Is He Testing You? How To Tell And What To Do About It

[@user-gu6vf3je1d]

I hate male testers. They are the same man who compares women. The same man who is a horrible communicator. The test never stop. Going through real life and quality time will give you the answer. No one behaves or reacts equally all the time. Testing is just a way to keep the relationship focused on one person.

[@kristenmoonrise]

You are so right!! 💯

[@susanlee8609]

And a form of control

[@CarmQ]

Yes, please do a video on boundaries!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for the suggestion, we’ll record a video on boundaries this week! 💕

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Love this! Thank you NOYB

[@infinitebutterflies777]

Is he testing me by retreating? I am trusting my intuition that he is testing my respect for his boundaries.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Michelle Vivas perhaps so. Yet if he doesn’t invest in you and come around his actions are speaking.

[@Shasha8674]

Narcissists will reflect you and wear a mask and yes may reveal themselves after a few months of pretending.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Most people can't identify a narcissist and when you're in love it's more difficult. In 'Find and Keep the One' program we teach you how the clarity of your feelings and trusting your gut supersedes labels.

[@donnax6828]

Yes, boundaries. I do not think we are taught this as girls.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes! Here’s a great video on boundaries if you haven’t seen it yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZi3i3SAj9NkhKs

[@msdjones30]

Earth signs test especially the Capricorn slow slow slow like a turtle. Won't show any feeling

[@susanlee8609]

What if after 8 months, he never compliments you, tells you that you are pretty or beautiful. Never says anything about your hair, eyes or smile. Even after you've complimented him. Told him he was good-looking and handsome . That he had beautiful hair, eyes and smile . Over and over....

[@Heyu7her3]

Talk to him or break up

[@susanlee8609]

@@Heyu7her3 I did last year. 👍

[@susanlee8609]

I mean I tried to talk and he accused me of starting an argument so I broke it off.

[@lunaluna9343]

After one day not texting and calling him, he text me last night telling me if I'm mad at him, I told him that I want to give him space and focused on what is best for him right now and his response was " awww that is the sweetest thing ever",...... My response was, "I want the best for you even if that I will not be in Your life, I will have to deal with it". ....His response was " I want you to be in my life, but I'm not ready for a relationship", I didn't respond yet, he has past family and relationship drama. He come home and bring groceries and cook for me, he hold hand and hugs and sit watching TV while spooned on the two seater, but no sex, he is emotional closed.....I'm confused. We have a lot of chemistry and we both say it to each other! We are on the phone and text on daily basis and have dinner at my house three times a week, and clean after. We like each other a lot.

[@msdjones30]

Sounds like Capricorn

[@Heyu7her3]

He's keeping you in limbo. Date other people

[@Ramanhere468]

Love this!!! Wish I knew this years ago! Thank you ladies. ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💕

[@jaakkohintsala2597]

i personally can be somewhat pushy and unaware of the feelings of other people and i get backlash accordingly from them and thats ok, in fact that is what i want. it might not be nice communication but its honest communication. but there is certain behaviour that can make me strongly dislike a person. scenario 1. I say my opinion and suggest a course of action. He/she doesnt look at me and says something and yet nothing. A lot of words but no opinion nor insight. scenario 2. I say my opinion and suggest a course of action. The other person does not want to do what i suggest and thinks my idea is trash. But instead of telling me this, he/she doesnt even think i'm worth having a real conversation with. He/She then says whatever he/she thinks will get rid of me the quickest. to put it shortly i really despise dishonesty even in non-direct cases such as white lies and half-truths

[@jaakkohintsala2597]

@LoveofVelvet I disagree on your description of me, i understand that the more disagreeable side of my personality shows in my previous comment but i do have a softer side to me believe it or not (also, i did get slightly offended by your comment due to its belittling tone)

[@kristenmoonrise]

I think you should get out of your own head, out of your own mind and not expect everyone to think on the same wavelength as you. Instead of trying to catch your date in a lie, or looking for them to slip up, you should work on your communication skills and get to know them that way. Let the person speak freely without all that backwards strategic maneuvering, because it's not honest communication. Not trying to be condescending.

[@KeepItFresh02]

interesting. from the male perspective women do the same thing. Also being nice too, men have the being nice thing as well.

[@university2775]

How should I as a woman behave and react when that man lashes out against me in public suddenly for no valid reason and it seems like displaced anger when there may be something else that is going on underneath that he has not really addressed with me on a one to one basis while holding onto anger for good few weeks without really openly communicating with me on a one to one basis. Also he has in the past made fun of me in public. Please advise what I should have done or should do / say!

[@adrianapaulista]

Uni Versity it sounds like emotional abuse :(

[@Heyu7her3]

Talk to him or break up

[@m.h.1593]

You look like Tessa Virtue

[@ccbluesky9780]

Hi ladies, I just a really interesting man & went really hit it off. He says call me any time & we texted a couple of times & he called me once, but last time I texted him, it was just pleasantries, then I called, but he didn't answer. Nothing since then. Silence. I don't know what to think. I really was hoping...

[@tanya4534]

Something similar happened to me. I've been interacting with this guy on & off since Summer. He seemed really into me, then I txted him 2 wks agob no response. The thing we must do as women is to not feed their egos & contact them again. Then you're labeled "clingy".😏

[@laneblake5694]

Clueless Thanks for your valuable insight I remember working in corporate office cleaning & my trainer telling me how I should leave the CEO's office to his satisfaction. She said to me you don't understand men do you & I claimed not be at all lol! She was a great boss

[@apples-girl9210]

Excellent Team you gals!! 🌼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💕

[@chenoabrock1395]

I need help with boundaries

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video should be really helpful for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZi3i3SAj9NkhKs

[@monicalevyt]

I don't understand this thing that you guys say "to be in your body" about the femine energy

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Monica Levy Tyler hi Monica. This is a disconnect many women feel. I just did a KZbin Live on Feminine Energy, how to feel it, find it and use it. It is an awakening women are experiencing globally. Once you tap into it, shift the paradigm in your mindset, it then takes practice and will soon feel natural to ‘be in your body’ and sense what you feel.💗

[@monicalevyt]

Feminine Energy Love & Dating Thank you so much for your answer!! I will check your channel and subscribe! :)

[@AdrienneEverheart]

That's so sweet, thank you.

[@ivia_ol8356]

Different women wear feminine energy differently. Its not always necessarily laid back and chill. Some women get anxious when pushed their boundaries and im one of them. Feminine in my own body aka being myself, not following written rules how I should be. My tongue is sharp and it shows when pushed. I'm always sweet and nice but not when pushed, guess why? Because we have been used in the past and we are afraid, we don't trust, don't you think instead of men testing us they should try to gain our trust first? Testing equals games, sorry I'm not playing it. Ignoring forever equals games, not playing it. Pulling away for how long? Week of no contact? 2? More? Need space? Ask for it, let another person know. Anything else other than that is a red flag and you should leave asap. Don't care if you have good intentions or not, playing will take you nowhere.

[@newbeginnings1543]

So basically men can do whatever they want when they want and us women are supposed to just deal with whatever?? Don’t think so. A man can have friends but too many buddies means he needs to grow up. Ladies don’t put up with a lot of crap. 😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

It’s actually just the opposite - it’s about staying strong in your boundaries and expressing them in a way that makes a man see you as a super high-value woman, without “shaming” him. You NEVER want to tolerate bad behavior, or anything that doesn’t feel good to you. We’ll record a video on boundaries this week! 💕

[@newbeginnings1543]

LylieRandale thank you 😊

[@meganlawson4575]

When will we finally expect men to grow up and step up?

[@AdrienneEverheart]

Lisa ODierno men are going to do whatever they want regardless.😉 Yet when you are in your feelings, trust your boundaries and can speak them utilizing feminine energy this affects How the man treats you. The test may be temporary yet by not going into a reactive state the relationship will have an opportunity to grow. ❤️

[@grit7733]

The other day I found myself testing a woman to see if she was able to laugh at herself.

[@kristenmoonrise]

Eh, I guess each person and situation is different but to me that's something that best works when it occurs naturally.

[@xrachelxjadex]

Bravo!!! Thanks ladies, this was all really helpful to hear today. ❤️ Things are looking very good then. Xx

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome, I'm glad this was helpful!