INTJ Friends

[@brockolea]

Here’s my list of friends:

[@InternetLiJo]

I mean who really needs em lol

[@spudmckenzie4959]

Yes. Same here.

[@hedhuntervizo6749]

Yeah

[@empemitheos]

I don't think I've ever met another INTJ in my entire life

[@dyrim3492]

I've met one once so far after 30 years, and dated her. It's like finally meeting another soul that speaks the same language as you. For one moment, you don't need to explain yourself to someone.

[@sainturya]

it's basically my second purpose in life, I really want to find someone like me

[@gourisree9991]

My brother is an intj t And I am intj a So yah.......

[@trendmill7404]

I'm still hoping to meet one myself lol

[@NogrimStoneson]

@@gourisree9991 alright, where are the super weapons, and why have you two been controlling reddit!! lol

[@alexhendry2120]

Dude you are so right about ENFPs not being intimidated by you guys. My girlfriend and one of my best friends are INTJs and while I can't speak for everyone, there's an emotional purity to you guys that's really wholesome. Once you get past the outer layer, there is something so incredibly genuine and it makes me want to protect you. The certainty of knowing that you guys are being your most authentic selves, plus you deciding to have me as a friend, makes me feel super accepted because I know you really want me around. Bless your souls, you brilliant nerds 💕

[@AvaRosss]

I couldn't have said it better.

[@spaceroyalty4158]

(INTJ here) Thank you that’s so sweet, you made my evening better 😊

[@redwoodheart]

Wow, this comment really touched my INTJ heart in a way I didn't see coming. I'm always shocked at how many people finally confess to me after many years how intimidating they think I am. This always disturbs me, because I'm never trying to intimidate anyone--I'm just being myself. But I've never gotten that comment from an ENFP. ENFPs are my favorite humans on the planet. I think it's because they offset a deficit that I have and represent a side of myself that I wish I could be deep down.

[@cowsareblue572]

Wow thank you. I didn't know INTJs were actually liked, I thought we were hated because we're so 'mean'.

[@alexhendry2120]

@@redwoodheart you don't have a deficit. I've noticed that a lot of INTJs are incredibly honest and that scares people because they know that the INTJ will call them out on their bullshit. That ability to see a plan and make it work for people is an amazing gift and it's something I wish I possessed. So just because you express yourself differently, doesn't mean you have less value 🤗

[@Aero1818]

I , ENFP, met my INTJ pal at gym. Nobody talks to him and many others dislike him even without knowing exactly why (might be because of the famous "bitch resting face" tho), just from brief talking about "for how long will you use that machine?" or so. But when we first met it was like natural magnetism. One of the things I really like about him is the meaningful conversations we use to have, I mean, I don't enjoy much talking about people and celebrities like many others do, which is also OK, but we'd rather talking about projects, history, science, and many other neverending topics.

[@syedmazharhasan6803]

INTJ here. Here are some people that I can actually get along with: INTPs: You are the sweetest, kindest, cutest and quirkiest people that I have ever met. ENTPs: Just love your alternate views of life, and how you can totally see one thing from 12 different angles. INFJs: You guys are great, because it is scary how you can read our emotions like an X Ray machine. INTJ: It is extremely weird, like talking to your own clone, but with a different body. ISFJ: Some how, you just make all the troubles go away with your grounded kindness and outlook of life.

[@InternetLiJo]

Ah yes, ISFJ's are pretty great. I just haven't really known many in my personal life. Thanks for including them :)

[@Butteredthanatoast]

I love INTPs. They are so quirky. So many strange conversations have been had...

[@jmoneymaker96]

ISTP's and ENFP's have been my best friends. Drinking with them are always good times. The ISTP friend can rap almost as good as eminem which is cool.

[@thamutha]

I have 2 friends The ENFJ and the INTJ.They both sometimes fall victim into negative self talk shadow form.It is not only my duty but my responsibility to try my best to set a course for them in the right direction for humanity.I also feel that in order for the world to become better.We need to stop ignoring the warning, solutions and ideas the INTJS have already setup. Teamwork INFJ - The guider - ability to direct people to better themselves/ save them from misdirection INTJ - Planner - information through detailed extraction while planning each execution from Plan A to Z ENFJ - Protagonist - With my guidance he leads until one day i am no longer needed. I would gladly die for a fully grown maturing ENFJ to lead humanity into the unknown - frozen 2... There is no greater joy in life for me then watching an ENFJ grow with my guidance.The kids gonna be someone amazing.Its like being tony watching the kid grow.its also funny how i always call the ENFJ "kid" long before the avengers.

[@Kuultyc]

ISFJ- do not get along with them AT ALL

[@jaimeflor4181]

“We speak the same language, but have different dialects,” is a nice way to describe the INFJ + INTJ friendship or relationship. I’m an INFJ and I immediately felt that way after my first 2-3 dates with my INTJ significant other. For me personally, it’s very rewarding to meet, or be around likeminded people.

[@InternetLiJo]

It is rewarding!

[@NeeroxFox]

yes i agree, as an INFJ. The INTJ with INFJ is amazing if both are healthy. We balance out the T and F in each other and it's such an amazing feeling of comfort and understanding. Im enchanted by my INTJ. He's so sweet.

[@trendmill7404]

I found one friend... she turns out to be an INFJ. She became by bestfriend and we eventually got married. Now, she's my only friend being with each other literally 24/7 since we got married lol.

[@notavideographer]

Agreed about ISTP. Delightful and easygoing people who have not agenda to control you; and INTJ hate to be controlled.

[@InternetLiJo]

They are simply so easy to be with

[@dassi1565]

What BS

[@freshavocados850]

i have a friend who is half istp and intj (she took four tests and got two istp, and two intj so idk but) she's one of my firneds who i actually respect and understand me...so, yeah. She's also way smarter than me on the academic level

[@Human_01]

@@dassi1565 ESFJ are cancer incarnate.

[@questionthingss]

as an ENFP I'm highly fascinated by INTJs and how they are as an overall person, I feel like it's impossible to hate an INTJ because they always seem to make sense. very interesting people, always real, don't try to be likable (which is something I highly value, authenticity), reliable, intelligent, deep, otherworldly, just amazing people.

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

I am an INTJ who has had a multitude of INFP and INFP friends. mostly through being a musician. INFPs may be the most gifted songwriters in the world.

[@purpleheart4496]

Yes Dimash is an infp and he's said to be the best singer in the world by multiple vocal teachers

[@hedhuntervizo6749]

Ayoooo same...

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

@@hedhuntervizo6749 thank you

[@BrendaR4a]

The way to my INTJ heart, you said, is don’t expect too much. Oh that would be so great.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yesss. I just know I can't deliver on all of the extroverting. So it's just not going to happen lol.

[@timtabor1181]

I am an INFP married to an ISTJ. One of our sons is an INTJ. He has such a wonderful and intense spirit, curious mind and direct way of communicating that I truly appreciate. I have had to learn to tread gently with him when dealing with emotional issues, but that has mostly been a positive learning curve for us both, I think. He has helped me see the beauty of the world with a different lens. I wouldn't trade him for anything. Thank you for being an ambassador for the INTJs out there.

[@BC-pl3df]

INTJ/INFJ is a real good one, common Ni dom stuff, Te working off of Ti and vice versa. INTJ has a blind spot knowing where other people’s boundaries are and trips over them unintentionally, an INFJ would cover that blind spot. INTJ would help develop an INFJ’s logical side. Disagreements are not severe. Underrated pairing I think.

[@chrishutchins9384]

I've found both the Intj and Infj to be two sides of the same coin. My Infj friend of mine and I make a great pairing when discussing plans as we are talking about the same things, just in a different way. Intj tends to me more realistic and grounded than the Infj, thus we see all the bad in things, which the Infj might not want to acknowledge. On the other hand the Infj sees more of the people aspect which the Intj is blind to.

[@josephmarch7142]

Love the shout out to the ISTP's of the world. We INTJ's love a solid ISTP to just hang out with. Some of the most hilarious types out there. Also scariest.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahaha so relatable

[@xero6396]

They're not scary.

[@arrobatic]

LOL 😂

[@Juan_Mecha]

There goes the ISTP and it's versatility sneaking into an intuitive reunion

[@InternetLiJo]

Heck yeah. They kill it lol

[@tfranc347]

Was surprised to not hear ENTJ on your list, but then you talked about social expectations lol

[@InternetLiJo]

LMFAO 😂

[@Kuultyc]

bc they're intolerable if turbulent

[@carletouk]

tfranc347 ENTJS have many admirable qualities i just find it’s hard to make them Act silly 😂

[@moxiecat007]

Same here.

[@syedmazharhasan6803]

This is the most underrated comment of entire comment section. It made me spat out my tea 😂

[@NeeroxFox]

yay thank you for mentioning us INFJ. We love you guys as both friends and partners (:

[@Human_01]

Agreed.

[@Armosect]

My last boss was an ISTP. We got along great. When I theorized about fixing something or noticed a problem, we couldsit here and talk over the plan. My favorite part was he would always allow me to solve a problem if I found a solution for it.

[@InternetLiJo]

They are great to work with :)

[@Jooney91]

My boss is ISTP as well. My Te very much appreciates his Ti because when I'm in doubt I go talk to him with words "I can't decide but you know everything" 😂 He is not empathetic person at all, but we have common sense of humor and have a lot of fun because we don't take our jokes personally. Funny thing I noticed lately is that he is also focused on efficacy, but in S world. That means ISTPs are more about saving physical energy or money, while we INTJs don't mind spending money or taking a walk twice so we don't have to waste our mental energy. It's very interesting.

[@hermionegrangerwannabe9482]

I have a few INFP friends, I find that they are really kind and great to talk to. (INTJ here)

[@monisune]

Hermione Granger yay INFP here! Married to INTJ ☺️

[@Kuultyc]

They actually have a lot of viewpoints that can make you think. I love INFPs

[@khinezarthwe8923]

same here! when i got an INFP fri for the very first time in my life, I realised I have never felt that kind of intimacy with any fri before..they're really cute in their own way

[@sarawalkzz]

I’m an intj and here’s my list of friends (very close ones): Infp Enfp Entp Infj Entj Isfp My dislikes: ESTP ESFP

[@dekay913]

Why is that intuitives are not attracted observants?🤔

[@dekay913]

Oh I'm an ENFP btw 😅

[@wes9809]

Not gonna lie - INFP's and INTJ's are all I surround myself (INFJ) with really. Not sure why - but I like the balance an INTJ gives when struggling with people who are toxic and the INFP just make me smile :/

[@arrobatic]

Your list is like my list LOL

[@softdeficit7593]

so I am not the only one who doesn't get ESFP

[@redchard4906]

My friends are: INFP, ISTJ, INFJ, we've been together for 3 years now and they exactly know how to give me space. And i really appreciate it, sometimes i just went missing for 5 months like no communication to them and such but when i get back they just act normal, well, worried at first but i think that's it.

[@nataliejarosz9360]

I don't know what your findings are, but from what I've seen and experienced, the main concern over INTJ/INFP friendships is that both people absolutely have to be sufficiently emotionally mature.

[@t5396]

Great point

[@nataliejarosz9360]

@@t5396 Thanks

[@InternetLiJo]

Yeah INFP's are lovely but they can take "people problems" a little too serious for me.

[@yourneighbor7260]

I'm istp and I had an intp and intj friends during college. Sometimes i feel off when i'm with them. They talk a lot about ideas and theories. And tho i enjoy listening to them, i don't really have much input on those things. I'd rather put those ideas to the test immediately. Idk how we stayed friends for a long time. 😅😂 but it was fun being with them (now are all in separate careers so we rarely have time to hang out together.) Sometimes they have these grand ideas of doing things like writing a series of stories or designing attires for characters but they each kinda get stuck on things - intj was a very detailed person and gets stuck with making sure things work well. Like doing the "future worries" instead of tackling what is currently at hand. While intp was stuck on many "what ifs" and had the tendency to change things so she's always just at the starting point. And then there's me and i just sorta wing things. Like when they wanted to write a story series, they were both good at building the world and their characters but at the end of the week, the one who's actually written something was me. 😅

[@InternetLiJo]

Haha that makes sense about the abstract “ideas and theories” the ISTPs in my life can only take so much of that as well.

[@freshavocados850]

your intj friend sounds a lot like me. i always try to make everything make sense, and do more of the planning than the actual doing XD, but as your fellow intj, what do you expect lol?

[@Attiues]

*INFJ* is by far the best synergy I have with (I am an INTJ) I am able to have literally *any* conversation with INFJ's without constantly hitting a Nerve, Wall, Ego, Lack of perspective ect like I would otherwise with most of the other personality types My girlfriend is an INFP and we get along great. I love how they value there alone time just as much as we do and just want to do Art, Drawings, Tarot Card readings ect - Also helps bring out my creative side I absolutely cannot stand most *Sensing* MBTI types. They are literally so in the current moment that there ability to intuitively predict an outcome or foresee an event that's about to occur is literally *UNHEARD OF.* If you combine an Extrovert or Perceiver to Sensing you have a fucking nightmare - Obnoxious, Stubborn, Predictable, Easy to manipulate, Gullible. They *LOVE* the 9 to 5 Fulltime slavery, its almost as if they literally reset after everyday. Best example of a living *NPC* from a computer game that follows the exact same script & coding 24/fucking7

[@InternetLiJo]

It is a very easy bond!

[@muhsinashardow998]

Oh my god sameeeee I hate most sensing types. You summed it up perfectly

[@saetia2981]

Intp here. You sound kinda pretencious when talking about sensors. At first glance an intuitive might perceive them as shallow and limited BUT if you spend some time with the right people you may discover that their presence has its own merits. Sometimes, I even kinda prefer them over intuitives because of this atmosphere where you just let things be as they are and enjoy the here and now. Their company is so valuable and rewarding

[@whobian123]

I like the way you described the INFJ INTJ relationship because I have this INTJ friend and we share like the same wavelength without even trying but our differences are easily distinguishable.

[@edwinortiz7114]

YES!!! As an ENFP I'd say we are definitely lured in by the mysterious vibe you guys tend to have and the intellectual/abstract conversations. Plus we are entertainers and like when people find our brand of personality entertaining. And intjs I've met seem to hehe. It's very noice!

[@Gio-sx7kt]

I think ISTP is the bestest friend anyone could have honestly. Lol. My(INFJ) favorite friends happen to be INTJ ISTP. And it's cool to see when they are working on things together. Actually what is fun is that I had the luck of being my INTJs chem lab partner and later my ISTP friends Engineering Design lab partner. Funnest time ever getting to work with these two. And seeing the contrast of problem-solving between my Ni-Ti with the Ti- Se problem solving for building our project was very fascinating to have experienced. After I was spending time reflecting, he went straight to the garage to Ti-Se what I was basically building on this physics simulation program I had been playing with. It was really cool. I think ISTPs might be the best friend to bring INTJ and INFJ ideas to life.

[@InternetLiJo]

ISTPs are great!!

[@freshavocados850]

i have a friend who is an istp, and idk, we just "click". I forgot how I even met her lol, but i chat with her the most out of all of my friends. and im not a very chatty person, so if i wanna chat with u, u are a very special or relatable person. there's one other friend of mine who i also relly like, but idk her personality, since she moved away :(, but we still hang out via texting

[@JoeLaFigue]

I'm an ENTP. Things I have to share about these types : ENFP : Know A LOT of them. But somehow I always get stuck trying to type them. There's something very natural coming out of them, like I can be myself and somehow not get stopped by any social barrier. Unless there's some romantic shit going between said ENFP and literally anyone else in the room. Then you're in for a long evening of wingmaning. Which I always fuck up because part of my personality is sabotaging every person's agenda I can see through. INTP : My funny little minions. For some reason I attract them. One bit of overheard nerdy conversation, and a general approachability on my part and boom, I got myself a follower. When you get personal with them though, they're actually very considerate Teddy bears, always ashamed of what they are and having to "inflict" themselves on a group. Take care of your INTPs folks, they're fragile. The dynamic we've got with my closest INTP friend is a funny one : I always think faster than she does, so I get to say the cool thing first, then she'll hold a grudge of some sort for stealing her wits, and attack me personallly and reveal my flaws. ENTP : Who the fuck wants to talk to an ENTP ?! Goddamn we're unbearable. I surprisingly don't know many. The younger ones (below 30 years old) are such a pain, too opinionated, too competitive. The older ones ... Now we've got something. The older ENTPs I got to know are individuals full of doubt, not quite sure of anything, yet knowledgeable in terms of theory. What's enjoyable is they stopped judging people based on assumptions and just display this unfathomably liberal view of life like : "Yeah, some people behave in a fashion that doesn't always please you ... You should learn from those." INFJ : I don't think I know any personally. I've come across some, mostly in a work environment. Such interesting people : they repress their emotions in a very unique tortured way, unlike we ENTPs do. I guess we represent opposite ends of a spectrum : the ENTP will work towards neutrality, which makes us unreliable. Whereas the INFJ will work towards reliability, and never be neutral. All that makes both types hypocritical in their very own way. Unrepressed ENTP cockiness betrays an actual sense of care, whereas displayed INFJ empathy hides an actual lack of real interest to get involved in your life. ENFJ : I never recovered from my relationship with an ENFJ. Please stop being THAT cool, then turn into a monster of expectations. On a non personal level : ... Nah I can't actually do that. You guys rock my world. INTJ : Every time I meet an actual INTJ, there's an eerie sense of mystery surrounding them. And I can't say it's unfamiliar from what I'm actually displaying myself. There's something in your eyes that says "I'm slowly working my way up towards something, but I won't tell you what." That I pick up instantly. Overall our interactions are short, but very rich. I alaways get a sense of mutual respect, some exchanged classiness between both types. I'll talk to INTJ about the drink he's drinking up at the bar, turn into an actual conversation about the history of cocktails, some chick will pass and hit on the both of us, not quite decided which one she wants, and we'd just amuse ourselves by boring and bullying her at the same time. Weird dynamic, but definitely worth a taste.

[@InternetLiJo]

Great insight! You had me laughing with the ENFJ lol. They are pretty cool.

[@zatt4086]

All i can say is that there are actually more INTPs looking from the distance, they just follow around eveyone that doesn't make them feel akward with all their "nerdiness" ENTPs are like them but actually cool 🤣

[@liliaelle317]

do you mean that your ENFJ expected a lot from you ?

[@JoeLaFigue]

@@liliaelle317 Yes, I do. Now it's going to get personal, so I know I can't attribute everything to the ENFJ type, the person is also responsible in this. The problem I had was she expected me to always be on her side, no matter what. If she made mistakes, I had to understand where those mistakes came from, and be happy with just understanding. The problem is, the ENTP type is exceptionally neutral, I will stay impartial to my own demise. The only thing I could say was "I love you, but ... this and this and that ... why did you do it ?" (we're talking hardcore cheating which I forgave multiple times) And somehow I ended up being the douchebag for talking about it to my friends, seeking goddamn help because I knew I was being partial : I accepted being cheated on because somehow that's who she is and I have to admit to this day, I still love it. Even this part of the relationship was ... exciting in a way. It felt good to be with someone who is 100% themselves. What felt bad was the impossibility to express my honest opinions on the matter, which would have been in the lines of "I don't even mind your sexual drive, as I benefit from it too but ... can you at least include me in the process when you plan on 'having fun' instead of me worrying like a moron." So that's basically the story. I had to show love, to show devotion, acceptance.... I had to just be everything to a point of stupid perfection, while I was kinda getting a cold treatment because she was "hurt too many times", "it is hard for her to trust people". On her side of the argument she would say things like "But I'm the only one who understands you, who listens, who gets literally what you are." And she had a point, but I just missed ... trust in a way, and felt blackmailed by the sheer power of her amazing character.

[@Bookooky]

@@JoeLaFigue ENFJ here - sorry you experienced that~ Sounds really horrible!!

[@ifrah9545]

one of my close friends is an ENFP and what you said about them not being intimidated by INTJs was rlly accurate. I honestly don't even know how we became friends but we just did.

[@InternetLiJo]

YES!!! THEY JUST DO!

[@laszlo_kovacs]

as an ISTP i have some serious respect towards INTJs and i really enjoy the company of them. they are not overwhelming, and we can easily get on the same page. It's wholesome in our own weird way. Huge fan of INTJs. In my opinion every ISTP should have an INTJ in their life in one way or an other, you know just to keep us from killing our self.

[@InternetLiJo]

I am very fond of ISTPs :)

[@whysoserious7014]

I'm an ISTP father to an INTJ son, the relationship is unique compared to the 3 other kids.

[@veryincredibly]

My only friend is an ISTP. Known him since I was 16 (I'm 22 now) and he's a year younger. We met on the internet; we've never met in person but I consider him a brother. We have the same type of humor and know how to push each others buttons too, but even if we disagree on stuff it's never that serious and we always end up laughing about the situation. Out of all the acquaintances or people I once considered friends he's the only one I'm still in contact with. It's weird how you can meet someone and everything just clicks. It's also pretty epic.

[@InternetLiJo]

Ah they are great friends, so great at real life too.

[@IM-uh5tk]

1. ENFP (0:44) 2. ENTP (2:00) 3. INTP (2:55) 4. INFJ (3:15) 5. ENFJ (3:57) 6. ISTP (4:37) 7. INTJ (5:35)

[@jaijai4710]

Ty I was looking for this comment ;>>

[@marycherry7050]

You made a mistake putting Entp so near the start, now I may or may not have the attention span to finish the video 😂

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahahah this made me actually laugh out loud

[@xero6396]

I like ENTPs but probably only as friends or co-workers.

[@monisune]

My INTJ partner has had a super close group of friends for most his life-- Like the ninja turtles... I know 3 of them are INTP, ISTP, ENTP

[@Siansonea]

And if you like INTJs, but think they're kind of full of themselves sometimes, and perhaps a little cold, and maybe a bit too in their own heads, and potentially not super practical and grounded, get yourself an ISFP friend. We're like INTJs without all the brainy supervillain overtones. We're also good listeners, and if we give you advice, it is above all practical advice based on what we know works. And we dress nice and can sing songs for you.

[@xRevTheoryx]

jokes on you, everybody on the community knows sensors are dumb and their advice should never be taken seriously

[@Siansonea]

@@xRevTheoryx wait, people are supposed to take me seriously? ;)

[@deb.e.9787]

ENFPs are fabulous, I think they manage to get along with nearly anyone. They have a way of accepting you the way you are and their Ne will take you on journeys. One of my best friends is ENFP, gotta love her

[@hannabilal8556]

INTJ here and i personally come along w INTP&INFJ the best. Though INFJs are sometimes complicated i rly admire them and INTPs are the best i lovem😂

[@let_it_sin_kin]

I am an INFJ and I agree with you so much I loved the dialect analogy Two of my friends are INTJ and INTP and it is so refreshing to have them You are lovely :3 Yep, this comment is that simple

[@InternetLiJo]

I appreciate it's simplicity :) yes the dialect thing is so real right?

[@tammy5802]

So glad you mentioned the ISTP! Been married to one for 10 years, and he is so cool and my best friend. 🥰

[@unavailablewuxian4923]

I've once asked my ENFP friend what they thought of me through the years, since we've been classmates for a long time. She's the only person who didn't say something of the sort, that I looked as if I'd pull a gun out any second the first time she saw me.

[@HareAndTheHatter]

"We're speaking the same language, but you have a different dialect." I love that way of phrasing it!

[@InternetLiJo]

Thank you! Glad it translated well.

[@Hoven165]

I am an INTJ and I've got 2 ISTP friends that I talk with frequently, and yes i can completely relate to what you have said about them.

[@InternetLiJo]

They are just great people once you get to actually know them.

[@nataliyarey]

Haha spot on on the ENFPs not being intimidated by us. The crowd I get along with the most, for sure.

[@Emilia-ij8cp]

I have a very close INFJ friend and they really bring out my introversion and overthinking. I also have some ENFP friends and I can talk to them and have fun.

[@deemoore97]

As someone who really admires INTJ’s, I feel left out (INFP)

[@xero6396]

My slightly younger cousin I have always suspected is an ISTP and he was always pulling things apart to see how they worked as a kid. We went to the same two schools and I spent a lot of time hanging out with him at my grandmother's house. Probably the cousin I got to hang out with the most as we were closest in age and vicinity and it was always so much fun. Such a cool dude. Works as an electronics engineer, loves to work out in his home gym, lusts after high performance cars, very into Game of Thrones. A big fan of some nerdy things. Very smart in a hands-on way and has a very cynical dry sense of humour. Not the most feely type as far as other people's feelings are concerned and sometimes can make you feel like an idiot and like they don't care about you but someone I was lucky to have had a lot of time getting to know as I grew up. Great, cool person and wish I could still hang out with them. I suspect that I have often zeroed my interest in on INTJs/INFJs in the past at school and at university but I can't be sure of their types. I find them really hard to tell apart at first. And being me, I'm always testing my assumptions. To me the ones I've seen seem both sweet and innocent and yet they have this incredible, slightly dangerous intensity in their eyes at times. Ouch! Maybe that's just INJs in general even though I can't fathom how that could be except for Ni. I know I've not been into every famous or well-known INJ. I think my two major high school and university crushes were lead Nis and very likely both INFJs. But who knows. Me: INTP. Edit: I'm so confused right now. I'm not sure what these other people's types are. I had enough problems typing myself. 😭

[@InternetLiJo]

Sounds very ISTPesq! They are fantastic and a nice change of pace from dominant intuitives all the time.

[@devildogkogg8353]

I'll list the 4 best picks, in my opinion. ENTJ are the perfect ally if you share the same goal. If you don't, they are your worst enemy. If you do happen to share the same goal, they are basically a better version of you in terms of what they can achieve, but odds are you are more intelligent, and you will both mutually accomplish more as a team than you would individually. The key is to be needed as a major advisor. ENTP is generally the best friend figure for INTJ. They actually have interesting things to say and don't start crying and screaming when you tell them truthful answers to their questions. They love to talk about philosophy and politics and are highly argumentative, just like us, and they don't get upset when we inevitably defeat them in debates; they love the challenge just as much as we do. These are my favorite other type. ENFP are annoying, but they can be charmingly annoying. Their confidence to do whatever they want without being embarrassed is admirable even though the stuff they do is usually not interesting. They tend to be nice when they realize you don't have any friends, and can do so without smothering you because most of the time they're busy with their other more extroverted friends. If nothing else, they improve the general mood just by being in the room with you, but they're best kept as minor friends than major. INFJ are chaotic. They could be either very good or very bad, just like the ENTJ, but the bad INFJ are even worse. It all boils down to if you share the same moral principles, such as honor, animals, kindness, art, or whatever. If you do not value exactly the same thing, they are extremely, extremely annoying and unpleasant to associate with. If you do, they can teach you to be less cold in how you speak and you can teach them rationality. I'd say these probably make the best romantic partner for INTJ, assuming it's a good one and not a bad one.

[@9SMTM6]

What you say about your connection with INFJ, gotta say it does resemble what I, as an INTP, have got with my ISTP brother (so were both Ti Doms) We've had a lot of differences in our youth, and we still clash from time to time, but if we have a topic that interests both of us damn... We can speak about it like I can with noone else and we actually get each other (most of the time) on a level that I haven't yet gotten with anyone else.

[@InternetLiJo]

Ah yes sharing that dominant function matters so much with communication!

[@LooneyTiksCrap]

INFJs: I've had good and bad experiences. We can be friends, like 2 peas in a pod even. However, I don't wish to go deeper with someone that just agrees with me to keep the peace. ENTPs: Some of my favorite peeps have been ENTPs. They might appear a bit rough on the surface, but that's usually when they're being playful. I know it annoys some people, but it just amuses me. They're not afraid to be themselves and will absolutely let me know when they disagree about something. We can have intelligent convos or mindless shenanigans. They can be encouraging in a positive light or... well, they do like to play devil's advocate. They keep me on my toes anyhow.

[@InternetLiJo]

Good insight :)

[@troywesterbur706]

INFJ's understand us. and vise versa. We complement each other really well. My strengths are their weakness and vise versa. Both can be sitting there is silence and be 100% comfortable with it.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yesss it's so nice.

[@plantpoweredhealth9383]

Yep I'm INFJ and GF is INTJ,we have the Legolas and Aragorn mutual understanding too..😊

[@tommyv1262]

So by the comments I guess NT's mostly like and fit good with other NT's. I don't have any NT or NF buddies, my only good friends are an ESTJ and ISTJ, our conversations are rarely deep or emotional. It's mostly jokes and fun smack talk. But I know that when it gets ugly I can always count on them to be there for me, and they always follow through. I think that for me a Ni/Fi INTJ they are the best friends I could ever ask for.

[@belindahb]

I am INTJ and the best friendship I ever had, is with an ENTJ. I get along with ENFPs naturally.

[@SaraX2024]

I am INTJ and have a good ENFJ friend. Strangely, these extroverts get the inner child out of me; a side I usually repress. I can see how our NJ connect and the IT and EF are like taking care of each other.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yes, there is great synergy there.

[@takijeden9222]

... My few friends are: INFJ, ENFP 2x, INTJ. More then enough. One of them is actually my boss => highly recommended for us if you see one quite often at work.

[@mikuhatsune6958]

I really like the way you talk✨

[@InternetLiJo]

Ah thank you!

[@spudmckenzie4959]

Accent?

[@rahmahtajalinadifa8177]

I am an ENTJ and I decided to be her (INTJ) best friend today

[@AndeAndrea]

My primary team for multiple companies & projects is composed of: ENFP, INFJ, INTP & ISTP. ENTJ to help on an external advisory end. And work = life ; so these are my friends.

[@johnwick3846]

My four closest friends are ISFP, ENTP, ISTJ and INFP accordingly. Apart from those I get along with INTP's and INFJ's. In addition I really think that the gender is a major factor which contributes to the selection of specific friends in combination with the MBTI type. For instance the average male and female INTJ are more likely to select different types as friends.

[@arrobatic]

My list (based on my experiences) The best: Enfj, intp, entp, istj Work colleagues: Istp, infj, infp Possibly friends: Estp, esfj, isfp, enfp Least favorites: Esfp, isfj, entj, estj(because I never have met any entjs and estjs)

[@grazynawolska8160]

INTJ here. Close friends are: INFJ, INFJ, ISFP, ISFP, ISFJ, ESFP. Types I like that arent in friend circle: ENFJ, ENTP. Don't get get along with ENTJ, ESTJ (bossy) ENFP (moody) ESTP (can be mean) ISTJ (anal) ESFJ (yelly). Am confused by: INFP.

[@jaijai4710]

I admire you INTJs ;>>> --infp

[@christalphelps6186]

I have very few friends that I actually enjoy being around but my #1 best friend is an ENFP. She is the only one who can get me to do random spontaneous things and actually enjoy it. The ExxJs however are very intriguing to me. I like to study them and I've had a couple of interesting conversations with them but I personally wouldn't hang out with them. But I do find I mostly work best with NTs. Also, I've never noticed this but when you talked about how these friends are the one's who dont expect much from us I realized how much I chose friends based off of that. As soon as I'm pressured to do something with someone by that someone I immediately loose interest in being around them. Great video Lindsay! Plus I love this little bubble of internet people talking my language. It is so refreshing!

[@InternetLiJo]

The bubble of internet language IS so refreshing! And yes, NT's provide such easy conversation.

[@kesiacarneirodeoliveira751]

I missed the ENTJs here, I was sure that they'd be mentionate

[@NicolleRoesner]

Omg, one of my best friends is and ENFP and what you described is exactly what happened with us. He wasn’t intimidated by me at all and suddenly we were the closest friends in a matter of a month or so, and we are still super close to each other. He really just rolls with my personality, even though I’m super bossy etc... he just accepts me

[@InternetLiJo]

Haha they have a way with us Nicolle it’s crazy!

[@anneuh2516]

Surprisingly my best friend is an infp she is the cutest! XD What Hurts me that I'm one of the best not the best to her.. They rlly can't decide on one thing XD .. OK but what rlly makes me like her that she's understanding, take my advice seriously and do with it.. And she is really easy to talk to Also have an enfp friend that I like so much but realized that she won't be series in anything in her life she has her best friends too.. So I gave up on her.. But there is this one I rlly like it talking together (our talk is logical, also we inspire and encourage each other ).. (I don't know her p type but I think she is an INTP/INFJ)

[@InternetLiJo]

They are VERY adorable

[@flm8580]

My besties are Istp, isfp, entj, infj.. I haven't checked the other types. I've selected them w trials over a span of 7 years. They don't mind me going off for months on end w no explanation. I've so much perks w them. Oh yeah they let me control their lives as well. I love them. 🥂

[@alexandriat5950]

Wow, I'm an intj and my four closest friends are types intp, enfp, and enfj. Your absolutely right about the enfp and intj relationship. They are not intimidated by us and really seem to get the intj.

[@InternetLiJo]

They are! They just get us and they don't care about our plans to take over the world. They are just like "Yeah whatever so anyway I created a new game..." 😂

[@gert-jantenham672]

I’m an INFJ and I can make the INTJ and ENFP analogy to INFJs and ENFPs as well. Two of my best friends are ENFPs and I can truly connect with them.

[@eliwaffles88]

Quite accurate, my brother is an INFJ, we get along and yes, we speak the same dialect, my best friends are an INFP and an ISTP, we get along, we understand each other, not all the time, but it's quality time; while my boyfriend is an ISTJ and we have an understanding, but sometimes I'm very abstracte, that he start to ask questions, he says that he likes a lot that Im not afraid to answer anything, that I know how to explain myself to him, because he is more asocial that I am, yes, as an INTJ, a depressive one, people think that Im to confidence and secure, because of the way that I speak (yes, I work with a lot of people and I have to deal with them), so they say "you're not introverted", I don't look like, but I don't share my world with anyone, just with my close friends..

[@stevedavenport1202]

I agree. As an INFJ, I "feel" like INTJa and I are speaking different dialects ofmthe same language.

[@wes9809]

I love the conversations I have with my INTJ friend. My cognitive thinking is INFJ - we usually have very similar goals, morals, and plans but our approach differs. I have to warn him though because I believe his outlook on people seem too dim or discount them (which I understand, hardships sometimes hardens the heart). He tells me though that I should 'cut people out' and 'trim the fat' (people who aren't up to par). It's a healthy balance in our friendship though. Where I try to bring compassion into consideration he helps and has guided me thru a hard time I had with someone with BPD who I didn't want to give up on.

[@InternetLiJo]

Haha oh gosh I tell people to trim the fat too. Damn Te function.

[@carletouk]

Agree with you on strongly apart from ENFP females . ( disclaimer generalisation I know )They can be a bit too much for me and I always find myself closing up and becoming a bit grumpy when I’m around them . INTP ENTP I find awesome company . ISTJ ISTP great to work with . You described what I feel when I meet an INFJ perfectly different dialects of the same language deep connection etc. I don’t think I’ve ever been close to an INTJ. Understandable as we tend to keep ourselves to ourselves but I do hope to as I’d like to study one . 😆

[@InternetLiJo]

Fair!

[@polyester-pants]

Was so surprised that LiJo mentioned infp 1st. For years i was best friends with someone who turned out was infp but after we tried working together it kinda fell apart. Don't understand it but so true. For the longest time i thought talking to people was just useless until i learned about mbti and determined i was intj. I felt a lot less isolated after finding this and other intj channels. Theres really something special about communication style or meaning or values amongst intjs thats virtually absent elsewhere.

[@ANGEL-eh6pd]

My innercircle friends are INTJ and INTP, INFJ, ENTPS But yes, I wouldn't want to work with my INTJ freind either, but she's my best friend. She I s way too bossy. If I invite one more friend to join us, without notifying her, she'll kill me. She needs to know everything we are doing 3 days in advance so she can prepare Lol. She can be bossy. You can't drink coffee in her car, she'll kill me. But I'm not at all scared of her. She's likes schedules, while I'm more spontaneous. But, I'm the only one who can make her laugh,, and I love to see her laugh.. Great friendship.

[@pingz2454]

Here's my list: ENFP: i love them, they're Ne really brings up something new every time Read more

[@InternetLiJo]

Lol

[@asibangoura8067]

Amazing, i have 2 really close intj friends, inventors, mechanical geniuses...u know the deal..... Its such a quantum type connection it amazes me all the time because they're such grown babies it's hilarious. They know nothing of my world, music, movement, kinaesthetics, therapies, martial arts and so on...Yet, they get my weird ideas so fast nobody else can do that and its both of them and its been years.... Even other infj like myself usually need more explanations, the intjs just skip the whole process and throw my conclusion at me so fast im always stunned how this mechanic gets the deepest spiritual insight as if he's read the manual once...Dude...

[@merenwen4495]

My best friend is an ENFP and she is amazing. She basically doesn't allow me to ignore her and she somehow puts up with my bullsh*t.

[@julies5085]

Aww Lijo, you excluded the INFPs. They are the kindest I met

[@NanulSavage]

Very interesting. Part of me wants to disregard these categorizations of people, but at the same time it’s entertaining and has a lot to it. My best friend is an ENFP. My best debater friend is an ENTP. It’s almost unhealthy how heated the arguments get yet we continue as usual. I also have an ENTJ friend which is always the odd one out at gatherings. Last but not least, so spot on about ISTPs. My brother is an ISTP and he is that high energy doer. If I want to get positive and creative juices flowing, I just talk to him and we both get so hyped on the possibilities of what we can do while we’re already doing some of it in real time. Full of ideas. Not to mention they master skills like nobody else, so if I need to hire for a skill he possesses, I’ll go great lengths to try and get him to be hired. He moves at such admirable speed. Dated an INTP. Incredible mind, but lazy. It’s like the lazy version of the INTJ in many ways. Anyway, enough rambling. Good work. I see many INTJ females doing videos but so many of them don’t seem to be honest about their type. Seems hard to believe their INTJ-ness. You seem genuine.

[@planetcoco1]

I am INTJ and I have a friend, but we see each other maybe once a couple years. I know her for 22 years. Usually My friendships last less than year or so.

[@jeonghanhyungaegi1786]

I’m a female ENFP and while I find it equally amusing and flattering that you speak about us in this way, I have to say thank you!! Out of the INTJs I know (be it on the internet or real life) I find you’re one of the most ENFP-appreciative ones? (I don’t know how else to put it) I often hear INTJs raving about how ENTPs and INTPs always provide them with that lovely debate and brainy stimulation they need to get by, by ive never heard an INTJ who seems to value ENFPs as much as you do. Maybe my Ne gets in the way of my INTJ friends, idk. Thank you for your kind words, anyway! I watch your videos a ton, and as a viewer I love you in the most platonic way possible

[@InternetLiJo]

ENFP's are just so wonderful!

[@sarcasticshinigami2934]

I'm an intj and my best friend is one as well and you're totally right its like im communicating with myself and she's definitely more than a friends to me

[@sofialoraine3953]

I’m an INFJ and my ex was an INTJ. The way we saw the world and our goals were very similar, and we had very intelligent, interesting conversations which is what I really admired about him. At first it was like a dream, and we always got each other. However, over time we didn’t work when it came to understanding each others’ emotions. I would express how I felt to him about certain things, and he would say I was being too emotional and give me the silent treatment. I think he was just a narcissistic INTJ (he cheated on me, never apologized, acted like he didn’t do anything wrong, manipulative) that used his functions for the wrong reasons. But any MBTI type could be a narcissist, so I like to think other INTJs are probably pretty cool lol. I’m with an ENTP now (2 years) and I’m a lot happier in this relationship. ENTPs aren’t scared to express their emotions, and together we have a mutual understanding when it comes to how we feel thanks to extraverted feeling :)

[@claytonia1586]

I don't know many INTJs in real life but I love them. As an infj though I have discovered that sometimes they assume that because we have FE that we expect that from them. I'm so in tune with my introverted functions that most of my closest friends are FI. I love and respect that function so much.

[@enfieldjohn101]

I think my wife might be an INSP. She's introverted almost as much as I am, but seems to cope with social situations much better than I am. She's also a doer. The two of us are quite a formidable force for making things happen in creative ways when we work together. She also understands me and makes me feel respected, trusted and valued. I'm still not quite sure what romance is supposed to be, but I know that what we have together is my own personal idea of a great relationship.

[@ahmadazab7853]

The thing you said about intj + enfp relationship is so true for us infjs as well. For some reason people get intimidated by us but not the enfps. Thats how I met my enfp friend long time ago!

[@fluffykittyfury3777]

What are "friends"? 🤔

[@zatt4086]

Me, an INTP: Hey INTJ: Hey *Goes away with another INTP* Me: Me: Okay- I want an INTJ (And also ISTP) friend cause you guys are absolutely amazing, but all I get are XNFPs somewhat revolving around me all the time 😂 (They are cool too! But sometimes a need a T friend so bad)

[@DanSutherland]

This was pretty spot on through my experiences as well, at least in terms of people who I naturally get along with. My closest friends though I find are simply the most loyal. Even though I have things where I don't really agree with them on I'm chill with just letting them slide and resisting the urge to tell them they're wrong. One's an INFJ the other is an ESFJ. And yes I tend to get along more naturally with the INFJ. I find I get along with INTJ friends really well, we just don't see each other unless we both have something we both are already wanting to do.

[@HardOnGearChannel]

I don’t see a lot on KZbin about this one, but I’ve had a good relationship with a female ISTJ friend/coworker. We’re able to cut through the BS and get things done and have very fluent conversations during monotonous work tasks-so long as I limit my Ni rambles... We do however have a few different moral and/or political standings which makes for some lively Te+Fi action.

[@Usonian7]

My wife is an ENFP, and most close friends I've ever had.

[@hannabilal8556]

me and my father are intj and i love it to have deep conversations with him💜😌

[@InternetLiJo]

That's awesome! My Dad is an INTJ as well :)

[@syedmazharhasan6803]

Dear Lindsey, I have a request. Can you please do a video where you invite an INTP to your channel, and may be you can discuss the similarities and differences between INTJ and INTP?

[@InternetLiJo]

Thats a great idea! I have to find a willing participant though .... hmmm.

[@Kuultyc]

Do this ^ pick nathan

[@9SMTM6]

@@Kuultyc Don't think he ever publicly disclosed what type he thinks he is. And honestly at least I wouldn't be able to tell with certainty. Still think he's most likely an INTP, but he could also be an ENTP or ISTP IMAO (that said he does have strong Ne) But to come back to the point, if he has indeed not disclosed his type at this point its probably on purpose, not sure he would want to participate in such a video if that's the case.

[@syedmazharhasan6803]

@@InternetLiJo Can you please pick Mike Hart?

[@user-ci7og7jb3d]

@@9SMTM6 Nathan Is an isfp He mentioned it on the piano episode

[@dreamcatalyst]

Even more, we find you cute with all your intellectual ideas and such. Like oh my goodness you’re so adorable you little nutty mad scientist. Come here and let me help you deconstruct the world and then we’ll go have a tickle fight!!!

[@dreamcatalyst]

Also I wonder if it relates to you having Te as your 2nd function and we have Te as our 3rd function. I think that feels comfortable.

[@DianaJ01]

Since everyone is sharing their own interesting options on the matter, all based on our own experiences, I want to post mine too, because, why not? I will use a different system to categorize them, though: 1) The types that I meet more abundantly, and that mesh well with me: ENTPs, and ESTJs. I do not why, but it seems to me that they follow me, everywhere i go I meet a bunch of ENTPs and ESTJs, and for my good luck, I do form good partnerships/friendships with them. ENTPs are great for conversations and I find their debates and shenanigans very entertaining, and ESTJs (mostly female, BTW) have this straight-to-the-point and practical way of being that I simply love. Plus, all the ones that I've met have a great sense of humor and loyalty to their friends that I greatly appreciate. 2) The types that I meet less abundantly, but that mesh well with me: ENFPs, INFPs, INTJs and ESFPs. All the types here will make sense but the ESFPs, I suppose; and i will admit, maybe they're not my closest friends, but I always have a good time with them, it feels like we actually think the same things, we just have different priorities in live. Or maybe I've met them so much that I know how to get along with them. Who knows. ENFPs are my kryptonite (what a surprise), and my only *best* friend s an INFP, we've been together for more than half of my life, so yeah. You just have to learn how to deal with their emotions, though, since they have their hearts on their hands. INTJs don't need explaining, LOL. 3) The types that I've just met just one or twice but where an instant "click": INFJs and INTPs. INFJs, lovely people, I feel like we live in a constant state of mutual admiration, I admire their x-ray vision for understanding people's emotions, they admire our logical way of analyzing big situations; one INFJ did scare me, though, because he was DEEP into astrology, tarot cards and weird shit that freaked me out, but, oh well! That Ni dominant click is hard to ignore. INTPs are absolutely adorable, they're like VERY DISTRACTED child geniuses, very peaceful, and involuntarily hilarious. ISTPs and ESTPs are a wild ride for me, because I could either get along REALLY well with them, or I could have nothing tangible to get along with them (they're very practical people) and be there just... awkwardly trying to end the conversation.

[@alyen127]

I kind agree with you that ISTP that they are underated tbh I never meet one but I really want to cuz I think we can get along and we actually have the same function only the arrangement are different - INFJ

[@BIGGELATO]

As someone that doesn't have anymore friends as sad as that sounds 😂😂😂 my mother though is an ISFP, but she's like my best friend. We understand each other, respect each other, and so on. Our only differences is our goals. I have big-bodacious unrealistic goals (her opinion), but my goals and tried and true, and have been done quite often.

[@trilllllllian4468]

My friends, as an INTJ: none. (*My) social anxiety has ruined all of you.

[@mariejosefinacastillo9385]

friends i also work well with are enfps esfps infps isfps istp and enfjs .. sometimes im scared of enfjs by how driven/controlling they can be but at least i already have a direction of what to do. i'll just have to do what they want me to do

[@sarahsalsabilafitri6851]

INTJ here and my best friend is INTP. 11 years and never get bored with her! But I really curious about being friend with INTJ too, is it like being friend with your own clown?

[@InternetLiJo]

It's really like being a friend with someone who speaks your language. That's the best way I can put it :)

[@blastkar]

So true with enfps, my crush is enfp and she is the only one who is not intimidated by me and truly gets me and is comfrotable with me, I wish i grt her someday. And my other closest friends are either enfj, infp or again enfp.

[@hazworther]

Agree with all of these! And don't forget ISFPs - a more difficult friendship and not for the faint-hearted INTJ, but so worth it. They can teach us so much about things they obsess over like culture, beauty, art, and we can help them develop their intuition. I've had great experiences with ISFPs