Is Your High Sex Drive A Problem?

[@marilember]

Sincere thank you from a woman experiencing exactly the same! The anxiety connection really puts things into perspective.

[@Hunter-tw8ws]

Me too I’m a woman and being hyper sexual but monogamous with my boyfriend is hard because his sex drive is much lower but idk how to fix it

[@tinatran6834]

Me too! I feel very odd being a woman with a high sex drive and I can’t find any sources that helps specifically woman

[@takumifujiwara4503]

Hey, thank you for this video, it was really helpful to understand what is going one with myself. But I have one thing to correct: you said that to get over off someone's high sex drive the good way is to find a girlfriend with also a high sex drive. However, it's like saying to a poor person "just get some money". One of the reasons why so many young guys have a problem today with their sex drive is because they are lonely and can't find ANY girlfriend, because of hypergamy and all of that stuff, so they don't know how to cope with their natural sex drive (even if it's not that high by default), and that's when the porn usually came in as a only way visible for them to get over this energy. If you could do some video about that kind of situation and how to deal with that, then that would be a huge help. Anyway, thanks again for this video and have a good day.

[@stoneylonesome4062]

Yes, finding a girl with a comparable sex-drive, where there’s genuine mutual sexual attraction, is much harder than people in the more positive, self-help-ish side of the manosphere would like to admit. A lot of Gen-Z girls, by the time they’re in their mid-20’s, have already had their fun and got their fill, if you get what I mean, and aren’t interested in helping a man their age explore his sexuality and scratch his itch, assuming that he never got to scratch it at all before. I understand that people like Connor want to be positive and fill us with confidence, but the situation out there in the Gen Z straight dating world is really quite rough and bleak.

[@GaryHighFruit]

@@stoneylonesome4062 Yeah, although this video was great, I noticed he's assuming everyone can get sex, or the viewers have a partner. There's a large % of men today that are on their own. I looked at when the video was made to see if it was last century, LOL. One reason for my high sex drive may be that I feel I've missed out (never having sex at 55) and so I get my fill is by watching women get their fill. It doesn't happen easy so I watch more = more sex drive.

[@TGP109]

I'm really tired of hearing everything blamed on ''hypergamy''. Many women are over tired, working hard, or uninterested in being a girlfriend. It often has little to do with the men that are available. As for porn, using one's imagination usually works just fine, so no porn is needed.

[@tarablue4472]

Hypergamy is a problem in today's dating world but even if you do get a gf, her sex drive likely will not match that of the average young man. Add to that the extremely poor sex education that does NOTHING at all to help men court and seduce women, NOTHING at all to help women enjoy sex more. So even if you get a gf you're likely not going to get the amount of sex you want which will just cause you to want it even more which will cause a rift between you and her. Demand better sex education that focuses on these issues.

[@charlesbarnicott5453]

What if you find yourself someone that has what appears to be a super high sex drive in the very beginning of the relationship, and then after a bit of time it declines slightly but is still below your sex drive. In the meantime, you’ve built an amazing life together that involves interacting with her kids, her family her interacting with your children, your family so does this mean what you’re saying you would have to break up with this person and go find somebody else with what appeared to be a higher sex drive?

[@FrancoMonet]

I am extremely grateful for the knowledge, wisdom and guidance you bestowed, so beneficial. Only thing I can add, it's a long process and one that I believe will never be extinguished, exactly as you said, 'tame the beast'. Not sure I would ever want to lose it as that could stir up a boat load of other issues, however would love to control it. I appreciate that you constantly reiterated that it is not necessarily a bad thing at all. Looking forward to reading the book, just pre-ordered it through Amazon. Thanks again.

[@donaldaxel]

In response to the advice on "desexualizing your brain," I find it crucial to distinguish between our biological drives and the external environment, which, contrary to being inherently sexualized, is perceived through our personal "radars" shaped by these drives. Understanding this can demystify why certain things catch our attention and help us manage our reactions more effectively. The world itself isn't imbued with sexual energy; rather, our hormonal responses shape our perceptions. Planning for and recognizing these responses can make them more manageable. This perspective is not only about regulating one’s sexual drive but also about understanding and integrating it as a healthy part of life.

[@EyeOfScrutiny]

Great video on an important, subject matter. I look forward to reading your book. Question: does the podcast correspond to your KZbin videos?

[@ManTalks]

It does. You can listen to the interviews and mini episodes anywhere that podcasts stream (spotify, Apple Podcasts, etc)

[@ChrisWestin]

Do my best to date someone with a similar sex drive? I can't even find someone who can carry on a conversation.

[@shanprodigy9999]

Why?

[@Juggz2busy587]

😂Same

[@mariatorres9789]

Well, that's the real problem. Why are you trying to have conversations? 😅 That's a relationship. Just skip straight to asking a lady if she wants something casual. You'll find them, they're out there.

[@ChrisWestin]

@@mariatorres9789 I would prefer a relationship.

[@Space_bloom9]

Same

[@happyslave6783]

The solution is quite simple really. Ready? First. The more you do it, the more you want it. Second. Letrozole 1 to 2 mg per day.. Third. Watch your eyes. Eyes on the ground 5 feet in front of you. No starring at anyone for more than one second. Following this advice will solve many more issues you might be having.

[@felipegutierre7037]

lool I loved it,

[@usmanamin7241]

And masterbation when required

[@GrantBaxter-v5f]

Shows the medication don't work if you have to look to the ground all day

[@smartypants1980]

I dont have many guy friend, just 3 and they are mire experienced but talking to them about stuff makes like so much better on me as a dude who has been aline and angry for 44years

[@JakeTheWicked]

Amazing video bro. BUT after watching this, now I feel like my sex drive is ONLY the result of insecurities, bad mental health, or unresolved trauma. When is sex drive NOT the result of these?

[@hawwu7627]

Remember that ironically, anxiety and depression can be results of sexual frustration

[@donaldaxel]

While I found the video insightful, I believe there's a broader spectrum to consider when discussing high sex drive and its management. It's crucial to recognize that our reactions and attractions are not solely under voluntary control; hormones play a significant role. However, it's also possible to enrich our perception of others beyond initial physical attraction. Exploring the psychological aspects of pregnancy and the dynamics of family life can provide valuable context and help alleviate feelings of guilt or shame. These elements encourage us to see individuals in their entirety, much like the literary technique used by John Irving, where characters are presented with depth, showing that there's more to a person than meets the eye. This approach doesn't negate the biological impulses but suggests that our understanding and interactions can evolve to acknowledge the full humanity of others. This nuanced perspective might be especially helpful for those struggling to reconcile their physical impulses with a desire for deeper connections. I advice everyone who came to watch this video to study sexology, - not only videos here on KZbin, but everywhere you can get your hands on material of contemporary quality. This will help you see the sex drive as part of life, perhaps the most important part of life, and to feel that it need not be a guilt-ridden problem.

[@WiwekL]

The only advice that implies accepting yourself is to find a partner with matching sex drive. Others are about suppressing your sex drive to avoid problems.

[@Kimump]

Thanks for this

[@GMANLOVE]

Connor "Beaton the meat" McGregor I jest, honestly enjoying your content. I would be interested to hear your view on tantric practice and also views on the whole nofap phenomenon. Many thanks

[@stoneylonesome4062]

NoFap is perfectly fine, that being said, doing NoFap and Monk Mode as a young man who’s unable to find a sexual/romantic partner is kind of roughly analogous to declaring to fast whilst starving during a famine in Africa. If it’s to get over pr0n addiction, then I wholly understand, but, still.

[@KingAbel510]

The only issue seemingly is finding/wanting a wife that ticks most boxes… being at age 31 going on 32 🤔😂

[@Im-Living-The-Dream]

To late for me, since Im not going to leave my wife over this one issue; however, how does a man date someone with a similar sex drive when every woman whos open to sex has a high sex drive in the beginning and than springs it on you after youre in love that they actually dont consider sex a priority. Its happened in all but 1 relationship in my life and that 1 just didnt work out for non sexual reasons. Its a good idea in theory, but not realistic.

[@leandrogarciaphoto]

I have all of those problems you exposed :DDDD

[@NoelShire93]

I hate sex drive, I hate losing control over my body in general otherwise I get aggressive

[@anibaldemacedo3151]

There is no problem with high sexdrive, the problem is woman low sex drive.

[@benitadavis659]

Ive never met a man who has same high ses needs as myself. I have to beg for it drives me insane

[@shadrachemmanuel1720]

​@@benitadavis659you're kidding right? 😂. Females never beg for sex . If they did pr*stituti*n wouldn't exist.

[@shadrachemmanuel1720]

Both are a problem.

[@mariatorres9789]

Why is this only directed at men? 😅

[@anibaldemacedo3151]

it's because almost all women have low sex drive, unfurtunelly.

[@benitadavis659]

totally agree, ive never found a man with same level sex drive as myself, I always want more. All videos are about woman with no sex drive....

[@shadrachemmanuel1720]

​​@@benitadavis659Try me.lol 😂

[@LauraManny-k4q]

​@benitadavis659 same issue here haven't found a man that can meet my sexual energy. I even starting thinking I was the issue. But I seen that alot of men don't like to see a woman be dominant or admit they can't handle their woman.