Is my husband going to leave me? I GOT FAT! | Weight Loss Journey | Losing 200 lbs

[@kimmatchett3980]

Thanks for covering a tough topic. It unfortunately is a very real topic that many men/women struggle with. Someone may have asked because they felt safe asking in this platform and someone may have asked to be a jerk. Either way, your message was real and needed.

[@joyneville7246]

So true. I just talked a out my experience with weightloss and our feelings about it too! I love that shes being honest! ❤☺we as women all. Go through these similar emotions!😘

[@annyms5092]

God bless, Jesus loves you and died for you

[@joyneville7246]

@@annyms5092 very True❤☝🙏God bless you too!

[@annyms5092]

Joy Neville amen, hope you and your family are safe

[@joyneville7246]

@@annyms5092 thank YOU!❤🙌and God bless you too be safe!

[@KristaSophia333]

April's Vulnerability alone deserves more thumbs up!

[@joyneville7246]

So true😘👏

[@annyms5092]

God bless, Jesus loves you and died for you

[@christinafasts]

Agreed! 💗

[@cattailsforlunch]

My husband abandoned me, claiming he didn’t love me anymore. I asked him if it was because I was overweight and he didn’t answer. I’ve always been active and fit but at that time was 40 lbs overweight. This is a real thing to be concerned about. It hurt for a long time to not feel worth love. He has since had a half dozen girlfriends, the latest being the same age as our oldest son, and I don’t think he’s found happiness yet. I’m currently the healthiest, fittest, and happiest I’ve ever been. We need to take care of ourselves, not because we need men to love us, but because we need to love ourselves.

[@stza16]

It's OK to need men.

[@emills767]

💯 agree! You do you and I'm glad you are thriving!

[@ccgerrity]

YES

[@SG-we1qh]

@@stza16 needing another person to find you attractive to be happy is bad news for both parties.

[@stza16]

@@SG-we1qh Staying single your whole life and not taking care of yourself is bad news for everyone.

[@guardwinner]

Asking someone if they think their husbands is going to leave them is EXTREMELY RUDE. I don’t think i would even ask someone I’m really close with. I love watching your videos but jeez people people get a grip think before you type

[@harshitasingh0506]

I agree! And it’s so sad that she had to make a video about it so that people stop asking this question 😓😓

[@jennysmith9501]

I agree

[@caitlinthompson7540]

Actually a lot of people asked because of their own battles. I personally asked because I have sabotaged past relationships because of not having the self-esteem and mental strength to get over my insecurities around weight. I wanted to know how a confident woman learns to ignore the inner saboteur and turn things positive. And yes, I'm in counseling. When you're looking for the tools to a better life it's worth asking the hard questions.

[@blueberrymuffin85]

I agree with you and I also think that because she is sharing her journey (in her case weigh loss) some people mistake that she is sharing her whole life. And that It's ok to poke their noses on other's lives and It's ok to ask this kind of question and expectat that person must be ok with it because they are sharing a small part of their lives with others. People get brave behind a screen. People get bold because they are not face to face. People get prepotent because they get to know a small part of one's life and think that they have the right to tell what is right or what's not (and only considering that they are right and who don't share the same point of view is wrong - by the way I believe that each person has the right to think different but we should respect each others beliefs). That doesn't mean that this person who is sharing part of their lives doesn't have feelings and/ or doesn't care that they would like to keep some aspects of their lives private. People should respect more and have more empathy. Because it's so easy to point finger and analyse other's lives but many don't want to look into their own.

[@harshitasingh0506]

Caitlin Thompson ohh! I get where you are coming from. In that case then her video might have been really helpful for you😊🥰. I really applaud April to make this video without any filters, being brutally honest, and most importantly, without belittling anyone 💜

[@jasontiver3302]

This is a topic I look back on and it causes me grief. My wife died after an operation and although weight was not listed as a cause it was listed on the death certificate as being morbidly obese. I loved my wife and the weight she gained during our marriage never affected our marriage. I wish I had made a bigger deal about it because I feel like if I had she would still be here.It could be that we wouldn't be together because she was very sensitive about that subject but at least she still might be here. That's my only issue with weight. It can wreak havoc on one's health. Keep up the good work. Whether you know it or not you are a positive role model.

[@jasontiver3302]

@@ampa4989 You over simplify something that is not that simple. You also assume a helluva lot?

[@jasontiver3302]

@@ampa4989 You have no way of knowing what a person feels or thinks. You also don't know the circumstance involved. I am replying to your comment you made about my post. So how in the world am I obfuscating? How about instead of making general statements you mind your own business. Because of your rudeness and insensitivity I will be blocking all further post from you.

[@karaf5419]

Jason Tiver Ignore the above idiot. Best wishes to you.

[@deniellebyrne1926]

I’m so sorry about your loss, grief is hard enough without you blaming yourself🥺

[@jasontiver3302]

@@karaf5419 Thank you! I blocked them. It's a damn shame that people can't express what their experience has been without someone idiot adding their negative 2 cents!

[@phyllisbrake4026]

I was very uncomfortable with this video. I felt like although you were facing the topic head on, I was intruding on your personal life, your marriage. I am so proud of you for going there fearlessly. You are amazing!

[@redriddinhood7416]

Agreed

[@bluehalo8604]

My exact sentiments. And, also, she's such a gem. She embodies so many sweet, classic qualities. Who in their right mind would ever?

[@joyneville7246]

Agree too!❤

[@vikkileigh422]

I agree. Her facial expression seemed so uneasy to me. It made it hard to watch.

[@janice51g]

Agree

[@dcehills]

People’s personal insecurities coming through! That’s a big personal question. You handled it with grace and dignity. Marriage is WORK! We are all changing physically, emotionally, and mentally. I hope I am not the same person my husband married 20 years ago!

[@nancyklingler1335]

I am not the same person my husband marred 30 years ago either, you go through many changes during those years and so do they. I have friends that are so afraid that they are going to be left for getting old and are doing some crazy things to retain youth. We all have insecurities, try not to live your life for them because new ones will pop up when you fix the old ones.

[@PuffKitty]

Same here, ladies! The person I was 20 yrs ago was so self-absorbed that I cringe when I think about it! 🤦

[@shannonveras1816]

This! Well said!!!!!!

[@TheLauren1113]

I agree with you in that we all change over 20 years. I am 42 and not the same person I was 20 years ago. That said a 200 lb weight gain is a big deal-especially when you are still young. I am very happy for April Lauren that her husband is a good guy. She has an amazing personality and is a really great person. But 200 lbs even for an amazing person is a very big deal and can impact physical attraction. I see it as a for sickness and health thing-you don’t want to go through illness with your partner, you don’t want them to gain 200 lbs either. But commitment means you do what you can to work though and with those issues.

[@joyneville7246]

Amen sista!👏☺😘I was 300 lbs almost my hubby loved me ive lost 138 lbs now and he still loves me. Thats love through Thick and Thin😘

[@dustinpaulson1123]

April, my wife had stayed with me, having married me at 195 and stayed with me when I went up to 287 as of June 1st. We both made our vows, and have stuck with them. We've been on a journey of healthy living since June 1st and as of my last weigh in, I'm down to 249. Long ways to go still, but she's been with me the whole way. My advice to anyone out there: 1. Be the kind of person you want to be married to. 2. Don't rush into marriage. Find the right person. Marriage is hard. That's why people make vows at the beginning of it. Be and find the kind of person that sticks to their vows.

[@asavannah7439]

Dustin Paulson Try a WFPB Whole food Plant Based lifestyle, it has changed many peoples life and is delicious. You can start by watching Forks over Knives and What the Health. Those two documentaries have changed how I view food forever

[@dustinpaulson1123]

@@asavannah7439 we have a trainer and she has tooled our diet to include the foods we normally eat but with the proper percentages and calories per day. We've been losing an average of 1-3 pounds per week and eat what we want.

[@asavannah7439]

@@dustinpaulson1123 Okay. But I would still recommend you to watch those documentaries, they are eye opening

[@joyneville7246]

So true! From thick to thin my hubby has stuck by me 17 years! I was almost 300 and now 138 lbs lighter on my health journey he still loves me infact ge sees His wife is 💪😊❤😘stay true to you and you will find the one on the way!❤😘

[@rinanova1463]

@@asavannah7439 not to be an asshole, but I think he just posted this to share his story/accomplishments and be relatable not to get recommendations from people. Otherwise he would’ve asked...

[@van8369]

I'm so hurt that people would ask you that. I'm married and had a huge weight gain...and loss. I never had those fears and my husband never made me feel less worthy. I've lost weight because of his support, not criticism. Your video is so so kind. Your response is beautiful and thoughtful. If a husband cheats because his spouse has gained, he would have cheated on her anyways....he would have found another reason. Men cheat on thin women everyday.

[@maximilian9295]

You're very lucky. Many men are awful. I know many who made a weight limit part of their marriage. Others force their wives to go to the gym. Its embarrassing for many men because their wife is compared to their friends wives. It sounds disgusting i know, but very true

[@alicia2931]

This 🙌🏽

[@christyb7590]

I had a heart attack . I gained 40 pounds, starting 6 months before my heart attack.... because apparently when your blood has no oxygen, nothing works well. My fiance stayed by my side, as he still does at this moment. He is my best friend, my best supporter, my love.

[@summerm.a.9695]

I hope you find better health soon, that sounds so scary, wishing you well

[@christyb7590]

@@summerm.a.9695 Thank you Summer! It was scary because the signs I had were nothing that I had ever heard of before. I am doing much better. All is good. I am only 49. I am working out 5 days a week and feel much better!

[@st5362]

What you mentioned about lack of oxygen and weight gain makes sense, I have heard that is how iron anemia contributes to weight gain as well especially for women!

[@whiskeytangofoxtrot1986]

I had a heart attack on jun 17, widow maker. 33 years old. I’m daily working on my body now.

[@quadyboombody4828]

Hubs put up with me asking that question for quite a while and tried to reassure me, reason with me, etc. Finally he got fed up and got real and told me how insulting it was to him that I thought he was so shallow 😖 my insecurity was badly hurting his feelings 😵 poor guy, that's not what I wanted at all. I snapped out of that rut and we found more constructive ways to talk about it together 💖

[@andreafleenor8914]

Sister, you’ve covered a topic that is absolutely no one else’s business. This is between you, your husband and the good Lord above. Sending love your way as always!!

[@katiexcakes]

I think it's crazy that people actually ask things like that.

[@sal10851]

Why? It's a very common insecurity for both men and women. With love and respect also comes honesty. If you really love and respect you're partner you will be honest enough to address a major change in their life. Usually that change will come with emotional baggage whether it's weight loss or weight gain.

[@exit_strategy]

As Kimmi Kim mentioned, it could be out of maliciousness or a genuine question someone felt they could safely ask here. Whatever the case, April Lauren handled this SO WELL! It is a common topic. It is good to know I am not alone, I have went through this situation as well!

[@intrigue8664]

It's an awkward question to ask. To ask someone to speak on behalf of their partner's decision why they haven't caused devastation in ending the marriage. It causes twisted thinking. At best- a personal conversation is had that's *not your business* It's blunt and tone deaf but could be answered.

[@katiejon17]

I think it’s a question many of us have asked and April is putting this journey out there... she is the best person to ask. I don’t think most people would ask if they didn’t trust her. Just my thoughts.

[@Aim4aCreativeLife]

So glad you tackled this question because you're right; people do worry about abandonment or rejection if they don't feel assured of unconditional love. You are one of the most lovable personalities on KZbin IMO, beautiful inside and out, and admirable as you make your way towards your health and family goals.

[@justsomedude9931]

We must protect April at all costs. Her heart is so pure & she’s so willing to be vulnerable. Blessed be you beautiful soul, you’re absolutely gorgeous on the inside & out. Not everyone has the strength to be so transparent.

[@sarahdoanpeace3623]

YES!!!!!

[@purplefull1]

Exactly!

[@RisaBeesa]

I can relate to how uncomfortable this topic is. I have a lot of respect for you and the way you addressed this so boldly yet with grace. You’re such a beautiful person! 💚🐝

[@joyneville7246]

#so true😘

[@00Temporary00]

“Smooth seas do not make for skillful sailors.” So true in every context. My husband and I have been through some shit together. I asked him recently how he felt about everything we’ve experienced and he told me that he feels closer to me, and even more attracted to me than before. I honestly feared that he held some kind of resentment, so I’m glad I finally just asked. You are absolutely right to say that you just need to have that conversation (regardless of the “issue”). Even if the answer isn’t totally positive, at least you know where you stand. It’s easier to improve something when you know what the issues are.

[@reneeo]

I love this - such a truthful comment - and reality of love is that yeah its not perfect and you need to go through tough shit'

[@00Temporary00]

meesa magill That’s what I meant by the answer not being positive but still a good thing to have the conversation. But yes, definitely be prepared for that outcome because responding with anger or hurt can slam that door shut and your partner won’t be willing to be truthful in the future. Speaking from experience, and it’s a long road to reopen those pathways.

[@elizabethd.7662]

I’ve been married 27 years and have gained and lost 50-100 lbs several times . My husband has never been disrespectful or negative. He understands my struggle and was supportive. Your quote is correct about loving your choice. Good luck on your journey.

[@KathyM1611]

April, I was taken aback when you said I should ask my husband how he feels about my weight gain. The reason is because I don’t have the strength to hear the answer. I really respect your strength in having this conversation with your husband. God bless you!

[@kimfike5194]

Honestly, I think you are one of the kindest people I have ever watched. Your spirit is extremely caring and loving and I will continue to pray blessing over your journey. There is much wisdom behind your words and I appreciate your honesty. (I always giggle a bit when you talk about your rambling. Haha. ) I love the quote choose your love...and that marriage is a learned behavior. So. True. Thank you for sharing your journey, you are a blessing.

[@joyneville7246]

Exactly! Spoken so well😘 ive lost 138 lbs with my hubby by my side and she is amazingly honest and loving she will be A OK! I want her to FEEL what im starting to feel by heeling inside out!❤❤

[@BrianaLynn7]

She is so sweet and kind and it breaks my heart that she has to go through wondering if her husband will leave her bc of a shallow thing like looks. Shes a wonderful, fun, kind, happy person. Good to her dogs, and im sure a wonderful wife.

[@sarahdoanpeace3623]

Yes!

[@christinebryant3566]

Im so sorry people even dared to ask this...but maybe it”s their own fear. Your quotes are so wonderful and full of wisdom for marriage Thank you for sharing them.

[@seanaepley3180]

"You are more than your body".

[@stza16]

Nope, it is literally all you are.

[@seanaepley3180]

@@stza16 eh, fuck off. Your fingers didn't type that idiotic comment without your dumb-ass brain, we are absolutely more than the physical space we fill. Meet a person with dementia then try to make comments about how we are only a body.

[@kelseykelley13]

I'm not married or currently in a relationship and I still watched this whole video! You are so lovely! You would make a great marriage and family therapist btw!

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

This video needs to go viral. This is one of the most honest discussions I’ve seen in a long time, and I’m so glad that you are sharing your experience. These are real feelings that happen when one of the partner’s body shape changes, and you sharing your experience will help others who don’t know how to handle this. So glad I subscribed to you.

[@sarahdoanpeace3623]

YES!

[@10529Erin]

Growing up my mom told me never to be seen without makeup.and that meant I was supposed to get up early and put on makeup before my husband got up. Then I met my husband and he didn't notice whether I wore makeup or not. He noticed if I got fixed up and would flirt snd put the moves on me but he did that when I wore sweats and one of his shirts, too. Fast forward 27 years and 5 kids later and he still is the same. My mother meant well. She wanted me to have a good marriage. She never had that. But it wasn't about makeup, it was about WHO I married. My husband is faithful and devoted because of his character. All the makeup and botox and starvation and whatever else that so many celebrities have used hasn't stopped their faithless spouses from cheating and leaving them. My husband has loved me through it all including weight going up and now 50 lbs down over the past year and a half. In fact. Our love has grown and gotten deeper.

[@Swiss_Girl]

wow😘 so happy for you. my mum always wears make up, as soon as she leaves the door. even if she just goes to the mailbox. that is what she told us (three sisters) too.. we are now 30, 28 and 26 years old and she still tells us, we look better with makeup on. I know, she wants the best for us, but we are all in a longterm relationsship, one even married, and we are happy. but it does bother me, she still tells us this.. just because she has low self-esteem i think.. oh well 🇨🇭

[@10529Erin]

@@Swiss_Girl Thank you. I hope your honey tells you the things you dont hear from your mom. ❤

[@Sarah_Lin]

I think this is your best video yet! More videos like this in the future, these are the real issues that people deal with and nobody talks about in an honest way. You are gorgeous inside and out, we all see that and I'm sure your husband knows this better than anybody else.

[@joyneville7246]

For sure! ❤

[@LilMissTravelPants]

When I started dating my partner I was 11 lbs overweight- but when we'd first met before that, I was about 50 lbs overweight. I just thought he was way out of my league, cutest guy I'd ever met, he was a professional athlete previously. I got the courage to make a move after I'd lost the rough 40 lbs- but he told me that he always thought I was beautiful. Meanwhile, other guys kept me as a "friend" and then when I lost the weight, suddenly were upset that I was in a relationship with someone else. Like your partner is gonna love you and think you're beautiful no matter what. People who are after you for superficial value would never make it with you in the long run, because partnerships are picking each other up no matter what life throws at you. To them- he's a winner *now*. My baby is my baby because he felt like he was a winner always.

[@GallifreyanOrphan]

Thank you for being so candid about this subject. Since I met my husband 17 years ago, I gained almost 80 lbs, lost 110 lbs, and gained 60 back. I'm working hard right now to overcome my food addictions, and he's been my greatest cheerleader throughout while still telling me every day that I'm beautiful and he loves me. I'm so freakin lucky to have this life partner who encourages me to make healthy decisions while reminding me that I am more than my body.

[@sharonreinblatt9790]

If someone leaves you because of your weight, it is just a symptom of other issues in the relationship. There are other, more important issues at work.

[@sharonreinblatt9790]

I don’t disagree. I’m saying that the other person has other issues with you which most definitely can be your mental health. It takes two to make a bad relationship outside of abusive or cheating behaviors.

[@mireille916]

11:28 NO. it doesn’t need a counselling. If someone is abusing you or treating you badly - LEAVE SIS 👏 immediately. No counselling. Leave.

[@denisselopez266]

You should definitely leave, but I think it's important to figure out why you ended up with that person to begin with. We attract the energy we put out, so if you are attracting these type of people maybe counseling isn't a bad idea. 🤷‍♀️

[@caitlinthompson7540]

Divorce is a last, LAST resort for mormons. They fight for their marriages.

[@toni19292]

You’re such a strong person for turning this into a video and actually answering it with a smile on your face. I plumped you at 216 on a 5’2” frame when I got pregnant with my youngest. My husband was deployed for four months of it and I ate my friggin feelings. I think when you marry the right person you don’t have these kinds of fears. He has always been and continues to be my biggest fan and supporter from my weight loss (I’m down to 158 and still going!) to my jump into nursing school.

[@themaggattack]

I just love you. The part about getting counseling and not projecting your own feelings of body shame onto your loved ones- that is SO, SO important. I've been guilty of that, and it's the last thing I want to do, especially to my daughter. Yes, getting into counseling does help us to stay mindful of things like these and deal with them in mentally healthier ways. You also addressed the difference between real love and emotional abuse very well. I also appreciate that you include people who don't share your religious beliefs. You're a real one. Thank you.

[@marliesvrakking2407]

Thank you for your honesty.My first husband left me because I became fat and now 25 years later this makes my realise that I still have a wound to heal in that area .

[@lifeandstuffwendy8878]

This video is so inspirational this happened to me. It destroyed me and and kids 7 years later we are still picking up the pieces. We are a throwaway society. Marriage is not taken seriously anymore. It is a promise you make to someone and your children. People are not furniture that you replace when they go out of style. It’s hard work and love and God will help you through the hard times.💕

[@helenmears6178]

My first husband cited my weight gain (28 lbs) in my divorce petition. I was pleased (eventually!!) that he left. I TRULY sympathise with anyone going thru this & I honestly think you're very very wise for one so young. No one is ever perfect but I think you're pretty close whatever your size. Just one step & one day at a time. (I remarried & my hubby loves me whatever)

[@josecotto7940]

No jumping around on the video today. I was glued thru the whole vid

[@xrpdarling5367]

I can't believe someone would ask such a personal question, however you answered very positive and classy. Love your channel!

[@NextLevelOnlineCoaching]

This is a real topic. A tough one. Very vulnerable in this one. Much love too you! You spoke some wise words hear. Counseling, loving oneself and choosing the right partner. 🙏🏾

[@sallyhudson7196]

I think you tackled this beautifully. With that being said, let’s not gloss over the fact that men do in fact leave their wives due to weight gain. I was very thin when I got married at age 22. I am 56 and definitely not tiny anymore. I know my husband is not happy about it, but it is what it is. I love your positive attitude.

[@thayerwilliams905]

I LOVED this video. Additionally, verything you said about if you are unhappy with your weight or your life and you project it on your spouse you will push them away, was absolutely congruent with my experience with a past relationship. These videos you're making matter so much because all of them are shining light on the dark, difficult pieces everyone goes through at least a few times. And when no one is willing to openly talk about them, we feel like we can't talk about them either, and things stay hidden and dark and damaging. Thank you for doing all these videos.

[@evilmonkei86]

My husband has seen me within a 100lb spread from my lowest to my heaviest, and all the points in between. He has never commented on my size, and the scale was never a determining factor in his love for me or if was going to stay with me. Your value as a person and what makes you you goes far beyond the number on the scale. If someone leaves you because you gained weight, it is a reflection of them and not you. Beautiful video, April! You handle difficult conversations with such grace and your perspectives on life are so grounded, real, and rational.

[@SlaylllI]

I just wanna thank you for you're positivity you're such and inspiration, love you God bless!

[@taybae6328]

This is why I LOVE your channel and think you are so awesome. You are honest and real and very insightful. The fact that you even took the time to answer this extremely sensitive and difficult (to me) question with so much grace and humility and honesty speaks VOLUMES about who you are. I agree 100% with EVERYTHING you said and want to say thank you for being so incredibly vulnerable. I commend you and I applaud you. I want to encourage you and tell you I think (not that it matters what I think) you are doing a WONDERFUL job and you are an inspiration and great example in so many ways to many of us. Keep shining beautiful 😊

[@angiecolvin3439]

I just love you! I need to lose about 150 to get to my goal, and am 25 down from where I started. You are so inspiring and such an amazing person!

[@athenatatnell1333]

I feel you so much. I gained a significant amount of weight due to medical issues and my husband loved me regardless, he wasn't attracted the way he used to but he did love me. We went to counselling and things have never been stronger. I've since lost the weight and I can tell now that he has never loved me differently. From thin to fat to thin again. He loves me totally because I was his choice and he is mine.

[@AprilLauren]

I love this. Thank you for sharing your experience with me! I am grateful for your comment. ❤️

[@daniakeady2104]

Wow! The fact that you chose to answer this question and spoke about it so gracefully and thoughtfully. There are many people who will benefit from seeing this and hopefully people will stop intruding. I’m so glad you and your husband are so strong together.

[@lowrisklindsay]

Your hair is so nice, I have no idea how you got it that long with like, zero split ends or frizz. I’d love to see a hair routine in an upcoming video. Obviously I need to be doing what you’re doing!

[@sarahdoanpeace3623]

Yes!

[@cynthiaperry9756]

Wow. You are lovely and raw and vulnerable. I connected with you the very first video I saw because your light shines!

[@urbexpres4869]

people are so mean. you're beautiful regardless of your weight. your personality is so sweet and you are literally glowing girl. i love your videos so much.

[@alexuspeavy1440]

Marriage is through the ups & downs. Sometimes that means weight gain or even weight loss. But when someone falls in love with YOU, the initial attraction isn’t the most beautiful thing about you anymore. I think a lot of women have the question “will my boyfriend/husband leave if...” and although I think it’s wrong that people asked you this, this video could help so many women 💕 I have so much respect for you April.

[@joyneville7246]

Agree with you 100%☺ my hubby has stuck by my side at almost 300 LBS and now ive lost 138 lbs on my journey he has supported me through it all. As women we deserve to be loved no matter what size we are! Love knows your worth!❤😘

[@Saviz123]

You’ve been honest and vulnerable on this journey, but this video truly shows your character. It takes an amazing person to even make a video like this. You are so so strong. I hope this gives people inspiration to be open and talk to their spouse about whatever is going on. Most people would want to hide in shame or stay away from social media, including me. It is amazing to me that you’re facing your problems head on with openness and honesty (although I don’t mean to imply your body is a problem) He is very lucky to have you!

[@alisonobrien1453]

You don't need to promise anyone a "happier" video. I think your attitude is wonderful already. Waking up a little brighter each day often means looking to the dark moments so we can shed the light on them (your mantra already says it all!!). You're doing something very courageous. I'm proud of your willingness to share your views on the murkier topics, and cannot wait to see your continued progress and growth. Keep at it, we're all rooting for you!

[@sheshelala7754]

I gained 120 pounds after suffering a fall while running. Not only did my husband leave me, but he left me after 23 years because of it and moved in with a woman that is 20 years older than I am. I am focused on my health and you have been a huge inspiration to me. I am down 60 pounds and feel better than I have in a long time. I appreciate your upbeat and encouraging spirit and can’t thank you enough for the motivation you have provided me.

[@josecotto7940]

50k subscribers! Congrats!. I am ultra happy that your energy is spreading thru the world.

[@brooklynooklyn]

You are always so careful about the way you word things. I can see the wheels turning in your head all the time on how to word things in the most productive way. I appreciate that so much and you’re such an example to me that you can talk about hard topics without offending anyone. If your spouse truly loves you, weight gain alone shouldn’t cause them to leave you. It might be “inconvenient” and they might not be as physically attracted to you, but that’s not necessarily their fault or yours! I think it’s what comes with weight gain that could become a problem. Like depression, or self hatred, or projecting your unhappiness on to them, etc. That’s when you become a different person on the inside than what they married. Anyway, April this was a great video filled with many great incites about marriage even for people who aren’t struggling with weight gain specifically. Thank you so much.

[@Jasmine-ju2yf]

I’m down 80 pounds I used to be 274! You can do it girl we all are here watching you ! You have a whole support group here don’t stop!

[@LoseWeightSara]

I appreciate you sharing this. A family member once messaged my husband and said "you need to tell her to push her plate away or you're going to leave her" when I was at my heaviest. I remember how bad it hurt me. My husband assures me (and continues to assure me) that he loves me for me. But it always stings in the back of my mind. I love your mindset, April. You have a great relationship and it's important that you have his support. 💜💜💜

[@jenlauren8818]

My husbands mother would say I served too big of portions and she wanted a Petite grand daughter unlike myself. Really use to hurt me deep down.

[@LoseWeightSara]

Jen Lauren it's really sad that family can be so hurtful sometimes. I'm sorry that happened to you. 💜

[@Lindsay_Lexus]

I love this video, the message is so beautiful. “Love is not lust, lust and love can grow together, but lust without love is nothing worth searching for.” Find that unconditional love in a spouse that will help you gain confidence when you’re at your lowest instead of knocking you down more.

[@elijahwallace4649]

I hope one day you look back at your videos and really take them in. A different video you brought up a friend telling you that you don’t see yourself the way others do. I hope on day you see yourself how many of us do- strong, beautiful, kindhearted, determined, loving, humble, smart, creative and so very inspiring. I know your goal is to lose weight and let us follow along but never let people make you feel that weight is the only aspect of your life. You offer the world so much more. Thank you for another wonderful video.

[@babyyodachelsea7034]

You couldn’t have said it better!!!

[@SF-op5ix]

April I love hearing you talk about marriage. Commitment to each other and a commitment to God. This video made me feel very hopeful

[@amygreen9662]

Yes! Love your perspective. How rude that people would ask about your husband leaving. Like, what? You marry a person, not a body anyway.

[@amygreen9662]

@@siemniak These people suck!

[@amygreen9662]

@@siemniak Sad. Encourage one another and be there for each other is what's needed. Not leaving because a partner is fat.

[@EFantasic]

April, you are very inspirational and I'm really glad I found your channel. Your relationship with your husband sounds really beautiful.

[@amberandratschke8858]

THIS is why I love your content, you're such a genuinely kind compassionate person. I especially appreciate how respectful you are to us non-religious folk when discussing your belief/faith, just so thoughtful and understanding! Thank you for opening up to us on this topic April :)

[@JohnSmith-lr2eq]

Vanessa here👋I asked you about this when you first started this journey. I was asking from another standpoint. I've personally experienced and watched men want to keep their woman fat and insecure because those men were insecure themselves. You are absolutely beautiful 💖 God bless!

[@ef2200]

In a world full of people who are afraid to live from their hearts, your genuineness is appreciated.

[@kathleenbarney3930]

when my husband and I met I was around 240. At my heaviest I gained up to 315. Had gastric sleeve and lost 160 pounds so far. 155 as of today. My husband's weight has gone up and down as well and he's currently heavier than when we met while I am smaller. We met 12 years ago this month and celebrated our 10 year anniversery earlier this year. We have a 10 year old (born a month after we got married) and a 4 year old. We've been there for each other and love each other through everything. After this long our committment to each other is stronger than a number on the scale for either of us. I feel you 100% on feeling like your body is a prison once it impacts your mobility. That's where I was at my heaviest.

[@SF-op5ix]

I loved how you saw past the initial questions to see people who are struggling rn makes me emotional. This video was so powerful. You are a strong and compassionate person 💜

[@fiverash]

I cannot fathom ever asking someone that question; it’s so unbelievably rude. Good for you for responding to it.. I doubt I would’ve reacted with the same amount of grace.

[@rubyrose20159]

Nobody talks about these difficult topics. Thank you for going there. Sometimes it’s helpful just to hear someone talk about it. This is real life.

[@marliesvrakking2407]

That is treu and it made me face the fear that I cary with underneath to step in to a new relationship . It shows me the importance of acceptance and love of self and to find someone you can be totaly your self with and feel save with.

[@sonehorne6802]

Last year i was on a strict exercise program and ate too little for the amount of exercise i did. I weighed only 62kg and was extremely happy about my weight but was emotionally and physically sick. I was depressed and ended up giving up all my exercises and getting medical help. Weight can go both ways....a loving husband will be there for you nomatter what you are going through. Thank you for your video, i really needed and appreciate you a lot.

[@ellegeffee9651]

You are an AMAZING human being! Your words are eloquent and spoken directly from your heart! I will close with one more word...WOW!

[@psychegoddessoflight9358]

Not sure how you ended up on my recommended feed, but I’m so glad you did. Your spirit inspires me to be a better version of myself, inside and out. God’s love has a way of coming through some people where I can see your “halo” (a divine light surrounding you). Keep shining, you beautiful angel!

[@psychegoddessoflight9358]

Just an FYI: you inspired me to finally go to the gym today to at least try a trial membership. More for my mental health, but just as needed. You really are helping people, April. I’m so grateful to God for bringing me to your videos today! So much love & gratitude, Heather. 💙🙏🕊

[@RandtMurf]

Husbands aren’t always the best “talkers” or communicators. Sounds like yours is. Good for you. :)

[@RuledByVenus]

April is very blessed in her relationship for sure.

[@jo-annebotha9609]

I was just thinking the same thing. Yiu know this when you feel the discomfort vibes just radiating from your husband when you want to talk to him about difficult subjects. Just remember, as April said, none of us is perfect. You chose him for a reason. Remember that reason. Let him be himself and you be yourself.

[@kyocat714]

Communication and honesty is so important. I’ve been with my husband for almost four years, and that has always helped us so much. I grew up with parents who let secrets and doubts burn inside of them forever, ruining their relationship, and I swore I would never do that. Any insecurity I am feeling goes straight into a conversation with him. If I’m unintentionally mean, I look inside myself to find out why, and then go to him to apologize and tell him why. The honesty in this video is beautiful, and you’re beautiful. I appreciate you so much on this platform. 🙂

[@freereinartstudio1463]

How you handled answering this intrusive question demonstrates how a person, when committed and loving, loves the person's spirit and character, more so than a superficial attribute. None of us stay the same person, we hopefully evolve and grow.

[@akeena4109]

You did a wonderful job making this video and saying things that needed to be said . You are a inspiration to all of us that watch your videos . Also a side note if the person truly loves someone they will not care the size shape or whatever of the person they will still love them and encourage them to be healthy!!!

[@BrianaLynn7]

this makes me sad. How are you okay that he isn't "into you" anymore, even he loves you? I don't know... that makes me sad. Although, you're so beautiful and have such a bright personality.

[@NikkiLove9022]

Honestly, I felt the same. :/

[@Ryan-jx4vh]

Put effort into yourself, that’s part of being a good partner. When you let yourself go, you dishonor your own body and your partner. She is on a journey to make it right, though. We all make mistakes, but we must own and correct them. 💯

[@unowen7416]

I'm sorry to say,but loving someone has nothing,absolutely NOTHING to do with sexual attraction. You can be with someone for years,and lose your sexual attraction towards them for any reason. People are allowed to change,either mentally or physically, any given time,but maybe the other person just might not be into it. Doesn't mean they don't love you,they may love you with their whole heart. But sexually...nope.

[@rinanova1463]

@@unowen7416 a lot of men DO cheat because they lose sexual attraction for their partner but that DOES NOT mean that they would ever leave their partner because they love them. Sex and love are two very different things.

[@unowen7416]

@@rinanova1463 I never said anything about anyone leaving anybody,please re-read my reply. All I said was love has nothing to do with sexual attraction. Almost all the older people I know in long term marriages,married over 20,30,40 years,one of the two is having sex is someone else,and the other partner knows about it and is ok with it,for some bizarre reason. Whether one refuses sex,and tells them to find someone else to have sex with,or too sick to have sex,or lose interest from changing personalities,or BORED of the same old personality,nagging/fighting,or changing appearance (gaining,losing,hair loss,aging,ECT),or maybe just want something different and exciting and new. All those old school couples rarely leave their marriages,because they love their partner,but are having sex elsewhere. With me,I met my ex overweight,and he loved me,until I lost 100 lbs 11 years into our relationship. He demanded I gain the weight back,I refused. He wasn't attracted to me,started cheating with fat chicks,I left HIM. People can't help who they're attracted to,and its ok.

[@namastenurse]

You are a beautiful human and I’m thankful for your existence and this channel ♥️

[@asmrzzzzzzz.....4421]

Totally agree! If someone leaves/cheats due to something as miniscule as weight gain then they never truly loved you, I myself was much smaller when my significant other and I met and in the 4+ years alot has happened from loss of a parent, to sickness of another parent, terrible teen years to life in general and instead of drugs/alcohol my compfort was solely food..I had gotten into a really dark place where I was so disgusted with myself that I questioned "how could this man love me, I'm different" so I asked that question to him and his reply was simply "I didn't factor in your size to begin with..your personality and outgoing nature was the spark for me" needless to say my heart melted and those things are just nice to hear especially when your in doubt so I agree these tough conversations are necessary. I'm still on this weightloss journey with you my friend and like you I have my struggles and some days are forsure alot easier than others but I have to remember I didn't gain this overnight and I'm not gonna lose it overnight, however I have put my scales away!! I have decided to keep making healthier choices and solely go by how my clothes fit and rely on progress photos. For myself the scale is so discouraging! Thank you for addressing this question, I think alot of people have the same concern just needed a safe place to talk about it. As always love your videos! Happy Labor Day!

[@tomesandtequila]

I can not imagine people asking you this, but you handled it with grace.

[@Vamalways]

Who couldn't love you? You have a beautiful personality and that is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THE WORLD! I love watching you and I know you will do anything you put your mind to and I will continue to cheer you on during your journey!

[@damnitchris197]

The people who have asked are probably projecting and maybe honestly looking for help. She answered this so flawlessly and executed the video with so much grace. Which is just another reason I’m subscribed and watch your videos on the daily. Luv you so much!!!!!!!!

[@Jawbone671]

Thank you for sharing this topic. I've often had these same thoughts about my husband and my weight gain since we got married. It feels good to know that I'm not alone.

[@ashleypaytas9628]

you really went there with that title!!! hopefully it can get new people onto your channel and then they’ll stay for your amazing personality & charm!

[@piecethepuzzle]

This just got me here!

[@genie3852]

"Choose your love, love your choice." I sure do miss President Monson and all of his wisdom! 💖 You are such a light to so many of us! Thank you for YOUR wisdom!

[@nikiiijello1217]

Thank you for filming this. It’s such a hard topic because there are so many emotions involved. I would say this is a huge fear for MANY people. I understand what you are saying and appreciate you for saying it the best you can. I hope people listen to this and realize that their worth and value has nothing to do with their weight.

[@rebekahmiller5521]

Wow. April you are so wise and you have such a beautiful soul that does shine bright for others to see. I needed to hear this today. My husband and I have been married 8 years and have struggled with infertility. I became depressed and overwhelmed and I’ve gained 40 lbs since our marriage began. Lately I’ve been trying to make healthier choices and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. But you are absolutely right about SO much of this. I’ve struggled so much with how my husband can still find me attractive, but he loves me. We have been to counseling and it did make a huge difference for us. Thank you for this. ❤️

[@amandapicazo2]

Why would anyone even ask this question?! Even still April you are so positive.

[@giinnnaaaak]

Trolls who are not happy with themselves need someone to step on.

[@seanaepley3180]

People think that because it's the internet, and she's sharing her journey, that they can say or ask whatever they want. Being anonymous makes people "brave". (Or really cowardly to hide behind a screen and be cruel).

[@DarthCaffeinious]

I don't think people were being malicious or cowardly by asking this question. Some relationships have deteriorated over health issues, whether physical or mental, and April did a great job explaining their experience in the matter.

[@amandapicazo2]

Whether malicious or not, you don't know her in real life. And really her marriage or her stability in it are none of our business.

[@DarthCaffeinious]

@@amandapicazo2 Very true. I'm thankful that she shared though. I hope she didn't feel obligated.

[@bryanna32]

I love that you leave time stamps for us to jump around!

[@claireetg3300]

I'm really glad that you answered this question. I don't want to phrase my curiosity in a negative and bad way, but I'm single, I never know how it is to be married and to be in a real relationship. That's why when I knew your man is a military soldier, with a decent outlook and probably decent discipline, I''ve always wondered how marriage works in your case, when you're obese. I guess it just a prejudice that I have, I don't want to put it in a way to say that you don't deserve him or anything. Just, Idk, personal insecurity of my own? Anw, thank you for adressing this question.

[@courtneyd4794]

You're so brave for facing this question head on even though it seems SO rude and intrusive...but I'm willing to bet you have many viewers who are in a similar situation and have this worry themselves. So much love to you, beautiful lady.

[@justagirl...]

April is such a ray of sunshine, even when talking about difficult topics.

[@marryb7885]

My husband and I gained weight too. Life happens. We Both are supporting each other to lose weight. I’m slowly gaining muscles and losing weight. I don’t like dieting. I just make some healthy choices like, eating less processed food and less meat. I do eat till I’m full.

[@user-lg3vu3hl9p]

I am someone that has never seen you as your "thin" self and I think you look stunningly beautiful!

[@burnyhigurashi]

"Ask with honesty, not in a needy way". That's so important, and to get that feedback with care and with a place is love (if it's a good, caring, kind feedback)

[@julimcal1]

Your marriage is beautiful and your confidence about it and love for your husband shines through. I admire you two and your openness in discussing this! Xoxo

[@rowsea1213]

you should be a life coach or motivational speaker....you are a real/ kind hearted soul...wish there was more people in the world like you!

[@txspacemom765]

You are so young but you get life, truly, the essence of what life is about. SO many people get with someone else, based on a false outside and when the inside starts to spill out, they can't handle it. You find your true love, of self or from a partner, when you are your lowest. Good for y'all!

[@sarahmahony697]

Bless you, you are such a lovely person, I don’t understand why people have to ask such horrible questions, but you handled yourself so elegantly.

[@kairilee9083]

Cant believe people would even ask those questions. How rude. I'm sorry that you had to come face to face and make a video of it. Just know, you're a beautiful human being no matter how you look like. I'm just proud that you're working to better yourself. Keep it up girl, you got this!