Is It My Job To Fill Up My Ex’s Fridge When The Kids Are With Her?

Mans has a question for all mums.

[@ashleygrey4179]

The same men who are bashing on women for choosing to be childfree.

[@helena3631]

Lol

[@shaypope4732]

Yup lol

[@SmileyAdventures]

Lmao 🤣 exactly

[@aryaastark9201]

Yupppp

[@yujuy.1329]

He doesn’t want full custody so he came to the internet to bash the mom.

[@DaughterofDiogenes]

Yep.

[@RasheedahNizam]

Certain low income men don't understand how good they have it. Men of higher income brackets end up paying alimony and child support even when the custody is split.

[@jbell7105]

This! I’m like, dude just take your kids she’s obviously not able to make ends meet to feed them. Nope, he’s rather talk shit and have his freedom and extra coins in his pocket.

[@ashleygrey4179]

Men will find any excuses to get rid of the responsibility of being fathers.

[@mystichealer]

He doesn't want a crumb of the food to hit that mother's tongue, is all it is.

[@icantwiththis]

It's about spite and control

[@DB-vt1kk]

That is it right there!!!

[@tigerprincess816]

I was thinking the same thing. But will they be honest about how horrible they are and how corrupted their thinking is? No.

[@CorinaGilligan]

Men are inherently selfish . And they're not even ashamed anymore

[@AbbygaileHearne]

He never once said he couldn’t afford it that’d be a different story is so he just doesn’t want to

[@scottrogue946]

I notice a lot of times men tend to take partial custody to get out of paying child support. I really never seen men taking partial custody because they genuinely want to raise their kids. I’m really not buying anything he is saying. Men like this will nickle and dime you like crazy but will want all your support if they are in a crisis. 😅

[@shaolinqueen3684]

This is it.

[@thrill102]

They still gotta pay child support whether it’s joint custody or not if they go through the court system. This is why being married BEFORE having children is so important. You have rights when you go through the courts and if you are the custodial parent you will get child support period.

[@Enriquez2222]

@@thrill102nah, you don’t always have to pay child support with 50/50 custody. Also you can still go through the court system without being married, you can still pay child support even if you were married…

[@biblethumper8088]

Exactly. That's why he lead with he doesn't pay child, He doesn't want those kids.

[@NODE1975]

​@StarryWaters-gq1oj bingo....my ex is doing this right now with his new wife 😂 He acts like he's changed but he hasn't. The only thing that's changed is the worker bee

[@cinnamonthomas3075]

He doesn't want full custody of his kids. He needs to shut up and deal with it or become the full time custodial parent.

[@cookiekun7595]

Thiiiiiis he hasn't made any effort to have full custody since he have so much to complain about. "Ooo we co parent and she have and I have the same amount of time with the kids." Was a bs way to excuse letting his dang kids starve.

[@CONGLOMERATE32]

🎯

[@ragrabbit101]

This is so wierd to me because if I thought my partner was neglecting MY children when they have the financial means to be taking care of them but choose not to, I would not be asking the internet wether or not I should fill up their fridge. I would be asking the internet how to file for sole custody because my ex partner is neglecting our kids

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Exactly. Also we don't know if he really is caring for the kids equitably, and consistently since he isn't paying child support. Something tells me he won't move for full custody

[@biblethumper8088]

He doesn't want full custody. It's very easy for men to get but they don't want them.

[@kristenb5177]

Most men don't want sole custody they don't even want to pay for daycare or pay few $ 100 a month for child support .

[@avairejustdesserts9921]

It's scary how many men can't fathom the concept of loving your kids and making sure they're comfortable. Even if there's food in the fridge, as someone who grew up poor it is a fucking blessing to have extra food around.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

No, he's not a piece of 💩, nor is it his job to fill her fridge. But it is his job to fill his kids! So if she can't, he needs to get on that. Because it doesn't matter who's job it is, what matters most is the kids are fed!

[@xletragedyx]

Right? I don't send my kids to school with lunch or lunch money bc I don't fill the school's fridge lmao

[@keirahleesha486]

THIS!

[@FoougieTV]

Right.

[@xletragedyx]

"Okay TikTok, do my kids have to eat EVERY day? Context: I'm not with their mom anymore" 😂

[@tigerprincess816]

THIS right here!

[@olikah4667]

😂😂😂😂😂 yeah, he’s an idiot

[@Unapologetically_Savage]

The best comment 🎉😂😊

[@DB-vt1kk]

I just sent my sister $2500 for summer camp for my two nephews and to cover her until she starts summer work. Is it my job to do that, no but I know she isn’t getting help from her ex husband and I’m not hard up for money. Sometimes in life it’s not about what you want to do, or what you like doing. It’s about what needs to be done 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@SupraSoulStar]

I actually saw this video and thought the children's mother is probably reaching out to friends and family for help, because the dad doesn't think it's his job to fill up the fridge🙄.

[@helena3631]

This

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

❤❤❤❤

[@T.H-v4h]

I just paid for my nieces summer camp too

[@AbbygaileHearne]

@@SupraSoulStarI bet she send the kids over there with a overnight bag full of things though but he can’t do that one thing

[@ashleygrey4179]

I don't trust this guy. He's just looking for excuses.

[@helena3631]

This she made two bad decisions her first child father now him

[@xletragedyx]

I mean.... so mom is struggling and he doesn't make sure they have food half the week? 😬

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

Exactly!!! 🙄 He's also looking for CLOUT!!!! 🤡 If you're taking care of the child that isn't yours WHY BRING HER UP!!!!!!!???????????????? He's looking for praise because anyone with common sense would just TAKE THE KIDS FULL TIME!!! 🙄

[@biblethumper8088]

There's nothing to trust about him. He literally said he gets women pregnant so they can waste their money and be poor. That's what I heard. Nothing trustworthy about that.

[@kenyahkenyah]

Did he just say, is it his job as the dad of my children to make sure their mother's refrigerator is full so his kids can eat?!??? Yes, it's your job, 😮 to at least put enough food in the fridge so they can eat until they visit you again, Chile, yeah sumthin wrong with him. Smh.

[@biblethumper8088]

THEY DON'T WANT FULL CUSTODY. THEY WANT WOMEN TO STRUGGLE AND BE BENEATH THEM.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Exactly💯

[@helena3631]

Don’t have sex with them they don’t deserve a legacy

[@queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757]

💯.... alot of these toxic men are straight EVIL, WOMEN MUST SAVE THEMSELVES

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

Yep.

[@SupraSoulStar]

It's weird to me to go online and ask people's opinion on this. As a parent making sure your kids are fed should come first. Whats the big deal in buying some groceries for your kids? 🙄

[@amilllion1]

That’s 50/50 mentality for u! He’s already fed them on his days , so he doesn’t want to do it again

[@Unapologetically_Savage]

The black man’s mantra…F them kids… 🙄

[@annstewart8506]

This dude is stupid to raise this question! Food is the first basic need of anyone.

[@NiobeNeo]

So extra bags of rice, pastas and vegetables are that expensive???

[@icantwiththis]

He's dusty and petty.

[@helena3631]

He just doesn’t want the ex to eat any off it

[@Sanakudou]

Imagine finding out your child doesn’t have access to food 4 days of the week and not IMMEDIATELY seeking full custody to protect your child from such a horrid form of child abuse. He’s outed himself as a selfish man and an unforgivably bad father, he’s made it clear that his child’s wellbeing is not his priority. His wording choice for this question intentionally makes this about his wife’s money and his wife’s fridge, he knows asking the question “is it my responsibility as a father to assure my child always has food to eat?” results in the answer he DOESN’T want.

[@empoweredselfishnesstv4102]

Go to Costco, shop together, buy in bulk, divide the food in half for both households. Figure it out!

[@biblethumper8088]

That's what a married couple would do.

[@CONGLOMERATE32]

Better yet stop irresponsibly having kids you cant afford!

[@peapod6747]

No. I would not buy food for a working man, because he's not feeding our kids. I would not send my kids to someone that doesn't feed them. Im not enabling neglect. I would be calling the police and cps and getting full custody.

[@yahainHotPink]

Hope your children will be okay Priscilla. Thanks for the update.

[@Priscilla_Boye]

I hope so too thank you ☺️

[@yahainHotPink]

​@@Priscilla_BoyeYou're welcome!! 💖🌹

[@shanaleasha6550]

He’s one of those men who hates to think that the mom could benefit from him. He really doesn’t want her to have any of it , that’s the real tea. It’s both parents responsibility to make sure that their child is straight, just provide for them when they’re with you or away from you, my goodness

[@sammich-lp2qm]

Petty axx BM no doubt.

[@ashleygrey4179]

Providing food for the ones in need brings so much joy in a person's heart. Especially when kids benefit from it.

[@xletragedyx]

Usually.... not in this guy's case

[@CorinaGilligan]

We're actually wired to get a hit of dopamine from doing good for others. God's plan 🙏

[@ashleygrey4179]

Kids are innocent. It's not their fault that the relationship didn't work out. Even if one of them is not the biological kid, he still needs to be looked after. In my culture we provide food for the kids regardless if they are blood related or not. It shows empathy, love and nurturing. That kid will be the future adult and he needs a good upbringing.

[@xletragedyx]

Right? Neighbor kids come over to play? Feed them. Kid mows your lawn? Pay them and feed them.

[@Lassoducky]

He has a male income. If you know your kids are suffering, feed them! Regardless of whether they're at your place or hers. Don't be bitter and hurt the kids in the meantime.

[@rinabitoni3746]

I was with him until he said he's not paying child support and he's bragging about taking care of a child that isn't biologically his... like ok? You want a trophy? You chose to do that. Now, if you feel your kids are not being fed right, put yourself on child support and go get your kids.. other than that, what are you complaining about, ignore her drama!

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Have kids they say ...

[@silververnallbells191]

I support "Single Moms by Choice" - get the sp-rm you need for any biological urge to procreate, but cut the man out.. don't put any man's name on the birth certificate.. use IVF if you can.. it's not so much the kids as it is the men. If I could afford IVF then I'd do it & I'd make sure I had a daughter. :)

[@PandaHead602]

If she can’t care for them then fight for them . But still this is y’all kids

[@kaylynnanson6231]

His kids will remember this, and abandon him when he is an old man. But he will blame his ex for "brainwashing" the kids against him.

[@annstewart8506]

💯 facts!

[@shenellwilson3951]

He thought he was going to get a pat on the back for this video 😂😂😂😂

[@ashleygrey4179]

Tell me you're stingy without telling me you're stingy.

[@icantwiththis]

🤢🤢🤮

[@shenellwilson3951]

The first lady was spot on. I don't understand why he even mentioned they are not together smh.

[@adwoasam9237]

There are too many waste men out here in these streets.

[@AwkwarddFoxx]

I guess there just needs to be a balance. It’s not about filling up your ex’s fridge, but about making sure your kids can eat. If you were struggling, would you expect the ex to pitch in and at least keep the kids fed? A lot of people tend to forget about the golden rule. Treat others how you want to be treated. You want to let your kids go hungry all because it’s your ex’s fridge?

[@kendrawhite60]

So many valid points. But to answer his question no it isn’t his job to fill that refrigerator but it is his job to take care of his child. I feel like if he knew she doesn’t spend money appropriately then why hasn’t he taken full custody? If he knows this then he certainly can win, especially in this situation. So that makes me think something isn’t adding up in his story. I definitely would make sure my child is with me if the other parent cannot provide food.

[@xletragedyx]

Bc child support is too paltry to make up the difference

[@frozenheart7133]

I'd bet anything it's a one-off situation. Her car needed repair or she had to pay for another unexpected expense.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

​@frozenheart7133 - I think this too. He probably made a bigger deal out of it then it needed to be. However, if it becomes a pattern, then he needs to move for full custody

[@frozenheart7133]

@@ecclairmayo4153 agreed

[@fawn2911]

he's never gonna file for full custody he just wants to publicly humiliate the mother of his kids

[@fawn2911]

I hope your little one is feeling better now 🙏🏽 I can't believe this man really asked if it's his job to feed his own children. Pure evil 😦

[@olikah4667]

0:26 😮 I hope your mini me is okay. Much love ❤

[@ashleygrey4179]

So he has the kids for 3 days/week, she has them for 4 days/week. Why do you not try, at least, to provide food for at least a day? Stingy and selfish.

[@scottrogue946]

Yes! I don’t trust this guy. I never believe she asked him to fill her fridge. She may have had a rough month and asked for some help. It’s food not Swarovski crystals. 😂

[@ashleygrey4179]

@@scottrogue946 Exactly! He's just looking for excuses.

[@helena3631]

This food is good lord help these dusty males 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@shaypope4732]

This y I think we should charge before having anybody kids

[@queenrenagoddessoflovegood7757]

💯

[@zawillia]

I wonder why he doesn't just get full custody if he doesn't want to provide food while they're with the other parent?

[@Chronicallychillasher]

If my ex didn’t have food for the kids then why are you sending them there? same for dads!!

[@Chronicallychillasher]

So I in my situation, I applied for food stamps and they gave me $152 of SNAP benefits! I’m BIPOC. We were living together at the time.. circumstances turned out (he tricked me into filing for bankruptcy) so we are once again in the same household. Our finances didn’t change… they gave him (CIS HET WHITE MALE) $600/month of SNAP benefits.. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE

[@xletragedyx]

​@Chronicallychillasher so he tricked you into filing for bankruptcy so you would have to live with him again? That sounds abusive. I hope you get out of that situation soon

[@silververnallbells191]

​@@Chronicallychillasher I'm on disability & I get $150 in SNAP.. I'm Comanche & Black.. I've heard of white families receiving SO much more..

[@darkfemme4914]

He's lying. Her fridge isn't empty which is why he can't show it and he just wants support from his followers to not look like a piece of crap dad. He doesn't fool me.

[@silververnallbells191]

OR he can't show the fridge cuz it's in someone else's house & he doesn't live there. He lives in his house. Just bcuz you're an ex doesn't mean you can just waltz right in to a woman (or man's) house & start snapping photos.

[@darkfemme4914]

@@silververnallbells191 But some how he has waltz up into her house and knows she has no food in the fridge. Since he clearly wanted the internet to be in his business, why not show the proof of what he is saying? He wants to make his BM look like a bad mom and then act like he doesn’t know what to do, like a clueless child. Again he does not fool me.

[@virallcullture8585]

@darkfemme4914 good point

[@lizzyp174]

Did he say he doesn't pay child support??? 😂😂😂

[@sammich-lp2qm]

Right, now that’s a shame. And BM just can’t disappoint any further. Nvm. Yes they can. It’s always BM. Such an embarrassment.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

He says he didn't pay child support be ause he already takes care of his responsibility.....but we don't have any way of knowing that, or whether it's equitable or consistent if he doesn't pay child support. It's just his word

[@lizzyp174]

@@ecclairmayo4153 I never heard of a court ordering a parent to not pay child support because they already take care of their children. So I don't believe it's based on anything other than his pride and ego. Child support is meant to also cover the costs of housing, food, shelter while the children are with the other parent I think this fool is greatly misinformed

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

​@@sammich-lp2qm BM are up under the bottom of manhood out of every group of men🤦🏾‍♀️😒😑

[@helena3631]

These dusties stop procreating with them

[@TheKriscg]

Baby’s mom needs to put him on child support. Then this won’t be an issue.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Facts. We have no way of knowing whether or not he is really paying his fair share or if its consistent because he is not on child support

[@CONGLOMERATE32]

Yeah because children are supposed to have s the same quality of life with both parents. He thought he ate but he might’ve just handed her proof for her child support case 😂. This is what happens when you cheapen yourself and give legacy to undeserving men, they happily let you starve once you’re no longer with them lol

[@peapod6747]

He needs to get full custody. The parent that can feed the children should have them. Can you imagine telling a woman she needs to buy groceries for her baby daddy because, even though he has a job, he isn't feeding our child's. Im calling the cops on him AND you! Irresponsible people can not be trusted to watch a pet, much less a child.

[@yahainHotPink]

To the 1st man, yessss, please put food in your children's home. Food is so expensive. Help them out. Are there child support payments being paid or not??

[@Freya1412]

Yeah food is expensive. He makes sure there is food provided when the kids are with him. Provided he is meeting his child support obligations if there are child support obligations depending on their custody arrangement, it's not his obligation to make sure there is food in her household. If this is a problem and she can't feed the kids when they are with her the custody arrangement needs to be adjusted and perhaps dad gets primary custody while mom figures out how to cope better. It is not fair to expect the co parent to also pick up your financial obligations as primary caregiver when they aren't allowed the legal authority and time with the kids that the primary parent has. If primary parent can't fulfill their responsibilities then they don't need to be in that role.

[@kimleemoon]

He said he doesn’t pay child support. Probably because he’s co-parenting.

[@kimleemoon]

@@Freya1412 all this crap could be solved if people stop having kids with people they’re not married to or plan to marry!

[@lizzyp174]

​@@kimleemoonhe proudly said he doesn't pay child support. Child support is to help cover ALL expenses including shelter, electricity, heat, water

[@charliedeegan1598]

​@kimleemoon No. It couldnt. People divorce all the time.

[@thekameru6058]

Agree with first commentor. Its not his 'job'. But it IS his responsibility to be certain they have the ability to eat when they need. And if she isnt feeding them when they are with her outta intentional spite or neglect instead of being poor and struggling like mad, then its also his responsibility to make sure he gets full custody. But I dont think for a moment he would. The man kinda gives me selfish 'fuck you got mine' vibes.

[@madihaq2252]

The fact he even needs to ask that he needs to contribute to his children's well being and raising them. And the lady talking at around @5:00. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 If I had the app that she's on I would definitely follow her channel. She's one of the ladies I very much look forward to hearing from.

[@icantwiththis]

It's beyond

[@shenellwilson3951]

Smh i can't believe he came on the internet to ask this stupid question. It's his job to feed his kids whether he is with his ex or not.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Exactly! He's being petty and mean spirited. So what yall not together😒😑👹🤛🏾

[@TexasGal.]

Priscilla, I hope your child is doing okay.

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Thanks and yes there’s a little improvement today.

[@BP_Excellent]

I don’t know the mother’s situation.

[@mimi42428]

The question alone says EXACTLY who he is. The children don't stop needing food and shelter because they aren't with you. The fact that he also had to say that one of the kids isn't his biologically to justify his choices also is very telling. He is a lost cause and knows exactly what he's doing

[@MyLifeAsRaphael]

Just help them out bro

[@nikjonestravel]

Either get full custody or make sure your kids have something to eat. It's about the kids.

[@stardustborn9000]

If she is not taking care of them then he needs to keep them longer so his kids tldont starve.

[@freshclean8649]

Your children should have food regardless were the child stay. The children shouldn't go hungry because the mothe does not do right with money. So, if you know there is no food, yes you should provide food for the children. All children.

[@biblethumper8088]

Nobody would pay attention to him if he didn't have a baby mamma.

[@daishawilliams8301]

Heck no she is the mother she should have the fridge and freezer, snack pantry stocked before the children come over.😊

[@peacejustice4334]

I was in a relationship with a man that took care of me and my children that wasn’t with him. When we separated we had a son of our own and he still helped me until I got back on my feet.

[@IntellectuallyKurious]

Dude, if your kids expressed hunger while with moms or you know first hand they dont have enough food, just drop them back with some food. You dont have to fill up the fridge, but essentials like cereal, milk, cheese, eggs, bread etc is a great start. Idgaf what is going on with kid mom. These are your babies that you claim to love and take care of. That love and care is not conditional, and it sure as heck should not stop once they are no longer under your roof. Make sure your kids have food all the time! Everytime! Everywhere! That's what'a great man will do. I know people who've done way more for absolute strangers.

[@GodiZreal]

My ex and I lived together in an apartment that we both leased and we paid 50/50 on the rent. We had one family car that I paid for but it was in his name. When he broke up with me he took the car with him knowing I needed it to get to work and to see my clients. He also stopped paying his half of the rent. Because he took the car away I ended up losing my job. Shortly after that he took me to court for full custody of our son saying that I had no job and I couldn't afford to take care of my child. Not even 50/50 just full custody. Thank God the judge did not give it to him. That was 5 years ago today I'm self employed with a business making bank. You never know the whole story.

[@biblethumper8088]

Did you enjoy struggling to provide for your child?

[@GodiZreal]

@@biblethumper8088 God provides.

[@silververnallbells191]

@@biblethumper8088 Weirdo.

[@maryjanerx]

I was wondering what happened to you! I hope your child will be ok!

[@yque4733]

It's the obligation of both parents to ensure their children are properly cared for. If they're co-parenting, especially so. If this is the case for him, then he needs to contact a lawyer if his ex isn't meeting obligation.

[@biblethumper8088]

If all women decide to not have children, then whose responsibility is it then to provide?

[@yque4733]

@@biblethumper8088 Refusing to having kids isn't the question. The discussion is regarding taking care if the kids that already exist. If kids have two parents it's the obligation of both to take care if said kids. If what this man is claiming is true, he needs to contact a lawyer. One parent shouldn't shoulder the majority of that responsibility regardless if they're male or female. Lots of people bring children into this world when they have no business doing so. And when I say "people" I mean men and women as it takes two to tango.

[@biblethumper8088]

@@yque4733 these children will grow up how they grow up. I'm talking about from now on going forward. Whose responsibility will it be to provide for children if all women stop having them? And no I don't agree that it's the woman's responsibility to provide. She doesn't have to. The very fact that other nations with low birth rates are paying women to have children should explain why women aren't responsible for providing. They literally don't have to.

[@silververnallbells191]

@@biblethumper8088 "Whose responsibility will it be to provide for children if all women stop having them?" - There won't be any children to have to worry about. You're asking the wrong question.

[@biblethumper8088]

@@silververnallbells191 no I'm not. That is the point. If you're going to tell women that it is their responsibility to pay, then they are better off not having them. Which is currently happening worldwide. And even if there are children here today, those mothers don't have to pay. They can simply give them away. So the point is why even chastise mothers for not paying when doing so can end even more children orphaned? You can't shame a mother for not providing bc doing so was never her responsibility. Her body was not created for that. That is why when mothers do work, it ends badly for them.

[@LunaIluminada5]

Well said, Priscilla❤!!!! Totally agree with you... 1000%

[@noraventura9006]

So sorry to hear about your little one, hope he/she is getting better. Yes life be lifing, specially if is the little ones. Hope all is well.

[@PandaHead602]

Why would u not ???? Then fight for full custody

[@sotired9790]

He just needs to get full custody if mom isn't doing what she should.

[@talkingtochapri]

These are the males who shame childfree women 😂 misery loves company and i don't believe anything he is saying 💀

[@lolasinger3564]

I hope your little one is ok!

[@ashleygrey4179]

If you don't want to fill up the fridge, fill up her bank account.

[@pmerancier]

why would he pay child support when he is support his child and another that isn't his?? please make it make sense. A lot of BMs misinterpret what is the use of child support. child support is set in place for father that are not actively supporting his child. now why place a man that is supporting his child and one that he knows is not his be placed on child support? he clearly is able to take of his children financial plus another mouth to feed.

[@sammich-lp2qm]

@@pmerancierI wouldn’t trust him around a child that wasn’t his. I dislike the mom for this.

[@sammich-lp2qm]

He hates his kids too

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

​@@sammich-lp2qm I Agree😮😳

[@vickimerritt2832]

Do they make equal money? Does she have weekends when the kids are home all day? Does she make as much as him at the time of divorce, or just a fair, not really fair male judge? Did she have an unusual expense? Has mom been sick? There could be many factors.

[@amilllion1]

Let’s see what happens if the mom said , you know what I’m overwhelmed take full custody 😮

[@EJaj1623]

I’d say no it’s not his responsibility to fill his exes fridge since clearly they are sharing custody pretty fairly. But I’d say this broken home dynamic is his fault/ responsibility, as well as his exes, since they created a family with a person that was not right for them. These issues will obviously continue and he should learn to deal with it/ her because this is the mess he created with her. Unless she’s really crazy and abusive then he needs to learn to be a big boy and stop trying to get sympathy online when we don’t have the entire story.

[@BABYDOLL87LOVELY]

I HOPE YOUR LIL ONE FEELS BETTER. I'M DOING ALRIGHT. FINALLY RELAXING, THANKS FOR ASKING 🙂 I 1,000% AGREE WITH THE SISTA WITH THE LOCS.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

We don’t know the whole story but I’m sure he’s leaving a lot out and I’m sure when he has the kids they are with his mom and sisters spending the night with cousins and eating their food. If a man’s mouth is moving he’s lying or gaslighting. I bet if the mom was still sleeping with him he wouldn’t mind putting food in the fridge. They always think that anything they do is for the woman and not their kids because they hate us so much and don’t even think of the kids unless it’s to hurt us

[@B0OBIES]

The fact that he opened up with "is it my job, as a father to be responsible for feeding my kids?" is wild . What a deadbeat weirdo 🤣

[@paulatobler8354]

Even if I had enough custody that I didn’t pay child support, I’d still make sure my kids had food at their dad’s if he wasn’t providing it. His irresponsibility can’t make me be okay with my kids going hungry.

[@pla4825]

Wow I didn’t know you had kids Priscilla 😊 he can probably keep the kids 5 days a week while the mother keep them 2 days a week until she get on her feet. Maybe the mother can apply for food stamps to help feed the kids but the kids absolutely have to eat

[@DaughterofDiogenes]

I feel like this dude needs to get custody of those kids. If mom isn’t even feeding them or caring for them right 😢. I can’t imagine what I would do if my ex tried this crap. It would be infuriating. Because obviously I want my kids to eat but if he’s wasting his money and not providing, I’m documenting everything and trying to get them kids. He’s in a bad position though cuz he might not be able to have the daughter.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Exactly. We can't say just last week that we wouldnt send an overnight bag to a man's house and then turn around the next week and say it's okay for a woman to do the same thing. The bottom line is, yes the kids should be cared for BUT these types of things can get taken advantage of real fast. To me, both of these are signs of child neglect and the responsible parent should just move for full custody so that the kids are taken care of AND so that they don't taken advantage of by the other parent.

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

The daughter he brought up for no reason!!! 🤡 He's not looking for custody he's looking to bash the mother and CLOUT!!! 🙄

[@uranus5479]

​@ecclairmayo4153 That's because both homes should have clothes and a room for the kids. Just like both homes are supposed to feed the kids.The only thing a kid should be bringing between both homes is their toys and homework. If one parent is struggling to feed the kids, what the other parent should do is file for custody change, not sit on their ass and go complaining on Tiktok.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@@uranus5479 - or the mother could file for child support since he is not already on it. Because he is not on child support, we have no way of knowing whether or not he really is paying equitably and consistently. There is no way to tell if what he is providing is his fair share.

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

Hi Priscilla I hope that your child feels better soon. This dude is projecting I bet he’s the one with the expectation of her making sure there’s food in his fridge. Parenting means each parent provides adequate amounts of food, clothing and other things they children require. This includes the child having their own room. It’s not a woman’s job to provide for both households. These dudes only want joint custody so they can avoid child support. They swear they are doing something and they are not. He won’t file for full custody though. The problem is that he’s asking. Don’t forget he most likely has a gf doing his job when he has his kids.

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Thanks ☺️

[@ambasd733]

Some how ... i still dont BELIEVE he's paying his full share ... but no its NOT your job ... and as i suspected ... he probably doesn't know what children Really costs ... boy STOP LOOKING FOR SYMPATHY AND SIT YOUR BIG SELF DOWN !!! 😊

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Right. Since he is not paying child support, we have no way of knowing if what he is providing is equitable and consistent

[@biblethumper8088]

So as a women you feel that you should provide for your children?

[@silververnallbells191]

@@biblethumper8088 Yes, you should be able to provide for your children as a woman, bcuz most men are unreliable.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@@biblethumper8088 - of course. Since women are usually the primary caregiver, they are taking on their variable hidden costs associated with childcare. Women provide for their children in every way including financially more than men.

[@JustAGrl007]

I love that the women gave him good advice, even though the first one was a little bit aggressive for me. It is definitely not his job to fill the fridge up, but it is his job to make sure that the children are fed. When I live with my mom and my dad saw that we were not being taken care of properly, he took us! We didn't want to stay with our dad so we had a lot of things like us having no electricity or not having a bed until he saw it for himself. My mom was upset, but we eventually went back to live with her a few years later once she finally got herself together. He didn't ask any questions about what he should or should not do. He just did it!

[@LoveK1]

Aggressive? There’s kids going hungry. Someone could be screaming and it wouldn’t be an overreaction.

[@biblethumper8088]

But he didn't do it bc you went without electricity and a bed.

[@virallcullture8585]

@biblethumper8088 you are RIDICULOUSLY slow dude, "until he SAW it" was literally in the comment... And he ACTUALLY did something.... What? You got a problem with a dad who takes action when they see something wrong..?? What is wrong with you? Other than dense 😂

[@keirahleesha486]

That’s so sad. She didn’t ask for money for her own shoes or well being BUT for FOOD for HIS child🤦🏽‍♀️ a dang shame

[@TKOin2life]

So glad to be single and childfree. I don't have the patience for this.

[@MsLove-hb5ud]

I guarantee that if the father didn’t have enough food in the fridge for his kids then the mother would more than likely find one way or another to make sure they have enough food. Filing for full custody, buying food, making sure they have extra food when they go to their dads etc. Meanwhile this man is like “We not together no more🤷🏾‍♀️”

[@SugaRumBrown]

Hope all goes well lovely, missed you sis❤🙏🏾🎉

[@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds]

It's wild, because it's much easier (and much less expensive) to buy groceries, than it is to go through a court case to _keep from_ buying groceries. I don't understand this logic at all. It's giving: mom is low-income enough to qualify for SNAP benefits, but doesn't get them because of him having the kids half-time, but feeding multiple children is _expensive,_ especially now, so food costs have increased, but her income has not, and even though he has the resources to pick up the slack, he doesn't, because it's "not his job, because they aren't together". He's giving very much "if you want me to do this, what are you gonna do for me?" energy.

[@KTG8345]

Praying for your little one ❤

[@Hopdog230]

I hope your little one is ok. ❤

[@deserieoware7055]

I hope your little one is okay 🙏🏽

[@CadillacBoss30]

If she ask him to take full custody. She needs to be put on child support then.

[@joeshmoe0136]

Is it your job to ensure your children eat every day? Yes it is. 🎵 If you can't feed your baby Then don't have a baby🎵

[@ichabodcrane9479]

Hope your little one is ok 🙏❤️

[@itsmainelyyou5541]

Hope your kid is okay, Ms. Boye! I remember, heart in the throat! Well yes, daddy, don't care, you send food. You only have them half the week. It has nothing to do with whether you're together with mom. It's your responsibility as a father. Welcome to parenthood. It's gross and kind of embarrassing that you'd even ask.

[@user-br3ty9rt1m]

These are the “providers.” Not providing.

[@fantasytraveler]

If mom "have" to pack overnight bag he "needs" to pack a breakfast-dinner box. It should nit be that way but it obviously coparenting dynamics are off-scales are tipping.

[@AriesLaZuriUhuru]

15:48 DAMN! Is she still talking?!

[@tigerlilly9038]

If he speaks the 100% truth: no he shouldn't. However if he knows his children are going without food: File for full custody . END OF.

[@nwalden5744]

He answered his own questions

[@almawade2603]

If he is truly worried he should not be asking on the internet and start meal-prepping. (The most nutritious foods are not even kept in the fridge). And If she is so irresponsible he should get full custody.

[@AMBROSIA1320]

It sounds like this man has filled her fridge many times and is fed up. People need to be ACCOUNTABLE. They need to have a serious talk, and if she can't step her game up, he should file for full custody. If she is too irresponsible to keep food in her fridge, if only when her kids are with her (3 and a half out of 7 days), changes need to be made. She needs to be honest and get her life together.

[@shaolinqueen3684]

I agree

[@xletragedyx]

He never said that. He never said he had ever done it

[@Unapologetically_Savage]

So if biblical Betty says no man should be asking for advice from a woman why did she throw in her two rusty cents 😮

[@Lauren-nq5oe]

I think the mom should file for child support if she feels her needs are not being met. It’s not his job to fill her fridge.

[@helena3631]

This she should file so she has a set amount she expects or give him the 2 kids full time and keep the other child that’s not his sounds simple to me

[@EndisNai]

There is a lot more information needed for this conversation. If it's a matter of the ex actually earning less income than the man, then he should either take on more custody or supplement with some form of child support. If they make similar incomes, but she's being frivolous with money or she's using her money to feed an addiction, he should take her to court for full custody. Now, if this is a "once in a blue moon" situation where she occasionally is short, it shouldn't be a big deal to prioritize the children being fed. I just feel like, regardless of the circumstance, making sure that the kids have food should be the priority.