[@sarrabouhamed]

Marry her ❤

[@blessedsoul949]

Awwww❤❤

[@zola5653]

I am an INFJ (F) happily in a safe and secure relationship with INTJ (M)

[@PsychicInsignia]

Awww same thing infj with infp, we have been together for a long time.

[@Kindness808]

I have an INTP friend who is incredibly good at taking one of my hour long bumbling ramblings and translate it into about 3 solid sentences. It's amazing.

[@pekitka19]

My INTJ friend do that too! It's so good, that someone can "translate" your "bla,bla,bla" in 3 sentences, that other people understand.

[@desireez5740]

😆 Love it.

[@IamPriyankaSoni]

INTP's can do that so well!! Thank god for having them.

[@revolutionfrommahbed4246]

Hah! I just commented on that up the thread! As an ENTP I do that for NF friends ALLLL the time 😂

[@JohnAttebury]

I do this for my INFJ wife. I love it.

[@toxsiin]

“what world are you living in”.. me: starts thinking “earth this is where we live, welcome” me: huh.. oh yeah *rewinds video*

[@shariworden3212]

Oh god I literally did the same thing. XDDD

[@shariworden3212]

@@laniagultom Pausing requires a foresight and level of self-awareness that I aspire to reach someday. My hat is off to you. 🤣

[@ing5088]

😂😂😂

[@daftne11]

This happens to me a lot and I'm INFP lol

[@esterrr.x]

I didn't realize I do the same thing quite a lot until I read this comment... ya got me.

[@stephanieonuoha4495]

80% of my life is lived inside my head. And the over planning an event or situation is just sometimes confusing I really wish I could understand myself.

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

I over pack for everything! ~

[@Two.Houses]

I understand you so much...

[@arizona5234]

I feel so understood by this comment

[@aimanharith5817]

same 😂🤣

[@randomperson1714]

Lunastaria SpiritDiva YES YES.i remember being on this one school trip(it was for 2 days)and I had packed a TON of cloths.

[@lanascribe]

I'm INFJ and I had a dream a few nights back where my perfect partner did something unexpected that I never knew I always wanted: I wanted to go to him but I was afraid of rejection so instead I laid on the floor near his room and just went to sleep. He came out - saw me - laid down next to me - pulled me into his arms - and also went to sleep. It - was - perfect!

[@JN-dj5xh]

Sounds like a perfect dream

[@proffoctopus66yearsago22]

girl your dreams sound like my day dreams..... 💀💀

[@DarkCelestialConsciousness]

Strange loll :D

[@XSmashleyX87]

Watching this as a very happily married INFJ and you’re basically describing my relationship with my husband. It makes me even more thankful than I already am to have found such a compatible partner. Don’t give up, INFJs, there’s someone out there and you’ll totally know it when you find them. ♥️

[@Mycuriousnature]

Me too. The first thing I noticed about my husband was his kind but bright eyes, and the connected way in which he talked to everyone he came into contact with. So I knew right away that he was not only a kind heart, but had spark and drive too. He's extremely practically helpful, and enjoys personal growth like I do. One thing that's different about us is that he is perfectly happy to speak his opinions about other people (he is from New York- I'm from humble New Zealand), and I actually find that really refreshing. I'm not outspoken and don't like saying negative things about people (even if they are kind of horrible people), but he'll say it, and I'll be like- "Ouch, that's harsh!" but secretly be celebrating because that's what I would want to say- if I were bolder! I don't know what personality type he is- he doesn't like being put in a box, so he won't take it. I wouldn't be surprised if we were both the same, but with variations on the scale (like maybe he is a bit less introverted than me, and more assertive- like a strong INFJ?) But we both accept each other for who we are, which is wonderful.

[@EH_888]

You know his type?

[@MC-fo9xr]

I hope I can say this one day. I'm 26 and never been in a relationship. :( I'm losing hope lol

[@sourceactivation2176]

Same girl!

[@DirectFireDave]

@@Mycuriousnature he’s probably an ENFJ or ENFP

[@OXGiaNinaXO]

I’m an ENFP and my husband is a ISTJ. when I talk all nonsensical it amuses him. One time we were at the beach, sitting on the sand, enjoying a romantic night. I was staring at the water deep in thought and he turned to me and said “what are you thinking about” and I said “how many dead bodies do you think are in the ocean?”. His reaction was priceless and he knew right away what kind of person I am 🤣

[@astraeusgodofthestars676]

As an ENFP, I approve this comment 🤣🤣🤣🌈🐻👍 I really want to meet an ISTJ, a complete polar opposite of my personality hahaha

[@SoulVlogs744]

🤣😂🤣😂👍

[@sylviaoesterwinter8858]

Holy shit!!!! I thought I was the only one. I live in San Diego and have completely freaked myself out at the beach over the past many years here. Tee-hee! How many dead people? Are you old enough to remember the Tsunami? I was not in the water for over a year.

[@iumcon8647]

Dead human bodies in the ocean? Interesting thought. How many permafrost, megafauna carcasses are now thawing out, and drip drip dripping their ancient funk into the streams>rivers>oceans of the planet? Skin, hair, bone, and flesh that hasn’t been kissed by oxygen or the sun’s light for over 12,000 years...now slowly marinating in a soup of polar meltwater and cradled by oceanic currents. I’m sure we’ll adapt.

[@kassandrasabean6020]

@@iumcon8647 Okay, that's disgusting.

[@minorikato8503]

As an INFJ, I appreciate you giving us a heads up whenever an ad is gonna play👌🏻

[@dcya4765]

Literally 😂

[@himanifafale6315]

Same here -INTJ

[@markof.4361]

Absolutely, me too. REALLY confortable u.u

[@stef4oben88]

Yess it's funny and I like the thrill of not knowing if the ad will actually play XD - INFP

[@Annointedxx]

100% I found this so cool not gonna lie

[@philipp4801]

You basically just described my therapist....oh boy.

[@993LD]

ENFP here, and INFJ's are my favorite type of people 😅

[@vesperharrington8708]

Also an enfp; same .

[@epicthundercat]

ENFP here. I also agree. They are adorable and kind of mysterious xD I find them fascinating and fun and cute.

[@kaylad6768]

Wow I used to test as ENFP in high school, now in college I test as INFJ 🤷‍♀️

[@qwertylife]

ENFPs pair well with INFJs :)

[@voyance4elle]

Yay 😊 I am an ENFP and my wonderful boyfriend is an INFJ

[@yellayeah]

I like that you would cue the youtube ad because it feeds my INFJ need for predicability.

[@randomperson1714]

yellayeah yessss.

[@randomperson1714]

and the second an add didn’t show up I would be mad.

[@That_misfit]

How does he knows a ad will going to happen?????

[@yellayeah]

Poonam Thakur you get to choose where to insert the ads.

[@miriamrobarts]

And the ads don't interupt a sentence.

[@biancar6055]

When you’re an NF and you’re trying to go on giving your opinion on a complex topic and end it with a “I don’t know if this made sense but yeah..” 😅😂😂

[@civilizedmonster]

Omg that's me. Lol

[@dancingprincess]

I say that all the time too!

[@lonelybirdsings5875]

Literally word for word🤯😅

[@Laura-Yu]

As an ISTP, I can’t understand NF’s... I’m totally fine with NTs and SFs but I don’t comprehend how feelings can be “so complicated”😂

[@biancar6055]

@@Laura-Yu We are basically just winging it at this point lol if it flows, it goes 😂

[@andrewmutters8338]

As an ENTP who’s been married to an INFJ female for over 26 years, it’s definitely been an adventure. Communication is key

[@stunningfreefall]

If anyone talks to me about their problems, they are getting advice whether they want it or not haha. I can't help myself

[@OuterWorldMovement]

Yup same here!!!!!xd.even if they didn't ask for it

[@robin-chat2812]

Don't ask if you don't want the truth or advice

[@nuruls7606]

Same here! 😂

[@nuruls7606]

@@robin-chat2812 that's right! 🤭

[@florjunemacaguyongmabutin40]

Haha

[@jeremysmith9694]

How is it possible to have so many hairstyles

[@desireez5740]

Suaveness

[@mariethemagnificent2000]

He IS blue steel!

[@FrankJames]

it's a blessing... and a curse

[@borcsaster]

Are you kidding? For the behavior chameleon of the MBTI world, it's a natural thing! ;)

[@ArcaneGinger]

Jeremy!! You missed the Live Stream!! Shame! Lol anyway hope you are well!

[@chelseaclark-martin6357]

Spontaneous, respects boundaries, bring us back down to earth sometimes, has their own identity, open to advice, a fellow NF or someone who appreciates our feelings based abstract minds! 👍

[@mariethemagnificent2000]

Chelsea Clark-Martin , obviously you are what we are looking for. Lol

[@chelseaclark-martin6357]

Oh I’m the INFJ! My husband does all of this for me though. He is INFP.

[@mariethemagnificent2000]

Chelsea Clark-Martin - your coalescence of the video, it made me laugh. 🧡

[@skyblazeeterno]

@@chelseaclark-martin6357 yes infp infj is a great combo. On the exterior we are very much alike but inside we approach things from different angles. The cognitive stack is mirrored if I recall correctly so we complement each other

[@snoozyq9576]

So true about the advice omg! Always giving my partner advice and he's always telling me to shut up haha.

[@roseluna7334]

I am an infp and my partner is an infj and here is somethings i noticed about him 1. he can be very sensitive to things 2. he constantly is overthinking 3. i started to always notice things he doesnt say and he appreciates that alot 4. but when i do something small just as an appreciation of him, he is really really grateful for that he always overthinking things and it can be both good and bad. But thats where i come in to help him with that and he needs someone to tell him where its too much so like the video said calling him out. Don’t be afraid to call them out at times because thats what they or as i know my partner who is an infj thats what he needs as he’s constantly in his head. But i see no problem with that as i do love him dearly PS this is just to share information about an infj not to criticize them in anyway!! i hope whoever reads this has a better understanding of infjs

[@luisantos1996]

Yep do not critize them, you gotta be kind with them, you gotta understand how we feel, we already are very harsh on ourselfs, we need someone to make us feel at ease, we are very emotional and sensitive. Dating life for us is an struggle.

[@AnnieIsaLau]

Yes! I'm with INFJ also, and I have never met a guy like that before. I keep telling him 😂 we had to adjust at first because of our insecruties and stuff, but we talked about it alot and now it's great. 😊 I honestly never met a guy like that before and still in shock and impressed about him 😂 we can chat for hours and never get tired.

[@ErikAdalbertvanNagel]

Dang I'm also an INFP and an INFJ she's just toyed me, borderline evil and crazy stuffed with pain. Like wtf is wrong with INFJ people?

[@AnnieIsaLau]

@@ErikAdalbertvanNagel hahaha I just read my comment. I'm not with my INFJ anymore because he lied to my face so I dumped him. I can't tolerate lies.

[@shikhasuman871]

@@ErikAdalbertvanNagel everything? Lol. I'm even scared of myself. 🥲😂

[@MusicMadtm]

"that NF way of talking" PREACH sis omg, ENFP gal here and i swear people think i can't speak english sometimes because i can't figure out how to make sense 😂

[@downsjmmyjones101]

I absolutely want an NF talk explanation video. It makes no sense.

[@ArcaneGinger]

I agree!! -a fellow enfp

[@---.-----]

People like you make me feel like I am actually an ENTP... You just seem more ENFPish than I do, mainly because I can't jingle jango the boogle doot that well outside the internet, and even online, I sometimes just dive into debates and spend hours arguing about the sex of the angels, or the hell is happening on my feed...

[@raksha31]

infj are not just a personality they are a family a big family that is spread around the world

[@innowebtechsolutions]

😊😊😊🖤🖤

[@nuruls7606]

🤗 since i studied these videos about INFJs and read the comments from fellow INFJs, i felt so relieved because finally i found someone who is the same as me, i don't feel all weird and all alone anymore because i know scattered around the world i still have my INFJ brothers and sisters that i am bound to meet later in my life 🥺🥲

[@heronofheaven]

Umbrella Academy?

[@ameliagray1618]

I'm the only infj in my immediate family

[@markof.4361]

I really appreciate your words 🥺. I think youre RIGHT!!!! 🖤🖤We are conected by our minds O.O

[@crystalcantabrana3354]

“Welcome to Earth. This is where we live.” Yeah, fine, I guess.

[@rc9266]

nope, we are passing through! For me there is a forever home in Christ.

[@kbflorida888]

I thought that was funny too

[@kristamariau]

I'm falling for INFJ. I am ENFP myself. He's like no one I ever met before and I'm eager to see how far we will grow

[@autumnpendergast9151]

Me too

[@AlessandroCasciaro]

Same here

[@tommynobaka]

As a male INFJ, He'll provide you with a mystery worth exploring. Just remember to communicate clear boundaries and allow the space to grow with each other

[@EternalSushiMusic]

I'm dating an ENFP gal as an INFJ! Communication and boundaries! Don't press him too hard and he should indicate what's comfortable c：

[@camillebreuskin]

How did it turn out?

[@alfihanifahprameswari4997]

I need someone who knows when to talk and when to remain silent and enjoy our silence. Idk why but it's really fun 😩👌 And actually, my crush is that type of person. I'm an INFJ and he's an INTJ. We get along together so well. But unfortunately he doesn't like me back, sooo 👀 :")

[@fawnnyoon8659]

my partners always seem to think im mad ;-; like.. man im just as confused as you are ;-;

[@BethsarimIAM]

Yes, I can be quiet for hours, thinking thinking... talking ruins my process... and hubby asks "what's wrong?" And I look up dazed and blank, nothing. And then he is SURE... something is up babe...

[@wingwaves940]

Yes!!!

[@desireez5740]

Yes! I have a couple friends that feel the need to constantly ask questions when I'm with them. Oh wow, exhausting. Like let's just *be* for a bit.

[@broskev]

@@fawnnyoon8659 exactly lol, people tend to think that im sad/mad most of the time because im silent uh

[@TrippingOverParadise]

Spontaneity? 😱 Yeah, we need to mentally prepare for everything. 😂

[@mxwitcher]

@@mindabobis7601 yeah, I think she meant she really needs it because we mentally prepare for everything and not really as spontaneous, as Perceivers, so 😅

[@TrippingOverParadise]

@minda Bobis I had this definition of spontaneity in mind, since I would describe myself as a planner: “the quality of being natural rather than planned in advance” I can adapt to others as needed, but I definitely prefer to mentally prepare when able. My ENTP, on the other hand, loves spontaneity. He prefers to go about life “winging it,” in his words.

[@madeleinearcher999]

Michelle Kaminer this. This is what I’ve been trying to put into words for years

[@w13rdguy]

Best thing about a rotary phone: Plenty of time to change your mind, while dialing😃

[@crystaljean522]

Yes!!! Lol And plenty of time to decide whether you want to pick it up as it won't jump to voicemail after five rings!

[@RebeccaWorters]

Does the rotary phone work? I have one just like it but never tested it because there is no land line service in my house. Looks very cool tho

[@FrankJames]

😂

[@onthehill3381]

Right!?!?🤣😂

[@lancelotdufrane]

I have that same phone...😂🤣😳. Couldn’t believe it when I saw one at Franks house! INFJs...

[@Cutty_Bronson]

I'm an ENTP, and my wife is an INFJ. We just celebrated our 15th anniversary; I attribute that to us both realizing each other's strengths and weaknesses and, henceforth, building on them to create balance. I constantly find it pretty amazing how different our brains function in so many regards, yet we are also so much alike, not in spite of said differences, but because of them. It's seemingly paradoxical but true, nonetheless. As with any relationship, it is give and take, finding compromise, and putting one's ego aside long enough to consider the other's perspectives and the subjective nuances which create said perspectives.

[@123kickinitSUPER]

When it’s 3 am and you are about to go to bed but you spot a new Frank James video.

[@kellylaher7512]

Same!😂

[@jeremysmith9694]

4 am here

[@prettyskunky]

5 am, just woke up 😄

[@tenthousanddaysofgratitude]

Ditto

[@Sareybeary]

Same

[@Skillfullfilms89]

As an INTP who has a crush on an INFJ... We get along super well, and she's legitimately told me she's the most comfortable around me and one other person... I don't think we'll ever be a thing, despite how devoted my feelings for her have been for years... she's so amazing, smart, unique, fun, energetic.. and while she's very confident on the outside, which is impressive, she's very anxious underneath... which makes it even more impressive that she acts confident. Im so laid back though- im open to conversation about all kinds of things, but I feel like i'm not 'passionate' enough for her... I love just listening to her talk and think, even about the more taboo and disturbing or political topics... *sigh...* I love that woman so much-

[@traitrous836]

Me, almost exactly the same, as an INTP who have a crush on INFJ girl. Also fell so deep. *wipe little tears*

[@imanafdar]

So you got friendzoned by her, also maybe she is manipulating you.

[@jewelseasterman8328]

I hope it works out. Sometimes it just takes an INFJ some time... but she will never leave once she surrenders.

[@PlaguedByEarth]

@aftonology101 How's that Toxic Femininity treating you, though?

[@OuterWorldMovement]

Go get her man.....lol

[@imanitrobinson9485]

As an infj woman, I respond best to an alpha male that is a gentleman. I simply melt at his command.

[@nessauk2786]

Yes so do I....

[@soyo4647]

Definitely...

[@rialavinia4472]

Wow this is exactly it ....

[@daisyday5037]

Maybe your INFP not an INFJ. I’m an INFP and I totally realize Id love a gentleman who can sooth me and also true masculinity

[@soyo4647]

Well, I see an alpha male as knowing who he is and what he wants. A gentleman would respect my boundaries. These points were made in the video. Also if he is secure enough in himself, he may not mind being gently unraveled.

[@chocolateisgreat4037]

I'm INFJ and all I really want in a partner is someone who supports me when needed but also lets me be independent. I need someone who can tie me down to earth but also set me free.

[@morethanahumanbody3339]

I'm watching this to improve my imaginary boyfriend 🖤😍💀

[@daniellemichielefrancescaa2656]

Me too!🙌🏽

[@hibaimene9684]

Same sis, same.

[@videodiaryofbarsha]

Same sis.

[@ausmira]

Did you have trouble giving him a name? I can’t seem to think of the perfect name for mine.

[@supernova7063]

Nia Davis 😃IKR? He’s so perfect that no common Earthly name is befitting. I went through the whole alphabet. Nothing. But if I name him, then he’ll be flawed, like a human. Yes I’m weird. And I’m still ok with it because I’m happier in fantasy. At least I have the ability to escape when things get too real down here. I’m a functional weirdo ☺️.

[@drivethrupoet]

First response that came to mind: Separate bedrooms

[@Marixpress2]

🙏🏻🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@Thepotatomind]

drivethrupoet oh yes

[@nalanidavis3223]

Yup, I had one! 😂

[@drivethrupoet]

@@soni8995 lol If you are just starting to date, I wouldn't make too much of my comment. And it has nothing to do with being chaste, it's just needing to be alone to truly relax sometimes. Plus I've always had strange sleeping patterns.

[@melaniee4014]

YESSSSSS!!!! Someone who understands that and doesn't take it personally...wah wah wah!!

[@justmichael6435]

I'm an INFJ male, my gf is INTJ, she was the first person that i met besides my best friends who truly understand the abstract things i say or think about. She often brings me back to earth "Hey, youre in your head again, i'm here just talk to me" i've found an diamond in this generation, i'm forever greatfull for the little things she does, broke the shell took me out and said "Yup there is the real you, come lets have a great life together"

[@ashecollins5309]

"I can't even think of something spontaneous..." Literally me. (INFJ) 🤣🤣🤣

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

For me, that means leaving the house seriously, my spontaneous is usually just bothering to go outside for once, even just walking around the neighborhood is all I do ~

[@moldypotatochip]

I'm INFJ and my husband is ENFJ (he just tested recently though lol, I didn't know his personality type until a few weeks ago). His extroverted side helps to balance me. Our 5 year wedding anniversary is next month ❤

[@yousramahdy550]

God bless you both ❤

[@EbiStephenJacob]

God bless ya❤️

[@3rundisciple]

Its going to be a happy marriage for y'all! Im an ENFJ and my wife is INFJ. Its a pleasure getting to know and understand yalls type, like a massive fascinating treasure chest with no bottom.

[@rachelleedwards4522]

I’m an INFP and my hubby is an INFJ. In the humble words of Forest Gump, “We are like peas and carrots.”

[@yumnatyer901]

I am INFJ and my fiancé is INFP. When we just met he used this exact comparison!! ♥️

[@inschick]

Same :D I'm an INFP and my husband is an INFJ. We are married since 4 year. People often wonder how well we fit together. ^^

[@ayushchauhan2938]

I was overthinking my infp-infj relationship but I guess it will be alright, thank you all❤

[@MeowdamePurrie]

INFP (F) + INFJ (M) highschool sweethearts here. Married 23 years, basically grew up together as a couple. This video was spot on from my (infp) perspective. Sometimes I'm still not sure if I married a guru or a serial killer, but I'm still having fun

[@aliciagc2539]

I am INFJ. My husband is ISTP. While I am planning he is doing. He will quietly take charge of things without being bossy, which I love. When we're planning to go out, I will take a while to get myself together, while he is ready to go. He frequently says to me "I'll be in the car waiting." Lol. I love our differences, but our similar introversion and values tie us together. He's the best.

[@zerlindaadimannuela1773]

omg i want this😭

[@mudman619]

you're so fortunate. I'm ISTP who was married to an INFJ and it was a disaster. She was like some sort of alien whom I could get a handle on sometimes, and oftentimes, just couldn't relate to. well, plus she had OCD and some other issues, lol. I would often be like, "Who are you? What planet are you from?" lol. Never, ever will I date an INFJ again, lol. I want someone who is simply not crazy. lol

[@shadowstarspammy]

I’m infj and my long term boyfriend is an istp! It was a very bumpy relationship at first, but we’ve come to understand eachother better with time and each have matured and come to learn what we need to be fulfilled (thankfully) I love that for you, goals!

[@otterinaballgown3703]

Ha, same here. We have these hilarious conversations where I can't describe some tool needed to fix something, or he can't figure out what word to use in a text. Small example of complimentary strengths In truth, though, that's really what it's about. Find someone who compliments your strengths and that you can be a complete weirdo with at 3am. There's crazy in every type, and limiting yourself may blind you to a great match. Just my take. ~A (hopefully not crazy) INFJ

[@Womenswell022]

So happy for you.

[@nalanidavis3223]

I'm INFJ and my daughter is ENFP. We find it hilarious how our personalities are but get along so well.

[@dizzy388]

This makes me laugh, since I'm an ENFP, and my dad's an INFJ! Very different personalities, but ENFP and INFJ just gel together so well, it's insane. On behalf of ENFP daughters everywhere, thank you for your service!

[@nadig9524]

omg my mom is an ENFP and I'm an INFJ, that's so funny. I find we're somewhat different but I also remind us a lot of herself and we complement each other really well

[@nalanidavis3223]

It's the best combo!

[@janicemartir4536]

Yeah my sister's an ENFP and I'm INFJ and we're practically best friends 😅

[@nalanidavis3223]

Yup, my brother is also ENFP and we've been close since childhood.

[@katecreek5595]

We do need to be told when we’re overthinking even though as an INFJ we can possibly take it personally haha

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

Everyone knows I'm a Leonine INFJ Fire Ball Fire Cracker, with the Mars Scorpio temperament and Death Glares to match ~

[@naziaasad785]

@@lunastariaspiritdiva8662 😱😱😱really ?? 😱😱😱😂

[@jessicakaravan9792]

I'm an INFJ woman and married an ENTJ guy. I highly recommend this combo 👌🏽

[@jayarikishii]

Why?

[@mellyperez1522]

3:46 *If there was such a thing as “INFJs ANONYMOUS”, I feel like every meeting would start off like this* 🤣🤣🤣

[@chitraguha5524]

Someone make a gif of this :D

[@daniellemichielefrancescaa2656]

LMAO!😂🤣

[@gioginna6864]

yes but do I really need a partner?

[@jodypopovich6228]

Need? I know I want one!

[@mariethemagnificent2000]

I don’t.

[@heru77777]

As an INFJ I would definitely agree with that I do not NEED anyone. It's just that like Jody said it's because I WANT one. Cus why the f not? Mind as well, its fun to have! Fuck it! I know My partner is just me in another perspective so I mean for me it's fine once you understand who you are fundamentaly. At least for a little while until you get bored with it and see that it's pointless haha. I would say It's all about doing things consciously with your experiences that matter. Otherwise, that bad karma you've accumilated is just going to get back to you and haunt you if you treat your relationships bad imo.

[@gioginna6864]

@@heru77777 You're completely right. But since we live in this "always-in-two" society, it's really hard to figure out if you're FEELING that you really *want* someone, or if you *need* someone. Needy people is all around nowadays.

[@gioginna6864]

@@CoffeenSpice I think that at first you should know if there's any kind of trauma behind this needing or this wanting. Then, you can make your decision. Hahahahahaha

[@PeaceLilies03]

Not an INFJ, but I've heard that INFJs will frequently need to know how their partner feels. If that's true, then that's something that a potential partner will have to be comfortable with as well. P. S. You seem happier somehow recently, FJ. ☀️

[@lextor4712]

hmm...I'm INFJ and it's easy for me because I can absorb other peoples emotions - which can be overwhelming.

[@mxwitcher]

As an INFJ, I will say that is true, but most of the time I get to absorb their emotions, I just need their confirmation about it.

[@Morgan313]

We need to know, but we almost never need to ask.

[@vocalwriters8491]

@@lextor4712 me too

[@m33la]

This is true bc i definitely need this 😂

[@DragonguyA]

*INTJ who is studying a bit on INFJ because the girl I'm interested is one* Knowledge is power, which hopefully won't make me say to wrong word and get a slap to the face

[@masteroogway6339]

Me too but with a guy. How’s it going for u?

[@foxglovewargrave681]

3:48 “Hey! Let’s come back down to earth!-“ Me: “can’t do that. I’m a space Oddity.”

[@LisaLee123]

😂😂😂😂

[@thirstaefortae5057]

I legit laughed when you said you couldn’t even come up with anything spontaneous because it’s so out of your depth.

[@sanjayshengale9729]

Shin ae yoo ❤️

[@jeremysmith9694]

Dude I had an infj gf and I feel like I may have pushed her boundaries and I think it caused problems and tension between us. I feel bad about that. She seemed very sensitive and valued things strongly and I maybe didn't respect that enough

[@Nonamagic]

That's such a great thing to say, I like to think my ex might have something like that cross his mind.

[@manager-nim2623]

Someone made the same mistake to me and I door-slammed him, but guess what? Even after a long time of no contact he managed to reach out again and gave a sincere apology and we're friends again and have a better relationship than we had before

[@jeremysmith9694]

I think it's probably why we broke up. If I had known that at the time I probably would have acted differently and taken her more seriously. It's hard to know when you see it for the first time. Sometimes I wish I could redo it. But I can't. Just learn for the next girl I guess. I think our personalities clashed a little bit which I feel way bad about. We both felt bad.

[@jeremysmith9694]

@@Nonamagic he may have. You never know. I know I think about it a lot.

[@tomasvallejos1609]

@@jeremysmith9694 you can still apologize to her. I think that if you are very honest with her it can make things better.

[@prettyskunky]

Because the deep gets tiring, even for ourselves, they need to have patience, a lot of patience....

[@foxinfj3472]

Linda Z Yep. You nailed it.

[@zp6097]

Which is hard to tell them when I am always so iMPATIENT! I’m a hypocrite, 100%.

[@tectonicD]

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[@Kindness808]

My ENTJ is always telling me I need to work on being concise...it's been over a decade so I don't know why he expects this. Like, Dude....if I could say this and NOT take an hour for the sake of efficiency...I WOULD! I WOULD DO THAT!

[@caitlynryder8639]

If the universe is so big, then why won't it fight me?

[@Happy-uy5wc]

I'm a female INFJ... I was married when I was a 17 year old teenager, I divorced 2 years later when I was 19... I'm 67 now.. and I don't think that I'll ever get married again. I love living alone. I had a Great Aunt who married young and her husband died soon after, she lived to be 105 years old and was happy alone.

[@iluminet]

Not true for me. You keep testing my boundaries, eventually, I will go boom. BIG bada boom. And then disappear forever.

[@amandagibbins6015]

Preach

[@rc9266]

i end that crap real quick!!

[@rachael9965]

Sameee

[@nuruls7606]

Same with me

[@free2beemee]

Key word is EVENTUALLY!! But when we do.... watch out! 🧐

[@888biblestudy]

I am an INFJ and my partner is INFP - it's amazing. We've only been together for a week and it feels like forever. We have been penfriends since 1994 and finally met. Any INFJ/ INFP couples here?

[@utubecomtw13]

I'm INFP looking to date an INFJ, advices please

[@asmrcomet2939]

I’m an infj (I think) with an infp twin does that count?

[@OuterWorldMovement]

@@utubecomtw13 umm,just watch Frank james vid of 7 things U should never say to INFJ he explains each one. It'll help U understand infj better,also read the comments there. After watching the vid. Tho remember every single human being is different.anyway I hope this helped

[@winniecantonese]

My best friend is an INFJ.

[@Derosnec1111]

I am infj with an infp and have been for 11 years

[@maisaisbandi273]

I'm INFP and my Husband is INFJ, it's amazing relationship...

[@nonawinda8150]

Me too! But I'm INFJ and he is INFP. He's more logic than me, but he can understand my words, and tell me how my words connect with the real world. Because I live in my own world 😂

[@alexfurman4431]

ENTP just here looking for my soulmate 🥰

[@jphnx8268]

My husband is an INFJ and I'm an INFP. His constant planning drives me bonkers sometimes; but overall, we get along really well. We've also been friends for 20 years. 💜

[@charming_mist7925]

My dad is an INFJ and my mom is an INFP, and they get along very well most of the time. They've been together for about 17 years and counting!

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

The more you give him "the good understanding" of it, and appreciate what it can mean and do, for him and you, you got him big time :) Keep going

[@lalakuma9]

That's interesting. I'm an INFP, but I don't think I'm very spontaneous because of my Si. Although I do sometimes wing it, and I don't plan things as much as my SJ parents. I'm trying to imagine how an INFJ could be even less spontaneous than an INFP.

[@MaraJadeSkky]

Same dynamic with my INFJ husband and me. I was an INTP but it changed a little over recent years.

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

@@lalakuma9 We do have inspired actions, which are very spontaneous, unless one is living in a way were one is really holding oneself back. But that has nothing to do with the type. Our inferior/aspirational Se IS spontaneous, but mostly in bursts here and there over a day, over a week, not "any time" like an ENFP for example, our shadow type. Or of course, Se-doms.

[@cake5058]

Thanks for giving my mind some clarity. My partner doesn’t appreciate my insight and often shuts me up. I have tolerated this for over three years now, and I’m thinking it’s time to make some changes for myself. However, I had no idea of what kind of person would be receptive to me because it feels like the whole world thinks there is something inexplicably wrong with me. Also when people do need me for advice they tend to only just want advice from me and not even friendship. So I often feel like a free counselor.

[@elartz5669]

You have to value your self more, then the others will do too. You need comfort too.

[@astraeusgodofthestars676]

Self-love is the best gift we can have for our selves. Sending you light and love ♥️ ~from an ENFP

[@AliceDiamondWisdom]

NOOOO to us INXX types are insight is apart of our identity! Its one thing for him to occassionally dislike it but if it's a habit he's basically rejecting apart of who you are. Don't give free advice to people who only want your advice and not you. You wouldn't befriend someone whose only after you for you money or the favours you do them, but good advice is just as valuable, it's just more subtle.

[@EmeraldEdge72]

Random Strangers spill their guts to you on the side of the road, tis the normal life really.

[@sunburstrose7860]

@5 of Cups, Do you know your partner's type?

[@jeremysmith9694]

Dude bust out that rotary phone on the desk. Teach our young viewers what that dinosaur is.

[@juliannewilridge3799]

Im an INFP dating my INFJ boyfriend and i love our relationship dynamic. We have such similar personalities, and hobbies. We are able to understand each other very well. Were both empathetic and we never feel misunderstood with each other. I definitely am more spontaneous where he is more of the planner and it works out. If he plans to much, then i plan things for us, and i remind him to live and enjoy the present and not to worry too much, as we are both HEAVILY over-thinkers. Our self awareness and kindness is amazing and I’ve never had a better more compatible partner. I love studying INFJS and ways i can understand him more and be a better partner 😊 We can talk for hours and while we both can be stubborn, we both love to improve ourselves and take into account advice that the other is giving, and actually make those changes ❤️