Is Getting Married A MISTAKE...? | Divorce Lawyer James Sexton

[@sallysublime]

"I wanna have regular sex. Ok. I don't know that getting married is the solution to that ". ROFL

[@paulatk44]

A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here , I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her .

[@JohnWicked-fx3cs]

Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7-year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.

[@paulatk44]

That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?

[@JohnWicked-fx3cs]

Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, an outstanding spiritual counselor with the power to restore your relationship with your ex.

[@paulatk44]

I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online.

[@adamvoid555]

time does it's thing, believe me. After the first year it will be every different. That is a universal truth you just have to endure ir and occupy yourself with things to do instead of weeping about the ex.

[@armaghan1988]

He speaks my language! Stop glorifying marriage and wedding!

[@eloisebrynlee]

A woman could change her name by deed poll for example and have the outward appearance and vocals of being married and no one would know the difference. Just an example and my thoughts. Too much emphasis is often put on the performative wedding. The analogy with sky diving and car air bags.. 😅

[@HoboToto]

But it is a princess fairytale fantasy!

[@eddiebaby22]

Yes waste of time and money, leave it for the religious

[@jh26pt2]

There's nothing better than being married to the right person, and nothing worse than being married to the wrong one. (I've done both. Fortunately, the right person is who I'm married to now.) Be absolutely honest with yourself as to whether you are ready to be married, and if the person you're with is the right one to be married to.

[@mjfraser04]

There is nothing better than being able to be ALONE and not only be happy but thrive.

[@num3willie]

I'm curious, how long have you been married to the right person?

[@justinsmith4246]

​@@mjfraser04 that's good for you but, to many building a family is important. Men and women have become jaded into thinking that marriage sucks. It doesn't, do the work, make time for each other, invest in each other's growth.

[@mjfraser04]

@@justinsmith4246 And “that’s good” for the OP that he’s happy with HIS path. And mine with mine. Why did you decide to get defensive about my comment? I wasn’t advising anybody to do anything. The OP was. The OP is trying to give life/marriage advice to complete strangers on the internet. Seems a bit pompous. So I was subtlety making him aware that not everyone thinks the same way he does. Furthermore, I can make a philosophical and psychological argument picking apart what is demonstrably and evidently wrong with his entire statement. But that’s for a different comment thread.

[@justinsmith4246]

@@mjfraser04 why are you taking it personally? You just ran up 3 paragraphs. I must've hit a nerve of some kind.

[@elsa_nyc]

People get married for all the wrong reasons.

[@uknowamsaying]

Thinking of marriage as in your life is itself a wrong reason.

[@iofk6182]

Just today, I signed a 35k check of my hard earned money to settle my divorce. It was with every penny.

[@thedoomslayer5863]

Damn. Next time give me that 35k trust me I'll use it better than whatever girl got you whipped will 😂

[@mjfraser04]

How much did your wedding cost?

[@manifest2203]

Good for her. She will be happy from now on.

[@iofk6182]

@@mjfraser04 about 100k

[@iofk6182]

@@manifest2203 found the simp.

[@Kiki-p7n4i]

I had a “starter marriage” in my 20’s. I never went beyond that. Still had relationships but didn’t feel the need to do it again.

[@acs2735]

Same

[@UnlimitedWomen2]

Yurp

[@minimatemasterworks]

He's one of the most captivating people I've listened to.

[@howardboyd7764]

Never sign lopsided contracts with someone who is rewarded with cash and prizes for betrayal. It is reckless, irresponsible and stupid….

[@unicorn-glasses]

That's what a prenup is for. If the person you want to marry says no to a prenup, you know they're not right for you. I've already told my boyfriend that if we get married I want a prenup that protects both of us (so we each keep all of our individual money and assets, no alimony or anything). If he had said he didn't like that I would have noped out. Just set boundaries both verbally and legally.

[@howardboyd7764]

@ … I’ve got news for you. Pay close attention. In (most cases and states) judges have discretion and can simply throw the prenup out…. Most men don’t find this out until they’re about to be “graped” in court……

[@gueditoguey]

If prenups actually worked your point would be valid. However many are thrown out when you get to court for a wide variety of reasons. Also there are many limitation on what you can and cannot include in the prenup. Just not worth the risk until massive reform in family law.

[@maxP838]

Prenups got regularly thrown out in court. They also don’t include child custody and child support. Child support can easily add up to 40% of your post tax income and if you are a man and fall behind you will be put in jail (and the child support will keep accruing while you’re in jail)

[@LagoLhn]

Marriage is a terrible financial mistake. Do not do it. Legally separate your assets if you pursue a long term relationship. Period.

[@thedoomslayer5863]

Sadly there's stupid laws that if you and the woman live under the same household for too long you will both be considered married.

[@Butyistherumgon]

⁠@@thedoomslayer5863Which is why “legally separate your assets” was specified. You can get a prenup & that’ll cover common law as well. Problem is good luck explaining to your gf that you want a prenup. It’s a perfectly mature & adult thing to do, but it’s probably rare that two people happily agree to do it.

[@Shandyboy8612]

@@thedoomslayer5863incorrect no such thing common misconception.

[@goofywill90]

What if you want kids or have children in common. Not saying children shouldn't be taken care of. But how does this affect it.

[@LagoLhn]

@ Have kids. Split your assets. But don’t get married unless you have a prenup. Greater than 50% of marriages fail. It’s basic math. You will be taken to the cleaners more often than not.

[@ayda4908]

People want a paper for their house, their car, their insurance but will make look awkward when someone wants a paper for their marriage which is the most important relationship you can have : because it involves your roof, your health, your money , your children, your safety , your work, your hobbies .... That,'s wild to not get a proper marriage when all these things are involved 😂😂

[@tuseemusic6269]

This guy has been through some shit

[@chair_smesh]

Lol

[@Cocolicious08758]

He's seen some sh*t

[@mjfraser04]

Yeah. He's a divorce lawyer.

[@Feuerbasis]

He's stating facts 56% failure rate - not counting the sexless, unhappy marriages

[@l.patrick2171]

Men lose too much when the woman changes her mind and wants a divorce. I don't blame guys for not wanting to get married for that simple fact alone.

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

@@l.patrick2171 Women lose too much when the man constantly hides his assets and does not declare them in the divorce!

[@jesseawenus1067]

@@PaulaSmith-c3r But they are, as you said, "his" assets... not hers..

[@maxP838]

@@PaulaSmith-c3rWomen hire forensic accountants to find every assets during a divorce, and get who pays for the forensic accountant… the husband (on top of paying for both lawyers). Why do you think so many women throw themselves at rich and successful men ? Marriage to a wealthy men is like winning the lottery for a woman in the US.

[@Rustle.76]

4:37 A risky statement since common law marriage is a fact in many jurisdictions in the US and Canada (particularly Canada). If you're raising children together in a committed relationship under one roof for multiple years, the courts could find you liable for the normal fallout of a divorce even if you aren't formally married. In that case, I think it's better off to have the relationship formalized legally (which could be marriage, but may just be a cohabitation agreement) along with all the responsible choices that may go with that (pre-nup, family accounting and financial planning) simply for the fact that if you do separate it leaves fewer questions for the courts to decide. I agree with him though that people get far too caught up in the emotional and irrational side of marriage, rather than see it for what it really is- a legal institution to manage flow of resources between two unrelated families. I don't think the real risk is marriage, per se, but rather choosing to live in a condition of naivety to your legal and financial exposure because you're afraid of having uncomfortable conversations.

[@taracmonroe]

I am worried for society without marriage. If marriage rates decline significantly we need many socializing programs and initiatives to keep people happy, healthy and connected. But I love being unmarried and more committed to things I enjoy like creative passions and hobbies 😊

[@oldskoolmusicnostalgia]

You are worrying for a potential decline... that has already happened? In 1960, over 50% of American adults lived as a married couple. This year it's less than 20%

[@Twin540i]

Getting married is the second most significant step in legal consequence only to death and the amount of time people comprehend that is less than the time spent picking the food option for the wedding

[@chevalliert]

Indeed. When people get only a civil wedding, there seems to be no preparation avout what it means to be in a marriage : do you want children ? Do you share the same education principles ? The same values in life overall ?... It is a shame and probably contribute to the 66% divorce rate quoted in this video 😢

[@dannwhitehead6193]

He is right. I can’t imagine hearing someone say why? When you announce you are getting married

[@valerie4912]

I met up with an ex this summer. We picked up right where we left off. It was a fun and exciting affair. Like we were dating again. I then found out he got married shortly after our last time together. I was devastated. Heartbroken. Angry. I asked him why he got married if he’s clearly not ready. His response was “I was thinking about my age and my future. I could see this woman taking care of me in my old age. I don’t want to die alone” I pointed out that nowhere in that response did he say it was because he loved her intensely and couldn’t imagine his life without her, and that she makes him be a better man etc… Please, don’t get married because you can imagine that person wiping your ass when you’re older!!

[@dodji582]

Your ex has a good reason actually.

[@dodji582]

The reasoning you pointed out is a bad idea for men😂

[@ERoss338]

@@dodji582I was coming to say the same thing. I will marry my girl because I think she is crazy enough to take care of me when I’m old

[@leannesampson3199]

Many older men do get married so they have a free nurse/carer in their old age.

[@manifest2203]

Mn are looking for a purse and a nurse when they are oldr. When they are yngr they look for smex, a purse, ma8id and k6ds.

[@leannesampson3199]

AMEN! ❤ This guy absolutely "nailed" it - and he has the insider vision of these matters as a divorce lawyer. Personally, I think people get married because they think that the other person is then (at the very least) "contractually bound" to them "until dead do us part". They also hope for an emotional commitment to them by the other person - "until death do us part". But, just having a marriage "contract" does not GUARANTEE one of ANY LIFETIME COMMITMENT!

[@SAFarmgirl]

I find that modern parents do not educate their children how to be a responsible disciplined adult through their own example, but rather how to be an adult child with no self discipline and no knowledge of how to have a positive impact on their communities. Therefore it is impossible for them to have a meaningful adult relationship in marriage

[@mjfraser04]

"Therefore"? You sure did make a giant leap there lol

[@Victor-it6bv]

For Toyota people, marriage is the right choice. For BMW people, it's the opposite. I'm pretty sure if you studied it, you find a higher rate of success among one group.

[@j.fuller]

What problem does marriage solve? That’s the question I ask myself.

[@georgedaviotis3016]

Women are conditioned to view men as providers and want a provider i.e a slave to work for them, provide for them and be responsible for them. That’s the problem it solves. Read the book The Manipulated Man

[@unicorn-glasses]

It makes things easier and more simple legally. If you have kids there are a bunch of ways it makes things legally more simple. If you don't, then there's stuff like health insurance, being entitled to your spouse's assets if they die and being able to have a say over medical decisions if they cannot make decisions themselves. The medical stuff is the only reason I want to get married. Like I can and have made medical decisions for my dad, but I couldn't for my boyfriend if he was in the same situation. That's pretty scary when you get older so it's just a good idea if, and only if, you are with someone who you fully trust to make the best decisions for you if you can't make them yourself.

[@ThePeacefulbutterfly]

As much as he has valid points, one main thing missing from this argument is that whether it's marriage or friendship, people need to learn to communicate better, treat one another better, and learn and be happy with themselves before engaging in such a manner with other people. Also, everyone needs a prenup bc the gov should not be involved in your finances when getting married. Each couple should determine what that looks like for them.

[@ThrifterGuy]

Prenups are not a reliable form of protection. Especially depending on where you live. In Canada where I live for example prenups get over turned all the time in family court. In the U.S every State is different but in California for example a prenup EXPIRES after 10 years and then its lifetime alimony regardless of what the prenup said. So yes a prenup is better than nothing but in all honesty marriage is not worth the risk. Been there done that got the t shirt. And literally and literally nothing else.

[@oldskoolmusicnostalgia]

And how do people learn these "communication" skills which are taught nowhere? It's not like everybody is innately wired to know how this works

[@ThrifterGuy]

@oldskoolmusicnostalgia The same way people learn anything. By actually studying. Different things help men than women. If your parents have never been divorced and they are still together it's a good start. Thats extremely rare nowadays because if people's parents are still together they fell out of love a long time ago usually. Thats why as strange as it sounds marrying for love is the worst odds of success. And I'll be 100% honest here. That destroys me to even say. But it's what I truly believe. Also social media destroyed the modern woman. So that's another really big thing. And before anyone says how? Because average women are treated like rock stars. Never mind the pretty ones. This is part of the reason women initiate divorce 80% of the time. So no I'll just keep my peace and stay single. Thank you very much.

[@katejoy5787]

😂 I love his blunt brutal honesty. As someone who got married a virgin to a virgin at 21 years old I wish someone had of asked me "why", before walking down the aisle. 7 years later we separated and I've never looked back. Life is more fun and fulfilling as a single in my personal experience 🎉❤

[@kathleenschaefer9023]

I adore James Sexton! He tells it like it is. I never want to marry but I have friends and sex and fun without it. I’m living my best life!

[@Andy_Tx]

I feel like this guy has been through a nasty divorce based on the passion he speaks with

[@mjfraser04]

He's a divorce lawyer. He has seen it all.

[@wedgeantillies9342]

Does not mean he is wrong

[@lak1294]

James getting hysterically passionate on how marriage is dangerous does give one pause. 😨 He's seen a lot of failures, and the statistics are what they are (can't magic them away). As much as we hope we're choosing the right person (and they us), *there are no guarantees*. You take it on faith and hope for the best. But continually assess the health of your marriage and be alive to any red flags that appear and persist.

[@heavybre]

Marriaging the wrong person or rushing into marriage is a mistake

[@DELTALORENA]

I totally agreed with James Sexton, I’m a married woman and I love to be a woman but I wish I’ve never ever married . Marriage is not the answer or solution to anyone’s life. . Go James 👏👏👏

[@taracmonroe]

“People’s sense of self dies in an unhappy marriage” …. Yikes! Sounds terrible.

[@joshnashofficial]

I think being a Christian and getting married is one thing, but if you’re an unbeliever and have a completely different belief system and goals, then marriage could be quite contradictory.

[@alexandergrey3119]

also I strongly believe people don't value words anymore, they just say it without meaning it and whatever fits the "now"

[@joshnashofficial]

@ agreed. I would add commitment to anything has been lost. Family, friends, jobs, etc. it seems that everything is temporal these days.

[@kstrubel9096]

This has proven true in our family.

[@stevenfrigo4635]

Good on this man for bringing some conscious intelligence to this world on this topic, about time we move out of the medieval times .

[@halfcentury1112]

love this guy - so accurate and as a matter of fact.

[@eddie4324]

There’s no way to know how you’ll feel about someone in 10 year.

[@mystarkiller1]

I think society as gotten so use to the stability that marriage brought to the social chaos of mankind that people belittle marriage now. Marriage is about value and principles love is important but feelings are fleeting. If we value family stability community legacy. We sit down and make marriage work bit its takes two to want it its about us not the self. Unfortunately despite so much accès to knowledge human tend to evolve and recant to old ways. That's why history is important and younger people should have open conversations often with elders even if they don't agree because most things aren't black and white. There's always good in old ways and some bad. We can make adjustments four the better but not outright reject everything and do the same mistakes

[@aross7431]

Marriage made sense when people lived until 40. Most men were married at 20 and stopped having kids around 30. The first half of the marriage was family life, the second was geriatric teamwork.

[@alvarani]

He makes many significant points and supports them with data. However, the way he speaks clearly reflects deep bitterness, frustration, and a lack of tranquility. His perspective doesn't seem to stem from compassion for couples who have experienced failed marriages or from genuine concern for those entering into the risky institution of marriage. This is my observation.

[@wheres_bears1378]

Bingo

[@VersionBest]

What? This makes no sense.

[@Victor-it6bv]

You never hear people who are in successful marriage talk like this.

[@leannesampson3199]

Well obviously not - it is the OTHER 50% - 70% of marriages that fail that have had the experience and "talk like this"

[@manifest2203]

@@leannesampson3199 I think the 50% also is because under 25, the mrrges have highest (48%) rate of fail6ure. Also age ga6ps. I think the same people are getting marr4ed twice or thrice and then getting dvorced. The ones who are marr5ied are somewhat happy.

[@KatrinaLeFrancois]

90% compatibility and 10% can be figured out.

[@SC-fk9nc]

The best way NOT to have sex is to get married or get involved in a monogamous long term relationship.

[@kstrubel9096]

I have never had a researcher ask my husband nor I for this kind of info. I wonder who actually researched this theory.

[@kstrubel9096]

And a relationship isn’t only about sex - that is part of the difference in our viewpoints.

[@durp_with_muk]

I like this guy 😂

[@JamesParus]

You could also ask that would you do lottery where you have 30% chance to live with person you love for the rest of your life. And you probably can make those odds little higher with more traditionally raised people.

[@eladhaham1014]

Love your podcasts, Please have Bryan Johnson

[@ElizabethWarrenYeahYeah]

The cultural climate at the time of my leaving school was most women were married by age 18 and the ones late to the altar at 21.

[@Ironstarfish]

A lot of self deletion from marriage though and the failure rate of being a woman's 2nd or 3rd husband is higher

[@FarEastAlpaca]

I've read a lot of comments struggling to separate the cultural side of marriage and the legal side. He's saying the legal side of things are messy, and hoping to find commitment and joy is dangerous when you realize it's all determined by a law that does not always protect you. He doesn't strike me as a cynical person because if you listen to the full interview, underneath his seemingly cynical viewpoint, his thinks of love as a beautiful thing but marriage as a form of societal covenant doesn't help upholding this ideal.

[@Thalanox]

It's been decades, and this idea is still only barely breaking in to the mainstream of the recent generations of "alternative" media channels. You're very far behind the times if this is a genuine question. It's like coming across someone trying to use leeches to treat something like scurvy in terms of how disconnected and bizarre this line of questioning it.

[@ericaldrich3692]

To a hammer everything looks like a nail. It's funny how he goes the entire clip without ever considering the possibility that you can change the probability of an outcome based on the attitude and effort that you put into the situation. People aren't victims to statistics.

[@italnkicbxr]

Listening to this makes me realize how much trouble I’m in

[@Cocolicious08758]

I agree with him 💯

[@TekapoSativa]

While I agree that marriage is out-dated and generally a risky bet. I think more emphasis should lie here on having kids. If you wish to have children, especially multiple children, that is the biggest risk you will take. The woman you choose to have children with, she will always be the mother of your children. Divorcing her won't change that. So I will argue that choosing the right person to have children with, is the most important decision and risk at the same time. And if you already made that decision, why not marry as well? As long as you protect yourself with a prenup, there's honestly not much difference between divorce, or just seperating if you have kids. In most countries in Europe, legally speaking, there is not too much differences. You also have to pay child alimony if you're not married

[@TekapoSativa]

Like, if I don't wish to have kids, I really won't ever get married. It doesn't make sense to me

[@ceeella7215]

Also pregnancy is a huge risk for women. Many women die giving birth. So husband's/partners should financially compensate women for carrying their children. I'd say 50 percent of what they would pay a surrogate.. and also cover half of all the things that surrogacy contracts cover (food, maternity clothes, medical appointments). Compensate the woman for the time she will have to miss from workz whole the husband keeps working. Compensate the woman for the changes to her body that cannot return to normal, and cover half of things like physical therapy for rips in the vagina/pelvic floor, gym memberships to get her body back as much as possible, therapy for postpartum depression, hair treatment for postpartum hair loss, radiofrequency micro needling and skin treatments for stretch marks and loose skin. Beyond that, there should be a fee for breastfeeding. And compensation for any medical complications resulting from the delivery. For how much more the mother stays awake with the babies overnight vs the dads. How much more the mother takes care of and feeds the babies vs the dad. Same thing for cleaning the house. Also who does repairs around the house? The man? Okay substract that. Who earns more? EQUALIZE it then. Put EVERYTHING that both people do in monetary terms. That way we see who is contributing what. You may realize you can't even afford to have a kid if you really had to pay for it. Not only that men often walk away from their kids and the mother is left doing most of the work and work a regular job (and sometimes same within the marriage). Really women need to be careful who they choose as men since theyre Risking their lives and their youth giving birth to potentially the wrong man's kid.

[@misskitty4901]

He's right🫠 but his delivery is a bit scary and dramatic

[@thedoomslayer5863]

Just pay attention to the words and ideas more and the way its delivered less. This is where people lose valuable knowledge.

[@mjfraser04]

As it should be. Marriage is scary and dramatic. Divorce is scary and dramatic.

[@DoubleA73]

If eeveyone thought like this we'd go extinct, theres a reason why religious societies that practiced monogamy, marriage and were encouraged to have children outlasted, surpassed and took over societies that didn't.

[@thedoomslayer5863]

If we're being real for a moment. Like actually genuinely real. Who cares about the period of time after you perish? You quite literally wont exist anymore. What occurs after is not even something you will know. So why would it matter if your specific group outlasts another group? Do the dinosaurs care about the current climate of Earth? No because they're dead. It'll be the same with you. This notion that things relating to you must persist after you cease to be is pointless.

[@kingkumkazithe2nd339]

Marriage is not the problem. It's unfit people for marriage that are the l problem Majority of people fail at exercising. Not because exercise is wrong, it's people being bad at it

[@missylks1239]

Well, as I’m sure he know, there’s a lot of legal bonds that come with marriage.Ex. If I get in a car accident and can’t make medical decisions and the doctor needs someone to make a medical choice, (legally) girlfriend 👎, wife 👍

[@sarahchungwithanaccent3388]

Is he married? Has he experienced parenthood? He is negative about marriage and negative about life. I am not sure if he is happy in his life. Just my observation ❤

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

No he's divorced ❤ he has kids too....well their grown up. I bet he's quiet for the dog 😁♥️

[@mauroronin8811]

He’s divorced and is a divorce lawyer… I’m sure he has seen and heard it all…

[@MakerBees333]

And this unhinged rant excludes the FACT his desired unmarried life relies and is built upon an international network of societies that are literally held together on a fundamental level by families and marriages. In other words there is not a single civilization that has lasted the test of time that didn’t embrace family and marriage. Denigration and dismissals of such a system is societal $uicide… But oh how lucky are we he is rich so he is now an expert 🤦‍♂️.

[@lightbrightconnect]

This is bordering on ad hominem. Don’t attack the person. Attack the argument. Any person getting married should ask “why”.

[@dodji582]

Marriage is an advantage for women

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

I nearly died from getting married.......i mean literally. He's probably right though....... I perhaps may have got out earlier if I was not married 😢😮

[@karimtabrizi376]

My marriage failed so i would incline to agree. Its bound up in tradition and money.

[@user-zy1co9hy9m]

I don’t believe in marriage. Marriage and love have been conflated and they are mutual.

[@cyclonicsquid4189]

Cynical and bitter, i hope he realizes it at some point.

[@georgiosf.1223]

Yes but what is the alternative if you want to start a family and have kids?

[@cvccvvcd34e]

i don't think he like marriage

[@Jacksonville5]

I like what this guy says but I think he’s getting too much views over KZbin. I think he’s one perspective but not the end all be all. I don’t necessarily agree with his overly jaded view.

[@Serahpin]

We need to roll back out laws by over a hundred years if we want to fix marriage.

[@bellascharfenstein]

when it works, its wonderful. you just have to pick the right partner and for the right reasons. obviously this guy hasn't had the type of relationship that gives life the most wonderful depth and fulfillment. marriage can bring authenticity, joy and freedom to be oneself. i feel sorry for you Mr Sexton

[@User-9x52q23-d]

Taking your love life advice from a bitter divorce lawyer may not be the best strategy.

[@Danny-bd1ch]

You can be in love without involving the govt.

[@Whatisyours]

You never know, he might soon become your lawyer 😅

[@Shandyboy8612]

Surely he knows about the pain and misery of breaking a marriage apart more than any one. 56% chance!

[@SantosdeMuerte]

@@Shandyboy8612 It's much higher than 56%. Many people are living together in defactor relationships and then break up so don't show up on the divorce statistics.

[@Shandyboy8612]

@@SantosdeMuerte yes mate agreed, I just don’t think pure monogamy is a rare thing these days and I think it’s getting harder. I think marriage was a beautiful thing but it just doesn’t work in the modern world. Break ups are hard enough without having to go through legal procedures.

[@manifest2203]

I think regarding the 50% dvorce rate is also because under 25, the mrrges have highest (48%) rate of fail6ure. Also age ga6ps. I think the same people are getting marr4ed twice or thrice and then getting dvorced. The ones who are marr5ied are somewhat happy. They achieve all their goals.

[@armorbearer9702]

Do women still dream of marrying mister right? I don't believe he mentioned that it is a woman's dream to get married as one of the reasons people get married.

[@SpenceCurry]

Asexuality is a blessing from the gods. Thanx fellas

[@no.5810]

Why does he shout? 🤷‍♀️😬

[@johngraves2417]

He's trying to get a simple point across to IDIOTS who keep making dumb decisions. Frustration is the answer

[@thedoomslayer5863]

​@@johngraves2417The irritation comes from someone seeing something blatantly obvious, expecting it to be obvious to others too but finding that it isn't. It's almost maddening when you see 1+1=2 but everyone else is seeing 1+1=4 and you have to try and explain to them why it isn't that.

[@bugra320]

Bc he is a lawyer

[@acs2735]

Miles from Intolerable Cruelty has to be based on Mr Sexton.

[@eddiebaby22]

It's an outdated institution

[@dmiariana]

Why is he screaming? People are kind of dumb, chill man.

[@mjfraser04]

Why do people get married? People are kind of dumb.

[@ricovalentino1759]

Just my opinion but I think marriage is a dated concept and for a man it’s a bad business deal.

[@kstrubel9096]

His viewpoint is not necessarily a view for everyone. He spends most of his days with marriages that are breaking and with people who aren’t succeeding. I wonder how his viewpoint would have developed over the years if he were able to spend as much time with those who have successful loving marriages of fulfillment. I am sad for him, and I hate for people to be influenced by his viewpoint. My husband and I love marriage - in spite of our imperfections.

[@VersionBest]

You are in the minority.

[@minuano08]

Yes !!

[@hellolittleflower]

I found it difficult to listen to the guest at times due to his loud voice. I know it's me. I dislike shouting. He certainly has a wealth of knowledge surrounding marriage that is for sure. But for me, his shouting at times during the interview, made it difficult for me to watch the entire interview. He is passionate to be sure in his convictions.

[@kstrubel9096]

He has a wealth of knowledge regarding divorce. I’m not sure he has much knowledge at all regarding marriage. JMO

[@Ljrocks76]

Boy hes a tad angry 😂 i wouldn't wanna marry him lmao 🤣🤣

[@user-zy1co9hy9m]

I would. He’d have a real understanding of why he’s getting married not just to appease me as a woman

[@mikethe1wheelnut]

...I haven't laughed so hard since..

[@ryb6463]

😬Bro has😊 seen’t some shit.

[@no.5810]

He's scary!

[@mememcguire1616]

James if people didn't get married you would have to change your job...lol

[@skhumalo3971]

For us Christians marriage is a beautiful institution created by God for His glory, for procreation, and for raising kids: “a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis‬ ‭2‬:‭24‬. “one flesh” is seen in the child born of that union, the one perfect result of the union of two. No better way to raise kids as within the confines of marriage where mom and dad are committed to each other “till death do us apart”, love and respect one another as the Bible teaches in Ephesians 5:22-31.

[@skhumalo3971]

⁠@@Chad_Max yes, copulation between a man and a woman which normally results in child birth. A child being an embodiment of “one flesh”. I don’t understand the point of your last statement, where did Paul say that?

[@skhumalo3971]

@@Chad_Max In the book of Thessalonians chapter 4 Paul is not implying that Jesus will come back in his lifetime. Paul was consoling the believers who thought that dead believers have missed the coming of the Lord. “we who are alive and remain until the coming of the Lord will by no means precede those who are asleep.” I Thessalonians‬ ‭4‬:‭15‬. In the following chapter 5:2, Paul clearly states that the day of the Lord will come as a thief at night meaning no one knows the day and time the Lord will come back. So no, Paul never implied that Jesus will come in his lifetime.

[@skhumalo3971]

@@Chad_MaxJesus Christ is not a myth, he is a historical figure who actually existed. Literature outside the Bible (I.e., Josephus) attests to his existence. He died and was resurrected after 3 days. His disciples and more than 500 people saw him after he was resurrected. Paul who previously killed Christians also saw him later on his way to Damascus. Most of his disciples died for their faith because they saw the risen Christ. Thomas touched his wounds. Peter who denied Jesus before his death stood boldly before Jewish authorities after he saw the risen Christ. “Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were uneducated, common men, they were astonished. And they recognized that they had been with Jesus.” Acts‬ ‭4‬:‭13‬. Jesus existence, His death and resurrection cannot be denied. Repent and believe in Him you will be saved.

[@skhumalo3971]

@@Chad_Max Jesus resurrection is not a myth, it did happen. Yes, it’s scientifically impossible but with God all things are possible. Jesus raised a number of people from the dead in his lifetime, so He had power over death. Furthermore, the disciples change of behavior after the resurrection - their boldness and willingness to die for Jesus attests to something drastic that changed their behavior from being timid Jesus’ followers to boldly start a Christian movement that has made such a profound impact on our world. Also, how else would you explain empty tomb? Lets look at possible explanations: 1. Jesus didn’t really die on the cross. - Pilate verified he died. - During the lifetime of the eyewitnesses no one disputes his death. - Secular and contemporary historians, Lucian, Josephus, and Tacitus cite his death as factual. 2. Jesus’ body was stolen. -tomb belonged to a well known person Joseph of Arimatheu, located in an identifiable place. -Roman soldiers were well trained and feared failure in any way 3. The disciples were hallucinating. -“Hallucinations are individual occurrences. By their very nature, only one person can see a given hallucination at a time. They certainly aren’t something which can be seen by a group of people (more than 500 people) 4. It really happened. -soldiers account of Jesus resurrection -Jesus raised a number of people in the Bible, He had already proven to have power over death! So yeah all possibilities point to the resurrected Jesus. Burden of proof is now on you and other detractors to produce Jesus body and then it’s over with Christianity.

[@skhumalo3971]

@@Chad_Max Jesus resurrection is not a myth, it did happen. Yes it’s scientifically impossible but with God all things are possible. The disciples change of behavior after the resurrection - their boldness and willingness to die for Jesus - clearly something drastic happened that changed timid Jesus’ followers to boldly start a Christian movement that has made such a profound impact on our world. How else would you explain empty tomb? Lets look at possible explanations: 1. Jesus didn’t really die on the cross. - Pilate verified he died. - During the lifetime of the eyewitnesses no one disputes his death. - Secular and contemporary historians, Lucian, Josephus, and Tacitus cite his death as factual. 2. Jesus’ body was stolen. - tomb belonged to a well known person Joseph of Arimatheu, located in an identifiable place. - Roman soldiers were well trained and feared failure in any way 3. The disciples were hallucinating. - Hallucinations are individual occurrences. By their very nature, only one person can see a given hallucination at a time. They certainly aren’t something which can be seen by a group of people (more than 500 people) 4. It really happened. - soldiers account of Jesus resurrection - Jesus raised a number of people in the Bible, He had already proven to have power over death! So yeah all possibilities point to Jesus resurrection as truth. Burden of proof is on you and other detractors to prove otherwise.

[@muma6559]

why? Because people want commitment

[@trevoryingwane5714]

I wonder if the lawyer is married. Otherwise, I understand why he is a divorce lawyer. Oh, let me help you week the ship.

[@LisaWelleditsch]

Honestly, he seems very broken

[@Jacksonville5]

Get a prenup and marry your love. Don’t listen to this guy too much. Life is worth living. A good partner is a force multiplier

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

God he's loud...........he reminds me of my ex husband 😊😊😊😊😊

[@miyoutube1067]

Does that lawyer have a book?

[@karenjones341]

Why is he shouting 😂

[@asdzxc4167]

4 me, yes.

[@justinsmith4246]

James must've had a really bad case in between his last visit to the channel..

[@melodym5993]

He seems extremely angry.

[@melodym5993]

@Chad_Max good advocate for what?

[@melodym5993]

@@Chad_Max He also referenced his hatred of some of the douchebags he had represented. For that, I commend him. It's often difficult to see through liars, time waster, child buggerers, druggies, drunks, rapists, drug pushers, perverts preaching piety, cold hearted preaching compassion, etc.

[@melodym5993]

@@Chad_Max what exactly is stunad? Slang???

[@melodym5993]

Oh sorry, looked through your cam and saw it tattooed on your forehead. My deepest apologies.

[@tootituu]

Sexton means sixteen in swedish.

[@tanyamcfarlane2732]

Commitment issues - clearly- wow arrogant - marriage take the most hardest work - he doesn’t want to work for success in a marriage

[@thedoomslayer5863]

He's a divorce lawyer if i recall. So he has seen many fail up close. And as a man he knows when it does the man always loses the hardest.

[@georgedaviotis3016]

80% of divorces are initiated by women and men being natural fighters and protectors will fight for a marriage and compromise their own fulfilment for a marriage. What on earth are you talking about?

[@justicemoody]

💯

[@shazj1842]

Why is he screaming?

[@feelthugroove1]

This guy is a laughing joke and marriage serves only one purpose, and that is to serve God to glorify him and He will bless you. Everybody’s getting married as this guy is talking about because they were looking at it from a worldly perspective and of course, the worldly perspective if you see the way it’s going today is going to fail. Hence that is why marriage is failed that are not based on godly principles

[@mercedezlucke-benedict1122]

Possibly having a man talking about how it's better to be divorced isn't the best thing for our country. We need men and women to start being better husbands and wives. That's what we need. They need to be better to each other and hold up the responsibilities of what it means to be a husband and what it means to be a wife and we need to have our American family back Supporting divorce OK it's not a good thing.

[@thedoomslayer5863]

It doesn't bode well for the country yes but he's merely speaking about the harsh reality as it stands currently. And as it stands currently no man should seek marriage it is a losing game.

[@kstrubel9096]

No man should seek marriage is quite the statement. I definitely disagree with that statement. I have seen many fabulous marriages and strong families. Getting counterfeit money won’t keep me from valuing real currency. Seeing divorce doesn’t make me avoid marriage, it makes me cautious about the decision to commit. Thankfully we committed. Still going strong 30 years later.

[@VersionBest]

You didn't watch the full video did you? Otherwise you would know he is not an advocate for divorce. I've read a lot of comments of people misinterpreting what he said and putting their own spin on it. Don't do that!

[@thejass]

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