ISOLATING WHEN DEPRESSED (feat. Counselor Douglas Bloch)

[@bignoknow]

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[@dottiEpre]

I only isolate because I don’t think it’s fair for my energy to bring others down, when they just want to have fun and they should.

[@Gnarly_Rc]

dottiEpre me too guys but we’re not alone. Is there a Facebook group where we can support each other?

[@stephdreamer380]

Me too

[@dantesinporno]

Would you feel like one of your friends was bringing you down and draining your energy if they were depressed around you? Give the people who care about you a chance to show you that you're wrong about being a burden to them for being depressed.

[@CMoore8539]

dottiEpre, When we are depressed, that’s when we need people, the Most. I think we need to give other people a chance. If someone came to me, depressed. I would Want to help them. Most of us, have experienced depression, at some time in life. When we withdraw, it’s like giving up on others, without giving them a chance.

[@maximuskhan6135]

Cindy Moore : I totally agree with u, we need people friends but good ones , Not the one, who make fun of u, or depress u

[@lisa9047]

Isolation is definitely my go to, it has ruined a lot of relationships in my life. You end up in a cycle of feeling guilty and worthless for isolating family and good people out your life. You definitely don't want to be that way but it's all you know to do.

[@bignoknow]

Thx for sharing

[@thornkerychuk8454]

I feel the same way

[@mserin1813]

depressed, me too sounds just like me

[@barbaragunnlartey9218]

All Andrissa I hope "ruined" is a term of art bc those who TRULY love & know you may be willing to forgive you through these cycles of despair & hopelessness.

[@EtienneBachand]

You resumed pretty well my toughts. Thanks.

[@scorpiobeaut5009]

I tend to isolate myself by sleeping in all morning until the afternoon. I feel like nobody would understand my depression they think it's just me being "lazy". It's a burden to get out of my bed and go to school to interact with teachers and students due to my intense anxiety. I truly want to get better, these videos help a lot in teaching myself different ways to cope with isolation and depression, thank you.

[@devnicole8989]

Yailyn Montes I feel the exact same way

[@k8h991]

Man, i totally understand

[@violetblue1924]

I felt the same way for many years my bed was my best friend. I isolated my husband, friends and family. I put unfair burden on your heavy shoulders on my husband but I couldn’t help it. Something happened I got better, and it’s so bad the guilt. But I couldn’t help it. I felt the same way off and on for years and years. I just hope I can make amends with my people.

[@thevegantitian]

Wow you read my mind. I was just feeling depressed at the thought of having to go back to school in 2 weeks. I really don't want to go.

[@stardust_animations]

Im feeling exactly the same way, I want to reach out, but I don’t know how or who to reach out to. My mom believes that it’s my fault for not moving around enough. She strongly believes that I “need to be more productive” in order to overcome my depression. I still haven’t managed to get her to understand that I’m literally using up all of my energy to survive. I really do want to get better, but I can’t do it alone.

[@justicewillprevail1106]

To me, isolate is not withdrawn. I isolate myself so I can feel at peace. When I’m around ppl I feel more depressed..

[@Annie-oy2zu]

This explains how I feel exactly.

[@vinushka.]

I feel exactly the same. I feel guilty for isolating, but when I get back out there, I begin to spiral rapidly. It’s debilitating and I really don’t know how to remedy that.

[@donjohn4910]

This what I go through daily. I wonder what cause me to be depressed

[@mndsph4530]

I feel exactly like this. I don't feel enthusiastic when I'm around family, they're like energy vampires so I isolate as a means of coping mechanism for achieving peace of mind

[@melaniepereira2688]

Same

[@BC___1]

Being depressed is so tireless that isolation from people starts to turn into recharging. I feel like being around people on my weekend leaves me drained for the next week of work. Because I have to use so much energy to appear happy or normal for other people.

[@Rembub]

Well said, my energy is at its max when trying to appear normal for people iv noticed myself slip into depression really bad recently

[@therespectedlex9794]

This video and channel seems very opposite to the idea that other people get in the way.

[@ciro9951]

when I get depressed I completely isolate myself from others, because of this I've lost a lot of friends and this just makes things worse. People think I'm stuck up, if they only knew

[@Shadow-xl6uh]

I know how u feel, I do the same shit im Fed UP with everything and how my life turned out I isolate myself yesterday I tried breaking UP with my girlfriend because of my depression she bursted into tears So did I because i love her but I keep having suicidal thoughts

[@HannahServis]

I relate unfortunately...haven’t lost any friends yet but it kinda feels like it’s going in that direction :(

[@stasik89]

ive been isolating myself more and more lately. ive never been good at making friends or being social which makes everything worse. right now its like i feel numb, empty inside and unable to relate to people. sometimes it feels like im in a movie or something its sort of a surreal feeling

[@bryanlopez1965]

I straight up had a dude tell other people, "he thinks he's better than us. Fuck that guy," just because Im never around. I don't think I'm better than anybody. I'm just too depressed to put in energy to talk with people and I constantly feel like I'm being a fake to other people so I decide that the best option is to avoid them to avoid putting up an act

[@Cosmogirl014]

@@bryanlopez1965 I get it, I've been called a snob too but it's so far from that...if they only knew. I too have no energy left to 'act' like a person in a stage play, I'm tired of it all. I hate the term "fake it till ya make it" it never resonated with me.

[@mel5348]

I isolate myself because at the end of the day i get scared of contacting people again, i overthink, think i dont fit in and people will judge me because of my long silence. The energy it takes to keep explaining myself and to try and keep a conversation going.. i dont have it. So i feel even worse and also sorta isolated even when im with friends

[@thesuperostrich]

Bingo

[@sexypawpaw7069]

This is exactly how I feel right now...

[@emotionaldamage5293]

so true. I have been isolating myself from my best friend and a part of me feels like i do it on purpose. I hate how talkative her and other people are and how everybody wants to be around her. I am just awkward and don't have to energy/ skill to interact with others. And I withdraw in a sense "well i'm not gonna be fake and try to be high energy all the time, when i feel like shit" because i feel like she only likes me when i feel "good" (rarely) and we have conversations. When I feel like being quiet she just steps away and finds someone else to talk to. And that really hurts, because this is the real me, i am full of self-hate, anxiety and numbness. Ans i know she doesn't owe me anythink, but it would be nice to have someone by your side all the time.

[@whocares3535]

I have not gone "out" in months, maybe years. My 25th birthday is this week. I'm watching all my friends have a blast going to bars and clubs that I don't get invited. I could cry on command. Lol. This isn't what I thought 25 would be.

[@QasimAli-mb3tz]

Dude send me your fb/insta id or whatsapp. I want to talk to u

[@lordfuzi7168]

how u doin now?

[@haleighgordonn3965]

Update?

[@justynjonn]

Just show up or say that you want to go next time and force yourself.

[@leojim1]

I isolate myself because people in general don't understand ANXIETY, I know they want to help me, but their "advice" don't help me because I can't control it. I try to explain to them that what they tell me is like asking a person with OCD to stop washing his/her hands, they can't stop it. But my friends think I can stop my anxiety, I cannot. I need more compassion than "advice".

[@stephdreamer380]

Same

[@spotsill]

I’am on meds for my anxiety and it helps me a lot but still have outbreaks of major anxiety ad sometimes it is definitely overwhelming and taking time away from others to ride it out is the best answers. Most people don’t understand that trying to decide what to buy while grocery shopping can send me into a total panic and I just have to leave the store without buying anything. Unless you have experienced the, panic attacks, crippling depression, fear and anxiety there is no way you could ever understand. Sometimes being around people is just to much to handle.

[@karliegilbert3917]

NoPain NoGain How was your wedding

[@lindataylor3834]

Exactly.

[@michaeldurham9179]

Hello leo im sorry to haer that you suffer with ANXIETY... i dont know you and i know this message is two years late but stay strong my friend and keep fighting never give up..

[@kimberlycorley4164]

I disengaged my life for two years. I almost lost my mind. I started to lose my memory. It was so real. Thank God you had a support system. I didn't. But I am reaching out now. I know I'm a survivor.

[@mr.e1220]

I am at 2 years so far. But it really started to be bad. Same day everyday bored and angry and self pity. I feel crazy. I do have a dog with me.

[@happylindsay4475]

The memory thing is no joke. I feel like my brain just doesn't work anymore.

[@cliffkonkle3467]

@@oncallempath I feel you

[@KrikitBoi]

"Every person who's reached out & asked for help, those people survived." Powerful words indeed. I'm reaching out for help right now, and while my mind is saying it's impossible (and am still extremely depressed), the good part of my self continues to do what I can. I'm going to a CBT therapist today & will see how it goes, also have friends, girlfriend and family support. You guys are truly instrumental in my recovery & I cannot thank you enough! -Josh

[@xuneasey]

How you doing Josh?

[@LAHowell]

The most frustrating thing for me is that most people I reach out to act like depression has such simple solutions. Everything is incredibly simple to them. Reaching out is important, but not to people who don’t understand. And most don’t.

[@Joe_Parmesan]

I've found that out to happen too. The general feeling of isolation didn't ever go away with improving diet, increasing the amount of physical activity, quitting weed, and other changes. It certainly resulted in more energy overall, but there was always a piece missing that made it so connections with others remained a bit distant and could easily waver, resulting in that intense mental anguish.

[@mercedesmatthews75]

I do I isolate myself when I'm depressed because I feel like my batteries recharge when I'm by myself I'm extremely introverted but at the same time I want to make new friends and have fun with people sorry for me having depression because I feel like people get tired of me at and that's where my anxiety comes in and tells me that people really are tired of me and it's really hard sometimes because video did help me a lot thank you Noah

[@stevehaston1590]

So easy to listen to your own brain telling you " you suck, it's exhausting being around me. " can open up a door to self loathing, atleast it has for me. I hate myself sometimes thinking I am putting people through junk they don't deserve.

[@mercedesmatthews75]

Steve Haston I understand how you feel but you're not a burden to your family and the people who love you the most your friends your significant other those people care about you even when your brain tells you that they don't when he says that you're bothering them or they've got issues too you just have to look deep inside yourself and know that our brains are a little twisted sometimes but people still love us and they want us to be around them they don't want us to hide expert years in my room hiding behind locked doors and music poetry and painting and reading and it made me really really lonely it was a point in my life where I have no friends no friends at all but now I'm on the road to recovery I have a best friend and a good friend and people who support me and love me through everything through my depression and anxiety my reactive attachment disorder my alcoholism they're there for me even when I feel like this shouldn't have to be and I'm sure there are people in your life too who would be there for you even when you didn't ask trust me I know it's cliché to say but it does get better with time

[@stevehaston1590]

grrrrrr. I don't know how to read my messages.it keeps disappearing when I tap on it. gonna google this!!

[@stevehaston1590]

Mercedes Matthews Found em. new to KZbin as far as subscribe and messaging. I really am kinda smart I swear!!

[@mercedesmatthews75]

Steve Haston don't worry it took me a little bit to figure it out at first too your plenty smart i believe that

[@lonewolfsurvival3453]

The absolute last thing I want to do when I'm in one of my lows is be around people. I find it excruciating trying to smile and pretend that everything is good, which is what I feel like I need to do around people. The reason I need to do this is, because I don't want to bum anyone else out with my crap and I don't want the reputation of being a "downer" or someone that is emotionally weak, so I tend to seclude myself until I pull myself out of it, which I've always managed to do to this point.

[@stephaniebach__12-24]

Small talk sucks when you’re in pain

[@lonewolfsurvival3453]

@@stephaniebach__12-24 , it does. It takes a lot of energy out of you and you feel absolutely fried afterward, for sure. That makes it very difficult managing a full time job, or even a PART time job on someone else's clock. I've found that I am unable to work for other people, because I cannot commit to a set schedule, since I do not know what my world will look like from day to day. Working for yourself, whatever that looks like, allows you the freedom to set your own hours and take the day off when you're not up to the task. Me, I just hustle for a living, doing a variety of things to make ends meet, as I see fit. I cannot imagine going back to working for someone else and being surrounded by co-workers who have no clue what I might be going through on any given day. It's a pretty shitty way to live and all you can really do is love yourself, take care of yourself and do what is right for YOU, and forget about the "normal" behaviors that society places on us. The thing that gets you into trouble is trying to be "normal" (unsuccessfully) like everyone else. All that does is burn you out and could likely send you into a pretty dark place before long, because you aren't a normal functioning person. People who suffer from this stuff need to get out of the rat race, be honest with themselves about their limitations, accept it and create new parameters to live within, then take the steps over time to get better. I've never gotten treatment for any of this, but it's gone on for so long (20+ years) that it's all I really know and I've learned how to navigate the ups and downs and avoid going TOO FAR into the darkness, so to speak.

[@thevegantitian]

Same. I don't feel like being bothered by people when I'm depressed. It is also difficult for me to do my routinely things or tasks in the day. I prefer to do nothing and stay in bed. I just feel no motivation. Before COVID my life was super busy and I did not have the option to self isolate with my depression. But I guess now the pandemic has given me the greatest advantage to hide from people. The saddest thing is. ...Im enjoying it but I know this is not a healthy coping method. But I just can not get around people and pretend I'm happy when I'm not. I feel so bad because even my only child who is 6 has to witness my depression and moodiness. I just don't know what to do. I don't know how to fight it.

[@lonewolfsurvival3453]

@@thevegantitian , I feel your pain. I will say that, while you can isolate and hide yourself from most people, your child needs to be the one person in this world who you DO suck it up and put that mask on for. I don't have any kids and, I currently feel very fortunate about that for a variety of reasons, including having to put on your best face for them. I believe that everything we do, everything our kids see will shape their lives and how they view life and the world. I know it's hard to pretend around someone living in the same house, but that's your baby and you have to be strong around them. I'm not sure what your situation looks like, but perhaps you have a relative they can spend a night or two with from time to time, to give you time alone to cry, scream and whatever else you need to do that you wouldn't want to do in front of them? I get it though, I live it everyday as well. Take care of your baby and yourself and I hope your future days are more good than bad.

[@thevegantitian]

@@lonewolfsurvival3453 Thank you so much. You are so right. I need to be there for my son. I can't shut him out and let him see me in my mess. I will definitely work on that and be more positive and happy around him. It is already hard enough he is the only child. He wants a sibling but I have not been able to give him one. I regret it because I truly wanted to have another one close in age to him so he can grow up with a sibling...but life doesn't always work that way. And I go through long periods of being single not by choice but probably because I look like a 12 year old and guys don't find me attractive. But I do need to be strong for my boy and I will. Thank you so much for encouraging me. I really needed it. It's not easy facing depression and being strong. I hope the best for you too and good days ahead especially in crazy times like this.

[@laurastenhouse5949]

Thanks for this, I isolate myself because my tolerance for people really lowers when Im depressed, being around people enrages me and I just can't stand them, anyone else just turn into an absolute misanthrope? Will try to get out there & I hope you can too

[@thevegantitian]

Your not alone. I'm the same way.

[@Balancedbitesandmoods]

I've been dealing with depression lately and definitely isolate myself. I was in the ER last week for a psych evaluation and the person evaluating me said I needed to get out more and so did my doctor so now I go to my grandparent's house once a week to play games and help them with stuff. I also go to school part time and will hopefully be returning to my job by June (I'm on medical leave for chronic migraines). It is really difficult making myself be around people. Even when I wasn't depressed I never liked people so now it's even harder.

[@bignoknow]

At least you are staying in the fight. Kudos!

[@Balancedbitesandmoods]

Thank you! I made a safety plan with my therapist today.

[@lowanshields7628]

how you now

[@zeynebnv]

I lost friends, relationships, I lost myself in this battle. I don't know what can save me from this hell. My parents think I'm just lazy and can't decide which job to choose, but truth is i struggle everyday to wake up. I lost my smile, fun I used to have. I'm completely alone. It's not like anyone tried to help. Even if they did, probably I would reject cause I don't want them to think I'm lame or weak. I just want this hell to end. That's all. I don't deserve this

[@TKYumi]

This video helped me a lot. This was the first time I was ever told that depression isn’t forever. I ruined the most amazing friendship I’ve ever had, I thought I was bringing her down, and I felt like I was a burden on her, so I tried to push her away. She wouldn’t let me. But still, she stopped talking to me for a while. When that happened, it opened my eyes, I finally saw what my depression was doing to me. When I saw it for the first time, I realized that I wanted to change and that I wanted to be happy again, I didn’t want to die anymore. Thank you so much!

[@terrariumelio974]

I like isolating myself. When I'm alone I seeth, cry, scream, rage, cry to the point of exhaustion. Then I start feeling better. I tell myself funny things and I laugh and sing along with my favorite songs. This all happens while I drive around in my car. I love driving around. It's like being in a sensory deprivation tank. The only really sh!tty part is that I have to get out of my car andface the same crappy world all over again.

[@MzSoulll]

I feel you lol

[@benjaminisbester3582]

Subtle observation but highly relatable. All the best man

[@courtneyfaithmis]

I feel worse when I’m in a bad state of mind and I try to connect with others. It makes me spiral out of control and wreck my relationships.

[@jeff0247598]

I had a pretty good life and was pretty satisfied for the first 40 years of my life. I began to suffer from prescription drug dependency that turned into a full blown addiction. Over the next 6 years I lost my home, my career, my wife and my sense of happiness and joy. I've worked with doctors and I am sober going on 2 years 5 months. I still feel empty. I have two sons, I see them on the weekends and when I'm with them I feel some form of positive emotion. I love them more than anything in the world. When things were good, I felt happy, fulfilled, proud and valuable. Now I feel like a burden on my parents and I have all but isolated myself from the outside world. I have a huge family and a handful of good friends. I don't tell them how I'm doing because I don't want to make them feel bad or hear their unprofessional advice how to "pull out of it" and then listen to them go into some story about themselves pulling out of depression. I don't feel like crying I just feel grey. All I want to do is sleep. To try and build another life at 46 years old seems so daunting that I don't even try to apply for work and I don't apply for unemployment because I've ran into a few red tape snags so I gave up. I don't have the strength to persist. I have no second wind. I would NEVER EVER be violent but now I understand how broken people kill random innocent victim. After being despondent long enough, it turns into irritability, hatred, rage, jealousy, envy an all around sense that you just don't care enough to try. I stopped bathing except for family functions and I don't brush my teeth. I don't care how I look, as long as I look decent enough to make a trip to WalMart. I don't exercise. I eat sugary, salty, fatty and processed foods because I don't want to cook. I don't even want to pursue women anymore because I can't trust them because of their very nature. I just want to feel the exhilaration accomplishing goals again, buy my own house so I have something to pass on to my two sons when I take a dirt nap. I know my sons love me, as well as my parents and friends. I just can't shake this feeling that robs me of energy, ambition and the ability to enjoy my time on earth. I know that time is limited but I still don't care. Soon enough my parents will see that I'm not trying very hard to het a job or some kind of income and probably kick me out. Maybe that's what I need. Something so miserable and shocking to my system that it will either motivate me get up and keep fighting or finally just end the story.

[@MicahNathaniel]

Sir I sympathize with your words. I know exactly the pain you are describing. I only feel some sense of warmth and positive emotion when I'm with my son. Other than that I'm just stressed, anxious all the time and just plain fed up with the world. I don't have friends to talk to anymore, and I don't want to talk to family because I know exactly what they'll say. How I had so much potential and wasted it. Everyone throws in their opinion but no one actually wants to help me heal. My baby mama deals with depression as well, but we go about how we deal with it in different ways so things never work out with us. I seclude myself to recharge and I can't give the love I want to give. People call me names and speak down on me for my recent actions of seclusion and so called "laziness" but they don't understand the emptiness I feel. I feel like my world crumbled years ago and now I'm just walking through the wasteland of what used to be my life.

[@vexlee7769]

For me, my social anxiety intensifies the isolation brought on by depression. It's been 3 years of the depression and 13 years of social anxiety, so it's definitely becoming harder to believe it will ever go away. Isolation is definitely a big part of it, and thus far doing the opposite sometimes works, but sometimes brings on panic attacks. On an up note, this is the first video I've seen from your channel, and I'm excited to see what tips I can gain from the rest of your channel.

[@suzie5813]

Of course you want to be alone..because experience has told you you're closest friends aren't even friends after all

[@quietgiant474]

some ppl just want to know whats wrong with u for curiosity sake, not that they really care but nobody talks about that

[@codyjames7072]

"Is that going to be on camera?" "no, I will take that out" LOL

[@mirzamay]

I found the interviewer rude and disrespectful and apparently also a liar since yes he left that in. He talked like he was bantering with an old friend, but I don't think the counselor was an old friend. Apparently coughing is an "old person" problem 🙄. I think there's a lot of information out there and I found listening to the condescension in this interview triggering my red flags so I'm going to look elsewhere for personal education. But I was just scrolling through comments to see if anyone else found this guy to be an ass. Not too much in the comments about it.

[@marinw2113]

How can you not isolate when you have no family, friends or support groups...?

[@Matt463634]

Do the opposite I guess. As hard as it is, the ball has got to be started by someone.

[@barbaragunnlartey9218]

Marin W Pick up the phone & dial an 800#; go to an animal shelter; someone wants to hear you, hold your hand and walk through this season with you.

[@stephdreamer380]

I know right

[@luddeo4354]

When i isolated myself, i had family and friends. It didnt matter, i isolated myself for years, problem grew fast and i got further away, today i met new people, through volenteer work and climbing. Just do it, not tomorrow, today, do it and in a year, you wont regret yourself. Social competence and exposure is an exercise, you need the exercise, you'll get better at it, but at the start, you have to endure being bad to learn.

[@danab172]

Marin W EXACTLY

[@loccness9649]

Love how this made me cry. This video just popped up in my feed and made me self evaluate on a deeper level than i thought i needed

[@SkaterBlades]

I isolate myself because i ended up blaming myself for things that happened when i was young. Within 2 years i lost my entire group of friends at school (i was aged 6 - 7) from them moving away and one of them died. I convinced myself i was to blame and i didn't have any friends for the next few years of school until i got to secondary school and later on in secondary school i had to cope with bullying. Now i just isolate myself out of habit. I'm in college now, i will talk to my classmates if they're around but i pass up opportunities to go out with them, i don't even talk to them in lunch breaks. I think the reason i do it is so i don't end up getting left again i.e to protect myself. The one person i got close to in college left at the end of the first year and that made me want to isolate myself even more

[@heartfullofhippies]

My therapist told me my depression will never go away. So I’m kinda at a “what’s the point” moment. I find myself socially withdrawing more often these days. I don’t have the energy or temperament to deal with others right now.

[@hueso5071]

Why would she say that?

[@heartfullofhippies]

@@hueso5071 She diagnosed me with Major Depressive Disorder - Recurrent. The way I understand it is basically comparing it to bipolar disorder without the mania. Like, I have highs & lows. When I’m low I’m in a depression and when I’m high I’m “normal” or stable. It’s a continuous cycle for me

[@hueso5071]

@@heartfullofhippies I’m sorry to hear that. Where you always this way? What caused it? I’m on the same boat but anxious about seeing a therapist.

[@martymartmusic]

I reached out to Douglas not really expecting a response and he totally reached out to me and gave me hope and a bunch of useful info. such a good person. I'm still struggling with deep existential fears of mortality, aging, non existence etc... Not sure if the dp/dr causes these thoughts or vice versa, but it's painful...

[@rustyblade9366]

Damn, Doug looks and sounds so good these days man, he looks healthier and better than ever. So inspirational to watch how someone who's been in it really bad can come back so strong. Fantastic! Love the both of you

[@DouglasBloch]

Thanks for noticing. It feels good to feel better.

[@cicokbosnianman8996]

And what if we dont survive, for every person with severe depression and anxiety death will be some kind of releif. Struggling every day for Years sucks. Im not promoting suicide but sometimes life with depression, anxiety, panic attacks and all the other mental shit is just too much. And when you look what was left of once happy and easy life it hurts bad. Wish everyone all the best

[@NDahlq91]

You're not alone my friend, hang in there

[@cicokbosnianman8996]

Have no choise but to hang on,hoping for better days. Thanks , best wishes to you

[@Lishkabro]

Omg I’m happy I’m not the only one like this , also terrible that we have to suffer this way . Love you all . Step at a time.

[@debbieporter6581]

I have had major depressive disorder, treatment resistant depression, and anxiety for over 20 years. It is terrible. I'm glad I found your channel. I always feel like no one understands what its like. Thank you for being so honest.

[@bradleyvaters3442]

This is my wife's account but I've been watching you for over a year-and-a-half I was diagnosed with low testosterone PTSD and a few other things listening to this conglomeration with your doctor once again has made me feel a little inner peace keep up the work Brad.

[@Suraj_Mehra0211]

Thank you so much Noah for posting such videos. And with Douglas sir in it, it becomes even more better. Whenever I watch your videos, I feel like you both are sitting right in front of me and talking to me and supporting me in getting through me depression. I feel very secured and I love watching your videos. Keep making such videos and helping us. Thank you.

[@bignoknow]

If you guys and gals enjoy Doug be sure to check out his channel. LINK IN THE DESCRIPTION. He is one of my favorite people. Quirky, kind, smart, and compassionate. He has allot to offer. 2 more videos to come from our day of shooting.

[@chris_chandley9584]

bignoknow Is this your MAIN channel?

[@782Matty]

bignoknow you've come so far since I started watching you a few years ago !

[@782Matty]

bignoknow simply amazing!

[@ryanreeves8286]

Noah if the meds have helped u why get off of them?

[@bignoknow]

I love when people write shit that's clearly aggressive and offensive but preface it by saying "no offense" lol. No offense to you but ;) you're an ignorant piece of $hit. My mom is Mexican from a poor state, dad was raised in a poor village in Zimbabwe, Africa. You are speaking on cliche generalities that while situationally relevant have very little to do with mental illness as a whole. I have no doubt that you lack the capacity to realize how moronic and simple minded you really are so let this comment stand as a beacon to those who have even the slightest mental capacity to know life is not black and white. The gray area is available to those who aren't complete morons.

[@suzijorgensen6545]

I am isolated because I have severe fibromyalgia and with that, depression and anxiety. Physically it's so difficult to connect with others. All I have is my faith in my Creator and God. Thanks for your wisdom.

[@seanm6925]

Do some research on Lyme disease, you may have been misdiagnosed. Goodluck!

[@DTvidsx20]

Suzi Jorgensen do research on the carnivore diet

[@ryk6207]

I haven’t had any friends for years. Not even online. I sometimes do stuff with my family, but that’s it, and we often aggravate one another. Most of the time I’m too scared of messing up to even try things. I fear rejection so I preemptively avoid interaction. The last time I made something like a friend (someone I hung out with at school) was 2010. I can’t do it. I wasn’t properly socialized. This is why I spend so much time engaged in fantasy. It gives me the illusion of relationships and purpose.

[@FreeJulianAssange23]

I’ll be your friend

[@nathalei224]

Same

[@LifeBeyondCircumstance]

Love this! I spend a lot of time in my home alone due to this issue.

[@Kelly-yi4li]

Mega Lady me too, unless I have to go to work, I stay in my house alone.

[@HeyItsAllie97]

I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder when I was 15 and now I'm about to turn 20 in a couple of weeks. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your honesty and openness. Your videos have helped me more than you'll ever know!

[@karliegilbert3917]

I haven’t worked in almost a year and isolate in my room. I barely eat and have anxiety attacks often. I feel like I’m loosing my mind.

[@katiemilady197]

You sound just like me. I know what you're going through. I hope you stay strong. Remember we are not alone. Hugs.

[@toronto416.]

Exactly what I'm dealing with, if you want contact me or so we can help each other, anyone else reading this also feel free to contact me so we can help each other 24/7......this is horrible to go through someone please reach out to me.

[@AhYes-it3mr]

How are you now? I hope you've managed to weather the storm... I think im at the height of my isolation, i don't pick up calls or respond to messages anymore... i have to work, that breaks the isolation. I moved to Europe three years ago, i have no family here... its hard

[@jw1741]

Vitamins and minerals with diet first then exercise with any type of uncomfortable stress like hit baths and saunas. The longer this process doesn't work for you the more powerful the results will be when they do. Read that again. Don't give up change is extremely hard look for subtle changes and be patient. Love u guys

[@cliffkonkle3467]

I can totally relate to you. I hope you are in a better place now sending LOVE.

[@martincraggs1245]

you're hitting the nail on the head with every video I watch of yours. without going into things too deeply I started taking steroids at 16 and on and off until I was 35. I am now 38. I'm suffering from every symptom your have gone through and it's bringing a tear to my eye. My test levels are low I'm sure of it! I broke down on a construction site last month as my head is so messed up. watching your videos is helping me so much. thanks!

[@nestorgudino]

Damn. People like you 2 are absolutely necessary. Well done

[@danaa7425]

Hey Noah! After a couple of years, I actually feel a lot better. Your videos played a big role. Thank you so much for doing what you're doing. Lots of love

[@RupeshInstrumental]

Douglas Noah you both are my guardian angel. finally when I was in pain I scaired the word suicide. I can't read newspaper , tv and fb because I afraid of a saw than news again. I have suffered from anxiety and depression since five year. but suicidal that came to my mind just month ago. I can't handle and finally I told to friend. that helps me a lot.now a days I'm felling good. thank you so much both of you..I wish that this will end one day and I'll be happy again. I'm trying so hard..I want to get well.

[@andrewwhite7188]

Noah and Doug, I watch You guys on KZbin more than anyone else. I'm still struggling with treatment resistant major depression and your videos help me make it through another day. Thank You so much Guys! Andy

[@IamTheQuietSt0rm]

I'm sooooo happy to see Doug looking so great these days!! Happy healing Doug stay strong 💙🙌🏾

[@Solstice.Eclipse999]

I isolate because my family makes me feel ashamed of my personality, I come off as bitter because I put in so much energy for them and I feel like they’ll never really see it.

[@silviam.9224]

Same

[@ST74UK]

...and this is why I love you two guys so much

[@CaptainMorgan_10]

I came across your videos when I went looking for help with suroquel. And recently with changes in my life I have been experiencing a bit of anxiety and this video popped up. So I just wanted to say thank you. You are a wonderful human. Keep spreading the love and knowledge.

[@jenniferpeers6946]

I have isolated for 4 yrs. I have tried allowing my sister to visit last week, but after a short while I was exhausted so withdrew. Now I am afraid I will never get back to being social ever.

[@ttephi3667]

I understand.

[@kolibrirose7679]

I have read so many articles, books and watched videos, to seek help for my apathy and broken soul- i even tried alternative medicine and meditating. First Time in a while i have found the right place. My inner voice says it. Thank you for this. You might have just saved my future as an artist. 😊

[@rachelmarie6610]

Thank you for this video. This is definitely something I've wrestled with for the last year and a bit. My husband left me a year and a half ago and have been in the healing process. I feel like things come in waves, for a few weeks I'm great, then things hit me and I can't get out of bed for a couple of days. Depression and isolation do go hand in hand so often, thank you guys for sharing.

[@maytearceo40]

Same here feels like i tried everything out there even acupuncture meditation massage natupath nothing has work i have clinical depresion And really bad social anxiety and PTSD they tell me im a nice caring woman and strong and beautiful but i dont see wat they see i isolate myself a lot im proud of u both barely started watching you guys videos im inspired by u both

[@p5aul789]

Isolation is driving me crazy at the moment. Also my car is in for repair so can't get out. The Universe is trying its hardest to get me to take my own life. Life is difficult. Thanks for your support. Douglas knows me.

[@LinniFight]

Thank you so much for making this video! The world needs more kind guys like you!

[@functionalrefuge6481]

Thank you so much!!! I needed to hear this. I’m trying to dig myself out of a big rut right now.

[@jennahayden6220]

I've got depression and Anxiety really bad, I was in an abusive relationship in my first year of uni, was diagnosed in 2010 with Aspergers Syndrome and was raped by another student living in the accommodation. ive had issues with alcohol since because it's scarred me, I volunteer and work part time to gain my confidence. Giving yourself self love is good for gaining confidence. I sometimes do hide away when supposed to be going somewhere cos I just can't bare leaving the flat. The beauty of a new day is the chance to try and get help which is a miracle.

[@Andrew_Sowala]

I've dealt with depression and anxiety all my life. It became unmanageable after my father's suicide a few years ago. I'm getting sober for the second time. The first time I lasted about a year before I relapsed. I'm 8 days sober today and I've barely left my room this entire time. I have a family. A girlfriend and 2 kids. I've missed work over this that I can't really afford to miss. This has really taken a toll on myself and my family that I know misses me. I hadn't thought about reaching out during a time when I want nothing more than to be alone. I usually only reach out after preparing myself. I'll say to myself "I need to talk to someone, just not today. Maybe I'll be in a better position to talk tomorrow." I think I'll try forcing myself to talk to someone even though I don't feel ready. Thanks for the tip.

[@dazzlingdiamondpainting7735]

I've only just realised how bad my complex PTSD, major anxiety and severe depression is. Ive not visited my mum in over 2 years so I found out a couple of weeks ago, but in total I've stayed in my home for coming up 4 years!!!! I go to my doctors for my scripts, I shop online, and I don't answer my phone anymore. I've lost all my friends due to this and I'm absolutely LOST,

[@Buhofree]

Whe are with you

[@bargil9808]

Animals retreat when weakened through aging, sickness or injury as they are vulnerable in that state - in the wild this is a basic survival tactic. Rest and quiet also gives them a chance to heal but the main thing is the vulnerability and I think that how depressed people feel - unable to cope, wish to avoid stress and lacking "strength" to deal with life, people, situations.

[@keeperoflostsouls13]

I freaking love this video. I definitely needed this today. Thank you for talking about your journeys and helping others with theirs. I'm slowly starting to open up about my depression, anxiety, and ADD. They have all been super bad this year because I lost two people that I loved this year already. One in January and the other in February. I'm an aerialist as a hobby and its been so hard to go to the classes lately. I feel like my anxiety hasn't ever shut off since the first death in January either. I have to force myself to go to work and sometimes I melt down there in the bathrooms. I know that I do need help, but that's hard. It feels like I'm saying I'm not strong enough to deal with this on my own despite the fact that I know that's not true. It's hard to change how you feel about yourself. Anyway, I've rambled on for far too long here and you've got more important things to do. Goodnight to both of you. Thanks for being fantastic. ***hugs*** :)

[@JnTmarie]

I’ve got major life changes ending with being hit by a car and having to keep my right foot elevated. I’m so isolated away from people. I was relieved I didn’t have a lot of responsibilities but now I feel cut off from everything. This pandemic has shut down my family ties. My sister now has poisoned people against me. I feel helpless as she takes my mom’s estate. She died after one of my surgeries. I’m obsessed with her getting away with it. I don’t know why her selfishness only makes me feel sad not mad. Very powerful when you said others see you as a possibility. I will buy your book . I’m a gift to people …. Nice thought. People ask for things from me Is there a group in nyc?

[@riaanhavenga7579]

I did reach out, a lit of people listen, but did not hear. I tried to make friends, but they dont understand. So I decided to heal myself…. In isolation I did find piwer to carry on, although I do see the danger in that aswell. Its so nice to be alone, no one to judge, don't have to try and explain over and over agin, with no result or sympathy . I do have my down days, but I am good.

[@lachinx]

I’m beginning to abandon the belief that I’ll get better. I’ve done it all in terms of reaching out and getting help, when things go well, I always end up here, with so much inner agony and self hate. It doesn’t matter what I do, I am forever marked as a vessel of mental afflictions

[@adrianeyre3630]

its nice to see the good friendship you have with each other it cheer'd me up a bit.

[@DonzLockz]

Very good points raised but it's so difficult to actually do in real life. I'm starting a new job after 2yrs off work. Hoping that helps getting back into a normal routine.

[@ceza1487]

honestly, I thought I was doing better, I was looking forward to being around other people. dear god, it made it worse. I hated every second of it. I feel so different from everybody because everything seems so easy to everyone that I feel weird and strange. I feel my happiest and calmest when I'm on my own, I don't like big crowds anymore or socializing with more than one person at a time it's too much. there are too many stimuli. so much happier and feel a lot less lonely on my own.

[@thevegantitian]

Same

[@eloisemarie5219]

Oh great point, "do the opposite." I needed to hear that today. I will be calling my friend today.

[@majdd1173]

Eloise Marie did you?

[@joejoe5673]

I seriously don't feel like there's anything else left for me in this world.

[@ShekinahKigame]

Hugs

[@danmbazu6062]

I can totally relate to this man.. What's the point of life? Why are we here? Why this pain?

[@Ej-yx1md]

@@danmbazu6062Just want it to go away

[@susanzoeckler4926]

I think solitude can be incredibly productive at times, but depression can thrive there, so you have to be careful. Human connection is a great healer. On so many levels, in so many ways, we need each other.

[@companyowner111]

Noah, you are the man! You help so many people.

[@dh12.]

Isolating behaviour i find creeps up on me and by the time i realize it and how shitty I've felt it's already been happening for several days.

[@kristjanorn3342]

Its been happening to me for 3 years now.

[@k8h991]

It’s SO hard being totally socially anxious and have zero self esteem to grow and be better, but man it is so fucking hard. Thank you so much for this video

[@brittneysprout330]

Hi, Noah-- I enjoy your channel especially about Mental health awareness. I feel alone all the time, I am recovering from a TBI, I have suidicial thoughts. I isolate all the time, and I want to meet new people but I am afraid to trust people. I definitely can relate to what you are saying, Noah. I know I will get better, I can get better. Nice ink,Noah. I am so glad that I have found your blog. #endthestigma #depressionhappenstoeveryone

[@avocado184nhs82]

Just wanted to thank you for the pep-talk videos youve made, it made me calm and be able to fall asleep last night at 5am or something. Im struggling with derealisation and i keep thinking it could develop into something worse. Ive started having panic attacks which i never used to have and as soon as i start thinking "what if ill get a panic attack in this situation" and it almost happens everytime. I first got derealisation from weed, which lasted about a week. THen it passed. But then after a while i started worrying about panic attacks again and the derealisation is back. It's only been three days or so with derealisation which i know is like, nothing, but i overreact to everything. I feel more lonely than every with derealisation, i ahve always been kind of a loner but now im uncomfortable with it and yesterday in school i was sitting next to people and they were all talking to eachother and i felt left out and i couldnt speak to them, i went to two other people and said hi and something but they kind of ignored me. I think this is whats keeping me in derealisaiton and anxiety mode and i dont know how to deal. My mom is a narcissist and my dad is a pussy who goes along with her shit and i barely talk to them. Sorry this is all over the place.

[@kaycee8323]

I asked my friends for help but they looked away because they didn't know how to talk to a depressed person. So I might as well isolate.

[@janicetan7491]

That’s terrible .. we will learn what kind of friends worth to keep during our bad times

[@160triedtrue3]

I was always a outcast and isolated by society when I was younger as I grew older I learned to just Isolate myself even more when ever I get the chance. it sucks being lonely but it's better than being let down hurt rejected used taken for a ride ect what I'm trying to say some people are born to be loners yes its hard to deal with depressing 🐂💩 on a day to day basis but what can you do humans can't change.

[@sandraforeman1516]

I had a co-worker who I discovered had all the same diagnosed with the same diagnoses as me of Generalized Anxiety, ADHD and MDD. I truly tried reaching out to him, but since I am married, he became intimidated. I kept reminding him that he is talented and should proud of his accomplishments. It all backfired and he no longer works at this job. What did I do wrong? I was trying to tell him that I really cared about his well-being. He only said “ I have lots of problems. Now, I just feel so empty. At least I know he still has counseling through the Navy.

[@sundragon1976]

I've felt w this for years... my problems are I have no one to reach out to, and I don't have the money to go to the Dr.s or hospital or groups

[@Deenanaanu]

I am so thankful for this video and this conversation!

[@ShondaD_]

Before I was diagnosed with Anxiety, I isolated and did not want to be around anyone, do anything, etc. But now since Ive had the time to self reflect and get therapy and work on my self love. I now want to be around people and go places and explore. So to me isolation is not a bad thing per say only if you don't stay in isolation for so long. But isolating to get a peace of mind is sometimes very much needed.

[@ManishaChanXD]

ive been stuck indoors for five days and i thought my depression was getting better, but its getting worse, i want to cry my eyes out

[@1533ramsay]

Wow, I'm so thankful you pulled your channel to this topic. I can relate 100% to what your saying. I'm going to Google a support group near me NOW and go to town and workout at the gym. Thx to both of you.

[@GuilloRamiro]

All that has been said in this video make perfect sense to me!! Depression is an incredible scary thing!! Good video guys!!!

[@madscientistme]

I’ve gotten so used to isolation, it made me realise that I’ve not had close friends, they would even post on facebook that “people with depression who doesn’t change will bleed on people who didn’t hurt them”, so I was really a burden. On my good days people would hang out with me, on bad days I am alone. There is no one to trust. I am a tad jealous that people invited you out when you are jealous.

[@The_Lone_Outlaw]

This video has given me some new insight on my war with my demons. I don’t know if it helped or not, but it gave me new ways to view my situation, so for that, thanks. But I’m also kinda stuck. I’m an introvert through and through and I’ve self diagnosed myself with Bipolar type 2 disorder. I’ve isolated myself after my support person left me going on two years now. It crippled me to the point that I dropped out of college, which I NEEDED to graduate so I could become a law enforcement officer, which is who I am as a person and the only future I could see myself living. But again, the only person that I could talk to practically abandoned me, due to complications in our relationship. I’m a huge introvert when I’m not in my hyper/manic state and I’ve pretty much burned all my bridges. I’m alone, I’m very poor on terms of a fiscal life(no car/job/license/etc), and I’ve no one left. I’m currently in the state where I I can only see suicide or living homeless and probably then suicide. I’m not suicidal anymore, thanks to the help my support-person gave me, but I honestly don’t think I have a future. Then the idea of that kinda makes me hate myself even more to the point where my mind is so fubar’d that I can’t get important shit done, like finding a job, trying to adapt to the shithole my life is and find a solution. Basically, I was going through Hell, but my support person helped me out. Soon there after, she abandoned me, causing my life to derail and blow up. Fast forward past two years of isolation and trying to figure out my situation, I’m stuck here trying to get back on track. But to do that, I have to sift through the ruins of flaming shit to find a golden fucking answer that I can use to fix myself and live my life. It’s like trying to find a bar of gold in a junkyard pretty much. I don’t know what to do anymore. I have no means of seeing a professional without risking exposing my situation to those who’d most definitely make it worse. Is there any hope left?

[@ihavebipolardepression8875]

very helpful video you are an inspiration bignoknow this video is knowledgeable to people who struggle with depression it's helping me a lot thanks bignoknow for posting

[@alicegoldenvalley]

Some people don't have family/friends/church? Some people really have nobody or what if they only have family that doesn't want to deal with it? Also, what if the therapist is only talking to their severly depressed patient 45 min a week & that it all of the other time the patient is isolated? I'm really interested in the answer. Because I feel like there is an assumption that everyone has people they can reach out to, while this is not always the case.

[@TheWindslash]

I can certainly agree with this.

[@facundomiranda3391]

With that Attitude, then there is no good answers hahahaha i almost dont have family and i want to kill myself everyday, but nobody can help me unless i look for some help...

[@KarmasAbutch]

Yuri Zaff But instead you’re sat on the internet being shitty to strangers and laughing at them... maybe start with your own “attitude” instead.

[@quietgiant474]

Same thing i was saying but no one ever addresses that. Some people legit have no one and whoever they opened up to most likely told them to suck it up and get over it, as though their feelings weren't valid so they learned from experience not to be too open. Everyone's depression is different under different circumstances.

[@davidgochenour8376]

It makes me feel good to see u help so many people

[@stevenhillshow]

I lost my job and car in November of 2015 and I have been home with my mom, brother and sister ever since then. I have no job. No friends contact me to hang out. And I haven't left the house in several weeks. It's gotten to the point where I freak out when I go to the mailbox so I don't do it anymore. It's really bad. I need to reach out for help.

[@M.Đ-z4u]

DoAmazingThings same

[@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns]

Steven Hill ... how are you feeling now?

[@patriciaanndemello4652]

Some times things are so bad that of course you're depressed. Sometimes there is no way out.

[@janekk2487]

Thank for a voice of reason, it been a year and I am almost ready to accept help.

[@damonhowell8025]

I isolate because no one wants to talk to me, or do anything with me that will make me feel included. It's not an illusion if it plays out with just about everyone you come into contact with. People are afraid of a man who isn't "on his game" and that causes more depression, which pushes away more people. It's a downward spiral.

[@debbiethomas4472]

I isolate because I feel I'm in my own world that no one understands or cares about so why try?

[@addictedtochocolate920]

I live alone in the forest. There's not a single human being from here to the next town (15 kilometers of distance). While sometimes i do feel lonely, there's a sense of peace and capability that i couldn't get from the city; confidence on your abilities to survive on your own and not depend on anyone

[@majorsnodgrassthethird5699]

What keeps me going is that I KNOW all this depression and anxiety will pass. It always does. As regards reaching out, reach out to those who are empathetic and sympathetic but have a great positive outlook by nature. Stay clear of people who you can tell don't really understand mental health issues.Go and talk to car salesmen, nothing gets them down!!

[@mike_r91]

Powerful conversation! Thank you very much for this

[@tstreeter1141]

Essentially, I isolate because I've been bullying. I noticed a pattern in me. I treat people like shit because my life is miserable. I had no clue I was bullying, I was so embarrassed to learn this about myself.

[@saladfingers.]

Relatable