Is Modern Dating More Casual And Less Committal? Singaporean Millennials And Gen Zs Spill All

80% of young singles say they intend to marry but only 50% of them are dating, according to a 2021 survey by Singapore’s National Population and Talent Division. What’s holding youths back from romance and commitment? What are some modern dating woes?
As part of the documentary Love Delayed, we got six Singaporean millennials and Gen Zs to share their views on dating, marriage and love.
00:00 Introduction
00:30 Is Singapore conducive for dating?
02:55 Should we start dating in school?
05:48 Workplace romance: Yay or nay?
06:31 Modern dating: Situationship, breadcrumbing, ghosting
09:24 What’s trauma dumping?
11:00 Has dating become increasingly casual?
12:00 Red flags and green flags in a relationship
15:16 Dating standards and expectations
18:14 Can love wait?
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[@zNicy]

Unrealistic expectations of a partner are what's causing issues in relationships right now. It's like even if you meet four out of five criteria for someone, if you miss just one, they might think, "Nah, I shouldn't settle for less." Another harsh reality is that everyone thinks they're a 9 and wants a 10, but in reality, most of us are just a 6 looking for a 10.

[@bk1507]

Women do this more than men though.

[@homosexualbiologicalmaleexit]

personal decision , your issue is that you try to be what he want ....dont , because anyway is called unatural expectation actually

[@BrokenSoulConfession]

True

[@lecherhao86]

Guys, dont believe in social media. My wife and i have been together for 15 years. We have two kids. Even though we love each other, we argue and quarrel over big and small things. Every family will definitely have its own unglamorous moments that wouldn't be disclosed on the social media. If you don't, it's probably your family members don't interact with each other and everything in the house is taken care by a helper. Haha.

[@liam_dawson]

this is so wholesome friendship, and fun to listen. I love singapore

[@kwws]

The level of shaming by the ladies in the show about men approaching women is shocking, particularly in light of the current societal context where individuals often find themselves navigating isolation and difficulty in expanding their social circles to meet potential partners. In such a climate, his initiative as a go-getter is commendable, showcasing a willingness to break through barriers and pursue connections amidst the challenges of contemporary dating norms.

[@jeems2066]

@@playingcasual2024 Bus stop = public place so what's wrong? If the person is not interested then fine, but why do conversations have to 'only' happen at parties or clubs? If a person wants to end the convo then sure, but nothing wrong starting on to gauge the interest in wanting to engage further. Cynicism is ingrained in our society unfortunately, oh any convos outside of this or that kind of place = suspicious

[@rashaunjones1027]

Its all fucked up at this point, live your life the best you can and go on

[@demoncloud6147]

There will always be 'Red Flags' with your partner, but if you really care you have to be 'Color Blind' and take a leap of faith and go for it

[@homosexualbiologicalmaleexit]

best is what make life worse , because of best we dont enjoy life

[@rashaunjones1027]

@@homosexualbiologicalmaleexit , then what can one do when no choice is given

[@astrelialyx]

tbh in our modernised society, dating has become increasingly complicated. it really does stem from social media, theres so many new rules, new trends and new little bits here and there. too many gen z’s care about the little things till they forget about the big thing. theyre too fixated on how social media views relationships

[@astrelialyx]

@@playingcasual2024 youre right as well!! i also feel this way, but in the younger gen, theres way too many rules and “icks” that have been developed which just makes everything more difficult. for eg, some people of my gen will think that music taste matters A LOT. but i dont see why it does 😭 theyll immediately find someone but get turned off so fast because the person they found listens to like idk, taylor swift or someone else. 🥲 but i believe ure right as well 🤗

[@astrelialyx]

to conclude and to be honest, social media ruined dating so now everyones just super cautious of each other.

[@d0k0night]

Feels frustrating overall not just in SG but really in any place in the world where it's Asian culture. I say this as someone in Canada and with Asians, the general sense is "don't talk to me" which makes it unacceptable to approach them unless you're in a friends group with them. Asians create very isolating social bubbles like a herd protection mechanism. It's exhausting

[@kazi1]

Hi

[@mpdmpd8118]

in the 90s I start dating when i was 16 .....isit a weird thing now ?

[@cupcake125]

its not the place, its the people.... the place is conducive but the people sucks

[@user-rh6ru5oz2o]

They share and it's trauma dumping. They don't share and they're considered guarded male

[@H0mework]

Men can only do wrong (if you're unattractive to her.)

[@mysterioanonymous3206]

Truer words have never been spoken.

[@tigerbear3038]

And they complain about guys approaching - calling it traumatic. That is why guys don't approach nowadays.

[@thomaslim3028]

It’s about knowing what and when to share. To some extent, also matters whether your decision on what and when to share aligns with your partner’s expectations. It’s very subjective. Got to have a somewhat good grasp of social norms but also some luck.

[@arsenal_84]

Share half and stop if the other party is not comfortable. The listening party don't always have to be quick to offer solutions, sometimes just listening for a bit is enough.

[@johnsim6165]

Is it me, or is the guy on the left too talkative. Stop dominating the convo. Great overall discussion though!

[@victoryscreeech]

He's the host.

[@Sllee93]

In modern dating, after the 1st and 2nd date, or even the 3rd date, both of you need to do something with your friends (or mutual friends ideally). Otherwise, if it's just 1:1 time all the way, it gets boring really quick.

[@mysterioanonymous3206]

Sounds like you're boring... 😂

[@wallstreetzoomer]

Just have a life even when you’re not with your significant other, then you have something to talk about when you’re together.

[@mxsthxted]

agreed. it does not get boring with the right person, it gets more fufilling and you enjoy the little moments together. if it is boring just being together after a few meetups, how would you settle and be together for the long term? @@mysterioanonymous3206

[@oatman9714]

If u Tall, Handsome and Muscular. things is easy. Im the living example

[@Tony.L9793]

plus monthly salary above $5k with a respectable career😂😂

[@ohleemartin7184]

Too expensive in sg to date

[@Tony.L9793]

SG women too expensive, foreign women are cheaper and more good looking😂😂

[@connoisseurofstories]

You think tiktok and social medias are transparent? Unfortunately, every content put up by these so-called influencers are also highly curated and glamorised. Sure, perhaps they do show a little of the rawness and hardship, but only what they want you to see. Nothing more. Want something realistic? Get off your phone or computer and go experience it yourself.

[@Tony.L9793]

SG women only loves the most perfect man in the world, must have at least $3k and above with a respectable career😂😂

[@lycan2494]

at least 3k? u mean at least 5k lol

[@hint908]

More people means more problems

[@emmafrost13333]

Why so many pillows? XD

[@TomNook.]

They will all regret it when they're in their 30s and 40s. Social media and dating apps has destroyed relationships. The illusion of choice. Analysis paralysis.

[@user-xs4mu8xm7d]

Not necessarily, it does open doors to more opportunities to meet the right partner. But one must be cognizant of its pitfalls and mind tricks, to get the most out of it.

[@user-rh6ru5oz2o]

Source: trust me bro

[@F_e_l]

Like any tools, it's down to the user. You can use a hammer to make a shelf....or use it to whack things.

[@ziyanhong5604]

all the guys expect the partner to earn more than them? then may I know what is the use of them?