IS Being Anti-White RACIST ? | Dr. Umar Is Against Interracial Marriage!

[@cross-eyedkitty7025]

Before the “woke” trend, the saying “I don’t see color” only meant one thing: “I don’t judge you by the color of your skin; I just think of you as a fellow human whose culture and skin color might be different than mine, but it’s not something I focus on”. Personally, I went to a very diverse high school almost 30 yrs ago. While we were quite aware of who was white, black, Hispanic (back then we said Mexican), we never thought much about it, nor did we care. We were all like family. Our only rivals were other schools. Not once did any of us ever whine about inequality or racism. Now there is a race war going on at my old school. The kids have segregated themselves and there’s no longer unity or “school spirit”. The school even recently changed its name after 50 yrs because the original was named after a Confederate mailman. No one thought about before it or even cared when I was a student there. What has caused this regression? The answer: Race baiting politicians and their propaganda media outlets. They depend on our divisive tribalism to stay in power and keep power over us. If ever we unite, they will fail to ultimately subjugate us.

[@birderjohn3396]

I completely agree.

[@soupergiffy]

Same as I grew up. But it’s like they can’t have people improve so they set everybody up over and over like you said for intentionally division agendas. A house divided will not stand. It’s also part of the marxist manifesto plan to divide and conquer all; create issues and point fingers in innocent directions; do harm to all and sit back and watch. And many can’t see it cause the brainwashing.

[@levigoldson4242]

Absolutely. But they have flipped the script and promote the idea of judging people by the color of the skin. Despicable.

[@laurietillman4362]

Well said.💯

[@adamhart6028]

This is a very well said comment and I agree entirely. I also grew up in an area with a melting pot of cultures and skin colors (blacks, Asians, Hispanics and whites) and I had friends of every different color and cultural background and there was virtually no talk of racism. Exactly right that "not seeing color" doesn't mean that a person is literally color blind and can't see that there is more or less melanin in a person's skin, it just means that it is mostly irrelevant and the content of a person's character, there interests, etc. are far more important.

[@DannyAGray]

My wife DEFINITELY married down when we got together. My family is worse than dirt poor, and my wife's family is upper-middle class. But after 22 years together, I've put in the work to raise myself up and give her an even better life than she has before. Yes, our marriage is based on love and commitment.

[@Jacevo.]

Yessir King

[@Bahahsb-vb8hv]

But are u black and is ur wife white ?

[@viviennedunbar3374]

But I bet she saw drive and ambition in you and many qualities that meant she was confident you would be a great husband and provider.

[@yousefizziddeann5789]

Your case is an outlier, the statistical truth is the opposite.

[@ezekieltete6584]

You are the exception and not the rule

[@kangarooninja2594]

I mean, I think it's fine for black people, white people, Asians or whatever to only date within their race. But I don't understand why some people have to make it an "us vs them" thing? Why can't people just say, "I like my ethnicity and want to keep it going, but you do you." And leave it at that?

[@LEE-kq9tq]

Yeah. Even as someone that is mixed, it's OK to still have a preference to your own race. It SHOULDN'T have anything to do with an us vs them thing. Just a personal preference.

[@JohnnyFromVirginia]

I grew up around people that only dated outside of their race. They were just attracted to other people. It isn’t a defect. It’s no different than all this LGBTQ stuff to me. You’re into whatever the hell you’re into and I don’t need anybody pushing their preferences upon me either way. I’m a straight white male who likes women of all (legal) ages, races, faiths, sizes and shapes. An equal opportunist if you will. If I find something beautiful or attractive, that’s just that. Putting ourselves in boxes does nothing but create division. I can’t just be 100 ride or die on something unless I personally am ride or die 100 on something. Not just cause everybody else is bout it bout it. Love who you want to love, marry who you want to marry, get freaky with whomever you wish to get your freak on with and just leave me out of it unless you’ve invited me to the party and I want to play too or Vice versa - simple as that.

[@ConspiracySmurf]

I think it comes down to who someone is personally attracted to and that includes biological chemistry as well as someones personal boundaries or what they are looking for. Someone looking for an upscale life doesn't go hunting for brides in the trailer park and we leave that p to them. We need to just stay out of peoples' minds, underwear and bedrooms. Mind your own business and it's a good idea to keep your personal life personal sometimes. Everything doesn't have to be a stand or a fight. Pick your battles...not as much matters as you think once you get old.

[@kangarooninja2594]

@@JohnnyFromVirginia I don't know, there is something about people who only date outside of their race that smacks of fetishization. And what's weird is that if you say that about white women who only date black guys, you're being prejudiced. But if you say it about white guys who only date Asian women, you're right on the money, lol.

[@sixzty1524]

Yeah it should never be this big of a deal or like something to be offended over I agree

[@jw138]

I watch these young men think and work through issues just to maintain my faith in the youth.

[@elizabethpilarski1076]

Same!!! Nice to see critical thinking in action.

[@jw138]

@@elizabethpilarski1076 you’re not kidding.

[@laurievoss285]

Me too

[@michaelreiter503]

Same here 🙏

[@CosmosJack]

Aye

[@President_Dontae]

As they say we're all black in the dark lol. Seriously I prefer a black woman to be my wife, but if my wife is other than black then I will accept it. Why be with a black woman and be miserable if God has a Latin or other for me! I want what God has for me because no one really cares about the wrapping paper (skin) but the gift (the inside) because looks fades while character should grow!

[@stsolomon618]

That was deep

[@immortaltyger1569]

Dontae - you have way more good sense than "Dr. Umar".

[@Pahyto1]

It's your life your skin your body . My choice is christian . If it's any other religion i won't even think about it

[@DoubleBeezy]

@@Pahyto1 it's so called Christians who act like Umar 😕. The pro blk ppl I know, go to church and say amen but racist as heck

[@viviennedunbar3374]

I want my daughters to marry hard working, moral Christian men, and I can say hand on heart their physical appearance wouldn’t matter. I would want to see evidence of a strong character, kindness and hopefully from a family of the same. But then my own extended family has members descended from Europe, Africa and Asia, and wether they are kind and loving has nothing to do with what they look like but how they were raised and conduct themselves.

[@jino4280]

My husband is mixed race (mother is white English / father is black Caribbean). I'm white. A black person, when she found out, said to me 'Why didn't you tell me you were married to a mixed race guy? Then she shouted around the office, 'Hey, she's married into black. She's alright, she's one of us.' I said I didn't mention it to anyone because, A, I don't notice the colour of his skin and B, it makes no difference. Don't put me in a category because of skin colour and if you only like me now because my husband is mixed race then I'd rather you go back to ignoring me.' What a terrible shame. Living in a multicultural city (Birmingham UK) ALL of my friends are of different races, be it black, white, Asian or whatever and I love them all dearly. I pray one day that we could get past this race thing. Sadly, I don't think it will happen in my lifetime.

[@emilyc8074]

Exactly this

[@Jackie-ji2sj]

SHES ONE OF US PROVES THE POINT ABOUT BLACKS

[@nameisamine]

Certainly not in any of our lifetimes sadly. I always said to my dad the day racism would truly end is the day an alien invasion came to earth 👽 in that case, even the most racist person on earth would say, “i may not like you, but at least I know what you are and that you’re human… I don’t know WHAT the hell THAT thing is” 👾‼️ the racist would side with a human before ever siding with an alien race. I almost wish it would happen so humanity could stick together a bit more and stop fighting 😅

[@cdmalchusable]

God bless you💖 I couldn't agree more!

[@AM-qm4vc]

@@Jackie-ji2sj "BLACKS"...really. Now you're generalizing. I agreed with everything the OP said but then you have people like you that cause these divisions to begin with lol. You missed the OPs point entirely.

[@UnknownHuman94]

My sister married a homeless man. They fell in love through a dating app and brought him into our home. They have been married for 7 years and have a daughter together, and they both work. Marriage is about love, communication, faith and trust.

[@flipflop8989]

I’m not doubting your story I’m just wondering how a homeless guy has a dating app

[@turquoise3851]

wtf

[@screwylooygaming]

@@flipflop8989 everybody has access to the internet since the early 2000's really. Mid 90's is when it first became available to the masses after being used in government sectors since the 60's

[@flipflop8989]

@@screwylooygaming thank you for explaining the history of the internet.

[@FrankJay]

That should be a hallmark or lifetime movie. For real.

[@MuckoMan]

I'm a 55 year old white guy from Boston who grew up fighting other races. It was just the way it was in the city. Been watching you guys for a while now and I wouldn't think twice of my daughter marrying one of you guys. You guys really have your shit together and are very respectable. I've already thrown out one of her white ex-boyfriends because he was trying to front as something he wasn't. People who want to keep the races separated are racist. If they don't get it by now they never will.

[@basicforge]

I also grew up in Boston. My only experience with racism was between the Irish, German and Jewish people living in my town. Lots of white on white friction, but very subtle.

[@sumsum620]

I guess I wouldn’t make it there because I’m all 3 of those plus Mexican 😂😂😂😂😂

[@SmittyRu169]

Dat Part! White Man from Boston got it together

[@edde8624]

Tell that to all the Pro Black people like Black Nationalists who have more groups than White Nationalists(and yet White Supremacy is all we talk about). They hate you with a passion.

[@lynetteoehlke2299]

I have always had a stronger income than my husband. The income was irrelevant compared to the values. He has a strong work ethic, his work just earns a lower wage. We share love and sense of purpose in this world.

[@silverback9572]

That’s all that matters, the love & values you share

[@Bahahsb-vb8hv]

But is your husband black

[@somerandomkid9438]

Our mum married our step dad when I was 6yrs old, I’m 64 now, (he’s from Trinidad). There wasn’t many blks in our area back then, an all I remember when I first met him, was thinking… “My God, he’s *Tall* “! His colour truly never bothered me. They went on to have 2 kids, our bother & sister. Our mum has passed, but step dad still going strong. Us 6 siblings are extremely close, we meet up 2 sundays a month for Sunday lunch…. I’m my humble opinion, it’s coming across to me, that it’s blks that have the major issues where whites are concerned 😢 🇬🇧

[@johnrectangle6034]

Too late,Dr Umar,the wheel is turning.Interacial marriage,and interacial relationships are going well all around the world! From Paris, France.

[@kangarooninja2594]

Well, of course it is in France. I mean, you guys even marry other French people!

[@johnrectangle6034]

You're right .Even.Sometime yes ,sometime no,sometime maybe.

[@DoubleBeezy]

@@kangarooninja2594 so why can't AMERICAN ppl marry American ppl. I understand wanting to claim where your family from but how many more generations until you just go by American

[@bellacortez]

In the US they are actually going down slightly

[@Luvothrsmor22]

I have said for the last 10 years that in 200 years we will all be one color meaning everyone will be mixed and be more of a light brown tone there will Be very little, just black just white. Everyone will be more of a caramel tone like Middle Eastern, or Mediterranean.

[@realityrealestate5755]

It doesn't matter what race or color you are. What really matters is that you are a good human to everyone!

[@starseeker27]

Based dude you nailed it to the wall

[@christododo2823]

😂

[@injaye-game9014]

political it matters...white people are too "clever"

[@Edwin-iw8gb]

@@christododo2823 what's so funny?

[@April-201]

Wrong

[@AllBetzOff]

Being pro-your race isn’t but anti-white is

[@dalebruno5201]

Typical

[@irvintib]

Being "pro your race" is permissible for everyone EXCEPT white people. If you DARE say ANYTHING pro white, you will be pummeled with ridicule and animosity.

[@dacrosber]

Exactly! You can wish the best for your own kind without wanting to tear down others

[@cablebrain9691]

Helping your own race, as far as attempting to prevent injustice against it (if there is any) is fine, but other than that, no one should be concerning themselves with race of any kind. We should help the needy, and not only those within specific tribes. There is no need to be color-blind, just color-indifferent. It’s about how we treat people, not about how we perceive them to be. Actually, I don’t think people see color, per se, but much more-so, the culture which that color stereotypically represents.

[@DoubleBeezy]

@@dacrosber WHAT OWN KIND !!!!!. Just because a dude the same shade, does not mean he's anything to me, other than American at the most.

[@asiacapriii]

I personally made it a point to marry a black man and have black kids, but I don’t judge anybody who chooses the interracial route

[@fairebianca]

Props to you guys for the conversation. Do you think as a society, we will ever reach the point where we don't see the color of someone's skin? Where we stop judging someone because "He's black", or "She's white"? What if we stop separating people by their color? What if we no longer have to check a box on applications that designates us as Black/White/Asian/Other? There is one race on planet Earth, the Human Race, and we all bleed red. There was a teacher a couple of thousand years ago with a great message, he asked us to "Love One Another". So sad that we are still trying to get there.

[@Frostrazor]

i say it's perfectly okay and expected to "see" and acknowledge color. But that we celebrate the difference vs ostracizing and judging unfairly based on it. I think it's important that we understand there ARE differences - it continues to allow us to have our own identity and agency of self - but the magic comes from being able to see that a just a part of who they are and not something to weaponize or dwell on. I grew up on a military base. My next door neighbor was a black family, behind me were white Mormons and next to them was a white father and a south korean mother of my two good friends. The other side of the street was an asian family from Okinawa, and next to them was a white man married to a polynesian or hawaiin woman. BUT we were all boys of same age, and every weekend we played football or baseball together, or chased each other on bikes as we played cops and robbers, or teamed up for dirt-clod fights at the construction sites. We knew we were different - but we didn't care. The differences were interesting. Whether it was the cultural music they listened to, the religion in their house, or the foods they ate. And most of those fathers were surrogate fathers for the rest of us. Block parties were amazing fun, and I never saw one moment of racism or discrimination. We were all Americans, and we all wanted the same thing - a loving family, good friends and fun, and safe community.

[@Zarosian_Ice]

No we won't and never will, history shows us that racism is a very natural and normal thing, it's not something you like, but it is something that just occurs. In my opinion, racism in it's most natural form is not even necesarrily driven by skin color as simply being from a different tribe of people is enough to set another tribe of people off. It can come from many different factors and facets, just in todays day and age, the first thing we think of is skin color, while in reality that's merely one aspect of actual racism, most people don't even know or realize when they are being racist. As an example, I am Dutch, I migrated to Belgium because my mom met someone and I was a minor, a lot of Belgian people would laugh at me or ridicule me for being Dutch, and I can assure you most of them thought they were just being funny or joking around not realizing what kind of impact it had on me as a person, now I personally didn't care too much because it's just not the kind of person I am, but I can tell you it definitly did bother me that, I probably couldn't do X "because I am Dutch" or narrate me because "I sound funny" and many more things that I won't get into. I personally don't think that it is something that should go extinct either because it's a part of life, if you want to take racism out of the equation you'd be changing everything that makes us human, you'd be getting rid of class division through wealth, you'd irradicate any form or combat because it enforces oppression through force, and many many other things. Just so we're clear, I'm not for racism neither am I against it, I find it very low effort and not worth my time or energy, if I see someone bully or belittle someone with racist tactics (which is what racism is to me, bullying someone because low hanging fruit is the only thing their brain is good for) I'll try to make sure I either make them feel far worse than they're making the other person feel or simply let people know what kind of toxic person they are. As for the message, I think the vast majority of people "love one another" but it also doesn't take much to harm one another, especially when we also take religion into account where you can ask for forgiveness and that should somehow fix all the wrongdoing someone has done.

[@Gonts64]

“There’s only one race, the human race.” - Alveda King, niece of Dr Martin Luther King Jr.

[@laurievoss285]

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEES THIS

[@DoubleBeezy]

Well the world will never make it that simple. So many ppl multi ethnic and been had yt-blk shades in their family but still being tribal. I would think we just go off of nationality and maybe color, just because the world for some reason, needs a division going.

[@Frostrazor]

nah there are several races: Daytona 500 Indy 500 Tour d'France CannonBall Run Kentucky Derby

[@paulcooper5748]

Right on.

[@nelsonsibiya9204]

Tell that to white people.

[@mrRambleGamble]

He's a hustler. If marriage is purely financial why would men get into a contract with someone who offers less money? He talks about what women want but not what men want.

[@Verdent777]

Fantastic point!

[@wally7361]

I would say he is more pro black than hustler.

[@DoubleBeezy]

@UCqHfznb4Q-rPwBwiqgxoYGQ pro blks are hustlers though 😂. Imagine telling ppl that WE HAVE TO COME TOGETHER MY BROTHAS AND SISTAS and getting paid for it l. It's just dumb but also hilarious 🤣.

[@wally7361]

@@DoubleBeezy You can find his work online for free without paying so I'm not sure the point your making. You don't have to agree with every point he makes to support his cause. You say pro black are hustlers but I don't see anyone calling MLK or malcolm x a hustler. If you was actually serious about what you say you would be calling out Officer Tatum for being a hustler and grifter

[@maxfisher719]

Well they have to, men usually have more money than women.

[@TheWorldOfRipX]

My wife "married down". then i went to college again, got a degree, got a great job, and now we are pretty much equal financially. It does happen. Marriage should not be for any reason but love.

[@n1r0l]

I have to question the motive of people who try to divide us based upon race. It seems they are trying to dehumanize others based on immutable characteristics. Dividing people leads to chaos and animosity like in Rwanda and Bosnia/ Serbia. We are all here together and it is going to take the talents and contributions of everyone to make a better place for all of us. I don't think these people encouraging divisiveness have our best interests in mind.

[@DoubleBeezy]

I keep seeing ppl talk about, the more mixing makes stuff confusing but I believe it's the grown people who tells kids about this stuff then they become pro race too. I never cared about color at all, but now I'm like it's all DUMB

[@Bahahsb-vb8hv]

Who created segregation., and race based laws

[@n1r0l]

@@Bahahsb-vb8hv In the US? Democrats.

[@Bigdaddys_Chaos]

I am Mexican American fell in love with a white woman. We fell in love. We respect each other, help each other ofcourse we argue onece in a while. I was blessed not because of skin color but because we love each other. If you don't love the person you are with, then don't marry.

[@Bahahsb-vb8hv]

Were u broke and was she having money wen yall met

[@Bigdaddys_Chaos]

I was an alcoholic living with my parents. She didn't have a job. She's the reason I got sober and got responsible. Now we own our home and out financial situation is better than it was when we met. Not perfected but happy.

[@darksamuraidmt98]

How would you feel if a black dude I was with you're daughter or sister

[@Bigdaddys_Chaos]

I have no problem. What matters to me is character. A good person is a good person regardless of race. Same goes for a bad person. If I had a daughter and she brought home a black man. I wouldn't care as long as he was a good man. Not a perfect man but a good man.

[@billmatthews5877]

I don't enjoy watching your videos because you're all black. I enjoy watching your content because you're all learning together, in real time.

[@roncerajan]

You had us in the first half…

[@andreleibee354]

likewise. learning just like we all should be. closed minds and closed hearts foster discord because respect and love can't grow there--for anybody.

[@Anonymous-uw4sr]

@@roncerajan 💀

[@Vandalle.]

Media headlines be like: 'Bill Matthews claims "I don't enjoy watching your videos because you're all black..." in SHOCKING show of racism?'

[@billmatthews5877]

@@Vandalle. 🤣 so true, that's exactly what they do

[@jeremywilson8932]

I am a person of mixed blood. This happens in all races. I get looked down upon because I don't look a certain way. My skin eather isn't dark enough or I don't look a cretin way. I don't let it hold me back and I feel I don't half to prove myself to anyone because I know who I am and I refuse to let others tell me who I am. I have dealt with this my entire life. I only know how to be myself and refuse to be anyone else just to make others happy.

[@DJFreeway-DJExit-DJClaritin]

I know 100% what it feels like to be viewed as too light skinned, too light eyed, too be labeled as biracial, even though I am biracial, and my hair is both light and dark/medium naturally in color.

[@paulinesmagic9591]

😂😂😂😂 i know plenty of white women who have careers with great pay married to black men with a 9-5 . Money doesnt make a man, character does. They love them and the husband is a great protector and provides money but also provides charcter that their children grow and prosper. How can you tell anyone how to love?

[@k_WESTSIDE_AMERICAN]

Covid-19 has made people lose their damn minds...period. 😮

[@brandythedog4764]

Not in london where I'm from. I've dealt with over 15 000 middle to upper class white families because of my work, and not one has married a black man, Indian, some but no black. They may of had a 1 night stand with them, but married-no. Mixed marriages here are predominantly in the working classes, it's rare that u will see a middle to upper class white woman marry a black man here. Just for the record I'm working class, although I have my own business and earn decent money, and my mrs is mixed race.

[@paulinesmagic9591]

@@brandythedog4764 Well I'm from America and I know I have seen it plenty of times.

[@theorderofeli]

@@brandythedog4764 Not sure what London you live in, but this is incorrect like a MF

[@AliAli-vy2qn]

​@@paulinesmagic9591stick to you're own race white woman

[@baileythesocalledbear6052]

These honest conversations are so very important in our society nowadays, keep up the good work ❤

[@gunryu]

Transaction ey? Nah, i prefer to based my marriage on love. Im having a wife not a hoe.

[@cindyvogan7052]

I am a 55 year old white woman, not rich at all but comfortable. I have a master's degree & built my own company from the bottom up. My current relationship is with a black man who I have loved since we were in our 20s. He just turned 50. He had some issues in his life. We would be together, then grow apart. Our breaks were never bad & when we came back together we just picked up where we left off. I love him with all my heart. I don't need or expect anything from him. We both have dated black and white people. Its just about love & who you're meant to be with.we respect each other. We're together forever now. And I so enjoy watching your you tube channel. You gentlemen are so intelligent & relatable.

[@AiiRv]

I’m glad we got young men like Cartier family. They are hilarious too.

[@cindydunn3036]

Don't let anyone tell you who you can/should date or fall in love with. If you have a genuine connection and common values/interests, hopefully people can see it and mind their own business 💞 Also, when I got married, we understood it was a sacred vow.. not a financial contract. That intention is pure & forever.

[@BornAHawkEye]

I don't have any children I'm 33 but my nephew and neice are both mixed. it just sends me to think they're growing up in this crazy world.. HUH?😂

[@Roosrandom]

As a white dude, I respect the hell out of y’all! We need more of this. Keep at it🙏🏼 hope for nothing but blessings

[@curtisjackson224]

Dr Umar and Nick Fuentes same

[@karenperry8834]

My three daughters are married to a Jamaican, Singaporean and Italian. None of them for any other reason than love

[@missgigglebox748]

He is basically saying marriage is more like a business transaction. Did he ever think these single black women are single for a reason? Maybe they are too demanding, too high maintenance or just ugly on the inside. Regardless of race, if you fall in love with a different race then how is that anyones business?

[@tamitatangoto5134]

I agree with you miss giggle box...😂 Besides how could we be of A different race when we're all the human race,..we all have red blood in our veins and we all pee Yellow.. and poop brown, unless of course we're sick..

[@danz_by1393]

Well there’s a lot of single mother hood culture promoted to the black community via the government welfare system and feminism , more black women are not seen as centric beauty aswell and are often promoted to be masculine, all these factors lead to a loop nature of black women not getting married or short lasting ones Just to top that off the lack of accountability and emotional stability promoted to black men These two elements reject each other and is core to what ruins a marriage , this is why Dr is only promoting a homogenous and faithful family unit to the black community , like whites do Italians asains and Indians , even Jewish But it’s often seen as radical when black ppl like him promote it , maybe it’s is articulation or counterproductive in his strategy to achieve the family unit goal in the black community , Even whites aswell are seen as racist when they want this but I don’t disagree I don’t find white ppl racist when they want to preserve their race as long as maintaining self identity worth and family unit , because if u hate urself u hate everybody

[@chadjohns6955]

I'm a white American Christian man married to an Ethiopian Jewish Israeli, I don't care what these race haters have to say, they are just wrong. I love my wife, I don't care about anyone's race, I see it, but it's not what I judge them on

[@jenf836]

Im happy you found your soul mate. However as a black woman i want to be with a black man. 1 in 4 black women will get married. If black men aren’t marrying us then that number will become lower.

[@chadjohns6955]

@@jenf836 It's totally fine to want to marry within your race if you want to personally, my only issue is with people like this "doctor" telling others they're wrong for marrying outside their race. It's a matter of preference, I've always loved women of different ethnicities and races, but I dated plenty of white women too, I hope you find a good black man, there are plenty out there, but the culture is telling them to not go the marriage route, and that's a shame, you deserve happiness too. Don't give up (not saying you have), don't settle for less than what you want. What I've found is that the race matters much less than almost every personality characteristic and how someone treats you is more important that the melanin in their skin, texture of their hair, or other immutable characteristics.

[@ibbledibble]

princess märtha louise of norway left the royal family to marry american black *shaman* durek verett, she even gave up her princess title. there are plenty of men snooping around for a sugar mama too

[@ItsTheFuzzMan]

This world is too small for me to want to cut off an entire race or culture. That's cutting off a chance to experience or learn something new.

[@tainalinda5630]

Black men rejected me because I wasn't black enough. Hispanic men also because I wasn't j-lo enough. I'm afro-latina. Married twice to white men. Very happy with the 2nd one. We both work, blessed to have good jobs. We share our bank accounts and our combined income pays our bills, we communicate well about many topics. Yes we have differences but after all is said we laugh, we have shared dreams, we appreciate each other, we pray for each other, we love each other etc. 🇵🇷💕🇩🇪🇺🇲

[@starseeker27]

If you're happy, that's all that matters. Keep that marriage alive and don't let people like Jermaine Shoemaker belittle you. You made the right decision for your happiness.

[@brockstepler3956]

So glad I found this KZbin channel. Love the opinions. All anyone should care about is facts that’s it.

[@diaandeysel5960]

he is playing the racecard and getting paid well.

[@ChaliceMome]

Thank you for having these conversations. No matter how you believe, you are still having the conversations. And that alone, doesn’t happen very often.

[@aliciasavage6801]

Every single guy i dated with the exception of one made less money than me. I feel sorry for him that he thinks so poorly of love.

[@robbrown391]

I seriously Love you Guys your way to Debate and Discuss is just Great ... I appreciate Y'all

[@crackazack510]

I don't think anybody actually takes that guy seriously. They have him on for the clicks/shock value. That's all that matters in today's media

[@maxbakker5194]

I thought the same, until i looked up the breakfast club video and looked at the comments. It’s crazy how many people are agreeing with him

[@crackazack510]

@Max Bakker possibly... but remember how big the world/ country is. Nothing but a mere tiny slice of society. Same as the qanon folks or the purple hair anarchists/antifas.

[@maxbakker5194]

@@crackazack510 very true!

[@mrRambleGamble]

@@crackazack510 Breakfast club interviews Biden, Kamala, etc. and no one ever pressured them for "platforming" a racist like Umar Johnson. He's not fringe and people take him very seriously. They don't clown him as they should

[@crackazack510]

@RambleGamble don't clown who? Charlemagne or Usman? Because I've seen ALOT of Charlemagne hate from the black community...A LOT! He's a controversial interviewer, always has been... not a fan.

[@morganr4426]

My mom was far more educated than my father when they met and for a period of time earned more than he did. She did not come from money and was a first generation college graduate. But She paid her own way through her bachelors in nursing and Masters as a clinical nurse specialist. My dad worked at an oil refinery when they married, until he was wrongly terminated after being injured on the job due to faulty equipment. Mom encouraged him to go back to school and get a college degree. It was extremely hard because my dad is very very ADHD and dyslexic, but he is incredibly intelligent. He was told in school he was just stupid and lazy because back in the 60's and 70's, learning disabilities just weren't commonly know. He didn't know that he just learns differently. He did not work some of the time he was in perfusion school because he was in school full time to graduate faster. She supported him unconditionally. Helped him with his school work if he needed it and cheered him on. He got his bachelor's and then went on to become a certified perfusionist (the person that runs the heart lung machine during open heart surgeries, transplants, etc.). They worked at the same hospital for many years and dad has been very successful. He would have never had the confidence to go to school without my mother's encouragement and support. A marriage is give and take. At times, the woman may make more than the man and vice versa. Sometimes, one person may be out of work for reasons outside their control. Socioeconomic status or level of education shouldn't matter if you find someone who you truly love. Had my parents not been from different educational backgrounds, things may have turned out very differently. My dad may have never gone to college or perfusion school and have a successful 30 plus year career. It was because they were different that it all worked out in the end.

[@laurietillman4362]

Beautiful love 💕 story!!

[@morganr4426]

@@laurietillman4362 aww, thank you! I'm so blessed to have such an amazing example of what a marriage should be like! ❤️

[@laurietillman4362]

@@morganr4426 Indeed, you are very fortunate!!❤️

[@matthewjonesy3879]

I love these guys. They definitely give me hope for the next generation.

[@andymartin5250]

There's nothing wrong with seeing one's color. Where it becomes a problem is when you treat someone differently based on nothing more than that.

[@Frostrazor]

Exactly. As I've said repeatedly - its impossible to be "color-blind". But learn to appreciate and celebrate the things that make us different, and then celebrate on what things we have in common - which surprisingly there's a lot more in common than different.

[@wally7361]

How can an ex cop call a certified educator a fraud? He does this with every black person who speaks out

[@mrrightnow1532]

DR. UMAR IS SPEAKING NOTHING BUT FACTS!!!!!!! I AGREE 1000%

[@user-cc4df1rv9o]

UMER IS A CON MAN . WHERE'S THE MONEY HE SWIPED ?

[@dans8195]

I really enjoyed watching how you guys deal with complicated issues, how you guys use each other as sounding more and hear each other out, we used to do this in the US we need to do it more and find middle ground.

[@kamysailings877]

My daughter recently got married he’s a biracial man ( black/white) and couldn’t ask for better son in law. It’s a first interracial marriage in our immediate family. They love, cherish and support one another and are very happy together. He has a six year old son, my first grandchild and very handsome little guy. I love watching them look at each other and smile, laugh and play it reminds me of when her father and I were first married. They’re happy and in love and that’s all that matters.

[@Nicaraguayo75]

I'm married to a white man. I don't see us as mixed couple. I guess we are, but it doesn't matter. I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with anyone else, but my husband ❤

[@starseeker27]

Keep it alive and stay strong and blessed

[@desshine5702]

As a fair skinned Latina woman living in the US, am I wrong for dating my dark skinned Latino man? We are both Latino and have the same culture & both speak Spanish. It’s so close minded to think of color only when there are different shades within different cultures/ethnicities. Anywhoooo Dr Umar is very divisive and yes, marriage is about love!

[@joelmcclatchey1863]

Had the same in Northern Ireland between Catholics and Protestants. It was a big no, no and if one was to get together one of them would have to convert and promise their children will be of that religion to get married in a church. It did happen of course but was very rare and it has increased. I married a Catholic girl from the Republican of Ireland and I'm from a staunch unionist/Loyalist area in NI. It is more acceptable now as life is to short. My uncle converted to catholic and his kids and him were basically shunned from the family. I got married in a catholic church but the priest made it a neutral service and was very open minded for a bloke in his 80s and I didnt need to convert are anything like that, not that I'm religious though. Things are moving forward thankfully and my kids will experience the best of both Irish and British ideals and culture and hopefully have a balanced view on this islands history.

[@ethovas663]

My husband was homeless when I met him. But there is no such thing as marrying down . Love doesn’t cost money. I’ve been with my husband for 23 years. He’s Hispanic and I’m Caucasian. We’re happy and going strong

[@MrHellsing76]

Ten out of ten, would love to see Cartier Family have a video debate/discussion with Joe Rogan, or Tucker Carlson about the state of affairs in this country, and the degradation of race relations we seem to bee getting on a fast track to from race baiting elderly and corrupt career politicians, and AOC. But yeah, Dr. Umar? very racist lol, but what to expect from someone who considers the most binding connection two people can have in love, to be a some kind of commercial transaction, man has a lot of anger in him if he can't understand the concept of marriage.

[@kingakushi1]

Dr umar is a better example in terms of mindset than any black conservative or liberal out there

[@KellyfromMemphis]

Always complaining is his mindset just like the others mentioned…

[@DoubleBeezy]

Well I know pro blk ppl that's liberal and conservative, and I still disagree but Umar is the devil 😈

[@kingakushi1]

@@KellyfromMemphis wth are talking about if you watch his content he is not one to complain he is more about self determination and pan Africanism

[@TeressaJ1960]

My husband was from a very poor family when we met but I fell head over heals in love with him, his personality, his big heart, his sense of humor, his love for God, so his color or financial status did not matter to me. He did have a very strong work ethic and kept a comfortable roof over our family, kept our bellies full and managed to raise us to middle class, which was just fine with me.

[@generic53]

You said Umar is considered smart but, many people have said the same thing about Hitler.

[@MWakefield82]

If you just quit looking at everything through race glasses, you can easily go through your day without seeing color. If you just start seeing human beings instead of any color, or look, it would become your norm.

[@cyrcee77]

I love u guys, keep on killing it fellas, your doing more good for people and having more meaningful conversations than all of those main stream networks combined

[@katn.podcast]

Appreciate you guys comments 👍🏽

[@brendabunnell2790]

Dr Umar makes my head hurt !!😀

[@meganmbleed]

You got understand too when some of us grew up, I was born in 71, we didn’t talk about race the way people do now we were taught not to see race win today you’re taught not just to see it but acknowledge it and that’s the problem. I am very grateful I was born and raised in the place and time that I was and that’s the San Fernando Valley. Loved everybody black,white,brown, etc. 🤘🏻

[@coloradod1313]

In my opinion, if you agree with anyone 100% something is wrong with you. You learn how to filter out the bs and take in the positive. The tribalism that has permeated our discourses of late has people believing we have to agree with someone completely. Not true...not in the slightest. You gentlemen should check out Beau of the fifth column.

[@JR12991]

I have so many different races in my family and we all love and respect each other. Love yourself and everything else will follow.OneLove👏🏽

[@cottonysensation3723]

I have in fact seen women marry down and there is a little bit of a stereotype regarding it where you see women who work, have their own place, have their life together, and they are with what’s essentially a dead beat dude with no job or barely a job and unable to support himself. The sort of relationship where everyone’s side eyeing it asking why they are with that person.

[@Chameleon8474]

Gentlemen, understand that there is a difference between educated and smart. Dr. Umar might be educated but you guys are smart.

[@tonyapoindexter2781]

I always thought it was about like minded people getting together, regardless of what others beliefs are. However, many people are not always honest about who they truly are inside, and that is what leads to so many broken relationships. If you're lucky enough to find that one, you are both lucky beyond imagination.

[@viviennedunbar3374]

I think the answer to that is don’t rush a relationship, such as jump into bed with them. Get to know someone slowly, naturally so you can discover their values and make sure they show by their life and relationships (family & friends) that they are who they say they are. The well known phrase is “Marry with haste, repent at leisure”. If someone wants to rush a relationship before you get to know them, it’s a Red Flag.

[@janstein3857]

Race should not be a factor in who you marry. It's about love and what's in your heart!

[@shelbyjacquin8252]

Colors dont matter. Cultures do; and though they might be predominantly one color geographically, it not determined by it. I can see peoples colors. I'm not blind. I just dont give a shit. It's immaterial. Just another physical characteristic. Humans are human and they do human shit same as everybody else. Stereotypes and biases exist and everyone gets affected by that to an extent. That's always been the case. You have to decide how much you let that bs affect you and whether you let yourself indulge in it. You let it control you and you end up frustrated and missing out on a lot of good things.🤷‍♀️

[@tamitatangoto5134]

I agree so much what you're saying Shelby.

[@DoubleBeezy]

@@tamitatangoto5134 but culture is not tied to race and it's just American culture and class. When I went to the suburbs it was diverse and ppl dating anyone they wanted but all the hate is see was from the hood.

[@lo-lifecntral2789]

@@DoubleBeezy which is what the original comments Said

[@2020girlygirl]

Loved the conversation ❤❤❤

[@mackadam5894]

I think Sneako has a good take on this subject: "The victimhood MINDSET will hold you back in life, wayyyyy more than ACTUAL racism will."

[@dariangarcia7577]

Just cause you dont see it..doesnt mean it dont be happening. There is a difference between subjective truth and objective truth.

[@chadjohns6955]

The Dr. is correct to the point about women tending towards marrying across or up to a partner that's richer or at least the same economic status as them, however, throwing the racial BS in it, is pointless, hateful, and incorrect. Although, my wife makes nearly twice what I make, she wanted to marry someone who treated her right, and the rich guys were arrogant and mistreated her. Plus, it's not like I'm a bum, I work full time and have my whole adult life, it's just that she makes more

[@sugakookie6303]

When I think about dating or getting into a relationship, I go with the person and how they treat me, not the color of their skin…to cut someone out because of that is just narrow minded…

[@shaun2312]

I think this is much more of a US issue, I mean, there are racists in the UK and EU but I don't think it's as deeply burned into people like it is in the US

[@leavemealone7935]

No US have a race issue disease and want to spread it to the rest of the world

[@loisrogers9042]

I'm white, born lower middle class, rural. I'm almost 69 yrs old now, and dated many religions and races. (Married later than many of my peers) Also have a racially mixed extended and immediate family. My dating preference when I was more serious about it, was not that the guy had money, but that he had POTENTIAL. Some drive, a good brain, empathy, and if he could make me laugh, wonderful!!! 😊 If you're not blind, you see color. If that matters to you, it's a problem.

[@rxlxviii]

A certain German leader in the 1930s preached about the purity of race also. (Sorry, can't write the name or youtube will delete the comment).

[@cockynanderson]

My wife is 25% Italian, 25% Pacific Islander and 50% Scandinavian. I am mixture of Scottish, Anglo-Saxon, Scandinavian and Cherokee. My son literally has decedents from so many parts of the world and I have worked so hard to teach him we are all just different shades of the same color but this damn society has taught him Black and White and it pisses me off. I don't want him seeing that bullshit cause that is the seed that leads to prejudice and racism. I was taught growing up that we are equal but majorly different and shouldn't mix from a sexual standpoint and that just never made sense to me. Humans are humans.

[@DoubleBeezy]

What you just said is the same problem I have with the multi ethnic ppl and then you have to be in a color box. If you in the white color box then you only have European ancestors and if you blk then African ancestors, this stuff is getting old. I think we should just go by nationality because ppl make this stuff stressful and we will just keep having new DR. UMAR type ppl appear

[@cockynanderson]

@@DoubleBeezy exactly. I heard someone recently say that Americans are the only ones stuck on color. Overseas we are just Americans no matter how dark or light we are.

[@GiGiLuvsKatz]

Umer seems very confused an evidently has never experienced love. Brandon Tatum is the bearer of truth!

[@recklessronny33]

Just let people be happy.

[@mark-be9mq]

God designed marriage to be a union of Love for creating a family that is a living embodiment of the Love of God, Father, Son and Spirit. To be a home and generator of that Live in the world. A union based on economics is parties using each other, and will fail in some way.

[@dawnm4371]

Dr. Umar is attempting to end the 'delusions' surrounding 'love' and 'marriage' Kudos to Him for this!

[@dustinvonsoosten9539]

He's right about a bit of this. Erasing your culture by mix marriage blows. I like seeing all cultures stand tall and continue. Mix upon mix will just erase the memory of what made us all original and unique.

[@DoubleBeezy]

I have a time machine for you 🎁 😂

[@delgadojana7]

I never thought about this, but I would say I did marry down. My husband had no car was a single dad with 2 kids who could only afford to Rent a bedroom from a friend. I provided for him and his kids for a while. And now, 8 yrs later, I am a stay at home mom of 4 and a 5th on the way (including his 2 kids). Marriage is a partnership, but if there is no love, there can not be sacrifice and commitment in a marriage.

[@maxfisher719]

You're rare

[@CassieC4095]

Yes it is racist to hate someone only because of how they are born. You don't choose to be white black or any other. Racism is racism no matter what color you are. Why can't people mind their own business and let people be free to date or marry who they want to! Damn it's wrong to try to guilt people into not loving who they want regardless of race.

[@lenarobinson9948]

If you don't want to date or marry outside your race and you want to stay within your own that's fine. All the hate towards the people who choose to or maybe it just worked out that way baffles me. I will never understand why Dr Umar wants to separate everyone. I have always been lower class, my mom is disabled and on housing and social security and we always had food stamps. My husband who I met online had his own career established and grew up in a middle class family, had his own car, pretty good amount of money saved up. So I guess you could say I " married up" fast forward 8 years later and we are so much more financially stable. We married for love and commitment. All the problems we face today this shouldn't be one of them. Do what you want to do and be kind.

[@lynseyfleming1647]

It’s truly difficult to be in an interracial relationship. People hate on you from both directions. You have to LOVE who you’re with deeply to deal with all the stupid 💩 people say. If you want to stay within your own race 👏👏good for you, if you want to date outside of your race👏👏good for you. Folks need to understand that what happens in another couples relationship ain’t none of your business, and you should keep your ugly comments to yourself 💯 be with whomever makes you happy 😎 God bless y’all from head to toe front door to back door bumper to bumper 🥰💋

[@215_Philly_4for4]

People need to mind their own. You love who you love. Period.

[@Nonnek9]

I'm so tired of this marrying up or down, within or outside of your race. For me, I don't care if you are a doctor or a construction worker. A lawyer or a taxidriver. Black, white, Asian or whatever. Love is love, and the only reason I'd marry anyone is for love. Love comes from personality and compatibility. I don't care how much money the man makes, as long as he has a job and goals in life.

[@Samoan_auntie]

Thank you for putting out positivity!

[@Malitubee]

I pray for a group of friends like this one day man !

[@pinakidutta2885]

This guy and kkk have so much in common

[@kylesummers1565]

Educated and smart are different things, just like wise and smart are different things. Peace, Love!!

[@silverback9572]

He’s half right, but that’s how women of every race are 🤣. By the way, you guys should check out Charlie Kirk. He doesn't have a college degree but he still knows his stuff

[@clintvangestel1731]

Don't be afraid to call out racism wherever it comes from.

[@kennethswartz8252]

My biggest issue with racism is more than that it simply exists. It is that it is perceived to be a white on whomever, when It is so deeper and more awful than that.

[@Malitubee]

9/10 it is though. You guys invented racism

[@chappyreggae]

MARRIAGE IS ONLY ABOUT LOVE!

[@dariangarcia7577]

There is a difference between having a preference and wanting your childeren to consider that preference as an option-compared to trying to dictate a preference for someone else , and shame them if that preference isn't met. Its discrimination and rascist once its not just a preference (for them), or not an optional preference (for their childeren) Its 100% rascist and goofy when you trying to dictate/manipulate/shame random peoples' preferences , cause they aint rascist and goofy 😂

[@pooky1474]

The key part in Tatum's story about him and his friends not noticing color, is God. God doesn't see color nor will you be judged by color but by how you treat others- His law. Him and his friends have the love of Christ in their hearts and are guided by His Holy Spirit. Thanks for the vid guys. God bless.

[@lailana3325]

Someone must have hurt that man deeply for him to believe that marriage is not about love in this day and age. Maybe its an american thing to marry for economic reasons, but in my country, we marry for love, regardless of skin colour. And the answer to the question "is being anti white racist?" Hell yes it is racist. It is just as racist as being anti black.