Is It OK To Be A Hermit?

Can people who want to live without much social contract be described as modern day 'Hermits?'

[@markbailey64]

I completely agree with you. I have been on my own since my divorce 14 years ago and even though i have four children who are married, i prefer to be alone and i even refuse a family get together. To many people in one place is so overwhelming as i am now used to my own space. Basically, i function better alone and i am able be in a stable state of mind. I am a hermit!

[@primalengland]

We are so alike.

[@turtleanton6539]

Yes

[@zokig5532]

❤

[@TheEnglishladyskitchengarden]

I too would prefer to be alone. I love my garden and slow way of life.

[@1FlyingSolo1]

Great video. Always knew I preferred being alone but bowed to social pressure and was married 9 years. I was miserable during that time. Over 2 years post-divorce now and I am happy to remain single.

[@RareGem369]

We are introverts! We enjoy our own company and love the alone time to think and philosophise! Solitude is a form of freedom! 🥰🙌🏽

[@primalengland]

You get it…

[@SIERRATREES]

Sometimes, as some social obligation looms I get anxious, and decide not to go ; this is followed by a tremendous sense of relief, a high of sorts. The evening will then be spent reading or studying something fascinating.

[@primalengland]

@@SIERRATREES Ha! That is exactly how I feel. I really should get out more, but if you’re happy, you’re happy. 😊

[@primalengland]

@@MomeGnome I think we are on the same wavelength. 😊

[@QueenNoTeetha151]

I’m very introverted and find it often quite hard living with my husband and son as I like peace and quiet and nature and they like noisy tv shows and going to busy places. I love them of course but I’m so glad when they go out and I can have peace and quiet again.

[@richardburnett8595]

Man stands alone . peace my friend.i have been alone for 25 years I'm a happy man

[@primalengland]

We can be happy in our own heads

[@lindagumbleton6569]

“All humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room on his own “ Blaise Pascal French Philosopher and Mathematician 1654 🙏

[@primalengland]

Perfect.

[@qwq203]

My mother always told me I was going to grow up to be a hermit if I didn't start to come out and associate with people. Well, she nailed it..I love my private life. I do have acquaintances, but everything and every one are kept at arms length. I don't have visitors at my cabin in the woods up on the mtn. I feel safe and secure. Time is irrelevant at home. I'm at peace within myself and feel this is the path God wants me on. God Bless

[@shaash5236]

Perfect ❤

[@BlitzenSpeaks]

Today, a Wise Man IS a Hermit. Less drama. Less problems.

[@primalengland]

Everyone needs less drama. 😊👍

[@brigittewalden9226]

I am 63 yrs old and feel the same. I'm a female who just divorced by my choice because i want to live in the country. I've just purchased 1.7 acres of land in Northwest Washington state, USA. I can't tell you how happy I am to be finally be realizing my dream I've had since a child. I've alway felt strange for wanting to go live in the woods. No one i knew felt this way. In America, you would be considered 'weird' for not wanting to be a part of the growing masses living in chaos striving for more. Give me a simple home, a simple life. Quite.....

[@SIERRATREES]

Good for you... what an adventure, Id like to do the same. One comment I have, is that city urban living has become unspeakably noisy, with leaf blowers, loud exhausts, running machinery everywhere, music on iphones eveywhere.... and so to move to the country would be a blissful beneficial escape from all that >>>> ; "less noise" x " a number of years" = " lots of unwanted noise "

[@shaash5236]

Well done

[@shaash5236]

@@SIERRATREESso true! I moved to the country and they built it up all over the place and now it’s noisy, just like your explanation. So I need to move again! And this time I’ll try to go where there are no other people at all! Just animals and trees and Nature .

[@SIERRATREES]

@@shaash5236 Go for it. Im also after no light pollution, I want to see the stars.

[@primalengland]

@@brigittewalden9226 That sounds absolutely idyllic, Brigitte. I hope you are blissfully happy.

[@johngarceau541]

Being alone gives you more time to spend with God.

[@leaevans2347]

AMEN

[@bgockel]

I really appreciate what you're saying here. Subscribed for more like this. Gratitude.

[@primalengland]

Thank you so much.

[@BlacksParson]

Hermit Card in Tarot really explains the meaning & I find this gentleman is also capturing the essence of Hermit energy.

[@primalengland]

Thank you so much.

[@eddy_creative]

Something soothing about walking alone in the hillside, lake district, snowdonia etc. Even better if you have a Dog, a bit of wild camping etc, bliss.

[@primalengland]

That’s all I’ve ever done…, it’s enough

[@spindelnett6315]

I've been fairly content alone on my land for the last 20 years. I allowed a young 'van-lifer' to have an overwintering parkup from last September. It was ok for awhile, but his need for company and regular borrowing of tools has worn me down, so after a long 7 months he's been given a leave-by date. At 30yo, he reminds me too much of my young self.....knowing how to fix the world, multiple unstarted business ideas, expounding on philosophies and the words of esoteric gurus whilst not practicing with fortitude himself. I won't be inviting overwinterers again, as the company of friends and occasional visits from family is perfection enough. And marriage, I'll never curse myself with again. I've my woodland, stone, clay, artbooks, and swallows nesting in my barn. Sit on my steps at dusk with a bottle of McEwan's Champion, and watch the bats emerge from my timberwork. No hassle, no pressure.....

[@DebNewton-kh4cv]

A beautiful life 🤗

[@SIERRATREES]

Sounds good,. Books, hobbies and nature,,

[@SimoneWhippArtist]

When I was a young girl I told my Mum that I wanted to live in a cave. Although married, I spend many hours alone. I don't live in a cave but I do live a reclusive life, by choice. Thanks for another great video! 😊

[@kellihillebrand8341]

I am a 100% an introvert so thoroughly enjoyed this video! It’s so nice when you can relate with others. From a child I’ve always felt something was wrong with me as I always felt out of place, stressed, and exhausted being around others. I am completely at ease as I understand me now☺️

[@primalengland]

Glad you liked it. Sounds like we are on the same wavelength. 😊

[@geoff2212]

I'm just the same, always felt different ,never fitted in never one of the lads. It used to bother me until I accepted I was a loner a none conformist. I'm happy with that👍

[@susanday3478]

Last year, i went down with an illness that has left me virtually housebound. I was amazed to find i love being alone. Being excluded from the hustle and bustle of ordinary life is like a weight being lifted off my shoulders. I love my family and wouldn't want to be without them, but otherwise, im quite content to see other people occasionally. If i want company, I usually come and find it on KZbin.

[@primalengland]

We are very much the same. My recent cancer has precluded me from society even more. Society tells us it’s wrong not to be a member of the tribe/hive. The more people who think that the better, as far as I’m concerned. 😊

[@LeftyLinda]

​@primalengland Exactly. When people act incredulous that we like being alone, they justtaped a sign to their forehead telling us to avoid them.😂

[@primalengland]

@@LeftyLinda I’m ok with that! 😂

[@backroads82]

I am alone due to things of my own making. Some of which were not good and some were. But today is what I have and I chose not to bother or inconvienience anyone with my own life. While I sometimes enjoy company of others, I chose to live a quiet life alone and try to make each day a good day.

[@Imaniiiiiii]

My life is so busy whenever I get alone I loveeee it . Who wants to host when they live a very demanding lifestyle. I just find myself hosting because I dont really follow social norms . Glad to see others who can relate.

[@John1963-l1i]

Very comforting to hear the candid, genuine views of a fellow introverted solitude-lover. Thanks for doing what you’re doing! 😊

[@primalengland]

Thanks for such a positive comment.

[@dawncooper1975]

I'm a popular loner. I know alot of people but you'll mostly find me on my own. I have a husband & a 17 year old son. Obviously I'm with them daily but i also have a lot of alone time, I need that. I love my own company ❤

[@primalengland]

I think we are very similar. Community loners. At home and at peace in both environments.

[@Just_Call_Me_Tim]

0:45 You've won me over initially with this. I have no problem interacting with people; it can be quite entertaining. That said, I _really_ prefer keeping my own company, or that of my closest friends. I've lived in my own head, with my own solitude for as long as I can remember. As far as the news goes, I'll take a cursory glance at things, but I'd rather keep tabs on the weather.

[@primalengland]

Thanks for the comment. Most of my videos are just me riffing. I turn my camera on and just talk. I usually don’t really have a planned subject. This does lead to lots of grammatical mistakes, factual errors and such. I just hope that by the end, the person watching understands where I’m coming from. I’ve tried scripted stuff, but I think I come across as a newsreader. I’m a compulsive news consumer, but believe or give credence to very little of what I hear or read. I’ve already formed my opinions, and actually find the reporter’s, journalist’s opinions amusing. It’s all about their employer’s narrative. 😊👍

[@NigeWebb]

Wonderful to hear someone with very similar thoughts and lifesyle as me. Hwyl, Taffy Nige, South Wales x

[@primalengland]

And a fellow Nige, to boot. Nice to meet you. 😊

[@JillGrant-e7f]

I am just like you - I live alone and love my own company. I never get lonely or bored and I do not need to be entertained. I love going out into nature alone to spend time looking at a river and watching all the wildlife around me. To me that is Heaven. I do it often because I also know it is good for my mental and physical health. I too live in my head, but I can still my thoughts whenever I choose so as to enjoy the peace and solitude deeply. Ours is a life of joy and bliss and we wouldn't give it up for anything.

[@lindagumbleton6569]

The irony is that by being true to yourself seeking the peace of mind offered by solitude your creative talent has flowered and through the technology available you are making true connection to thousands of other minds who are benefiting from your wonderful insights and reflections and by sharing the beauty of nature. Bingo! To me you are demonstrating that taking care of the Self is actually a way to give to humanity so Thank you for respecting your own needs and thereby giving to all of us who enjoy your wonderful videos. 🙏💚🤸‍♂️

[@primalengland]

Isn’t this just the perfect circle of life. Learning and giving back and learning….

[@lindagumbleton6569]

@@primalengland yes very true, giving life meaning and purpose 🙏💚

[@Rose_1256]

Thanks Nigel... another 'down to earth' video. I've just watched your video re 'Hermit' I couldn't watch it all along as when I'd see the word 'Hermit' it straightaway remains me of my Dad & he passed over 11 yrs ago! So... about 15 years ago.. I remember him sitting smoking his pipe & looking out on to the mountain behind my parents house & him saying (privately) to me that "he could easily become a hermit" I was making tea & stopped in my tracks... as... I just couldn't grasp what he said. He did explain why.. & he did love his wife & family but he yearned 'no people & especially no gossip & valued nature in all her Glory' It's taken me until about 2 years ago to realise what he meant & I fully 'get it' & I too yearn for 'solitude' & could become a ... part-time Hermit! I mentioned in another comment about living in a large town & have tried to move & used 'positive thinking etc' but reality is needed too. Sorry... long comment ... I don't expect anybody to read. Regards. Rose 🦋

[@primalengland]

Your dad sounds like a wise man. I think it has to be in our makeup to yearn for these things. When feelings like this are in your dna, you just can’t deny it. Thank you for the comment, Rose. ❤️🌹

[@Rose_1256]

@primalengland He was 🪷. Thank you for taking your valuable 'time' to read my comment & reply. 'Time' to give to people.. in my opinion is a wonderful - gift. I wish people when meeting up in say a cafe... would put their phones away & be present. Regards. Rose 🌼

[@harbinger3698]

Love this, I have always loved my own company and have been in hermit mode for most of my life as best as am able, bar my kids, some family and a couple of friends who I tolerate mostly haha The older I get the more I need peace! I have a sign on my gate which reads Have A Lovely Day, Somewhere Else! Unfortunately people think it is a joke.

[@primalengland]

We are kindred spirits. All I need now is the sign. 😊

[@jenwick8708]

Totally agree! I've been on my own for many years and can't imagine having someone else living with me. I do have 3 kids and 4 grandchildren, all living in the same town, and don't spend much time with them. I love them dearly, but I love my time to myself.

[@crazylady..]

❤👍LOL For years I've called myself a "hermit-ess" & really enjoy the peace and quiet, of country, and even more so as I age, I'm 70, yet I refuse to grow old. Often I only go to town, once a month and talk to people then, as I live in a friendly state. But then I can go home. This week more trips to a yard sale and auction, so more speaking to people other than my cat. My kids only text and never call. And maybe camping out, but I can always go back to my home base camp and my own space. And as you said, do what I like. With no interference. I'm really glad that I came across your channel and wise thoughts and words. Keep them coming 🙋

[@dorisemone6778]

I love that..."hermit-ess" 💚Although we both like to be alone, we could probably be good friends. A simple life with my cat. Dreams of living in the country in a "friendly state?" Which state is that? I'm in Cali. People are a mix of hot and cold. Protecting property and privacy, always on the top of the list for most. Easy to be alone. A sense of community harder to find when you want it ,or need it. Be well.

[@crazylady..]

@@dorisemone6778 Hey dori, thanks for noticing my comment. I too once upon a time lived in Cali, long before it was called that. Have family buried there, tho they weren't from there. I've lived in many places and, yes I do miss some. But it seems like the beautiful places soon become over run , with too many sheeple. For now I'm in the central US, Nebraska. Where abouts is your area?

[@dorisemone6778]

@@crazylady.. South coast area. Always thinking of moving. Miss the seasonal changes. Originally from the East Coast. No problem living a slow life. I have perfected the art of "down time." LOL! Just found this channel. Really liking it! Take care. Be well.

[@crazylady..]

@@dorisemone6778 dori, my daughter in law is from that big city, on that southern coast, family is buried far inland east from there. They moved there for the drs across that southern fence. Me? I've always been part gypsy with itchy feet, so understand, the wanting to move. And something else to consider, is there's so many areas, that are so much cheaper to live in than where you are now. Even though so many states have changed drastically, and become expensive, than such as Montana, everyone now wants to live there, and have brought all their city with them, changing it all so much. I prefer driving for miles, and seeing very few vehicles. 😁 But then again, I am rather selfish, 😊🙋‍♀️

[@dorisemone6778]

.@@crazylady.."gypsy with itchy feet!" I like that! LOL! Any suggestions? Affordable, (friendly) places to live and age well? I already live a simple, quiet life, and plan my errands around avoiding traffic and people. Too fast and furious here for me. Trees, rivers, birds, and changing seasons for me!😸

[@trentp151]

Never feel guilty about being a solitary but good man.

[@The-Ancestral-Cucina]

Your honesty is so, so refreshing. To enjoy your own company as much as you do is the greatest form of self-love. I adore my husband and my family, but my alone time is something I need for my own well being. It is an absolute must-have!

[@kiwikim5163]

Dealing with people is stressful! We love our home which has nature around it. Our four dogs give us love and having them around brings life into the home. The plants also. Our son is similar. He lives in Montana. Our nervous systems don’t do well without nature and with too many people.

[@primalengland]

I have lived a pretty solitary life for years. I used to spend my spare time climbing and wildcamping, alone. Going on motorcycle trips, alone. I only had a couple of childhood friends who moved away, then passed away. I have one true friend and we understand each other. She’s a she, so we tend to have a pretty stress free friendship. My kids love me and I love them, but they know I don’t want us to live in each other’s pockets. I think living in nature and avoiding the madding crowds is pretty reasonable.😊

[@enoch4499]

I'm in the midst of discovering what really, truly feels like my authentic self on every level. I have been accepting this hermit aspect of myself and learning how to navigate it. It's been challenging with people who feel they have a need of me and that I am obligated, which most people like this do not accept the fact that nobody is actually obligated to them. Needing something is valid, but impeding on someone else's boundaries as a means to an end is much more selfish than the hermit who said 'no'. The world is not full of hermits so there is no reason for the hermit to be expected to conform to the majority of non-hermits. I am mentally and physically unwell when this boundary is not honored. It's not selfish to live my life to my standards. I am so grateful to be married and happy together with someone who is much like me and also very unique and different from me.

[@primalengland]

Ah! But…. Society. Society tells us what’s best for us. There would be so many more happy people in the world if we all had the strength of will to tell society to go and do one. 😊

[@thermallyinvested]

Such a joy to hear you articulating how I feel about being alone. My only issue with living the hermit lifestyle is how it seems to raise suspicion in people I know, who either refuse to believe I can be truly happy, or else take my desire to do things alone as a personal slight on them. Or both. I’m reaching a place now where I’ve stopped trying to explain my need and love of solitude , and accepting that people will think what they think regardless. Great video !

[@primalengland]

I know what you mean. It’s a gradual process for people to accept your wish for privacy. My children, and indeed my whole family understand, and seldom press me to join family get togethers. They always ask out of courtesy, but accept my answer without fuss. Having said that, I visit them one on one. My daughter is still a massive daddy’s girl, even at nearly 40. You can lead a more solitary life and still have good relations with your family. Friends?……. I have one true friend, and that’s enough. She knows me better than I know myself.

[@fyrish100]

Peace & quiet ,no nagging , no drama I love my space & freedom . Especially since the convid , I feel let down by most of humanity Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🇬🇧

[@primalengland]

Perfectly mirrors my own sentiments.

[@Maddi64]

I have a Husband and elderly mother I'm close to but, I choose to not have friends... I value the time I have alone. I've just been watching a couple of your videos (they popped-up in my video feed) and it's been an enjoyable and refreshing 1/2 hour listening to you chat about slow living, etc... Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Now subscribed

[@primalengland]

Thank you, and thank you so much for subscribing. 😊

[@1961kickboxer]

After a bad divorce I found peace in my solitude ,I can sleep when I want and no petty arguments.

[@primalengland]

I’ve been divorced twice and always extol the virtues of doing what the hell you want when the hell you want. 😊

[@maripugh]

That was a very helpful video for me. I'm trying to come to terms with being on my own with some mobility problems but I don't mind my own company as long as I don't listen to people making sympathetic noises about the " loneliness of the elderly people on their own at Christmas".

[@primalengland]

😁 I see it as the independence of us old fogies at Christmas. I love being on my own. 😊

[@desiangrezifoodie]

I can relate to this but I wouldn't class myself as a hermit. I love being alone. But I do have a girlfriend. We live separately and enjoy each other's company once a week, and sometimes only once a fortnight. I work alone. I walk my dog alone. I spend my evenings alone. And I'm happy with my own thoughts and company. I have two boys but they don't live with me. I spend quality time with them but then go home alone again. I'm just an introvert. I don't attend large gatherings or family gatherings. I shy away from crowds. I wither when in social situations where I may be expected to socialize. But... one-to-one conversation I enjoy. Talking to strangers can be so lovely. Because there is no commitment, it just flows sometimes and I really appreciate that kind of social interaction. I have a few friends. That'll do.

[@primalengland]

That is almost a mirror image of my own life and feelings.

[@cathypreddie98]

I am completely like this. Love my alone time. I can be social and love people but just love to be on my own and quiet and peaceful with my cat !!! I have never heard anyone speak to exactly how I feel. It’s like you are speaking my own mind. Unbelievable. I am so happy that there are other people that feel the same. Thank you!!!❤

[@ShaunHall-i7e]

Although some of us enjoy being alone we still need human contact but on our own terms. The lesson for me is respecting people's boundaries so we can all get along. Much love to you all.

[@primalengland]

That is so true. I interact, but prefer my own company. I would never feel comfortable invading someone’s boundaries or forcing my company on others. In today’s world it seems almost mandatory to make sure everyone around you is aware of your opinions.

[@pedallinraw]

Agree…also the last four years has divided people even more and that makes it even harder to talk with others,people who believe what they were told and had all those procedures …the world is nothing like we think it is and once you see that you can be set more free…like you mention the constant news and BS….to spark up conversation with possible like minded folk can be hard… Much easier being alone….🙂👍🏻

[@primalengland]

The lockdown left a lasting legacy of mistrust and caution. It will take a long time to go back to factory settings.

[@johngarceau541]

Fear was the emotion they used during the plandemic

[@inishmannin]

Oh. KZbin algorithm suggested this. Well found a male alter ego. This is my life. Me, my dog and outdoors. Slow, small, simple, silent , still.

[@primalengland]

I’m looking into a mirror. That’s me. 😊

[@kg6683]

Subscribed. I just discovered your channel today, while looking for videos regarding hermits. So much of what you say reflects what I've come to believe. I'm almost 80 years old now; and at the moment I feel like you've been reading my mind. :)

[@primalengland]

Fantastic to learn that someone else ‘gets’ what I’m saying. Thanks for subscribing. Appreciated.

[@cherilynne1946]

Hello, Nigel-I’m a new subscriber to your channel. After losing my husband to the ravages of Type-1 diabetes, and with absolutely no desire to even attempt to find his replacement, I’m slowly learning to embrace the thing that used to frighten me: solitude, which had always been synonymous to loneliness for me. It’s good to find a voice out there extolling the joys of solitude.

[@primalengland]

I’m sorry to hear about your husband. I hope you can find peace and happiness. I’m one of those people who is lucky enough to find contentment in solitude. It can be a nice place to be. ❤️

[@cherilynne1946]

@@primalengland You’re very kind. Thank you. I’m finally at a place along what had once been a path shrouded entirely by the shadows of the past but now has sunlight filtering through the darkness with promises of a peaceful, contented life that’s just ahead of me.

[@primalengland]

@@cherilynne1946 I’m a believer in time being a great healer. I always say that tears of grief eventually turn in to tears of happy memories tinged with melancholy.❤️

[@cherilynne1946]

@@primalengland I’d always heard that “time is the greatest healer,” but when I was drowning in wave after wave of grief, I was certain that whoever coined that phrase was full of rubbish. The loss of someone you dearly love creates an emptiness that can never be filled. And while I still believe that, time does heal the wound to the point in which the rawness and the pain are eased. The soft scar remains and becomes part of who you are. It’s up to each of us to either let the scar define us or not. I choose the latter.

[@primalengland]

@@cherilynne1946 I’ve lost only two really close people, lots of friends, but not desperately close. One was my dad, who died young, the other was my fiancé who died many years ago from cancer. I still think of her a lot. She was the most beautiful person I have ever met, both inside and out. I kept a couple of photographs of us, and when I look at them I find myself smiling, but with a tear in my eye. Her name was Catherine.

[@julesporter8790]

I love to be alone. I always have done since being a child. To me, bliss would be living in a cabin near the Arctic with only the whales and bears for company. And if I got eaten by a bear then it wouldn’t be the worst way to go. Albeit, after watching The Revenant, it might not be the quickest exit route off the planet 😂 So glad to find lots of likeminded folks here from around the globe. Doubtless we’ve all trodden very different paths in life. But we found ourselves here, connected through this channel. What a great place to be ❤

[@Seamus3051]

If we're unable to abide within our selves, we, certainly won't be able abide with others. Human company is tolerable, when experienced in very small doses. Cheers. 🙂

[@primalengland]

I have one true friend and we love each other’s company, but when it’s time to leave, I think we are both thankful to be back in our own company.

[@thesingingbowlshop]

we evolved in family groups and villages. I think we thrive in a village environment where you are helped thorough life by family and community and you in turn, help others, women with children in particular. The lonely, depressed city dweller is surrounded by people but knows no-one. Is he a hermit...or a victim of modern society? Some choose to avoid social contact and limit interactions because people 'do their heads' in'. Possibly, historical hermits were much like that.

[@primalengland]

The idea of Hermits was usually linked to a kind of religious servitude. I think your analogy nails it, though. I think that definition applies to me, pretty much. I always hated crowds and found them intimidating. I would eschew cities like the plague. My childhood holidays were always in remote areas where we spent our time climbing and exploring. My father was a headteacher, watercolour artist and musician. A very beautiful man. I think I was always destined to strive to live my best life inside my own small orbit. the singing bowl shop? I’ve had a few singing bowls over the years. I record and busk handpans, Rav drums and Gouda drums. I also record for my bandcamp channel using lots of percussion. I’ve been a percussionist since I played with Pete Shelley in the pre Buzzcocks band about a thousand years ago. Getting into Nordic sounds lately and recorded a little Viking saga thing. Very simple, but I enjoyed it.

[@karen4you]

I think of myself as introverted and too much interaction with people wears me out. Comfortable by myself with just some interaction. I really liked being married but widowed, I can embrace enjoying the quiet life and exploring all that is me without stopping to be a wife with set duties and compromising. Except for my persistent cat, Tort, who has few needs and is a joy. And cuddles up wondrously on cold nights.

[@Abc0123z]

Believe it or not Being a hermit or a shut in as they call it Is the ACTUAL real reason for sweetest day

[@turtleanton6539]

Yes😊

[@juliewright8426]

Even though my husband and I share (note share ) a house.. I consider my self a recluse.. most of the time .. I like my own company my own thoughts my own life..

[@darkangelkate3950]

Thank you again for this video. You are very wise to be you and enjoy it. I, too, am a hermit. Please give Molly a hug from me❤ . Wish me luck in my quest to find myself a dog . Take care.😊

[@primalengland]

The dog will find you. 😊🐶

[@darkangelkate3950]

@@primalengland thank you.

[@julesrabelo2943]

It's nice to hear I'm not alone in this. I'm 32 and have become more of a hermit and happier for it over the years. I took time to understand this and at one point realized that either I enjoy my solitude the most or prefer 1-on-1 situations. As George Carlin said, “I love people as I meet them one by one. People are just wonderful as individuals. You see the whole universe in their eyes if you look carefully”. He went on to say that people change when they start to group, and that they sacrifice the beauty of the individual for the sake of the group. I wholeheartedly agree with this. I've questioned if I'm shy or a people pleaser and not comfortable being myself when I'm with lots of people and maybe thats true in some situations but I actually get confused all of the time as an extrovert by new people. I'm a joyful, curious and open-minded individual. I also notice that when I meet the right people i feel excited so now I've fully accepted that I am a hermit and wait for those wonderful moments. Another thing that helped me accept this part of me is learning astrology and my natal chart. I am meant to more be in solitude in this lifetime to evolve and it made so much sense to me especially seeing the result of spending more time on my own - happy and healthier! Cheers to all the introverts!

[@primalengland]

It is so true that when you converse with the individual, you converse with the individual. When you converse with the group, you are subjected to group think. I have only one true friend, and when we spend time together it feels secure and valuable. We can sit for hours without saying anything, happy to just be in each other’s company. I have been so long alone that when I am in a group situation, I feel as though I’m saying what I’m expected to say and doing what I’m expected to do.

[@Anita-rq9ev]

Hello Nigel 🖐. Your channel was recommended by another youtuber and it speaks to me. I value my alone time a lot, especially after work (office 😉) and this is how I recharge my battery. Unfortunately, I don't live close to nature, but I have my flat, it's my cosy space. I agree with you, we should live as it suits us, as long as no harm is done. The countryside you live in is beautiful, been many times to England. All the best to you and Molly 🙏. Greetings from Germany. Subscribed 😊

[@primalengland]

Thank you so much, Anita, for the subscription and the lovely comment.

[@Anita-rq9ev]

@@primalengland thank you for taking the time to read my comment and reply 😊

[@emmab7658]

Just found your channel and it inspires me. I am just below my 50s and are currently looking for a house in the country side. It is my dream to live alone (with some animals) close to nature and now I want to make it happen. Solitude is the air that I breathe! Lots of love from Sweden and I will be watching more of your videos. 🌻

[@primalengland]

Thank you so much. I have lived in the countryside for years, primarily on a boat for the last 17 years. I now live in a small town, but I can’t get used to it, and am looking to move on. I talk about it in my next video, out Wednesday, I think.

[@emmab7658]

@@primalengland Thanks for the reply and I will keep my eyes open for new videos. 😊

[@runthomas]

im same ..went for a walk to liverpool castle at 5 am 5th jan 2025, and about 15 minutes into the head torch walk , i saw another head torch, bobbing in the darkness, then when i finally reached liverpool castle , heard some voices, went inside and 2 scousers were there ...had a quick chat ...they were exploring. then after about an hour early twilight came and several people with dogs and a few joggers...next thing it was like picadilly circus..ha ha ...but still a lovely walk, my aim is to buy a little cottage around rivington, get a dog , and spend tons of time out in it .all the elements all year round. i am mid 50s now...who has a massive group of friends around this area...i left and went to london for 25 years...when i came back all my friends are still there,as we kept in touch...but now its all gossip, drinking, and more gossip....not only that but this having a laugh thing doesnt work for me anymore. i dont drink any more dont smoke any more and read a lot and love the elements and the countryside after being stuck in london for 25 years hustling and bustling. now i prefer time on my own in the country...i have actually bumped into you once near liverpool castle..just outside the entrance, and chatted a little. i consider myself a hermit now.. even though the door keeps knocking with old friends wanting some drama.

[@Hogo69]

The answer is yes - we’re free to choose how we want to live and follow our own nature of being.

[@kayrudicell5217]

Yes, exactly! I like to think my own thoughts!

[@MsScotlyn]

I've always known I was an introvert, I just didn't know there was a name for it until a few years ago! When I found out the traits I thought OMG that's me, it's normal! We are very alike 🐕

[@SimonDeBelleme1]

You speak to my soul. Subscribed.

[@meloearth]

I love it that Molly foung a place to lie down and be on camera too. Cute.

[@primalengland]

She is fabulous. ❤️

[@dorisemone6778]

Just love this ramble today. New to your channel. You and Molly have a nice life. Your words resonate with me. Thanks.

[@primalengland]

Thank you so much for the lovely comment. 😊

[@dorisemone6778]

@@primalengland You are quite welcome.😸

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

Thanks for that Nigel, your posts are so honest and relatable I love tuning in. I would love to wander in beautiful isolated places but being female I have been conditioned since childhood to stay away from these places and stay in busy places which I dislike for safety reasons. Maybe I should adopt a big mean looking dog to accompany me and my beagle 😂blessings to you and Molly 🥰

[@primalengland]

Big mean dog or some big mean walking companions. I think we are all aware of the perils faced by females on their own. Such a sad reflection of these times.

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

@@primalengland could try bribing my sons to come along 😁

[@primalengland]

@@DeborahPinder-f5t I’m not a ‘group’ player, but they are out there. Shame not to enjoy the remote Beauty.

[@sarah-kk4om]

I’m a 51 year old introvert and my mum an extrovert seems to think there is something wrong with me and has always tried to force me to socialise. I feel this is the wrong thing to do if you have an introvert child. She still does this so she’s not going to change. Being made to feel there is something wrong with me for being an introvert has damaged my self esteem

[@primalengland]

My son is in his mid thirties now, but spent most of his life as a very introverted kid. It worried us enormously, but mainly because he was bullied at school. I just encouraged him to do what he wanted, just like my dad did, me. He is now a university lecturer in 3D art and a very successful musician. He is still very introverted, and this causes issues when people press him to do things. I just leave him to himself, letting him know I’m always there. We cannot impose our lifestyle choices on others. We can always just ramble on about it like I do. 😁

[@sarah-kk4om]

@@primalengland I wish my parents had the same attitude as you and your dad.

[@Rose_1256]

​@@primalengland Very wise to let children be 'true' to themselves... especially in their formative years = the building blocks for life. That's fabulous about your son... fair play + well done. Regards. Rose 🦋

[@vincegallagher4542]

Sarah- I have felt the same way. I was an only child and relatives thought there might be something wrong with me because I was a loner...but that's just the way I was. It's positive to hear there are other people who have experienced similar situations. I hope things go well with you.

[@valeriewalker954]

I'm more like an in-between person. I love people and go shopping once a week for food and to be social, then I love my alone life with my cats as well.

[@gl8351]

Horses for courses, be a funny world if we were all the same. Nice one 👍🏻

[@sihaves8808]

I'm married with a young son. I love my solitary time when i can get it. I have been on solitary/ silent retreats in the past and been really comfortable with my own company and the silence. I have a small group of good friends who i really value and I'm happy with that. I enjoy listening to your musings. Cheers

[@primalengland]

Thank you. Your life mirrors mine in many respects.

[@vl4394]

Okay relative to what? From what perspective, by what metrics, at what time, in what sense? Why even ask the question? I was always alone, for one reason or another. I know all the different allegorical structures, all the different psychological architectures, emotional curves, the basis and genesis of living this way or that, what it affords, what it deprives, what happens if a given state or frame of life is disrupted or is made too prolonged, fixation on utility and intstrumentality, engulfment terror, rejection of intimacy, fatigue at the sheer stupidity of the average person, looking back and mourning what's gone and now can never be made up for, wanting to escape the game and being trapped amidst the predator and prey herd animal dynamic inherent to the degenerate trauma bonded human livestock farm posing as a society. All of it. My opinion is that it's a question that isn't worth asking. People who know, know. People who don't, don't. There's a difference also between people who were there, and then left it. And people who watched the world as though through a small window with a thick pane of glass, then finally separated from it entirely. These two are not the same, at all. One had and gave it up. The other never had. A lot of human existence is actually an unconscious telepathic process. However on another layer it's essentially might makes right. "Justice is for the strong". If you're hermit and the others have their natural tendency towards gradual diffusion, you'll be displaced over and over again, and the system they abide by will give them the right. Unless, again, you have the right internal organization to make it so they cannot displace you. Which I suppose for a hermit may well become the goal, immunity. Separation and individuation. Invulnerability, absolute control, and exemption from the natural order.

[@primalengland]

The last sentence was pretty accurate…..

[@martinclark4637]

I totally relate. And its comforting to read that there are so many other people out there that have a similar outlook to mine. Keep the great videos happening, I just subacribed 👍

[@primalengland]

Thank you for the sub, Martin. Appreciate it. 👍

[@pilpelet100]

How about using the term "Loner" rather than "Hermit"? I think it would be more accurate. However, the social folk will never understand them whatever you call them. Having said that, I agree with everything you say.

[@RareGem369]

We are introverts!

[@LeftyLinda]

You put this so perfectly. I couldn't have said it any better myself.

[@primalengland]

Thank you. 😊

[@nigelwright107]

I’m called Nigel too and this video describes me and my life perfectly. I love being alone.

[@primalengland]

You can never have enough Nigels 👍

[@nigelwright107]

@@primalengland 🤣

[@janetbransdon3742]

I too love my own company. I have joined a social group but I now have too many friends. I state I am having a quiet time at home only to find they take no notice. They pop round for an unarranged visit or talk ages on the phone.. HELP... I yearn for my life I had before. ❤

[@turtleanton6539]

Yes🎉

[@sjchan3199]

Yh i agree i dont have friends which suits me, but i hate all this everyone has to know everything about you and your life. Ive got family and neighbours who want to micro manage my partner and i life It never used to be like that

[@primalengland]

No it didn’t used to be like that. I think that if you excuse yourself often enough, people gradually start leaving you alone. That may not please them, but that’s their problem. 😊

[@carmelopai4833]

mee tooo

[@stifledvoice]

I believe in soulmates, but I'm not sure everyone will find one. There's nothing as beautiful as beauty that is shared. I used to make yammering rationales to justify my depressive lonely state, but I was in denial. So much goes unseen in this world as long as we listen to the clattertrap dialog of our minds.

[@primalengland]

I have one friend. I never had many, and most are now gone. My one friend is the opposite sex, a bit younger, but we just gel. The only person I can feel truly relaxed with. I don’t do idle chatter. It feels like a waste of energy. I’d rather be alone with my thoughts…. and my dog. 🐶😊

[@MaisyK]

the fewer people around you the less bullshit you have to listen to.

[@SIERRATREES]

100 %

[@bethmendoza1847]

I’m surprised to hear you express the same sentiments about being alone that I have.

[@primalengland]

There are many of us out there, but so many buckle under the wishes of others and just conform.

[@stuart2010ification]

Where do you get your cloths? I really like them.

[@primalengland]

I actually used to get them from obscure websites. I now just get them all on Amazon. Just put in ‘men’s hippy clothes’… I know it sounds cheesy. Everything I buy is on there.

[@Pondapple]

When your viewers comment here, as I am now, it's like the old days when you would get a pen pal and exchange letters. You would never meet, usually. It was as slow as the mail and pleasant. So commenting here, is a pen pal writing back to you.

[@MaineEmOcean]

All my life I've fantasized of having a close and connection family. It's never happened. Recently someone told me "you don't need family, the earth is your family". I love my freedom yet not sure WHY I daydream of having a tribe so much (?). Am I being fed the b.s. and hear it everywhere? Because as much as people mention their family--they're also whining about their family and it sounds they're bound to them in an imprisoned way, also exclusive of others. Should I give up the dream of family at 52? I mean, I do have adult sons that are very independent, and not estranged from my elderly dad and siblings, yet we don't ACT like a close unit.

[@primalengland]

I have a 96 year old mum, a brother two kids and two grandsons. We love each other, but they understand that I like to be on my own. We chat on the phone every couple of weeks and I go to see my mum once a week. I feel close to them without actually seeing them very often. It works for me. I think we must have found the right balance.

[@MelodyBee-yl7we]

Good for you! :)

[@primalengland]

Thank you. 😊

[@knowledgeberakah1728]

I live like a hermit 90 percent of the time n people especially my brother n his kids go out they way to be in my space 😂! I stopped talking to my adopted side after a stroke 2021.My mom was so clingy before I had a stroke

[@primalengland]

My family are a bit the same, well, my daughter is. My son understands. My daughter worries about me like she’s my mum. My mum is 97 this year, and drives me mad. She’s stone deaf, but rings me up, then tells me she can’t hear me. 😊

[@knowledgeberakah1728]

@@primalengland don't pic up

[@MrDirkles]

I get on my own nerves a lot of the time

[@johnscholey6185]

Most old guys like me just want peace and quiet.

[@GenericGX]

Sir let be your right hand or student i think my goal in life is to be a hermit like you

[@dandelionwishes9842]

Know 5 month's ago an just seeing now,but ty 😀

[@primalengland]

Thank you.

[@John75Mulhern]

I've noticed that the government are trying to ban smoking outside and people are rebelling by saying they'll smoke where they want....I hope people stay away from the secluded places I like to go as that won't make me happy. Stay in your own homes and smoke, leave us alone 🙂

[@primalengland]

Ha! You know, I never thought of that. I don’t mind people smoking, that’s up to them, but I must admit. I was sitting on a bench in the middle of nowhere yesterday, and someone walked past about 40 ft away, but I still got a full on blast of their smoke. Just a little thing, but I hope it doesn’t become a thing.

[@geoff2212]

I like my own company although I have a wife and son and beautiful grandchildren I've always been a loner. Can't stand to be among crowds of people. Being outside among nature walking my dog is where I feel happy and safe. My shed is my bolt hole making walking sticks and staffs. I try and keep away from the rat race I've found it easier to do that being retired.

[@primalengland]

I have two children and two grandchildren. I love them and they love me. We don’t see as much of each other as we could, but they live just far enough away for it to be a day’s job to go and visit them. I think they just know me and accepted that I’m not into the whole family get together thing. I can’t think of anything worse, but my daughter, even at 40, is still a daddy’s girl and messages me all the time asking if I’m alright. I probably come across as a frail old bloke to her.

[@geoff2212]

@@primalengland My wife doesn't understand my reluctance to participate in family gatherings it's not as if I'm anti-social because I'm not I just prefer my own company. I've always been like this never seem to fit in anywhere just like to do my own thing. What's wrong with that?

[@primalengland]

@@geoff2212 Nothing wrong with that. I feel exactly the same.

[@karenebarker9244]

My Dear Husband of 55 years is a hermit who lives with a people person. Bless him but it works for us. He has taught me the value of solitude and I have encouraged him to enjoy small bits of the company of others besides me. I have a book recommendation for you. I visited Fairhope Alabama USA a couple years ago and spent some time in this hermits quirky and wonderful hand built home. I'm sure you can aquire the book somewhere in print or an ebook. If not I will be happy to send a copy to you. It would be my pleasure. awriterswindow.com/2023/07/31/book-review-monday-the-poet-of-tolstoy-park-by-sonny-brewer/

[@primalengland]

Thank you, Karen. I found it in paperback on Amazon and have ordered it. Thank you for the recommendation. ❤️

[@karenebarker9244]

@@primalengland Wonderful! I hope it speaks to your heart like it did mine. All the best to you!

[@tommychook4552]

ok with me ?

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

My dream life

[@carolinegraystone9308]

bliss aspirational

[@DebNewton-kh4cv]

You have described me to a tee…🤗

[@primalengland]

There appears to be a heck of a lot of us out there. 😊

[@xooziekingdom]

what kind of camera were you using? i like the tracking

[@primalengland]

It’s a dji pocket 3. It has face tracking. They are hugely popular with bloggers.

[@xooziekingdom]

thank you @@primalengland

[@emilypound]

Why wouldn't it be? Who gives the ok? ME!!! Proud hermit here :)

[@primalengland]

Hi! Fellow hermit. Fellow appreciator of everything big or small .❤️

[@balluna1453]

I really enjoyed today's 'rant'/moan, although it was from another freewheeling hermit, the world is becoming full of them it seems 😃. You've probably made yourself more attractive, so expect messages from lonely ladies ...or men, whatever, I stay away from admitting to my odd behaviour, it does trigger interest in those that want to convince themselves that you/we haven't met the right person yet, which is what they are, not my problem, not my concern, I just like being left alone until I need interesting company 😂 ...whatever. 🙄

[@riverzend1033]

To long didnt watch but its ok im sire of it

[@bethanyp5841]

Follow your heart and don't should all over yourself! :)

[@primalengland]

You just summed up my life. X

[@lindavernon8051]

I have to wonder why you feel the need to make videos . . .it’s interesting isn’t it?