INTPs and Ne Parent: All The Possibilities

[@robscovell5951]

I've been thinking about the doom loop and had a revelation about just how strong is my motivation to build a comfort zone in which to Ti-out. I wanted to be a Victorian Oxford don with tenure and a private income so I could pursue obscure academic subjects in the comfort of a Dark Academia room with a roaring fire. I just realised consciously just how much my financial and business decisions are motivated by this. I don't fit in to a world of targets and deliverables and I make my money by providing high criticality, low frequency tech support for legacy systems.

[@emtechproaudio6176]

Tyler, I appreciate the awesome videos you are making. Especially that you are an INTP yourself and actually got yourself up off your sofa to do this project, and you've kept at it for a year. This alone is inspiring to me, stuck on my sofa. I'm in my 50's. I discovered only 3 days ago that I am an INTP. It's been an incredible experience, like looking into a mirror for the first time. I've immersed myself in researching it (now I know that's typical INTP behavior) I've felt like a freak - why do I feel content being alone? Why do I rebel so strongly against any structure being imposed on me? Why do I have this underlying feeling that most other people are stupid? Why do I think like an engineer, with the ability to analyze and create complex systems, but I can never get anything accomplished in real life? Why do I constantly flit from one interest to another? Now I know that there are others like me, about 3-4% of the general population. And we have value to bring to society.

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you! Yes I had the same feelings growing up. What is wrong with me? But once I discovered it is just how I am, it was a truly freeing experience. Now I not only accept myself, but am proud of being an INTP!

[@li-nettev.6703]

wow..I feel the same.

[@DarkSage1117]

Hey there, I hope you're doing well. Has there been a discord opened up yet?

[@luisbarbosa8136]

underrated channel. Very good

[@greynperiwinkle4753]

This is the kind of thing that we not only have to hear, but also repeat to ourselves constantly! It feels so rewarding to get out of the comfort zone, but also so easy to forget how it felt after recharging and so easy to slip back into the cracks

[@MrBob58o]

INTP: cooks frozen pizza cause he remembers his body needs foods. Gets distracted. 5 hours later remembers he needs food again, eats the cold pizza, and congratulates himself for thinking about food in advance.

[@jack76787]

Another great video. Fe inferior is rough and with Si I feel like sometimes I have a black and white relationship with comfort. For some reason I get attached to specific forms or schedules of comfort when in reality there's other opportunities for comfort that would allow me to be more flexible and still have the same level of comfort.

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for the kind words! INTPs need days of comfort and there is nothing wrong with this. But doing it too much will bring a sense of dread that can be terrible!

[@goldsword0531]

This is it. As intp we always question the meaning of everything yet we are doing nothing and procrastinating all the time. We assume we will not be very successful and have great impact so we do nothing at all. But to have meaning is not what it comes first, after experiencing something new, you can then get the meaning. Thx for this video 🙂 will try to open up and be curious again ☺️

[@chaulethanh752]

I extremely agree with you

[@nirbhaygor]

Just perfect. I just had a solo trip recently and I have never felt more alive. I felt so confident. I knew for the first time I can survive most things that life can throw at me.

[@winnersmindset5819]

You helped me alot multiple times Tyler. From INTP to INTP. Thank you so much for doing these Videos, sometimes this TI-SI loop leads to depressive thoughts, you basically feel stuck and worthless. You have all those ideas, and know what to do to get from A to B, and finally make it- you have the best ways in your current position to be successful, you know all the steps, reasons, scenarios ... but you are still stuck in your comfortzone and continue to think about everything, and and waste time and practically get nothing done. I've also spend months in this loop. Like right now I am/ I was in one and your Video helped me. Thank you

[@luisbarbosa8136]

hey, I found myself in the same situation.. how are you now? 2 years after have wrighten this comment

[@Coeus9048]

Hello i'm also an INTP, 16 and have been stuck in the Ti Si loop for more than 4 years now and the lockdown made it even worse, I am trying to get out of this loop now that I know that this is the root of my anxiety and depression and feeling of worthlessness

[@rambultruesdell3412]

👍 many spot ons. Having NE parent and not as hero enables an improved intuitive focus. Sensor types really put the NE down saying, "no!" to correct but not understood beliefs. Use the NE. Not our enemy. INFP

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

So true

[@andybeckwith3228]

Fellow intp. I've read both Atomic Habits and Jordan Peterson's 12 rules for life. Both great books!! Great Channel... I love listening to your videos!!

[@Edwin-uj6bg]

I really appreciate this! I definitely feel ya on the Ti Si loop, I’m a Junior in high school and can’t find any motivation to get my school done on time and it sucks.

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for watching! Being so young and understanding yourself will be of great use to you. Reach for the stars!

[@ker_at6814]

Just found your channel and i really want to say thank you! Thank you very much your content has helped me and will help me a lot in my journey as an intp. Understanding yourself is a hard thing to do and i was feeling confused and lost where to start but finding your channel has set the start line to make me understand myself more, I appreciate your efforts that you put in these videos thank you 🙏🏽

[@whoknewresale]

I appreciate your direct push on INTPS to be better. I need this. I am def in the loop you reference

[@teddypuccini9824]

Interesting point of view. I came to the same conclusions as you but I never thought it was Ne related. The way my Ti saw it is that I could hack Si child by expanding my confort zone. When you force yourself out of the confort zone it's really painful in the beginning but the more you do it, the more these "new things" become a part of your confort zone which becomes larger and larger, making Si child become less problematic eventually.

[@travismora9046]

I just want to say i have been on a journey to discover and understand Fe and the great value it brings to the Intp. I think it is a game changer. Learning how to embrace your awkwardness and with no appologies. Then get past that and letting yourself feel the warm of other people is a great feeling. My wife is an esfj. She has been telling me all this stuff and as an Intp i truely did not comprehend what she was saying. I will probably never ever be great at it but i can and u can use it with complete success. Because it is such a blind spot you may not even be able truely understand what it means to make another person feel safe inside so you can communicate outside of reason. It is such a great function in my opinion that i wish i could use it better and wonder how my life would be different being able to relate others emotions. The fearless man has great videos and drills to help you understand this function better and use it in a positive way. Using this function will make you more social and feel more respect from others. Dont wait getting into this function will change your life and and give TI a rest. Its ok it will still work when you get back to it. Lol. Hope this helps someone who is stuggling. Dont stay stuck in 12and3, use 4 too you wont regret it.

[@akazicool87]

Thank you for helping me improve my life.

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

So glad I am able to help!

[@marrtin.macias]

I appreciate you 👌 One of the BEST advice I’ve ever heard for all us INTP’s… Thank you sincerely 🙏👍

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for the kind words!

[@Love_her_so_much]

I rarely doing ti si loop for long time, but last 5 months i do it, it feels good. Hahaha.

[@thecloakedschemer]

Hey Tyler, your channel continues to help me. (I just wish KZbin would alert me to new videos. :| I have the bell icon clicked and everything...) Your analyses, explanations, and suggestions continue to be on-point. I find myself coming back here and re-watching old videos when I get stuck in a rut. I think a Discord server could be an interesting endeavor.

[@sarahstudies8149]

Yes to a discord & thank you again for another great video!

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for the kind words! I should hopefully have it up and running by the end of this month

[@AreaFortyTwo]

Discord sounds good for the INTPs here who need to practice talking, it might be more comfortable starting out with similar people

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Good point. Also a place where we can interact with people who understand where we are coming from

[@peteaseib]

Loving your videos, I feel like they are really helping me. I've read that the "Big 5" personality model has supeceded MBTI, due to the big 5 being composed more recently with the aid of modern data crunching. With MBTI being more based on what someone just thought up though, that says to me MBTI may be more possible to wrap your brain around.

[@aishi2507]

Hey there.... glad seeing you again I realized what you said was true... as an intp we should know that we deserve all that and we shouldn't feel like we dont deserve it

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for the support! And we absolutely deserve to get what we want in life.

[@aishi2507]

Im having problem with self control even if my ego is being reasonable..... my subconscious mind is behaving crazy very irrationally preventing me to take ri gh ht actions. Pls help

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

@@aishi2507 Email me with more information [e-mail]

[@petrdostal3915]

As I understand it, you need something like a "short evaluation", which will protect you against too much possibilities. I guess that you know what short evaluation is: when you multiply a number by zero, you do not have to know its value to evaluate the result.

[@mspasic9453]

This is a pure gold, thank you for motivational videos

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for watching!

[@Nathan-yn3jo]

I really needed this. thanks!

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for the kind words!

[@ndsletsplayer6801]

I love your channel, the titles are precise, the slides are awesome, your explanations are understandable... Every video has such an interesting concept it covers... I do wonder whether you are as excited about your own channel as I am :D

[@ryanchurchill5081]

I have found haveing a job that makes you focus is my thing that works better for me. It has taken many falls on the way but you need to get back up and learn what didn't work and just to try harder on stuff at times.

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for the insight. If the job is stimulating for the INTP this can be a good thing. That is not often the case

[@ryanchurchill5081]

@@intpsurvivalguide2473 I just use my actions there to influence me on my home ones where my si has more influence of being lazy and comfortable.

[@li-nettev.6703]

Thank you for your videos I now understand why Im like this. I can think of smart ideas but have no motivation to do it. And ^ months ago I think my Ti Hero really challenged me and i have this thing in studying trading but the problem is I keep on researching to the last details that i keep jumpiong from indicators to indicators..its like my wirings are crumpled..hahah but thanks to your video I now undestand have idea how to slowly fix this. This helps a lot for sure.

[@luisbarbosa8136]

heyy.. I am an INTP and was in trading also.. I couldn´t do it.. how it was for you?

[@laurawinslow8808]

I think the reason we have trouble finishing things is we see the ultimate futility of it once we get the basic understanding..

[@robscovell5951]

Yeah. Also this happens to me: I find something interesting because it's a mystery to solve. But when I've figured it out it's no longer mysterious but completely obvious so I lose interest. It's interesting how Te is called the Nemesis ... even before I encountered MBTI, I have encountered many INTJ people (with Te Parent) in my work life who I just can't compete with because even though I am just as skilled as they are, they are better at fitting in with corporate timelines etc. I'm a software dev (highly competitive field) and whenever a Te comes on the team I know my days are numbered because they can do what I can but in a way that doesn't cause project managers to freak out.

[@rachelsun2842]

You are helping me so much, Tyler! Many thanks!

[@destinyaaiyana]

Thanks so much for the work you’re doing ! It is super helpful. Please make the discord ASAP

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you for the kind words! I hope to have it ready by the end of this month

[@nassimux]

Hello! Great content, very informative. I am an Infp but as an Inp I Can relate to this

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thank you so much!

[@M4rcLL]

I absolutely love your videos! This is another great one.

[@pedrolopes1968]

Amazing video man. Thanks by sharing your knowledge !!!!

[@louclarcen5690]

Could you do a video on INTP careers? I’m at the point in my life in which I think I should start building a career. Too often I’ve found my jobs too boring or stressful. Right now, I have opportunities to go into grant writing or GIS.

[@KarlJeager]

On the subject of completing projects. With the disclaimer that I think INTP fits best for me, but if I am incorrect then everything that follows will also be wrong. I have found that the best way to get myself to do things, is to commit to do them with or better for someone whose opinion I care about. The guilt associated with thinking of not fulfilling the commitment tends to be a strong motivator, of course this can be a high risk option since if I do start to fail I will really feel like crap and not want to see or talk to the person I am failing.

[@diogenesdacynic8656]

To be fair, ti-si is how i found out about and studied mbti. Lol and as far as escaping the Ne "oooh shiny" phase and complete project(s). I find that keeping a number of projects on a rotation helps (if the circumstances permit).

[@Hundura-k3y]

Tyler please write a book on this area. Please.....

[@Pengalen]

Though some of my projects could theoretically lead to income, there are usually barriers of some kind. Like there is a big break in the causal chain necessary to get from here to there, that I don't know how to bridge. Or other kinds of impediments. As a result, all of my projects get regarded with the same level of "am I interested in this at the moment" and none really go anywhere.

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Anything worth doing will be difficult. But I don't know I think we should still try.

[@cleveridiot5661]

A community... yes. I would love to be able to bounce some ideas off of an audience whom doesn't believe me to be a nut job. And just to let everyone know, meditation can really help with your Ne.

[@hoodadtabibi8211]

tnx for the content men

[@bernardthefourth]

I want to recommend a book to you that is great for INTP trying to date. Models by Mark Manson. Give it a read!

[@li-nettev.6703]

Hi TYler if you do have a discord for INTP folks Ill gladly join..that would be great.

[@Quasihamster]

Things don't look that easy here unfortunately. "Just doing it" requires money often. I've been involuntarily sent into retirement and social welfare due to autism, and welfare in my country means you can only earn so much extra or lose your income. So any idea for money I might have, I'd better be absolutely certain it's going to work, because it will be an existential risk if not. Small things to get out of the loop I do. Excursions, using my knowledge to help other where possible. But big leaps of faith... faith has been punished time and again.

[@exponent2316]

Good video, i'd definitely be interested in the discord server. Can you do more videos on Fe inferior?

[@intpsurvivalguide2473]

Thanks I will let my subscribers know when it is up and running. Anything in particular you would want to see?

[@exponent2316]

Out of the discord server? Nothing in particular, I don't really know much about discord itself tbh, I've only used it like once, but I'd be interested in actually using it if you end up making one. Itd be nice to meet others. Socializing has always been difficult for me. Thanks for making these videos. They always help me feel at ease.

[@mysticmouse7261]

The usefulness of the cognitive stack is questionable. It doesn't work in my case. I'm an INTP.

[@vortex_g1460]

How do Know if I’m an INFP or INTP. I always go through this cycle of doubt if I’m really an INTP. Usually I have to go back and use C.S. Joseph’s test every few months. Every time I take the test, I get INTP for my result, yet I wonder if I’m really Systematic or Interest based. Am I really pragmatic or actually affiliative? If somebody is pissed at me for a mistake I made, I typically will feel a guilt trip and immediately try to fix the issue but eventually I need retreat and the situation won’t be fully resolved until all emotions have calmed down. I get excited when I hear about some strange new concept I’ve never heard before. Even if I don’t believe it I still explore this “what if” idea. I don’t believe in flat earth but I have entertained the idea and explored everything I could find about it. Alternate ways of thinking intrigue me and gives me excitement. I explore many “out of the box” idea’s because I know I will not find truth unless everything is explored.

[@Love_her_so_much]

Ti and Fi is in the same continuum. They're essentially the same: find the best for emotional harmony and internal order. Now, what needed to be observed is where the reason of your exploration comes from? Does it comes from you personal value/internal emotional harmony? Or does it comes from the need to create logical clarity when you stumble upon inconsistency? Is your logic more detach manner, meaning you separate yourself from the analysis or you often find yourself, your personal value, your personal agenda, your personal harmony involved in your analysis? Where it start, it tells your dominant function. Lastly, Fi means you would want to suppress it's oppositional function: Te, external order, thus infp struggle more to achieve external goal. Ti dom would suppress Fe, leading to hurdle in interacting with others, feels awkward all the time.

[@vortex_g1460]

@@Love_her_so_much Old comment. I was typed as an INTP

[@Love_her_so_much]

@@vortex_g1460 so what's the new comment?

[@vortex_g1460]

@@Love_her_so_much I posted that 2 years ago. My 2 responses to you are the new ones.

[@Love_her_so_much]

@@vortex_g1460 oh okay. Can i ask you something, have you ever relate to being isfj? Isfj has same cognitive pairing with intp, it's just on different stack.

[@vickyjk1360]

I am not sure when you are going to make another video. But here is my doubt about my survival. I haven't had a good relation with people including my parents. I thought.....problems are caused by me- fight or arguments. I am changing myself but.....things doesn't seem to change. I live with my parents and I am helping my mom and dad in their daily household chores and studying. But for some reason, they don't find me enough. Atleast thats what I get from their action towards me. I am called - argumentative, headstrong, angry, obnoxious for some reason even though it is hardly that I talk. Why is it that....I am constantly asked to prove myself in comparison to my sister who is extrovert but doesn't give much hands in anything related to our family? What should I do. I constantly feel like running away..... This also makes me think... even in future if I get with another person- boyfriend or husband, I will still have a similar bad relationship with him

[@lyrio4116]

Hi. I have the same struggles. What I do is to work about codependency which I think can help with the self-blame. I hope it helps.

[@vickyjk1360]

@@lyrio4116 how are you working with that? In the past 7 months of posting this comments, I have changed myself a lot...again. I talk only for necessities and I have identified and avoided the words on vonflict escalation. But things don't seem to work out as well. As 24 year old, I feel like I am given the responsibility of a housemaker yet I am miscromanaged by my parents like a 5 year old. I can't seem to be getting detached from them emotionally though I am deeply hurt.

[@lyrio4116]

@@vickyjk1360 I understand you feel hurt by them and the situation. I started a year ago some work around childhood trauma with the videos of Patrick Teahan LICSW. There is where I found the resources: books, inner dialogue, etc. I also use the C.S. Joseph's season 6, the four pillars of self intimacy. As a 19 years old I still struggle day to day about conflict and roles in my family or friendships but what I mention help a lot and still make me more conscious about my self-worth. I don't know if i am being clear, but thats what I do everyday.

[@vickyjk1360]

@@lyrio4116 thank you! I will go through them. Things need to change and I will try my best... Hope you have a great life ahead!

[@lyrio4116]

@@vickyjk1360 thank you! And glad to help

[@georgebunny1910]

I relate to this video. But I'm not sure if I am an INTP or an ISFJ.

[@Love_her_so_much]

Yeah i used to not sure. But codex dominant is more do Ti serve your Si or vice versa? Do you enjoy more experiential matter rather than assigning value using logical way to the experiential matter itself? Are tend to 'just do it' or questions any social norm / custom? What you are struggling/suppress more, Fe or Ne?

[@samsamov7849]

I'm INTP with ADHD and cant change anything in my live. help me(

[@Noise-Conductor]

Here's a focus exercise; hold a small object like a coin & just stare at it for 5mins like its the most important thing in world, look at every little detail, direct all your thoughts to question s about like who, how when where... it was made. After days of this when you have to focus on something important or interesting it will be easier.

[@latinaalma1947]

Alot of going over the same concepts.....must be an INTP quality?

[@archetopics9473]

Oh, so that's why I can't make myself go to new restaurants, places, listen to new music and stop watching the same three movies on repeat. That sucks. Does anyone want to recommend me something? Anything?

[@emtechproaudio6176]

Ya. Start creating. Whether it's writing, music, art, engineering, building, making a video. Take the incredible amount of stuff that's in your head and start synthesizing - that's what you're good at. Spend the time and organize it into a project that will somehow benefit others. You will benefit the most, believe me.

[@archetopics9473]

@@emtechproaudio6176 That's exactly what I need to do, nailed it. Thank you