IS THERE RACISM IN THE GAY COMMUNITY?

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[@MacDoesIt]

I've talked about this on my channel and other aspects of the Internet numerous of times. though this issue is quite blatant, the conversation tends to only stay within the POCLGBT side of the community. So thank you for branching out and using your reach to bring the conversation to ones that have the privilege not to acknowledge it. It's very appreciative.

[@sadel1847]

Mac!!!!!

[@helenacotrim7254]

your chanel is amazing! congrats on the indredible content you upload

[@soupdont2421]

You are just not attractive, it's not that you are black

[@Jarmone01]

+Soup Don't your a troll

[@missbrown1698]

lets see your picture Kermit

[@zisforzoo16]

I find those who are attracted to a single race weird, I love all races and ethnicities!!!

[@travisl2795]

@Johnny Joestar get off this page then

[@KEPA000]

I went on the app and first time I said no white guys no Asian men I was looking for a black guy but then I found a sexy Asian dude who was give off incredible big dick energy and knew he was hung and told me I'm going to be his slave forever now we're getting married

[@tuck295q]

I had a white gay guy asked me if I like white guys. I said yes, I like white guys. He then proceeds to gaslight me saying I only white guys. But he himself never asks if I like black, brown, etc, cause I would have said yes also. A normal conversation, I have to think so much to LGBTQ? really?

[@christopherwhite6943]

@@tuck295q You know your lying! Your not into black guys. Asians are only into other Asian or white. I had an Asian tell me this to my face. On dating apps y’all would act like y’all into blacks but end up being dry so they could just stop talking to you.

[@velabela7634]

YES! There's racism EVERYWHERE! Even in the Transgender community with my experience.

[@velabela7634]

Thomas Korn Yeah you're a new breed lol

[@Kornknealious]

You see racisim everywhere only because you look for it. Stop looking for it

[@Kornknealious]

Thank you for proving my point.

[@velabela7634]

Thomas Korn The only point you've proven is that you're a hypocrite. You went out of your way to voluntarily watch this vid, expedite your bitch fit and bother me just to validate yourself 😂👈

[@ESocks4900]

Homophobia is a struggle to practice a certain behavior! Racism is a struggle to be treated like a human being! Racism and homophobia do not fall under the same category!!!

[@heymikkao]

There are beautiful people in all races. I don't get how someone could just cut off an entire race. It's your loss.

[@harshnemesis]

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[@harshnemesis]

Come on you liberals argue how gays were born this way, but as soon as it comes to other preferences which we cannot control you go throw that right out of the window, give me a break. If I don't find black guys attractive I just don't and it's fine, also I don't find women attractive at all, by this retarded logic gays are also sexist.

[@weareyourtest6029]

@@harshnemesis take your ass somewher else whitey

[@Gummieburst]

WE ARE YOUR TEST lmao I’m mexican I agree with him. if something doesn’t give me a boner then that means I’m not attracted to it. How hard is that to understand. Preference is what attracts you. Stop trying to weaponize that.

[@patrickwilkerson8048]

You are absolutely correct.

[@davidlister370]

There's racism is every community, unfortunately.

[@p.e.d6541]

i don't know why some white gay guys get the idea that gay people can't be racist. You can be gay and racist. And racism under the name of "preference" is still racism, period. Racism takes place in many forms, you don't even have to be a KKK member to be a racist.

[@gay4gay313]

You can also be black Asian or Latino and racist as well

[@marc3498]

I guess white gay guys get this idea because gays are a minority and they experienced frequently struggles with narrow-minded people. Just like skin color people. So they hope gay guys can easily relate to people of color and not to be racist...

[@ReallyRick]

Preference is NOT racism! I can't help the fact I am not sexually aroused by black or Asain men. That is an inherent as being gay itself.

[@gulag0]

Except it is not inherent. So it just happens that "inherently" most people prefer white guys? How come people can see all these different types and shades of white guys but all asian guys get put in one box, all black guys in another? They are not all the same, don't look all alike, nor act the same way. Our preferences are molded by images we see everyday (magazines, movies, advertising, etc) and by our interactions. If you live (and we do) in a racist society, that is going to affect your preferences. Once you understand and accept that, you may be able to change. If you don't want to change, I understand, it's confortable to not think about race, to not think about prejudice, and finding excuses for racist behaviours is easier than confronting them. But if you want so much to defend that "preference" and keep only dating/hooking up with white guys, there is absolutely no need to advertise "no blacks, no asians, no fats, no whatever". You can choose not to be that much of a dick, if you're not interested in someone who sends you a message or hits on you, you can simply ignore or you can say you're not interested in a polite manner (as in: not involving the person's race), just as you probably do with other white guys that don't fit your "standards".

[@joels5260]

+Gabriel Gutierrez da Silveira I freaking love you.

[@WLNUTS]

"Are you from north or south korea?!!?" Ohhhhh maaaan, it's not even funny how many times I've been asked that. Like seriously?

[@sunnys1n9h]

That's embarrassing!!

[@joon1882]

SAME

[@Jarmone01]

+Drew Gonzales you need education

[@leedaniels7196]

That’s crazy.And ignorant too!.😮

[@ssharkbait]

for everyone saying they simply have preferences let me ask you this: if you are initially attracted to someone that is a person of color but they look white (more European features/ light skin), do you drop them after finding out they arent??

[@vacuumblink2300]

Right 😂

[@Wasabi35209]

How can we change media coverage to promote variety of stereotypes ? What I normally see on gay magazines or on social media is muscular white gay men. Am I the only one who think that our community focus on body image too much ?

[@harshnemesis]

More like: How can we stop SJWs like you putting diversity in everything. The only diversity that bothers me is forced one, like all that cast being put in movies just because they are black or asian creating a whole new level or ironic racism at the same time, lmao.

[@ShrewdEmpath]

@@harshnemesis they're doing it because of the lack of representation for poc, not because they don't want white people in movies. The same cannot be said of that prince of Persia movie, which lacked any Persians (which is what put me off seeing it).

[@harshnemesis]

@@ShrewdEmpath Oh I though I was watching movies for interesting story and great acting, but no apparently I only cared about the inclusion checklist and virtue signaling, oh wait no I don't. You leftists need to stop ruining the every movie franchise. The forced feminism and lgbt in movies makes terrible movies that nobody wants to watch. Ghostbusters is great example of that, people from 90s wanted another sequel so bad and when they finally delivered it, there was no original cast, instead we got a feminist flick complete with unfunny jokes, cringe and special effects that look worse than the ones in the original movies from 80s.

[@ShrewdEmpath]

@@harshnemesis if a film is obviously unrealistic in some way, then that can be a problem. I don't expect every film to be about certain demographics. But why wouldn't you want a film to reflect the reality of society at times? If a film is not aiming to be representative of real life in different ways, doesn't that kind of defeat the object of the good acting you're talking about? You are free to watch films with only white straight cis male actors though, if that's your priority.

[@harshnemesis]

@@ShrewdEmpath No I don't care. The diversity and inclusion is literally the last thing I would ever care for in movies. That isn't the reason why I watch the movies, that's the reason why sjws watch the movies But if you want movies to reflect the reality of society, then that what holywood is doing now is extremely inaccurate. Blacks are the minority and so are the gays, but they are the majority in movies these days. Besides acting isn't representing the reality exactly what it is, acting is doing something or being something who you're not. A straight person acting as gay person or a disabled person is exactly what acting is and if they do the job great then it's good acting. A gay person being gay in a movie is not exactly an act... it's just who they are. Also CIS? isn't that exactly what SJWs use to define the normal people who have a penis or a vagina and are happy with that fact? Well that is 99.7% of the world, so we don't need an extra label, you can just say a man or a woman, thank you very much. Btw how I'm supposed to only watch those movies when they no longer exist? Thanks to the left Every... single... franchise and new movie has a feminist, lgbt, BLM,.. agenda to push that is completely irrelevant to the movie

[@mikeyt1047]

Kyle this representation and awareness you're bringing is amazing. I commend you for talking about topics other people (gay men specifically) refuse to talk about. I never comment on your videos but this one got me, i had to say thank you. Not only for myself but for alot of other gay men of color.

[@treyvorable]

Honestly people who put racial preferences in their bios make it much easier for me to weed them out ....

[@TheRockangel1995]

No you not having a face pic makes you get weeded out

[@laspinas1986]

It's racism to me, if you're dismissed right before you're given the chance to be known. Preference on the other hand, to me, is simply stating what you find the most attractive but it shouldn't stop you from liking or giving someone who doesn't fit in your preference a chance.

[@ChannelYumYum]

Well, thats pretty much what a preference is, some people have strong preferences to where it can be difficult for them to give people a chance, but I find it odd any preference at all for a race over others is considered racist.

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

Ry Estares not seeing entire races as people is racist. Not being attracted to a race means that you don’t view them as human. White guys are so racist in the gay community

[@harshnemesis]

No it's called saving time and battery, by being upfront with your preferences... yeah it may come across rude and there might be a better way of going about this by telling everyone they are just not their type (not mentioning the reason), but not everyone has time for that. Dating is by nature biased and nobody can control who they are attracted to, get over it, besides isn't that like a good thing... if you think someone is racist or w/e for not wanting to have sex with you, they just saved you time by putting that on their profile, so you don't have to find out about their "racism" on your own

[@harshnemesis]

+Bleedy Schastivyy It's not racist here is why: By being different race you have different aesthetics... the aesthetics some people are not into, so how would one put that on their profile? Yeah in the same way as we name more curvy aesthetics, we call that fat people. So if you're not into certain aesthetics of a race, you just put that down as that race in profile. And another note: This is not equal opportunities or being allowed to use public spaces, this is dating and once again nobody owes you sex.

[@RayRay06122]

@@harshnemesis I see what your saying but here is my problem with that. Being of that race doesn't mean they fit that aesthetic. I have seen Asian guys with relatively large eyes, Black guys with thin noses, and White guys with fuller lips for example. Even within a race there are still some many variations in appearance.

[@alexot1355]

THE latin guy is cute as fuck

[@Chief]

3:20 - 4:05 literally changed everything I thought I knew bout myself. #learning

[@icarrus4u]

Yes, there is definitely racism in the gay community.

[@icarrus4u]

@Private Info this video is focusing on racism in the gay “community”. Why bring up straight culture? That’s not the topic.

[@MrBooklover16]

I am so so grateful that Kyle made this. This means so much to me; not because I'm black, not because I'm gay, but because I'm so tired of discrimination and false stigmas. I'm so glad that people are talking about race in the LGBT+ community, so thanks Kyle!

[@Crazy101Sheep]

"Seek to understand, rather than to be understood." MY NEW FAVOURITE QUOTE. Thanks Johnny 😊 Thanks to alllll you guys for helping us all move forward 👍🏼😚

[@katiebradley6917]

I love how you just let them speak instead of making it a conversation with you. I think it allows their voices to be heard and acknowledged. also the fact that you didn't voice over the questions so it really is just about them. I am a white gay female who typically dates outside of my race. it's not a preference thing at all. it is nice to hear the perspective of poc and qpoc on how they are perceived and perhaps fetishized. thanks for another great video

[@danielewenkhare3600]

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 I’m gay and black and I haven’t suffered from racism but I know what it’s like but no matter what, we can NEVER live in fear forever, “we’re STRONGER together, queerer than ever” 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

[@matthewejcrepin9675]

I am so happy that you took the time to shine the light on this because there are so many faces of racism and everything we can do to combat this in society and even in ourselves is a step forward.

[@Powhart]

If there's even Biphobia in Gay Community then of course there will be Racism... :( Besides - Those guys are super cool and cute :)

[@ajdbm]

i was thinking the same.

[@Powhart]

***** And You're another cute guy

[@ajdbm]

+Powi hahahahaha ty 😘😘

[@mikeksiazek]

Powi are you shittin me? cut the phobia nonsense crap. this political correctness is insane

[@yonkimkor]

But, sadly, bisexual is not race... Race is like Asian, African, Caucasian, Arabic, etc...

[@KevinELLL]

The fact that there's people in the comments section justifying their views on "preference" is all the evidence I need of racism in the LGBTQ community. Bye Felicia.

[@CainCalifornia]

See Ya Shawn

[@NutnRoll]

Such a strange logic... Racism = "these races are below my race, they don't deserve what my race deserves, they should not have what my race has economically and politically, I don't want to be friends or mingle with them or have a type of relatinship that establishes me and them as equals" Sexual Preference = "this shape and color don't give me boner, you are my friend and my equal, and you deserve everything that I deserve, but you aren't sexually attractive to me" Of course, maybe one day people who say they won't date a black/asian/white/latino guys will find someone in that race whom they might fall in love with. But calling them racists is just an exaggeration and misleading.

[@coupleofbeers31]

Preference is based on physical attraction for the most part. Why should I be forced to date someone I am not physically attracted to just to satisfy the whole "be open-minded and liberal" BS mindset? Again, preference for a certain physique is NOT the same as REAL racism, which exists in things like the housing market or job market or the justice system even. I will simply not date a man who I am not attracted to physically because I have the right to. Please get over yourself.

[@coupleofbeers31]

@@RanDizz No sweetie, I did not. If I only dated Black men and nothing else and specified that on an ad would that be considered racist? Let know please.

[@coupleofbeers31]

@@RanDizz You didn't answer my question. Let me ask you again. If I were to put an ad out saying I only date Black men and no White boys please (I HAVE SEEN ADS LIKE THIS), would YOU consider that racist? Yes or no? Simple question. Just say YES or NO.

[@ninibugg6203]

For those of you who are lgbt and non-white, I suggest you watch this Netflix series called POSE. It has Billy Porter, MJ Rodriguez, and it centers around black/latina gay and trans people in the 80s-90s. It shows how they created this community called Ballroom culture, where they escape both racism and homophobia. Ballroom still exists today. Hopefully this cheers y'all up. God Bless🙏🏾 Also, Paris is Burning is a good lgbt documentary.

[@billybusari3347]

I'm so glad you brought this to light! Literally, this is my experience and it sucks!

[@YouJustGotAnimated]

To some of you white gays in the comments: Not wanting someone black or Asian is racist because you are making a preemptive decision based solely on race. Just stop that. P.S. All of the guys in this video are handsome and cute af, where did you find them???

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

To all of the Preachers - we didn't spend the guts of 40 years getting one set of Preachers, just to replace them with a different set of Preachers. All our lives we've been shamed because of who we love and have sex with - the fact that it's now members of our own community doing the shaming is just sick.

[@harshnemesis]

It's not racism it's called saving time and battery, by being upfront with your preferences... yeah it may come across rude and there might be a better way of going about this by telling everyone they are just not their type (not mentioning the reason), but not everyone has time for that. Dating is by nature biased and nobody can control who they are attracted to, get over it. Besides isn't that like a good thing... if you think someone is racist or w/e for not wanting to have sex with you, they just saved you time by putting that on their profile, so you don't have to find out about their "racism" on your own

[@stefanmarchione6757]

@ Hamlettell Fuck you! Who are you to dare speak to just the "white" gays! 😲 I being an "ethnic" white gay male, and I cannot begin to tell you how many times that gays of "color" haven't given me the time of day, filthy looks, or insulted me flat-out. Yes, I do agree that there is a majority of the prejudice coming from WASP gays; but oh boy, you Blacks, and Browns, and Yellows have sure caught up. Whites, historically, have been prejudiced and classist; being the majority in this country, but as times change, the once opprossed have now become the Oppressor. Spare me your preach on a soapbox; it will simply fall on deaf ears.

[@origamifox5180]

Stefan Marchione as a Hispanic, I solely I agree with you. I don't know if you've heard of intersectionality, but if you're a white gay, your opinion will be less valued, not to mention POC gays lecture white gays on "racism" and shit

[@CainCalifornia]

So can I say it's not racist if I'm Latino? That seems a bit racey to me too.

[@anekootaku9318]

omg the Asian guy is so cuteeeeeeeeeeee😻😻😻😻😻😻😻😻😻😻😻

[@WishfulJirachi]

seriously what a dream

[@bloodredclouds1]

Chris

[@nwezetx1]

Yes, he's very handsome.

[@lovegood1376]

Aneko Otaku yas queen

[@faizalalladina3687]

Aneko Otaku why dont u focus on the message instead of how they look. Be intelligent...not stupid

[@miloreidel]

I really wanna talk about it on my channel but i've gotten A LOT of back lash for discussing things like this, even racial equality in general. So thank you for using your platform for this! its something that should be talked about more

[@TheBrianKarl]

minorities should not be discriminating against other minorities. We are all here together as one community, one voice.

[@harshnemesis]

Except we aren't you can't just stick labels to people, many gays (including me) do not identify as lgbtqabcwtfwyz movement. I will put this here as well: It's not racism it's called saving time and battery, by being upfront with your preferences... yeah it may come across rude and there might be a better way of going about this by telling everyone they are just not their type (not mentioning the reason), but not everyone has time for that. Dating is by nature biased and nobody can control who they are attracted to, get over it, besides isn't that like a good thing... if you think someone is racist or w/e for not wanting to have sex with you, they just saved you time by putting that on their profile, so you don't have to find out about their "racism" on your own

[@tuck295q]

Dark yep it is racist. At least in term of your racial superiority in your head bias in your head that makes you go for certain someone base on race. I am pretty certain I have dated far more people with different backgrounds than you do.

[@harshnemesis]

Here is the thing I don't date people for different backgrounds, race, etc to check up virtue signaling list like movies do these days, I date them because I find them attractive. Nobody ever said anything about racial superiority, our preferences just don't allow us to have sex with certain people that's all and it's fine and it's really same as not wanting to bang fat or ugly people, just not attracted to them, doesn't mean I would refuse to sell them something or be their friend, or w/e else I just wouldn't bang anyone I'm not attracted to. I can't tell whenever you're mentally challenged or brainwashed by lefties because I literally just explained why it's not racist, or w/e. Stop SJWing and get over yourself, nobody owes you sex and if you still believe not wanting to bang someone is racist or w/e why do you turn down women? I mean are you a sexist pig? What now is it fine to be gay or not? Because by definition you don't find women attractive, so refusing to bang them by your own logic makes you sexist.

[@billlvy7822]

That's where you're wrong friend, humans only have one go an with is to gain power and money based off their own aspirations. People feel good when they have someone to hate

[@seandeep2152]

That appears to be the majority of them in the lgbt world. Almost all of them chase pretty white men at the exclusion of their own race & other colored people.

[@a.m.a9332]

I seriously don't know why am I going through videos like this today. It's like my mind has taken some sort of diversion or something. I'm just going through video after video when this is not me but hearing people's stories got me feeling some sort of way

[@Samuel115s]

I'm black first cuz that's what peoole can see when they look at me. I don't really care to much about being gay anymore. people in general seem more accepting or at least tolerant these days. also you have to get to know me before you know that I'm gay.

[@Raquel96]

Always so grateful for videos like this, these issues need to be talked about more often & the fact it's all coming from people who experience on a daily basis is so important. Thanks for amplifying their voices Kyle, loved it ❤️

[@deltonmclemore6647]

Its kinda of tough approaching this issue. I have no friends. When trying to interact with the gay community that is predominantly white I was turned away. In my complex there are gay couples and groups of friends. I introduced myself, brought a bottle of liquor approaching them with kindness and wanted to hangout but sadly they rejected the bottle saying " we don't drink", however I see them at the gay bar. So It hurts to say no one wants to be my friend, be committed to me or let alone interact with me Online or in person because I am black. It sucks because my dad is white and my grandfather is an Irish black red head. I'm not fat. I've got a body.I feel now that I have to validate on why I could be someone's friend and I shouldn't hhave to. Still to this day I see all the gays hangout walking to the bar,going over someone's house or be at the pool(in front of my apartment) ....however I feel like they don't like because I am black.

[@mikeksiazek]

Delton McLemore you dont have to prove yourself to anyone but yourself. a gay bar or ANY bar is THEE worst place to find friends. try a coffee house (but not starbucks) or a gym

[@nikhilsukumar23]

Delton McLemore being with people or the so called good looking people is not a great situation. It's overrated. Friendships happen rarely but if it does it is great. If certain ppl reject that doesn't mean you have to be sad. Everything is over rated. Even happiness. Don't fall for these situations. Build a career make money be safe be healthy. Enjoy life. Definitely one or two or more people will like you. The people you mentioned are a minority in real. Maybe the area you live has bigots. But don't limit yourself to that situation. Meet people around the world. I am sure you will get thousands of friends. People who don't understand you well just leave them. A perception cannot be the last word. Unfortunately those ppl will never understand this. Move on. Life is exciting. Get your goals. That's more exciting than love or friends.

[@michaelcasaus8164]

Thank you for sharing this video! As, a proud Latino gay male. I feel being gay and of any color of race you can't help, but feel like a double minority. I feel this world needs to be more loving, caring and compassionate. Be brave and stop social dogma's; be happy for one another because that is love.

[@jesswise1863]

Absolutely ❤

[@pwat7254]

As gay blk guy with lifelong experiences, I say you'll find alienation, exclusion, racism, discrimination within EVERY group or so-called communities. Often times, people within their groups are at war with each other but yet preach acceptance and tolerance when they all of a sudden feel threatened or excluded. To me, it just comes down to individualism.

[@iowa621]

i absolutely loved this video! and even as a gay female, theres always stereotypes and racism. when i tell people im puerto rican they look at me and say 'no way? you look white.' but thank you Kyle, and friends, for taking time to discuss these topics and help bring awareness.👏😘

[@DrippingAlchemy]

I want to see more black and asian couples

[@clivefacey3347]

@Phoenix Knight and that would be great

[@rodrigomonter.8688]

How bout no.

[@weareyourtest6029]

@@rodrigomonter.8688 how about shut the fuck up

[@Free_Snooki]

I think Asians only make up like, 2% of the population in America or something. You'd be lucky to see an Asian & white-much less anyone else-lol.

[@TheRockangel1995]

🏜️MmmWhatchaSayॐ𝅗𝅥 that's the dominant

[@NoName-pc4un]

I honestly did not know this problem exists, especially toward black and asian lgbts. I myself is an asian and many people regardless of race hit on me on dating apps... Lots of white men hit on me. The only thing that troubles me is... The white men who hit on my are usually 40+ while I am, well,... Barely reached adulthood 😳😳😳😳😨😨😨😨

[@robinkindred6456]

Thats usually because when white men get old (and boy do they age quickly) they get discarded like a piece of used toilet tissue by young baby faced white Caucasian males..... of course unless they want to be a generous 'sugar daddy' and this I have seen time and time and time again. There are so many rejected old white wrinkled men after me that it is pathetic and I am 60 years old. But keep in mind these are the same men 30 years ago who would not even look my direction when they were young twinkish and good looking according to white standards. Oh well I guess men of color should count it a blessing to receive left overs.

[@NoName-pc4un]

Robin Kindred oh wow... So that's how it is

[@robinkindred6456]

EXACTLY!!!!

[@noirjack7]

@@robinkindred6456 you hit it right on the head! When they’re young, they wouldn’t even think about touching a black man. When they start getting rejected because of their age that’s when they turn to black men. It’s fucked up and that’s the very reason why I don’t deal with them at any age.

[@regularperson9850]

@@noirjack7 This is so relatable. I'm a latino person of color and I get messages from older white men in there 40s and it's annoying how they keep spamming me with messages. These are the same white guys that used "no black, no asians" when they were younger.

[@ak5659]

When I see profiles that have a "No POC" message I have 2 knee-jerk thoughts: 1) Wow! You either have so many opportunities for dates/sex you can eliminate nearly 1/2 the potential guys or you don't actually want to meet someone AND 2) You probably have a bunch of other issues not related to race so I'll give you a pass.

[@blizzlenizzle]

So glad you discussed this! I always block any and every guy that explicitly bans other races in their profiles.

[@playrough5712]

What's more hurtful is those type of men who say "Only interested in masculine or Fit men. Not everyone can commit to hitting the gym and some guys proudly accept their body for what it is" it's the same with straight guys who are only interested in super model hot women or really pretty women. it breaks down insecurities in people who are already have a hard time loving them selves.

[@XXjiyongXX]

Damn... I appreciate this video a lot. Wished there were more videos to expose the horrible things the so called community for equality does to the individual POC.

[@marlonelias]

I wanna see a White people version of this video, asking them about preference and racism etc.

[@mjbaz1]

Why would you even care what white gays are into? There are plenty of black gay men out there. So why would it ruffle your feathers? It's not like you are owed attention by anyone. Grow up and move on.

[@andiehernandez1995]

I'm so glad I found this video on my feed. I love how this men express themselves. Beautiful video

[@maxattackSA]

This video is perfect! So open and honest and a perfect way to start/continue a dialogue! Love from South Africa

[@JordSolo]

KYLE! This video just made me and all your subscribers love you mountains more. Keep up the great work you beautiful soul.

[@roshilsingh7222]

however there was not any South Asian eg. Indian gay/bi men in this video lol.

[@calialoha25]

Kyle thanks for posting about this topic. By reading the comments below, I sadly can see that the message is still not very clear for many to comprehend.

[@adilenelizarraga2565]

thank you for using your platform to have an honest conversation about these issues. I love that you allowed the people in this video to talk candidly about their experiences. This is how you use your privilege correctly!!

[@kennethjacobs6049]

For community that always preaches being united but yet they against someone that's another color but when the straight community discrimination against them they want to talk about being discriminated against hypocrisy.

[@dietrich1677]

I can understand that people have a sexual preference, I have mine too but shaming others who are not your type is a wrong way to act!

[@Bumbumbr-zu5gc]

Yess!!!!

[@hellowhitepeople]

i've deleted grindr because of this. some men in the app don't like me so they never respond, or i don't like them because they're not my type or if i DO think they're attractive their profile reflects some deep homophobic or racist shit. i agree with all the beautiful men in the panel.

[@ed252]

Thank you! This was so open, honest, and informative. I wish everyone would watch this.

[@luluih95]

Awe I really loved this ❤️ makes me feel a lot better knowing that it'll get better. Life is hard!

[@gay4gay313]

who wouldn't want to date you. My goodness

[@luluih95]

+Gay4gay awww thank you!! But you'll be surprised.. 😔

[@mancool5280]

I would love to date you personnaly 😏

[@ktutran8256]

It won't get better if people keep hiding behind "preference" and don't dig down deep within themselves to find the root of their racial prejudices.

[@defrand14able]

Luis Bravo Honestly by your reaction you probably have alot of guys who would date you but you most likely turn them away or give them the cold shoulder because they aren't what you're looking for.

[@PSrecording]

awesome discussion Kyle + friends ! great content -Philip & Shawn

[@taketimeandfind6]

This was good to hear especially the part regarding not coming in with general assumptions. I've watched your videos but have seen your insta and definitely have some not so positive assumptions based on your pics/majority white, chiseled friend group. I think because we're in the same community and someone who's trying to be a voice, it's important we keep each other accountable. Thanks for actually getting the conversation started, letting people hear actual voices of actual experiences. I do hope you're actually a good/genuine guy! I live in New York so if I ever see you on the train, I'll be sure and say hi! :)

[@JAllanFonville]

THANK YOU!! Thank you so much Kyle for making this video! I can TOTALLY relate to EVERYTHING that was said!!

[@MyMarquezTV]

life became so much easier for me, the day I realized that other people's perception of me, is just that, " a perception of me" is their own, has nothing to do with my reality and my truth. most people won't have the time or the opportunity to get to know the real you, so what happens? they take this micro information they have of you simply to categorize you, creating a false reality of you, and the foundation of that reality is based on their comprehension of culture and Society... so the moment you stop taking it personal, is the moment that life gets better, you start to attain a freedom you didn't know before!

[@nikhilsukumar23]

My Marquez well said. Amazing. I might need to borrow that. Perfectly precise.

[@surenxavier8915]

Beautifully said!

[@Scorpiotide]

Thank you for this!

[@lucdepurr589]

Great video. I really enjoyed it. Your friends, in addition to being coiffed and good looking, were so articulate and honest in their responses. I feel certain anyone watching this video gained a greater awareness of the role of race and ethnicity in the gay community. Sidebar: The issue of racial preference and social media was brought up. It's a personal pet peeve of mine. Preferences are fine, but if you put 'No (insert adjective here)', you are intentionally excluding an entire population and that is your prerogative. However, if the adjective you chose is a race and/or ethnicity, you are actively discriminating based on race and/or ethnicity, which is the definition of racism. It's even been institutional, so it's easy to find in your profile, similar to another time in American history when 'No Blacks' signs were placed in the front windows of stores. Your 'preference' creates a space where it is okay to exclude, and in many cases, brutalize other human beings based on their identities. Wouldn't it be easier to simply talk about your preferencesite in terms of what you like, i.e. blond hair, blue eyes, long walks, sunsets and pina coladas?

[@yesimsixtyfive]

I'm black and straight but I have relatives who are gay and they say it is really hard to date other races, people tend to stereotype you. Troubling. Even when I was on match.com myself there were tons of white guys who said they only wanted white women who looked a certain way. I know people want who they want but damn, expand your minds!

[@icycult]

this whole topic is something dear to me so im glad that you made a video addressing by using POC who experience it first hand. its hard as a POC in the gay community because you're either fetishized or you're not wanted at all (from my experience so far anyway, sad). You're surrounded by these stereotypes and some people don't give you the time of day because they already think they know you, and they don't want you. But yeah, that's all I'm gonna say at the moment. But thanks again for making this video, Kyle.

[@Sionapink48]

There is racism everywhere I have had encounters with racism in the gay community. I feel like humans are unevolved mentally American social engineering and stereotypes are sickening. I think I'll remain celibate and remain mentally strong, my job as a being is to heal others. Being an empath and clairsentient makes dating very difficult especially when so many humans are not mentally equally yoked with me. I can see through people that is my gift it is a powerful and rare quality I possess, that can be used to show people there is more in ourselves then social stereotypes. Remember we are here to learn and grow not to cater to deficient beings who have their own opinion. Their opinion does not define me I will not waste time on foolishness from no one, not even my cat. My advice for those who struggle to treat them as a speed bump. Keep swimming 💪

[@romariosolomon8491]

i am of colour as well... and i just absolutely love how you guys put what i feel out there.. you guys are beautiful... love y'all :)

[@EternallDrummer]

Yet another great and informative video, Kyle. Thank you! All the love to you!

[@lifeofmatt-dh1do]

I couldn't have come across this video at a better time. Just coming out this year and being a queer person of color at 20 I was finding it really difficult to see where I fit in within the gay community which seems just so new and overwhelming for me. Being mixed as well (white/filipino) I still feel lost to where I fit in and the comments "Youre cute for Filipino" always get to me, but this video makes me aware I'm not alone in that thought and to know Kyle Krieger is using his platform to address the issue to many people that wouldn't hear it otherwise is really meaningful!

[@theMaxisms]

Well done, buddy

[@laquanaedmiston3441]

Yeah there is racism in the gay community. I actually cut ties with guys immediately as soon as I start to realize the racism they start to spew. I get tired of talking about it because when you address the racist things gay men do and say they deny it.

[@dallaspancoast5810]

great idea, forum and friends! thanks for making these and hopefully swaying people to be a little more humane to one another

[@gerryhenry1]

YES Kyle! Excellent video, and excellent job to Donell, Phillip, Johnny, and Chris for speaking on this topic and their experiences so eloquently!

[@spectaclereplication]

Not is there, but why is there racism - should be the question. Also, why is black gay porn so often called "thug" porn - mhm, racism

[@k.jenner882]

Great topic! I love you, Kyle. Greetings from Indonesia :)

[@k.jenner882]

Anyway, Johnny's instagram is johnnysibilly :)

[@mlaugh09]

Kyle, you have such a great prospective. Continue this into a short film or documentary. Your voice is amazing and needs to be heard.

[@michellecoleman5400]

God bless these brave men for speaking openly and honestly! I hope this opens minds and hearts. I really wish as a teacher we could talk like this in our classrooms. Hopefully someday.

[@gmooreheadiv]

a preference is going into Baskin Robbins and trying all 31 flavors and then saying yes I prefer mint chocolate chip over vanilla. To say you have a preference when you've never tried it... is not the definition of preference. It is a prejudice. You have a preconceived notion of this person due to their skin color and have decided to discredit them and their potential based on something so stupid. These comments are hilarious because nothing has changed, no one has learned. This video is not for the minorities, because we KNOW there's a problem; the very title as a question is irritating. It is nothing new, nothing ground breaking. So the audience this video was intended for has unfortunately done nothing because if you scroll down they continue to use words they don't understand; like preference. Dictionaries should be given out for free for christmas.

[@ohiomaimoukhuede6640]

gmooreheadiv I'm only half with you about sexual preference only because really when you're eating ice cream nobodys dick has to get hard. Same way these guys know they don't like pussy they could implicitly not be attracted to or especially turned on by certain features just to cut people some slack. That said though, a lot of the time it is prejudice. I've had people be disappointed that I didn't act like a thug, been spoken to like a representative of all black people and had Mandingo fantasies projected on to me countless times. I do feel that white people in these things get to be considered as people where as POCs are more an idea, a notion, an experience or right of passage.

[@lcukei]

They need to have white dudes on here and ask then why they are racist

[@ingaysianwithminhly9413]

YES!!:)

[@toyoscio]

Because for many they are desired, and these white dudes know this

[@lcukei]

@@toyosciodesired by whom tho! I’m not into pale skin and body spots, flat asses and lil dicks 🤷🏾‍♂️ I just PREFER MY MEN WITH COLOR

[@karlijnmerle1991]

Beautiful video. Those answers on the last questions, tears in my eyes.

[@hellcat6658]

Great video !! So awesome to see you are taking an active role in trying to breakdown stereotypes and putting out content that gives us as "white" people some insight on something we will never be able to experience. We know what it is like to be discriminated as LGBT but the ethnicity piece on top of it is really hard to imagine ... So thanks again for putting out great social commentary 😍😍😍😍

[@lucacom6217]

It's very interesting and almost true... But no one, neither here, consider "racism" against old gay people. Or is that just a sexual preference? ...

[@LamesWivams]

being old isn't a race so it's not racist, that would be ageism. Like how some people won't date someone older than 25. Odd how that cycle goes since a lot of the older generation wouldn't date the guys who were older than them. But of course that would be if they were only excluding someone based on their age and not other factors.

[@NicolasRafaIoannou]

You are all beautiful from the inside to the outside! Words are just words and they can't change your inner beauty!!! So feel blessed and do not even listen to those words because you are beautiful no matter what!!! Have a nice day to all!!!

[@anonionmous]

Thanks for using your platform to share the stories of QPOC!

[@tonypendergraph6169]

kyle..I am so glad I began following you and watching your videos and other content. You convince us all to take a step back and really see ourselves as we truly are; both as individuals and as a community. Thanx. Luv ya. Hugs to Luna.

[@soyoucancallmeken4347]

Sad but this is so true for an asian gay guy. Thats why I gave up all those gay dating apps☹️

[@inoclasism]

SoyoucancallmeKEN because you only want the white guys?

[@justbrowsing1238]

"those are the things that get me killed" so sad.

[@marcushall6636]

Kyle, I've got to say that you've impressed me. At first when I saw your UNCUT videos and the guys that you were interviewing/giving hair cuts too I was disappointed because I noticed the same quintessential white gay guys. That lead me to think that you were the type of guy that didn't have friends or color and didn't have these conversations. I still think that you should diversify the guys whose hair you cut. Please don't be afraid of black hair and if it is uncharted territory then learn. Take a course, and invite more men of color on your UNCUT segment. But getting back to this video, I'm very impressed that you opened up the discussion and you "went there." The topic of race, racial preference, discrimination, and even body typing in the gay male world is very important. It affects men's self-esteem. It affects the communities that they belong to or the ones they feel rejected from. And it affects their future. I'm in a predominantly white city attending university. I just arrived about 3 weeks ago and I'm already feeling the discrimination and rejection from men on online dating profiles. I encourage you to continue a few more videos about this conversation. I like this video but it doesn't go deep enough. Maybe having a real dialogue between people of color and white men about this issue would really go the extra mile. The truth is, the gay male world is dominated by white male beauty. From publications, political representations, the dancers and bartenders at clubs, online dating profiles with (no fats, no fems, no blacks), there's no denying it.

[@vinhobrien1142]

I actually have a very strange coming out story... So, I've been a fan of Kyle's for a long time. Always liking his photos on Instagram, watching his videos, ect.. So, in 10th grade, I had decided to make one of his photo's my background picture on my phone, it was on the weekend and I thought nothing of it because it's just because I'm a big fan. When I went into school, one of my friends took my phone and unlocked it, seeing the picture of Kyle as my background. Now, I used to delete anything that seemed... Gay? On my phone. So if I ever saved pictures of men or talked to them, they'd be gone before school. But I forgot about my background, my friend, whom is a boy, saw it and asked me if I was gay. He said it with a strange voice, as if he were joking around, and expected me to say no. But I grabbed at my phone, and got real red in the face from embarrassment. He noticed that and his face sunk, seeming more serious and stern. He was accepting thankfully! And that made me happy!

[@kittycat7505]

he looks like a latin harvey levin from tmz

[@daquanrobinson1717]

I say date who ever you attracted too but when people say only white guys are attractive not cool it's beauty in all race besides not all white men are attractive....

[@ItsMeLearyB]

Thank you Kyle, thank you so much for this video! love you bunches!

[@saraveka4220]

This video is literally made me cry. So creative and original.. I have so much respect for this because its not pointless like A LOT of videos on youtube these days and its actually saying something important. I feel like I could watch this all day every day and I would cry every single time. SO MUCH RESPECT FOR THESE PEOPLE i support lgbt+ people so much and OH GOD i dont know what to say I just really wish things were different. dude HUGE respect thank you for making this video and your friends for being so open about it💛💚❤💙💜

[@TheChannelJ1]

LOL See this only happens when there's POC looking to date White Gays. I'm Black and I usually date Black Gay Dudes so this stuff was never an issue

[@nwezetx1]

That's an absurd fallacy, rather narrow minded for you to think that, and a tired argument. Don't think in absolutes. Do you think everybody lives in some black utopia like Baldwin Hills or big city like Atlanta, having their pick of the lot and plenty of black princes to socialize with? As a whole black men are essentially 6% of the U.S. population. That isn't even equally spread around in all states of this nation, nor does factor those not in prison. Who truly knows what minute percentage of that refers to out, bi/homosexual black men. Less than half of a percent of the U.S. population are even homosexual/bi black males. 0.6% is roughly 10% of the U.S. male black population, which is already a generously estimated and likely overenthusiastic percentage of non-heterosexual black men. Let alone those who are out and over the age of 18. There are more homosexual black men in Africa than the U.S. and Canada alone, but obviously not as accessible for obvious reasons. Stop being so closed-minded, as not everyone is as fortunate as you have been to be blessed with access to other gay men that identify as black and enjoy compatibility. You are not wrong about the "white obsession" though, as they are plenty who fixate on dating that way, truly because of self-hatred. Don't assume everyone is that way. I certainly don't feel sorry for self-hating people, but not everyone is dealing with that who complain. There are many of us that reside in areas where we are already amongst the very few black people locally and cannot leave where we live for various reasons, whether economic, academic, or family-related. In those cases, many already opt out of participating in local GLB events/groups in feeling already ostracized or strung along like a third citizen in the form of a token, like they are somehow irrelevant to the greater cause. They stay single or even remain closeted, in feeling it's pointless to come out where they are in seeing no imminent social benefit to do so. Or they settle for "non-black" locals willing to "supposedly" give them time of day (and possibly fetishize them) or white men who take advantage of unfair racist societal dynamics (have below average demeanor unlike the black partner) . It's shameful, but it happens especially to many young or successful black males that are coming out and have yet to find their place in the non-heterosexual world. At the end of day, the dominant racial/ethnic group in a limited/minority sect is bound to have substantial influence on everyone, that we'd have to go out of our way to truly avoid them and live like Amish or the Gullah to keep them out. People should not even be segregating on "race" and then chastise those who don't "stick to their own".Equally there is something wrong with those that negatively discriminate against others (then pretend to be innocent), as well as those that deliberately stray and stay away from good people of their own background (and then whine about prejudice). It doesn't mean we are somehow noble for sticking with our own, like you think. Everyone is not as lucky to find what they want at home.. The problem with that is, there's just not enough of us everywhere in this country nor enough to even go around. We are disadvantaged in how between (many countries in) Europe, UK, South Africa, Australia, NZ, and North America , white men are free to mingle with and date many other men of the same "so-called race" at much higher rates (with much less effort), while we can only make do with a much smaller pool of African-American or South African black males. Other countries with large/dominant black populations are either "anti-gay" (Nigeria, Kenya, Ghana), or suffer from blistering institutional racism (Brazil). Regarding orientation, we have very little freedom in nearly all of Africa and the tropical Americas (Caribbean). Where G/Bi black men have legal rights/freedom, we are too few in numbers. For Latinos, there are more of them from gay-friendly countries by ancestry, this is less of a problem. For non-black Latinos from anti-gay nations, they already easily assimilate into the general population or have the alternative/escape from racism via LGBT sects of Latino dominant U.S. cities and probably deal with less prejudice than most black people, due to a combination of colorism and racial prejudice at play. East Asians may not have it easy either, but probably fare much better in their home countries than us Caribbeans and Africans in regards to anti-gay sentiment. The wealth factor of Eastern Asia, also makes provides an alternative/escape for them in some cases. South Asians and those from Muslim nations in mostly West Asia can be discriminated against, but when determined they are able to change it up and easily assimilate here as "white" depending on their "physical appearance". The best us African immigrants can do to even fully "assimilate" here is to tolerate the subtle condescending insults and micro aggressions from the general U.S. populace (i.e. white), while doing 3 times better or hope to make strong connections with African-Americans on shared experiences as black people. I find POC a silly term anyway, that presents false solidarity. Just like LGBT. It's not as if Asians and Latinos do not discriminate against "black" people as well, in fact that is where your first sentence does make sense as the latter is more likely to complain. Overall, I find all human ethnicities attractive without specific cosmetic alterations (i.e. unflattering cultural piercings, tribal scars, gauged ears, etc). Black people only keep to themselves at times to survive the animosity of others towards them in this world. In my opinion, it would be ideal to have in addition to the gay population of African-Americans & black immigrants in the US, a politically stable gay-friendly black superpower with a glittering economy and infrastructure (South Africa still suffers from Apartheid aftereffects, so not of relevance). As long as we are solely tied to this country, with no gay-friendly black super power of a nation as the alternative to move to or visit, do not expect out non-heterosexual black men to only wait for out-black male partners that aren't even available at the level of heterosexual men. Other than the go-to assumption of self-hatred or societal indoctrination, it is simply a game of numbers that don't work in our favor as a whole and many "POC"/black men resultantly complaining after being (racially) bitten for seeking out others. People are sometimes forced to "date out" when they are a minority of some sort or simply remain single. If Africa was as developed as and (sad to admit) gay-friendly as North America or much of Europe, we'd hear so much less of these endless racism complaints, but that is not reality yet. Would any of us be here having this discussion? No, we wouldn't. This is what happens when you are a sub-minority (out/non-closeted) of a minority (homosexuals) of a minority (race/black). Yes, the majority of men attracted to other men are likely in the closet or fail to recognize they are not truly heterosexual. There may be many fish out in the sea, but too many of those fishes are white and not enough black fishes. Interracial dating is already too much trouble to deal with, so I doubt many of us would dare to even consider it if there were more of us to choose from. We're not heterosexual black women, we're a smaller group of men with less to work with population wise. The only gay acquaintances/friends (black Americans) I've truly had, agree with my beliefs, as a black West African man. Your attitude that you don't have these problems and trying to imply that "POC" that do are fools, is a big slap in this face to those that love ourselves and want more for our people of various nations and tribes. We are not all Don Lemons and Todrick Halls.

[@TheChannelJ1]

nwaeze1 First let me give you a slow clap because your reply was an interesting read. LONG but interesting. And for the Gay Men of Color who do find themselves drowning in a sea of mostly White Gay Men, where interracial dating is your only recourse...then of course it is understandable why you would seek out a White Romantic Partner... they're the only options you have. No shame in that. And for the record I have no issue with people dating interracially. In fact I have no problem with Gay MOC dating interracially even if their were alternative options at their disposal. I don't condemn it whatsoever...but you should know what to expect. If you are going jump the fence then issues like "sexual discrimination" should come AS A GIVEN. I get ANNOYED at Gay Men of Color who act surprised or even have the gull to complain about "sexual discrimination" when seeking out Gay White Men, for whatever reason. Follow me on this. White Beauty is promoted by White Owned Media. So why would Gay White Men have an interest in dating outside their race when their own race is seen as the pentacle of beauty by western societal standards? Especially here in the USA. (Although I think that standard is bull btw) But my main point is, if you're going to date White Gay Men don't be so surprised when they don't find your phenotype attractive. It should be taken as a given at this point. Black Gay Men are not promoted on Gay Magazines like INSTINCT, ADVOCATE, OUT etc...AND TO BE QUITE FRANK I find it odd when people of any race (White, Black or otherwise) find another race outside their own more attractive. That's something I just don't get. So I never really get mad when Gay White Man say they are almost exclusively attracted to other White Men. They find their own more attractive. So do I. That doesn't mean on occasion I don't find other men from different races attractive, but I do think people of my own are more so and I don't think there's any shame in admitting that. And in the USA most Black People do live amongst each other in metropolitan areas. So if you are Gay and Black you can more than likely find a Gay Black Male to date. Very few Blacks live in rural areas. Very few Blacks live in areas that are predominately other. For the most part racial groups tend to live within communities that share their same background. BUT for the unfortunate few who do find themselves "stranded" I can completely understand why "sexual discrimination" would be a problem when most of the gay guys available to you are White. I sympathize. That is a type of horror I have never went through and do not wish to see.

[@nwezetx1]

Amen, I hope to leave where I am one day. It is mainly a Mexican sanctuary where I am. Black and white people are small minorities here. All of the few black people here are solidly middle-to-upper class transients,but socially ultra-conservative types (most Dem though) and super-religious. More of the Africans compromise civilian black populace, while most of the Americans are military. Those are of us that are LGBT black men are literally non-existent, so deep in the closet they can touch the Earth's core, or have fled town to escape the closet, in a more worthwhile environment. Don't get more wrong, I like Mexicans and come across many beautiful men everyday, they are extremely cliquish here and only both reach out to the few white people here. Generally, most of them express bewilderment that the few black people here are extremely successful and that we keep to ourselves, as we don't play around with fake friends and silly drama. Doesn't mean I don't like the whites and Latinos here, one has truly felt welcome in a place, whether expect you be sweeping up Taco Bell and instead you pulled up at the Drive Thru in a Benz, picking up meal. I mean sure, I do know plenty of other local black people, but none of them are gay and instead mostly anti-gay. That's my dilemma and I do not find worth dating interracially, if people think they're somehow doing me favor. As young as I am, I continue to unearth and have learned a lot about the damage done to us in Africa, here, and the Caribbean through deep indoctrination the past 500 years. I always have this deep awareness of who I am, as I mingle with others. I have never made any non-black gay friends and can only count 2 black ones I made. Many of our men can also be very nasty in parts of Texas, expressing irritation towards being seen in the same room in a club/bar and treat you as an undesirable encroaching on their territory There is really a stronger element of bigotry in men, when same-sex attraction is a factor. I know that heterosexual can be terroritial and overprotective along the lines of caveman-like behavior (or tribalism), but racially prejudicial attitudes are different with gay men. The platonic aspect of friendship differs in many cases from that of hetero men, that you are less likely to be friends with many gay men who hold greater biases against you, also affected by sexuality. As a life-long gear head (car-obsessed), I have only met so far one bi black guy, who I met through my old business last year. He had a much younger white boyfriend :/ and clearly had some self-hatred issues, in being an East Coast suburban kid. Every other gay gear head I tried to connect with (no black men sadly) over shared interest in cars and hopefully also some common ground in being LGBT, never panned out over prejudicial treatment or me refusing to kiss their. feet, Nearly all of the local hetero young gear heads were either Trump supporter-style racists or just plain homophobic people. A lot of white/Tejano car guys are small-mined people in Texas and like that to be anti-PC. Interestingly, the only person that ever reached out to me who shared a passion for cars and motor sports was a white guy name Lance Nelson, a prominent KZbinr. He is probably the only gay white person I have personally met and actually respect. I have never taken sexual interest in him though, as never would cross that bridge. Sorry if I came on too strong in my last comment, I just felt hurt as an young African man people act as if those of us struggling in the gay world, only do so because we deserve it or somehow hate our fellow brothers.Like black Americans stripped of our motherland kinship, it feels like I don't have a ancestral home nor a heritage to embrace anymore. My ancestral nation is a homophobic, unstable powerhouse in West Africa, which I can never go to back to. America already treats its black like dirt and pretends everything is all great, when it's truly a farce. If the Brits and French left Africa alone, we'd have a stable homeland and less homophobia over there. It really sucks that all one has in much of Texas are a bunch of unfriendly LGBT Mexicans and cynical white gays that are chock full of bigotry and only respect self-hating dominant black jocks as top. I guess I'm too lean and average in height (basically not a Jason Collins) or a Michael Sam. Or treat you like you are some sex slave that is supposed to be seen and not heard. I bet it is not much different where I have moved back to earlier this year, but with more Mexicans, less whites, 0 gay black men. It is only when these people learn I come from a rich family or that I'm a distant relative of Kerry Washington's husband, they either express bitter disappointment or try to save face. Screw them all honestly, This wouldn't happen in ATL, which I hope to move to in a few years and work for Porsche North America. Texas gay life sucks ass and maybe so does New Mexico South of ABQ. My advice to my gay brothers are, don't come to anywhere in TX unless you are a loaded and have a vast social net already there to rely on. I'm all about family, building my career now, and money until then. Very excellent points BTW and I understand how you see things, especially in never being in my shoes and never being exposed to such a dreadful environment. I would blame my family for isolating us in a bubble of hyper religious upper middle /upper black professionals that despise LGBT in the middle of the desert. Sorry for the length.

[@TheChannelJ1]

nwaeze1 ATL, LA, NYC, DC, ChiTown all of pretty good thriving Black Gay scenes. I think surrounding yourself with your own will make the issue of race less apparent when it comes to dating at least...of course there will still be issues like masc vs fem, body discrimination and skin tone preferential and social climbers, but most of those issues you'd face in any gay scene regardless of race...although skin tone is usually an issue only Blacks have to deal with. Being raised in a country that promotes Whiteness can have adverse side effects on what even Black People deem to be beautiful. But at the very least when you are around your own you won't have to worry about whether or not someone will like me due to your race, so that is a extra burden off your back.

[@ktutran8256]

Taking a different road to avoid an accident doesn't mean that the accident never happened....

[@tyrdunbar]

Kyle seems like the guy that would block you on Grindr that would block you as soon as he found out you were black

[@alexgomez8957]

TRUE VIBES

[@_sofie]

For real tho

[@FaEMelLLaflare]

i just laughed out loud

[@dodahbay7313]

Oh you know he would..lol That's why when white gay men speak on these subjects, I just laugh because we all know that at the end of the day, they're no different.

[@Maskphan1]

Agreed. His Instagram is nothing but images of himself half nude or fully nude. Needless to say, with that kind of narcissism, you have to wonder how he would react to a black, obese gay man hitting on him. I still do not get how some of these Instagram queens are so famous.

[@joels5260]

wow Kyle. I'm so glad I subscribed to your channel. please do more of these thought provoking videos.

[@ingaysianwithminhly9413]

Old vid, but just discovered this vid about racism in the gay community. I feel that this vid is a bit of a cop out in posting about such a topic. Kyle got other people to do his job for him basically. His POC friends are once again the one educating. I think it would have been more impactful, if Kyle admitted to his own prejudices, or had white friends on who admitted to it, and describe change they hope would happen in the lgbtq community, rather than once again having POC peeps do for them. With that being said, still kudos for bringing up the topic, I just wish it was done in a less lazy way. Cheers!

[@Tahvyy]

I’m so glad I’m attracted to all races 🤗, I don’t even think about race or skin color when I’ve met ppl in the past, if I’m attracted to you that’s all I need. There’s good and bad ppl in every race so no need to ween any race out of my selections. I think ppl judge different races on the news (media)or movies they see and whether or not they’ve had a bad experience with one person from another race. Get to know the person before you come to the wrong conclusion 😶. Example, you probably don’t like everyone in your family , and you haven’t cut them off so don’t cut off an entire race. Your missing out if you do 😶.

[@brittanymayer617]

Or maybe these handsome guys should stop going after white men.

[@yudahel9821]

Exactly, But you see it from all sides, Black men only wanting black men, white guys only wanting white boys. Then you have some Blacks only wanting whites, and whites only wanting Blacks. I'll fuck a white dude but in a relationship I'll rather be with a black man

[@chrischoy9]

That would be equally racist as well....

[@ktoma7314]

Blk men, gay or straight will have more options when they travel abroad. Less racial hang ups than America.

[@dodahbay7313]

Brittany Mayer Many of us don't go for white men, it's mostly the white-washed ones who do.

[@dangerbee34]

I get what you're saying BUT I'm a black gay Male myself and the other black men I've encountered are often times dl/in the closet, not ambitious, dont have anything going for them, or are prostituting themselves. Not saying all but a good majority of black gays have issues that probably stem from our community being drastically homophobic and the expectation for men to be hypermasculine. So with all of these issues as a out black gay man it's hard finding gay black love where I'm at. That's why I'm open to other races but as the video mentioned the grass isnt greener on the other side. Dating is so fucking hard :(

[@paulwharton1850]

Brilliant ! Many thanks for making the video.

[@belizeguy]

Great video Kyle. Thanks for the conversation.

[@benjaminreyes3624]

People are attractive regardless of race.

[@floridian4072]

Yes but not everyone thinks like this

[@nwezetx1]

Yes, it's true. Only not attracted to unhealthy and extremely unkempt people. It's never about race, but maybe culture and compatibility.

[@akeem1205]

I need Phillip in my life, he's so adorable

[@TaiTaiSACSL]

This video was absolutely amazing. so many thoughts I could relate to omg

[@sergiorocha1502]

lol!!! OMG!! Love the video. Fav part, Johnny in the end with the spanish accent 😃😃