the ultimate guide to finding your style 👾✨

[@sleepyspacegremlin]

I recently realized that "I like how it looks" is different from "I want to wear it". I'm trying to figure out how to dress now. It also helps to pick an "icon," or someone you want to look like.

[@You-is9tw]

It's not enough for me to have aesthetic attraction to a piece of clothing, I need romantic attraction to a piece of clothing

[@apfelll]

Help why does KZbin think I want a robotic voice over in German instead of the original audio

[@irisolympia]

oh my god???? 😭

[@dYstop1a_]

I didnt even know this was possible wut 😭

[@julidia3439]

Seemingly its a new feature and technically the viewer should be able to switch to original audio but I cant find it. Also creators have to deactivate it, if you dont want it automatically 😅🤷🏼‍♀️

[@julidia3439]

I just changed the overall language of youtube and now its the og audio

[@alexoortiz2484]

MINE WAS IN SPANISH 😭😭

[@bee-patch]

im in high school but i feel like im going through that awkward middle school phase 😭you are such an inspiration tho, i watch every of your videos and it motivates me to put more effort in my clothing so i can be more confident :D

[@Rollermain12]

Thisssss! Also I love your art

[@bee-patch]

@@Rollermain12 omg tyyy!!!

[@Bluehorish]

Dude their style is like sooooo good im speechless😭❤️

[@irisolympia]

hehehe tyyyy

[@DoughnutDragon]

My issue is that i wanna try like multiple different styles. Emo, scene, punk, pastel goth, decora, are some of the terms I've found for looks i like. The other issue i have is confidence in myself because all the looks i like are typically worn by girls and i am a guy. Not only that but i have a beard and very rarely do you see people with a beard wearing stereotypically fem clothing. So i have no one to look at as an idol or example. And i stuggle with feeling valid in enjoying what i want to because it is so different. 7:15 this is a really good point. At home I'm happy wearing all sorts of things but if i go out i then worry if people are gonna be mean or try to hurt me.

[@priscillainwhite]

you might wanna check out Deadlift Lolita, might not help you out much but they're a duo of bodybuilding musicians one guy and one girl. the guy has a beard and still dresses in lolita just the same as the girl. inspiration is out there, though sometimes hard to find. im not aware of any other specifics off of the top of my head, but drag is also a good starting point. if you are really concerned with the juxtaposition of a beard and feminine clothing give it a shot anyways and see how it goes. maybe you will end up wanting to shave, maybe you will end up happy with things as they are. it is all about exploration and it is a very personal journey. it may be something you just keep to yourself as it is no doubt that plenty of people arent too receptive to breaking norms, but it is all for yourself anyways. as for wanting to try a bunch of different things, i would reiterate the point in the video of just getting a couple things at a time. start with a couple foundation pieces of an outfit and slowly work towards building one outfit as a time. sure, it will take a while, but you will be able to really hone in on what you like and what you still need as time goes on. if nothing else, just give things a shot and see if they stick. i wish you good luck on your journey.

[@T9astingTea]

Honestly, you're such a role model for me eek- I’ve been going through some serious gender dysphoria recently, and appearing more androgynous + masculine has become a serious priority for me, so when I stumbled across this channel, I immediately fell in love. Thank you so much for helping this random teen feel more confident in his body and identity ❤

[@ChirotheKitBat]

currently in middle school and ive had uniforms my whole life. moved schools this year, and had to figure out my style a lot. thank you so much, its so helpful!!!

[@Char_draws-11]

Yeah, I kinda relate lol I’ve been homeschooled my whole life(yes I am the embodiment of weird homeschooled kids), so being a sheltered kid for sooooooo long has made me have to figure out what I like wearing, anddd not what my parents “think I should” or whatever. ( I feel like I need to put here that I’m not dressing like, inappropriately for my age, I’m just goth lollll)

[@wizardhealer1]

8:09 I hate how relatable that was, when I try out new fits I'll either get called emo by someone or someone will say eughh what is that brothaa

[@malfunctionnnn]

if they call you emo you're doing it right

[@wizardhealer1]

@@malfunctionnnn I love you for that

[@Salaudo]

I've been going through a journey of discovering myself, my identity, and with that comes finding my style. I appreciate all you do, thank you thank you thank you.

[@holdencornfield472]

my style dilemma was that I wanted to look cool and androgynous without putting in any effort. Piercings. The answer was piercings. I got lip brow and nose piercings. Now I have more swag without needing to consume new products.

[@irisolympia]

legit

[@Bluehorish]

Btw the song is so good omgomggg and ur voiceeeee marry me omg

[@irisolympia]

ty 🥹❤️

[@Lara_the_wild]

I luv ur videos!! You are my comfort youtuber❤

[@irisolympia]

aweeeee thank u for watchingggg xx

[@Patrocker05]

Just got an M65 field jacket (the horror game protagonist "where's my wife" jacket for those who dont know), so youtube recommending me this right when i was thinking about making myself look like im boutta disappear into the mist is funny

[@luisa146]

I really respect your philosophy on building your wardrobe, waiting to find the perfect piece is something I've been doing and I love that it's the opposite of fast fashion. Not only it's a way to fill your closet with things you love, it's also responsible

[@bewareogre]

I never really watched fashion-related videos but yours are so real and down to earth, this is finally inspiration I can draw from. Keep being you ❤

[@QuincyChen]

right when i needed it 🙏

[@irisolympia]

💌

[@jaywhypeeoppar8738]

"you're have to get comfortable when people point things about you because you stand out" thank you for saying that, recently i'd been trying to explore different styles but just got stuck on the idea of "what if they judge me"

[@clowndestelle]

i dont know why there is automatic dubbing on this video but i'm grateful for it

[@joy-bang]

i dress like every shoegaze/new wave band in the '80s and im proud

[@louishamelin126]

Hey! I totally love your style. I have tiny camera tip that you might find useful. If you film with a normal camera, I recommend you turn off the auto-focus on your camera when filming still shots. You then have to set the focus manually, but it should only take 2 seconds, and you wouldn't get the strange flickering on your blinds in the background. Just make sure you don't forget to also change the focus when you do close-up shots of your jewelry, because it won't focus automatically anymore if you do change the setting. :)

[@omlette]

something i do while thrifting is wander around and look at clothes for maybe 30 mins, then think about which clothes i still remember. this works especially for me bc i like buying stupid shirts that say dumb things on them- if something is funny then ill remember it better PLUS it'd be something I'm more inclined to wear anyway

[@aRealPersonaEnjoyer]

Iris please start uploading to Spotify again. I need these Songs!

[@LukersLibrary]

I agree!

[@henstar337]

2:48 with thrifting though new pieces can cost less than a bottle of water so if you don't like it you can just donate it back. For the price of one pair of jeans brand new here I could get 5 different complete outfits. I guess thrifting might be more expensive in some places though.

[@jaydenj7608]

i've been trying to hone in on my personal style and make it more cohesive lately, and these are all incredibly helpful tips!! your song at the end also gave me chills, i hope you release it if you're able 💕

[@Falcon65781]

I love the music you play at the end of your videos! Keep it up!

[@ThatBlueMew]

As another non binary person the amount of gender envy you give me is insane

[@irisolympia]

good thing the venn diagram between being nonbinary and being cool & awesome is a circle

[@The1FishFry]

​@@irisolympia loll this is the most affirming thing I have heard!!!

[@Rollermain12]

Cool video! Sad I missed the premiere but I’m really enjoying watching it. You look awesome!

[@marriach.]

youve been a huge inspiration for me!! im genderfluid and having another genderqueer person help me explore and improve my style makes me so so happy

[@Krispykreme15]

Im someone who can’t express myself the way i want to (judgemental parents who wouldn’t support me if i said im nonbinary) and your videos help me find little ways to make me not hate how i look ❤❤

[@Alastor_11037]

UR STYLE IS SO PRETTY :3

[@EllasDiaryOfficial]

I absolutely LOVE the Twee sort of stuff on pinterest, or the tiny little trinkets, and anything apple related, if someone gives me something related to that I WILL go insane in a positive way

[@A_Shrubbery1901]

that song was significantly less humorous than the first line led me to believe

[@irisolympia]

😇

[@maxdrangea]

my bf recommended me this video and holy shit im in love already - im also nonbinary (/transmasc?) and your style is like.. the ideal ive had in my head for years ??!! subscribed within 30 seconds LMAO

[@MusicFr3akX0X]

I want to dress more SCENE AND EMO AND GOTH BUT IM SCARED CUZ PEOPLE ARE NEGATIVE ABOUT THOSE STYLES :( btw I’m also non binary!

[@hearts4rey]

Just ignore them, as long as you're happy that's all that matters :))

[@LuizACartunista]

This is such a chill guide, truly helpful

[@avehlar]

your voice is so amazing

[@ADumpsterRat]

I love your videos! I'm so excited for this new one!!

[@Zee_-notme]

Your guiltar skills

[@irisolympia]

🥹❤️

[@nukeynoor9435]

My go-to accessory is my tote bag with a black cat on it because jewelry is not good for me sensory-wise.

[@DarcyOlsson-p7n]

I was thinking about this earlier and went on your channel for inspo, and saw this…woah. Love you style and room and channel ❤

[@donutlordfilms]

I’m in high school and I wanna change my style but my parents won’t let me wear what I wanna wear 😭😭

[@Banaanaphone]

I'm kinda intimidated when I dress "more stylish" that I'm doing something wrong and people will make fun of me. Any advice? I have examples of wearing something that I would normally not wear and that fit me quite well and I felt confident, but if I do something like wear heels, or try something other than jeans and a hoodie... Idk

[@kayb33s]

I have the same dilemma because I want to dress differently but so many people at my school dress with the ‘clean girl’ aesthetic and I don’t want to stand out too much

[@igreetulikealonglostrocknroll]

as a brit, i have no thrift stores near me the charity shops are not eating like sue ryder and stuff 😭😭

[@miserablepunk]

Thank you for this video!! I wanna build my style to be very dynamic and beautiful all the same, I'm into so many aesthetics it's wild!! But like, I have no ✨ 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘱𝘢𝘱𝘦𝘳 ✨so I have to go diy. I'm learning how to crochet so I can create my own pieces to add to my wardrobe though :) Diy is a great way to personalize your outfits!

[@ryujikazuda]

When i went to college this last fall semester, i really wanted to become stylish 😭 and for some reason i thought, "Oh, i'm broke, so i'll cut these perfectly good baggy jeans up and make a maxi skirt." i wore that green canvas skirt the WHOLE SEMESTER, even though my roommate was telling me it was the "Hobo skirt" and it looked awful. Looking back.. yeah it was a hobo skirt. it was tattered, loose threads coming off etc, but it really ended up helping me explore what i liked and what i didn't like. more than anything, it helped my figure out what *not* to do 😭 i made it with the intention of giving off an artsy crafty vibe, like "Oh ye, i make my own clothes for fun" but i realized i really wasn't comfortable with how much it was making me stand out. I'd seen it's exact look on places like pinterest or instagram, and thought i would totally slay the outfit. *I did, infact, not slay the outfit.*

[@Scoco_MC]

First! Hi iris i love your videos and I appreciate you! Tryna figure out how to either ask my mom for a wolf cut, or ask for bangs….shes a traditionalist meaning she wants my hair to be naturally grown forever. I NEED ADVICE

[@irisolympia]

i have no idea 😭 (mommy needs to let u express urself she can do what she wants with her OWN hair!!) I would probably start with asking for just bangs because it's a smaller change (which might be more agreeable for her) & show her how happy you are with the bangs as evidence that everything is okay with a different hairstyle lol

[@Scoco_MC]

@ thank you!🥰

[@Krispykreme15]

I’ve got the same problem I rlly want short hair but my mum will only let me if I straighten it every day I don’t wanna look like Dora 😭

[@Scoco_MC]

@@Krispykreme15 you got this! I’m gonna ask her on Christmas, she will be in a good mood, and most likely to listen to me. Honestly a lot of things can be accomplished just by sitting down and talking, my mom. Is really busy so that’s hard, but I believe in you, you’re an amazing person!🥳🫶🏻

[@kayb33s]

@Scoco_MC I just saw this, how did it go? I also want a wolf cut and bangs but I have a slight cowlick in the front so it would probably sit funny if I were to get bangs 😭😭

[@hippolytejouen3826]

Love you thanks a lot for your positivity it helps me a lot in my daily life ! Hello from montreal :)

[@irisolympia]

awe yayyyy!!! thx for watchinggg 💌

[@rygyd]

you have such a cool room

[@Froggy_Strawberry]

Aaaaah, the French dubbing is so booooring!!!!⭐ Give me back the sight of my iris 😭😭😭🏳‍🌈

[@irisolympia]

omfg 😭 youtube did me so dirty

[@camsyoutube]

i need a full version of this song btw 😭

[@maik_73]

You are so cool, thank you for the advice

[@Finn_0nPawZ_00]

👏👏👏Ur so good at guitar!

[@caticornadventures8151]

The song at the end ❤ it really speck to me and ty

[@Toia2485]

Does someone know how to disable the auto dubbing in the video?

[@SHARKY.3.X]

I'm a closeted ftm trans, and wearing shirts, I hate how my shirts bulge out in the chest area one because it makes my stomach look bigger and two because I just don't like it. But all the good outfits I have don't include anything that can cover up my chest area

[@Dark_Charm]

Iris, what are your thoughts on the virtual closet apps like Acloset?

[@irisolympia]

i haven't used any personally!

[@henriramberg5856]

Huzah!!

[@irisolympia]

legit

[@Okari_Desrosiers]

I really like the song ,I think it´s beautiful

[@conquerncam]

is that ur song at the end?? either way that was awesome!

[@LiseVanMullem]

I really like your style, could you tell me the name that is closest to your style? I would like to dress in the same style and it would help me to have the name to be able to find inspiration on Pinterest for example Very good video by the way 😊

[@IkaikaSlashyFace]

holy moly youre so cool

[@razzmatazzduck]

might be a bit late for you to see this, but do you have any advice on finding a more gender affirming style for an amab enby who'd like to present slightly more fem?

[@Metta0728]

Ik this is kinda random but I love your guitar in the back.

[@BlaikeBrokaw-h8w]

Omg you’re fantastic and just when i think you video’s over, you pull out a guitar and sing a banger?! Did u write it?

[@xionnafalse]

el doblaje viejo de the boys no era malo el doblaje viejo:

[@Ryzoh7604]

How tf do i turn the Narrator off 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@irisolympia]

i tried to disable it 😭 i have no idea but the setting will be fully off on future uploads

[@sack0bones]

hi so i need some advice bcs my mom doesnt rly let me choose what i wanna wear also is there a video where u style ur hair because i love it sm

[@UnhumanSun]

I have the problem were i know exactly what i want but cant find it 😢😢😢

[@End_Nick]

Me having the most clash bracelet stack cuz I’m actually emotionally attached to them cuz it’s stuff my friends made me… uhm

[@rick-vi3eg]

Friend, I just want your style for a straight man who has no money. By the way, congratulations on having dubbing already available on KZbin. I'm from Brazil and I'm watching your subtitled video.

[@Sj_zxxchh]

my motto is if i look hot and feel hot thats the way to go!! >:-/)

[@elvislam13]

source of the demin jacket in 3:32?

[@kayb33s]

It was thrifted I think

[@jamilsonz]

Omgggg, what's the final song name? I just loved it

[@JetteDreyer]

I love that ring that bends with your finger! Where did you get it?

[@irisolympia]

it’s from vitaly!

[@toby_tormes]

u cool af mate

[@spikeyferret8613]

I'm a transman I was just hit with the realization on Christmas that my family doesn't see me as a man and only get me women's clothing. I'm 19 now and I just want to get rid of all the women's clothes I've accumulated (unless its goth). I'm just tired of being hyper fem and not letting myself buy men's becuz I'm so used to buying women's. Also I need pants

[@alzbetaflekova-om5jg]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@irisolympia]

💌

[@PoppieJones2010]

Im 15 recent.y started living as non binary, had a radical haircut and got rid of most of my girly clothes

[@e_0033]

lol i have the same xxx ring as you!

[@seluRllaHyllaT]

IM TRYING TO WATCH THE VIDEO AND INSTEAD OF SPANISH CAPTIONS IT HAD ROBOT VOIE OVER.???

[@irisolympia]

i’m gonna scream 😭 youtube WHYYYY!!!!!

[@_Poste]

step one have money xd

[@SOURGUMM1]

Sad that i might get judged at school for dressing "emo"

[@giovannimercedezdelarosa]

As a fellow non binary person, I think I'm feeling gender envy if that's even possible

[@wallflowxxr]

q coisa tenebrosa foi ouvir o áudio em português te odeio youtube

[@Softierobin]

I love using Pinterest for inspiration because I don't like going outdoors to obvserve, but more because what the type of clothes I like to wear are difficult to find in public and I have a huge folder of photos of pieeces of clothing that I like or would like to have similar items of. for me, its less about "omg i need all of that" and more "hmm i would really love a sweater that would fit me like that, I'll keep an eye out in the charity shops" and sometimes i dont even find anything and thats all okay! I don't really have a job unfortunately, so buying clothes is something I have to resort to special occassions, so it feels extra sepcial to find something I've had my eye on for a long long time, and I often find that using charity shops or vinted are more rewarding for me because my style focuses on a homemade/worn look. Ive even been taking it a step further by actually making some tshirts for myself haha

[@KitchenUser-nx5mn]

I wish I was a girl so I could wear crop tops

[@Toia2485]

I love your videos but this one for some reason automatically translates the audio to spanish, keeps misgendering you and it's really annoying

[@irisolympia]

omfg okay i think i fixed it 💀 thx for letting me know

[@liamgriffin8850]

Mustache

[@omerthekiller]

❤