Is It Okay To Love Multiple People At A Time?

[@RevMet]

Leanne did so well articulating her points! I thought the debate would've benefited from more questions being put to Matthew instead of just questions put to Leanne.

[@shen8819]

It's ok as long as everyone involved is ok with it.

[@Marz2727]

Spot on

[@shen8819]

@@Marz2727 Yes, nobody dies or is harmed so this is not like abortion.

[@clb8645]

@@shen8819 In that regard, it is exactly like abortion.

[@shen8819]

@@clb8645 Who are we killing/hurting?

[@gisellefendi5793]

@@shen8819 and who are we killing in an abortion?

[@Varun2565]

Pro monogamy dude was weak. His points were weak. Leanne wins. I still will be monogamy relationship but accept anyone in polygamy relationships.

[@serialroaster3968]

*The third category of not being in a relationship wins* ☠️☠️

[@animator3918]

True

[@karlaelizarraraz5020]

I think the guy is just criticizing poly instead of defending monogamy and contradicting himself 😅

[@phuonganh26s]

Such a nice debate! I’ve been raised in a very traditional society, polyamory is considered unethical and is strongly condemned. I thought the same before watching this video, but I didn’t have a clear reason why I protest it. I just followed the conventions. It’s still hard for me to accept polyamory right away, but at least I won’t think of it as something immoral or dirty anymore. The whole debate also offers interesting views which let me reflect on the meaning of relationships, and most importantly, the reasons of my choice. Mad respect for Matthew and Leanne!

[@laryan_7]

Yeah I agree. I also thought the same before this video but the debate showed new viewpoints and wasn’t forcing the idea on us but encouraging acceptance towards others.

[@polyphiliablog]

Reading this warmed my heart! I’m really glad I was able to open your mind to being accepting of others even if you don’t choose it for yourself!

[@NasDebates]

We are so happy you feel this way! That’s the whole point of the debates :)

[@khosrowanushirwan7591]

Polyamory is the destruction of human society My personel view

[@hareeshkota8431]

@@khosrowanushirwan7591 true the world would be a much better place without it

[@SpookyTuesday69]

"Grrr, polyamory bad.... what if Bad thing that happens in monogomy? what if another bad thing that happens primarily in monogomy? what if thing that has nothing to do with polyamory? I don't have any real reasons as to why I'm monogomous and I simply want to monopolise my partner's time. In conclusion: POLY PEOPLE BAD."

[@therealI4Got]

Killer episode. These debates just keep getting better and better! I dont think I have the emotional capacity for a polyamorous relationship, but I do see its merits!!!

[@feartheghus]

I’m not emotionally stunted enough for polyamory. I’m capable of giving everything to the one I truly love, without any urge or need to selfishly save some of it for me, nor to focus wrongfully on “self discovery” or fun, or curiosity, or anything else that is selfish and, ironically, counterproductive to my own happiness in the long run, and certainly to my loved one and any children I’d have with her.

[@deepwateryaya]

Yay! It’s Leanne! Love the way you brought reflection into every side of the issue … presenting poly and mono as two separate paths, equally valid, while really questioning the convention 💗

[@polyphiliablog]

This debate was so fun! I hope that through this debate people will open their eyes to more relationship styles other than monogamy, and everyone gets to freely choose to have the number of consenting partners that works best for them.

[@NasDebates]

Thank you so much for coming on the debate Poly Philia! You really taught us a lot!

[@minionek247]

I see your point on this however it definitely is something not for most people. Both points are good however multiple partners have more minuses than being with one partner so I will go with monogamy.

[@czar6203]

My theory: before polygamy will become normalize, marriage would be gone first.

[@polyphiliablog]

@@minionek247 that’s fair enough! It is all about personal choice. No one is trying to force anyone to do anything they don’t want to do 😄

[@trcemalemretr]

Being a hooker means sexualising the individuals , hurt their feelings and etc .

[@cacoreyann]

this was such an uneven match. She schooled him over and over and over.

[@aluisfar4154]

I stick to my opinion, I still think loving more than one person is wrong, and his points were weak compared to hers, we need a better debater in this type of subject.

[@KaranSehgal]

Honestly rather than a debate, it felt like an attack on polyamory and Leanne had to defend herself and her identity. It is also quite triggering at times, because of the stigma poly people face. The amount of scrutiny faced by polyamory is unimaginable, while most of the points against polyamory can also be used against monogamy.

[@teaganbowie2340]

Agreed, about halfway through it became " Well I couldn't do that how could YOU" And Leanne having to discuss her personal life and not the larger concept of polyamory

[@jenniferorourke1374]

Absolutely agree. I was waiting for cogent arguments to be made on both sides but if your argument is simply to attack your opponent, you’re not being a good advocate for your position. Leanne made a series of well considered points in the face of a barrage of judgment - nicely done!

[@elisakrivas]

Yup 😢 Thank you 💖

[@aasthashrivastava4644]

Totally agreed

[@Davidsweirdness]

Go cry

[@unknownentity7799]

I must say this debate shaked my opinion on polyamory which was not a good one before. Although I agree it should be a choice given to the people whether they can be in single or multiple relationship (ethically) because ultimately people want a happy family for themselves :) Keep the new debates coming it's too good to be stopped or skipped over and now this debate ranks 2nd in my list.(first being the democratic one)

[@bobthebacon3163]

yeah but if two people in a relationship and one of them doesn't want to or doesn't feel comfortable knowing their partner is also seeing another person that isn't really good.

[@bobthebacon3163]

My point is that multiple (ethnically good) relationships are ok, but if one of the partners aren't ok with it you should either end things off with them (of course it should be one good terms) and see the other person or just don't.

[@unknownentity7799]

@@bobthebacon3163 I agree that if they are not in an agreeable relationship then they should decide how to go with their relationship in the future. Also I think that the society shouldn't pressure the person whether to quit or be in a relationship because ultimately they don't know you fully or the cause of it properly (most of the time) but at the same time share their wisdom for the person to decide for their better future. :)

[@beatduck]

Monogamy doesn’t guarantee that that person will always be there. No amount of demanding will stop someone from cheating, losing interest, or dying. The whole “I want someone to be there for me” is selfish. Rather, concentrate on being there for someone, regardless of how long or how close or far at times. Isn’t that the ideal love we really want? It’s what we show to our children, friends and family. Why should partners be any different? They’re people, not possessions.

[@sanatansahoo4559]

IT'S UPTO YOU.... IF YOU WANT A MONOGAMY RELATIONSHIP, THEN YOUR PARTNER MUST FOLLOW SAME(monogamy)... AND IF YOU WANT POLYAMORY RELATIONSHIP , THEN YOUR ALL PARTNERS MUST FOLLOW SAME.... THAT'S SIMPLE.. "THE PROBLEM/CONFLICT STARTS ONLY WHEN TWO DIFFERENT TYPES OF PEOPLE(their mindset) COLLIDE WITH EACH OTHER. "

[@cesardanielramosnavarro1677]

I mean, Leanne's points were flawless, but this wasn't a good debate. Matthew was just another conservative shoving his morals down other people's throats, he didn't use a single good argument and I believe everything he said is everything people on the ENM community has had to hear for YEAAAAARS. Leanne, easy win. Hope this video helps to spread some polyamory to close-minded people who might watch it 🤞

[@SasukeDidNothingWrong]

Her points were good but not flawless. One thing that jumped out was how she said she could just bring 2 people instead of 1 to a wedding. no, you cannot just do that, you don’t have the right to dictate someone else’s guest list. She is completely glossing over the fact that there are some things that are only allowed for one extra person

[@cesardanielramosnavarro1677]

@@SasukeDidNothingWrong in case she gets one extra, she will bring one extra. People in polycules can and ARE (in many cases) friends, they migh already be invited. Also, no one is saying that in polyamory you HAVE to do EVERYTHING with all of your partners. Each individual relationship needs work and one on one dates are important. Really, the whole point of your argument is, again, just social norms shoved down our throats 🤷🏻

[@SasukeDidNothingWrong]

@@cesardanielramosnavarro1677 I don’t think respecting guest lists is pushing social norms down your throat. And neither is being jealous if your partner brought someone instead of you. I read a lot of Reddit posts and you’d be surprised how many wedding guest issues come up (my cousin just got married which is why I’m so focused on this lol) and how many relationships can get turbulent from it

[@cesardanielramosnavarro1677]

@@SasukeDidNothingWrong I didn't say respecting guest lists is; I'm saying "She is completely glossing over the fact that there are some things that are only allowed for one extra person" is. Getting jealous is totally normal, but in non monogamy we take a big part of our time in processing and understanding what the jealousy of each specific situation mean and try to communicate with our partners about it. Getting jealous to a point of "you HAVE to go with me or I'll make a drama about it" is just a partner being irrational and the effort to confront that emotion must come from their side 🤷🏻 Just like in the video, you're fixating on pretty specific words to try to dismantle a belief and not questioning if there's actually a solution that fits better for each individual.

[@cispogamer97]

Im monogamous but I think anyone can do what they want with their life. Anyways I love these debates

[@himanshunegi7596]

Woah man what if your partner asked you That she or he wants to live in poly with many people will you say yes Give me a honest answer

[@alexicon2006]

@@himanshunegi7596 He literally said you do you. And that he's monogamous. So of course he'd refuse. The point of Polyamory as far as I know is that everyone wants to have relationships with two people. Not just one.

[@NasDebates]

Thank you for loving the debates! We love you too

[@himanshunegi7596]

@@alexicon2006 wait bro if you want keep it with your self just don't don't spread it like it's nothing your western culture is spreading really fast so don't influence next generation yeah I know everyone has freedom they have there own Choice so teach them one or two good thing so they can became good person maybe west will have good result

[@cispogamer97]

@@himanshunegi7596 yes I accept other people opinion I'm not a Twitter user

[@keval_yt]

The lady really opened my eyes about Polyamory. I think we all had bias which made us think it was some immoral thing which it doesn't seem to be

[@lindsaypaige4628]

It still is immoral dont worry

[@Marz2727]

@@lindsaypaige4628 Why?

[@lindsaypaige4628]

@@Marz2727 you cannot be 100% in love with someone but give the same effort, time and $ to someoneelse. If you can't give your partern 100% then what are you giving them and how is that fair? It isn't, which is why i say it is immoral

[@LoyalFan9383]

@@lindsaypaige4628 you could say the same about having more than 1 child

[@LoyalFan9383]

@@lindsaypaige4628 and say the same with having more than 1 friend

[@ChestersonJack]

4:11 Interesting point: the quote he’s citing does say “polyamorous relationships,” it says “open relationships.” While they can overlap, they are very much not the same thing. Leanne actually defines the differences in one of her videos! Hey, she actually defines it at 5:21!

[@lindsaypaige4628]

🙄 a rose by any other name..

[@ChestersonJack]

@@lindsaypaige4628 ?? Literally different definitions

[@lindsaypaige4628]

@@ChestersonJack by definition, your relationship must be considered to be an open one to be called poly. You cant have a poly relationship and it not be open.

[@ChestersonJack]

@@lindsaypaige4628 No. For example, three people in a committed relationship with each other, not seeing any others. This is called polyfidelity, and is a type of polyamory. Leanne defines an open relationship as “One primary romantic partner and multiple sexual partners.” Polyamorous asexuals exist. See also parallel polyamory, where there IS no primary partner. Everyone is equal to everyone else. In fact, dismantling the “couple privilege” of primary partners is a big talking point in polyamorous circles.

[@lindsaypaige4628]

@@ChestersonJack ok thats not a proper definition tho, you are going off a subjective belief someone makes up. That isnt an accurate description. A relationship is a bond between 2 people, adding a thrid party by definition means that "relationship" between the original 2 is no longer considered closed, and if it is not closed then what is it?

[@dotto5419]

I love how at the end of the debates the two people still are friends and aren't heated that they lost

[@NasDebates]

YES! thats very important to us!! the shortest distance between two people is a conversation!!

[@LadyFluka]

Some of his terrible takes made me so angry i'd literally lose it, and im generally a very calm person. Like if you're about to be in a debate with a polyamorous person you'd think they'd make some effort and do some research to actually know what they are debating but no 😓 his view of polyamory was just misconception after misconception. And its bullshit that our existence is a debate.

[@NasDebates]

It's a lot of the views that common people have of polyamory! You can see from the comment sections.

[@abhisheknarayana1224]

Mostly Muslim do polygamy !!

[@LadyFluka]

@@abhisheknarayana1224 this video isn't about polygamy.

[@abhisheknarayana1224]

@@LadyFluka so keep lovers for fun?? As long as you can? So why even talking about children in the debate? You are confusing yourself

[@LadyFluka]

@@abhisheknarayana1224 yes, keep lovers for fun, and for forming a close and loving connection with them. Like any other relationship. For as long as they are both happy with what they have. And like any other people, polyamorous people can want children too. I dont understand what's so confusing about this to you

[@SigmundOrthodoxy]

Personally, i couldn't participate in 2 relationships at once, you do you, but personally, i wouldn't feel loved, nor feel like i actually love someone, it would've just felt sad for me, people can do what they want, but its not for me.

[@Marz2727]

So you're monogamous and that's fine. As is polyamory.

[@priyanshusharma8582]

@@Marz2727 i don't think he asked for your approval 😌😅

[@rkc123]

Same, I nvr tried or even think to have more than one partner. Having one is still kinda painful lol, hard to give time bcz of job ( working 9hrs a day). Idk, how ppl manage two , three wife's unless they are filthy rich. Bcz only gold digger girl/boy will be ok with their rich partner having multiple partners.

[@alexicon2006]

@@priyanshusharma8582 I don't think he asked for your disapproval either

[@DiscoChixify]

It would be the same for me. I think the issue with a monogamous relationship and cheating is that cheating is very physical. It’s about lust and it’s disrespectful to your partner. Choosing to be with one person means that you respect them on a higher level and love them as a person, it’s not based on $ex or lust. I don’t feel the need to have other partners because my partner meets all of my needs and we have open communication to talk about things if my needs or their needs change. But those needs would never include taking on another partner. My husband and I have both been cheated on in the past, where our previous partner was tempted by lust and physical affection by another. It’s a betrayal of trust and shows that those people didn’t actually love or respect us. If they did, they would have talked to us about unmet needs and temptations before acting on them. My husband and I had a talk about open communication and telling each other if the relationship is no longer working, and ending it on good terms instead of cheating. If he or I have fallen in love with someone else then we both agreed to end the relationship with each other before pursuing a relationship with someone else. That’s honesty and respect, open communication and wanting good things for the person you love. If my husband fell in love with another woman and wanted to have a relationship with her instead, I would want him to be happy and to go try to find that happiness with her. But I would not be happy if he and I were still together and I had to watch him fall in love with another woman. It would break my heart. Having him respectfully terminate our relationship would be an honorable and kind thing for him to do for me, instead of cheating or trying to bring another woman into our relationship. There is never a good reason to cheat or to take on another partner. If you have found your person, that’s it. If you’re happy in that relationship there will never be any room for anyone else, and you won’t have any desires for anyone else.

[@effie1349]

For me, I'm monogamous and probably always will be, but I respect polyamory people and believe that people should love who they love, and I'll applaud that until my last day

[@Tripperroni]

One of the most articulated debates seen here. Well said Leanne

[@NasDebates]

Woweeee thanks for the comment!

[@feartheghus]

She argued with a man who was so horrifically bad at championing monogamy that he might have well been made of straw.

[@anwi198]

Leanne was so good. She debated logically. It was the best

[@OneStopTechYT]

I am pro monogamy and I don't understand how polyamorous relationships won in this debate.

[@kenofken9458]

It's legal now.

[@Marz2727]

Lol, when has it ever been illegal?

[@jenniferorourke1374]

I love a spirited debate, and am always open to both sides, so it’s slightly disappointing when one side merely attacks the other instead of advocating for their position. Monogamy and polyamory can both be healthy or toxic, either can be the right choice depending on the individuals involved. I would have loved to hear some non-judgmental and positive points in favour of monogamy, because we know they exist. An excellent and clear-headed job done by Leanne. Next time, let’s give her a real challenge shall we? ;)

[@user-nx4xi4zq5h]

Polyamory is just cheating without telling you are cheating

[@joy1ess]

just because one's relationship is monogamous does not mean one's feelings are monogamous. If people have the ability to hate multiple people at the same time, the opposite is true as well : humans can certainly have romantic feelings for multiple people at the same time too. anyone who vehemently denies this fact, is not being honest. and even then, you cannot fault anyone. attraction is *not* a choice. you cannot choose to be attracted or not attracted. It's just what it is.

[@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA]

Not possible, you have only one heart and can love truly only one person, other than that its call s*x lover

[@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA]

Also women sleeps different people can cause STD diseases, and if child comes who would be his father?!... what u think they will share also the child 🤣?

[@joy1ess]

@@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA maybe men fall in love only once in their whole life. women aren't like that.

[@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA]

@@joy1ess bro I don't believe you, man and women have the same heart even women is more and deeper than the man, they can't love truly other than one man, think logic man, this sh*t is crazy, how can girl have 2 or 3 partners its un natural and harmful to the women.

[@joy1ess]

@@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA even the man in the video has been in three relationships. he is polygamous, just not all at the same time

[@jennienorrman8162]

This guy is a bit embarrassing to listen to. He needs to sharpen his arguments a lot. Many of the things he brings up are just wrong - there is no evidence whatsoever that children suffer from having parents in ENM relationships.

[@stephenshuman1]

Children need attention and love. When one of your parents is not committed to his/her family 100%, they’ll feel unloved and it can create problems. Monogamy is better for society.

[@emmasanchez9746]

Leanne I fucking adore you thanks so much for your A+ responses and for the representation!

[@giulia5308]

I think that the whole point of asking “Is it okay to love multiple people at a time?” is wrong. Why shouldn’t it be okay? Why do polyamorous people have to defend their choice, even when they practice polyamory ethically and don’t hurt anyone? I mean, you can still be monogamous if you want, but let polyamorous people do what they want with their lives!

[@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA]

Wtf hhhhhhhh are f crazy 🤣🤣🤣 what our world is becoming is so disgusting and upside down, no morals nothing, just like sheep hhhhh wtf

[@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA]

I am sorry I am not sheep

[@giulia5308]

@@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA lmao alright man, give us a shout when you arrive in the 21st century

[@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA]

@Giulia bro like wtf 😂 💀... I wish I can go back to 90s , bro there is no difference between sheep and people now,

[@SANDUUQA_QISOOYINKA]

@@giulia5308 i don't know u calling this development or disaster, but either ways its crazy af 😱😭🤣

[@elfilalibouchra6247]

My current believe is I more agree with Leanne. Her points are more logic.

[@hongyile6834]

Polyamory and monogamy: *debating problems between them * Single parent: *EMOTIONAL DAMAGE* Virgins and orphans: Yo, first time?

[@sohinisaha597]

4. Children are articulate and mature not because of polyamorous nature of the family but due to the number of people around they can depend on. A few might suffer from obscure identity crisis. 5. To me, Marriage is not polyamorous but a relationship can be. It would be diffiult to explore platonic friendship if you are pre-ocuppied with romantic ones. When we envision a society in future, we will spontaneously expect it to be ideal. And an ideal society would be one with empowered individuals. Those for whom polyamorous releationship works come across as fiercely independently indiviuals who like to live by their own rules.This debate did not change my inherent monogamy instincts but has made me understand and respect their choice too. Wonderful Debate!

[@ghulamaisha]

it's about freedom of choice if a person wants to have one partner its ok and its also ok to a personal who wants to have multiple partners. we as a society needs to come out of social stigma against change or anything that is not common for us we have to unlimit over selves

[@NasDebates]

Preach!

[@himanshunegi7596]

Freedom of choice huh What if your love one came home and say That I want to have multiple partners what will your reaction be or will you say ok have as many as you want it's your freedom of choice. We'll for me it's like my heart is shattered my world is crumbled Tell me waiting for answer?

[@ghulamaisha]

@@himanshunegi7596 I respect your opinion but for me I cant keep someone in my love forcefully I completely believe in freedom of choice and that's it nothing more nothing less

[@himanshunegi7596]

@@ghulamaisha yeah I also agree with that i can't keep some one in my love forcefully but take a example you and your partner are married living happy life and one day your partner asked you some one has peeked my interest and he/she is so hot & sexy i want him . You asked her/he why ? You don't love me and her/him answer is i love u and I also want him what will you say?

[@linkinboss2]

@@himanshunegi7596 well, the thing is that would be either forced by you to be monogamous, or you would be forced into accepting their position. In either case that would show that you are not compatible at a fundamental level, and you'd be using traditional structures to cover it... which will go as good as covering the sun woth a finger. At the end of the day that's not a polyamory is inherently bad, or monogamy is inherently bad, but rather I failed at comunicating with my partner in essential viewpoints to establish a long-time commitment.

[@thedriftingsaege]

Damn I'm polyamory from this day.😂

[@NasDebates]

Glad your mind opened up to the other side

[@Anub___]

Worth to try 🤣

[@aasthashrivastava4644]

I think polyamory can work for people and could be a really good choice, and I totally think the laws should be flexible to support whatever kind of relationship people want to be in WILLINGLY. That said its just not for me.

[@Davidsweirdness]

Well you're wrong

[@elisakrivas]

Well, you’re monoamorous ​@@Davidsweirdness

[@elisakrivas]

Absolutely! Agree

[@leelanuthakki5944]

If setting your partner free and want them to live their lives by their choices without being secretive with their partners is called polyamory.. then I will definitely agree to be in such a relationship 👍 👍👍👍 I just want the partners should be honest to each other whatever it is 🤗

[@anushamamidala9601]

I strictly vote for monogamy because me as person who has seen many pairs from different generations can say that with monogamy partners have a very strong emotional connection with each other and the children born in that relationship were more emotionally stable and the sense of belonging and emotional availablity to their respective partners is so high and people with health emotional stability make better society. Monogamy gives a sense of responsibility which lacks in polygamy. On other hand in polygamy people who are involved in it may not feel responsible for anything that disagrees with them and there would be underlying jealousy and competition and lack of emotional bonding leaves a broken family. People may argue what if the person with whom we are in a relationship is not a good one or a person who abuse his/her partner physically or emotionally then there is an option called divorce or break-up, no one says to be in an abusive relationship but have multiple partners at one time sparks jealousy and hatred for no good rhyme and reason. One thing that people from any generation should understand and accept is to have a healthy relationship with our partner is way better than seeking different aspects of relationship (like love or physical needs or emotional dependency...etc) from different partners, it is not going to get us anywhere. The more broken families the more the broken society. One should respect and understand their partner and one should show little patience when a relationship touches a rough phase it not only saves the relationship but also many people's heart who are dependent on it. This is strictly my prospective by seeing many couples who are having a blissful marital relationship for more than 50 years and also knew few having a greater live-in relationship for more than 2 decades.

[@elisakrivas]

This is all based on stigmas, stereotypes, opinions, and illogical information, actually. Like, how would you be less responsible in polyamory when you are REQUIRED to be attentive to each partner and still take care of any shared responsibilities. Plus, scheduling, planning, more communication about little things that many monogamous couples don’t do, constant STD check ups and communication about them with partners, responsibility for your own harmful actions towards EACH person you date; in reality, you may hold MORE responsibilities to the point of exhaustion, unless you are polyamorous oriented or experienced in non-monogamy for a long time.

[@elisakrivas]

However, if monogamy is what works for you, then go for it. Nothing wrong with being monoamorous. It’s only harmful to take stigmas and your own mentalities about people and label them as such when you don’t know them. No one’s orientation is bad, regardless of whether you are monoamorous, polyamorous, or ambiamorous, we are all valid.

[@feartheghus]

It’s not just wrong to love more than one person, it’s technically impossible when referring to true romantic love.

[@joeysmores1015]

🚨🚨look out everyone, it’s the Love Police!🚨🚨

[@Eric_A3M]

Who you can’t just say that it’s not real love💀

[@elisakrivas]

Romantic love is a farce. You mean romantic relationships, which are different. Love is kindness, care, help, compassion, mercy, forgiveness, empathy, sympathy, doing your best to be trustworthy, non-judgmental, patient, etc. all given from the desire of wanting to do good without wanting anything in return. It can be divided between many people regardless of the type of relationship (acquaintanceships, familial, platonic, or romantic) or even given to people who you are not in a relationship with (enemies, strangers, and charities). Romantic relationships can be based on love or lust, hence romance is not the same as love and should not be equated to it. Romantic relationships ≠ Love Due to this, love can be and should be given to however many you are capable of giving your love to. Polyamory is equally as acceptable as monoamory.

[@beatduck]

I find myself saying “and monogamy doesn’t protect you from _____ either” cheating, jealousy, heartbreak etc. relationships are relationships. Period. If monogamy is perfect, why has he gone through 3 relationships already?

[@joy1ess]

exactly. having had three relationships means he's still polygamous, just not all at the same time

[@lindsaypaige4628]

@@joy1ess no

[@Davidsweirdness]

Yeah why go through 3 relationships when you can do 3 at the same time right ?!? Lmfao y'all are idiotic with these arguments most people are not built for poly shit that's why you don't see people getting married In 3s grow tf up

[@rabindranathdash1376]

​@@joy1esspolygamy means having more than one relationship at a time not having another relationship after ENDING the first relationship

[@joy1ess]

@@rabindranathdash1376 when I use the term polygamous, I meant polygamous in a biological context, in the same way animals mate with multiple partners in the animal kingdom. that we as human beings, like our simian primates, are not naturally monogamous, and not only is monogamy biologically unnatural .. it is merely a social construct.

[@hunterhowland5136]

I agree a lot with the polyamory perspective, but even still, I couldn’t ever practice it I think. The mains reasons for that is I don’t think I could be there for more than one person and finding multiple people I’d like to be with is an issue too. I also have my religious perspective that gets in the way. In fact, that is probably the biggest reason actually.

[@aeirie-ii1993]

Simple way to actually make monogamy win is. Just say a guy with 3 wives exist with polyamory relationship, after that his 3 wives want to have 2 more husband, because u agree with polyamory u cant jealous or disagree with that decision because u allowed to do that. After that the new 2 husband can have more wives too, this the question, how thats not different with free sex?.

[@ParveenderLamba]

Nas Debates should be translated in Hindi language. Because Hindi language is speaking in Most parts of India, Pakistan, & Bangladesh. If we only take India, then there is a very large about of audience and no one creating this type of content in Hindi language. Really love Nas Debates ❤️🇮🇳

[@OsaidTaha]

Yes great idea 👍👍

[@fallenkingdom-zd8xh]

True happiness comes not from having more, but by being happy with less.

[@farasapt6579]

Good debate, but I feel like the monogamous guy lose this debate because he always bring his personal experience and not the objective. If he did, he could have won. I know it's for entertainment purposes but come on mah guy. Fun video btw

[@kawansiesquad6659]

As someone who is aroace spec, altho I am not romantically or sexually attracted to anyone, I do want to be in some type of relationship, like, closer than friends but not rlly lovers, like a queerplatonic relationship. I know that if I ever get into a “relationship” with someone who isn’t aroace like me I would never be able to cater to their needs for romance or anything sexual. So open relationships or poly relationships seemed like the perfect type of relationships for a person like me. If I had (a) partner/s that needs what I can’t give, they can find what they need in a different partner. I imagine that if I get along with their partner I could “date” them too. I just enjoy being around ppl that I am close to. I like cuddles and being in other’s presence. I may not have romantic or sexual feelings for anyone but I do want that closeness that ppl in relationships have. That feeling of being safe and happy with ppl that you love. Before I found out what aroace was and all my friends were always asking “who do u like” or “why didn’t u go out with him he likes you”, I always just replied with “I don’t rlly like anyone” or “i’m not rlly interested in dating”. Looking at the relationships of my friends and classmates, how they interacted with their partners just wasn’t something I wanted. My “crushes” were far and few between and looking back on them, I think I just wanted to be friends with them, not date them😂 I want closeness but I don’t want romance or sex. The more the merrier for me!

[@elisakrivas]

I’m polyamorous, gray-aro, and demisexual. I understand this

[@Robin-sb9wl]

woah love to see these debates , Nas !

[@NasDebates]

Thank you!! Love to produce more :)

[@supriyakumari6895]

because Monogamy is prevalent in society so it's rather seems simplified and we need to discuss it pros and cons and make it better rather than shifting into another institution.

[@elisakrivas]

Why should anyone shift anything? Why can't people just be who they are? A gay can be gay, a bisexual can be bisexual, a heterosexual can stay heterosexual, a mono oriented person can remain monogamous, and a polam oriented person can be polyamorous. Why is this a problem? Instead of changing to shift one thing to another, which forces people into being who they are not, why don't we just make some room for people who are different from us? Discussing pros and cons to monogamy won't make the system better for everyone. It'll still exclude polyamorous people. It won't stop a polyamorous person from being polyamorous. Polyamory is NOT, and I mean NOT IN ANY WAY a solution to monogamy. If mono people want to count their pros and cons and improve their mono system, fine, but keep polyamory out of it. They are two opposites of a spectrum. As opposite as homosexual and heterosexual. Polyamory is not a solution to monogamy. Polyamory is an orientation. Not a sexual orientation, but still an orientation nonetheless. It isn't a choice. Same as monogamy. Monogamy is not some alternative to non-monogamy, it's an orientation. You don't choose to be monogamous either. No one should be forcing anyone and neither is bad.

[@cleoscola]

Leanne did a great job!!!

[@NasDebates]

Thank you for watching!

[@bryce5680]

I mean, at the end of the day, just let people make the choices for themselves.

[@kash_n_bags1744]

This channel gets better and better. Pls upload more debates on controversial topics pls. Great work btw👏👏

[@NasDebates]

Thank you so much!!

[@beatduck]

I’m so proud of you Leanne!!

[@ujjawalgupta714]

Well at last, what i could figure out that whatever is preferred between partners must always be mutual and transparent then you can practice either monogamy or polyamory but again commitment and agreeability becomes major point, that means either of the relationships can only work when both partners are either polyamory or monogamy supporters.

[@scarletwitchfan6891]

Pro polyamory ❤️

[@Niick_18]

🤢

[@Anub___]

🤣

[@HCR4Z7]

😂😂

[@matasuki]

polyamory is more in line with human values. Monogamy is there to ensure 1 man has at least 1 woman

[@elisakrivas]

Monoamorous people are not bad. It’s just an orientation. If people feel monogamy is more natural to them, it’s completely valid. So long as they are not hating on polyamorous people.

[@immaheadout4777]

Nah it’s already enough of a pain in the ass dealing with 1 partner 😂

[@sibeldogan5311]

If your partner also had another partner you wouldn’t have to deal with them constantly though… :D

[@immaheadout4777]

@@sibeldogan5311 Nah that wouldn’t roll with me.

[@emilyrussell1536]

sounds like you being in an unhappy relationship if you're describing it as a pain in the ass. that's a you problem.

[@beatduck]

So you’re admitting that monogamy is a pain in the ass? 🤣 sounds more like the relationship instead of the box it’s in.

[@meershamdasani]

*I request you to have a debate on, "Is social media good or bad for today's generation?"*

[@babyjrainbow]

I'm surprised started off as 50/50, I figured most people were against polyamory.

[@Marz2727]

They are, unfortunately

[@hareeshkota8431]

@@Marz2727 *fortunately.

[@Marz2727]

@@hareeshkota8431 No, unfortunately. There is nothing immoral about polyamory.

[@wofflecat3011]

How is that ANY OF HIS FUCKING BUSINESS

[@Marz2727]

Leanne killed it as usual 👏🏾

[@gl4081]

I- He said- "But in monogamy you don't ever have to worry about any of that. I mean monogamy is such a stable structure, I feel secure in my relationship. ***I don't ever have to worry about my partner leaving me or disappearing or sleeping with other people***. So it's a very stable structure." Ironic I worry more about that with my mono partners than poly ones. . .coz my poly ones always inform me in advance but I worry the mono might cheat- welp- I don't think monogamy is bad, just not for me and stuff.

[@AtifShahab_-c_ROLL]

Well, the only difference that i see is that earlier they were kept a secret but now they're not.

[@NasDebates]

Interesting

[@thevivliocubicularist4480]

If everyone involved, is ok...its ok🤷‍♂️

[@disasterbuddies]

Definitely Leanne wins the debate but I would say Matthew wasn't able to put it right way. Girl was using both factual and hypothetical answers while the boy was subjective and questioning. Many points of the girl was void that the boy wasn't able to deny. That makes her win

[@ayush8852]

Man, Leanne is truly debating..

[@derekrobertson60388]

Yes it’s okay to love everyone who works for Nas Daily

[@NasDebates]

You are kind! but check out the debates and let us know!

[@hemlatagurya1314]

You know making connections or realtions for need will always end when needs will end but when you make realtions from your heart,for love those never end though you die

[@vaishnavprasad7789]

9:32 4th wall breaking of the decade😂

[@dikokissimon3455]

Nas Debates is getting better and better every episode! This debate was so much fun!!! I loved every moment! Go team!!!

[@NasDebates]

Yay thank you for watching!!!

[@tl23_basketball62]

Polyamory is better I get to see so many girls and date so many of them

[@Niick_18]

U are weird

[@aluisfar4154]

@@Niick_18 agreed

[@SasukeDidNothingWrong]

Girl, no, you can not go to a wedding and bring plus 2 if the invite was plus 1. That is So disrespectful. Weddings are so expensive you can’t just dictate the guest list. She sounds like she would bring children to a child free wedding 🙄

[@hemlatagurya1314]

Its good in monogamy also we wish that our partners get whatever they deserve for but that doesn't mean just that your partner doens't need your love. Accordingly,why can't we love our partners and trust on them so nicely,gain their trust so they never get a chance to look outside for love

[@cesardanielramosnavarro1677]

So, as a non-monogamous person, I believe I have something to share about my view of love. When I was younger I had a girlfriend, then, for college, I had to move to another city and kept my relationship, we could still see each other every weekend so it wasn't that hard. Some time after, I made a new friend and we just spend a lot of time together. It was very troubling for me because, naturally, I started to develop feelings for this new friend. And then something very important happened... My new friend told me she was a lesbian and had 0 interest in men. From then, we got even closer, but the idea of being with her romantically just disappeared from my mind, I stood by her side through all the "coming out" process. But this event made me wonder if I was actually happy in my relationship. I had no feelings for anybody else, but, was I really with my girlfriend because I loved her?. I did what I believe was right and broke up with her shortly after. I love this story because for years I used it as an example of how I loved freedom so much, for me and for my partners "for me, an ideal relationship would be where I can be free to meet new people, get new friends and be me, but, in the end keep choosing my partner, because I know I'm doing it by choice", I said. Now, as I got more and more into Ethical Non-Monogamy, my feeling is the same, I want for me and my partner to be free to meet and develop new relationships (this doesn't necessarily mean sexual or romantic) and experience the joy of it, I just took away the "...keep choosing my partner..." Because I love my partner, I love to see her grow and to experience joy, and I love to be part of her life, I love to support her in everything she does and to be creating a life together, THAT is what makes my relationship special, sex is just a secondary perk, I don't need sexual exclusivity to feel loved and to give my love. Just my view of life, though, as Leanne said in the video, we're not trying to make everybody become non-monogamous, just giving a view from another's eyes

[@namjotsingh]

Yes, I learn a lot from this debate. However, I am still pro monogamy.

[@elisakrivas]

Can't you be pro neither? They're both acceptable, right?

[@namjotsingh]

@@elisakrivas of course. Everyone has their own opinions and both are acceptable.

[@ayshahein2584]

Thank you Leanne! ❤️

[@abhisheknarayana1224]

Most of Muslims practice polygamy, how she killed it?? She just a clown justifying her opinion based on fact that support her idea.

[@supriyakumari6895]

How to choose to whom will you go to when you are sad when you have multiple partners also it's rather complicated. Said easier than done.

[@hareeshkota8431]

Polyamory is not for me because I’ll never feel loved in it. I’ll never feel enough because my partner is choosing someone else too. I’ll never feel special because the love I’m being shown is also shown to someone else which will make me feel like I’m just like everybody else. Even if I become open to dating more people I’ll be miserable if my partners has more partners and I don’t. Plus you have to like your partners partner because if you don’t it’ll likely be used against you and you’ll also feel miserable when your partner shows the same love that was shown to you to a person you don’t like.

[@elisakrivas]

💖 Yes. If you don’t feel comfortable with non-monogamy, then you shouldn’t do it. Monoamorous people are just as valid and don’t let anyone try to force you into non-monogamy or tell you that you’re not progressive or open minded enough. Monogamy is what works best for you. Every orientation is valid.

[@tanbira.ansari7691]

The the dude was weak when it came to the debate which made it one sided.

[@alan2here]

Are these debate scripts planned out in advance? They seem a bit too good to be spontaneous.

[@NasDebates]

HAHA we will take that as a compliment. And no they are not scripted!

[@alan2here]

@@NasDebatesthanks :)

[@polyphiliablog]

They were unscripted! Both of us came up with bullet points we wanted to address but the actual delivery was completely improvised!

[@Angad_Thakur]

It might be okay for some but not for me I can't just share my love and time to multiple people or let my partner do it

[@clb8645]

But you do share your love and time with multiple people. You have work, children, friends, and family that you share some of those parts of yourself with. Why is it necessarily any different sharing your romantic love or your sexuality with another person?

[@bunnyslittlespace9811]

you share your love with multiple people already, the only difference is in polyamory it’s romantic love

[@hhchirag5631]

​@@clb8645 well the point remains how do u know the person is honest or not 😂I can be polyamrous and still be fooling around with some other chick 😂lol that would be a greater problem XD; u can't have a lie detector attached to ur partner 😂so saying polyamry have honest people is nothing just a bluff to put up a fake cover ; but the only point that is valid in the whole debate is that all people have the right to live and right to choose how they want to live their life ;

[@abenezerpetros938]

Matthew kept on asking while Leanne kept on giving smart answers which makes people think she is smart, the forty percent that voted monogamy are just dead-set against polyamory relationships

[@gl4081]

Tbh. . .the representor for monogamy was offensive to the polyamory community and gives both polygamory as well as monogamy bad names imo.

[@Aarushi1224]

There is a thing called "love" which every human experiences atleast once in their lifetime. The way "lord Krishna loved Radha proves us that we being human beings, need to learn how to be committed to one person and love them all through their life" polyamory is not love. If you are in a polymory relationship you may be happy all the time, but deep within your heart you always feel like you are just not enough for your partner, or there is no such love between you to. Change is good, but sometimes sticking to traditions is what truly makes us a human being. Even dogs have multiple sexual partners, but we as human beings have a lot of emotions, being committed to just one person, is way more beautiful than any thing. ❤ (as per my opinion)

[@althafmuhammad9182]

Lord krishna married 75000women approx

[@Aarushi1224]

@Shreya Mahajan Let me tell you that It is so common among the people to laugh off and crack jokes on the number of wives Sri Krishna had. Do you the real story behind it? There was a demon by the name of Narakasura. He had captured 16,100 beautiful unmarried girls in this area and kept them as sex slaves. When Shri Krishna killed Narakasura, he freed these 16100 sex slaves of Narakasura. After freeing them, all the girls requested Shri Krishna to marry them as the society would never accept them. So they pleaded Lord Krishna to accept them because nobody else is going to marry them and if he doesn’t accept them, then they will commit suicide. Being trapped in dharma, Shri Krishna accepted all women as his wives so that they live an honorable life and nobody dares to mock them. To restore their honor and give them the status of queen, Shri Krishna married them. That is how he came to have 16,108 wives. Also, All princesses of Lord Krishna were extremely beautiful and were attracted to Krishna’s beauty. Still, the Lord was not aroused by sexual appeal and thereby fulfilled his virtue perfectly by not indulging in any illegitimate relationship with any of this princesses. Another story about Shri Krishna that most ignorant people mock is the story of Shri Krishna’s Raasleela. The Bhagwat Geeta states that Shri Krishna left for Mathura at the age of 10, and never to return to Vrindavan again. The stories of Rasleela is all from Vrindavan, which means that the age of Krishna was 8-9 years. What he did at the age should be labeled as “mischief” by a young boy rather than “eve-teasing”.

[@Aarushi1224]

@Shreya Mahajan also, look at the maximum pictures of Lord Krishna, you would find them with Radha, multiple stores of Lord Krishna show us that, radha was the one who loved him the most, and shree Krishna always loved radha. Also if you need the bhagvad Geeta, which consists of Krishna’s preaching, Krishna says "lust and greed are like a door to hell" and polymory is less of a relationship with love, but more of lust

[@FriendlyFish13]

@@Aarushi1224 not only do you need to open your mind towards what Krishna (even) as an adult thought about "love" (I don't wanna upset you hahaha) but also you need to watch this episode again because you didn't understand what polyamory is. Willow Smith has a quote on tv where she says she's the only polyamorous in her friend circle n gets the least amount of sex

[@Aarushi1224]

@@FriendlyFish13 @FriendlyFishFilms I'm not being conservative, I mentioned in my comment at the last that it is just my personal opinion, you may agree with it or you may not. It is not just about sex, but the idea of "love" is to make someone feel special, treating them like they are your world, creating a new life with them( having a baby) if the two of them want to. The idea of polyomary doesn't really fulfill all of this. But still I respect if someone chose to have it, but not me personally.

[@DforDeejay]

This really feels like they're going at each other's throats for this topic. Matt is kinda condescending about her lifestyle, causing Leanne to go on the defensive and deliver her points with emotional charge first, and be more logical second.

[@hemlatagurya1314]

You know if you truly love your partner you will take time for them even at your worst times

[@mental9453]

When the world is choosing be to single, here I am watching monogamy vs polyamory.

[@thesaurabh1815]

Dude don't ask yourself who will cry after I die rather ask yourself who will die with me??

[@Marz2727]

Why ask either, we're born alone and we'll die alone.

[@CuriousPavel]

heated debate 😀 I am happy I got to see it LIVE 😍

[@birdieculture]

As someone who has always been monogamy, I'd also say polyamory has its benefits, tho i might not agree to that extend, rather, divorce normalised is probably the way to go. Why do we promote owning of someone? If u want someone to stick around, then be the best person there is for that person, and u wont worry someone leaving. However if u wanna own that person so they cannot leave, then thats the problem. Normalising divorce is probably that solution. Polyamory does create lots of messy problems tho, the biggest one being the creation of multiple children while no one takes responsibilities for them, which is why i don't like it.

[@polyphiliablog]

I would recommend you look into Dr. Elisabeth Sheff’s research on polyamorous families. We are very responsible for the children we have and have lots of conversations about safe sex and pregnancy!

[@birdieculture]

@@polyphiliablog Any solution in the hands of responsible and irresponsible people would have very different results. Simply pointing out some of them are responsible means not too much to me. And if people are polyamorous then sleeping with multiple will be normalised, hence more potentials of accidental births. So no, just becoz u pointed out someone may be responsible does not mean the while thing will not lead to children not taken care of.

[@polyphiliablog]

@@birdieculture birth control exists and I quoted a 2015 study demonstrating how much more responsible non-monogamous people are in the second half of the video 😌

[@himanshunegi7596]

@@polyphiliablog a honest questions you started poly just because you studied about that

[@linkinboss2]

I feel that this point is here nor there, because at the end of the day responsible parents will be that either married, on a commonlaw, single parents, or poly parents. Neglectful parents will be them regardless of their relationship status. On top of that, we have to address that in this day and age people don't just get together with the intent of bearing children, in many cases its economically unsustainable for a good chunk of the population, there is currently overpopulation at a worldwide level, and sincerely arguing that everyone should strive its an economical and societal issue that's completely outside of the scope of romantic relationships.

[@dumbnoob779]

I was in a relationship but after 5 months I lost interest in her and had a breakup... Don't know why I lost interest

[@memorylane936]

😂the relationship run its course it’s a normal thing to lose interest in the relationship that why humans not meant to be with one person for the rest of their life

[@sayandeeppal4730]

Still I feel monogamy is better, polyamory is about having a choice and having about sexual satisfaction, if it's not about that then why having multiple releationships, even a very close friend would also give you all kind of support you need except self exploration and satisfaction.

[@sunny.......]

Totally agreed 👍.. a point Mathew should've said !

[@aymane29]

Just imagine your partner with someone else... especially if you are a man... I don't care or judge other people, but it doesn't fit me.

[@clb8645]

I never want any semblance of control over my partners' absolute right to form however many ethical and consensual relationships they wish, of whatever style they wish, with whomever they wish, for as long as they wish, and I insist upon that same right for myself. Both of my female partners are of the exact same mindset.

[@aymane29]

@@clb8645 Can you marry one of these womens? and build a family? Can you allow your wife to marry somebody else? if yes... good luck

[@ChestersonJack]

@@aymane29 Perhaps not everyone has those priorities.

[@bunnyslittlespace9811]

@@aymane29 not everyone wants to get married or start a family, but there’s also many polyam people who are married and/or have children. Being polyam doesn’t mean you can’t do these things

[@bunnyslittlespace9811]

I don’t care if my partners have other partners, you don’t like the idea of that and that’s fine. But it isn’t an issue for us

[@TehSarahGuthrie]

I didn't watch the video yet. But I'm here to testify. Firstly 1 human being is a giant responsibility for "attachment". Attachment to a person requires "emotional support" at the minimum. A partner is romantized as someone you can rely on to feel "emotionally safe/secure". Currently humans do not recognize "jealousy" as a healthy human feeling. Because people refuse to talk openly about their individual feelings, and know how to feel about situations, relationships become all about "reactions". It is not healthy to have multiple close people to react to. You are either a socipath or have little empathy for trying to be with many people. Believe it or not, when you form a bond, that "bond" is special. So special that it is unique experience between you and the other person. You can have experiences with many people and grow. But not every person you like deserves "your" emotional entanglement. This is where the selfishness comes into play. Which is why limiting yourself to 1 person is healthy for everyone involved. Personally speaking I've not been in a healthy relationship and I refuse to attempt to take on the burden of another person. It would be nice to have a partner, but life is too complicated and I don't want that drama. So multiple people would just be a giant headache for me. Ain't no body got time for that. I hope my insight helps!

[@GalacticYuna]

I like that you mentioned the lack of empathy likely in polyam relations they feel more like partnerships. All the talk about proper communication and needing to give reasons for discomfort. As if feelings don't exist

[@clb8645]

"Personally speaking I've not been in a healthy relationship and I refuse to attempt to take on the burden of another person." + "I hope my insight (regarding a relationship structure I know absolutely nothing about) helps!" = It really doesn't.

[@sadashiv1684]

why in the world you choose a boy to support monogamy 😂.. he could have expressed it more effectively.. But whatever.. it's not right or wrong.. But what I think is both have their pros n cons.. Monogamy gives you the true connection nd a peaceful life if both of them stick to it.. On the other hand Polyamory gives you the freedom to explore nd connect with different people.. 👍🏻

[@ahmedosama-ir7qc]

When they are told, “Do not spread corruption in the land,” they reply, “We are only peace-makers!”( 11 ) Indeed, it is they who are the corruptors, but they fail to perceive it ( 12 ) And when they are told, “Believe as others believe,” they reply, “Will we believe as the fools believe?” Indeed, it is they who are fools, but they do not know ( 13 ) " Quraan " " Al_baqara "

[@AUryga-ns7pg]

Excuse me, what do you mean with this comment?

[@clb8645]

*sigh* Another pointless god sequitur.

[@ahmedosama-ir7qc]

@@AUryga-ns7pg its a verse in quraan saying that the unbelievers who follow their fancies without guidnes of god " allah " are just unconsciously spread corruption in the world

[@ahmedosama-ir7qc]

@@clb8645 the pointless is to act like a god and decide what right and what wrong by your own fancie

[@clb8645]

@@ahmedosama-ir7qc oh lol okay 🤪

[@trailers8897]

Its all about you surroundings.

[@理論派の男]

30s is too little time for this girl lol But still , I'm on her side because polyamory has a good amount of similarity to polygamy , which is the kind of relationship I'm in.

[@jasminemarsh143]

I’m polyam and I still am this didn’t change my mind at all

[@kenofken9458]

It's not really a question which can be settled by intellectual approaches or debate. Just as nobody is going to become hetero or gay based on a debate, people are either wired for monogamy or not.

[@stephenshuman1]

Let me guess…… you’re in college and are sleeping with multiple people?

[@frost5685]

Here I can't even find one girlfriend (I live in India it doesn't mean we aren't allowed to get a girlfriend but it's just that it is difficult to get one 🤣🤣) and people here be fighting over whether to have one or more girlfriends or boyfriends 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Nice debates but I still stick to monogamy as I feel polygamy does kind of harm my ethics 😅

[@mohanrawat7548]

Bro here Getting touched by a girl seems a blessing, and u are asking for a gf🙂😂

[@frost5685]

@@mohanrawat7548 😆

[@bunnyslittlespace9811]

quick thing to remember, polyamory and polygamy are not the same thing. Polygamy is a religious practice and rooted in misogyny and it’s having multiple wives. Polyamory is a relationship style that involves having multiple consensual romantic relationships. It is not rooted in misogyny nor a religious practice