INTJ | Why I Don't Talk A Lot

[@FlowState]

A lot of INTJ have this weird thing going on where they're quiet... Until they're not. Then they just talktalktalktalk....

[@InternetLiJo]

Lolol..... I mean 😬👽

[@denniszaidman2089]

If you engage us on a subject we like, we're not going to shut up.

[@spacecase4062]

You’re not wrong

[@2driverpls652]

Especially if it is a subject I like or know something about.

[@MgtowRubicon]

Don't get me started...

[@nguyendat4643]

Most of the time, my mouth shut and just talk necessary thing, but if i have a topic that i know with person i like, i could talk 3, 4 hours nonstop. 😙

[@InternetLiJo]

Yessss same 💯

[@lostathenian1836]

Same, man.

[@darianchristiandi1388]

Yep. Could be talkative when get the interesting subject and topic for discussion 😈

[@jaihaslett]

I feel that

[@ariadnarodriguez6594]

These videos do wonders on my mental health. I think it's my first comment on youtube because I've never felt more identified and understood, and I wanted to let you know I really appreciate you taking the energy and effort to make them.

[@InternetLiJo]

Sentiments like yours are honestly the only reason why I do this. So thank you, I really appreciate that. I’m glad you’re here :)

[@futuristicorange3895]

This is great, because my sister always gets mad at me for not being so open and just sharing everything about my day and what not. But this makes so much sense as to why I am the way I am. I don't share 1 because I don't care and there is nothing to even share, and 2 there is really no point for me to do so in the first place.

[@InternetLiJo]

Glad you found it valuable :)

[@futuristicorange3895]

@Sunflower Shine I believe I found it on adult swims instagram.

[@ChetTJ]

you could've just said "I'm not interested", that's how i feel in society, like always but when I'm all alone, i talk to myself a lot

[@thevindictive6145]

Think intjs are in general physics overall and not specific to quantum physics. Actually we like everything science related from biology to physics. I used to buy magazines on sciences and astronomy apart from reading all of the medical books of my colleagues eventhough I did accounting. We all are meant to be some sort of scientist.

[@MrOarson]

Someone: "So, how about this weather?" Me: "According to the latest mesoscale analysis, I don't think that..." Someone: Whoa! It's just idle chatter. I'm not asking for a dissertation! ...and that's how I discourage small talk.

[@annpino5005]

This quality also makes a lot of us good public speakers. I've seen a lot of extroverted people who are terrible public speakers and actually fear it, but I love an opportunity to talk without risk of interruption about something I know well.

[@skippersthepenguin3591]

I usually just say I talk when I want to, and when I want to talk, I usually do it for a long time or in long bursts. I also never say I feel anxious or shy being around people or talking in larger groups, if I have to talk I can easily keep the conversation going but if I don't feel obligated to I won't.

[@InternetLiJo]

That's a good way to look at it!

[@alldavids4202]

I’m an INTJ who MUST do small talk to be successful at my work. While I don’t enjoy it, I see the point in it and do the best I can to stay engaged. Though my mind does wander, I can usually stay engaged to accomplish my goal. Thankfully, my job also allows me quiet time to think and write. That part of the work is so special to me that I’ll pay the price of small talk to continue my work.

[@Biosynthnut]

I can small talk briefly if it's something I can relate to with people I know. If it's no one I know. I'm a space cadet.

[@MightyDoomerChannel]

I would never interrupt someone, people say I'm a very good listener (not true, sometimes I phase out but they don't know). In reality, in my job, I sometimes interrupt people: it is not a very good environment, too competitive and corrupt. Everybody wants to shine instead of the other, and I'm forced to talk over the other; but I keep it only when I feel that someone is saying something useless or incorrect and I have a good point to make.

[@taketheredpill1452]

INFP here. When I get going, I talk a lot. You mentioned the Ni being a first press filter and that really helped me understand because I don't have that filter and it bugs me sometimes. Of course, I filter later, learn and then implement but in new situations unfiltered trouble often arises. thanks for helping me understand why :)

[@jedhigh1443]

I could steer small to something more yet I can just not waste and talk to myself about things that interest me. To talk or not to talk? Used to ask myself this a lot. One day I answered myself and haven’t looked on it since. I’m going up stream to see where this water comes from. Can’t deal with people just going down stream with the flow anymore. Plus they all seem to really be displeased with the boat they have and won’t upgrade.

[@InternetLiJo]

Gotta create your own current 😉💯

[@enfieldjohn101]

I get it. I'm terrible at small talk. I have to find a way to make the subject turn towards a topic I know a lot about. Otherwise, I'm a spectator in the conversation. People I'm just starting to get to know sometimes ask why I'm so quiet and if everything is ok. I reply that to me, things aren't quiet at all. There's plenty going on in my mind. I can have entire conversations with myself. I'm never bored.

[@JoBrill07]

This video represents your BEST look!

[@InternetLiJo]

Thanks Jo!

[@ErykThompson]

Loved this one. Feels like an extension of the class!

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey! Glad to know you’re in class too! I actually wonder how many OP folks I have in here........ might need to do some Se research lol

[@ErykThompson]

@@InternetLiJo Yeah, I've been in since August. I'm sure there are a few others, and they'll probably let you know if you ask around 😉

[@fbksfrank4]

The longer someone talks, makes my answers short, thus time goes by. I switch channels in my head and think about something else.

[@Epic878787]

Not only do I not interrupt but after they stop talking, I will often pause a little creating some dead air just to make sure they don't have anything to add, then I'll talk. Actually, just before I talk I'll make it obvious I'm about to start like by opening my mouth and taking a breath, just incase they want to blurt out some more words before I get going. I don't know if I'm showing off with what equanimity I suffer others to speak. -- that sounds pretty arrogant, I guess. Really, I think I do this because I know that many people just love the sound of their own voice and I make room for that.

[@nottjonathan]

So much great info here, And the Ne shout out, very interesting. What's your opinion on quantum physics?

[@InternetLiJo]

Thanks Jonathan! Yeah I find Ne isn’t as selective with conversation once something sparks its interest. Also my opinion on quantum physics... so I wouldn’t use the word opinion, I just think it’s fascinating how it explains so much about energy and that knowledge can be applied to so many things!

[@davidkepke1435]

L J particle entanglement is the most fascinating thing to me. I think it is the key to all knowledge. It opens the possibility of teleporting ourselves or objects instantaneously, I even think it could explain how we obtain knowledge from God, the Universe, the outside of the matrix, or however you think or believe about things.

[@kvncisokivi6782]

I even watch videos in 2X Speed to come faster to the point

[@teddypicker7458]

Can confirm that other INTJ's in my life are quiet, until they have something to say...and then they can just go. As an ENFP myself, I have the ability to make small talk, but I prefer not to, as it is a bore, is empty and is meaningless most of the time.

[@quabrix]

Yeah, that's accurate for me.

[@whysmile9412]

i remember that time on 1st year college when my girl classmate asked me why i don't talk a lot to them girls and i nonchalantly answered "what are we going to talk if we were to?" and she went speechless. i think she took it personally although i didn't mean to.

[@SankalpJain-vh8wn]

Right, so my Ni put me in an existential crisis (but, it was more logical than other people's).

[@stringbean585]

Yes, yes, yes, yes, YES!

[@SuperMunchkinator]

Im the wierdest intj you’ll meet. I definitely retreat into myself if the conversation isnt interesting to me. However, I’ve learned to LOVE small talk. My mom died when I was in highschool which was a whirlwind of shit needless to say. From that though, I’ve learned how important others are to me and while small talk may not be my preference I know others enjoy it. I try to get into how their minds are functioning and just be sracastic and funny the whole time to brighten their day. I also might be able to test out different ideas when their in this mode or take things away about their functioning that I can ponder later… the most non intj thing ever and intj thing at the same time

[@thequattro20v]

OH, the agony of monday mornings at work. How was your weekend...........

[@barborakahancova476]

Im wondering - what brings thinkers to care about psychology this much? Dealing with feelings ,perceptions, trying to explain yourself ,so that people Can understand you..is this just an exception or does it have some hidden underlying logic, rational reason , efficiency and stuff?

[@chronicxswagger]

And I always thought I was like insecure why I wasn't able or even wanting to be talkative like the rest. But I never felt..insecure. been learning alot about myself once I've learned I was intj

[@madbunny101]

Very true.

[@captainalkaloid5342]

Can everyone tell me what the hell he thinks Anton Chigurh's type???

[@Dagan81]

Going to a party is like Chinese water torture for me.

[@aplethoraofme2056]

Well, this is funny. I’m an INTJ and I find being overly quite as tactless. Small talk shouldn’t be seen as such a bad thing. You should be more smarter than this gurl 🤪

[@InternetLiJo]

I prefer my words to be of the highest value when they are used.

[@aplethoraofme2056]

Humble yourself. We aren’t and I mean everyone ... perfect

[@aniokay]

Ni is not a decision making function. If you are assessing whether or not it is worth it to access a conversation, it is your Te talking.

[@InternetLiJo]

I’m using the terms of Objective Personality

[@stephenkauffman9308]

Do you have a lot of depression with this ... I feel depression a lot most times it overwhelmes me .and I don't know what to do

[@InternetLiJo]

Sometimes yes certainly

[@stephenkauffman9308]

Thank you so much it's nice to know that I'm just as weird or normal as everyone else.that makes me feel a lot better knowing that I'm not alone.

[@stephenkauffman9308]

@@InternetLiJo you really seem to understand me.

[@stephenkauffman9308]

@@InternetLiJo you are a really sweet lady

[@alistairproductions]

Ur funny

[@InternetLiJo]

Oh hiiiii Matthew!

[@kommandantjorizo285]

Ironically, Im an INTJ but Talkative Don't be @ me.

[@collinsenosh]

INTJs are so boring. 🤦‍♂

[@quintuplebanned4267]

I’m a professor on a break, and when I teach, I ask my students to take this test, for fun. The INTJs tend to be my favorite students. They are no b.s. They are super smart. They pay attention. They only speak when they have something to say, so it is highly valued, and usually right on. And they are interesting, get along with everyone, set clear boundaries, and are also reliable, consistent, but not boring. They are internally driven, self motivated and extremely, genuine.

[@idasgaard4202]

this is just a describtion of me 😅

[@funnyshorts2598]

Now I understand why all my teachers like me 🤣🤣🤣

[@suertod]

That desc just sounds like Barnum effect tbh

[@snazzygxat2707]

INTJs can be like that. It just depends on their other personality typology and their scale of healthiness. As for myself, I happen to have a social anxiety disorder: which can affect how I function as an INTJ. I'd say to get a full spreadsheet of their data so you know how they react to things or to understand where their heads are at.

[@missinglogos]

Please don’t stroke our ego more… or do , I’m not your father

[@douaaal-assaad7130]

When the conversation is not interesting, i just phase out, retreat in my head, activate auto replay mode and endure until said situation is over

[@InternetLiJo]

That’s how it goes!!

[@j.samuelwaters81]

lol, "phase out" is the perfect way to describe it! My endurance is poor though. I spend the time of uninteresting bits spinning my mental wheels on why this is the topic, or how it became the topic, or if the thing I had been interested in discussing can make a comeback. If it's an uninteresting 1-on-1 conversation, I will often just rage spiral into wondering if I somehow invited this topic of discussion, and how I should plan to avoid the same thing happening in the future. Usually without success

[@shaine2644]

Same

[@Randy-fg9wj]

I drive my wife crazy. She wants me to watch a movie with her, Unless it is really good I am off in my head Can't recall anything about the movie.

[@Abard3480]

@@j.samuelwaters81 Lol, exactly

[@JoinOnlyCars]

I feel like if I couldn’t get something from a conversation, then I wouldn’t bother.

[@captainalkaloid5342]

Which is all the time

[@Atlstreetpodcast2.0]

it's best to just ask questions and let the other person talk.

[@DoomLegion83]

INTJ = Owl Personality. I am also very quiet until i really WANT to get something across or think i found somebody who is worthy of talking to about everything i have read, heard or listen to about.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yes!!! Hoot hoot

[@jaihaslett]

Audibly lol'd at worthy... Love it!

[@lostcat9lives322]

Never cared for the taste of mice....

[@monkeycat07]

As an INTJ myself, I'm quiet, and rarely initiate small talks, really sucked (feeling awkward) at comforting people. I say exactly what I need to be said. Oh my goodness, you are spot on explaining intj!

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey thank you, and welcome to the channel 👽

[@katrina9799]

The secret to small talk is getting them to talk about themselves and then all i need to do is smile, nod, "oh yah?", "right?" At the appropriate times

[@Atlstreetpodcast2.0]

i agree but that gets draining especially if you have a good vibe. People then become addicted :(

[@Andf-kc4xx]

@@Atlstreetpodcast2.0 then they think you’re their best friend

[@jaihaslett]

Genius...LOL

[@anna-maysalgado4294]

💯❤️ Absolutely.

[@JoaoJGabriel]

As an INTJ, I rarely comment videos on KZbin for the same reason (not seeing the point) and this is your second video that I comment. It's my way of saying YOU'RE AWESOME, your insights are very helpful.

[@JoaoJGabriel]

P.S.: It seems that my Fe is not that bad haha

[@InternetLiJo]

Hey, that’s cool of you. But in a very Ni/Te way lol! People like you are why I do this thing. Understanding is everything :)

[@foolapprentice3321]

It is rare that i comment on videos but i always comment on comments. Especially stupid ones.

[@thatnerd7351]

SAMEEE

[@aimieleeb]

People in my class should watch this video to finally understand why I almost never talk, instead of assuming that I'm shy.

[@InternetLiJo]

Force them to watch it lol

[@kevinchavarria6792]

I never talk either, my body language and expression says a lot thou people never see me as shy I feel they get very intimidated by me for whatever reason but fuck ENFPs can't stop chasing me it's like there is something they love about INTJs lol

[@alyxms5826]

@@kevinchavarria6792 same

[@WackadoodleMalarkey]

Yeah well they *should* be drinking more water and eating their vegetables, but we aren't holding our breath and plans for that solubrious contingency now are we? :p

[@melbeth79]

You are a facinating person to me. Always interesting to keep learning and exploring the differences between Ni and Ne.

[@InternetLiJo]

Ah thanks so much Melanie!

[@hamidraza6313]

Each time people said "I talk alot", I told them that I DO NOT TALK at all, I REPLY. And then they realize who actually started the conversation.

[@keshiadorsey6027]

I have the same filter. I get it and it's hard to make small talk with no point. It suffocates me and must walk away to watch paint dry because the air is doing its job

[@InternetLiJo]

The air is doing its job 😂😂😂💯👌🏻

[@mastermindrational1907]

As INTJs, we are the true experts in our fields of study. There’s no fluff. Ask us a question about our expertise at your own risk.

[@myenethes1554]

LOL this vid is so true. this also extends to our lack of making phone calls even to close family members too. in my mind, if there's really no reason to call, there's no reason to make the call and talk (c'mon ppl!! text messages!!! they exist!!) i'm in college and away from home rn and whenever my parents phoned me, i always internally ask myself "what's the reason?? do you have an errand/task you need me to carry out and relay it through the call?" and i used to actually asked that out loud often :D my parents took offense to that lol "we don't need a /reason/!! we just want to make sure you're doing fine!!" but if i'm not doing fine and my problem(s) is/are so serious that i can't solve it alone, i would directly communicate with you right away. so really, logically speaking, there's really no need for the call, lol.

[@h5u2i]

I don’t like meaningless talk. I love deep meaningful things. I hate being too introvert but it’s me. We are highly intelligent people, that doesn’t mean others are stupid but we think in different way. A lot of going on quickly in our mind so sometimes we don’t know how to express them. But when we met interesting people or interesting topics we talk a lot

[@INTJIsland]

Lindsey, It is funny how the more you describe yourself, the more you describe me as well. :-) Last night my granddaughter asked us to join her at her school because a "reptile man" was going to be there with his collection of snakes, turtles and lizards. Like my wife, she just loves animals of all kinds. My wife and my son spent most of the time talking while I quietly watched and took it all in. My one contribution during the presentation was to note that this guy should be named Hagrid, because all the vipers and constrictors were simply poor misunderstood creatures. Cobras just wanted to be left alone and never hurt anyone. Those nasty mongooses attacked the poor cobras, and so on. :-) I enjoyed the lecture part but then we ran into the waiting in line for a picture of my granddaughter holding the alligator. (Another sweet misunderstood creature of course.) This amounted to being trapped in a line, something I loathe at all times, and being locked into a small talk universe, which I quietly endured. My son actually tried to give me the keys to his van (to save on parking space, we had driven to his house and then rode in his van with him) because he knew how little I enjoy socializing generally. However, I turned him down because both my grandkids were there, and I wanted to share the time with them. (They bring out that side of me that normally appears to be completely missing with other people.) The gathering was in the school gym, and that led to some opportunity to show my granddaughter some karate moves when she got feisty and wanted to do some low level "fighting." I showed her some blocks and a leg sweep and my wife is chastising me for not being more civilized in a long line. She is the fun ESTP normally, but we seem to peak on where we are looking for fun at different times. She likes roller coasters and long steep water slides, I like challenges of skill and execution. My 3 year old grandson got in a few licks as well. It was the salvation for me in having to wait in the line. The very long waiting time moved by much quicker thanks to them. I was looking at the basketball hoops, longing for a basketball. Anything to break the monotony of having to talk about nothing for an extended period of time. It did come to an end finally. :-) Of course no one wanted to know about quantum physics, ion implanters, the paths of charged particles moving through magnetic fields or even what an INTJ is. Here were all these reptiles and no one mentioned phylogeny, evolutionary connections or how the reptiles are related to mammals, etc. (Okay it was mostly first graders there so I guess I can forgive them.) And they wonder why INTJs spend so much time alone. :-) Thanks for another great video!

[@InternetLiJo]

Nobody wanted to talk about quantum physics?!? Horror! I guess that’s why we need to find people like each other out there in the world to have those fun conversations with :)

[@awildtomappeared5925]

as an INTJ who has always been noticed as quiet unless I'm talking about things I like or with people I like, I have tried many times to start small talk, but almost always the other person puts in way less effort, and I'm sitting here like, bitch I'm the one who is supposed to be socially incompetent, you cant out do me on my own game!!!

[@InternetLiJo]

Lmao this is funny 😂

[@Atlstreetpodcast2.0]

that's usually how it is. Most ppl are socially inept!

[@yayayipi4139]

Even as an illustrator(artist), I love to research on astronomy, physics and universe stuff! Eventhough I was a science stream high school student, I didn't score well in science just like the INTJ stereotypes, I realised I'm just interested to understand the world around me and the abstract future stuff.

[@DénouementdeVous]

Typically when someone asks: Them: “Why don’t you open up and talk more?” Me: “... Well, what’s the point? If there’s a point, I’ll contribute. If there’s no point at all, I don’t bother and rather conserve energy. Why?”

[@AlastorTheNPDemon]

Small talk? I'm not bad at it; usually comes in the form of advice.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahahah said the person with Te!

[@rachelsmith1654]

I’m an INTJ. I always find like in meetings or conversations I think everything through in my head and either by the time I’m ready to talk the conversation has moved on or I add something helpful because I’ve thought it through and not blurted it out. That’s why I’m always right... and like if I’m not right I am right.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yeah! And also using relational connections between concepts helps us speak to most situations by using our Ni to recognize similar patterns, even if we don’t have all the information. It’s an amazing function :)

[@rachelsmith1654]

L J you’re so right! I’m very proud to be an INTJ!

[@batman9512]

Sometimes I don't talk in meetings because I've already thought about how I can research a topic to come up with a solid solution vs blabbering on endlessly with supposition. This happened just yesterday. I hinted at how I could solve a problem, but I was being dismissed. So, I just kept quiet then went off and developed some formulas in Excel to solve the problem...my lead was surprised, but I wasn't - lol. The problem when this happens is that others think you're being a non-participant. No, I just don't want to participate in BS. 😀

[@MonkeyCurler]

I love watching another INTJ talk because I feel like I'm standing outside of myself and watching another version of myself. It's so bizarre yet fascinating. For your content, I couldn't have explained it any better. I feel no need to add to this since I believe the science was well-stated. What I found MOST interesting was that your entire video was just one big example of your average INTJ. I could see and even FEEL that you felt akward about your introduction and conclusion segments. It's that filler small talk that is so hard for us to share, but it's unfortunately a necessity. That's not to say that it was bad at all, just that I spotted that discomfort from a mile away and when it came to the meat and potatoes of the subject, you went flying with the topic. Loved it all.

[@InternetLiJo]

Awesome! I’m so glad that it made sense and resonated with you. Isn’t it so crazy to hear your own language through someone else? I never get over it when I’m listening to other INTJs!

[@lostathenian1836]

I was thinking the exact same thing! Haha

[@batman9512]

I've given presentations at work, where a manager or a peer lead would have to interject to frame the topic for the audience because I would quickly move on to the details without providing sufficient context. Coincidentally, I would say that doing KZbin videos (not under this user name) has been a tremendous help with being more considerate of the audience...still a big challenge, though.

[@elmoomle4565]

No problem at all starting conversations or small talk, (even with strangers!), IF and ONLY when I deem it desirable or appropriate to do so, and only AFTER my intuitive observations have provided me with enough conversational 'fodder' to engage. I very quickly determine if the conversation merits continuing. I find it rather easy to engage individuals in this manner...not so much with groups of people.

[@liquidcancer4573]

So I took the test on 16personalities and got INTJ. But my self knowledge is pretty bad so I could've easily made myself an N type or an I type etc. I can relate to some things but other things not that much. I am a pretty reserved person who needs a lot of time on my own and spends most of his time in his head. I am very to the point and can be very robotic I've been told. I oftentimes ignore whatever's considered "social" and just don't care a lot of the time about what people think of me or my actions. I'm not much of a planner, which is why I find it weird I got Judging. Sometimes I even get these bursts of spontaneity and extroversion and I'm just the silliest goofball around. After which I need to be alone for a while. I can also be really bossy and I want to have control over everything in life. I am really confused as to what personality I have. But I don't expect any of you to type me or anything. I don't even know why I am writing a full essay on some of my personality traits in the comments of some random video I've just watched lmao, when I could've also done something productive instead. Maybe we shouldn't try to put everyone in one of sixteen categories. I'd argue there are 7 billion personalities. But I'm still intrigued by this whole MBTI thing because I am eager to find out who I am and because I want something to relate to. All my life I've felt misunderstood and I just want straight answers about this. I'm going insane aren't I?

[@nigt0wl341]

I suspect a solution to your problem might be to research MBTI defined cognitive funtions. It should improve your understaning both the important aspects of the subject and yourself.Try Reflecting and ("thinking on paper"), helps me personally to do the reflecting, judging, evaluating information and organizing my thoughts on any subject matter that I find important in an efficient manner. Also I think it's good to keep in mind that everyone's slightly different within any of the different types. Do it enough and you should eventually "just know" if you're a certain personality type.

[@yayayipi4139]

It's ok dude, now that you know the different personality types, it'll be easier for u to understand yrself more during future events, and best of all, to understand the people around you

[@Sarahenfj]

This was an eye-opener. As an ISFP, who sucks at talking and explaining, I always thought IJs and EJs can talk all the time. I remember you posted on Facebook that said not all blast is equal.

[@InternetLiJo]

Yes not all Blast is equal!! And just because we can doesn’t mean we will :) or should for that matter hahah

[@gl00mi.u_u]

"Or just mention quantum physics, and we'll probably be on board." Accurate. xD

[@jellyacc]

Why are these intj vids recommended along with ones about autism? Hmmmmmmlol

[@InternetLiJo]

Bahahahah

[@anthonytoro3103]

Depending on who I talk to, I can vary. If it's an extrovert, I just let them talk while in my mind I want this conversation to be over already. If it's someone I find interesting I will ask constant questions but still letting them talk and getting to understand them more. Analyzing them

[@matmac888]

I don't talk much at all as an INTJ... I usually zone out during conversations and a lot of external stimulus makes my brain short circuit.. lol

[@AA-lq5pu]

I don't even waste time defending myself if someone on the Dark Triad spectrum (narc, sociopaths and psychopaths) insults me since I know there is no point. I refuse to expend my energy on these types and even try to turn my attention away from them. Its a game of attention, they take you away from your goals so instead of trying to deal or handle them I put my attention back on my goal and focus on that. I give the shortest possible answer most of the time. But if I find somebody I can really share my mind with then I can have a conversation for hours and hours. My sister would come home and talk about her whole day and I just never understood why people would waste time stating the obvious. I would honestly feel like an idiot if I came home and gave a play by play of my day..Its like saying look, the sky is blue when everyone can clearly see that the sky is blue.

[@hannatalks8437]

I like how you explain the Ni being a point making filter, it didn't occur to me that as an INFJ I think of it similarly. Just a lot of the time I can't make it to the point I am trying to make .. lol.

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahah yes! There is one specific direction you are aiming for!

[@FireGuy90]

Omg the quantum physics thing is so true

[@bionicbird5290]

I don’t talk much because I know deep down that folks don’t really care about what I have to say and I dont care about what they have to say.

[@avneet5219]

Last night I debated an INFJ on the Topic of conspiracy theories for 3 hours and I say it was a pretty Interesting Debate :)

[@tristanshelton8789]

Lol ive noticed that topics like Quantum physics and any form of metasystems ( for example cybernetics) is like crack to Ni doms 😂. I bet if someone wanted to find an INTJ or INFJ they could cast those topics out and it wouldn't be long before they got a bite lol! I think the uniform qualities of these topics are what intrigues Ni. It gives a foundation for formulating wholistic theories, or truths. (e.g the concept of entanglement fed to Ni concludes that one change to anything changes everything related to that change by the same amount whether it be a relationship, the self or a traveling route)

[@InternetLiJo]

Wow great way to say it, I totally agree. It really is like crack. I have an uncle who works in the field and at a super young age when I found out what he did I was so hooked.

[@tristanshelton8789]

@@InternetLiJo So basically your local Quantum dealer 😂. Gotta get that fix somehow 😰💉📚 lol! but thats really cool that you have a relative with knowledge of it im jealous.

[@AlastorTheNPDemon]

Get me started on social/political theory, auto racing strategy, or general life dynamics and I will procure that grand speech I'be been constructing and editing for the past five months.

[@lostathenian1836]

But watch out for the NTPs on that.

[@annarehbinder7540]

Oh shiny says the infj! ... actually system and organisational analysis works pretty well to as do art! And well, yes Formula1 racing !

[@lekagc1]

Om! I'm an INTJ and i love quantum physics hahaha

[@goldensun542]

A fellow employee pointed out that I don't talk to my other coworkers but I'm not paid to talk? I work a packaging job there's no need to talk also I'm a quiet natured person my boss feels the need to say I'm soft spoken. I don't understand why they feel the need to express their opinions about me. I do my job which is what we're all there for. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@Atlstreetpodcast2.0]

get out of that job, it's not for you.

[@MEhatersLove]

That's why people perceive us to be serious people because we just go for the the point. All the freaking time. Hahaha

[@InternetLiJo]

Hahah sooo true. Damn lol

[@nigt0wl341]

Your comment just lead me to an insight of why I was describes as "Always Serious" a long time ago. It was sort of, kind of occasionaly and for the longest time nagging me somewhere in my brain. Thank you for giving me the insight to resolve it.

[@caro345mng]

I think this causes a lot of problems in relationships, at least for me. Since I don't like sharing things that I feel will either prompt a fight or be helpful in any way, I keep quiet until it comes to a point where I suddenly burst into a monologue of how I'm feeling and the other person just never saw it coming. I try to fix this for the sake of my SO, but it's certainly hard to just say... something... when... it's ... pointless.....

[@leonb456]

I was in a work meeting a few months ago and I said, “I use the Psycho Killer rule-when I’ve got nothing to say, my lips are sealed. Say something once, why say it again?” It turned out that most of the people in the meeting weren’t familiar with the Talking Heads.

[@deadbugengineering3330]

I can relate to this... hard. People usually think I'm mute or something, but when I'm mentoring noobs about electronics or python they are shocked how much I talk. I often get a sore throat on these days since I mostly communicate by typing on most days. If other peoples hobbies were my "thing", I would be quite popular, but sadly (for other people) that's not how I roll and I despise pretending to be interested in something I'm not or people doing that to me to be "nice". Be unauthentic around me and get tagged as "avoid if possible". I prefer authentic assholes to inauthentic "nice" guys/gals any day of the week.

[@brodies4359]

I don't even try to make small talk. I'm comfortable in silence with my own thoughts.

[@thekingofconsciousness]

Talk is cheap & silence is diamonds :)

[@briandelhaisse1112]

I am an INTP but I could relate with most of what you said! The difference would be when talking about a certain topic, I will probably go all over the places, i.e. it won't be structured at all. Usually I would talk about stuffs that pop up in my head at that moment. So it could happen that I will start to talk about a topic like QM at the beginning to end up talking about if morality is subjective or objective x) Personally, when I talk with someone I am mainly looking for 3 things: 1. what can you teach me (it has to be interesting)? 2. what can I teach you? 3. what new ideas can we come up with? Often, when I talk with my scientific/engineer colleagues there is a mix where we teach each other stuffs and where we both learn something from the conversation. I like these kind of talks when we talk about abstract concepts, problems, and ideas to solve them. I also like to debate with (rational) people I disagree with, as I would like to know if I am wrong or not, and if I am, update my beliefs accordingly. Anything like gossip or small talks (such as what a person dreamed last night, what stuffs they ate at lunch, etc) bore me to death.

[@InternetLiJo]

Awesome!! Yes us “NT” types tend to have so many similarities on the nerdy spectrum. We can’t escape it. I love how you mentioned what you look for when talking to someone hahah I’m similar

[@whatiftherewerejust100peop8]

This channel makes me feel so normal. In a sence, it's realy nice to realise things you've been doing all your life was just okay to do. Even if it feels so awkward and sometimes so unfamilliar to talk about Weather things. In the end We are able to learn how to do it, you know, how to act like a "normal" person. Good to know I'm not the only one like that and so. Thanks!

[@InternetLiJo]

Happy you found my channel. You are normal here 👽🖤

[@AustinOllar]

Spot on Lindsay. Really great explanation :)

[@InternetLiJo]

INTJ Tribe validation! Thanks Austin!

[@alexandergregorov9694]

I did unsubscribe as soon as I heard you have a husband, but then I got to thinking that maybe it wouldn't be bad to check out one of these video's every now and then. These video's which are new to me, kinda better than nothing. Eat pb&j all the time, gotta get a new taste. View something different, get a new perception. So if it isn't bothersome, think I might subscribe again?

[@InternetLiJo]

Do you. My relationship shouldn't have any influence on the value of my content.

[@alexandergregorov9694]

@@InternetLiJo whatever you got that's new and fresh for a person to see 👍👍👍

[@boondoggle4820]

I’m an INTJ who loathes talking with no real point, except with certain empathetic, sincere, completely wide open, extroverted personality types because I’m genuinely fascinated and intrigued by seeing their gears turn, because it’s so the exact opposite of me. They usually do the majority of the talking but in the end I’m left feeling like it’s safe to disengage when I’m around them.

[@cedriceric9730]

i love your videos , the quality is on par with some channels which im sure have 100 man teams the explanation was perfect i was shocked when someone told me i just phase out/ look the other way / just go silent apparently in the middle of conversations As soon as they "bored"me But i get tired , i some times feel people want to enjoy the effort we put yet have no intention of talking to us on our level please do a quantum mechanics video!!

[@InternetLiJo]

Maybe I will do an applicational quantum theory video... that would be too much fun 😬🤗 and I think I probably have enough NT’s here to quantify doing it. Yesss. I do the phase out... eye glaze... I’m sorry I was trying to pay attention but my brain started moving to the next thing I need to do or think about. Ahh. The struggle.

[@cedriceric9730]

@@InternetLiJo yeeesss it would be just epic , that would be the total package i cant wait Most NTs esp INTJs have touched almost all fields of science, i think theyl be fine abt phasing out, its a real fight, most time i didnt realise i had done so

[@rongwang8757]

ENFP's are so good at running interference for us, it would make me stand in awe, if I wasn't busy retreating to my sanctum to recharge/get back to which ever pieces of The Great Work I was in the midst of crafting before interruption efforts succeeded.

[@LittleMew133]

As an INFJ, I also feel like I'm dying inside when Fe (think ESFJ) small talks happen. IDK why, because I have Fe second but I enjoy Ni and Ti talks A WHOLE LOT more.

[@gdtownshende]

I’ve watched this vid before, but I don’t see that I commented before. Interesting how that works, eh? Now, however, I want to say - Small talk? Is that, like, the fine print of speech?! Nah. It can’t be. Fine print has a fine point.

[@danielcongleton2878]

LiJo, very poignant video. As an INFJ deep diving, came across your INTJ videos. Thought it was fascinating how I was listening to yours eyes as much if not more than your words, and made this conversation something I deeply enjoyed. I love the balance of meticulus and passion you have, and how the battle between them on everything you do seems apparent. Makes you a great storyteller. The point you made about small talk, and having entrenched positions you can talk for hours about, but physically leaving other conversations is something that I also have issues with, and i think hinders me from talking to people I honestly want to get to know better. Not to mention I feel like a creep sitting down to someone with nothing to say, and PRAYING they have interests I value. I'm even doing this with family members, and I know it's not ok. All that being said, is it as simple as get more patience with yourself and others to improve at this deficiency? Is it a confidence issue? Overthinking? Questions like these often overshadow the actual conversations, and I end up not even listening to the small talk I instigate, rather I go deeper into introspection on these topics which creates this death spiral that creates fear of me actually talking to anyone. Which honestly fixes nothing. What are some tricks you learned to mitigate the self judgement and focus on what the individual is saying? Keep up the great videos.

[@devinrosenow496]

EnFp hear... The intj personality is an oxymoron in comparison. At the same time I wish every teacher I've ever had was an intj. 1 neither one of us like small talk. Although If in the process of small talk I sense; a feeling or deeper emotion. I will creatively direct the conversation to allow them to express it. Usually I'll use relatability . Alot of times they don't realize Ive already sensed this in them. So they tend to open up simply because they think it's happen stance.... "What are the chances a random person just so happens to be going through something similar... " Seems manipulative in nature. The truth is we understand the importance of support. Alot of times there perspective is just as valuable to us as ours is to them... The problem however in terms of learning from someone. Dialogue has to be open for us. So in a classroom I usually spend alot of time somewhere else mentally. Doesn't mean I'm not learning the important points. I'm just zoning out the fluff. Using my mind more efficiently. I'll always get the essentials out of topics discussed. That's all I need. This is what intj so special for us. I have a hard time reading them and they present there information so precisely that before I know it. I've listened to every word they said and find myself fascinated by everything they said. They are efficient genuine, and genius! 2. They so very little emotion so for me this is what keeps me guessing. Normally I couldn't tell you word for word whats next. But I can generally assume the point there trying to make well before the finish putting it to actual words. Extroverted intuition... With intj.... Almost impossible. There emotions are very quick and subtle and because of this combined with the same people purpose applications, and extremely intelligent perspective. You truly never know we're a conversation with them might go. They never disappoint. Never leave you feeling empty. Are very good listeners! Although sometimes they may not give you feedback right away. They usually reflect on this at some point and the next time it comes up there more then prepared for it. I was skeptical of the connection at first. No doubt. This personality type is as beautiful minded as it gets!!! I watch more videos on intj then I do my type. Especially when they describe the weekness of EnFp types. They don't get overly emotional, so I don't, and they are matter of fact about it. So I accept it as that. Much love for you all. Thanks for sharing

[@jarinorvanto4301]

"Why I Don't Talk A Lot" Yes you do. You talked for a whole 7 minutes in this talkathon. If I talk for 7 seconds I'm talkative, on the brink of logorrhea.

[@atlantiscolors4491]

Talking without purpose is just wasting time because I have a lot to do in my head alone usually induction and deduction. "Quantum physics" Yeah! definitely! :)

[@MentalParadox]

I subconsciously assume loud people must be stupid. You can't think when you're talking. You can't take in the world, learn new things or spot details when you're busy making loads of noise, either. Me being quiet and observant is why I tend to notice things most people don't. Any of you ever heard of "synchronicity"? I don't think it's magic, they're just these amazing coincidences like when a thought in your head coincides with a relevant event happening at the same time. Like thinking a word and then immediately reading that word a second later. Randomly thinking about ambulances and then an ambulance popping up seconds later. I think these events happen all the time, it's just that only observant people really notice them...

[@bismaofficialph]

Something I notice about myself during small talks: I say "Mmmm", then look away and exhale. Or a reverse of that pattern. All the same

[@learnkor1451]

Why mbti community ship enfps to intjs? As an enfp I cant see myself dating an intj we are bunch of emotional people who needs affection 24/7 I'm just curious

[@geoffwellington5738]

what's with the looking beyond the camera? very disconcerting

[@InternetLiJo]

It’s something IxxJs will do. It’s us avoiding the sensory to get our information from the abstract which is where our first function Ni lives.

[@geoffwellington5738]

@@InternetLiJo as strongly INTJ myself I absolutely get that, but MBIT doesn't define us either an if MBIT does anything for us it is to enable integration across our life and interaction. As someone who does a lot of filming as well a good teleprompter is so worth the cost. Thanks for your clips very informative and helpful

[@jtpenman]

I am an INTJ-A. If you are single, I'd like to marry you. I think and talk like you. I'm blast first. There is too much knowledge to relate out of my brain, especially at work. At home, I'm more of a listener.

[@Rasheens-Story]

You know what I think of small talk???? Small talk= Dreadful 😩 I mean I try to talk a lot but it just feels so generic and I'd rather not do that.