Modern Love In Asia: Why Aren't Young People Dating? Can Relationships Wait? - Part 1 | Love Delayed

Love-wary actor and commitment-phobe Aaron Mossadeg uncovers what keeps young singles from dating seriously. In Singapore, Aaron visits a sex education workshop, accompanies his shy friend on a dating crash-course, and consults an intimacy coach. In South Korea, Aaron meets a renowned screenwriter of blockbuster K-dramas and questions the impact of on-screen fantasies on young people’s romantic expectations. He compares different ways to find a life partner; through online dating, recreational activities, or introductions by friends or family. This leads Aaron to India where he encounters traditional matchmaking and “love marriages”.
As Aaron delves deeper, he addresses the impact of mental health in delaying dating. He engages a psychologist to assess his own readiness for love and embarks on a blind date, testing a proven method to fall in love with a stranger. This journey takes him through diverse cultures, revealing the complexities of modern dating in an interconnected world.
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00:00 Introduction
02:24 Are schools a good place to start dating?
03:19 Sex education (or lack thereof)
06:31 Evergreen single meets a dating coach, goes on a blind date
10:45 What is a "Situationship"?
14:07 Does fate play a role in finding love?
16:26 Are "meet-cute" expectations from K-dramas delaying dating?
23:03 Online dating: helpful or harmful?
25:00 Different ways to meet a potential partner
27:45 Traditional matchmaking in a temple in India
30:56 Aaron attends a "love marriage" in Rishikesh, India
35:02 Loving yourself to find love
39:46 Aaron goes on a blind date
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About the show: Aaron Mossadeg, a love-wary actor and commitment-phobe, explores what delays love, marriage and parenthood in Singapore and Asia, seeking answers and solutions from around the world.
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[@jennifervaughn1541]

I think that what every person is afraid of is falling in love, while the other person pretends to be in love with you

[@nylyyyn7912]

Because we are being told there are only certain ways to call “love” . But those are fake, not real love. Of course I don’t want fake love. True love awaits.

[@BrokenSoulConfession]

True

[@homosexualbiologicalmaleexit]

no love dont exist , be specific when you explain the word love , love mean trap and imprisoned and nazi , personal decision is above love

[@sherwinlargado2600]

Right now, I'm not into dating. To be honest, I'm not interested yet huhu!! My reason is I'm currently focused on personal growth and self-love, which I believe are essential before pursuing a romantic relationship. Additionally, my career is a top priority, and I'm enjoying the financial independence it brings. I want to savor this stage of my life by indulging in experiences I couldn't afford before, like dining out, attending concerts, traveling, and simply enjoying the things that bring me joy.

[@senshai1267]

work culture and lack of trust

[@homosexualbiologicalmaleexit]

personal decision it mean freedom and trust is not normal

[@maisytanahs135]

Bro k dramas set my expectations sky high 😂

[@c4un544n5]

Who is delaying love? Global society's education system have most people joining the workforce in their early twenties. Takes around 2-5 years to settle into a job, without a silver spoon falling in love quickly, having children quickly, having a place to call home quickly is merely but a dream that requires commitment and hardwork.

[@libiskit]

I think we should shorten the education system- the trade off is getting too much , and it's not like education brings such great benefit- university education serves you well the first 3 years of working life.... esp for non technical courses like business degrees... its time we rethink this

[@homosexualbiologicalmaleexit]

work is not normal , personalised individuality automated tech is normal

[@thefamouscookiedough]

Wow this was really interesting! I thought it was just going to be a studio-based interview thing but was really surprised that Aaron went around countries to interview people! Well done!

[@t.l.5755]

you gave it away 😐😑😐 #spoiledbycookie

[@thefamouscookiedough]

sheesh spoiled what? have we become so spoilt and entitled that even typing a comment like this considered spoiling? You could have just not read the comments @@t.l.5755

[@hell0h0bbit]

Can travel for free why not

[@sleepy_dobe]

Hmm......I can understand Janelle's lack of faith in her physical attractiveness, but I'm firmly of the opinion that she would be an amazing partner to any guy. I've watched the other video before this, and observing her responses and expressions, I get the impression that she's one who gives a lot of thought to her responses and isn't callous with her words. That is not easy to find in youths of today. It also shows that she's thoughtful and is probably a very kind and considerate person at heart. And in case she's here reading the comments, I want her to know that in my opinion, she's quite pleasant looking, and most guys would be fine with that. Those who only want model-looking girls probably aren't the kind of guys she, or any woman, would want anyway.

[@tobyc8668]

I don't understand your point. Wasn't she the one that talks about rejecting guys that approach her in the other video? I suppose it is more correct to say lack of faith in her physical attractiveness to the guys she wants.

[@angelseok8034]

From a female perspective this is especially creepy

[@diversityhobbit]

what a simp

[@bobafett5757]

*Love this episode and Aaron is excellent in hosting this and hes so gorgeous and engaging hope to see more of Aaron in CNA Insider*

[@Dominus_Potatus]

Why aren't young people dating? It is not about money, it is about time. Having a child means losing literally your personal time. heck... if you are dating you have less personal time. You want to game but your significant other is calling you, what do you do? We know the best for everyone is talking to your SO but remember you are sacrificing your own personal time. You say, "That's life" Then you remember that your parents didn't have to work in a highly competitive world with high costly life.. My conclusion, with those in middle income, it is all about money. Everything needs money: dating, marriage, children. While those in high income, it is all about time.

[@libiskit]

I agree with you to a large extent, unfortunately for those in their late 20s and early 30s, the main issue now is housing costs - it has become very significant. That said, every generation has its own perks and advantages- you are in an era where there is a strong focus on young people. Make the best out of the situation and with what has been given to you and continue to practice good financial discipline and spending habits

[@AnimsOnDemand]

That's such a weird way to look at it. You make it sound like having a significant other is such a pain and that having one means you can't have time to yourself. In a healthy relationship you actually can, and a big reason people want one is because they're spending too much time alone lol

[@jace-the-coach5126]

Totally agree on 'Attachment Style' at 37:24. Seen so many cases that have issues with their relationships and marriages because of their 'Attachment Styles'.

[@fuzzywuzzy318]

this episode is really great ,and high quality made , a lot content also not feel boring , I listening it while I am cooking

[@lalakuma9]

The guy in a situationship is wearing a T-shirt that says "exit". It's almost like a Freudian slip 🤣

[@fkmyoutube]

Cost of living. Period.

[@wendyshoowaiching4161]

I still think that going to single clubs are great way to find a date because at night is free time for singles and day time male and female have to work.

[@ohleemartin7184]

For those citizens who do not have a monthly income like the many senior citizens and housewives and even middle class citizens who have lost their well-paid jobs, to keep pace with the daily living cost is a struggle.

[@rimahussain7751]

THANKS

[@celtic889]

Dating itself is turning into rat race and intrinsic love is hard to find these days.

[@noelleng126]

The dating scene is not the same before all the social media happened. I've quit dating apps after a year actively trying to find the love of my life, apparently they're not on those apps. I feel it when he says it's very superficial and not organic compared to when you meet them through social interaction. Coz the only reason to swipe right on a person is basically based on look, nothing more. Especially in western culture where situtationship and casual arrangement are very common, it's even harder to pick out who has the right intention in dating you, or they just want some fun time. The stress level and anxiety are high ngl. It's simply just too hard.

[@dev9100-luv-the-world]

Very interesting

[@cantcommunicate]

this seems like a fun video

[@siibeiisiian]

Nobody wants to commit but only prefer companionships. People tend to priortise themselves and working is just as draining.

[@nylyyyn7912]

If a society values “upward mobility”, then we should know that sustainability development is the core and dynamics of upward. The current societal concentration areas are targeted and manipulated channels by those authorities. That’s why our young generations lost faith in love. There’s no mobility for love. No mobility of the society. It’s just blind rushing, no upwards. Rushing is a seemingly upward motion but actually void. 😅

[@nylyyyn7912]

And then, people left their home country. Way to go, my Singapore 😅

[@mln7771]

Interesting documentary. I'm not a young adult anymore, more the age of their parents. It's remarkable how awkward these young people are towards the opposite sex. My amateur theory is because during their teen and young adult years, there was less focus on socializing and more on academics. Socializing is a skill that requires a lot of practice.

[@meln4214]

God bless you Cameron. You are in my prayers.❤

[@tashaculus4582]

Not sure if going through those 36 questions over art helps to build intimacy especially since they both couldn't look each other in the eye as they shared their thoughts.

[@rashaunjones1027]

It seems lthis loneliness crisis is a real epidemic , I thought it was a nationwide problem but it's a global problem. The human race on both sides are selfish and crazy.And those.who are decent are too tired to search due to eking out a daily living

[@AnonymousTruthTeller]

PLEASE HAVE MORE OF THESE! AARON IS HOT!

[@leponpon6935]

Opportunities can wait, salaries can wait, pay can wait, subsidies can wait, grants can wait, benefits can wait, relief can wait, even retirement can wait, so why can't romance and love wait? Why though? How come? What seems to be the problem I wonder?🤔 🔎 🧐 Not enough trust fund 2nd generation inheritor Princes out there?

[@HOUSE126GAGA]

i thought is gay marriage from the thumbnails.

[@abdulrajaf6]

Honestly....Hectic..Stress...Lifestyle also Contribute to Delayed LOVE...(I'm X S'porean...n i FEEL the Capacity of BOY n GIRL in relationship is HIGH..)..But TRUST is NOT EASY in S'pore coz of the Majority of them likes to Change Partners....in a SHORT TIME...

[@martinbrock713]

Political elites should always remember that they are servants of the people. (I had earlier written a piece on why diversity and humility are the real lessons the Singapore government needs to draw from this pandemic)

[@Krush0-0]

All developed economies in Asia are facing the same problems, and their situation are more atrocious.

[@SirPeteWindsor]

I see so many self-centered, egocentric, immature, without role models, and w/o any goals in life regarding relationships.

[@demsyciu]

That skating girl Janelle is quite cute.. A message for her, you're cute be confident and be pride of yourself, there would be the one for you too

[@kohtho85]

I agree, she's really cute!

[@martinbrock713]

The prospect of having a courageous, young, and likeable Workers’ Party (WP) team in Parliament (Leon, Gerald, Jamus, Tingru, Raeesah, and possibly Nicole)-capable of questioning and scrutinising government, demanding accountability

[@ohleemartin7184]

If we wan young couple to have more children we need more policies to help them more baby bonus and incentives

[@kuilaychua6265]

Provide free nannies pls😂

[@azabujuban-hito8085]

Whoah Aaron is such an eye-candy❤

[@noisybiscuits2476]

It’s the work hours too I think. People get tired and they’d usually rather just rest after coming home.

[@Jane306]

22:26 I dont think it's about lowering expectation to find true love, but more like, wake up girl! Kdrama men dont exist, just be real 😂

[@mysterioanonymous3206]

Social-/Media really did a trick on women, for sure... I don't think they have a realistic view of the average guy, and what they themselves actually offer.

[@martinbrock713]

The results, as many have pointed out, bode well for Singapore. I think we can all be proud of the way we seized the opportunity this General Election (GE) offered to send a signal on the kind of politics, and the kind of People’s Action Party (PAP) government, we would like to have.

[@daveking3494]

Dating? Do you mean having sex?

[@kazi1]

Yo

[@abc_cba]

because many of us are gays and bisexual and we have plenty of options that to be stuck with just one person.

[@libiskit]

That's why such idiots like you give LGBT such a bad name

[@sidkoul]

Situationship. What a great coined neologism! I'm stealing that word for my own use. Bill me teh licensing fee!

[@homosexualbiologicalmaleexit]

relationship keep my father imprisoned and unhappy , i want him to move freely and go with anyone and not stay in a room with my mother keeping him slave

[@wendyshoowaiching4161]

1 year is a good time enough to get marry. You generally know a person is right for you on your first date. Some people are very smart. They know whether a person is good enough for him or her just into less than 1 hour meeting. So, taking a year is long enough. Smart and mature man, they look at you, know you and ready to commit. They don't need to waste time.

[@hell0h0bbit]

Sg too convenient so don't need to marry, but in canada i need a hubby to drive, to fix things in house, to walk the dogs etc. one hubby is barely enough...

[@Follow.Jesus.Christ]

A lot of single people are afraid of committing to each other, that’s why it doesn’t work out.

[@maamuush]

I find that people in Asia are generally more relationship and family orientated than in the West. Girls and guys also look more into the personality and character of the person than just the superficial traits. You can see some of the young women in the documentary are overweight, and they are still finding love and getting married. In the West, unless you are a blonde, slim and very pretty women in her 20s, you are almost never the first choice of any guys. This excludes majority of ethnic minority women. This harsh screening has also been applied to men too: unless you are a tall and handsome man making good salary then you are also never the first choice of any women...

[@punkressph1]

Guilty as charged

[@mpdmpd8118]

either lack of ball or society to easy to have casual sex.

[@martinbrock713]

PAP probably underestimated the deep undercurrent of discontent and scepticism at the government’s management of the pandemic; it really should not have assumed that people would rush to give it a strong mandate simply this was a serious crisis.

[@libiskit]

dude this is about love and r/s. put away the political b/s pls

[@martinbrock713]

I had also underestimated Singaporeans’ (especially younger Singaporeans’) desire for fairness, accountability and decency in our political system.

[@hasifmail91]

situtionship = friend zoned move on...

[@diversityhobbit]

Too Expensive I'd rather play Hell Divers 2

[@jarrodyuki7081]

why the hell is the birthrate so important to singpaore and why the f**k does youtube keep delting my comment earth belogns to me i hate it when other people have different opiononis.

[@cac1504]

Dating in secret because LGBT relationships are not openly acceptable in Singapore.

[@John-dv1uy]

We’re doomed

[@b.a6525]

Lmao

[@angelseok8034]

Hafiy and Azula situationship??? Lmfao my ass

[@jarrodyuki7081]

i ahve 9 accrods with roomates 65 accrods with mom three accords with the hoa and oufr hcores.

[@Albe.dododo]

I tot he’s not straight

[@gieanmossmann3942]

Mgtow \ redpill