Is SEX The BIGGEST Reason We Get DIVORCED...? | The Divorce Expert James Sexton

[@TheDiaryOfACEOClips]

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[@Portia620]

He is very perceptive too! WOW! Great attorney and horrible human being! Yikes

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've found out that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort them out. It was a tough period, but we survived.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

I promise you will not regret it.

[@phathuneluvhada4668]

Congratulations to be able to keep your marriage!!! Once a woman said she want a divorce, mostly it's done deal

[@MichaelHarper-xw8tk]

I could listen to this guy all day. Bright, articulate, animated and passionate about his purpose in life.

[@JVus]

When people divorce, it's always such a tragedy. At the same time, if people stay together it can be even worse.

[@likearollingstone007]

Or they can communicate and work at it. It should be the first thing that comes to mind for those to choose marriage, but for some reasons it’s often “forgotten”

[@BossItUp911]

it is not necessarily a tragedy at all. people form relationships so they can get what they want. and they exit them when they are no longer getting what they want. loyalty is a good virtue. but so is accountability and performance to figure out what your partner is looking for and try your best to deliver.

[@floyd27860]

WORD

[@marciebaker9816]

Maybe because they should have never been married, the marriage was the real tragedy

[@axl1002]

We don't divorce because of sex, we divorce because of lack of sex.

[@mhib]

Because when a woman loves a man she responds sexually to him. When she stops responding we inherently know there's a problem.

[@sallybyrd3712]

No, it is not the lack of sex at all; it is because the sex is mechanical and lousy.

[@axl1002]

@@sallybyrd3712 It's mechanical and lousy because you don't thirst your partner, it's up to you to live the experience with the quality you want, you enjoy in s3x the giving, not the taking. You can't enjoy it because you can't give, because you are empty.

[@island661]

​@@axl1002 You're projecting 😂

[@axl1002]

@@island661 nope, you are deflecting "😂"

[@TaoWeitzer]

A paid professional story teller… honest answer

[@timkellyD2R]

The best trial lawyers are exactly that.

[@chesshooligan1282]

"A manipulator," he also said.

[@afromarco005]

I wouldnt wish a Sexless relationship to my worst ennemy

[@acornsucks2111]

Why not?

[@SantosdeMuerte]

@@acornsucks2111because it is absolutely horrible.

[@leigh7507]

laughs in asexual

[@RJT-hp8vk]

It destroys a man’s soul

[@eyekandy3000]

@@RJT-hp8vkwhy is my husband choosing to stay in a sexless relationship? I’m trying to leave he keeps trying to make it work and complain. Wish he’d agree to split up

[@hablabamosa]

"My job is to manipulate everybody's emotional state" - Brutal.

[@ianleary5780]

Agreed. That's our justice system.

[@michellee8369]

Humanity has lost loyalty over impulse

[@ltcajh]

Fallout from chucking church and God.

[@annjohnson4061]

@@ltcajh your right the church has ALL the sex. Especially with children.

[@mroushion]

We have 304s giving marriage advice, and divorce lawyers giving relationship advice. This is the time we live in

[@TGP109]

Lol, yeah, but I think Sexton has sex on the brain. He puts the cart before the horse-it's more likely that the relationship went downhill first, which affected the sex.

[@wbtittle]

@@TGP109 Sexton is doing EVERYTHING he can to point at what he is seeing. He doesn't have sex on the brain other than pointing at what many other people have pointed at.

[@annjohnson4061]

@@wbtittle agree on the first part. he was asked about sex so he answered. it doesn't mean he has it on the brain, agree. But he is talking about the act of sex. He doesn't talk about what lead to it, Like TGP109 said the relationship went first. Most men only want to give affection when they want sex. That starts to damage a relationship.

[@wbtittle]

@@annjohnson4061 Sorry. You didn't listen to him. You heard just the part you wanted to and then ignored everything else. There is a joke. --- Women lists the 10,000 things she needs from a man... Man says "show up naked with beer"... Beer is optional... The man will strive to hit a lot of her needs. Very soon.. Like 36 months into the relationship, women will find the his misses reason to never get close to the only thing she needs to do to keep him around... My apologies.. If you ever lived in the same town as a former female vice presidential candidate.. your name is dangerously close to someone I am not supposed to talk to.

[@wbtittle]

​@@annjohnson4061 And HOLY tamales does he keep trying to point at ALL the things that go sideways in marriage. He keeps pointing at the potential problem he has with being the end point of relationships coloring his viewpoint. See Bettina Arndt: "The Sex Diaries". See the several Ted Talks by women about sex in marriage. Look at the statistics on divorce and who initiates. There is a tap dance. The fundamental nature of this tap dance is that men DO NOT hold women accountable. The Red Pill content out here is ripe for a women to glean all this from. Few figure it out. If they do they get trashed. It is very hard for women to realize that the ultimate form of oppression is being helped.

[@SPQRxUSAxNUSA]

THIS MAN should be a comedian, because it's SO EFFING FUNNY and TRUE when HE drops the line: -Marriage, IS LIKE OWNING A LION!!!" - - I'M A CHAINSAW! J. Sexton

[@taras3702]

Sex, or the lack thereof motivate men to leave.

[@GenRN]

I’m a woman that left my husband after 10 years of no sex in a 20 year marriage. It goes both ways.

[@taras3702]

@@GenRN I don't blame you either for leaving. If one is to be celibate not by his or her choice, better to be celibate while single than within a dead bedroom marriage. That is a situation that people can and should correct, one way or another.

[@GenRN]

@@taras3702 it was soo hard and about destroyed my self esteem but I couldn’t take it anymore. But I did get re-married ❤️.

[@taras3702]

@@GenRN I hope he treats you much better than your ex. I never remarried after leaving my ex-wife.

[@GenRN]

@@taras3702 he does. I still miss my old life and being an intact family but I was losing myself.

[@annaholden2406]

Your total raw honesty is completely appreciated & attractive. Thank you for sharing your experiences and knowledge 🙏

[@jesst9473]

The biggest problem that we are not talking about is the damage that porn addiction and oversexualized social media that causes alot of disconnect in relationships. The energy that is used in porn and all these sexualized photos is being directed to the wrong person, leaving leftover crumbs for their partners. Women don't want leftovers...they feel it unconsciously. We need to correct this programming. It's causing a lot of issues in relationships.

[@theholistic360coach]

💯

[@Jase_TV]

100% agree

[@typorter-pp6lh]

Be careful about putting all the blame on men. I suspect many men turn to porn because the sex is already lacking in the relationship. Turning to porn doesn’t help, but it may not be the CAUSE.

[@SkinnyMane804]

I agree with the social media part but I believe it goes both ways not just men. Porn in a way cause it makes me wanna do some of the things that I see porn stars do 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@WeeScot]

Yup, left a man because is porn addicition was so bad that he would rather watch it than do it.

[@katrinaemily6601]

It’s the glue. It’s the connection. Take away the word sex. It’s the connection.

[@williamgithuku7977]

When the connection goes the sex is automatically gone because you're in a long term relationship not for just sex, people forget that intimacy has a lot of emotions in it and that's key to a healthy relationship. It's the things that are taken lightly that break up the connection thus lack of emotion towards the other

[@megja1812]

No it’s not the glue, sex always goes and people rely on it for glue hence the divorce. Those who don’t rely on sex as glue then they don’t divide.

[@teresamagnusson]

So, let's just have an emotional connection. No need for the physical stuff.

[@margotdsouza1189]

Firstly, I have watched several podcasts with James Sexton to date and overall agree with his analysis. I have been married for close to 40 years. my spouse had an affair the second year of our marriage then eleven years later when I was pregnant with our first child. Both times we were actively intimate with no apparent issues. I am a realist. I think it was his character flaw and not a reflection of some sort of sexual need not met. My concern is that James is giving the message that if only women would satisfy their partner sexually, then that partner would not stray. I do not buy it. I think some men have developed a lifestyle of many different sexual partners prior to marriage, then when they get married, probably struggle with maintaining one partner either because the physical relationship is not varied enough or he is always looking for the new shiny thing. James should be honest enough to acknowledge that men lack character and we are too willing as a society to excuse it. If either a man or a woman makes a marriage commitment, that usually includes exclusivity unless both partners agree otherwise. An affair is a huge violation of trust and demonstrates self-centered behavior at the cost of their primary relationship, which is contrary to a committed relationship if the choice hurts the partner. James needs to call men or women out on this behavior rather than justify it as some sort of sexual dissatisfaction. Unfortunately women now cheat as much as men. Has it helped or hindered? Two wrongs do not make a right. I admire his legal arguments and support for prenuptial agreements. I also think there is a bit of disconnect with the realities of what women sacrifice-bearing the children, possibly deferring their career for their spouse in order to raise the children and simply satisfying a man’s physical needs is an oversimplification of what men should expect. I am 61 years old. My generation expected women to be a full-time mother while also having a career. Men of my generation have had difficulty with a wife who had more education or earned more. Very few men ever offered to takeover the caretaking role at home while the wife was the main breadwinner. Women as a result had to either do both or deal with a spouse who wanted them to be the traditional wife role at home. I was in law enforcement and chose to back step in order to be a mother and support my spouse’s career only after I found myself pregnant and my husband abandoned me, which is not unusual unfortunately. I paid a huge financial price to prioritize parenthood, especially given that my spouse chose to have an affair at that time. That was 26 years ago, but to this day, I often wonder how the laws need to protect the parent willing to prioritize the needs of their children over career advancement. I will never be compensated for it but I should be. Men are so quick to complain about how the divorce process favors women but they do not acknowledge that statistically women are far more likely to bear the burden of the majority of parenting responsibilities which in turn greatly impacts their career choices. With all due respect James, women deserve to be treated as more than just a sexual partner that has to keep their spouse satisfied. It is degrading to say if she just gave more blow jobs, he would not stray. I think it Gomes down to character. If both partners truly respect each other, affairs would not happen. If your mother had a stroke tomorrow, would you expect your father to divorce her because she could no longer satisfy him sexually? It is a sad reflection on society if all comes down to how well you perform in bed!!!

[@sertaoexpedicoes]

Thanks for your wise words. Sex is big issue, no doubt, but you're right on every word you say.

[@FamiliadeJesusCristo7]

@SkinnyMane804 sabia que as estrelas pornôs VOMITAM- SE DROGAM- FICAM bêbadas para conseguir se prostituir nos filmes? E quem vê estes filmes é cúmplice ou proxeneta e causa delas irem pro inferno!😥😥😥

[@fuegotalk101]

Your situation is an exception.

[@TheLovinjourney]

The missing element is spirituality. Not one word mentioned about God. Sad world indeed.

[@Ready4smog]

Exeption to the rule lady.

[@littlebird4515]

Married over 30 years to a spouse who can be thoughtful and generous one day, and abusive and full of hate the next - with no warning or explanation as to why. Honestly, if there was a prenup, there is a good chance I would have thrown the towel in already. Regarding the impermanence of the beings we love, take heed of Mr. Sexton's words. Not only did the man I love all but disappear, my wonderful, talented, compassionate, healthy son died unexpectedly. There is nothing like losing a child to have rug pulled out from under the way you thought things might be and how much time you might have with someone you love.

[@TGP109]

SO sorry for your loss.

[@fifidefreitas1045]

Wow, thank you for sharing this with us❤

[@gregorylyon1004]

It sucks to be you. Get a divorce would be my advice

[@sherirottweilersforever7772]

I’m horribly sorry that happened to you. My son was 22 when he drowned 14 years ago. My husband and I have been married 40 years and going through that hard experience has brought us closer to God and each other. If your character doesn’t grow through hard times it’s not good.

[@Lambdamale.]

😢 sorry.

[@TaoWeitzer]

Sex is not what breaks up a marriage… if it was that simple then no one would be married. Loneliness is the biggest issue with separation. One partner becomes more unfulfilled and then creates the void that they won’t go back on

[@likearollingstone007]

The contempt is rampant

[@lesworks]

If one truly drills down, it comes down to honesty.

[@RJT-hp8vk]

Best way or most common cause if male loneliness in marriage is lack of respect, lack of appreciation and those are tied to or lead to lack of sex or no sex or denial of sex to the husband. It’s pretty simple.

[@annabanzon313]

Effort is everything so take a look in the mirror when it comes to the money, time and research you invest into your marriage.

[@BlissfulNMindful]

Starting @ 5:10 - 6:05 ✨ And that’s the reason why self-analysis is so vital. He knows himself super well! How beautiful. 💙 It’s his passion for me! 🔥

[@danpepperell5692]

This man is confrontingly honest about his role as being a manipulator and about the reasons marriages break down. I thank him for that.

[@ericcriteser4001]

My ex wife was impregnated by her Chad in HS. She aborted. We met years later, but she never got over what she did. We were together for eight years, married for four. She ran back to the dude after her mom died. Emotionally damaged girl and I didn't know what that was at that point. She married the dude (who already had two kids by then) and then he cheated on her and had another kid. Now she's on her third marriage. This isn't your fault guys. They don't know what they want, let alone how to express it. Choose wisely.

[@psi23k]

😂😂 I love stories that have a happy ending.

[@Lambdamale.]

We divorce because we marry wrong. Some people end it quickly and others live in misery for years before it inevitably ends. Most people ive seen get married and then divorce....i saw the red flags before they ever said "i do". These people had no business getting married. That nanny analysis is pretty good.

[@doloresreichhardt1485]

My daughter used to tell me about her best friend's boyfriend and how her friend hated him. One day my daughter told me her friend and the boyfriend she hates were getting married. I asked does she still hate him. My daughter said yeah, but she's marrying him anyway. Anyway, they've been married for over 10 years and are still married. As far as I know, there have been no problems. Stories like this make me think we are living in a clown world matrix.

[@Patrick-s1c4p]

​@@doloresreichhardt1485hahahahaahha. She wanted security and didn't care if she liked him or not; many women think this way

[@phillynurse9492]

Great interview he is very keen, informative and refreshingly honest!

[@watchWorld100]

Very bad. That lawyer is a narcissist, hence obnoxious and self-deceived.

[@Ironstarfish]

The w9man keeps denying the initiation of sex from men and over time the men give up trying to initiate it. Then the woman wonders why the man no longer pursues her.

[@blueravenchick]

We want to be more than a bangmaid sir. Do you pursue her for more than sex?

[@aprilshowers769]

And they both don't discuss why she really doesn't want it from him in particular.

[@malekkushimuzik3580]

​@@aprilshowers769 There is nothing to discuss. It is her body, her choice. Men simply shouldn't commit. Sexless relationships ARE NOT relationships, period.

[@aprilshowers769]

@@malekkushimuzik3580 if shes married to a man and dosent want him sexually, at least tell him. Like hey buddy your ugly you dont turn me on so he can move on. Theres plenty to discuss if your married. Then move on

[@TGP109]

It depends on the people involved, it's not as black and white as it's painted.

[@normanddrapeau5491]

Mature women have no more sex drive and do not make any effort to understand male sexuality generating lots of frustrations and eventually divorce

[@watchmanexpert]

That is why I divorced

[@joshuamancarter]

This. Nobody gets married to be forced into celibacy til death due you part.

[@TGP109]

Humans have never lived longer than now and most of the advancements in human lifespan have occurred since 1900 with anti-biotics, clean water and proper sewerage. Human weren't meant to have sex until their 60's, 70's and 80's. Women go through menopause for a reason-because nature deems it stupid to keep having sex when nothing will come from it. Don't blame either sex, blame biology.

[@RJT-hp8vk]

True and a root cause of so much husband unhappiness. No one wants to be forced into anything. However, once a man marries he looses ALL leverage in the relationship. Just like a wife doesn’t want to feel obligated to offer up sex in marriage men don’t want to feel obligated to be a walking ATM machine. Life is transactional. Women need to wake up and stop the baloney. It’s not too much to ask for .

[@rosejacks8662]

You can't assume all mature women don't want sex. I am 66 year's old and physically fit. My husband and I have been married for 45 years. We have a very nice sex life. We treat each other like boyfriend and girlfriend.❤

[@lisao6928]

Sex isn't important to women? What??!!! That's not true for most women. I have met a few, but most women find sex important. It's just important in a different way than men.

[@GBU61]

Then why is it that so many women are the ones who are refusing their husbands?

[@Meditations2024]

7:02 That's the heart of this video. As a man, I'd suggest men need to change our attitudes a little and to expect some compromise in return. We need to *provide good sex,* and that takes communication and commitment. In return, it is reasonable to expect the quantity, although perhaps fully up to what we're capable of, to be enough to satisfy us the way we're satisfying them. Not every man and not every women's expectation are the same.

[@mollym9812]

Is there a clip when he was talking about crying at sunsets and the power of recognizing the beautiful moments!? I woke up at 2 AM and that was playing. on my TV and I started crying with my dog next to me as what he was saying was so profound.

[@faithbaker8259]

I am married to i believe a covert narcissists & he in his early 40s got on blood pressure medication & cannot have sex anymore but blames me for not having any sex anymore but he blames me still do painful thank you for great interview .

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Did you try, initiate?

[@yassfitlife]

You should invited Esther perel with him ! Two professional in cheating cases

[@samanthagaboo5610]

Hey guy, everybody gives him a platform. I'm not married etc. So I don't have anything to lose or gain but, I understand he's a divorce lawyer. His background though, he suffered through a lot of trauma which I feel paints a lot of what he says. I can't remember where, but he talked about growing up and volunteering at hospice etc. He just doesn't come off as someone that seeks out happiness to me.

[@oliviawick1201]

Yes! And do you notice he makes a point to show his tattoos? It seems intentional. You nailed the belly of the beast for sure!!

[@TGP109]

@@oliviawick1201 Yeah, little wonder Rollo Tomassi has him on-he's a shyster.

[@theodosios2615]

I'm still trying to figure out how being a divorce lawyer qualifies him to be an expert on marriage.

[@maloxi1472]

@@theodosios2615 The title of the video literally includes "The Divorce Expert" 🤦‍♂

[@nikko.lottsahcocc6917]

@@theodosios2615 LoL you think people on the internet are "experts" in a particular field simply because they work or study that field or even just looked into it via Google.. The young generation is becoming remedial and the internet is playing a major role.. ironically

[@nathanbutcher7720]

Women have a lot of trouble communicating that they want to be desired. They feel that they shouldn't have to ask. They expect their partners to know it, to want it, and initiate it The only way that many women have found to communicate this longing to be desired is to argue with their husbands/partners, and many men don't "get it". The worst thing a man can do is misinterpret this as hate or anger - because that's when a marriage will unravel. A woman that wants desire and gets hate in return is when she will snap. Basically it comes down to being straightforward about what you want and talking honestly. Men are guilty of this too, but in different ways.

[@TransgirlsEnjoyer]

yeah she will prefer to play her games rather than speak up, like will act close with male friends to entice the attention of other guy, which is just stupid and does backfire in many cases as it should

[@ltcajh]

You “feel” men should know this? You need to learn how men think. Communication isn’t needed?

[@nathanbutcher7720]

@@ltcajh I am a man, teaching you how to spot what's going on so you can understand it if/when that ever happens to you. That way you can handle it maturely instead of being an angry man child

[@misskeah8893]

You're somewhat correct. Women who are aware of their lack of communication skills seeks help via use of therapy or counseling. MAJORITY of the time When a woman suggests couples counseling with her partner he in turn refuses or rejects. So with that said, PLEASE FOCUS on MEN and encourage men to not reject their partners request for counseling when their partner is trying to seek outside help and work on the issues in the relationship.

[@mhib]

​@@misskeah8893unfortunately, many counselors are slanted towards blaming the man.

[@GenRN]

I was married 20 years. The last 10 were essentially sexless. Like I could count the number of times on 2 hands. I’m a woman. I gave up my career to raise 3 kids. I think he lost respect for me. There was nothing as lonely as sleeping next to someone that didn’t want to touch me for 10 years. I ended up having an affair with a man 20 years younger. It started off as an emotional affair and I told my husband. He said he totally understood and didn’t even blame me. By the time he woke up from his relationship stupor, I was already gone after 23 years together.

[@Jaesingh]

That’s horrible. He may have had health issues or been depressed. It’s really messed up that you did. You should feel ashamed and if anything happens to him, that’s on you. 😢

[@GenRN]

@@Jaesingh I’m a nurse and I definitely made him go to the doctor to get a full check up. Hormone levels. He wouldn’t discuss with me but insisted everything was perfectly normal. I asked many times if maybe he was gay to the point that he said that he felt that I maybe wished he was gay. I went to 6 different therapists trying to get him to go. He went to one appointment and when we scheduled our 2nd appointment, he was too busy to come and never rescheduled. I turned over every stone. I lost 30 pounds, he wouldn’t even compliment me on my success when goaded to do so by a friend. So I went to therapy alone and after 2 months it was clear that I needed to leave. I also read every relationship book I could find. I told him he was losing me. He chose this. If he’d offer me crumbs I’d have taken them. He is a deeply good man but I think he chose his career over me and our relationship. He no longer had the bandwidth to be in a fulfilling marriage. Life is too short to live in a sexless and disconnected marriage if that isn’t something you want after you have tried everything in your power.

[@joshuamancarter]

​@@JaesinghWhat's horrible is she was in a sexless marriage for the last 10 years of it, regardless of the reason.

[@amyself8008]

@@Jaesinghjudge much? SMH

[@Jaesingh]

⁠@@amyself8008 having an affair is immoral. No judgement needed, it’s common sense

[@asalane20]

This guy is so intense- and oh the ego !! Some good insights tho

[@billpetersen298]

These conversations about relationship-marriage. Always assume, a reasonable sexual connection, at the beginning of a relationship? Sometimes one party, is never able to get past, their childhood trauma.

[@avad9300]

The problem with intellectualising everything and making every aspect of our humanity compartmentalised to a price tag.

[@pola2216]

I thought that a healthy romantic relationship should begin as a platonic friendship, and then, gradually lead to romantic engagement and finally-a marriage. This way, when your spouse is sick or is going through some difficulties, we still view them as our friend, a person dear to our heart and not only an object to satisfy the fisical needs. Am I a crazy one in here? Or this lawyer is a particularly shallow one?

[@blueglassog3600]

Sounds like you are a nice person who met another decent person. Congratulations

[@pola2216]

@@blueglassog3600I haven't found him yet, but I have a sisters, a cousin and even some girlfriends who got to know their boyfriends/husbands this way and they are very happy. I wouldn't like it any other way as I won't sacrifice my values for a man. I trust in God's timing🕊️although it is possible that it isn't my calling to form a family if I haven't found a good man yet.

[@GenRN]

I think that is a good idea but I’d have to have a high level of sexual chemistry.

[@tjtessa8158]

Nuh both of you are crazy...

[@LG_Xclnt]

You are not crazy, however if you marry your best friend, please remember he or she is your spouse FIRST and then your friend. Don't ignore the responsibilities/demands of marriage to make a successful marriage. Otherwise remain exclusively just friends.

[@JoeBrown-bt4qg]

Sex is the biggest reason we get married!

[@taras3702]

The lack thereof is one of the biggest reasons for divorce.

[@mattorama]

Getting married for the sex is like buying an airliner for the in flight food. Not an original quote.

[@noticing33]

Not anymore, sex is done before marriage nowadays

[@Lambdamale.]

Yup. The availability.

[@joshuamancarter]

​@@noticing33Thank God, because you sure ain't going to get any in the marriage.

[@cloudslady3400]

One of the best men I’ve ever loved was a special guy who believed no commitment required equals no sex asked given or taken which means eternal peace..he loathed the public opinion of intimacy so badly I always wondered how could he be the only man alive that considered meeting me and talking and being there long term for each other all he wanted ! I waited till he cheats on me but he didn’t…which made things even more weird I broke up with him cause I wanted a child I was terrified of never being a mom with him..but god knows he was perfection..and that type of relationship could of lasted for all my lifetime…he was right don’t ask a man to commit don’t ask a woman to give sex and you have your forever

[@roses6564]

"I'm questionable as a human being but I'm great as a lawyer." He's adorable.

[@MarinaKhachaturian-d1e]

👏🏻 bravo: understand and express what one wants

[@rebeccamiller1741]

My fella went without for 15 yrs from birth of his son unril he cane to me ... 15 flippin years .. the curse of the FRIGID WIFE !!

[@patrickprendergast9589]

tell me more

[@daviddriedger3244]

On the quantity or quality of sex, 100% has to be quality, frequency if it's just meh... I'd rather not have it

[@rogerthornhill1491]

That must be just you then? I know plenty of men that after a long day would just like to throw one into the wife and fall asleep. Quality is lowdown on the list. Doesn’t mean it can’t happen every now and again. But sometimes you just need natures own sleeping pill.

[@christys.3912]

If you expect quality all the time, don't get married. There is this thing called life... tends to get in the way of quality in just about all aspects of life.

[@lilibethvilella]

Published a book on finding true WHOLENESS after divorce called “THE SUN ALWAYS PIERCES THROUGH”

[@mactireliath2356]

That’s a real MF right there. Wow, like a splash of cold water in the soul area

[@steverapos3904]

Women divorce the most though...

[@jedilady4485]

Great sex and a true holistic connection makes a marriage or partnership work!

[@marktapley7571]

Typically after a while the wife does not won’t to have sex and the husband becomes sexually frustrated and lonely from lose of intimacy. The wife will often not age very well an so there is also loss of attractiveness. There are only two options at that point. Get a divorce and lose at least half of your stuff that you have spent years working for or just keep going.

[@mskatefish]

… and men all age like George Clooney do they?

[@likearollingstone007]

@@mskatefishi know i am 😂

[@MisterTwo-40SX]

If a man has realistic expectations and a woman does not completely give up on her body, there’s no reason attraction should be lost. A man should also strive to keep in good shape, for many reasons, including, but certainly not limited to holding his wife’s attraction.

[@tmhwriter]

You are an American. I know that because you didn't indicate a third option: Stay married and take a mistress

[@MisterTwo-40SX]

@@tmhwriter lol. Yeah, there’s two things about that. Number one, most of us commenting here actually like and miss our spouse and don’t really desire to seek out someone else. More practically, divorce is extremely costly and infidelity is grounds for divorce as far as I know anywhere in the US. Taking action like leaves an awful lot to chance.

[@aixawelborn6630]

I think women ask for divorce because lack of intimacy, not sex. Intimacy is the part of your life that you and your partner share those moments that only belong to you two.

[@indiefilmmillennial8338]

I totally agree. I’ll also add when men say that word, the first thing that comes to mind is the physical part, but the emotional connection is just as, maybe more important.

[@staLkerhu]

Could you please explain this a little bit better? Sorry, but what the F do you mean by LACK of intimacy? Men tell their bedroom experience and their moments with their spouses to others, or what? I seriously have no idea and I'm all ears!

[@Happy-I-Am-]

Nice self analysis by this guy 😎👍

[@oliviamyers4401]

Excellent advice .

[@Watusifarm]

My ex wife was giving sex to lots of different men😂. But I had to beg. I never cheated on her. Her problem is she’s entitled as holy hell. Her world revolves around how SHE feels. That’s the problem.

[@cornstar1253]

She had more options than you. Which is usually the case.

[@fifitavesela]

I think i love him!

[@Lambdamale.]

Lol when he said he wasn't sure how good of a human being he is, you ought to believe him.

[@7S5y3X.0th]

Some people bring up porn addition. Really? Its like saying having access to food all the time is the problem why you dont like starving. No. Porn is a tool needed to get that relief when your partner does not fulfill her role. If anything if I would not have porn i would just cheat, i would have to get my relief somewhere.

[@mikeostrander5406]

Unfortunately, this guy is spot on.

[@Trapicidal]

You will never find the right /perfect person you can only build the right/ perfect relationship

[@carlel121]

No, I didn’t have problem with sex, I had problems with his ways to conduct his life, his body, very unorganized, without directions, and unstable with money, it was like that his whole life and I thought we weren’t going anywhere so I left him,

[@TheHouseOfRonin]

You cant pick quality males to be with. Start with that then move forward.

[@80sgirlwhamduran]

If woman aren't wanting to have as much sex, is the question asked; why? Maybe they are burnt out and tired from feeling like they aren't getting help with the kids, housework etc. So don't have the energy for it, plus a sense of resentment to the partner if you've expressed your feelings and they still aren't helping out. Plus, what he said about "Women preferring quality sex, while men would like more frequency", do you not think that has anything to do with orgasms? If men can have an orgasam with low effort sex but women need that quality time to achive the same thing. Can you not then see why there is a difference?

[@Frank22164]

Certainly could be true but how about the man who does everything? Cooks 90% of meals (and very high culinary skills), massages her every day (you're better than a professional she says), washes and folds all the clothes and on and on but she just lays on the bed and says you have 3 minutes. I don't care about frequency once a month is fine it's the quality.

[@80sgirlwhamduran]

@Frank22164 well that makes sense. I'm not saying that this is true for all cases. I'm saying that I feel like women aren't listened to when they say they need help with the house or with the children. Hmm, I wonder if your partner is asexual, meaning she has no interest in sex and doesn't find it enjoyable. Which means she's doing it for your benefit (reluctantly 😞). Maybe speak to her about this. If you don't ask, you can never understand. That may help you both 😀.

[@cornstar1253]

Emasculated him will just decrease desire even more. Men do men stuff and women tend to the women stuff. Does he complain that you don't change the oil or mow the lawn?

[@lisamari941]

Exactly this, not only is the lack of help a huge turn off, there’s also huge build up of resentment that is definitely guaranteed to end the relationship all together and on bad terms. If she also you works you better be cooking and cleaning too. Or start learning how to do all that yourself or make enough money to outsource those tasks, because that’s where you’re headed!

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Like are you helping him mowing the lawn, doing the papers, painting the house, fixing the car etc... With you I already felt it coming. You are a 'blame all men' type.

[@mr.cleanone3900]

My wife stoped having sex with me going on 13 years no touching no looking . I finally had enough . It’s gonna hurt but time will heal I hope

[@abigailcosta1716]

Yeah, well you probably SUCK at it. Humans don't want to repeat unpleasant experiences. I hope you free her from your terrible skills and ENTITLEMENT. She's probably starved and needs a good lover

[@Billy-the-Kid]

@@abigailcosta1716 You are probably strong & independent. You do it yourself ok? And stay out of relations because you have no clue.

[@brentalfloss]

Do your guests get mad that you light them like they’re the Phantom of the Opera?

[@heldermiguelalmeida]

Relevance to the topic: 0

[@wanderer5200]

I would not want this man as an opponent in a courtroom.

[@bigbeats1]

Men and women aren't equal: when a women sleeps with a man,she not only has slepted with him- but she's generally, has had an emotional connection First! Women receive energy and transfer that energy: she now has a different spirit on her.

[@annaholden2406]

You're very funny 😁 🌟 and truthful

[@eddywang9622]

This is great the TRUTH

[@michaelcummings8744]

This video is literally of time and energy for those watching it. The content creator and even the guy being interviewed. Since clearly he's not becoming a better human being, which would be the priority. Here VS him continuing to be a workaholic. As this insane lawyer that he is

[@144Donn]

James Sexton is like a drug or snack you cannot get enough of!

[@BQ900]

If the sex isn’t good it ain’t happening. My late husband could do it. Stayed single until I found my fiancé.

[@TransgirlsEnjoyer]

maybe u could not arouse others

[@user-vm9jv4lq2t]

😉

[@TransgirlsEnjoyer]

first remove that fake profile pic

[@TransgirlsEnjoyer]

ok oldhag

[@paulallen9031]

He is an instrument of destruction "admittedly* But his honesty makes me encourage my son to avoid marriage and or concrete Prenuptial Agreement....

[@roses6564]

At the bottom of the bottomless pit is the dyadic incompatibility that was not apparent in the beginning of the relationship, pre-commitment.

[@eyekandy3000]

Can you explain dyadic incompatibility more?

[@JJ-bj6hg]

Can this man help me. I can only last 40 secs before I start gasping for air.

[@activegas1014]

Treadmill

[@jubbafrubby4561]

in matriarchal societies there's more sex going on. is the real issue women not getting enough variety. ie/ the patriarchal system confines them to one man for life when they get married.

[@meg5898]

Sex isnt the only reason Im getting divorced because of controlling enmeshed in laws who destroyed my family and marriage

[@talltree8697]

If you're no intimacy touching sex hugs cuddles kisses, feeling adventurous sleep together spend time together be physically engaging then what are you doing are you cheating on your self?well it's your life

[@rogermilla2358]

"I'm a chainsaw now" holy shit lmfao 😂

[@Tess-k4o]

Fresh n Fit lawyer guy yikes

[@Monicaphelan-kiely]

The main conditions are users who are mainly men

[@noticing33]

Everyone is desensitized and so addicted to more and more

[@Elisabeta.Marina]

Not sex, not getting along.

[@debbie6533]

No it’s because they are not emotionally available

[@Helen-jw6yb]

Some couples are perfectly happy in a sexless relationship I understand...but I guess those won't be the ones going to the divorce lawyer!

[@malimal4972]

majority aren't . stop it

[@supersonicknl9943]

Bullshit, you can have sex with people without having a deep connection with eachother. Its the emotional connection with your partner that makes a relationship special. Not everyone wants to have the same amount of sex every week. This doesnt mean if they dont like sex that much that they cant have a intense relationship with their partner. Just find a partner with the same expectations about this subject and you 2 will be fine

[@gorkem3390]

maybe sex and emotional relationship are connected and you just don't want to admit it

[@DeguBekele-vh2gg]

Sobduu odduu soba kana ma hin dhufe

[@bigiluma]

He looks like Jon Snow 😂

[@Monicaphelan-kiely]

Some people set up divorce Especially men They set up women for a fall 90% of the time

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Yeah ofc blame shift everything towards men. Never take any responsibility yourself.

[@NickSlater]

I think more scrutiny around guest selection would be appreciated by the audience

[@myway7771]

Exactly!!👍

[@thecementhead]

I disagree. I find this man insightful and entertaining. I will typically watch whatever show he is on. He is definitely better than some of the pop culture celebrities that have been interviewed here.

[@NickSlater]

@@thecementhead would you prefer not to hear from some of the pop celebrities?

[@thecementhead]

@@NickSlater not really. I would rather listen to a person with real life experience vs someone who is pretty and pretends for a living

[@michaelcummings8744]

Questionable as a human being no kidding

[@foreverzeta6578]

It’s hard to have food or sex that doesn’t quit do it for you over and over again. Instinctively people feel the disconnect. But some people are stuck with that person . If there are greater values that a person brings in the relationship then it’s fine. For the long haul

[@6548ww]

80% of the time it is the woman that gets lazy in the bedroom thus resulting in divorce

[@patrickprendergast9589]

so true

[@bubus682]

Let's say she's not lazy. But in the end U will get bored of her. After few years of sleeping with same person.

[@6548ww]

@@bubus682Well she used to be very creative keeping sex interesting in the bedroom and I never got bored she just stopped putting any effort into it

[@staLkerhu]

@@bubus682 if you get BORED of someone that much, then you didn't really love her at all, not even at the beggining. People who say that are only using women as living sex toys. 🧐

[@abigailcosta1716]

They're bored because their husbands are boring lovers and women crave so much more. They're starving most of the time. Most men SUCK BALLS in bed, FR!!!

[@Unashameable]

A sexless marraige is entrapment for a man. He doesn't have many privileges that come with marraige. If his partner isnt offering herself to his needs, regardless she is interested or not, that's a red flag for a man and guaranteed he is not happy staying married. To keep a man, keep him happy so he doesn't need to stray. Women may control the sex, however it's the man who controls the relationship. He has a limit of tolerance when push comes to shove regarding sex restraints to exclusitivity, feminism ideology loses everytime. Remember that ladies. The value of a divorsed women deteriates for a man. To be interested. Don't get caught out. Otherwise, you will live the remainder of your life raising cats for attention and company.

[@ggrthemostgodless8713]

The "nanny fascination" is what the man wishes his wife was like AT HOME, all the time. The nanny is taking care of YOUR kids instead of the woman who gave birth... The nanny is sex on command, no headaches, cooks and is just happy as hell to be there... I have no kids but, I have had several "maids" like that... they are great, not tens by any means, just great, as long as they are the maid and give you sex, they do all the laundry cook for you, sex anytime, spend the night SOMETIMES if you ask, and get up earlier than you to cook YOUR breakfast, house impeccable.... but it is sad as fuk that once she feel you got a relationship, EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE GIVING HER MORE MONEY THAN AS A MAID, and gets comfortable, most of that stops; suddenly she cannot make ends meet with MORE money than she earned as a maid...!! She starts putting up excuses or obstacles for sex, she forgets to do the dishes at night, something you SPECIFICALLY told her you don't like, No dirty dishes at the END of the day, "ohhh come on baby, I am too tired I'll do them first thing in the morning, I'm going to sleep". so you end up dong them and STILL she doesn't see the crash coming!! And my only explanation is what Shakespeare said: Familiarity breeds contempt. I've had a few who start to give ME orders to take the trash out, or offer unsolicited ideas on my work or how to solve problems that come up... and I think, My maid is now my boss? and apparently she is better at my work and solving issues than me!! How does this happen!! And they are always surprised when I end it, nicely but I end it, bc I see that other woman is the real woman I would have to live with and endure... sad really.

[@blueravenchick]

Curious of why the "maids" left if they enjoyed it so much and they were so fulfilled? Apparently they didn't really wanted be there either, they just needed your money.

[@ggrthemostgodless8713]

@@blueravenchick You didn't read the message, you said THEY leave, but I said, " I end it" when it deteriorates, Almost clever.... but I did mentioned it, ""...but it is sad as fuk that once she feel you got a relationship, EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE GIVING HER MORE MONEY, costing you more as a gf, THAN AS A MAID, and gets comfortable, most of that stops; suddenly she cannot make ends meet with MORE money than she earned as a maid...!! And my only explanation is what Shakespeare said: Familiarity breeds contempt."" ""And they are always surprised when I end it..."" You got cute with your response, but misrepresented my comment.

[@lisamari941]

No amount of money is going to turn any human being into another human being’s domestic sex slave robot companion. Just hire a maid, then hire a prostitute, and go see a therapist and a priest. You sound like you need all the help you can get.

[@michaelcummings8744]

Why the heck would you ever want to interview this guy?

[@khawajamazhar9188]

Sex is the biggest reason to get married thogh.

[@Elisabeta.Marina]

Good living

[@johnrayner3940]

This guy wants a job as an actor

[@cashmoney5618]

If a female doesnt want to have sex then leave her thats her duty to you as a wife or girlfriend, if she doesnt do her duty divorce or break up its that simple.

[@RODERICKABENNETT]

He just gave everyone a license to sin. By saying, " You don't have to be married. But we do have to reproduce. " What??? Sex outside of marriage is fornication. Sex alone is not what holds or breaks a marriage. It's is the married couple love for God that holds them together. Jesus says" What God has joined together. Let no man separate." What happens when your spouse can no longer perform sexual acts. For one reason or another. Do you contemplate getting a divorce? No. You will have to find ways to adjust. But you are to remain married until someone is throwing dirt on you. I been with my wife for 25 years. And we both agreed. Until death do us apart. The way God intended from the beginning.

[@nikko.lottsahcocc6917]

Im not against Christianity.... but why do some people think that Jesus Christ narrated the Bible...lol HE DIDNT ...The Bible was written by mortal men mostly long after the life of J.C

[@MisterTwo-40SX]

“Can no longer” is different from “nah, I’m good”.

[@ssehe2007]

Take this Christian bs and shove it. The answers to our relationship woes are not found in the Bible. If they were the Christian community wouldn’t be yearly beset with sex scandals. Christian couples divorce on the regular. So we’re doing a lot of putting asunder

[@Barbinez11]

I think that’s well said. If people would only follow Gods plan … anyway reproducing kids outside of marriage is not the best idea either, ask any single parent including myself!

[@sandrachamber1912]

Love this guy! Men who dont get sex at home need to cheat! I dont blame them!

[@bancymunene2960]

Women as well

[@abigailcosta1716]

Guys who are lousy in bed always speak like this 🤮🤮🤮

[@GBU61]

Marriage originally was for transfer of wealth and creating legitimate offspring. Men had mistresses for sex once he and the wife were done having children. The women got security and financial guarantees from him and he could satisfy his sexual attention on other women. If that was still the arrangement today, most men would still want to get married.

[@sloeberdoet]

What a old fashioned way of looking at marriage. You think women do not desire other men sometimes?

[@blueglassog3600]

Marriage is old fashioned, precisely the point. Although time has gone on, we are all still using the original hardware for when this notion existed.

[@IrisDel-qo8xi]

Many women choose to leave rather than dealing with an unfaithful man . Nowadays women have money of their own ,and they don't stay in those relationships as often as women of past generations who didn't have much choice did. I'm a woman ,but I have high sex drive ,if I get bored or unsatisfied with the quality or even quantity ,I will Ieave the man . It's better than cheating on him ,and hurt him.

[@blueglassog3600]

@@IrisDel-qo8xi cool, but what happens to the kids when you get bored and unsatisfied?

[@IrisDel-qo8xi]

@@blueglassog3600 I don't have a child yet ,but my future children will be forever my children ,and I'm responsible for them . Loving your own child is totally different than loving a man. I don't think I will get bored of my babies ,and even if I leave the man ,I won't leave them.

[@DeguBekele-vh2gg]

Soban dhala oromo wal hin nyaachuu dhistan dhisa

[@frankdelahue9761]

Sexton talks about sex.

[@drago4803]

Askin abt sex to sexton