Influencers Ruined 2022 Already - Very Really Good

[@BigAlexgator]

Literally made friends with coworkers over talking about good ole Kurt, his videos and his stand up this past week. Bonding over Kurtis Conner himself is the absolute best.

[@AxxLAfriku]

WOAH WOAH WOAH!!! Let me get this perfectly straight: You comment something that is completely unrelated to the fact that I have two HAZARDOUSLY HANDSOME girlfriends? Considering that I am the unprettiest KZbinr worldwide, it is really incredible. Yet you did not mention it at all. I am VERY disappointed, dear aly

[@hollberryy]

no way that's literally the besttttt I'm gonna start wearing merch of everyone I like every day just to try to make friends lmao

[@alyxwarner2984]

@@AxxLAfriku but do they smoke weed

[@BigAlexgator]

@@alyxwarner2984 lmao but do they tho? We may never know

[@laurenl22]

I went to Disney and wore the "please be nice to me" hat and someone struck up a conversation about being a citizen of KurtisTown!! He's taking over the world

[@clairegopaul4977]

i think kurt's hair looks very nice and ppl should simply stop bullying him

[@avril6922]

It's super cool!

[@_.eclipse]

Agreed

[@snowleopard064]

I personally don’t prefer it but it doesn’t make or break my viewing experience. He is allowed to look however he likes without ridicule and I don’t think that anyone should judge him for his personal choices.

[@Sophie-rg9hm]

he looks like he'd be soft

[@frederickschiller2185]

@@snowleopard064 agreed

[@Phantom95179]

Seeing people just discover Girl Defined is wild, they've been a dumpster fire for years alkdjfalkdj

[@Cera_01]

I literally watched Cody Ko's video(s) on them yesterday

[@ccbvck]

seeing curtis discover the word schadenfreude awfwgt4gqwtgywh

[@sisseholm4869]

I first heard about them from a strange aeons video

[@OK-hi5ym]

Kurtis says “Quebec City is in Quebec obviously” which may seem obvious yes but in the US we have a city called Kansas City that isn’t even in Kansas

[@stefanyromero1890]

found that out the other day and i couldn't believe it 😂

[@annakepes8050]

there’s one in kansas too! it’s just not the big one

[@cleo5090]

from a non American, where is Kansas City?

[@whatdoyousuppose]

@@cleo5090 Missouri!

[@astrowolvez]

… well fuck.

[@cowboypuppy]

imagine explaining "fart jar NFTs" to a pilgrim

[@zazooflores]

What is NFT

[@Cera_01]

@@zazooflores non-functioning testicles

[@abiflo]

i’ve literally googled nfts several times and i still don’t understand what it is

[@Cera_01]

@@abiflo for real tho its a quite literal jpeg image that people think has real value because they are "the only one that owns it" Sounds ridiculous? That's the point

[@cowboypuppy]

@@abiflo an easy way to think about it is like a digital trading card, you buy and own a unique piece of artwork and then (ideally) hold on to it until it increases in value where you then sell it for a profit. the reason they're bad for the environment is because of how both the artwork's digital "receipt" (the thing you actually pay for, anyone can download the jpeg but you own something that says you own it, if it sounds dumb that's because it is) and the cryptocurrency used to buy them are run on a blockchain. A blockchain is basically a HUGE series of complicated math problems that create the data and protect it, and high powered computers are needed to "solve" those problems to make and run the markets for NFTs and cryptocurrency, which is why they use a ton of energy. i'm not into NFTs, i think theyre really pointless and are bad investments on top of being bad for the environment, this is just how it was explained to me so hopefully it makes sense haha :)

[@nicomar3506]

For the person who is being harassed: this is interfering with your work. Talk to HR. If they fire you, that’s retaliation and you can sue them for that. It sucks that you might have to do that but that is not okay what this person is doing to you and it shouldn’t affect your life like this, especially if you like your job.

[@bowynhendrix5871]

I was literally coming here to say the same thing! You need to call HR! Make sure your concerns are documented. Communicate with them in email or other hardcopy formats. I always keep a CYA folder wherever I go, (Cover your ass) folder. You can do hard things! We believe in you!

[@janiedoie]

@@bowynhendrix5871 yes! Also document interactions with the security guard and your manager. If you start hearing rumours or people start treating you differently document that to. Document your anxiety and the things either of them say, date time and place. It sucks but situations like these always escalate unless you get ahead of it. And if it interferes with your job or mental health you have reason to sue or at least threaten to do so. If you don't it will just keep getting worse and worse. Trust me, my biggest regret was staying quiet in a situation like yours and I know too many people who feel the same. Nip it in the bud while you still can.

[@ZombieGravitation]

Also she should see if he's harassing anyone else, the more people bringing it up the harder it will be to brush off.

[@richardsonIII]

Lots of good info in this thread- but yeah, document everything. I'm sorry you're going through this, it sucks.

[@pantomimegoose]

And always remember there will be more "big girl jobs" out in the world and some of them include creep-free workplaces. You have a lot of internet support here, your feelings are correct, don't let your boss be dismissive.

[@Buggie97]

Once my mom (she cleans houses for a living) got accused for stealing this really expensive necklace/bracelet/ring (I can't remember which) woman made a huge deal saying she knew for a fact that my mom stole it. My mom almost lost her job. Turns out her husband took it to get engraved for their anniversary. Instead of telling his wife he took it and helping save my moms job. He felt it was OK to wait till their anniversary two weeks later to give it to his wife. The help ALWAYS gets accused first. ALWAYS.

[@sherambles7414]

To the person asking about the security guard, I've been harassed multiple times by different men at work and while it's hard without fail if I've come forward about it they've ended up having a history of that behavior and 3 were fired. Every time someone harassed me like that it only escalated til I said something. Please take your own comfort and security seriously and remember that if he is doing it to you he likely is doing, has done, or will do the same thing to someone else.

[@ViolentAurora]

For the growing up thing: practice asking for help. It might give you anxiety, but it's WAY less anxiety than having no clue what to do. Just ask questions whenever you have one. I would rather be the annoying question asker than be wracked with anxiety all the time. I have a severe anxiety disorder, and I've done a TON of work through it. You can do it. You don't have to believe you can. But you can.

[@averyfahl1556]

Yes! Take everything one step at a time

[@iang.9904]

Same, I had/have severe anxiety and I just.. worked thru it? Slowly went out of my comfort zone, started making moves to be more confident. Whenever I try to give tips on how to make anxiety a little less awful, ppl accuse me of “downplaying” or “invalidating” anxiety, or straight up accusing me of not having it at all Excuse me for trying to tell you that if you work hard at it, and use the right coping skills you can actually NOT be so anxious all the damn time :/

[@averyfahl1556]

@@iang.9904 it sucks that ppl react that way:/

[@ViolentAurora]

@@iang.9904 Unfortunately, one of the only ways to really work through anxiety is to do the things that give you anxiety, within reason. Immersive therapy is the best treatment for anxiety.

[@iang.9904]

@@ViolentAurora yep that’s a huge part of what I did. Some ppl don’t wanna hear it tho

[@DreamyWorld19]

Here in Quebec, the influencer drama is such a big deal; as in everyone is making fun of them. It's kinda refreshing to hear news from my province that aren't weird (like the lady walking her husband as a dog after curfew).

[@doityourselfbombs]

I'm fairly new to Quebec but imo no crazy Quebec news story will ever beat that time we found out Karla Homolka lives here.

[@wepeelwraps]

my anxiety went through the ROOF thinking about them jumping & dancing on the plane?? i know i’m stupid but couldn’t that mess something up with the flight????

[@mcslave3]

If I was married to one of those girls and I saw that, I would be absolutely heartbroken. Like....what??? How could you say that, and why would you marry someone you have no physical attraction to? Jesus

[@its_the_bird]

@@TheLooocie holy shit, just throw the whole man out at this point 😰

[@Tiffany__B]

influencers are cringe and fail, but at least we have our mayor Kurtis who's going to save this year 😎

[@samspam1788]

When I was 16 I was excluded from school due to being anorexic and extremely mentally unwell, I wanted to die every time I thought about the future and I thought adulthood could only get worse. At 23 I'm happier than i ever have been, healthy and well, and I don't have regular existential crises. Things will get easier without you even having to try, being in your teens Is horrible and this might even be the hardest period of your life so go easy on yourself

[@1-eye-willy]

That lady who was farting in jars is proof that she actually found pleasure in doing so, she could have just sold empty jars to creeps and they would never know. To go through all that trouble, to do something as tedious, you gotta have some passion for doing something so fowl

[@vinyl1208]

perfect podcast to fail my classes to! thanks kurt ^_^

[@ziahood5003]

LOLL

[@loiwoz]

me too lmaoo i just got a 33 on my math test

[@s...5885]

u just like me fr

[@ciggy420]

hell yeah🥳

[@vinyl1208]

@@s...5885 we just like us fr

[@lexie2497]

to the kid in the first advice segment don't worry :( i'm turning 18 this year and graduating next spring and i have NO idea what i'm doing. getting older sucks but just try to think about the freedom you'll get to have when you're an adult

[@АнастасияЛаврентьева-я6э]

I'm 22, attending university but I still have no idea what I'm doing with my life. I'm just...here I guess. I think it's fine to feel lost as long as you're doing *something*

[@Sabrina-em8wj]

To the first advice question, I recently turned 21, not even thinking I would make it past 18. My favorite advice to tell people is that everyone’s timeline is different. Who cares what you do/when you do it. It’s YOUR life, it’s YOUR story. If everyone had the same timeline, life would be extremely boring and depressing. Always try new things. It’s okay to fail, it means you’re learning, and use that as a life lesson for when you move forward. There’s always people to talk to. Best of luck, you got this !!

[@averyfahl1556]

Yes totally agree! I turned 21 recently too☺️ And I would say, another thing I’ve learned and try to remind myself is: no matter how scary the future can feel, you have to trust that when the time comes (to get a job or go apply to college, or whatever it might be) you’ll probably be more prepared than you think. Take it slow and really prioritize your own happiness.

[@Zindai]

Can relate, I'm 29 and didn't think I'd get myself past 16. Things are a lot scarier when they're in the distance and you have time to ruminate. Once you're thrown into them it's really not that bad. We hear about the incredible planned out life journeys of others, but we overlook that we hear about them because they're special. Especially if you're a teen with depression/anxiety, it can be hard to know yourself as well as your peers do, and also hard to know what you'd want 10 years into the future. It's fine to keep options open and try various directions if you have the opportunity.

[@dontperceiveme3025]

Wow thats a great way to put it. I'm 19 going up to 20 and I feel so... behind everyone? I started college in 2020 during corona and it fucking sucks. I feel like everyone is making friends around me, my old highschool friends getting into relationships, making new friends, being successful at college, settling in while i'm just sinking into this black hole of dependency and isolation. Feels like i'm wasting my time even tho I know I'm still so young...

[@averyfahl1556]

@@dontperceiveme3025 i've definitely felt behind my peers as well, but everyone is different. i've accepted that socializing is hard for me, and there's nothing wrong with that. it's still good to put myself out there, even if i'm an awkward mess most of the time...i just try and embrace it lol(: if you're being yourself you'll attract the right people! and again (something i continually have to remind myself when caught comparing my life to others), everyone has their own pace and their own path, it's okay to be slow or behind! just keep cruising in your own lane and it'll all work out

[@Miipmiip]

I felt that first part

[@dontperceiveme3025]

For the growing up person: It comes kind of naturally and slowly. I'm 19 and far from feeling like an adult, but I can definitely say I have grown since I was 16. I applied for university when I was 18, slowly settled into my very small apartment when only a year prior I was terrified of the thought of living alone :) You slowly learn how many things you can actually do on your own. Like traveling long distances per train, buying yourself stuff, going grocery shopping and making your own meals, spending time with yourself and being okay with that. It's the small things you realize you didn't do before and are now natural to you that makes you think "hey, i have grown!". I wish you all the best. Don't pressure yourself. And don't stick around for things that make you unhappy.

[@hayden1300]

kurtis i already want a part 3 to “let’s watch my fav tiktoks”

[@Iris-qf7yu]

Same

[@SAL-rx7bb]

i had a dream last night where kurtis was actually named john.

[@SAL-rx7bb]

he was exposed for being john and was promptly cancelled on all platforms

[@bumblaur]

@@SAL-rx7bb deserved

[@stinkytoesandfeet7689]

@@SAL-rx7bb #johnconnerisoverparty

[@emilyables7650]

also, the girl defined's husbands went to conversion camp so they definitely aren't attracted to them either. the whole thing is sad, but especially for the for husbands

[@sherambles7414]

I think that may be the thing Kurtis didnt wanna say just in case it's not accurate but man, yeah it's wild!

[@Sofia-airsignrights]

that was a made-up thing, neither of them went to conversion camp but girl defined definitely does support conversion therapy

[@MR-nt1bd]

that's a rumor, it may very well be true but it hasn't been confirmed and there's no solid proof.

[@Julie-ik9cr]

That is not true. There has never been any confirmation that he is gay, let alone that he attended conversion therapy. It's just some homophobic rumor that people spread based on nothing more than gay stereotypes; like that he has an "effeminate" voice, and the idea that homophobes are actually just closet cases. Please fact check information when it comes to people's sexuality, even shitty people like Girl Defined and their husbands.

[@kaylanh]

idk

[@erinbutler5625]

For the question about going to the boss because of the harassment- go to HR. HR is better equipped to handle it and they will be better able to protect you from repercussions. And if they also do not help you or you get negatively impacted for speaking up- you can find a better workplace.

[@mj-f7135]

Your profile picture is cute

[@bibsp3556]

HR will protect the company from lawsuits.

[@evilfoetus]

As someone from Quebec, i’m so glad you’re talking about this situation it’s crazy

[@katherine1304]

it wasn’t until my boyfriend and i started hooking up that i realized i wasn’t asexual, i just wasn’t attracted to my ex whatsoever lmao. i am so sorry to myself for going through all the heartache i went through for someone who was toxic and that i wasn’t even attracted to without even knowing it. being attracted to your partner is a game changer and is probably not as common as you’d think

[@theomacer3094]

"Dude I got a VR headset" _moves tissue box even further off-camera_

[@nadirimyers6643]

Every smoker knows the one thing you don’t do is smoke around ppl kids…. Even the ppl ik that don’t gaf about themselves in lives don’t smoke and do drugs round kids… who tf do they think they are? Like they fr need jail time so something cus I feel like ppl that act like that never had no type of consequences for they actions. They just think the whole fucking world belongs to them

[@CamiisCorner]

most fundamentalist that i know (in snark communities and IRL) the husband says "shes the love of my life/ love at first sight and i made sure to pray on it" and everytime the wife will say "i wasn't interested at first, but he grew on me/ once i prayed on it i loved him/ he told me he loved me and then i loved him/ i fell in love after we got married" its so toxic, as a girl you are trained to just listen to the men around you- your father first, until he marries you off, then you listen to your husband..

[@ndcoded]

this is genuinely one of my favorite podcasts, thanks for existing

[@kaylanh]

yess

[@moonshine9383]

Related to the advice about growing up: Im 16 and I recently talked with my therapist about my own fear of growing up and my struggle with figuring out what I want to do or what I can even do with my mental illnesses. She told me that I don't need to worry about it if it's not something I want to do right now. This expectation that at 18 you have to 'become an adult' and get a job and a house/apartment/whatever isn't even possible for a lot of people. You need to focus on doing things at your own pace and doing what you want, not stressing about what you can't do or what you think you 'have' to do. One day, you will get a job and possibly go to college or whatever you want to do, but don't rush it. And don't worry about being like everyone else, you're you, do what you want to do in life

[@zynxzonx5539]

Also wanna add that the part when she says she was “”approached by a young man” i believe he was like 16-17 when she was in her 20s. Just another thing on top of the shitstorm that is girl defined.

[@teambleckpowa2418]

quebecer here with some inside info! first of all apparently one of the influencers on the plane was a piloting student which makes it even worse. another thing was that the influencers were asked to provide a negative covid test and/or a confirmation that people had all their vaccine doses, which prompted a bunch of them to make fake papers saying that they were all good. however i would like to mention that i have seen/heard this info but have no real proof that this is real, so please take my claims with a grain of salt. if anyone could come in the comments with some sources that would be great! and idk about any of yall other quebecers but i have no idea who any of those influencers are. i've never seen them on tv. where did they come from lmao

[@andree-annelheureux983]

Hi!!! I'm also a quebecer and like... I heard the stories and when I saw who they were I was like "I don't know ANY of these people 😃"

[@io.nebulae]

Just a bunch of people with a lot of followers. Some come from L'île de l'amour, some from Occupation Double past seasons included.

[@beeboop8374]

The mullet mustache combo looks better every new video and it’s amazing me

[@minjoolee_]

to the kid in the first advice: i think it's especially hard thinking about growing up when you're in that 15-16 year-old stage, before you start having more freedom as an almost-adult at 17-18 but feeling like you're growing up way too quickly - i was there once and i thought that fear would never pass. but i promise you it will - once you start being able to do more things and feel yourself becoming more mature as you get ready for your 20s the fear will slowly fade away even if you still feel like you don't know where you're going. i didn't know what i was going to do once i got to college and i still don't know as a 20 year old and i probably still won't know when i'm 25 or 30 but i can assure you that fear and anxiety over becoming an adult will naturally fade away. i know it's hard but enjoy being a kid in your teens and if you can, try to find what you love without thinking too hard about the future

[@tinnagigja3723]

I'm 37 and I'm still anxious about becoming an adult.

[@AirWreckerr]

I just turned 21 and now I have I crippling fear of death 👍

[@tinnagigja3723]

@@AirWreckerr There's no need to fear death. Dying, maybe, but not death.

[@lola2542]

as you get older you also care less about what other people think of you, so it's easier to make mistakes and just laugh it off. when you're getting your first job and stuff like that it's so anxiety inducing and you're trying your best to be perfect and take initiative in situations you're unsure about, but going into your 20's no one really cares if you mess up or need help. you realize that everyone is just the same as you. we all need help sometimes.

[@neivmenon]

kurtissss this sweater really brings out ur eyes!! so cool!!

[@brib6046]

I didn’t notice until I read your comment but you’re so right

[@Floricado]

I had to cover the Trudeau conference at work and it was so entertaining to translate that bit lol He really had that "gang de sans-desseins qui partent comme des ostrogoths en vacances" locked and loaded lolll

[@vuIturecuIture]

kurtis saying "i have faith. you're gonna be alright, you're gonna be alright." hit me so hard, i rly needed to hear it. thank u kurtis

[@phoebebridgersgf3439]

same it made me so emotional

[@LacroixboiMarx]

Flight attendants should be able to throw one person off the plane. Especially on that Sun Wing flight. One out the door until they stop.

[@empresselfiie]

The teenager that’s worried about growing up makes me so sad 🥺😭 I hate capitalism so much dude. It’s ruining everything

[@happinesspridejoy7394]

Someone murders someone: “I don’t identify with this case.” Judge: Oh okay, you’re free to go.

[@sylviabosky]

For the girl, being sexually harrased by the security guard...seems old school but take it to pen and paper all the occasions the guard made you uncomfortable before you go to the big boss, write down comments, feelings everytime soon after he leaves, this way you have "proof" (write down if someone else was maybe around), stable points to refer too, thus it`s an official complain...this method was advised to me before when I was bullied in work and you can get a normal talk out of HR or the big boss

[@stinkycheeseman]

My freshman year of university, I swear the cafeteria food gave me 50 farts a day. I could’ve made so much money

[@anamastelini5467]

So how do I explain to my boss that I'm laughing because the podcast I'm listening to (while supposed to be working) said "jar jar stinks"

[@kodokuna.]

For the question about growing up, I had the exact same thing when I was around 11 and it gave me severe depression. I’m much better now, and honestly optimistic nihilism is key. Nothing matters, so fuck around and have fun. Don’t worry about anyone’s opinions and just live to make you happy. The fear of growing up is tied to the fear of capitalistic society, and the 9-5 people say we must have. Do whatever will make you happy, dude.

[@ragmamale4783]

Very true

[@erikamonihen8873]

The way you described adulthood, *chef's kiss*. It's just a ride, man. Don't take life too seriously. I always thought being an adult meant being so mature and responsible....because the adults in my life seemed to have it so together, and I am in my mid thirties and being an adult is different for me. I pay my bills, to the best of my ability. I have managed to overcome addiction, and I maintain my mental health the best as I can. I Do not look to others to know yourself, create your own future, based solely on you. There is no other you in this world. Wish someone had told me that. There is a path that you will walk, just for you. Best of luck. Age is just a number. It isn't real. ;)

[@spetchey7666]

That advice you gave on the future was so comforting to me. I have panic attacks on the regular thinking about the future as I am not good enough at any of the things I like to make a career out of them, and as a nearly 15 year old I already feel the pressure to have it figured out. I know it sounds ridiculous but it’s true. My school puts immense amounts of pressure on all of us to know what we want to do because “everything we do in school decides our future” apparently. Every time I tell my mum about it she tells me I don’t have to have it figured out now or that I have time, but it really doesn’t feel like it when I’m constantly reminded that my adulthood is only 3 years away. Despite this, hearing your advice made me feel quite a bit better, and for the first time I can think about this topic without crying, so I sincerely thank you so much for that

[@cleo5090]

from a early 16 y/o , every year it gets a little easier to comprehend. Also it what you choose to do when you graduate can be changed. If you go to school to become an engineer and you decide you hate it, you can try again. My mom in her late forties and has gone to college/ university about 4 times to try different things. Nothing you do is permanent.

[@phoebebridgersgf3439]

i can’t explain how the advice on fear of aging was perfectly timed for me thank u so much, i can’t describe how much that helped 😊😊😊😊😊 thank u kurty

[@Starrynights1924]

My husband was bawling his eyes out when I was walking down the aisle. I thought he looked so cute. He's a very emotional man.

[@danamonteith5751]

love hearing abt the embarrassment of the quebecois "influencers"

[@nomoretwitterhandles]

Quebec itself is embarrassing.

[@meulinaninou]

@@nomoretwitterhandles do you lived there ? Did you even been there ? Kindly just up plz

[@asmaaa.6163]

@@meulinaninou is spellcheck illegal in quebec? lmao

[@meulinaninou]

@@asmaaa.6163 english is not my fisrt language im doing my best , would you prefer to have the conversation in french ?

[@felixbergeron8286]

@@asmaaa.6163 Holy shit hahaha

[@rofljen666]

also i laughed so hard at the gas pain and gas pain medication discussion because I relate to it so hard that my breakfast sandwich fell out of my mouth onto my keyboard

[@2011willowstar]

Watched the first few minutes of Girl Defined's video to see if she addresses it (she doesn't). It really looks like the girl on the right has a healing black eye. It looks like a bruise in the yellow stage, and from watching their video and not the clips used here you can see her face straight on and the other eye looks fine. very suspicious

[@sidheo3741]

the thing with girl defined too is that its also really sad in a way, like maybe its just me but the way shes joking about this stuff shows that she really doesnt even question her lack of engagement in HER OWN relationship. she just thinks its normal for women to marry a man you're not even interested in, and thats something all women should do.

[@TheLuciaNeuhaus]

Kurtis I literally feel the same way. I live alone, already graduated college and I just feel like i'm pretending to be a grown up but feel like i'm 18 inside

[@PBthesquirrel]

My grandmother once went to the hospital because she thought she was dying bc of some intense abdominal pain. Then she let one rip, she let it shred. After that, she was happy as a clam in high tide:)

[@peniandthejets3219]

the bit about the air marshall taking a nap and the pilot assuming project x is being watched at full volume is one of the funniest skits you’ve ever come up with, it’s too good

[@CJcrazyTrain]

They used the term ‘influencers’ very lightly when talking about the party flight lmao

[@katherinerojas5504]

Only at the Girl Defined part but wow that is so horrifying? So dystopian? It's sad for everyone involved

[@august7421]

to the person questioning about growing up, you can go at your own pace and thats okay! i'm 19 and i have no desire to go to college, i still live with my parents and my boyfriend and have a retail job and no car. i am working towards a car and getting a place eventually, but you have sooo much time!

[@myownbravado]

For the advice segment: to the teen worry about not knowing what they're going to do, I would say a majority of us feel that way. Or they have some vague concept of their future or maybe even something they go into college feeling really passionate about, and then realize a year or two later that they were completely wrong. Making kids that we consider not even old enough to vote choose what they're going to do with the rest of their lives makes no sense, and you shouldn't feel bad for not being able to do that. I worked for two years after high school, went to college for three years and realized that I wasn't in the right major. Now I'm almost done with my degree and I'm heading into something that I really do love. It all comes together eventually. Young adulthood is all about making mistakes and trying again, the most important part is just trusting yourself and the process. Which in some ways is scarier than having a set path you care nothing about, for sure, but it feels so much better. I promise. And to the person experiencing harassment: go to HR!! If they brush it under the rug/try to fire you over it, then that isn't the workplace for you. I can't imagine how amazing it must feel to have your first "big girl" job, but there are other "big girl" jobs out there. Create a good support network for yourself if things may go south, and do what you have to do for your safety. Y'all got this.

[@isabelaaguilar1099]

The whole influencers going to Mexico and partying on the plane and even being extremely disrespectful to the hotel they are staying at is absolutely appalling and the fact that I live 30 minutes away from way they are staying now is scary to think about, can't believe that because of people like this I can't go to school or see my friends and family, also we are now stuck with them

[@skibbos]

to the kid scared of becoming an adult - i’m almost 19 and i’ve felt the same way for the majority of my teens,, and i mean this with every fibre of my being: you genuinely just figure it out as you go along. if you can, talk to your parents/guardian/teachers about it!!! ask about the process of applying for jobs and colleges!! ask about utility bills and how paying for them works!! ask about the process of renting/buying property!!!! i can assure you in a couple of years, it won’t feel as scary and intimidating as you once thought. adult stuff is overwhelming but i promise it’ll be okay

[@loiwoz]

ITS MY BIRTHDAY TODAY AND I JUST GOT OUT OF ONLINE SCHOOL THIS IS THE BEST UNINTENDED BIRTHDAY PRESENT EVER AHHH

[@z0e898]

Lmao when he said "the next story is about canadian influencers" i was just like "please dont be about the quebec sunwing one... please dont be about the quebec sunwing one... please dont be abo- FUCK" ugh why must we always be talked about when bad stuff happens Also you should learn french kurtis >,>

[@marianne6108]

C’EST TELLEMENT VRAI HAHAHA ca aide pas pour les canadiens anglais qui nous détestent déjà

[@Iujjdjcbjrujgsm]

@@marianne6108 they dont hate us lol

[@jasminecharron]

I'm from Quebec and I've never heard about any of these "influencers" until this scandal, one of these idiots tried to kung-fu kick a journalist 🙃

[@winternightmarecrochet]

That guy was not on the trip.

[@jasminecharron]

@@winternightmarecrochet damn I didn't know, I must've assumed this clown was part of the circus 🤣

[@winternightmarecrochet]

@@jasminecharron it was found out later that he went to Cancun on a different trip I think. He was not on the party plane though.

[@jasminecharron]

@@winternightmarecrochet that makes sense, thanks for the update!

[@Pyrrhonian]

Also from Québec, my only interaction with an "influencer" was a guy who poked me with a stick while filming on his phone while I was on a bench, clearly trying to get a reaction, just stared at him like he was a dummy. Sometimes I think KZbin was a mistake

[@LessonsByBunny]

isn't it a crime that we are taught to stray away from the things we love as kids and then have to find our way back as adults? What tf is wrong with all of us?

[@hannahb9145]

To the one anxious about growing up: i was in your situation too, and the best advice I can give you is that you will figure it out, but it will take time to know what you want to do. After high school I did one year of uni where i just took classes that interested me or that I thought I might be good at. A lot of subjects change between high school and college. Another thing that changes is you; in high school, a huge part of your identity is being a student, figuring out friends and relationships etc. After you graduate, all those big things feel a lot smaller, and it allows you space to explore new things you hadn’t thought of. I became a flight attendant, and then returned to school at 20 to become a psychologist. I only figured out I loved psychology through my experience flying. If school isn’t what you like, explore travel/exchanges/trades/leisure classes. My dad started university at 33, and we are doing fine! TL;DR So, give yourself time. You’re young. You’re in no rush, and don’t let anyone make you feel like you are.

[@cd06tgc79]

always been a fan of the main channel but only started listening to the podcasts a couple weeks ago, these are awesome!! :) also I feel like kurtis is the best person to do this kind of thing, he actually tries to make some sense of this shit lmao

[@livmoore1126]

Im christian but girl defined scares the literal shit out of me

[@kastocks]

Me too! It makes me sad that people think all Christians are that way 😬

[@Thatsokayiwaswrong]

@@kastocks as an ex Christian,, they kind of are

[@kalokai_ri]

Literally same, they're terrifying, also I'm so glad I was raised in stream of Christianity that's not like that

[@yunkimin97]

@@Thatsokayiwaswrong explain the Christian churches with gay pastors then??? stop generalizing

[@Thatsokayiwaswrong]

@@yunkimin97 explain your bad attitude every time someone has a different opinion on your self righteous beliefs lmfao That's exactly what I referenced

[@emilygrace1692]

I talk about aging a lot with my mom, and she says the same thing that you never really feel like an adult. She told me that she had an out of body experience one day when she was around 40 and walking into the house she felt like it hit her very strangely that she was grown up like "This is the house I own with my husband. I'm married. I have four children. How did I get here?" a la "Once in a Lifetime" by the Talking Heads. It didn't seem possible that she could be grown up enough to have all that stuff, but there she was! My mom has always been fun and engaged with life and has what people call a "youthful energy" -- she likes those quotes about how getting older is mandatory but aging/acting older is optional and I feel like there's some truth to that. You get older but can still incorporate the curiosity and excitement of childhood in ways that are compatible with your adult life.

[@ogromacki]

For the last advice question, if you’re still anxious to go to your bosses boss, maybe try going to your boss one last time and say it’s still an issue if you can’t help me then I’ll find someone that can. That way if you do have to go to their superior you can say that you’ve already brought it up multiple times to your boss and they have done nothing. I wish I would have been able to say something at my old job, but instead deslt with the harassment and that shouldn’t be something you have to deal with. Hope all goes well!

[@niallgyulay6849]

Kurtis be thinking sometimes, “Why did I say that?” but just leaves that in

[@maric.theirin]

This podcast was very really good thank you for making it

[@repulsethemonkey1396]

Kurtis please play the kurtis corner jingle one more time I miss it so much 😭

[@mmmars5550]

15:23 that, plus i don’t think she was only talking about physical attraction, but chemistry and personality attraction too

[@jasisdeadd]

1:01 kurtis..... my grandma walked by

[@blue-dabad33]

i relate so much to the person in the first advice segment, i'm 23, fresh out of uni and terrified about what to do next. tbh I never thought i'd get this far so i never bothered to make plans, so that anxiety in addition to all my family on my ass about getting a job or getting my masters makes it even more sucky cause I don't want to do either. but hearing Kurtis say you're gonna be alright makes me feel so much better, god 😭😭

[@spaghettilawn-mower9620]

Kurtis’ podcasts are like my ADHD brain every day when I zone out or randomly branch off onto different topics of crazy crap.

[@StaciJWilson]

My experience with most security guards show that they are all pretty crappy people

[@BebeDFairyVODs]

That vr testimony is exactly why Im a bit scared of vr honestly. There's no barrier in your mind between what's going on in The game and your brain

[@DiMagnolia]

I grew up Mormon so I have seen tons of weird couples like girl defined and their spouses. I personally know a couple where the wife admitted she wasn’t attracted to her spouse but married him because everyone pressured her to, saying that he’s “such a good Mormon man”. They didn’t kiss until their wedding, probably went all the way that night, which was likely very traumatic since they both grew up in intense purity culture. Decades later they have had three kids and can’t stand each other, but don’t feel comfortable getting a divorce because in Mormonism you marry for eternity, not til death do you part. I got caught up in that whole trap and married when I was only 20. Fortunately, my now ex husband and I were attracted to each other and in love, and both of us had been questioning the church for years. We decided to get a court marriage rather than a church marriage because we felt uncomfortable with the religious idea of marrying for eternity. A year later, we separated and got divorced, so happy to have gotten out early instead of ending up like so many unhappy couples. I’m especially happy we did not get pregnant because that would have definitely complicated things.

[@elliotk7856]

"pretending to be an adult" is a great way to put it

[@Qualia.]

I thought you gave great advice to the 16 year old who was worried about getting older. I can totally relate to not feeling like a "grown up" even though I'm in my late 30s! I still feel like a teenager, really.

[@happinesspridejoy7394]

To the person getting harassed at work!: record a conversation for proof maybe because people suck and sometimes will say you’re lying :/ sorry you’re going through that

[@geoff_ery]

how did they even get that 60oz bottle of vodka onto a plane I don't understand

[@lapoguido8672]

Duty Free, I guess?

[@madieg]

for the last advice question !! I really think going to the big boss and telling them that there's a conflict of interest going on since your supervisor is letting this very messed up situation slide cuz what they're buddies?? If there's an HR dept you could report that to and file a formal statement, that's really important as well. Hope things get better :((

[@abby-bb8dg]

The fart girl explains how she actually was hospitalised on the basement yard podcast, she said it was due to her diet being like only protein shakes

[@erbear1703]

You should try Red Hot if you want a low-stakes combat game! You're fighting red glass people and time only moves when you move your hands, so you can look around and survey the scene. It still feels very much like a video game, even in VR, which is why I like it

[@cemeterysnail3547]

A new episode of vrg! A perfect way to start off my morning

[@jocelynprier9115]

First question asker, I was in pretty much the same spot at 16. I'm 19 now and I just want to let you know it will work out. You're young and have so much time to figure yourself out. Don't be afraid to try things if they seem interesting or to drop them if you don't like it after all. I didn't have a solid plan for my adulthood at all through high school, but now that I'm here and I'm doing it it's actually way less scary then I thought it would be. It is true that everyone is just making it up as they go along, and you will too, but it's more freeing and less anxiety producing than you think. You're younger than you think you are and truly my best advice is to let things happen as they happen and try not to live so much in the future. The present is so much more exciting.

[@rebornreaper194]

Sally - talk to HR if your company has one. Not only about the security guard, but also about your supervisor's inaction when you came for help. Talk to your boss's boss if you have no HR reps/dept. Same topics.

[@ameliestardust9221]

Kurtis talking about Quebec influencers is what I needed

[@Fignewton225]

wow I can’t believe Holden Caulfield went on your advice segment

[@Clown_cars]

it just shows how much adulthood is a show that so many people put on that the first thing that kurtis thought was good about being older was eating ice cream when ever he wants.

[@AirWreckerr]

I’ve been having a really anxious night and can’t get to sleep but these comments have been helping distract me

[@universedonut159]

yeah it was in the news, not only one but a few were aspiring pilots, believe it or not. like they knew how dangerous this was and how terrible this was for the flight crew. one's even mad at the airlines for refusing to fly them anymore, like- I wonder why??😤

[@charls7378]

from a french canadian perspective, we do not claim them as ours 👍

[@gracetrueman777]

The goggle hats are called CP hats, and are surprisingly common in England, very popular amongst roadmen

[@amiri957]

36:59 i was so shocked hearing this because this is almost exactly how i feel and im also 16

[@Plasticplas1]

I know you didn't ask me but you don't have to figure it out at 16 or at 18. Leaving highschool is a big enough step in itself which is why so many people find gap years helpful.

[@Kurtis.Is.A.Simmer]

On the topic of how killing people is different in VR My friends keep trying to get me to play Pavlov, which is as far as I know a shooting game And 1. Everytime i hear it all I can think about is dogs and bells And 2. Shooting people in VR is super scary to me because even playing beat saber freaks me out lmao

[@wolfslullaby]

really happy you called out that ad cuz wtf was that lmao