queer tiktoks for the binder wearer in your life

[@liamforest1947]

Just asked my friend (who grew up in China) about the comrade thing, he was like, "ya it's weird because everyone calls each other comrades (b/c communism) but it also means gay," so that person's boss wasn't messing with them!

[@liamforest1947]

Checked with someone else (who's from russia but speaks Chinese) they say it's because some of the characters in "comrade" are the same as "homosexuality" but that it's not a super common slang phrase anymore.

[@louie3074]

friendly reminder that not all people who have chest dysphoria can bind, myself included. some of us have chests so large its impossible for us to bind lower than a D cup, some of us can't afford binders, some of us can't safely wear binders, the list goes on. as lgbt people and allies, do your best to stop assuming people with breasts are women. because some of us can't do anything about it.

[@slavicraptor9106]

_truuuuue_ im not out to my family as nonbinary so i wear a nike sports bra. It helps but it would be a lot better if i had/could afford a binder.

[@louie3074]

@@slavicraptor9106 yeah! a lot of us want to (bind) but can't. I wish people wouldn't assume people with chests that aren't flat are women, because I literally can't do anything for at the very least three years, and that time frame is longer for people with unaccepting families. it sucks major butt that so many of us are trapped in this "i want to bind but i just cant" narrative. good luck to you in your binding endeavors!

[@slavicraptor9106]

@@louie3074 i know but dang, i hope you also find some sort of solution. but what ive learned from a truckload of googling is that everyone says do _not_ use ace tape. Good luck to you too.

[@sillygoose2785]

I have nearly f cups and used to bind somewhat well(not flat but not round) but in the last year I got pneumonia and covid so my lungs r kinda fucked now and can't bind at all 🥴🥴👍🏻

[@louie3074]

@@sillygoose2785 oh my god im so sorry!! i didn't even think about covid patients and binding, thank you for opening my eyes

[@cabin_quilt]

this is funny because today is literally the final day of me ever wearing a binder. I'm two weeks post-op and get to throw out my medical binder and give away my old GC2Bs :)

[@kaleidoskull224]

congrats!!! i hope the operation goes well :)

[@basildoingthings819]

Congrats!! I’m so happy for you :D

[@nerdykid4127]

Omg that’s amazing I’m seeing this around a weekish away so only one week left!!!🥳🥳🥳

[@icanexplain5974]

that is so awesome! congrats

[@mtgamer2152]

congrats my guy! :D

[@garydoq]

I am currently going to an all trans kid camp! I just wanted to share that with y'all! I'm so happy!!!

[@neils.6947]

Woah, that is so cool! I hope you have a great time!

[@chaotic.nebula]

THATS SO COOL

[@booklet4003]

THEY HAVE THOSE? My parents prob wouldn’t let me go or accept me but I still wanna go hopefully.

[@tallsockclown]

That sounds absolutely amazing!!! Congrats and have fun :D

[@garydoq]

@@booklet4003 yeah they do! Mine's in California, but I think there might be one in Portland? (Oregon) I hope you can find a trans space eventually :3

[@froggydraws_24]

when you are finally the binder wearer in your life 😌✨

[@aimalamin3884]

i wish that i was but either way i’m still happy for you!

[@phrog4614]

Day Four of Random Facts: Otters are some of the best mothers! They’ll carry them on their bellies for most of their young lives and when they go out to hunt for food (for 12 hrs tops), they’ll wrap them in seaweed so they don’t drift off. When they aren’t doing that though, they’re teaching them how to swim :))

[@nuf412]

They wrap them in seaweed??!!! That's adorable!!!!

[@loganithink3349]

@@nuf412 like sushi

[@zephyrthetorrent6538]

oh my goodness I never once in my life thought it/its pronouns would resonate with me so much

[@TheVoidStaresBack31]

YOOOOO You're the first person I've seen with the same as me ✨Zephyr Gang!✨

[@KatBambi]

I...same? I’ve never had issues with any pronouns for others but I just never thought of them for myself, but the cavetown song felt way too fuckin natural to me and so I like...I gotta go think for a bit now damn. I’ve been going by exclusively they/them so it’s plausible but I just...never thought about it yknow

[@mewmew6158]

Me too! I never realized, though I'm glad I just said I'll go by any pronouns.

[@phatphuckingphrog5484]

join the club legend!! hello!!

[@zephyrthetorrent6538]

wow oh my gosh my phone did NOT let me know that there were any replies until now D: (fun fact: when I haven’t typed any letters, the first word my phone suggests is ‘Cantaloupe’) also hi Zephyr! I’m happy to meet you :)

[@basildoingthings819]

I’m at the gender dysphoria, I’m at the body dysmorphia, I’m at the combination gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia. Please do not perceive me.

[@sunnyveranda5092]

sorry to perceive you but I felt this hard /gen

[@koya326]

Also apologies for perceiving you, but I also relate to this so much

[@ikelom]

0:54 It doesn't seem like it's possible to raise a child gender neutral in our society. Sure, they can be sheltered and homeschooled, changing the way the child sees gender, but the moment they go outside and interact with someone else, people will start treating/raising the child as one of the binary genders. As such, if the child identifies as non-binary, the world will see them as having gone from the binary gender that was perceived in them before to a non-binary gender (or none at all). I think that the moment a child is raised completely outside of the gender binary, that is when the concept of gender in that society will disappear entirely (or the definition of the word will change to something completely different, something completely outside of the binary).

[@protojager]

I was being my usual impatient self, pressed K to skip ahead ten seconds, heard .01 second of Jamie's distorted voice and went "WAIT.... My boy, i feel his presence"

[@protojager]

By the way, Jamie is a doctor now, www.researchgate.net/profile/Jamie-Raines our boy is a professional and everyone best be showing the utmost respect.

[@koya326]

Sameeee

[@Amaraaa23]

Just a FYI. I have a new shapewear company for binders and gaffs called Trans Fab Shapewear. Everything should roll out mid-July but pre-orders are available. 🏳️‍⚧️🙋🏽‍♀️

[@mewmew6158]

Cool!

[@gr1m_XP]

Upvote

[@m3owm3ow.]

Is the packaging discreet?

[@Amaraaa23]

@@m3owm3ow. yeah it can be.

[@supremefroglord3995]

Hey there! Since this comment seemed to have helped quite a bit of people in other replies I’m putting it here! I have a bit of advice that might not work depending on your living situation. There’s an organization called Point of Pride that donates free used binders to trans/non-binary people in need. You give them your size, address, and reason for getting a binder and they approve your request depending on if your reason is ok. The packaging is totally discreet and you can choose what name is on it when it arrives. Point of Pride ships internationally to any place USPS delivers. When I got mine I made sure to take in the package as soon as it arrived and my parents still don’t know I have it. Be safe and I hope this helps! :)

[@sierraveree]

8:45 I think it's really thoughtful of this person to make shirts without shoulder seams :) I'm a cis girl but I kind of understand the discomfort of shirts with shoulders that don't feel right. One time I wore a masculine-cut t-shirt and was comfortable until I looked at myself in the mirror and it just felt Wrong or Off because of the shoulders, and I know that that feeling I had is something my trans and nonbinary friends experience to a much worse extent far more often. I'm really glad that good people like this are looking out for them :)

[@prathishakrishnan8638]

Ok that tiktok at 3:27 makes me so happy bc I'm Indian and questioning my gender, and I've started appreciating having features that people read as "masculine" like having facial hair

[@ItsNikhit]

Indian here as well! When I shaved my face, I started growing proper fuzz. Not such a myth apparently. :P

[@d3ada5tronaut]

14:11 its because karkat is a transmasc duh (also he's right and he should say it, we all sound a little like karkat while our voices change)

[@a-bird-lover]

karkalicious def-

[@oghenbread3330]

OK BUT I WILL BE SO HAPPY IF I CAN GET THE KARKAT VOICE AT SOME POINT IN MY TRANSITION

[@grottyPoltergeist]

I'm getting on T soon and I absolutely can't wait to sound like Karkat

[@grunchchristmas]

I know a binder wearer in my life they’re really nice

[@Goose-dw2ct]

3:49 I thought they were gonna say they get gender envy from biggie cheese since he’s the one rapping in the audio 😳

[@gatorbeast2749]

SAME LMFAOO

[@majestymori5850]

they* but yeah 😂

[@Goose-dw2ct]

@@majestymori5850 fixed! :)

[@averee1562]

Ok but who was in the pictures? I need to know 😳

[@zaptheconfused4459]

Jokes on you, I am the binder wearer in my life

[@ohnoitsme485]

3:43 I can’t tell if I want to be this man or be with this man

[@ParyTheMoppins]

The person at 10:25… I just really like they’re voice ngl. It’s very soothing.

[@tefmiles]

6:44 my god. i love this so much, i’d wear this shirt everywhere

[@dylaaan420]

ANOTHER MLM HEY HEY HI HI WOOf

[@tefmiles]

@@dylaaan420 OH MY GOD IM SO SORRY THIS IS ACTUALLY AN AROMATIC FLAG THERES JUST A PURPL-Y FILTER ON IT

[@dylaaan420]

@@tefmiles OH NY HID BYE IM SO SORRY AGAHAHAHHAAGAHAHAHAGHAHAHA BUT I CAN SEE IT NOW PLEASE

[@soyboy6953]

is ur pfp a picrew? if so, it’s super cool!

[@vonzo300]

2:11 basically summed up what beiing an amab nonbinary perosn is like for me

[@limonx6778]

7:00 This made me realize I might be ok w being called he/it...

[@florphy1237]

there is a reason people like guy fieri and its not because he looks like a combination of every single smash mouth band member

[@iupiter.161]

0:12 I was raised gender neutral and I’m enby. It took 14 years for me to realize that the others are different 😂🏳️‍🌈🟨⬜️🟪⬛️

[@1r3n3]

1:08 their voice is so nice and calming......

[@theswagtaco1112]

6:49 I’m crying I’m actually fucking crying I go by it/it’s but no one ever uses them... I just get he/him 24/7. God this was so refreshing to hear, thank you to this wonderful human and thank you insectoid for this compilation!

[@elara6370]

12:16 is my favorite Please like periodically so I don't forget

[@RatOfTheWoods]

Bitch I can't believe that god damn tea party TikTok made me realize I like it/it's Also I NEED that mesh binder RN Texas heat BLOWS

[@KatBambi]

Same, on both accounts

[@robertsmithfan877]

SAME that tiktok literally made me realize how much i loved using it/itself

[@Makeouthill180]

Remember to drink water and eat! Happy pride month🏳️‍🌈

[@YourPenguinFriendMilo]

That nice human using it/its/itself pronouns was extremely healing for me. I don't know if I want to use those, but I've been called an "it" and a "thing" in a derogatory way by my bio mother since I started openly questioning my gender (around 16-17). I really appreciate how nice it sounded coming from them instead of her, maybe I'll try it out with my found family!

[@des6247]

'For the binder wearer in our life' **waddles in from my gender cave**

[@cloudyishdays]

you know the video is gonna be good when you have already seen the first 4 tik toks

[@louramsey8279]

NOT GENDER ENVY OVER YUNG GRAVY FHDHDHHDHSHS

[@beepboop2816]

6:48 I think I need to change my pronouns from they/them to they/it because the gender euphoria I got from that was insane Edit: 12:50 wow yeah definitely they/it

[@revolutionarygoose4665]

WHY DOES IT/ITS PRONOUNS FEEL SO GOOD WHAT, i feel comfortable with my currently he/him pronouns but goddamn

[@biblicallyaccurateangel2476]

good title considering my binder just came in yesterday :O

[@Nick-dx2pt]

14:49 I love hankgreen!

[@Eating_Sunflowers]

1:52 I *immediately* told that joke to my mother and brother and am thoroughly despised now fsbhdksbkhdfsbkh (cannot wait to tell it to my friends + sibling) Also as someone who uses it/its as well as he/him and who LOVES Cavetown 6:49 nearly made me fall outta my goddamn chair *especially* cause my friend that to me like two days ago 12:54 is also a vibe!!! (nearly cried at the "proud of it" line tho)

[@alien-gutz]

I can not watch /j, as I can't afford a binder. 'Tis a sad day indeed.

[@supremefroglord3995]

I have a bit of advice that might not work depending on your living situation. There’s an organization called Point of Pride that donates free used binders to trans/non-binary people in need. You give them your size, address, and reason for getting a binder and they approve your request depending on if your reason is ok. The packaging is totally discreet and you can choose what name is on it when it arrives. When I got mine I made sure to take in the package as soon as it arrived and my parents still don’t know I have it. Be safe and I hope this helps! :)

[@alien-gutz]

@@supremefroglord3995 That sounds like a really great service; I'm glad it worked out so well for you! Unfortunately it's hard for my parents to not find out when a package has arrived. But I thank you for this, and I may utilize it in the future!

[@supremefroglord3995]

@@alien-gutz of course, and I was aware that many people aren’t able to get a binder from this organization. I hope everything works out well in the future!

[@serpentinewolf7085]

How much are binders?

[@alien-gutz]

@@serpentinewolf7085 Depends on what you get. There are cheap new ones, but those aren't usually good quality and often run too tight (which is dangerous). And the better quality can be around 40-60 something USD

[@ikelom]

0:20 They could flex their muscles to feel even more powerful. I know it's a dude-bro thing to do, but that's precisely why those guys do it - to feel and appear strong.

[@Wolfoe1238]

Unrelated but this came up in my recommended while I was getting ready for bed and it reminded me to take my binder off before actually falling asleep. Thank you

[@headempty9953]

Ha it’s me, I’m the binder wearer

[@Theoricamente]

0:53 that made me gasp! XD yes? i guess? wow!

[@rileygould.1]

ahhh i ordered my first binder a week ago but ur telling me that i could have easily gotten one that is 100 times better!!

[@yoqireweller3842]

Your videos will always bring me joy.

[@tefmiles]

currently dying /nsrs from my second covid vaccine dose, thanks for the good vibes

[@raventhegoblin]

I just told my sisters that I wanted to go with it/its along with they/them and they were like “well you always say you wanna be a cryptid, so cool 👍”

[@annic5878]

Ty for putting captions when there weren’t any ❤️❤️

[@yV__Vy]

I just downloaded Tiktok yesterday/ subbed to you because I really enjoy seeing these kinds of videos from other queer/ neurodivergent people. It makes me feel seen and like I have people who relate to me well? Idk.. I don’t have friends so it’s nice to watch these to make me feel less lonely in the world :)

[@danielyoung7534]

1:03 I legitimately buffered

[@roachie292]

6:39 FUCKIN, I LOVE FANTASTIC MR. FOX!!!!!!!!!!! DOES ANYONE KNOW WHERE I CAN FIND THIS T-SHIRT????

[@robin_1447]

Fun fact: I’ve never like saying “my name” (Regina) ever since I was in kindergarten. Now I know that I’m agender and my name is Robin!

[@leifsiessss6640]

I 𝑎𝑚 the binder wearer ت︎

[@ember2865]

i’m on the it/it’s/itself pronoun tea party and i feel okay with them, and i just tell everyone to use any pronouns to check how i feel about them, so i guess, yay! i’m pretty much okay with any pronouns

[@stygian4330]

Happy to say, by the end of July, I will be the binder wearer in my life

[@timelordwarrior4394]

That uncle one is amazing 😂

[@jogle9013]

The uncle gay one was hilarious that's going in my belt of dad jokes

[@user-fo1kz3zc8x]

its me im the binder wearer

[@InkSans_FandomSoda]

13:02 This is too true and it caught me off guard omg-

[@stalesandwich363]

*reads title* well of course I know him, he's me!

[@saturn5024]

Lmao same Also I seriously dig your pfp And your profile in general

[@tortis6342]

12:04 It knew before this video that I loved it/its (btw there's no apostrophe when it's possessive) but it's so nice to hear someone actually use it/its to refer to me. I've had friends straight-up tell me they won't use that to refer to me and it sucks.

[@annabelblumenfeld4864]

15:59 TYSM I NEED TO KNOW THISSSS SKSKSJDKSLALKS! Also how r u so pretty, u look like a goddess 😭

[@KatBambi]

wait WAIT why was the one with Hank so gOOD HOLY like there are layers to that and I just... I love it

[@melaniemarti3348]

I never knew that some people used it/its pronouns, that's dope!

[@wildlylucky]

7:05 this tiktok has sent me into a complete pronoun crisis, until today I thought I was uncomfy with it/its but now I don't know-

[@neptuneknox7729]

6:49 reminds me of the toy soldier from the mechanisms

[@neptuneknox7729]

fuck i was wrong 5:58

[@vonzo300]

The gender dysphoria hits different though

[@bottledslothhat]

i like the subtitles!

[@rejecthumanityreturntocrab6521]

5:50 where can i get this and does it come in descrete packaging does it ship to australia

[@meefsteak3157]

When u are the binder wearer in ur life: :DDDD

[@FilbieTron]

7:46 this one is SUCH a vibe

[@basildoingthings819]

Hey! I am(one of) the binder wearing people in my life! This is for me!

[@axolotl593]

I saw a vid about a first time binder try ons just today!

[@weastley0]

Oh man, I always love watching videos like this because I always feel so included, but in not sure if that’s just because I feel this certain way, or if because society and the people around me have made me silently hate being afab🧍it’s VERY complicated el oh el ANYWAYS great video funny toks

[@Gremlinnie]

I just found out that there are people out there who actually uses it/its/itself pronouns and it gives me whiplash. I don't mind anyone using any kind of pronouns, its just because usually people use it/its to refer to objects and sometimes pets. And its probably gonna take a while for me to start realizing that it could also refer to a person and/or the user I see on twitter who has it/its on their bio isn't actually trolling. I'm still learning and as someone who uses they/them, I don't want anyone to feel like they shouldn't use any pronoun they identify with.

[@robertsmithfan877]

thats called internalized transphobia and trust me from experience it takes a while to stop cringing at neopronouns. i say this as a neopronoun user (its/itself)

[@Gremlinnie]

@@robertsmithfan877 I don't cringe at them! I have never once cringed at neopronouns. It just felt off to me at first, because it was kinda grammatically incorrect for me, but I am learning

[@Kim-dl2uk]

Using "it/its" to describe someone makes me feel so uncomfortable. It sounds so dehumanizing. The only time I ever hear someone describe a person as "it" is when they're trying to be as hurtful as possible, usually to someone who is trans or nonbinary

[@Gremlinnie]

@@Kim-dl2uk I think alot of people nowadays are trying to take what's supposed to be dehumanizing and hurtful and turn them into something positive by making that a part of their identity. Like what some people do on tiktok with the bimbo thing. I think its cool taking what ammunation transphobes try to do to hurt you and giving them no power over you anymore by having them accidentally validate you

[@Kim-dl2uk]

@@Gremlinnie that's a very good point. It would still probably make me very uncomfortable to call someone "it" but maybe that'll change in time

[@idk_lolllll]

I GOT MY FIRST BINDER IM SO HAPPY IT FITS AND ITS COMFORTABLE AND IT WORKS REALLY WELL OMFG IM SO HAPPY

[@thekingofratz801]

need to get me some of these glasses

[@puunkfrogg5325]

0:59 id say they would be, because society still sees them as their agab despite them being raised gender neutral

[@foreverbuilder8698]

5:18 I THOUGHT THEY SAID BROTHER INSTEAD OF BOYFRIEND SO I WAS SO WILDLY CONCERNED FOR A SOLID MINUTE

[@hihigh6814]

am going to get my first binder after my birthday !!

[@magicalwatermelon5147]

Yay!!

[@rwnmrr]

6:49 kinda hits different 😩😩

[@user-ry4bm5cm4g]

i’m officially the binder wearer in my life!!!!

[@orbismworldbuilding8428]

The Uncle Gay one was so sweet it's my favorite :)

[@definitelyafish121]

to be a binder wearer, one must have a binder, so i cannot watch (/j) as i am, sadly, not a binder wearer

[@levis2822]

i am the binder wearer in my life

[@sentienttapioca5409]

7:51 So... Måneskin?

[@tailgaity]

that was my immediate thought heh

[@jocca3886]

I'm glad we all know exactly what "Italian rock band" was

[@stella-qo4cy]

I lost it when he said that. I’m absolutely obsessed with måneskin rn hahaha

[@AuggsieBoggs]

can i just say, get it your majesties!

[@donttouchb00uwo82]

8:04 I’m pretty much only comfortable with shoulder seams that are right on the curve of my shoulder. It doesnt have anything to do with my dysphoria, but I am autistic and very picky about specific things. If someone can link this persons shop that would be great bc omg zero shoulder seams seem perfect 💕💕 (not to mention I’ve been waiting forever for a clothes store with the target audience of trans people and gender neutral clothing!!)

[@MercyDearest]

6:00 actually made me break down bc my pronouns are he/they/it and I'm selective mute, so it really just hits hard

[@Riddler577]

Well what do you know, i AM the binder wearer in my life, and I like this compilation :)

[@unitymask]

i wish i was a binder wearer

[@ACupOfRain]

8:13. I really love this person they make me feel so safe Like I’m not sure if it’s their voice or what but they seem so nice :)

[@strawberryfrog1050]

I wish I could get a binder

[@jellyaugust3761]

I’m the binder wearer in my life rn. Happy with it too

[@sordid_morbid]

6:49 i recently started to go by he/they/it so i simply collapsed at this hrhgrggrgrrrhhhhhh ,

[@royald3vil167]

5:50 you cannot TELL ME this person isn't adorable-

[@monstrousmoss]

4:46 brooo I need one of these

[@Human-san]

Bruh I saw the comrade tiktok, opened tiktok to follow op, and then realized I'm already following them bahahaha

[@gordonramslay9955]

I’m gonna be the binder wearer in about 2 weeks cuz my gc2b binder is gonna be delivered 😎

[@Milo-hp9fw]

5:08 dang I can't get a binder and even if I could I'm sensitive to mesh. Last time I wore mesh on my arms for a costume and I broke out into a rash that lasted 2 weeks