INTJ: Which Types are Likely to be Friends with INTJs

Ever wondered which types INTJs tend to like?
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[@WisdomShaper]

only an INTJ knows the personality type of his friends.

[@DrVein]

@ahlem gh I'm so glad that I'm not the only one that does that.

[@jessenceq3250]

INFJ here. I relate.

[@17x71]

​@ahlem gh Lol, I also have several times when I think that I am the only person who does something but end up discovering other people do it too and find it relaxing as well... Me making this discovery is one of those times lol...

[@genevievemiranda5185]

INFJ....same:)

[@emmashahi4334]

@ahlem gh oh me too :))

[@michaelpisciarino5348]

*Gets Along With INTJ Very Well* 0:38 • INFP • INTP • INFJ + Connected Through Intuition + Makes you feel extroverted + Starting Streams of Ideas 💡 3:20 ENFP’s ENFJ’s • Value On Values And Harmony 4:25 Key and Peele Clip 5:27 Creative, Relaxed, Maintained 5:59 ISTJ Friendship, chilling and pizza 🍕

[@gouthambolt]

Surprised not finding entps here.

[@laudlogo7057]

Thanks

[@dealwith6701]

i am isfj and my friend is intj and we get along pretty good :) i was having problems finding out my personality type am i INFJ OR ISFJ AND BOTH OF THEM KINDA TELLS SOMETHING ABOUT ME AND I CANT CHOSE BETWEEN THOSE 2 PERSONALITYES ... I DID AN TEST AND I GOT 1 TIME INFJ NAD 2 TIMES ISFJ ...

[@gouthambolt]

@@dealwith6701 you need to find out your cognitive function. It takes a some research. But you can understand.

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

@@dealwith6701 You cannot go by the tests.. Just a possible indication doing these. INFJ and ISFJ are very very different. The way of expression, social grace and way of logic however has some resemblance- Cog functions study, at least for a couple of hours from various sources, videos and articles, and you will probably figure it out pretty soon, and it can be profound for your life experience.

[@melissawalker4093]

I am an INTJ my husband is an INFP. Almost everything with us comes naturally. I have never felt closer to anyone.

[@AsuraPsych]

Glad to hear that, thanks for sharing/watching!

[@user-qe6gy6jk8p]

lucky you two

[@Meowewoi]

I'm an INFP and I fully agree. I get along with INTJs very well.

[@Meowewoi]

@@stello61 I don’t know what context this message comes from, and I don’t know how every INFP experiences things, so I will just share my subjective experience. I have improved my ability to accept criticism through exposure therapy, as an INFP being surrounded by xxTJs my entire life, the way I could survive was by being forced to learn to have tougher skin. I am still quite sensitive, naturally, but I am continuously learning to accept constructive-criticism for the sake of myself and my relationships. How well your criticism is received depends on the INFP, and how much they are willing to accept some things they might not want to hear. INFPs can be avoidant when it comes to conflict, especially if they are an enneagram 9, or have it in their tritype. If it is a sensitive issue for the INFP, that maybe they are trying to avoid, then that would make them quite defensive about anything you would say, and being harsh while delivering the message might either be a good way to push them to act and improve, but it can also be a way for them to shut down and be defensive. Try to make them feel safe, and that it is not going to be the end of the world if you criticize them, because that is what it sometimes feels like when an INFP receives criticism they are sensitive about. It feels like this person doesn’t understand them nor accepts them the way they are. If they care about self-development, and are willing to receive advice that will help them improve themselves and their relationships, then it makes it easier, even if it can hurt to accept "reality". It also depends on how you are able to convey your good intentions in a way that makes it easier for them to accept it. You have to be direct, honest, and most importantly TACTFUL. State your intentions, how much you care about the INFP, because that will make your criticism easier to accept. Be honest, and the INFP will learn with time that your way of directly communicating things, even if they may seem harsh, is for their best interest. What's left is for the INFP to choose if they want to hear your perspective and act upon it, or not, and you can't really force them to do that. It also depends on if the problem is damaging themself or you. I'm sure that if they value the connection they have with you, they would feel damaged to know that they are harming you in any way, and will hopefully try to change. If they are being self-destructive, then it is also up to them to make the decision to change or not. The only thing you can do is just show them the door, and they're the one that has the choice to walk through it. INFP-INTJ friendships are very special, and what makes it special is the honest deep emotional and mental connection. Get rid of everything that hinders that special connection, and be grateful for each other's' existence in your life. Good luck. Hope this could be of any help.

[@Meowewoi]

You're welcome. Honestly, it depends on the INFP. But my advice would be, just introduce it to him little by little. INFPs love soul-searching, and also love to connect deeply with themselves and others. They naturally find themselves interested in topics like Typology, enneagram, or psychology in general. Maybe talk to them about relevant aspects and patterns in their personality and how it correlates with their type. Or, talk about your personal experience and how it was influenced by Typology. INFPs usually love it when they get to connect and dive deep into a person's mind. We love things that provide emotional intensity and mental stimulation.

[@Meowewoi]

@@stello61 You're welcome! I hope it helped.

[@honeybadger1847]

My best friend is an INFP. She’s the only person who can make me laugh. I get downright silly and giddy around her, playful. She brings out, if not the best in me, then something I enjoy.

[@Meowewoi]

I’m so happy to hear that! INTJs deserve love. They deserve someone that sees them for who they truly are.

[@Embracepsychosis]

INFP here and My SO is an INTJ and my Best friend is also an INTJ... Love those antisocial thinkers

[@Raphsophomes]

That's what you think of us 😂

[@weebteckickedin4334]

*asocial

[@MentalPlotting]

Antisocial is the ISTP or ENTP, you mean asocial xD.

[@agees924]

I’m an INFP and I love INTJs and INTPs. They are the only ones who can relate my nerdy side and they like to go very deep on topics which I really enjoy. They share a lot of the same life struggles as well. Getting all three of us together on a common interest would be so much fun.

[@jbennett5634]

As soon as he said intjs would naturally get along with intps, infps and infjs... Those are the personalities of my friends Consider me impressed

[@abadi173]

In my experience ENTJs get along well with INTJs. It can get competitive but i love competition to keep my mind sharp.

[@shohanahmedniloy9218]

Exactly

[@jeffreydhill]

Same. Met one recently and it was awesome - I even said to her "I believe in 'iron sharpens iron.'" That sure perked her up. ;)

[@eldanielo0001]

Agreed, one of my best friends is an ENTJ. We once worked together and he really pushed me to get out of my comfort zone and apply my ideas. I pushed him a bit to more use his intuition and focus on the inside. We understand each other easily (which is rare for me).

[@mamu7976]

@@eldanielo0001 Disagree. ENTJs are so arrogant.

[@abadi173]

@@mamu7976 don't mistake confidence for arrogance. ENTJs are very logical people with that dominant Te, so if you back your arguments and claims with solid evidences aka "Ti", you will see how humble they really are.

[@MINIPRO27]

I'm normally a pure INTJ, but when I'm with my two friends(INTJ and ENFP) I start becoming more natural and a bit of an extrovert but still having the competitive and logical personality

[@silverrain530]

I'm similar. Around my ENFP sister, I act almost like an ENFP but still INTJ.

[@WackadoodleMalarkey]

You're *always* a pure INTJ young padawan. Don't sell yourself short of your full capacities. 💯

[@ahope4audrey]

Sister: INFP Best Friend: INFJ Boyfriend: INTP hmmm

[@AsuraPsych]

Hmm, maybe a pattern here Haha. Thanks for watching!

[@DoomLegion83]

LOL! Brother: INTP Girlfriend: INFJ

[@graciedudgeon4836]

Sister: INFP Best friend: INTP We're so similar (although I don't have a boyfriend sooo)

[@anonnymus1227]

LOL I don't have a bestfriend and boyfriend but.... Sister : INFP. :3

[@muhsinashardow998]

Sister: INFP Best Friend: INFJ

[@ElvenWisdom]

My best friend is an INTJ, I am an INFJ, and we just get one another so well. We are very different, but complement one another. She comes to me mystical emotional insights on the world, and I go to her for logic and perceptive analysis of the world. It’s great. 😌 Side note: Elrond is known to be an INTJ, and Galadriel is the INFJ type, it’s why they run the White Council in Lord of the Rings together so well!

[@noiJadisCailleach]

Current SO is an INFJ... It's the worst I've had so far. I'm not getting anything out of our discussions. Wish I only limited our relationship as friends only. Our wavelengths just won't match. You can't even detect any creativity from the other side as well. In my mind, I just treat it like a familial relationship now. I'm currently building myself and putting things in place so I can get out of this situation cleanly. Can concur with INFP though. Once you start, you can't stop. You don't even know how or why you're having a good time. You just do. And when the room gets silent, it's just sooooo natural, it's not awkward at all.

[@voltaire5427]

I’m an INTJ. My best friends are usually xNTPs. I like how no topics are off limits. We can discuss literally anything without having to filter our opinions and make horrible jokes together.

[@BlairWaldorf2013]

Could you do a video with the types LEAST likely to get along with INTJs. That would be super interesting from a trained MBTI practitioner on why these types don’t mess well. I have a friend who is an ENTP and on the surface I thought we’d be great with the NT but sometimes he really annoys the crap out of me with his incessant need to debate but not have anything to really say.

[@AsuraPsych]

That sounds like a good idea, thanks for watching!

[@inthedetails5467]

I’d probably assume it’s ESTJ, ESFJ, and either ISTJ or ESFP to a lesser extent.

[@dday9433]

I have an ENTP child... my most challenging for me to understand. Married to an ISTP (some minor communication issues, but 20 plus years of working it out eventually), with INFP and ISTJ kids that are completely different from me, but that I totally "get", but my ENTP? whew.... like an alien creature to me at times.... the energy, the speed, and the (to me) frustrating need to fight EVERYTHING (even stuff that's logically in their best interests!) is hard for me to handle.

[@jamesspartin117]

Yeah i know a ISTJ mate who has an ENTP girlfriend. Now i think im pretty good at remaining calm and getting the facts But man does she know exactly how to make me angry. The reason it annoys me so much is because she makes it look like im the bad guy for getting annoyed when she is 100% aware she is doing something wrong but also knows she can get away with it (excluding myself because i decide to get vengeance). it pretty much is like joker and batman, just i find her far more annoying than the joker.

[@devinbrines]

I agree Blair. CSJ says ENTP is good for INTJ's but I really am not into it.

[@kj1227icecap]

My son is INTJ (he's 17) and I'm INFJ. Thankfully we are well-matched. We had rough patches before I began studying mbti b/c I'm more emotional and use lots of figurative language. We've helped each other grow a lot.

[@letsthink8245]

How are things going now if I may ask?

[@UnsuspectingCommenterPassingBy]

I’m an INFP and I’m sure I’ve only met 3 INTJs in my life and though I felt I annoyed them at first, we somehow became very close friends. Heck, the last one I met even became my boyfriend and we’ve been together for almost 4 years. I gotta admit he can overwhelm me a bit with how competitive he is and I’m a bit afraid of making logical judgements out loud because he’ll instantly point out why it’s all wrong. I’m thankful that he’s helping me get better at that, but there’s times he’s so convinced no one but him is right, he’ll bend the logic to protect his pride. But all that aside, I swear I’ve never found it so easy to talk to someone. No confused looks, no explaining, no judgments because it’s like we share the same mind, except his side is like a multi layered circuit board and mine an LSD trip.

[@TheElenaparker]

May i know why u guys broke up if u dont mind?

[@hannahmathilda7101]

I love INFPs! They are so down to earth (with me)

[@hannahmathilda7101]

Overambitious Underachiever Ha! Your username

[@dday9433]

Me too. I find INFPs so incredibly relaxing and downright fun to be around. The INFP seems always willing to engage in deep conversation, but they can keep things funny, they have brilliant observations about others, they are mostly non judgmental (although can be wickedly sarcastic), and are good "critical" thinkers w/o being pretentious or overbearing.

[@hannahmathilda7101]

Dy Dayton INTPs as well😉

[@juliaf7481]

In what instances do they display being down to earth ? I want to under it more. Curious 🙂 - infp

[@ovis4021]

too easily offended and irrational, i prefer infjs

[@burtmars7973]

I'm glad I stumbled upon this guy, he knows his stuff. The Big Bang Theory sitcom has done true INTs a stereotypical injustice. Which Types are Likely to (want to) be Friends with INTJs???? All of them. Why? We're mysterious even on our most unpretentious days.

[@Gio-sx7kt]

True.

[@zymoffi]

I have a very good INFP friend that I connected “naturally” with online, and we had an instant connection. I think the INFP mixes well with INTJ in terms of friendship, but in a romantic setting it’s more difficult.

[@MB-or8js]

100% agree from my experience. My ex-girlfriend is an ENTP, but the "E" part here was overwhelming me often as you correctly pointed out. Too much outgoing for me, too. Most very good friends of mine are dominantly introverted people, several ISTJs here. Problem is that roughly only 25% of humankind has a "N" based personality. One of my supervisors was ISFJ - not easy to get along with this personality type I found. Before I even knew about MBTI, I remember one encounter where he asked me how I got from A to D so quickly. He didn't like when I mentioned the word "intuitively". He was upset, and I had to spend hours to show him the path to go from A to B to C to D until he accepted the valid solution.

[@MrPlazmaWalker]

Thats his (ISFJ) weak TI.... it didnt make sense to his internal (subjective) logic so he rejected it....

[@angelaharris53]

I'm an INTJ married to an INFP. Obviously, I would agree with your observations.

[@michaelhenault4381]

INTJ and I generally agree with your assessment. I attract INFP, but like NFs overall. Also, maybe because I've studied foreign languages, I am willing to on a challenge. Like to listen to the Other through their own filters and lenses. Speak in a modified INTJese.

[@laerrus]

So much agree on the (INFP, INTP, INFJ as friends) from another INTJ.

[@downsjmmyjones101]

Interesting. I had never thought of INTJ and INFP being so good together but it follows the same idea as INTP+INFJ, the supposed "golden pair". The pairing system tries to put two types together where the two functions that are shared are dominant and inferior in one(INFP has dom Fi and inf Te) and auxilary and tertiary in the other type(INTJ has aux Te and ter Fi). So INTJs take the INFP's two opposing functions and puts them together in their stack. So the INTJ is the reconciliation of the INFP's main conflict between that of Fi and Te.

[@rikawithshotgun]

When you compare the INTJ+INFP pairing to the supposed "Golden Pair" of INFJ+INTP, the functions align exactly the same way, just with different functions. From my own observations, Ni and Ne love playing together, the duality of the Fi-Te axis that is present encourages admiration and growth in both parties, and there's something more to the shared judging functions that I tried over and over to explain, but struggled to put it into words. Basically, they might value different information, but they can both relate to the experience of assigning value to information. I could be wrong, but that's the best I've got.

[@dr.hebagadallahclinicalpha9871]

I am an INFJ female, my husband is an INTP . He is smart and funny.

[@buzan2296]

Two of my best friends (online) are INFP and INTP. Never met an INFJ of which I am aware. The INTP likes to discuss intellectual matters a lot, and sometimes it's a bit too much for me. He's been joining specific Discord communities where he can debate for several hours various brainy topics. I like discussing ideas with him, especially when it's for a specific purpose, but engaging in intellectual discussions without an end goal for hours on end isn't really my thing. His Fe also at times rubs my Fi the wrong way. It's hard to put the finger on exactly what it is. The INFP on the other hand understands me more on a personal level, so he's more relatable. I talk a lot about life with him and things that are Fi-Ne. I really like to engage my Te-Fi this way as I rarely get a way to express myself or talk about my Fi stuff to others. So they are both great in their own. One for trading ideas (though he's sometimes a bit too much) and the other to feel a genuine connection to as a friend. Despite liking the INTP I just don't feel it the way I do with the INFP. The Ti in INTPs create a type of emotional wall in terms of connection. I find it easier to connect to Fi people on an emotional level.

[@17x71]

The thing you couldn't grasp about the INTP's Fe is basically how fake it is. INTP's have demon Fi so basically they ignore, don't think it's necessary, despise their own Fi and sharing how they truly feel about matters. It's ridiculously fucking annoying for the INTJ because it's as if you don't even know them but the fake person they be. They may disagree with you on something and even hold hard feelings against you but they won't say it or mention it directly but passive aggressively instead. Whereas INTJ's or Fi-Te's in general want clarity. And they also get offended when you don't Fe with them as they feel you are obligated to as Fe users all do. But they won't even directly say that. Fi users just let you be yourself and they be themselves too.

[@buzan2296]

@@17x71 You put it in a good way.

[@annl.5512]

It's not fakeness but more "I don't really understand my own feelings" It's hard to explain but we need time to think about how we're feeling and sometimes we don't even come up with an answer. I always think of intjs as humans pretending to be robots and intps as robots pretending to be human somehow.

[@AydensGuitar]

INTJ and can agree that i feel the most natural around INFPs even if i dont know them very well

[@infxtv2646]

I feel an intuitive understanding with INTJs...like we both speak the same language without even needing to speak to establish it. But then we do speak and the magic spirals out from there. Thanks for your vids, love em. Hillary (INFP)

[@AsuraPsych]

Thanks for the feedback, I agree with that statement as well and enjoy communicating with INFPs (most of the time). Thanks for watching!

[@deemoore97]

Infp dating an intj for 4 years now. We also work together and have a great creative flow. No one understands me like she does. I introduced her to my best friend who is also an infp and not surprisingly they get along really well.

[@MJAgenais]

I am a fellow intj and this all resonates with me so much. My favorite people are infps. Basically all my friends are infp or fellow intjs with one infj who I knew and worked with for years. I also agree that extroverts are just way too much for me. I could not imagine being close with an extrovert and having to deal with that energy constantly.

[@AsuraPsych]

Glad to hear it, thanks for watching!

[@hamstermann7822]

Lol INTJ - me, INFP - my mom, INTP - My best friend, INFJ - Another close friend

[@Gio-sx7kt]

My mom(INFP), set me(INFJ) up on the only "blind date" I've ever been on with an INTJ friend, it was bad only because it was at a dance and I got overwhelmed by sensory overload, it's hard for me to socialize in a sensorially overstimulating environment, but it's still a fun memory as that INTJ friend later became my favorite person really. I think the initial seeming communication gap comes from not being used to seeing very many Ni Dom types. I think as it's kind of rare, we kind of get used to being a person that no one seems to think like or understand, so you don't expect to stumble across another person with an Ni Dom thinking style, who will Ni with you. I'm used to people not wanting to hear things, or my ideas, but he was the only friend that felt got it without even really having to speak much. They were the most relaxing person I've ever hung with, and his Te seemed to value my Ti, where most other people didn't seem to acknowledge or see it's existence. It was the best experience to get to be his chem lab partner, as his Te would be pulling out my Ti most of the time. Which I actually enjoyed quite a bit. And it was funny because in a school orchestrated matching fundraiser, he was my top match, I feel now that its because of our shared dominant function. Our divide mostly only comes from me, seeing the path he's on, not wanting to get in the way, and in needing permission to join in to things in general. Apparently as a nerd I need permission to nerd out, where he doesn't, but at least I get to watch his progress on occassion. Needing permission has caused me a lot of depression, and seems to create a misunderstanding in others about who I am to most others, but at least mbti has the words I've been missing that seem to adequately describe it even if just a model.

[@stevedavenport1202]

As an INFJ, I find INTJs very intellectually engaging and have had some long winded conversations with them. However, the majority that I have dealt with seem to have a not so hidden contempt for the human race 😗

[@hannashbelledelosreyes6065]

Its normal

[@fauvechristensen8626]

Im an INTJ and my husband is an INFP. We get a long very well and i would agree with you that being around them can make you feel like an extrovert. My mother is an ENFP and I struggle to be around her for long periods of time.

[@hfortenberry]

52-year old INTJ here and I would totally agree with what you've said here. INFPs seem to be my favorite type. I married one, then after we divorced 8 years later (we are still good friends btw) then I dated another INFP for 8 years and we are still together. I seem to be drawn more to the NFs so I don't know any INTPs. I worked with one a couple of years ago and we really liked talking with each other but she WOULD get annoyed with my Te. But since I understood MBTI and cognitive functions, I taught her and she became more understanding. I probably had some INTP friends in college but that was so long ago and I didn't know MBTI back then so I'm not sure. My Mom was an INFJ and we would clash a little on the Fe/Te. Now, my best friend is an ENFP and my boss and ENTP and I really enjoy our conversations and we talk for hours. I never want our visits to end. I don't think that their Ne is too fast for me. I DO have to bring them back to the subject at hand though because they get off topic but my INFP girlfriend does the same thing. They all just make me laugh when they do that. I find it quite amusing and endearing. I just tell them, wait, let's get back to this for a minute and they are all like, okay. I really enjoy ISTJs as well. I have a good friend at work who is an ISTJ and we often talk politics, health and wellness, home projects, etc. I think we get along because of our two middle shared functions. We express our Te together at work via collaboration and then share out Fi values and likes and interests.

[@johnwelch6028]

I am an intj my wife is infp and my uncle is an infj and these are the people that are closest to me in my life and I am the most open with

[@Carcassbits11]

I'm an ISFP and my husband is an INTJ. We have the same function just on different order, I think we make a good team and we're best friends

[@keltdood]

This helps explain my friendship with an INTJ as an INFJ. I’m gonna be thinking about this for a year or two now

[@mirai_17]

Most of my friends are xNFJs and xNFPs. INFJs are cool and just chill while ENFJs sometimes could be really overwhelming. I have an INFP friend which I really connect well especially on common interests. ENFPs are nice but they are chaotically overwhelmimg. It feels like being greeted by a running river that never ends and then you just drown with all the info you acquired. I also noticed that I tend to like INFP males the most and there's just really something with them that makes them stand out the most for me. - INTJ female

[@rikawithshotgun]

INFP males are so magical, like actual unicorns.

[@Canttakethatback]

Am an INTJ and I highly relate to what you said , my friend circle is exactly that way

[@AsuraPsych]

Glad to hear it resonated with you, thanks for watching!

[@oktaveanti721]

dark mind me too

[@JannaMainOTP]

intj to intj? i can feel connection with my intj friend even when he is in another country, although we dont talk much, and dont meet up much, we just love the existence of each other on the same planet type of friendship if you know what i mean

[@Gio-sx7kt]

I(INFJ) feel the same about my INTJ friend.

[@hideki7420]

Dayum, this is accurate. My two best friends are INFPs and I was acquainted with an INTP. I also get along really well with an ISTP because neither of us like following stupid rules lol.

[@derpsquad1o142]

Dude, same

[@michellepackman1484]

INTJ here, these are some sophisticated and comprehensive thoughts on human relationships, thank you

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

The first three, INTP INFP and INFJ, all Ni-heavy. INTP and INFP have "strong" Ni at their 6th slot. I find those, and ENFP, and sometimes ENFJ to "work best with me" also!

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

And I fucking love Key and Peele!

[@Icantfeeeeeelit]

@@JonasAnandaKristiansson We need to watch some Key & Peele next time we see each other, kram Jonas 😂❤

[@alhamdullilah12]

im an intj and i love the enfps

[@Kiokozei]

me, an INTJ, my best friend, an ISTJ...and you just described us hanging out...pretty much literally. Grab food, play games, watch something, go for a walk, minimal or no talking. At some point each sits in their own corner and minds their own business. For some reason Im really happy with this type of interaction. Sometimes I wish I could talk about a more efficient way to do something...but he doesn't fancy any idea of a change in his life. So I guess its ok too. Also no deep theoretical conversations ever (wish I could have, but no luck)...unless its some abstract/stupid/humour type.

[@olgagabris]

As an INTJ, I historically build strong organic relationships with INTPs and INFJs. This observation resonates very well. Haven't met a close friend INFP yet.

[@televisionkid7783]

all my friends are either intj like me, infps or infjs and they’re just so sweet and they really are the best friends for me haha

[@Jakemkee]

I'm an infp, who has a intj friend. I like your type we don't miscommunicate. I'd say we have a 50/50 of getting along. Many intj aren't the friendliest and don't value feelings as much. Which can be a problem in the relationship.

[@Mary-lv9zu]

I'm INTJ and my best friends are INTP and INFJ

[@dirtywhitellama]

ISTP seems to be a pretty decent fit, also. Still Ni-Se axis, just in reverse and relatively balanced, plus Ti dom.

[@odeliamili7129]

Exactly.

[@peach3703]

I agree with the INFP, I have 2 friends that are both INFP and we get along very well. They can make me show my extroverted personality when I'm with them, but I can't really relate to how they see and act on things maybe because they tend to be more on the feelings. I also have 1 co INTJ friend and another 1 INFP friend, I don't know what my other friends personality types.

[@nickgior3849]

I am an intj and all of my friends are intuitives apart from an istj. I also think that you are right about the extroverted types, they can be too outgoing and can make you tired.

[@lostathenian1836]

I find ESTPs are also really great friends, for the reason that you said for ISTJs. They don't demand anything, it's great to go chill with them and do nothing, and they're open to anything. One particular ESTP friend if mine is able to chill and do nothing with me when I want to, but also holds a great chess game or debate on politics or theology or philosophy. The ideal friend, in essence. He is open to pretty much anything, one of the chillest guys I know. He also has this weird history of drug-running, assaulting cops, hiding fugitives and such, lol. He fits the stereotypes. He is quite a Han Solo. All you INTJs out there, never underestimate an Se dominate friend.

[@AsuraPsych]

I agree. People have a lot more to bring to the table than just their type and the stereotypes we tend to have about them. Thanks for watching!

[@gins8781]

It’s nice for you to have a good relationship with an ESTP, they can be delightfully engaging! My ESTP “friend” must be personality disordered. She can be a lot of fun but if she discerns even a hint of disapproval from anyone she can become quite nasty. She can be harmfully inconsiderate, passive-aggressive, and extremely critical of people who do not bend to her will. I’m pretty laid back, but there are occasions when punctuality is very important for me; to show respect for others, and for my own comfort. She deeply resents even kind and tactfully framed urging to be on time. She has reacted with childish recalcitrance on more than one occasion. I have decided to keep her at arms length because I feel that she is predominately toxic. I don’t know why she continued to seek out my company, knowing that I feel so differently about social etiquette. Maybe she mistook my amenable nature for submission and was trippin’ on what she perceived as power over me? She got schooled the last time she went off on me. I test as INTJ, ISFJ, and INFJ and in one instance, INFP. It depends on how the questions are worded on a particular test. I suspect that my dominant Judging function puts me at odds with her. That and her lack of interest in self-improvement.

[@lostathenian1836]

@@gins8781 She sounds like a narcissist. Narcissists can be the most fun and most scary of people. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with narcissism, as it is often associated with intense will power and drive for achievement, as well as high IQ, however it does tend to push others away.

[@lostathenian1836]

@@gins8781 I'd like to try to type you! Typing people is one of my hobbies.

[@gins8781]

Objectivist INTJ - I’m game! I am curious about the different results I’ve gotten. The friend who introduced me to MBTI insists I am an INFJ. Two of the 6 tests gave me that single result also. One gave me 3 possible results with INFJ being one , INTJ and INTP being the other two possibilities. My result with Humanmtrics was INTJ - I (41%). N (6%) T (3%) J (50%). Another result was ISTJ. I suspect that my vast life experience and strong drive towards self-improvement is reflected in my differing results. Like you, I don’t see narcissism as a wholly negative trait. It is only when I discern that an individual with this predilection is going to cause me harm that I push them away.

[@dragonarch0]

I have INFJs and INFPs for best friends for ages. I had one INTP female friend and our friendship lasted like two days at most.

[@Juju-tw7we]

INFP dating an INTJ. Yeah I guess we're friends. Hahahah jk (We're in our 20s, he's a 4th year E.E. student in CalTech while I'm a designer /teacher by trade) -- I almost mistook him as an ENTJ 'cause whenever we talk, HE'S SUPPPEEER talkative (he's also an ennea 8w7) but damn, I usually am the one listening whenever we have discussions, which is cute. When he falls back into silence, damn that is defeaning. (I notice that I usually end up or attract INTJs or ENTPs and sometimes INFJs) Sometime's he's scary but I'm scarier (uwuwu affection). Lels HEHE.

[@Jauaua]

Totally agree! Two of my best friends are an infj and an intp, sometimes it's scary because we feel and think the exact same thing. Also, I just met an infp and we get along sooooo well and have so much in common. With the extroverted types it's a little bit more difficult sometimes as I get along with them well and I admire their social skills and way of approaching people in general, but in the long run I feel more connected to the introverted types

[@KayaJane]

Short and to the point = PERFECT. THANK YOU!

[@Pose005]

I like an ENFP partner, but they can get annoyingly impulsive at times

[@rur1279]

My late sister was an intj and attracted esfp types. I'm thinking it's because of the te/fi functions. Unfortunately she didn't feel like she could be her entire self with them. I do believe that if she had infps in her life that she would have felt more understood and less lonely. I (infj) was the closest person to her.

[@hara_banana]

Definitely agree with this. My closest friends are INFPs.

[@KenZauter]

I'm an INTJ and I've had VERY few friends in my life (aside from dogs - I've always preferred their company to humans) and the only people I seem to be able to have meaningful relationships with at all are INFP's & INTP's. As an aside, is the dog / human bond (a?)typically strong with INTJ's for some reason?

[@jackielyncalma9822]

I have an INFP and INTP friends, My INFP friend understand my humor like nobody else. She definitely understand my sarcasm. On the other hand, I like talking to my INTP friend we dive in to some serious topic that we have opposite perspective at, and that's the best part; since we can argue about it and state our facts.

[@dinkin_flicka14]

I have an ENTP and an INFJ friend and we get along really well. I think with the INFJ friend she understands that we're quite similar and doesn't judge me or force me into social situations, however my ENTP friend sometimes gets me out of my comfort zone and try new things so it's a very good balance I guess. Also I would love to meet an ENFP someday

[@mastermindrational1907]

Accurate video. I dated an INFJ, instant, strong attraction. My best friend is INTP. I find it interesting the only extroverted type he mentioned was ENFJ-the extroverted type I get along with best.

[@Barjavelle131]

As an INTJ (typed for long as INTP) I've strangely been best friend with an ESFJ, we thought we were complementary by our differences yet both very productive. We pushed each other forward and that was something I valued a lot in our friendship. But the more we spent time together, the more I felt trapped in this friendship. He is the kind of person that needs a lot of attention, as if he was scared to be betrayed and that's sadly one of the behaviors I can't help but running away from because I hate being attached by feelings or commitment. Now I believe my natural partner is the ENF(/T?)P, I LOVE these amazing people. (And that's one of the things that make me trust the MBTI so much) I don’t get why but things are so natural with them. I feel like the most upsetting know-it-all person on earth yet they don't seem to mind at all. Love is easier to share online so just take it people, I'm leaving it to you !

[@SeanIsCrispy]

Sister: INFJ Brother: INFP Me:INTJ and we are the closest of friends. In fact, they are the only persons that i trust the most

[@D2SProductions]

I'm an INTJ, most of my friends are ESTJs, the 2nd most common type amongst my friends is INFP (they are also the ones I argue with the most), and some INTJ online friends, then I have one ISTP friend, one INTP friend, one ENTP friend (I argue with him too, not as often as the INFP, but often way more heated), and one INFJ friend. My INFJ friend I'm very intrigued by and would love to pick his brain more, being he is an INFJ I know he has a blind Te function, which is my second cognitive function, and I have blind Fe which is his second cognitive function.

[@D2SProductions]

@@elantaranggaha1815 INFPs tend to allow themselves to get pushed around by everyone, and they expect it from everyone because as I said they tend to get it from everyone. Often they do a lot for others and every once in awhile they want things done for them and if you can't do what they're wanting to needing they can get extremely upset. This happens even if they haven't done anything for you, as it has happened to me. My friend helps out his family and other friends, he would help me too if I ever asked, but I prefer to be independent and try to take care of my own needs myself, so I rarely ask anything of anyone. My friend is always helping everyone who needs the help, cleaning their house, fixing their PC, fixing their car, etc. I'd just got a new PC and I didn't have all of my software installed yet, my games were the last thing I was planning on installing and not until the following month when I was upgrading from phoneline DSL service to fiberoptic internet service because many of those games are such a massive download that with DSL is can take hours if not days to download some of them. My friend posted online where myself and our mutual friends could see that he was looking for someone to play a game with him, I was the only one who answered back explaining that I would but I don't have that game installed on my new PC yet and don't plan on installing it until next month were I can download it a lot faster with my new ISP. My friend who does all of these favors for so many people he just wants this one little thing and no one would play the game with him and being that I was the only one who replied I became the focus of his anger. Being an INTJ we have what's referred to as, "Demon Memory," we find it very difficult to forgive and forget, so this situation nearly permanently ended our friendship, if it weren't for the fact that I've been learning about Jungian Analytical Psychology to understand why my brain works the way it works and why my friends' brains work they way they work he probably would've permanently been in a Demon Memory as someone I never care to speak with ever again. But because I have been learning about Jungian Analytical Psychology I understand his point of view better and realize though he was blowing up at me it was only because he does so much for so many others and not a single person would do this for/with him and I just happened to be the only who responded who ended up being the target of his frustration.

[@D2SProductions]

@@elantaranggaha1815 Thank you very much for your reply, I do think I made a mistake about my friend's type though. My original post was talking about a friend who I thought was an INFP, I confused his type for ISFJ. But ISFJs aren't the only type known for, "covert contracts," where they do a lot of things for many people without telling anyone they expect favors in return and then get very upset when no one wants to do favors for them. The main difference between ISFJs and INFPs they are both what many could consider, "Social Justice Warriors," INFPs have an ideal in their mind of how things should be based on their dominant Introverted Feeling (Fi) cognitive function, but they don't use their Fi as a judging function like the ISFJs do. The ISFJ has Fi Critic Function (the 2nd subconscious cognitive function is the person's judging function for INFP that function is Ni (Introverted iNtuition) for the ISFJ the 2nd subconscious function is Fi), so ISFJs have impossibly high moral standards that they themselves can't live up to, yet they judge everyone, including themselves based on their impossibly high moral standards, and that also leads to some arguments with my ISFJ friends. I mentioned they are what a lot of people call, "Social Justice Warrior," but don't get me wrong, ISFJs and INFPs are not limited to a single political side, the ISFJs on the political right do the same things, just with different points of view. And being a, "Social Justice Warrior," though the term is often used as an insult it's actually a good thing, it's the duty of INFPs and ISFJs to show the rest of us what is moral, the problem is some times what's moral can't be agreed on because there's immoral outcomes no matter which options are chosen, but both are coming from a place of wanting to make society more moral. Not to take away from this video, so I won't provide a link to this other video, but if you want to learn more about your type, the INFP look up a video titled, "Who are the INFPs," it's a long video, and very biting, because the guy who made the video is coming from a position that most people don't know about their own personality types there fore don't know their own strengths and weaknesses and therefore often unnecessarily limit themselves with their weaknesses instead of trying to overcome them. His INTJ version was just a biting but I found it very helpful.

[@joelrichardson5139]

Lol. I’m an INTJ with ISTJ, INTP, and INFP friends.

[@AsuraPsych]

What a coincidence haha, thanks for watching!

[@nightprowler6336]

I am INTJ with ENFJ, INFJ, INTJ, and ENTP friends.

[@Lord-Heihachi]

I don't usually get along with INFPs.. but smoothly with INTPs, ENTJs, INFJs and occasionally ENTPs.

[@joy-wire]

I'm an ISTP and I'm best friends with an INTJ. She says I'm worthy of her friendship and that I get her. I'm truly honored lol

[@MontanaGamingX]

My lil bro is an ENFJ I think and we have the same humor He understands me well because of both his intuition and feeling and I stimulate him to become more thinking and sharp.

[@dillonpercy1058]

My three best friends are: INTP (known them my entire life great friend, never faught with them, no topics are off limits), INFJ (faught a little, but always gravitate back towards each other, great to talk with), ESTP (my longest and closest friend, that I got at school, never faught, we are always there for each other).

[@17x71]

In my opinion and from experience: 1. ENTP 2. ENFP 3. INTP 4. ISTJ 5. INFP 6. ISFP 16. INFJ These are just the consistent relationships. Other types I've had good but short lived times with would be ESFP's and ENFJ's. ESTJ's and ENTJ's I get along with well as well but it's always more so in a professional setting. Get's a bit awkward when it tries to turn more personal.

[@RootedandtheWingedBook]

Is there a specific reason you put INFJ at the bottom? As an INFJ I am curious to know.

[@xkenny-personalitydatabase5604]

@Shin for me it's the problem solving differences or rather what I would consider a complete lack thereof. Also usually don't find INFJs fake nice, actually quite genuine, just absent underlying introspection or questioning to understand where their "positive intentions" are coming from and to hold themselves accountable in practice.

[@RootedandtheWingedBook]

@Shin Ah, thank you.. I suspect Fe doesn't get along very well with Te; they both want to communicate different things. Fe is concerned with objective morals and comparing one's emotional state to others/the room. I'm still learning how Te works, but I suspect is is concerned with objective problem-solving and communicating these logical principles with others. I've come to notice lead Te users and they tire me out very quickly; I can't take too much Te at once. I'm not sure why though exactly.

[@RootedandtheWingedBook]

@@xkenny-personalitydatabase5604 Te is an INFJ's "deceiving" function. We're not very fond of it.

[@xkenny-personalitydatabase5604]

@@RootedandtheWingedBook I never got into the fancy slot terminology (too Fe lol) - I use dom/aux/tert/inf & demonstrative/PoLR from Socionics. But yeah, third shadow slot (PoLR) is the most devalued and rejected. That being said, I'm fine with people using Fe for themselves or for others that want it, only greater involvement within an accountable framework. (I saw you said you were learning, this is my take if you like) Te is broad logic. It uses an inductive or probabilistic basis to determine the back-and-forth logic between objects (unlike Ti deductive necessitating, linear if_ then _ logic). It likes having a finger on reference points: systematics, contingencies, relevancy, variables, knowns/unknowns, etc., and then it likes to apply while conserving resources to maintain maximum reference points ("efficiency" - business has pretty much ruined the term, they love waste so long as it doesn't fall on them). I find a lot of people mistype assertive or disagreeable Fe users as Te users. Like Meghan Levota, many think she's an ENTJ when she's an ENFJ. And especially older males, who are more often Fe users just fulfilling their social role.

[@anna.t._7224]

I find that in class when I’m sitting next to a someone I don’t know as well I am usually quite reserved and formal and stick to the lesson, especially if they are a sensing type who’s conversation I find boring when it’s ONLY gossip or talking about themselves. However when I’m seated next to my infp best friend it’s suddenly like I’m a completely different person. We are always talking and joking so loudly that the teacher literally has to tell us to shut up.

[@vaportrails7943]

As an INTJ, when it comes to women, I like things like ENFP or ESFP. Ones that are cheerful, outgoing, and optimistic, who are like a ray of sunshine, and not extremely complicated. And often blonde. I find that we balance each other out very well. The only problem is that women of that type, without a moral compass, can clash with my need for loyalty and trust. Or they can find me boring if they're too shallow. But those things can apply to almost any type. My dad is an ISTJ, and we have often clashed, because I think those types do better with a reversed power dynamic. I find him overly cautious and unimaginative, while he distrusts my ideas and demands proof. If I was the boss, an INTJ would probably be a perfect manager working for me. Having watched few of your videos, I have to say that you do not come across as an INTJ at all, assuming that's what you think is your type. But it's not exactly science.

[@sudiprizal]

every extroverted type adore their introverted counterpart.

[@honeyloop2746]

my best friends are INTP and ENFP but they can both get really intense with their informing, I also really like ENTJs, I have never had an INFP friend yet and I find it quite difficult to interact with INFJs sometimes

[@florenciasilviaparis]

Me: INTJ HUSBAND: ENTP Best friends ESTJ and ENFP X 2

[@roberttoompuu4562]

I'm INTP/ENTP and my best friend is INTJ. We get along super naturally, almost like we read each others minds. However I'm really adventurous person compared to him, so the only thing that brings up problems is the fact that he's really closed off to new adventures and experiences, so we don't get to hang out really often because of that.

[@AsuraPsych]

One of the weak areas of the INTJ, they might be very open to new ideas but they are not so much open to new experiences. Thanks for sharing/watching!

[@vh99_]

Wow, you mention many close friends in the video .... 😅 So far, I consider only 3 people real friends, and two of them I have never met yet in my Life and only communicate via Chat platforms with (Not that I have any Problem with that, we have Contact very often). From These 3 people, two are definitely INFP (one Online friend (did the Test) & the sole friend I meet regurlarly in person) - as you mentioned in the Video, I'm always very talkative when being "around" them (virtually or in Person), we can talk for ages about a great variety of topics, regularly changing topics and thereby totally forgetting the passing time. The third one, also Online, is Most probably INTJ like me or INTP. The great Thing is that I Share a lot of Things with him, sometimes its kinda like "looking in a mirror", and we also discuss a Lot, but about different, more serious topics (We're both very serious people) and also in a "higher" way (comes Close to the Style of Scientific discussions).

[@LMEL756]

One thing that really struck me here is when you described INTJs and ISTJs as “laid-back.” I have never viewed either of those types that way. In fact, quite the opposite. It makes sense with the primary introverted perceiving function. I will have to try and pay more attention going forward to see if I notice this trait at all. Thanks for challenging my view on that! -INTP

[@AsuraPsych]

Yeah, a very common misconception about INTJs! Ni dominant types tend to be very "guru" like, often laid back, quiet, and introspective. Thanks for watching!

[@NB-qy7ku]

My view is think can be laid back under certain circumstances. When focused like work then not relaxed. At home potentially laid back. Depends really. Have to switch gears so to speak. There a few different gears with them. But can be most chill. One of my favorite people has been intp ISTJ both can be relaxed. Think they think about things and it's fun to think but they both can be relaxed.

[@Wasp239]

Oh, yes! Even before watching your video I always marked Infp, intp and infj as my favorite types and kindred spirits.

[@evelinevervliet]

How interesting! I have 4 close friends. 3 of them are INFJs (of which my boyfriend) and the other one is an INFP.

[@mihnic0504]

My cousin who is my best friend since we we’re born is INTJ and my wife is an INTJ. I’m an INFJ. They both drive me nuts

[@loworochi]

I’m an Intj and my brother is an Intp. We’ve always been able to communicate with each other very well.

[@marlo.candeea]

god keeps throwing infjs at me and im not complaining but wheres my intjs at? - an infp (on a side note: the birthday massacre yesss I grew up listening to them!)

[@Hari-kx2er]

Iam an INTJ and one of my best friends is an ISFP. My younger cousin is an INFJ.

[@senantiasa]

Wow, I'm so surprised that you got it right for me. And I'm even more surprised that almost everyone in the comment section agrees with you.

[@alexelsie5605]

As an INTJ this entire video annoys me because it's true, I have found that I tend to get along wonderfully with INFPs and INTPs. I also have an ENFP and ENTP friend whom I get along with but sometimes, it's a little overwhelming because they are very social people with magnetic personalities and tend to draw big crowds towards themselves so if I'm hanging out with them, I always mentally prepare for the possibility that we'll have some sort of unexpected company or run along on some unplanned adventure.

[@dylanlaunspach2859]

This seems very accurate, of my close friend group that I have convinced to take the test, I have 2 INTP's, an ENFP and an ENFJ, and I get along with them all brilliantly

[@FlamingManofIron]

Interestingly, most of my friends are INTJs or ENTJs. A few others thrown in, but they're the minority. Married and ESFJ, though. :)

[@tulsivatsa2858]

INTJ here and my best friends are INFP and ENFJ

[@DrVein]

O.k first, love Birthday Massacre. Second, I've been best friends with an INTP for several years. He's dealt with my Ne nemesis better than anyone.

[@enfieldjohn101]

It was funny that KZbin wouldn't let you use the video clip. It's weird how some videos are full of clips of stuff from movies, comics, games etc. I wonder how some channels manage that while others either don't use them on purpose, or can't use them. I think that my wife might be an INFP. When we aren't working on our own projects and are spending time together, we do really get into streams of ideas, concepts, daydreams etc. I feel a lot more extroverted when I'm around her. She's a teacher who specializes in working with autistic and other special needs kids in elementary schools and she is a natural at it. Sometimes, I think that she is the only person I've ever met who really understands me and yet still accepts me the way I am. I have very few friends and no best friends, other than my wife. Most of the people I'm around I consider to be acquaintances rather than friends. I interact with people best through the written word, so I prefer chatting on message boards, texting, social media platforms, etc. over face-to-face conversation. Most of my friends are 'pen pals' of a sort and we only interact through these written methods. Back before these wonderful internet-based or cell phone-based methods of communication, I spent very little time with other people, usually only when I had to for work, school or (when I was a little kid) when my parents would visit friends or family, or they would come over to visit us. As a kid, I played with toys and games and only interacted with other kids when I had to, usually through playing a game with them or through playing with toys that encourage group play. On the rare occasion when I would ask my mom if we could go visit another kid, she'd be so surprised that she'd ask me why and I'd say that it was because that kid had a toy that I really liked to play with but didn't have myself. Now, the people I spend the most time with of my own volition are people who have the same hobbies or interests that I do, and we talk about those things, mostly online. The people I interact with in person are pretty much all my wife's friends and I'm along too. I'm not sure what type the people we hang out with the most are, but most of the ones I actually like are the quiet, more reserved ones who are introverts like me. I sometimes try to do things in my hobbies with other people in person, but not very often because in person interactions are awkward and exhausting situations for me. Interesting video! It's interesting how certain types get along better than others. It's also interesting the types that don't get along well. I think the type that I really can't stand are the ESFPs, maybe because they are so opposite from me in every way.

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

YES!! I LOVE The Birthday Massacre as well. Nice video man!!

[@AsuraPsych]

Thanks! I met them live one time, they are very nice people Haha.

[@cheerfulturtlegirl]

As an INFP, I'm glad we're on the list. xD INTJs are awesome.

[@froop2393]

as an INTJ-T i can't keep friendships because i need a huge amount of time for me after interacting with coworkers and my family... and most people can't abide my bluntness...

[@hnhmr6597]

My friends are INTP, INFJ and INFP/J. And I must say, I communicate more with my INTP friend because we are both thinking types, i guess? My INFx friends are really private in ways that we (may INTP friend and I) aren't. What I really love is when my INFP/J friend asks hypothetical situations and my INTP friend and I would give our thoughts. (I have found out that I give a more decisive answers than my INTP friend).

[@BEE-lq2nh]

As an infp I also click very fast with fellow intuitive introverts.. INTJs are pretty cool but I don’t know many of you guys sadly

[@bobbi4805]

From my experience, we also get along very well with other INTJ’s