The best thing about the highs you have when sober is that you can actually remember them, versus having a blast in a drunken haze that you'll forget or have the hangover as a result the next day.
@CT-pv9gu3 жыл бұрын
Nothing really changes. However, the lack of guilt and shame about how I was when I was drunk is the best feeling ever. There’s no hangover, no guilt, no shame, no poison. But life is still hard, sober or not...
@wengjai2 жыл бұрын
Many things change. You save money, no more hang overs, better sleep, increase of productivity.... there’s way too many to lost
@alexcalibasi7028 Жыл бұрын
Physical health
@KevinMeehanWhistle Жыл бұрын
Bang on, life is easier without the guilt and hangovers.
@stacielivinthedream85103 жыл бұрын
19 days sober and loving it!!! You are correct, the lows were a nightmare!!!
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
Congrats on the 19 days of sobriety!!!!
@jonkline7093 жыл бұрын
Yes they are but when u end that one day sober u feel good about yourself. That’s all u can do sounds crazy but slowly one day at a time. It’s like when u work out or start a new job start slow.
@joe569843 жыл бұрын
Sobriety is 100% worth it. I feel so much better physically and mentally. I wish I was the type that could just have a “drink or two”, but it never ends there. I realized I had to cut alcohol completely out of my life. I would definitely recommend replacing the time and energy spent drinking with something else. Maybe exercise, reading, or whatever else i retests you. Give it a chance!
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, some of us have to just let the drinking go completely.
@joe569843 жыл бұрын
@Josh C. There is a line in a Blake Shelton song that’s very accurate, “If I have one, I’ll have 15 and there ain’t no in between...”
@ajh7573 жыл бұрын
I think it is. You have to get to the point where you associate drinking with awfulness. I cringe when I think of what I narrowly escaped too many times when I was drinking. So many embarrassing moments, black eyes from falling, sexual advances on men I’d never approach in “real life”, too many blackouts and days wasted to hangovers. Sleepless nights due to passing out then waking up. Hangxiety through the roof. I truly associate drinking with awfulness so yes, sobriety really is that awesome to me.
@hollabelle2 жыл бұрын
Sobriety…the gift that keeps on giving. A health scare made me put a sudden end to drinking, and at first I was really sad about it. I thought my life wouldn’t be fun anymore. I was convinced that I “loved” booze, and had “fun” when I was drinking. I didn’t realize that I was in a toxic relationship with it. I was so deluded that I couldn’t see how unhappy I was. A month or so into sobriety I felt a profound shift. I was happier, lighter, and full of creativity. I never knew how much the guilt and shame I felt from drinking was darkening my life. One day it occurred to me that my mood swings had disappeared (I’ve suffered from depression since childhood). And, I was actually more happy/energized when I went out! What a surprise! Turns out booze makes me tired and grouchy. However, I like to have a non-alcoholic option to drink when I’m out, otherwise I feel like I’m missing out on having a “treat.” There’s so many good ones these days! I love Athletic Brewing Co non-alcoholic beer, and another drink company called Ghia. I’m so grateful for the health scare I had. Without it, I never would have considered sobriety. Each journey is unique! Love to you.
@kileNoe3 жыл бұрын
Hey tim.i been following you for years, man. Im 7 months 2 weeks.sober and I can attest, sobriety is the best thing that ever happened me. I have my life back at 27 years old
@JonathanLifeisForLiving3 жыл бұрын
Good on you brother!
@seppyq36723 жыл бұрын
The lows are not as low-- I'm sober and going through a rough time right now. That statement is so true!
@MargaritacPena3 жыл бұрын
2 weeks sober. Needed to hear this as a reminder. Thanks for sharing
@TheSombody4573 жыл бұрын
15 days off alcohol today. Turning 22 tomorrow. Woke up on New Years and decided I was done after a night of heavy drinking. I’ve watched a lot of your videos since, I appreciate your message.
@reptilerevival3 жыл бұрын
The time fly's by, good for you putting it in check while you're young. God bless you and your journey! It's worth it!
@richardking24223 жыл бұрын
"Tomorrow can be the day you remember the rest of your life because today is the day you quit" ending it with a banger.. Lovely insight and perspective on sobriety. Feels good to be clear headed, on top of things/ wit the shits LOL... Awesome video Tim have a good day man
@bicstic83 жыл бұрын
hey richard!
@richardking24223 жыл бұрын
@@bicstic8 Hey Dave :D enjoying the live stream? ;)
@Sketch_Sesh2 жыл бұрын
It’s taken years of sobriety but I’ve finally built a life that’s a natural high
@HomemakerDaze3 жыл бұрын
I started being obsessed with thrift shopping for a hobby/distraction lol Sober around 3 months and getting bored, But staying busy.. definitely agree, missing the highs but the lows aren't worth it, neither are the bad situations or guilty feeling for having low morals. Back to my mellow, quiet personality and slightly boring life atm lol but I just need to find more friends to have sober fun with..
@davida75592 жыл бұрын
Ya me to. I need sober friends
@brpitrepeters79833 жыл бұрын
I have to say that I have had some incredible experiences in sobriety.. it takes some peace and quiet to meditate into it but I can do it..
@iamthechosenone102 жыл бұрын
After relapsing a million times and today I'm 21 months sober and I'm lonely AF. I thought it would be AMAZING but honestly from my experience its not all great as you think it would be . but don't get me wrong it'd 100000% better not waking up hungover and sketched out with anxiety ughhhh I hate that feeling. One big positive out of sobriety is I can actually can hit all goals I've set for myself! But it is what it is
@sueryan8320 Жыл бұрын
I have HD some relapses. I was just a lonely drunk. I go to meetings so I have an hour of a group around me.
@wookiewoo54743 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the honest account. No BS. Not sugar-coated but not negative either. Keep these video’s coming, they are helping me so much! Thank You 🙏🏻
@nickdpritchard2213 жыл бұрын
The highs are higher whilst sober if you get on your purpose.
@melberg68212 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your sober life and helping others. This is exactly what I needed to hear. You make a difference in this crazy world
@joedingy9854 Жыл бұрын
Thank you again for these videos Tim. Very encouraging
@redfishm3 жыл бұрын
Keep looking, keep learning, keep trying knew things... You'll find your natural high that can far exceed your current perception of that "feeling".
@davida75592 жыл бұрын
I couldn’t deal with the lows. My anxiety was severe and I just couldn’t handle it. I’ll stick to sobriety
@bluenothing7202 жыл бұрын
Freedom from the daily obsession over alcohol is certainly something I'd qualify as awesome. One year sober today.
@Kybo0733 жыл бұрын
Watching this hungover, have had enough of feeling sorry for myself. Today is my first day and hopefully yesterday was my last with alcohol.
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
You got this Ky! No more hangovers!!!!
@vivianperdue43293 жыл бұрын
Keep on going !!!! You got it in you ...small steps first
@RavenUntamed3 жыл бұрын
Here I am feeling disgusted with myself, anxiety ridden. I'm tired of myself, I'm ready to do this again!
@georgeoy9323 жыл бұрын
BROTHA TIM YOU SAVED MY LIFE!!!! I SAY INSHALLAH EVERY DAY BECAUSE OF YOU!!!!
@ezryder1113 жыл бұрын
I might have commented on this before but this is probably my favorite philosophy of yours, it really works for me. The highs sure are fun sometimes but I don't think it's healthy to go through life thinking that you deserve a daily party! And avoiding the lows of course is priceless. Thanks Tim!
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
You are so right right Eric, we weren't created to have highs all the time.
@ericalynnjoseph Жыл бұрын
I love the physical vitality and mental clarity I've gained from living sober. Allows me to handle life's difficulties with more balance and grace. Frees up a lot of money to either save or spend on other fun things and helps clear your conscience. Try yoga and meditation to bring back that blissful state
@Mrdana34382 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being candid and simply keeping it 100!
@HELLRIFT3 жыл бұрын
I have been sober for over a year and I can honestly say.. I'm the most miserable and alone at any point in my life as I have ever been,..all the people that said they would be there for me aren't.. I know being sober is the best thing but it is the most painful thing I have ever experienced
@iamthechosenone102 жыл бұрын
I completely understand bruh !!!!!!! I'm going through the same shit coming on 2 years of sobriety and I'm the loneliest I've ever been in my life ! "Best thing and the most painful thing in my life " is the correct quote 👌
@neosandi6 Жыл бұрын
it will be worse as much as it need to , untll it get better , untill you know yourself again
@beatrixbrennan15454 ай бұрын
Omg! I was 4 years sober and I was the most depressed and miserable I'd been in my life. There was this expectation that life was supposed to be so much better, etc. but it really wasn't. I tried AA and had sober friends. It felt awkward and forced ALL the time. I felt like I didn't belong. I couldn't seem to find the place where I knew who I really was and was just comfortable with myself. I finally realized I don't need to have a huge group of friends or be involved in every social function to "thrive" in sobriety. I frankly like to sit on my ass a lot and be around my dogs, garden, read and occasionally go out and go on a hike. I also had to confront some really major traumas that happened in my life that I drank to numb. Getting to the root of your addiction/coping methods helps tremendously in enjoying sobriety and YOURSELF! I feel much more free now and am enjoying sobriety once again. Good luck to you. God bless.
@conversationcorner48113 жыл бұрын
Thanks Tim. I really needed to hear that. Apprecilove you bro 💯
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
Apprecilove you too!!
@iomis20013 жыл бұрын
Having a family full of drunks and drug addicts I never drank. I will never experience the highs or lows.
@everyday3163 жыл бұрын
I'm 4.5 months sober.. I will remember your comment about how the "lows are not as low" to keep me away from the stuff. Thanks for your content
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
Congrats on the 4 months sober!!!
@sethpahlath33733 жыл бұрын
Sober 3 months now..... Being a problem drinker for over 20yrs now.... I have bad days... But iam fighting through it🙏
@unspokentruth93393 жыл бұрын
Sobriety isnt about fun, its about people who cant handle not being sober getting their life together.
@hopexoxofaith3 жыл бұрын
This is great. I’m approaching one year. I was considering drinking and this reminded me to stay sober. Thanks and blessings
@sherby8192 жыл бұрын
Exactly the same for me but at 35 you realize that high crazy times are for the young and wild and you just need to move on😇
@StateOfMind63 Жыл бұрын
I'm in the same boat. 34 now. I feel like a looser partying with all the 20 somethings.
@KiDWAzowSki3 жыл бұрын
I never enjoyed alcohol cuz it leads to really bad people and situations honestly
@Chugs31083 жыл бұрын
These videos really help a lot of people, including myself Tim....thank you!!! ❤❤
@SimplyNaturalBlack3 жыл бұрын
Hello Mr.Timothy and everyone. Great video 👍🏿👍🏿✌🏿❤
@JonathanLifeisForLiving3 жыл бұрын
22 days - Life is different but balanced - But you will certainly be your best version!
@pragmaticmessenger2 жыл бұрын
Thank you brother. I appreciate you.
@jonkline7093 жыл бұрын
Ya I’m 6 years sober still have guilt issues however I do feel better about myself. At time I think I can have a drink then I say no u can’t. I lied to everyone else about drinking the last time I made promises to myself that I would stop if I brake that promise. Well there’s no coming bk and I owe it to my children. My sobriety is a good place
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
Congrats on the 6 years Jon. I feel you on having promises that you have to keep this time around.
@jonkline7093 жыл бұрын
@@TimothyWard thank you for responding these Tex are very helpful with a lack of meetings. Society /media to does not address that issue. I was really concerned with that home delivery of alcohol. People out there on the edge just able to make a call
@timothyslaughter4762 жыл бұрын
Is being drunk all the time as wonderful as some people say it is???? I been both places. I choose sobriety.
@DustyJ_23 жыл бұрын
highs are not as high... lows are not as low... love that my man
@user-fy4hl6wl3g3 жыл бұрын
Yes. Yes it is .
@reptilerevival3 жыл бұрын
God bless you, Tim. I'm so thankful that I found your channel a few months ago, and I have so much respect for your grind and passion.
@sleeplessinstockwell2 жыл бұрын
Excellent Tim. Totally agree with your stance on this question.
@OFFTHEDOMEApparel3 жыл бұрын
9 days sober today tim.... had cravings too go party last night but honestly ive been more productive in these 9 days than i have in a month drinking and drugging i cant go afford too go back too that lifestyle! you hit it on the head when you talked about the lows man it feels good too wake up and not regret or even remember what the hell happened the night b4
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
That's awesome 1Love! It's crazy how much more we can get done in life when are minds aren't clouded my alcohol.
@KNOCKOUTCLUBFC3 жыл бұрын
The lowssss...wish I could undo what I did when I was drunk
@elijahdunmore75263 жыл бұрын
Hi Tim I just want to thank you again I just got to say I have been sober for 1 year and 2 month you are like a brother to me thanks again 🙏
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
No problem man! And congrats on your continued sobriety!
@jjjppp-5136 Жыл бұрын
I find that I have mainly lows while on this journey. It's because I can't let go of all the stuff I did. I have been isolating for 7 months, which I know is not healthy (I'm starting therapy) I will say that this time has allowed me to get to the root problems that I couldn't see before. I just haven't been able to heal them. So it's like being on the day after drinking all the time except there's no outlet to have a high even if it's temporary one. Hopefully therapy can help me heal and let go. Edit….I’ve been isolating now for a little over a year now, and I have found a neutral medium now. I don’t feel down all the time now, and started focusing on the future and not the past. I do feel better. I actually like my isolation, and I am happy where I am.
@pacmanmum Жыл бұрын
Thank for this video , I can relate to it and it has helped me ,especially about the high low thing , I have not really been out much in my life but have had some drunk fun nights out sometimes,but the last few years it’s got to a point where I’m just at home drinking on a Friday or Saturday having beer and bit music on and then not being able to stop until about seven cans lager and few port and lemonades .then have to slowly come back to normal and suffer all night all the next day and sometimes feel weird the next few days , luckily I don’t have any friends so no pressure there, but my husband drinks once or twice a week four cans lager eats then sleeps so he seems to be ok ,but he even feels rough sometimes after that.I did go through a phase of drinking with my daughter but she’s moved away now and has a baby and my other grown up kids don’t drink ,2 of them the odd few on special occasions maybe , but I cannot moderate,so this year so far I have decided not to drink as my hangovers are terrible,I agree nothing great is happening,but I’m really happy I’m not hungover,and I get more stuff done ,sleeps better once actually get to sleep .I’m heading towards the weekend knowing that I’d rather be getting the chores done and playing video games instead of being hungover my legs have weird pains but not really sure if that’s years of booze or not yet
@Epic_Lemonade3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Tim! I'm glad someone is out here speaking truth.
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
There's so much falsehood in the world, someone gotta be different and speak truth lol
@melhawk13523 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your honesty. So appreciated.
@mandyharrison37993 жыл бұрын
69 days 22 hrs sober...I don't miss the hangovers but I am missing the highs. Early days but hoping to get my highs in time without the wine!
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on the 69 days Mandy! Loss of highs is a sacrifice we have to make to improve our lives. But the day will come when the natural highs you still get will be enough! And NO MORE HANGOVERS! 🤣🤣
@mandyharrison37993 жыл бұрын
@@TimothyWard thanks for the inspirational sentiments Tim. I will crack on to my next milestone which is 100 days😃
@7Supernova73 жыл бұрын
Keep it up
@seanmeantime3 жыл бұрын
Tim freakin rules! ❤️
@bicstic83 жыл бұрын
btw your insights are excellent man, thank you!
@josefadams6472 жыл бұрын
Great video! Exactly!!!!
@gwendolynlloyd30133 жыл бұрын
2mins in and im like 'pfft not worth it'
@moudly2 жыл бұрын
Been struggling for 10 years..... really trying to find the courage to do it.
@Greg-tj5ce3 жыл бұрын
You rock Tim !!!
@Greg-tj5ce3 жыл бұрын
What did you do while quitting when you did have that urge to drink? Did you have people to call?
@wes_azdrummer933 жыл бұрын
Great video Tim!
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Westin!
@bicstic83 жыл бұрын
yup yup yup, tim on point again and again! do you miss drunken judgement though? i've had lasting insights because of the alcohol..but then again can certainly recognize the destructive nature of the drink.
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
I like to think that any insight we have drunk we could also stumble across sober. Alcohol doesn't put new ideas in our brain, I think it just removes some of the inhibitors that keep us from accessing those ideas. The trick is to find out how to access those ideas without having to poison ourselves.
@neosandi6 Жыл бұрын
yes man i agree you area stabil and you can depend on yourself on some one in youre life
@hero20063 жыл бұрын
Respect.
@wheatstonebridge3 жыл бұрын
I had one glass of wine last night. That's all. It was great. Not drinking is much better. I'll never go back.
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear you are cutting back Sonja and reaping the benefits!
@frankc43643 жыл бұрын
I will agree tho u find out who you are more and I've been sober long enough to find out and I hate what I found I just feel like nothing
@catalyst4518 Жыл бұрын
The best way to be Sober is to be like the Black Guy in this video. Be an absolute drunk for years, raise hell, and then get sober. Because if you are a Lifelong sober person such as myself (49 years sober going on 50 years this March...BEAT THAT PEOPLE!!) you will be hated in society. No one will give you the props you deserve for never touching the stuff...yet still growing up normal. Lifelong sober people are not accepted in this Alcoholic, substance using society. So like I said the best way to be sober is to be like the black guy in this video. Then you will be a "Hero" to your peers and probably still have a few friends to hang with. As someone that never drinks or smokes since birth, such as myself, you can count on one hand the amount of people in my town (Bakersfield the #1 most alcoholic town in America) that even wants to acknowledge my existence...MY ENTIRE LIFE! Now try growing up from birth till age 50 and nobody giving a damn about you? AND STILL BECOME NORMAL!!! As a Sober person for life, you will also have this insane work ethic that no substance using person can hold a candle too, and since even the boss can't work as hard as you, the hating starts and guess what your reward for never being a drunk is? Fired after 1 week...then you are homeless And when you become homeless? You become a drug addict because you give up! So the moral of this story? By 18 years old become a drunk for at least 10 years! THEN get sober! Then people will think you are cool and you never develop the insane work ethic of a lifelong sober person. Then as a "Social Hero" you are given a great job that you last all your life at and you are never homeless. My 2 cents take it or leave it!
@richardzink60264 ай бұрын
sober a week and there are times i want to drink like a mf
@TimothyWard4 ай бұрын
Congrats on the week! And keep going!
@audunseverin3 жыл бұрын
Incrazy!
@tinadarealmilliondollarbaby3 жыл бұрын
Ty
@c.robinson72643 жыл бұрын
Day 1 for me😒
@TimothyWard3 жыл бұрын
You got this! Good luck!
@dianestuckenberg99442 жыл бұрын
Would you think alcoholics are all dipolar seems to me I'm low in morning high at night?