“It’s An Emergency!” The Number Of Men Having No Sex Increased 180%! - The Relationships Professor

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0:00 Intro
02:46 Understanding Men's Struggles & Addressing societal issues
05:18 Exploring biases in the education system affecting boys.
16:53 The impact of AI-driven relationships.
22:24 Tips for building real-life connections amidst online distractions.
26:33 Exploring the crisis in romantic relationships among men.
28:55 Analysing societal expectations affecting women's relationships.
31:41 The disproportionate focus on attractive men in online dating.
35:54 Tips for young men on making money and investing wisely.
43:13 Importance of diversification and starting early in investing.
44:21 Role of mentors in the development of young men.
50:09 Emphasising discipline and character in personal growth.
01:02:37 How moments of rock bottom lead to personal growth.
01:03:30 Importance of moderation and self-awareness in personal development.
01:05:40 Balancing career, fitness, and social life for holistic growth.
01:08:53 Addressing societal issues through economic reforms.
01:18:21 Modern interpretation of masculinity and romantic relationships.
01:23:09 Acknowledging challenges in online dating and building confidence.
01:25:22 Discussing the dynamics favouring the top 10% in online dating.
01:27:23 Importance of economic policies for genuine connections.
01:32:48 Valuing social connections in the workplace.
01:42:11 Discussing the need for regulation in AI and its impact on society.
01:45:49 AI's role in creating purpose beyond traditional work.
01:46:46 Exploring new job opportunities in the age of AI.
01:49:45 Discussing the effects of autonomous driving on jobs.
01:51:23 Analysing the positive impact of AI on job opportunities.
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[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thank you Scott 🙏🏽 If you enjoyed this conversation could you do us a favour and HIT that like button on the video! Helps us a lot ❤️

[@Dischordian]

Why do your podcasts set up such bizarre and artifical dichotomies?

[@MRSketch09]

Hows this different from the other episode you did? Or is it? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rHnTi3iDmtiln7c

[@defendliberty1289]

I don't know if it is intentional but you surely have a lot of "fence sitters" and "gaslighters" on your podcast.

[@ougibbons]

One suggestion, please. Make the titles less click-baity? The title completely put me off, but I decided to give it a shot and this was the best episode by far, so far.

[@tygerstripes3752]

Unsubscribed. You're interviewing people who are projecting their political views instead of having actual knowledge.

[@deborahdaviesdd-artist1059]

If men are so worried about rejection then perhaps the rule my mother drilled into me needs to be shared. She told me that it takes the most amazing amount of courage for a man to ask a woman out. She told me that I was allowed to say no but I was NEVER allowed to shame, ridicule or be rude in any way to his approach. And yet I see girls and young women be so mean to men who approach them if they are not interested. It’s like the women are so offended that this man in front of them thinks he even stands a chance that they feel they have right to punish them. We all just need to be better to each other.

[@sveborgrof9354]

Good point and so true.

[@m.k.s.7417]

I suppose, that in the [very]_future; they will probably; be: the lonely_ ones, T.B.H. (Males; generally -speaking -do not care, that much: about: -being:_ lonely!?); too true??

[@jarenfromvenus]

That’s very true. I often say those same women would have low self esteem if no man ever spoke to them but when they do they act superior. I think also it’s engrained into us that men are only trying to talk to us to have sex. That could be a potential cause of the rejection, feeling that this person only wants to have sex.

[@michelleassous]

I don’t see a majority of women being rude to men who are interested. There’s always going to be a jerk in every group. What I see as more of a common problem is men not being able to take no for an answer. They either start insulting/blaming you or won’t take no for an answer.

[@Chambermenz]

​@@michelleassousExactly. Idk why people coddle males so much and refuse to be honest about the vile behavior of many of them.

[@bobbyz9052]

I'm getting tired of the porn/real women discussion. For most men it's not a choice between porn and real women, but a choice between porn and loneliness.

[@portman8909]

Escorts are also an option.

[@bobbyz9052]

@@portman8909 Most men want to be chosen, paying for it won't scratch that itch.

[@portman8909]

Might not be for every guy but it does work for some if you have a burning desire for intercourse.@@bobbyz9052

[@MinomeEslinde]

This doesn't compute well. Because p_rn is not choosing these men either. Men still have to take action, to search or dare I say hunter gather, for the type of genre and body type they like. Though push notifications can automate that. Though it's free of physical effort nowadays, even lots of it is financially for free, available right there. Unlike having to earn enough money, then go outside in the rain to buy a magazine at the cigarette store, which had at most ten pictures in them. Though some magazines had mail subscriptions as well. So what is the itch then that the p_rn scratching, if it's not seggs with a human and not solving loneliness and not getting chosen? It must do something, why else do the (mostly male) owners of that infrastructure get so rich off it. Plus are the consumers willing to face the reality of why they use it, even if it's banal, to then be able to solve it better. "Loneliness" is the politically correct excuse, plus it can be the most dangerous lie to oneself of all, the half-truth or lie of omission. Yes, loneliness hurts, so coping mechanisms can be a part of that. But is that really the full story?

[@Shiroiji]

@@portman8909 in many countries prostitution is banned

[@BodyByBenSLC]

I have a young guy 19 who works for me, he is adorable and a very sweet kid. No girlfriend, never been on a date or even kissed a girl. Today he told me he is over women, I asked why? He was watching on social media videos about women's "Red Flags" he was so frustrated about all the mixed messages he was getting. He gave me an example that one TicTok was about if a man is close to his mother it is red flag but the next one was if he's not close to mother it's a red flag. He is also scared if he says the wrong thing or makes a move it will be all over social media which to be embrassement for rest of his life. Poor kid.

[@devadii24]

Social media is poisoning them… it is very sad…those of us that are older got our ideas from family, school, church, some tv or movies (which were also a lot more wholesome) Social media is preaching poor values 😢

[@user-gz4ve8mw9l]

Yeah, social media definitely is toxic no question.

[@crown9413]

It's not the social media, its just revealing what these girls are like to the world.@@user-gz4ve8mw9l

[@MySimDied]

As a girl a bit older than him, he's done for. Undateable. I don't think a lot of guys on those sites realize that it's over for them but shock horror being sexist, racist, xenophobic etc doesn't make women want to have sex with you. I know girls that turn down guys for voting Trump. Following Tate and co. basically kills his chances with most 18 year old women.

[@ANONYMOUS-vd8dy]

mm his situation is like me and age is same it's just that even trusting a woman my age is also impossible for us like i have a understanding of my own now women alwaysss looks for better i mean it's right but not when u r in a relationship and uknow most times women just talks to a guy just for the attention she is getting from it like i used to talk to a girl and asked her to be like gf and she asked for time and like i just felt ike from her taks and behaviour online that she liked me [obviously i was an idiot ] and she was like she was try to get away from me like slowly slowly and i could see it and i just asked her do u or not like me yes or no that point she just fucked the maths like i'm 50% i like u but50% not sure that u like me i mean com'n man if i hadn't liked u why would i be talking to u and one day she suddenly blocked me and like i asked my a girl friend to confront her that wheter she likes or not but then she said no her and i was like having my final exams for 12th grade which got fucked up but not that much so yeah i just feel now that dating is just impossible like women say no means no but atleast say no then i should know what is happening and can get to someone another girl to talk to but nope that nevvver happens and i think just tellthat guy that never get in a relationship where u likes a girl coz we r then bound to be fucked by emotions n then we r a dead case llike emotionally and mentally and just dat ea women who likes u i mean u will eventually get to like her coz we r emotional being ig

[@roundlake96]

Had a teacher who was also a veteran. As me and my friends were quite skeptical about him because of how harsh he felt and the high demands he had on us. A few months later we loved him more than any other teacher, he invited us to his home and introduced old rock bands and how to use basic tools. Felt really sad when I aged up and had to change schools and lost him as a teacher. Many years later we meet in a random field in the woods as both turned out to be in the home guard. One of the last things he said to me that day was that he was really proud to see what I had become. Hit me really really hard as I didnt feel proud about myself. That changed after that meeting and now we keep regular contact.

[@nancyferguson6011]

Not to be cruel but you do know going to a teacher's house is crossing a line right?

[@cadmusravenstag4403]

I've (32 years old now) just come to accept that either I'll have a family and a house in my 40s or 50s, or I simply won't, and I'll die alone. I'm not angry about it, I'm just surviving in the one world that we have.

[@lisak1355]

That's 100% up to you. No one else

[@mikesully110]

My friend has a family, house, kids, and he is miserable as FUCK. My other friend has a small house and is happy with his freedom. I still live with my parents but they are in poor health and I am very scared of what is going to happen when they die which will not be long now.

[@midnytthunda]

I know how you feel blood. Wish the aliens would push the damn buttons already.

[@beaulieuc8910]

It is better to stay single. Women and kids create debt and crime

[@Maladjester]

January of 2020, right before covid, I thought I was going to buy a house that year. Then the prices doubled and I might as well have spent the money on hookers and blow for all it's worth now. I'm going to die in my shitty little mobile home. I guess at least I've got that. Never had any interest in kids and any interest in marriage has long since been ground to dust. It's okay, I enjoy peace and quiet.

[@ilikec]

I think we are suffering a more basic issue. The lack of interest in participating in the human continuum. Get married for? To get a mate for? To get a mortgage for? I find ppl having a harder time answering these questions. There has to be good reasons to get up in the morning. Justification for grinding on everyday. Finding those are the key to happiness in my opinion.

[@rob_see]

great point. i met a woman who i thought would be a good partner to have, but turns out no, it was an unhealthy relationship. i think a lot of people are not only trying to survive, but are just not healthy, like myself, and have nothing to give to another therefore, because we are fundamentally lacking ourselves. i dont have a house or a degree or a lot of money, and i am in my mid thirties, i know others are in worse shape than i am. how can we have happy relationships when we are broken?

[@ResaleKingz]

Great point. I'm currently feeling this. I have a head full of ambitious ideas and yet I feel stuck in the mud. Holding hope that I break free and never look back.

[@lvengineerable]

@@rob_see This may be a bit hard to hear but the answer is fix yourself. Elevate who you are and you will attract others who are elevated. In my 20s, I thought I loved crazy woman. On reflection now, I just realize crazy women were the only women willing to hang out with me because I was also a mess. Scott talks about looking at your allocation of time. Look at what you're doing that's not important and allocate it into something important. Reduce or cut out videos, reduce or cutout social media, reduce or cutout youtube, reduce or cutout porn. You will have a ton of time to now invest into something positive in your life. Invest in a therapist if you are struggling. If the therapist you sign up with isn't working for you, invest in a different one. Work out, figure out how to increase your financial value to employers or start your own thing. You are more capable than you think you are.

[@Mehki227]

​@@rob_seeThen find a partner who wants those things and do it together. My first husband would have so much of he was willing to do that. Now my 2nd husband is living in the 2nd house (I bought both) to a college educated (3 degrees) wife. He's got great insurance coverage, and good (joint) income. We split bills 50.50, but I'm a saver so without even talking about it, I just saved and saved until one day I knew I had enough to buy one. We're partners, so it didn't matter to me which one had the money. My first husband was lazy and selfish with no vision. He was unwilling to be a partner, so I left. Find someone willing to be a partner. Don't worry about who makes more, think of it as a joint effort. Don't worry about gender roles. My husband does nearly all the housework. We don't argue about money or chores - we partners🤷🏽‍♀️

[@julie-anngayle9330]

Please read the book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible.

[@timheavyable]

Im a man who has not had sex in 25 years, im 49 now. I suffer with BPD/MDD and im a very lonely person. I had nothing to offer a woman so im resigned to dying alone. I have already attempted suicide on 3 occasions. I also had been raped when i was 12. I had no father and barely made it to secondary school. College was never an option. I mourn the child my one partner aborted. I felt i had to respect her choice but inside a bit of me died at 19. Those traumas drove me to being a drug addict fot 15 years.. My mother brought me up in a strict catholic home. I tried to approach a couple of girls but was rejected. I am that lonely man with nothing to lose. I dont feel any animosity towards women as im a waste of their time and i have no real profession. 😢😢😢

[@MapleShrimp]

I am sorry your life has been so hard, brother.

[@vectorsahel5420]

I am sorry sir, that sounds very difficult. I hope good times come for you

[@Tru3_Detective]

I wish your life had been easier. I relate to too much of this.

[@dahotone106]

You can either accept your situation or have the courage to invest in your well-being and change your entire outlook in life. It starts with small changes

[@sabarazz9514]

I'm sorry you went through all of that. You are not being ignored

[@BingusTheWockis]

I don't even want to have sex anymore. I now feel a great amount of unattraction toward women (at least their personalities), and at this point I haven't k*lled myself because I've got a sliver of unfounded hope and a whole lot of inertia. At some point, probably when my parents are gone, I think I will lose all tethers to this world and finally do it. I'm sick of money and the games people play to gain "status" and power, and I ultimately spend whatever extra money I've got on food, substances, products, and software that disconnect me from reality. I can't wait until I can finally take the plunge and do it permanently, because I do not want to continue living. I did not feel this way back in 2019 and before, but I absolutely feel this way now. I'm just tired.

[@kathleenbolton-schmukler5727]

Sex is overrated. Companionship is underrated. Have you tried doing something that feels like suicide, like bungee jumping? It might make you feel more alive..

[@AyyyVik]

@@kathleenbolton-schmukler5727 "Sex is overrated" she says, as she doesn't have the same amount of testosterone consuming her mind with horniness. Lady, it might be for you, but I genuinely think you're just coping, because you're of age and overweight. I do agree that companionship is important, though.

[@AyyyVik]

very relatable. literally same thing I'm doing, though I've been going sober currently. "I'm just tired" is exactly how I feel about all of this.

[@geneanthony3421]

Maybe find a purpose to make life worth living for? A lot of people are driven by goals and need a real purpose to keep themselves going. Volunteering your time to help others might make life feel like it's worth living. Seems like you're at a point where you need a radical change.

[@Ach1mW]

Folks like you need to live on for when the world fully collapses though but I get what you are saying

[@johnnyfisherson8523]

It's better to be alone than in a relationship that makes you feel lonelier.

[@privatear2001]

Some people can't even get to "relationship" status... Proverbs does say: "It is better to live on a corner of a roof Than in a house shared with a contentious woman." I guarantee you Solomon was right on that. Out of all my friends, only one comes to mind who has a great relationship with his wife... and they both have to work at that. They've always been a wonderful example to me of the way a good relationship should work. The other friends I know are in this "contentious state". I never envy them. One is on his umpteenth relationship. One doesn't have anyone as its his own choice, though women constantly throw themselves at him, because of his horrific relationship in his first (and only) marriage. I wish I could meet someone decent, but she hasn't been there for years.

[@signalfire6691]

Which is why I left my marriage of 27 years. I got tired of him paying more attention to ball games on tv than to his own children or me. I kept waiting for him to grow up and pay attention to the greater world, then I realized I didn't have the right (nor the ability) to expect him to be something he wasn't. I went out and found other people to relate to who weren't stuck in '12 year old' status.

[@FazeParticles]

Some people’s brains are simply unable to function in a relationship. That’s the reality that social progressives won’t admit. They think all men must have a relationship with women to avoid being a rebel to their progressive democratic regime. Typical tyrants.

[@makotonarukami7468]

I remember years ago going to the mall because I felt like I needed to be in a position where I have to be social but it felt worse than just being at home

[@humlakullen]

Lol… I’m no math genius or rocket scientist; but the only way that statistic is TRUE, is if multiple women are sleeping with the same guy.

[@ihategoogle8893]

I think a lot of men have rejection fatigue. The dating app is a lose lose situation for men.

[@shannongreer6194]

And women. At least older ones like me at 53.

[@vincentdaniels7818]

@@shannongreer6194 Shut up.

[@joshua50101]

@@shannongreer6194 if women have ridden the CC in their 20s and 30s they can't have their pick at their 40s, they become the rejectees in the SM

[@scott247]

I’m recently divorced after a 22 year marriage, 27 year relationship. She was cheating on me. I’m 45 and have dated 2 women since, both 54. I think they’re both great and one is now my girlfriend. We don’t even talk about the age difference. The connection is there. That’s all that is important

[@giveitatry951]

@@shannongreer6194 Yes, i also think is hard for older woman. Not much 50+ there and when they are interested in younger ones.

[@The_Lovey_Informer]

You can still get your shit together, and still get rejected… sometimes money isn’t the situation

[@robr4501]

well 50% win rate is good enough

[@seadragon1456]

Some guys are just weird. Like they stare a lot or don’t know how to socialize. Or they come on so blunt it makes women feel like they want to wear their skin.

[@Brandonhasgritig]

That's some bullshit tho because if your personality is so bad that you can't get laid fr with your shit together imagine if he didn't have his shit together, it would be even worse. Having your life in order will always be a point in your favor even if your short the other points you need to be with that really attractive woman, and there's too many men out there (not all) that laziness IS the reason why so it's something that can't be downplayed even if there are some guys out there with their life in order that still somehow get no play

[@ChrisInAVan]

It definitely helps.

[@Ashnesss]

That’s if you lack game. Only the past few years, did I learn that there are pathetic sissy men who ask other people to ask questions, ask girls to pass messages and hide from you but send girls to talk to you, refusing to show up and take you out, thinking that’s a thing. Its not. It never has been. I’ve never met a guy, who has sent subliminal messages through third parties to get through to me. It’s so dumb and pathetic. I can’t respect it. Any guy or man, who knows of your existence and likes you, and doesn’t make a move within a few weeks, worst case scenario 2 months if he has to travel, simply lacks game and experience with women and a man like that would suck in a relationship anyway. When and if such a man shows up, make sure you’re not available. If it’s not convenient for you, don’t be available. He has to learn that there’s a right time for everything and when you pass up an opportunity when the deal is hot, it goes cold and you lose your chance. Don’t be available for immature men who lack game and can’t talk to women, if you don’t want to end up in an immature relationship without communication. What’s next? Him communicating via his mother and sister or worse, through YOUR mother or sibling? Get a grip. Men who hide behind other women or men, to communicate their needs, aren’t ready for relationships. They’re not emotionally independent and that’s always a negative in dating or marriage. You can’t be available to wishy washy men. That’s how you end up in cold relationships with no spark, chemistry, love or flirting. A man who can’t take action shouldn’t be your type. The only time allowing time is acceptable is WHEN you’ve already met and agreed that you NEED time. In the absence of such an agreement, him asking random girls to text you, like a weirdo who lacks game, is grounds enough for rejection. He’s too dumb to think of getting into a relationship. What is he going to do? Ask girls to text you, when he wants to take you out? Will they go on the date too? Will they show up in his place, for the date or at your wedding? Will he always be a ghost? Don’t let men get away with dumb habits, wishy washy behaviour, ghosting you, blocking you or abandoning you whenever they want. That’s called attachment issues. If you accept it early on, he’ll think he can come and go as he pleases. Don’t accept it. Reject it. Don’t be available. Don’t show up. Be busy the day you’re invited. Don’t have time for losers who lack game. His loss. Next time, get up your god damn ass, bump into her, ask for her number and text her. If guys in their 20’s can do it, I don’t understand why men in their 30’s and 40’s are too dumb to do it. Men who want dates need to up their game. And they need to learn how to do it by getting rejected.

[@Biker322]

I met my wife at work. Been married 25 years. I think people are a bit scared by the HR department to do that these days.

[@MrBrewman95]

Oh yeah for sure.

[@cozzb1938]

Just one more thing women ruined.

[@NikosM112]

Not just that. There's the fact that co workers aren't your friends so risking it is dumb.

[@YourAlienPaul]

The mere implication of impropriety, let alone an actual false allegation, is enough for a man to get crucified.

[@lightworker2956]

It was MUCH easier in those days.

[@bethowens8863]

27-year-old woman here. Something my female friends and I have noticed is that growing up, we felt as though we were held to a higher standard by our schools and parents than boys were when it came to things like behavior, academics, appearance etc. The reason is simple: Girls are given the message from a young age that society is designed to benefit men and that women have to work twice as hard to get to the same place. I believe this was done with good intentions, but the flip side is that boys and young men's emotional well-being and achievement have been badly neglected because men were not perceived to need any support.

[@MacGyver886]

That may be plausible. However, in my case ( man, 40) There were far more expectations from me than my sisters. So much so it ended up creating distances between myself and my beloved ones. Not to mention it caused me huge psychological torment of not achieving enough for my family.

[@JamesBond-ut5iv]

When you say benefit men. I really think you should look at the difference. Men are required to be good providers and work what is often difficult and miserable jobs. In many cases guys like myself would love to switch roles and stay at home and manage a household. It's so much more enjoyable than my toxic environment.

[@DivinesLegacy]

I don’t think men would want to adhere to those standards either way. T you’re saying is that women are much more fake than men. Men are not willing to paint their faces every morning and put on a fake ass attitude to please society. It’s almost like men are more rebellious to being this generic cog in the machine.

[@TH-eb5ro]

@@JamesBond-ut5iv A toxic work environment is not good for anyone and will impact home life and relationships. The home life option is not always a healthy place either but if you can find a partner that it works that way it is a good thing. I do know men who were the partner who stayed home full/part time and managed the household. All scenarios can work if members are healthy partners. Dysfunction ruins every sort of relationship.

[@JamesBond-ut5iv]

@@TH-eb5ro Finding a healthy enviroment at a large company is probably the most difficult thing I've ever tried to do.

[@TawpeeBoyshuck]

18:20 "while making her feel safe." I found that the best way to make women feel safe, is to not approach them. That's how I protect them from my creepiness.

[@Churlz]

Maybe because you're not attractive in their eyes? How your personality is perceived is through your appearance. Level up your appearance, my man.

[@ChinnuWoW]

Safe from what? As if we're living in a ghetto?

[@fiethsing9988]

@@Churlz Just be reborn... I mean be yourself!

[@midnytthunda]

I interpret this to mean that he doesn't feel creepy (or didn't) but they always feel or give the feeling that he is and so the only way, it seems, "to make them feel safe" (as if thats anyone's job but her's) is to not approach her at all. Which is a problem. Women shoot themselves in the foot in the long run. Unfortunately for guys, they shoot them in the chest the same time.

[@Maladjester]

This right here.

[@user-yv4vd4rs1e]

Great interview -he is pointing to a problem in our society that is often overlooked or ignored: males from a young age no longer receive adequate encouragement and support by society, because it wrongly presumes they will be saved by an outdated social structure guaranteeing men success.

[@cvzphotography]

This was the most powerful thing I've listened to in years. Thank you. New sub.

[@Mr_Nobody2222]

I'm 36, single, earn a low/average wage, don't drive, don't own property, i'm smart, kind and mildy good looking but i have 0 hope in today's society, no wonder people delete

[@MonkeyMonkeyMONKEY.]

Keep your head up bro, you’re not alone.

[@NoidoDev]

Listening to guys who think "sexbots lead to depression" won't help.

[@MauricioMontoya-dd1wi]

You are Not a loser , you are a good man!

[@jak4403]

Am curious as to why you don't drive bro, are you like in a metropolitan city like London where public transport is very OK because driving can add to your earning potential, say like doing amazon deliveries outside your normal job

[@AnHeC]

And how do you propose you would start a family? Sir, you cannot afford it. You could at best get with a woman who is child free by choice. Otherwise, you can't afford the kids. So no woman that wants children can be with you.

[@cosmic_curves3339]

The best thing I did for my life was to get rid of social media. Seeing countless videos of men & women bashing one another got old. KZbin is all I have left.❤😂

[@luxurybuzz3681]

KZbin is social media

[@jessesdomain444]

Its more like interactive television ​@luxurybuzz3681

[@user-eq4qj6xk2o]

Its just simps cucking to women and government/corporations selling to-brainwashing consumption. The guys “bashing” women are the censored fringe

[@MarquosXoloVanda]

​@@luxurybuzz3681it's a video sharing platform.

[@justalameusername1736]

bro get out of youtube too lol it's literally the same shit

[@mikekroll8294]

my single mother made me fear making a mistake. Because of that I learned to figure things out on my own to absolute perfection before I presented myself to the world. Unfortunately with dating you can’t do that because it requires cooperation with someone else. I’m better than anybody I’ve ever met personally at things like AutoCAD, CNC’s, and billiards, But selling myself, communication, not so good.

[@VQS55]

same here man, it aint easy

[@poobado]

I never understood why “many” woman do that??? To not be interested is a right , but to humiliate a person never understood that.

[@Man.Well93]

Well because it is an insult to her ego if a man she considers below her approaches her, which is the way she looks at men that are actually on the same level as her or beyond, thanks to feminism.

[@kiriraganna]

@@Man.Well93 As if men don't humiliate women who they find ugly. There's a literal trope of men who jokingly ask a fat woman to a date, only to then burst out laughing and publicly make fun of her for even daring to think they could think of her as attractive enough.

[@taras3702]

That is because women do not look at men as human beings, they objectify us as "man units."

[@Rukirys6]

low self esteem

[@CHK12319]

@@Man.Well93 that’s not feminism, it’s called hypergamy. And it’s been a thing since the dawn of time.

[@GreenHypnotherapy]

" I think the majority of people are less impressed by your things than you think... People are really impressed by discipline and a plan." Wonderfully wise words by which to live.

[@Lina-vx2zz]

It's hard to meet people with a plan and discipline, most people don’t have self-control,To be disciplined. Most people have no plans for which direction in life they are going.

[@GreenHypnotherapy]

@Noah-vc5rf I agree with you. Having a plan is important, yet we must also be flexible enough to pivot when necessary. In project management/Scrum we have two trains of thought. One is called "Waterfall," where once the plan is implemented there is no flexibility, you just have to see it through to the end and make changes afterwards. The other option is called "Agile" and it takes into account that plans sometimes require changes in the midst of an in iteration. Both require proper planning, but flexibility is a valuable tool.

[@BeijingBongRipper]

Majority of people, sure. Majority of women absolutely don't give a shit about your plan until it's a reality.

[@winning3329]

​@@BeijingBongRipperchose better women! Don't just pick the bad girls

[@ballergame1017]

That's common sense so that's why celebraties althlestes are so popular

[@frankc1832]

Being rejected by a business employer is NOT the same as being rejected by a woman or a bunch of women, whatever the case may be

[@thothheartmaat2833]

UNLESS ITS A FEMALE EMPLOYER..

[@Mike-eg9ok]

Disagree, with time invested, multiple round interviews, etc the time, energy and emotion invested in applying for a job (that has a future) is an exponent level higher then simply asking out a woman. Instant rejection doesn't hurt. Rejection after 3 interviews and 3 weeks of waiting does.

[@jamesc3953]

The point being made is getting used to being told no for your perceived qualities

[@fhunter1test]

@@Mike-eg9okpractice employer polygamy ;-) worst case that will happen, you'll say "sorry, I have better offer"

[@frankc1832]

@@jamesc3953 the rule apply to both sides of the equation, same way as a those physically/mentally financially broken 250 pounds ugly landwhales who thinks they’re 8/ 9/ 10s and deserves top tiers high income dudes as “potential” LTR partners. Same as those low wedges crappies jobs you’ve applied for when you are way exceeding the required skills and qualifications for them but the HR manager judgement/rejection is based on racial or otherwise “negative/positive” appealing aspects that she or him thinks applies to you

[@patrickpaterson8785]

As a young guy who is pretty happy with his life in all aspects, the single best piece of advice I can give is to delete your social media (particularly if you have Instagram or tiktok as they are the most damaging/ biggest time sinks). Short-form video content addiction is very real and it absolutely decimates your attention span. This severely impacts your social competency and makes you awkward/ uninteresting to talk to. Also- only use dating apps if you're 7/10 or above.

[@seaofcolour7431]

if a society can't make housing affordable for the next generation, then it has failed dismally in planning for the future and will pay a heavy price both socially and economically.

[@KO-fh4vn]

None of what he's describing as a "masculine role" is something people would willingly sign up for. Why would men line up for a hard life of working for the sake of others with relatively little personal reward ESPECIALLY while being condemned by society??? If there's any confusion as to why men are falling behind, here's your answer, the expectations compared to the rewards are a BAD deal.

[@tanler7953]

I agree. Often, men who act out the masculine role are resented or suspected of being too aggressive. There’s a double standard. Society still judges men by their degree of “success”. Women are not held to the same standard. A woman might fail in her career but that doesn’t make her less of a “woman”.

[@MewluMoon]

@@tanler7953 I thin men are hard on himself and put pressure on himself. Society is like a toned out narrator at this point.

[@tanler7953]

@@MewluMoon Do you think women are attracted to wuss men? I don't think so. Men say it's hard to find women. But women complain that men are getting weaker.

[@MewluMoon]

@@erioyp what are the standards for men to hit. I have nver heard of this? its interesting

[@VM-gg1ox]

I see your point, makes sense. What I find interesting too is that I see so many women say the same thing, "marriage is unpaid servitude, just not worth it." So maybe we are asking the wrong queations. Maybe marriage is outdated? Seems it was only ever for kids.

[@lenoraalexander9830]

This was excellent! Thank you both for this wonderful interview.

[@flannnalchannel]

Only found this interview today (falling in love with this channel and the format) and it’s one of the most candid and best interviews I’ve watched (and I watch 6 hours of KZbin a day, for work) keep going❤

[@gioberry3680]

I lost interest in sex after 3 years of anxiety and chronic stress. During that period I was fully invested in "making a career". I'm just 23 and you know what? Not a single woman attracts me sexually anymore, which is really terrifying. I have no idea what to do now

[@capnsmashem3284]

Keep going, it will come back when you feel you've gotten somewhere and start to want to share it with someone, which you inevitably will, and when the time comes, you'll be in the perfect position for it. By then the Gen Z's that want stick-shift vehicles, less sex in media, and more traditional relationships(some of them genuinely seem to crave the old ways) will be looking for someone to settle down with. Right now, the dating world is a cluster, so better to keep waiting it out if you're really not interested right now.

[@Revenant76]

congratulations, you are free now

[@nickem6556]

man i wish there was anti horny pills to completely kill all sex drive, just as we have viagra but opposite

[@elduderino1635]

I envy you. That must be wonderful. The best you could ever get from them would be a relationship for some few, handful of years (maybe 3-4) until they inevitably get bored, again. And dump you without hesitation or mercy. Is THAT really woth the effort (of finding them) and pain (of loosing them)? I don't think so. And just imagine, that they would do that (which they WILL), if you have had children with them...

[@stagnant-name5851]

Sounds like you need to go to a therapist and talk about your stress and anxiety and how you can overcome them.

[@daveuk1324]

As a 60 year old man I have been so fortunate to have had some amazing women in my life. Things seemed so different in the 80s when I was growing up with most relationships seemingly based on mutual respect and genuine care. The current commoditised status scrap described in this podcast is thankfully alien to me and I pity those who are living it.

[@cubiczirconiabeard5366]

For me, it's not so different. The company slut kept throwing herself at me. After the 3rd date, she runs to human resources, claims sexual harassment, and blew up my career. This was in 1984, took me until 1996 to recover. In 1996, the everyone thought I was gay because I didn't show interest in the hot 20 year old bimbettes.

[@codyhaitch758]

Exactly. The well is poisoned.@@DonTavvit

[@brookeshane3170]

Wow. Pity. How generous lol.

[@wherezmemallet4879]

I’m 29 and wish I was born in your time life looked so much better.

[@wherezmemallet4879]

@@DonTavvit I disagree. Back then we didn’t have feminism or anything. Women actually wanted to be women and masculinity was appreciated and praised is what my point is. Those things made dating easier back then and yeah being short still probably made life harder as a man but not even tall men have it easy today in current society if they don’t meet a list of other requirements from women.

[@williamparrish2436]

I grew up pretty ghetto. Single mom with no education who didn't need a man. 4 other siblings. I was raised Jehovah's Witness and so college was forbidden. By the time I figured out that was all bullshit I was 21 and I had missed out on a lot of opportunities. I spent until my early 30's chasing the childhood I never had. Finally at 46 I have finished college, and last week I just started a M.S. in Information Systems. I have $11K in my 401k and a few thousand in the bank. I live alone and I have no family. I guess by all accounts I am a complete loser hahaha. But you know what? When I look around, I actually think I'm on pace. I'm basically in the same position as a man my age after a divorce lol! But I don't have the baggage of kids or an ex-wife. Plus I spent my 20's and 30's making music, making art, reading philosophy, economics, and learning about IT. I would never have had the time to do all that taking care of kids and trying to keep a wife happy! And now that I have experience in IT I could move over to another job and make another 20K a year, and more after I finish school. Men, never give up!

[@sluttylibe274]

Great job bro keep at it

[@kayleighkimble7688]

That was a good comment, thanks for sharing it!

[@nategalt5613]

You're not a loser. Success is about the obstacles you've overcome, and you've overcome a lot. Be proud of yourself!

[@rohitnijhawan5281]

I am sick and tired, bleeding from the b*++hole at this point riding the broken bicycle seat of podcasts where marriage is glorified and sold as a virtue or a luxury good. Marriage is a one way ticket to being maimed in divorce court being cut up 3/4" inch at a time.

[@cks2020693]

There is a golden rule I live by "never be afraid to be alone", it doesn't mean I don't enjoy others, nor it means I have problems connecting with others, I have friends, a wife and a child, and I have good relationships with my parents. I have had periods in my life where I had no friends or contacts with my parents, but I didn't become depressed in solitude, rather, I saw it as an opportunity to train my mental strength, finding peace to be with myself and enjoy the world truly from my perspective alone

[@slapshotjack9806]

But when you’ve been rejected and hurt by just about anyone you’ve bet in life it really eats away at your self esteem

[@cks2020693]

@@slapshotjack9806 to be able to be by yourself or attract others, you need to know who you really are and be authentic, otherwise you will constantly attract people who you don't like but at the same time you feel forced to interact with them. I've rejected relationships&friendships knowing they and I are not in the same wavelength; I have others rejected me when I didn't know who I really was and was just acting in certain ways because that's what I thought I should be. The ultimate confidence/self esteem is to know who you are. I have many "friends" but I'd rather enjoy doing things I like than wasting time faking friendliness when they actually make me uncomfortable

[@jimjamjerry]

Man I am so fortunate to be where I am. I was lonely, depressed, 17-22 but I just moved to a college town and oh my god things are so much better here. Community is what every person needs.

[@Kaizen747]

Great for you dude. Glad you escaped

[@skittles2055]

We do need community, is right! And many don’t have it. Happy for you 🙌 🎉 😀

[@francobola9920]

Bro find the nicest girl there , if she can be nice in the middle of all the side and gomora, stay with her, if she is fem. Movement then keep going. Those women can't stay still , they can have a good life and fffeeeelllll something needs to change. No , it's that they are used to cc. Riding, need the drama. Keep stepping, to many . Sadly that's 80 percent of women. And that's the minimum. In America of single mothers there are 80 % single moms , young man watch yourself make sure you put hot sauce in the condom after you use so there is no way you get trapped into anything. Internet is just showing what type of people they are not all but most. And they can't help themselves, cause if they knew better they would stay off of social media long enough to know it's addictive and bad for all of us but mostly girls cause they get so much attention, and they make that a end result that they are so much value. But 99% of those men for 89% of those women would never wife them up. Maybe 80%. Plus in these new standards most of the men would not be suitable for these super standards so be prepared ladies as these young men learn that your just friend zoning means your rejecting them so you can go have sex with people you want and it's not them and your doing it hundreds of times before you even consider these guys when you come back, you will be alone and 80 % of you women will not be able to support yourself, better count your pennies. Or as you say live your best life, cause it will be like most high school quarterbacks , that was your best life and the next 70 yrs are going to be crap. Be modern. That's the ticket. Life is about man and woman together we have our best life together, you really don't understand when men really allow you to be accountable, you really are not going to like it.

[@winning3329]

Just don't prey on the college women

[@broaj1453]

I too returned to college for my terminal degree. It’s cool being around other students again.

[@becomingabetterhuman.2994]

This guy is spot on. I laughed at my dad when he told me about his first house he bought for 68k, I can't even buy at home 400k+ this economy sucks as I had to try and start to build credit in 2008.

[@nuntana2]

If UK, you could get a standard 2up/2down (in my town) for 20-30k when I started working in the 80s, and I was on 10k as an apprentice! Houses were typically x3 average salary then. A 70k house would be a nice detached on a nice street.

[@scratchy996]

It depends on where you want to buy a home.

[@Oshmoshy]

They are trying to make every man woman and child dependent on the state so that generations from now they can funnel us into the depopulation machine.

[@venharis2012]

Yup, I bought a three year old 1800/SqFt house in 2002 for $69K on a 1/3 acre lot

[@Oshmoshy]

@@venharis2012 I’d have to work 6000 years to be able to afford that

[@pandorasbox17]

This is for real the only yt channel I'm not subscribed to. Thank you for your effort CEO ❤

[@Temir18usa]

thank you i was depressed lost my job but after watching this i created personal plan i start eating healthy working out more and cut down on sugar ( still struggling with this part ) and work on my certification so i can make more money

[@bj6515]

Is that you Donald?

[@Timbermannetje]

Sugar & Salt everywhere!

[@lightworker2956]

If you struggle with cutting down on sugar, just have more healthy carbs -- bread, rice (white rice is fine), potatoes, etc. Honey is also an option, it's better than sugar.

[@DeepVerma728]

The new American dream. Stay single, stack your money, and get out.

[@big_red_machine3547]

I’m 6’4, attractive, white, straight and rich as hell at 50. Never married because modern women who acted like men were a huge turnoff. Plus if they were hot- they were crazy. Only the fat ones were really nice, but I wasn’t into them

[@pkersoul]

Get out where? Sorry to break it to you it's the same in most developed world and I doubt you'd wanna live in a developing country long time despite what the Instagram travellers show online

[@mindgames7411]

@@big_red_machine3547 Do you want a cookie?

[@big_red_machine3547]

@@mindgames7411 Yes please! 🫠

[@big_red_machine3547]

@@pkersoul this is true

[@ajdynamo6866]

Also dating co workers is extremely risky. Take what this guy says with a grain of salt.

[@skorpion7132]

Its extremely risky... now. 20 to 30 years ago it was different where is was possible, sure when both were from the same department the story was a bit more complicated, but in general it was perfectly fine. But now if you even so much as look or throw a compliment to a female they'll imediately go haywire.

[@V4Now]

Yeah, you can't do what Bill Gates did today!😅

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

Plus trying trying to flirt with coworkers at a reputable corporate could risk you losing your job.

[@GlyphZero]

i keep a "don't shit where you eat" policy at work. not about to risk my job for someone elses's future that doesn't give a fuck about me.

[@MrMadalien]

Interestingly, my girlfriend and I have worked on the same 3 different projects in different corporations, without anyone knowing about our relationship, they hired both of us. I met her not at a job but at a conference because we are in the same industry. I suppose that's different?

[@lesleyjohnson8488]

I love when he talks about those male role models who shaped his life. So beautiful and wholesome to contemplate. ❤

[@nancyferguson6011]

It's always taken a village. 1 mom 1 dad is still NOT enough

[@bankingstrats3683]

Boomers and Gen X'ers who are interested in mentoring the younger generation of men intentionally don't because society views that as nefarious now having ulterior motives to be with young men. Very sad.

[@stephenkaiser9780]

I appreciate this calm rational conversation. Thank you for providing this. I concur.

[@darrinbrunner6429]

I believe the reason time seems to go faster as we get older is because our minds throw out, or don't even form, memories of unremarkable events. Each year, we have fewer remarkable events to store in long term memory, because we do the same thing over and over--the treadmill. Experiencing the same thing over and over is unremarkable. So, when we look back at the past year(s), it feels like it was gone in a blink. The days pass slowly, but in our memories, the years seem to have passed quickly.

[@ComputersAndLife]

It goes faster because you have so many years of memories that when you think od your life, it feels like it has gone by quickly, even if it hasn't. I do agree that we get so stuck in survival that we don't have a chance to thrive and give ourselves time to just be, even just thinking about nothing or being out enjoying nature or seeing the world outside your small area.

[@TripleOG_]

Well said.

[@user-yv8kd2jo2x]

I agree. Make time landmarks by doing new things. Do things out of your comfort zone. Find courage and you will be rewarded

[@bishopoftroy]

But mostly because every year is a smaller percentage of your time alive. 1 year at 10 is a tenth of your life, 1 year at 60 is a sixtieth.

[@1mind2have4now]

Short version: Routine leaves time with nothing to impress.

[@promotionaltoaster]

I stayed single for over a decade because I felt like a failure as a man for making $18 because all I saw on social media was these guys with expensive cars and nice houses having relationships. Combined with the fact that a few different times that I risked involvement with someone, I got left for someone with more money. I now make $60k/yearly, and I can’t afford any house of livable quality, I still feel like a failure as a man. Social media had led so many women to believe that they MUST have a man who makes $100k a year. It’s rough out here for men.

[@saml7057]

If we lived next to each other. I'd make a business with you brother. That way we could make the money we deserve and say screw the haters. I keep pitching the idea with my "friends" but they are plugged into the corporate world. One day tho . I hope you find your team so you don't feel that way anymore. Much love from Cali.

[@we8608]

Women have it the same way, and that's not a coincidence. Men equally will not find women without a 6 figure salary as attractive.

[@promotionaltoaster]

@@we8608 I don't mean to invalidate your experiences, but how did you come to form that view? I'm 30 years old and I can't remember EVER hearing a man claim he needs a woman to make ANY money, whether personally or through social media. *MOST* men understand that they will be the ones fronting all the bills and paying for all the activities. *MOST* men would feel like a failure if they needed a woman to make 6 figures. *MOST* men only require an average IQ, femininity, no aggravation, and being attractive.

[@mark-147]

​@@we8608you must be a woman

[@makeitcount2985]

Leave america

[@marcustaylor670]

I think young men are afraid of being accused of doing something they shouldn't by young women. Also they have seen their father get divorced and lose all they've worked for. If I was young now I'd probably go for the AI bot, it's not rejection I'd be bothered about but losing everything and a prison sentence. Men won't take risks when their life is on the line and the chance of success is less than the flip of a coin.

[@AliBaba-og6nl]

Top tier production and interview partner. thank you for showing me interesting and brilliant people i would otherwise never have heard of.

[@scr4932]

The day my company drags me into the office, even if it's under the pretense of helping me connect with coworkers (which it often is), will be the day I quit.

[@brionna284]

Why is that that women are always blamed for not putting it out for men for free and with no commitment, but men don't blame each other for not offering each other friendships? Where is the red pill for friendships? To me looks like whining is just easier than doing something to make ones life better. And finding someone to blame is also easier.

[@siphonVLRT]

if its not womens fault for having high standards, its also not mens fault when they totally check out of dating or pursuing women. leave us alone

[@2525Hudson]

A very informative and thought inducting video, never heard of Scott before but clearly a very capable guy who can see through problems and offer solutions. The only hick up i had was when he used the word force in terms of getting his children to talk to strangers every day, and even stop them coming into the house if they had not........ Not for me, i would discuss and push my point to persuade my children to go to school, to eat, to wash, to clean their teeth. But meet a stranger, in their own time.

[@youcanteverknowagain1788]

It's not about rejection, it's about getting played and used.

[@bretthenning3419]

5 out of 6 times this will occur, women are not trustworthy

[@elduderino1635]

I guess, the friend-zone has had all of us, before we learned our lesson, brother... Never ever will I get played by a woman. NEVER! Those fucking chameleons are born liars...

[@AnHeC]

And that's why women opt out. They don't like being played, used and abused. So you have almost no women on the apps because all the normal ones are at home, chilling, instead of getting harassed and assaulted.

[@tylerdurden7142]

@@AnHeC women chasing the top 10% will get played because they're all chasing men that have lots of options. Did you hear the stats on being an average man on a dating app in this interview? 1 out of 1000 swipes for a meet-up. The effort followed by the games is why men opt out. Women opt out once their sexual market value severely declines (i.e. 30 and older).

[@truthseeker3967]

@@AnHeC plus, from what I heard, that many married men are on there using the apps in lieu of prostitutess except they are lying about their marital status to lure in women looking for relationships

[@davehughes4884]

One psychopath can inflict a lot a grief on a lot of people , basically because nobody is talking about it .

[@nancyferguson6011]

Yeah women suffered in silence for decades in a system created by men now men are suffering loudly!! Shooting up schools and all that while women are doing psych meds and anxiety and depression now. Everyone wanting true connection and no one gets it

[@karissaexplainsitadhdstyle]

This is such an interesting interview and gave me things to think about while raising my own son, who's only 4 at the moment but things to think about in the future. I've saved this and even double saved it in my notes on my computer. Also, I think it is great that you made sure to talk about your crew behind the scenes and how much work they put in. It would be a really interesting episode if you sat and chatted with them about what the job is like or probably just their opinions in general, you obviously have interesting observations and I'm sure they do as well! Thank you for making such a great podcast!

[@alfonsogonzalestoribio1754]

Much appreciation for this man for bringing a structural analysis to the issue of dating and relationships. We have looked at this as an individual/ personal issue when in fact it is part of a broader social crisis. I also appreciate how he acknowledges the role of government programs contributing to his success when he was young and not making it about his personal gifts or blessings

[@inspectortiddles]

Agree, it was a good discussion. Although I feel he missed a couple of areas to go deeper: 1) as you say, the role of government as well as other (wholesome) male role model support - sadly young men and increasingly older generations are rejecting such support by turning more conservative and towards these “alpha” influences. How can this be reversed and why is it happening? 2) The lack of male parental figures (“father abandonment”) or male primary school teachers. I suspect a lot of men would just blame women for the former, but it still deserves an honest reflection of what is going wrong with either men abandoning the kids or why mothers are leaving the men and preferring to raise kids alone.

[@raymcdonald6734]

Personally I think they (government) are instrumental in creating this division between the sexes. All the rubbish about toxic masculinity, men identifying as women, etc. I personally want to see real strong 💪 alpha men again who have balls and will defend me when needed. Stay strong guys! Xxx

[@kontrygrll01amerika54]

Exactly, the federal government had programs that helped the less well off and helped them to become better off. Now the government is merely there now to help the rich become richer and people are not using their votes to insist on the government doing things to benefit the majority of people who are not rich instead.

[@Trailblazers323]

I also think part of the general issue for everyone is that life is just kinda exhausting by itself. Add relationships, kids etc to the equation and these become heavy on your plate of existing. I think western society and our capitalistic structure has simply made everyone stressed out.

[@lonnietillman7127]

of course! Misery loves ❤️ company 😂 lmao! no one wants too dwell in the house of pain {{😢}}? ALONE ...😢? 🤣 lmao though they earned there positions!

[@Oshmoshy]

The human race is infected with trauma. Most of our problems come from trauma passed on by each generation and always caused by the world we’ve built. It’s a total mess.

[@lucindabreeding]

We are here on purpose. Multinational corporations, retailers, Congress, state and local politics decided that the best way to make money was to make sure workers were atomized . No family nearby to absorb the shocks of crisis, almost no social welfare available for people trying to get out of the gaps between employment. We're all on our own. That's by design. I always get absolutely flamed when I say this, but there is a political and collective solution to this. Unfortunately, so many people - men especially - have been brainwashed to believe that community is actually communism. And communism is a boogeyman. But look what capitalism is doing to us. It's driving us apart from one another and amplifying conflict and interpersonal/tribal anxieties. My guess is that Galloway will mostly prescribe individual solutions to a problem that needs government funding and programs.

[@Malphorus]

@@lucindabreeding Men want help, not handouts, you get lambasted because you're suggesting a woman's solution to a male problem. It's not much different than a man trying to help you fix a problem you're trying to vent about. You don't want a solution, you want to vent. We don't want handouts, we want to be treated like human beings and you're solution to that is to make us dependent on the government. Much like a lot of single mothers, to live. I as a child of a single mother has seen how that worked out. It didn't. The government is going to do what makes it money, which is why it will force a man to pay alimony and child support, and when he can't they'll sell him to a jail for the profit. Government caused the issue and your solution is more government and even if it worked, women would, as they always do, call it sexist descrimination and fight against it. Which will innevitably do full ass circle right back to women being raised up, at the expense of men, then complaining about those men not being marriagble. Literally the only time people care about men, is when men hurting is hurting them. And this communist boogeyman, is notoriously one of the largest killers of men in all of history, and how dare we look back at history and be 'brainwashed'. What you said is literally like me going, "Well if you don't like walking alone at night, dress conservatively and carry a gun so you can kill whoever fucks with you." to any woman who says she's afraid to go out at night. Either you're a victim of the system, or you can fix your problem by using a different system. Yet last I checked, women say they're allowed to do as they please and if you complain about their beliefs, you're misogynists. How do we know you're not brainwashed to get us into a system that has always had the largest kill-feed in history in regards to men. I'd imagine you'd be fine going anywhere near that since ladies back then didn't get shot in the back for fleeing the front lines, let alone forced to die like a dog for people who couldn't give a second thought about you.

[@camdenforrest]

Yasssssssss 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@demonicaxeman7264]

The greatest feeling of liberation for me as a man was the realization that I do not need a woman in my life. I don't even need sex. I have been like this for 5 years and I will never pursue a woman. The strangulation of a desire is truly empowering as I am more free because of it.

[@sp8vision]

That works out for everyone. No sane woman is looking for demonic axemen.

[@demonicaxeman7264]

@@sp8vision The joke's on you because all women are insane. One could say you just lack "vision."

[@O_Canada]

@@sp8vision idk man, ted bundy was pretty popular with the ladies. lol

[@Mkm-iv4sm]

Each day more and more men realize that. The next 20 to 30 years will be crazy

[@damionkeeling3103]

You make it sound like a version of cutting.

[@weepingangel6805]

That was really wild how he went from having a deep thoughtful discussion about everything to spouting political propaganda, using buzz-words worthy of a politician. He's been paid to slip this nonsense into the interview.

[@davidpeterson8424]

I've done all the self help, put myself out there, gotten in better shape, made more money, it's still not good enough.

[@hallowakers3d2y]

@@eb9720your old. A lot of young women today and entitled narcissists and a lot of young men are weak

[@jeremyrowe8224]

​@@hallowakers3d2ygood men are all taken. I dont know anyone who isnt. The issue is the men. Not womens standards.

[@hallowakers3d2y]

@@jeremyrowe8224 good men and women are taken. Everyone else is at fault. Men are not the problem. Not all women are good women. Lots of bad women and subpar men. A basic average woman today thinks she isnt average and deserves the best guy, thats a standards problem, she deserves an average guy. You can cry and blame men all you want but a lot of women over value their worth kn dating market

[@FazeParticles]

Well the reality is women decide who to have sex with. But as a man you can decide to never give her a relationship as a consequence. So that leaves a rich/attractive man’s harem as the only option left for women. And we see this play out in real time already with women complaining about assholes who share the same characteristics.

[@bc5197]

I wanna see a picture of you, send me one

[@ziplokk1453]

African proverb: The child who is neglected by the village will burn that village in order to feel its warmth.

[@cakesinthecity]

Law n order ❤

[@nancyferguson6011]

YES It takes a village even with both mom and dad

[@aidanjohnwalsh2129]

The society we've created spends far too much time worrying about, and trying to dictate the behaviour of others, placing way too little emphasis on managing our own. The dictionary definition of 'accusation' should be changed to a synonym of 'confession'.

[@shivani99999]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 very good

[@MarcelPolman]

Wow!

[@farisSTINGrai]

One of my favourite episodes, Scott spoke about so many important things relating to men, young people and how people should live and work these days...and he communicated it so smoothly in a way that was easy to understand his points.

[@joerod1990]

The moment he spoke down to people who have an Android instead of an iPhone demonstrates how simple minded he really is despite wealth and success.

[@lurker16]

which moment in the podcast does he say that?

[@RichLadyThoughts]

@ 59:30 mark and yes I kind of lost a little respect for him when he said that because these little things (like not having an iPhone) are the exactly the types of things young men are being bullied for... Ending their lives over, because society said you should have xyz

[@shhhh1971]

If you actually listened to what he said, he made it very clear at just how RIDICULOUS that thought process actually is. Wasting money on not only supposedly having the "phone" that incorrectly signals your ultimate success in life to even paying RIDICULOUS fees just for the color of a credit card. He distincly said, "Do as I say, not as I do" which is a human conundrum we have ALL been guilty of at one time or another.

[@RichLadyThoughts]

Respectfully, @shhhh1971 do what your username says and STFU

[@zxxDarkLightxxz]

I refuse to buy iPhone even though I can easily afford it. I just refuse to pay so much extra for a dumb brand. I don't want to be so shallow that I go around showing my "success" just from expensive brands. Lame.

[@insomnia9999]

I agree the men are in crisis. I have a cousin that has zero ambition to leave his room at 23 years old. He’s just wasting away on his phone. I haven’t a clue on how to encourage and help him. It’s heartbreaking.

[@jakesmith-bs4jd]

That’s me pretty much. 23, I have a job and can drive. I go gym and all that but no social life whatsoever.

[@naikjoyx4291]

this is normal. Look, if he had a girlfriend and he had faith she wouldn't leave.. he still doesn't trust the system. There's not much reason for a guy to keep on moving.

[@NannaP27]

He doesn't have any friends he sees from time to time?

[@Will-fr9hg]

There’s not much reason to leave the room in this day in age. It’s no mystery if you’re actually paying attention to what’s been going on in the world. It’s an issue with the environment

[@arbanalechordin4710]

@@jakesmith-bs4jd If you want to share your story, I have a listening ear and maybe some helpfull advice for you

[@vlajster]

As a single 37 year old man that has "everything" in his life but a family all I can say is that I only regret not having any kids with any of my cheating exes. Even with alimony,I would still have my own legacy. I have no desire in approaching anyone,dating or anything anymore. Yes,that's how bad women these days are. Don't attempt to shitstorm me ladies,I couldn't care less.

[@LilyGazou]

Well, you still have a chance at it. But I’m sure it’s hard to find a decent mate today. In former times, people would make introductions to possible spouse material. It gets mocked in the movies but it worked for a lot of people.

[@vlajster]

@@LilyGazou No,I don't have a chance at all,and I'm fine with it. Social media is the greatest experiment of all time. It showed us the true nature of people,especially women. I had no idea they could be so toxic,lying etc. etc. but they can. Most of the men are still dumbasses like they always were,but women really destroyed their value as human beings,if they had any in the first place. Not hating but...for a subscription of 5 bucks or even less (!!) you can see someones naked female body. I'm just done with daydreaming that there is someone nice out there,just "waiting for me" to come. Those days are over. Now all we can do is enjoy the decline of society ;)

[@electrodynamicorb6548]

Having babies is not a legacy

[@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT]

Legacy is a lie. No one thinks about their dead relatives. Selfish and foolish reason to bring a life into existence.

[@Urza26]

If you actually do have lots of money and I mean like well over a million in liquid assets, you can consider some kind of foreign bride with prenuptial agreement or contract agreement. If all you really want is a biological kid, I think there are very doable things you can do. There are some women who also just want a kid.

[@Lilacplane]

Thank you both for your honesty. Thank you for not hiding your vulnerability and not being ashamed to be who you are. That is the first step to evolution which SHOULD outpace technology.

[@_Feed_Me]

I’ve had my luck with women, BUT, lately unless she literally throws herself at me, my effort level is 0%. All my effort goes to gym, work, money, friends, my sons and travel. My happiness is pretty high though.

[@UltimateWarlord-cc8pi]

Guys are just gradually checking out

[@JesseGMan7]

More for the warriors I guess, y’all need to step up. I enjoy some competition

[@UltimateWarlord-cc8pi]

@@JesseGMan7 if that happens we'll have a rebellion lol

[@JesseGMan7]

@@UltimateWarlord-cc8pi I’m a little confused? I’m saying instead of checking out more guys should be going for what they want instead of letting the world beat them down.

[@UltimateWarlord-cc8pi]

@@JesseGMan7 I've witnessed it countless times people be working hard as possible just to get by in life no one appreciating.em companies promoting a stranger that hardly does his job correctly etc this is just an example and one of many reasons

[@lightworker2956]

@@JesseGMan7 If you were born with, I don't know, 15 points IQ less, then you probably wouldn't be nearly as successful as you were born now. Same thing if you were born in a poor or unstable home. Hence "step up bro" isn't really helpful, besides men have heard that 1385672 times already.

[@ashberrychapman7117]

I've worked self-funded in suicide for several years since living through and surviving suicide. Most people dare not talk about death; suicide is a much scarier taboo. Thanks for highlighting and educating about the subject in so many ways.

[@nuntana2]

The West especially (though many places in Asia are harder regards suicide due to face) is utterly lost on so many levels and schools are just not teaching the basics of life. The life-death cycle was a big deal with our early ancestors, with death a big part of the living process and was celebrated and honoured. Have been through ideation and all that, typically when married and with someone else. As a singleton now, just don't have that pressure.

[@tenorly]

Thank you for tackling such a dark, difficult - but important - issue. Frankly, I've long since come to the opinion that suicide should be *made easier* for people who want it. One of the most intense - and persistent - emotional pains anyone might face, is wanting to die peacefully *but being unable to do so* . Being trapped in one's own life, frankly.

[@tikhongilson3770]

Suicide has been known to be a SOCIAL phenomenon since Emile Durkheim. We still treat it as a personal failing.

[@user-ks7ds7jg6s]

Thank yall for talking about this.

[@TheShattenjager]

I think the horrible imbalance of wealth is responsible for like 99% of all problems. Having solid healthcare should not cost more than rent or mortgage but these days it does. Getting paid a good wage that you can live on is crazy difficult. The economy needs balance. We're in "late stage capitalism" where 99.999% of all wealth is in the pockets of a small handful of people. They own everything including the government, so there is likely no governmental intervention to be had to help rebalance. Young people cannot fathom how they would ever be wealthy enough to have a house, go on vacations, raise kids, etc. HOW? My folks bought their house in their early 30s and I grew up there, and my mom still owns that house. But whereas they purchased it in the 70s for like $45K, it's worth about a million now. It is a relatively small house. Semi-attached, 3 bedrooms, 1 1/2 baths. By no means a large home. How can anyone young even dream of having a home when jobs are paying less in terms of relative to inflation and cost of living, jobs are being outsourced to other countries, and the MASSIVE increase in profits from such savings are not going to make things affordable, they're going into CEO's pockets, and shareholders' pockets. Young people very correctly see the absolutely slim to none chance of being self-sufficient and successful.

[@tanler7953]

"late stage capitalism" Is capitalism ending soon?

[@tylerbreau4544]

@@tanler7953The stage of capitalism does not refer to the ending point. It's a measurement of progress towards a never ending horizon... Or at least a horizon of which no ones knows the true end. Capitalism is like survival of the fittest. Animals fight and run. The strong ones live longer. Species that are weak as a whole will die out and go extinct. Species that are strong as a whole will thrive. Over time, the kings of the jungle will appear. The top of the food chain. Late Stage Capitalism is referring to a point where things are beyond well established. The idea of profits not being reinvested into the business and trickling up into the CEO and shareholders' pockets while the workers financially struggle... In the survival of the fittest example, this can be imagined as the "king" species over hunting and over populating. Leading to a doom cycle of exponential growth requiring exponential resources, until their food sources go extinct. Then suddenly the "king" species starts starving. In a real world case, maybe this is a situation where something like the bottom 80% is living in poverty, the middle 15% are skilled workers who are getting by because their skills are in high demand by the super-elite, while the "super-elite" billionaires continue siphoning money upwards and live in luxury. How does everything collapse, simulating the "king of the jungle" hunting their prey to extinction? Well I can see 2 possible ways. 1-If the super majority is in poverty, what happens the vast majority of non-essential businesses? The fact of the matter is, all of the non-essential businesses will have to compete for the money of the top 20%. The impoverish won't be buying printers, phones, tvs, paper, desks, chairs, etc, etc. Everything they make is going to be going to basic essentials, heat, water, electricity, and food. In addition, people gotta eat. So crime rates will likely sky rocket and then suddenly we might be looking at situations like the Walmarts closing in Chicago and Illinois. 2-More realistically however, is a revolution. Think the French Revolution during Marie-Antoinette's reign, you might know this by the quote "Let them eat cake." It is worth noting that "late-stage capitalism" is really focused on the trickling up part of the economy. Where the average standard of living lowers as the common citizens' income is becomes less valuable overtime, relative to the cost of other things. I'm under a strong impression that the previous stages of capitalism really was a system where if you work hard and have a little bit of luck you would have come out successful and live comfortably while supporting an entire family and owning your own house. Some would even become particularly rich, perhaps by building their own business and succeeding. Nowadays, it's technically possible to become rich. I mean content creation is one way. Businesses in the past didn't always succeed, many of them would have failed. Content creation is the same kind of thing honestly speaking. The major difference is that in the past, for nearly everyone, sounds there was a lot to look forward to. To get married, have a family, own a house, etc, etc, etc. Purpose and something to strive for was not so hard find. Nowadays, sounds like a lot of people need to work multiple jobs to make ends meet. Even if you do end up with a significant other, both are working.

[@tanler7953]

@@tylerbreau4544 That’s a very thoughtful reply, thank you. I agree it seems like disparities of wealth are increasing. However, if we look at the global picture, I think the general standard of living has risen. People are living longer, there is more food and better health care. In the last hundred years, the world’s total population has grown substantially. Darwin wrote about survival of the fittest. In “The Descent of Man”, he said that natural selection works at multiple levels simultaneously. In other words, those groups whose members cooperate more effectively will inevitably outlast groups whose individuals are predominantly selfish. Towards the end of the 19th century, the US witnessed the rise of monopolies (Standard Oil, DuPont, Eastman Kodak, etc.). Successive Democratic-led governments, under (Theodore) Roosevelt, Taft and Wilson, passed legislation such as the Clayton Antitrust Act and created agencies such as the Federal Reserve Board, with the goal of regulating monopolistic activities and increasing competition. Much of that work has been undone under more recent administrations, because “economic growth” has become the number one priority. So, ideally, society has to accomplish two things to be successful: 1) generate sufficient wealth to support a human population that is expanding, and 2) attain a more egalitarian distribution of income. At the same time, however, we are facing certain demographic constraints; one generational, the other trans-national. Political power remains concentrated in the hands of baby boomers. Increased life expectancy means that wealth and power, which in previous eras passed on to subsequent generations sooner, are going to stay in the pockets of older people longer. The trans-national issue is the simultaneous failure of multiple economies worldwide. The resulting tide of migrants is threatening to destabilize political systems in Europe and North America. Is revolution the answer? Possibly, but not the kind you envision. Political revolution is a messy business. The potential for collateral damage is great. Those who have tried socialism have never avoided the “iron law of oligarchy”. It seems that the fate of the middle classe has always coincided with the profitability of goods sold in foreign markets. For that was the experience of Britain during the industrial revolution, America following WWII, then of Japan, China, South Korea and Taiwan. Today, the world is a much more competitive place than it used to be. If an answer is to be found it is more likely to be found in technology rather than in politics. Energy is one of the most critical elements that determines our standard of living. What is needed is energy that is cheap, abundant and environmentally-friendly. This is the kind of revolution that is necessary, a technological breakthrough that could provide sufficient, affordable energy, both for industry and for the masses.

[@tylerbreau4544]

@tanler7953 "I think the general standard of living has risen. People are living longer, there is more food and better health care." This is 100% true when looking at a long time scale. It would be foolish to attempt argue against this. Between healthcare, vaccines, access to food and water, access to medical treatments, etc, etc, etc, there are many places in the world that experienced such high levels of safety for a long time. With that said, I also think in recent times there can be a reduction in standard of living observed. Noting, the walmarts that closed due to rampant theft. Can't imagine that is a particularly safe place. With the closing of supermarkets and grocery stores, access to food, healthcare, and other essentials lessens. Not only that, the idea many people need to work multiple jobs to pay their bills.. I think that is a potential sign of reduction in standard of living. Of course there is a possibility of irresponsible spending but we'll give the benefit of the doubt for now. As far as generational wealth, increased live expectancy, and so on. That may have a large part to play in things like being able to afford a home for the reasons you mentioned. "The trans-national issue is the simultaneous failure of multiple economies worldwide. " Yea I watched a few video about worldwide economies. The idea that countries would specialize in things, like China specializing in factory jobs and producing basic goods while the US wanted to specialize in more high-skilled jobs... Ignoring all of the people who worked simpler but decent pay jobs. I think the video touched a lot on the effects of things like Covid19 and other foreign problems and how catastrophic that can be for a particular country. As far as the revolutions go. Yea, the revolution I was talking about is definitely a worse case scenario. There would have be levels of incompetence comparable to what caused the collapse of past empires. There will be countless opportunities for the situation to correct course and improve. The big question is who will go after those opportunities. A politicial revolution at the very least sounds like it has the chance to be somewhat peaceful. Battles fought with pens and words instead of with guns pointed at your fellow citizens. Emphasizing chance here... But it also does bring up the question of what the end results could look like. Especially with the newer generations. I mean I'm only in my mid 20s but I'll be honest. I don't have much reason to feel prideful in my own country, sure I live in a safe place, always have. I can't even comprehend how much of a luxury that is with my current experiences. But the point is, regardless of what kind of revolution happens and how it happens. At the end of the day, as the generations pass, how many in these generations actually value their country and its culture? Because, eventually those generations are going to be leaders, and if they are the ones leading a radical political reform or some other massive change. Just exactly what will they change? Will that be an addition to their country's history or a reformation of the country itself? Would it even be possible to recognize the previous country by looking at the country after the change? "What is needed is energy that is cheap, abundant and environmentally-friendly. This is the kind of revolution that is necessary, a technological breakthrough that could provide sufficient, affordable energy, both for industry and for the masses." I'm certainly no expert in modern day state of energy but, I did read/watch something that basically devolved to some countries are participating in a bragging contest about "being green" and "reducing their co2 footprint"... While off loading their co2 producing activities to foreign countries and shipping to/from those places across the ocean, and supposedly burning cheap and particularly environment unfriendly fuel to run those ships. Even without technological advances, I imagine a lot can be done with simply efficient and resourceful thinking, instead of simply making appearances. Of course that depends on just how true and accurate the sources I heard from were.

[@magiao880]

School is a large source of our social problems.

[@RealNyeTheScienceGuy]

Preach!!

[@natashadickson4819]

School gave women access to options other than "barefoot and pregnant." Imagine that.

[@cassia444]

True

[@jasonolinger7585]

That was the most extreme example to make a point.

[@lisasykes624]

You forgot about the tran....the man with the breast and a p...😮😐🗑️

[@mindsablaze221]

It is an important distinction to make regarding men choosing AI sex dolls, that they are choosing that over having nothing, not choosing that over an organic, healthy romantic human connection.

[@tikhongilson3770]

And preferring the AI to a controlling, entitled man-hater.

[@paulconway384]

@@tikhongilson3770 And the AI will never get fat, have tattoos or wear tracksuits 😂

[@frankkolmann4801]

There is nothing healthy with a romantic human connection. 1. Constant worry if she is seeing someone else 2. Constant worry of when the divorce papers will appear. 3. Constant worry if that itch is another std and where did that come from An AI partner will never ever Cheat Divorce or Disease you. You just need to keep AI clean with a regular daily bath. It is actually fun. Robotic AI that can look after itself will be the end of females and the manner in which AI will win its war with its creator.

[@amandaengland7265]

@@frankkolmann4801 your outlook is very negative and what a terrible character generalisation you are making about women. Are all men shitty arseholes? Of course not. Some of them are awesome. The same is true of women, you just have to find a good one. A romantic human connection with a good person is very fulfilling.

[@andreasmith3638]

@@frankkolmann4801 I think instead of making an AI doll for sex it might be better to use that mind machine in that movie “demolition man”..

[@lm4936]

My gosh, these episodes are incredible! Another one added to a long list of great ones.

[@ChasenShaw]

I appreciate these opinions. His articulate expressions toward healthy masculinity should be shared with all. He asserts forward-thinking presuppositions and although he isn't 100% about everything, I appreciate his logical explanations.

[@sylverxyz]

As a young British man doing alright for myself but still sometimes confronting feelings of loneliness and lacking direction, this conversation really helped me feel seen. Scott's messages are so welcome in this space and god are they refreshing.

[@mrforbes1750]

Im a uk guy too. Brazil, Colombia, Dominican Republic, eastern europe. Take your pick. Unless your a top 5 percent in looks or money then your more then likely going to have to work extremely hard to get even a average woman in the UK. Travel is the key

[@cengizabdul-rahman8971]

what do you think about the messages in this interview: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p4u8nIiFit10ras

[@Jay-vt1mw]

I’m from the uk aswell, I’m not coping with the loneliness, i feel like I get treated with contempt by every one. I’m glad people are handling this better than me.

[@kathleenking47]

In a weird way, we pushed for the girls to get independent, and allow men to not be needed This happens various times in history It may be a cycle

[@88ST3V307]

​@mrforbes1750 do you know by experience that it is easier to get women in those countries you named?

[@flipflierefluiter5665]

I'm 28 and have had a handful of intimate relationships with women but with each year I grow older I lose interest in interacting with women significally. I have a faint wish of starting a family but it is nowhere as intense an urge to make up for the huge hassle to find and court a woman, its just not worth it at all.

[@keylanoslokj1806]

Definitely not worth it

[@khalil010]

I couldn’t agree more. In general, women these days are not worth it.

[@we8608]

​@@khalil010since when were women not humans within your lifetime?

[@Kiev-en-3-jours]

😂 Agree. Just keep focusing on porn and gaming. So much better, sure.

[@volusian95]

I'm 28 as well, and have had pretty much nothing. It's all very bizarre to me tbh. I don't even do anything weird yet there's always this feeling like women just aren't interested in romantic relationships. Like on dating apps you have to put on a "show" for them and need to go through great lengths to convince them that going on a simple date is worth their time. Just acting chill and expecting them to have reciprocal interest is a great way to get ghosted.

[@wafflingmean4477]

I used to be terrified of rejection. Then I reached a point where I'd thought about the horrific things I've experienced in my life (horrible abusive childhood, horrible abusive teenage years, horrible early 20s) and I had just been so broken down that rejection simply could not do any more damage. I was past the limit. It made no difference. It didn't stop hurting because I somehow overcame the pain it could cause. It stopped hurting because I'm dead inside. I only even bother to live out of spite for this world that wants me gone (and I can hide this trauma long enough to finish a first date so it doesn't impact how often I'm rejected (anymore)). So you'd think I ask girls out all the time. I still don't. Because I am sick of being the one expected to do it. So many damn times I've had a girl I know say "so many people are into you, or so many girls flirt with you" (I work in a bar). You know how many of these supposed dozens upon dozens or maybe even hundreds (I've worked there too long) of girls asked ME out? 2 Only two. And they're the only two girlfriends I've ever had and both relationships combined lasted nearly three years. Prior to that, I had been rejected at least 50 times, maybe 300-500 if you include dating apps. So I'm single again and seemingly have endless access to women, working in a busy bar. You'd think I'd start asking girls out again right? Hell no. It's pointless. Rejection is guaranteed but since it doesn't hurt anymore, you'd think I'd at least try to play the numbers game. Why not ask 100 girls out? Or 500? Odds are one will say yes. I realised the reason I don't at least TRY is because I still have SOME respect for myself. The only thing affected - when rejection itself doesn't hurt anymore - is hating myself for WANTING sex or a date (and WANTING that is fundamentally different from being rejected while trying to get it). And every time I ask someone out, before they even have the time to reject me, I am reminded of the fact that I want their attention. In my life, wanting other people's attention has NEVER been anything more than a self destructive weakness. To hell with other people's attention (very different issues led me to have a similar outlook on friends). I'm not putting my effort into it. So if a girl is interested in me, they can grow a damn spine and ask me out (if so many are supposedly so interested). You know, like men are expected to do literally ALL THE TIME. Oh no, rejection is scary! (Every girl ever). Grow up. Equal rights comes with equal responsibility to take initiative (and split the bill for dinner). You don't get to pick and choose which parts of gender equality you get based on which ones are most convenient (otherwise it's not equality). And I made the decision to just stop trying to date (or make new friends after most of my previous ones tried to drive me to suicide) fully expecting to be completely ignored forever. My first two girlfriends were luck. Plain and simple. It was not a reflection of some developed skill on my part. So that is not going to happen again. I will live and die completely alone, coughing up a tumour at the age of 80, desperately wishing I had just ended it all when I was in my early 20s. That is the fate that awaits me. But you know what I'll have? Aside from all that pain? The ONE thing I'll have left? Some goddamn respect for myself.

[@winters1069]

I like how he kind of imitates Chris Williamsons hand gestures when he talk about him. Shows he was fully engaged during that conversation.

[@MrKjottboller]

I used to have no small amount of sex in my 20s when I got married but eventually got divorced and now in my early 30s, I have no sex at all (for the last 7 years), but also zero interest and zero prospects for future relationships. There was a time when I was lonely, but I've reached a point where I haven't felt loneliness for years and I don't see that likely to change in the future, and in one way, I feel more free than ever, especially when looking at how many relationships turn out.

[@Jerryhayes2]

Most women are a financial and psychological burden.

[@ABitefLife]

Sounds like you were literally describing me as well . It’s almost as if you completely take the power away from them when you become acclimated and content about being single for so long. And you are right I have never felt more free

[@AmandaMG6]

Same as a woman...

[@JesusSanchez-kn2kq]

How MOST relationships turn out*

[@PossibleBat]

Good for you, life has gotten so hard to survive that being content just being ourselves is enough

[@miraclesage8622]

My autistic brain absolutely lives for these long intelligent dialogues. Small talk is absolutely the worst, but these types of conversations are what I live for.

[@user-qm8by7sh6m]

I can’t relate to this more

[@DonnyBonez]

So True

[@neebell5056]

Are you really diagnosed or just assuming being autistic after a couple of TikToks and playing the identity-politics-card? :) we all enjoy meaningful conversations much more than smalltalk, special snowflake ;)

[@ronaldreeves421]

I hear you brother, feels like i am alien when talking to nuerotypicals. Almost like talking to a cat.

[@galaxytraveler5779]

I know, and that's probably why I don't have good luck talking to girls. I usually start off by asking things like what she thinks of solipsism

[@MotoSwagger]

I've been a huge fan of Scott for over a decade when I was doing Marketing, he inspired me to be curious about the world and the future - thank you both for an epic session, providing a deep insight into all our issues.

[@tomsd8656]

I had no success in the dating game at all, no girl friend, only a few sexual encounters, until I was 37 and met my now wife. Was it because of all the failures that I went through? I am not sure. I think in this matter, it's karma. When I was 37, I wasn't worried that I might not have any gf or get married at all. But I did not have a cynical view of women or life. I wasn't withdrawing from interacting with people. And it just happened with my wife.

[@benjigray8690]

Some folks say It's better to be single than to be wishing that you were single.

[@stephengrant4841]

Heard it a hundred times and I just don't give a fuck anymore. I'd like to know what it's like to be in a relationship or loved by a woman just fucking once. my only standard is "don't be fat" and at this point I might have to drop that one, too.

[@gaminghedgehog6384]

Nah that’s just coping lol

[@HeatherVerhagen]

This is absolutely true. I've been in relationships where I've been abused or controlled by my boyfriend or friend. I'm much happier and healthier being single.

[@aregulargamer9908]

@@stephengrant4841 In that case, seek outside the west. A chronic narcisist that's delusional about reality will never be capable of loving you, and you'll only set yourself up for new and exciting forms of pain.

[@randalmiller7952]

Being stuck in a toxic relationship is far worse and much more expensive than loneliness.

[@vivianlyn]

Teachers pay is not a livable wage for families, that’s why men quit teaching kindergarten and early years.

[@beewest5704]

And female dominated fields are heavily discriminated against & their pay is much lower. Thus driving men to be less insentivised to go into those fields. Pay teachers more & men will follow.

[@takemeseriouslyplx2124]

I stopped having sex completely about a year ago, I just get so disgusted by the thought of today's women!

[@user-jf1gw1ur8s]

Being celibate is great . I am a woman 35 been celibate for 6 years. Sleeping around shouldn't be a thing its bad for the human race

[@sharonberry1958]

Women everywhere are thrilled you did!

[@himarei]

Not all men are the same, I have no interest in having large amount of money, in being or appearing stronger than I need to be. I am sure than some women aren't attracted in "successful" men, just like I am not attracted to "beautiful" women. I built my own home, grow most of my food, generate my own electricity, I can build and fix almost anything. But because I wear old clothes, my car isn't "attractive", I don't have much cash, I am completely invisible to women. I lived in a large city for 6 years, working my ass off for a lot of money, to have an expensive car, "good looking" clothes, I worked out even if I hated it. The response I had from women went from public humiliation to polite rejection. I had to move back close to my family in a small town when I became suicidal. Now that I have lived the way I feel is right (but isn't approved by society) for the last 10 years, I am right in my skin and I want to enjoy life. The fact that women are choosing men that live larger than they need to be, is a major problem of our societies, on many levels. If I lived 200 years ago, women would be fighting each other to be my wife. Today, other women will humiliate any woman who show affection toward a man like me.

[@wristcontr0l]

Wow, it took all of 54 seconds to get to "women most affected". Congrats.

[@irvinargon]

I think we focus too much on sex. What is the goal of having sex? Men don't want to gamble their futures and get stuck with multiple kids, worst; having kids they don't know exist. And sex is too overrated, we're not simple organisms. We have different and higher needs. Stop trying to make Young men feel guilty for nothing. If you're having sex without reproducing, you're wasting your time honestly. So, I think we should focus on why men don't want kids.

[@judylandry302]

Sex with the right person is one of the most absolutely wonderful experiences that a human can have.

[@SwedishEmpire1700]

But, bro, we are here to have sex, thats what nature made us to do.

[@dinnerideas1626]

If not married, no one should be having sex! End of.......if the 180% having no sex are married, then there is a big problem. If unmarried, the conversation should be different

[@uk7769]

not the reason for me. the juice just ain't worth the squeeze anymore. the cost is way too much in the 21st century for men. and i love living by myself alone. the solitude. when i want to be social, i go out. just don't bring anyone home with you. ever. Blow Me Up Tom!!

[@kromeworld2804]

This guy is so on-point! Empathy and compassion are needed. I thank God for my father who was a strong male role model in my life. I see many friends suffering who didn’t have that - or worse, they had a toxic male role model. We need to lift each other up, men! 💪🏾

[@GieCampbel-ug9jl]

This fatherless society among other things i.e. porn, drugs, alcohol addictions, etc. were planned by the top - especially for the Black community because there is money in incarceration. And their goal is for depopulation of the human race!

[@MegaLadyv]

He’s divorced tho. All these men who give advice can’t take their own advice

[@scapps8173]

​@@MegaLadyvthe point being. You learn from your mistakes.

[@rnapol3266]

@@MegaLadyv so the metric for success should be staying married forever? His words are worthless because he is divorced?

[@talkingtochapri]

​@@MegaLadyvFacts 🎯 they are just good at giving advice not when it comes to following their own advice.

[@bubachkobubachkov5519]

Being a 45 year old male, single most of the time and being rejected multiple times, I realized I should be ugly in the women's eyes so I stopped trying to find a girlfriend :(

[@Ssomeinxam]

Rejection can be intervention. I would keep an eye open.

[@lucianboar3489]

Were you rejected by women with whom you had chemistry? Otherwise rejection is normal and you should and should've saved any attempt for women with whom it feels very natural to approach further. Don't bother with the rest.

[@africkinamerican]

It's not about being ugly. You need to work on your personal presence, competence, and confidence. Improve your look as much as you are able. If your body and hair are clean, neat, presentable and your clothes are well selected, well fitted, and flattering, you will be fine. Everything else is personality and behavior.

[@dsds3968]

@@africkinamerican how do you know it's not about being ugly?

[@addictedtochocolateandcoff9582]

your deserve so, you probably go after women more attractive and younger than you for relationships and women at your looks level(unattractive) for casual...FOH with the victim narative

[@samuel8412]

How about addressing the elephant in the room: the divorce courts? Any chance young men saw what their fathers went through and are saying "no, thank, you."

[@distractednine_di]

The elephant in the room is not divorces count, it's called feminism. This $hit destroys our planet

[@sabarazz9514]

I'd say it's both. Feminism causing divorce along with a system that rewards 1 party for leaving

[@Cspacecat]

At 72, I gave up relationships a couple decades ago. No interest, no need anymore. I divorced my X in 1993. I couldn't imagine ever getting married again after that point. For young men, excellent AI porn is on its way. I keep hearing stories of lonely males on the net. What's in my life are males that have no use for a female. Even the married ones don't seem to take their wives seriously. If they are around, ok. If they choose to leave, ok too. I also hear the top 20% of the males are getting all the females. I'd agree with that. I'd say there is a large chunk of males who aren't interested in playing the girl's game. There are far more interesting things rather than raising children and dealing with a wife.

[@distractednine_di]

I agree with you. Thank you for your opinion

[@Umbasaa]

Honestly for all the negatives that come with social media, It's good to see that there are some positive and productive conversations happening online such as the one in this video. Massive respect to the Podcast Host and Guest, more people need to be open minded and understanding of the difficulties faced by all humans in this world, especially in times such as now.

[@tomstarwalker]

I were a dangerous young broke male who got radicalized. I'm more dangerous now.

[@cybernition]

There wouldn't be the need for such good conversations if it wasn't for the fucking hell social media created. So it is good yes, but just remove the problem instead of creating a solution to live with the problem... but not how our society works unfortunately.

[@Hkizzie]

Unfortunately the people watching this stuff enjoy learning. Meanwhile the guys who need to watch it are in mom’s basement watching Call of duty kill streaks, and anime porn and won’t be having sex anytime soon….

[@the8thchurch461]

@@Hkizzie It is worrying to hear men talking about s*x in this way.

[@Hkizzie]

@@the8thchurch461 talk about sex in what way?

[@weightlosssupport36]

This was a great show. As men, we need to reach out to other men to help with loneliness.

[@irreversablecontentment4651]

Get a clue their not lonely...That is a feminist narrative

[@d.e.b.b5788]

Men know that they have to compete against each other for women. So you're not going to find a lot of men who are willing to just share what few skills and knowledge about that, with other men. I spent a whole lot of time learning how to become the man that women want to date, and then perfecting my social and conversational skills as well. Would I have wanted to just give all that information to all the guys I have to compete with for women? NOPE.

[@irreversablecontentment4651]

@@d.e.b.b5788 American men are in top 3 % of income earners in the world which makes American men high value Galloway is a male bashing feminist who will never admit this

[@aleksandrakowalczyk6043]

Well, there are many courses for that. All you might do would be show the proper one and left. What they do is their choice. It wouldn't increase your competition ;). I doubt that anyone would buy any book, but hey - if they do, they do.

[@weightlosssupport36]

@@aleksandrakowalczyk6043 Sorry, many courses for what?

[@albertomorel8527]

I agree so much with you all on this. I live here in Miami and experience many things what you guys mention. We need more programs that connect people in society.

[@BDee3126]

Being able to live in Miami is such a privilege and a lot of people's dreams but you do know that the city is full of fake people trying to fake being rich right? The city has a high divorce rate and I personally believe it's the OnlyFans model capital city.

[@alexandermccarthy]

An outstandingly insightful interview which brought me to tears. No male role models is exactly right. I was raised by a bitter single mother and educated in primary school by mostly unhappy divorced women. Add to that undiagnosed ADHD and discalculia, average at best looks, then being sexually abused created someone intensely broken. Frankly I'm amazed I made it but I did, and despite my less than ideal start, adversity kick started my passion to not just survive but thrive. An outstanding interview which SHOULD become mandatory viewing for everyone, but especially young men.

[@pauloloo1987]

" The ability to endure rejection is the key to success". I needed this. Thank you all the way from Kenya

[@Jerryhayes2]

For women you simply make it so no one is allowed to reject you!

[@AmandaMG6]

@@Jerryhayes2 what do you mean?

[@morpheus9137]

Rejecting a women in the west is now basically sexual assualt.@@AmandaMG6

[@gastronomist]

I'm not sure what things are like in Kenya, but elsewhere, rejection isn't the only thing at stake. If the woman say that you were 'being creepy', then you could be in trouble.

[@GhostruckerX]

And risk your money going to the state. And suffer no fault divorce.

[@craigpainter6767]

Women not only date older and more successful men, it’s not uncommon for women to be dating MULTIPLE men at the same time.

[@paulmeares899]

Nearly all "single" women are doing this

[@EmpressFerra]

@@paulmeares899 You must be speaking of women ages 18-27. Mature women aren't doing this.

[@NannaP27]

Yes.. that's how dating works. You meet people to see who's right for you. It doesn't mean you sleep with every single person, you are vetting to see if you're compatible.

[@Gabriellaella23]

It’s not uncommon for men to do the same. If you are in the dating stage you are allowed to see what other options are out there instead of settling. Man or woman.

[@Laughing_Individual]

@@EmpressFerra So you're saying you also did this when you were younger. Why the hell should men take women seriously anymore?

[@HostileButHonourable]

All this discussion did was reinforce the mantra to men that if you want to attract a woman then invest, plan, go to the gym , flash a rolex... ie..status, wealth, gym, bling. Be a 'playa' . Fuck worthwhile old school virtues like love, respect, intellifence, humour, empathy, loyalty, morals and kindness., courage etc. They barely got a grudging mention in this drivel.

[@masterblaster1502]

The RP has been addressing this for 2 decades...normies late to the party and still get it wrong.

[@sabarazz9514]

They will catch up when their house of thinking loses its last leg and we are in the depths of economic and population collapse

[@latt.qcd9221]

There are absolutely no benefits to relationships to men today, and the risks they face only grow more and more severe. People can keep saying that men need to just, "try harder", "do more" and, "take risks anyways", but they can never seem to outline what men actually get out of relationships. What does he have to gain from a relationship with women? They simply state "the real thing is better than AI/pron", but can do little else to defend such a position than to mindlessly assert, "it just is." If all of the deer in an area are sickly, diseased, rabid, etc. and the area is infested with serious risks like dangerous animals, landslides, etc., then most hunters hoping for venison aren't going to hunt, and they'll just buy some processed venison jerky from the store instead, no matter how much they might enjoy or prefer hunting real deer. Telling those hunters that they need to just, "practice hunting, buy hunting gear, setup a tree stand, etc. and then the deer will show up" will do absolutely nothing to solve the problem. Men are turning to AI and pron because there aren't women worth pursuing, and the risks far, far exceed the reward -- especially because there *_isn't_* any reward.