It's confirmed... Derik has to get ANOTHER surgery

[@kristinireland-doll6562]

My knee story, over 40 years I had 13 surgeries, 2 years ago finally just gave up and had full knee replacement. Best thing ever. I can't tell in my everyday life I had this done. I can kneel down etc. Spent years in pain, limping around, passed on doing fun things because I knew my knee would not hold up. In those 13 surgeries, bone graphs, skins graphs etc. Very very long journey to now, new one works better than the other original that I still have. Yes back when this all started had two small ones, was in a wheelchair for 4 weeks in there too. Good luck to you.

[@joannejepson5333]

I went in for torn meniscus arthroscopic surgery and the surgical notes said it couldn’t be repaired because it was torn off the root. So I Need a full knee replacement. Shot in each knee gave me some relief, 50% feel better. But yeah, I cannot kneel , and use a cane or a crutch. Just waiting on doc to give me the ok

[@cristalhenson95]

My hubby had a knee surgery and we had 2 little ones. His Mom helped out as much as she could. We made sure that the nights were just him and I. I also made sure I didn't forget to take a shower and do my hair and makeup. Even if I wasn't going anywhere I felt good about myself. You guys are such a great couple!! Play card games, or just talk. I know this is going to be hard but you got this!!!

[@AllySun3]

My husband fell and tore his mcl, acl & meniscus. Doctors used a donor meniscus to replace his. He healed well, just took a long a** time. Sometimes as spouses, just gotta roll with the punches. Praying for you all & I’m sad they want to do surgery again because I know how much that sucks & is no rodeo for Derik either. Hang in there, guys. Praying full & complete protection & healing. 🙏

[@Chantal_4107]

As a PT who worked in pediatrics in the past, I would definitely take advantage of the Early Intervention program in Utah that somebody else mentioned. Trunk strength is definitely weak as she's not able to sustain a sitting position independently, and she may be developing muscle imbalance and tightness in some key muscle groups. There are some great play-based excises that they can show you and that will help a lot. Best of luck! ❤️

[@Mila_Brearey]

Yes but she can support her trunk perfectly as long as she is on her knees or standing up.

[@madelinemaddie5290]

Just to the PT. They said they were concerned about it, trunk or knees. Just take care of the baby.

[@michelleb6363]

Put her in baby tumble class or gymnastics it’ll strengthen her core. If it’s not a medical issue, make it fun for her. Been there with mine. It’ll be fine.

[@sherriemetcalf7120]

I’m so sorry for the struggle you’ve all been through lately, and the upcoming surgery again for Derik. Sunny may be having a little struggle as well. She may be ‘W’ sitting because she needs a wider base of support to keep from falling. She may have some muscles that are a little tighter and others that are a little weaker so needs to ‘W-sit’ in order to maintain her balance. She may need a little therapy herself. The Early Intervention Program in Utah offers free therapy evaluations in your home if you are interested. You guys are awesome parents! 😊

[@katek4275]

Yes, the W-sit is not good. It can create knock knees (genu valgum) and turn into a larger problem. Definitely seek resources to nip it in the bud before it becomes more of a habit

[@seannewoods2296]

I agree

[@staciesayre5521]

I also agree. It is very bad for the knees and hips and alignment. Why have they not seemed medical attention for it yet? They know it is an issue. I don't understand.

[@beverlyt.5526]

My now adult Step Daughter and mother of 5 boys ALWAYS sat like that from a young baby girl until the present time. She's NEVER had any hip, leg or any medical Issues because of it. Some children just sit that way. Sunny goes to her Well Child Visits and as a Pediatric Nurse I know the Pediatricians always checks the child's hips. It's not like they have neglected anything as parents!!!

[@smileyjuls93]

Sarah, my Dr had me buy this stuff last yr called Xlean. It's an all natural nasal spray, w/xylotol(?) in it, and it works wonderfully for stuffy noses, allergies, etc. It helps to disinfect your sinuses by keeping it clear of bacteria & pollutants. I have yr round allergies, live in OR, and prone to sinus infections, & that has helped me sooo much! Praying for complete healing after surgery this time 🙏❤️‍🩹 Have a great Thanksgiving in Hawaii too! 🎉💜 Hard to believe Jack is 3 & Sunny girl almost a yr old! 🥰

[@rahelaiernea4361]

Dear Sara and Derek I dont know if this will help but I hope it will. Anyway I had something less major than you it was just a Bakers Cyst that was removed by surgery but let me tell you this just for 1 month I could bearly walk from my bed to toilet. The place felt numbed for 3 years at touching and bending the knee. It took me 5 years to finally bend my knee all the way and fill it back as it was before. Healing takes a lot of time and patience and you need both to have it so you can enjoy the rest of your like pain free so you can do more activities with your children and wife. Sending all my love to you all❤❤❤❤

[@aunt_b3365]

Oh my Sunny has grown so much! So has jack.

[@juleswick]

Jack’s curiosity and his attention to detail at such a YOUNG age is really impressive!!! Jack’s out there “filling the well” and noticing the world around him! Keep it up little man! ❤❤❤

[@catrinaogilvie5461]

Only advice is to remember it is only 6 weeks - sounds a lot but if you put a calendar of the time on the fridge or something and let the kids and Sarah mark off each day/week it will whizz by - maybe give yourselves a joint reward at the end of each week (dinner out without the kids etc..) to maintain your connection (instead of nurse/patient) 😘

[@davinarathbun2693]

I'm 67 now but 20 years ago I finally had both knees replaced. The best decision ever. I had all of the other surgeries. They were so much worse. My physical therapy was salmon fishing. You had to go over logs under branches and through raspberry bushes....my surgeon was so happy with my healing. The recovery was soooooo much faster than the others. I had needed replacements since I was 15 and had a speed skiing accident. Don't fear replacements.

[@thegratitudeguru]

I am so sorry, Derik (and Sarah, too!) I have a history with my knee that includes a couple of meniscus surgeries and it is always hard being in the recovery portion where it just feels so confining and takes enormous patience and resilience and can really take such a toll on everyone's mental health. I am happy to report that there was a light at the end of the tunnel and a LOT of time being able to do a lot of things again -- but it did require much more discernment and caution than I used to proceed with. There also were some things that I just really couldn't do anymore. BUT...there is so much life on the other side and I really believe you can do this and will get through the hard moments! You guys have such a great support system and I encourage you both to rely on it as much as you need and definitely make room to take care of yourselves and do other things that fulfill you (more mind and spirit and less body for just a while!). Wishing you all the best!

[@beverlyt.5526]

Very Nice Comment ❤. New York Here

[@IS_THIS_CHRIS]

I had a full open knee surgery when my ACL detached from the femur bone. I had a 9 month old at the time and 8 weeks after the surgery I found out I was pregnant with baby #2. Six months into the pregnancy my ACL came off again and I have never had anything else done to it, I was 19 and was told I needed a new knee but if I did get it done I would be looking at many surgeries over my lifetime. I just let the other ligaments compensate for the lost ACL but I have always felt a severe lack of stability and it honestly kept me from doing many many things during the last 27 years because I was always terrified my knee would completely fall apart. Now my "Good" knee has popped a ligament so I walk around like I'm going to fall at any second. Don't live with any instability in your knees because it will seriously impact how you live your life in ways you would never think.

[@marylandnall4142]

Hey guys! I know Sunny only wanting to sit on her knees isn’t something you love talking about, but I’m glad you have because I can give you some advice! My 22 month old little girl did the same thing ever since she could crawls and she is now having to take physical therapy as well as wear “AFOS” because sitting like that caused too much pronation in her feet/ankles and it’s too unstable for her to walk now. Sunny seems to be doing much better than my LO, but I do advise you to do your best to discourage her from doing that so you don’t have a 2 year old walking on their knees like me. Thankfully physical therapy is doing wonders and we’ve got a goal of her walking by her birthday!

[@marisagreen2206]

I just commented about this too! I don’t have kids but I grew up sitting like that until I was 15, when I was diagnosed with PFS. I still deal with lots of pain from it. I’m glad you’re able to get your child into physical therapy, it wasn’t very well known when I was younger and none of us thought there was any concern.

[@staciesayre5521]

They definitely need to be more proactive about it now. Doing nothing this long already is making her body develop and form the wrong way.

[@loisboling9287]

Get that girl to an orthopedic doctor sooner than later.

[@User14816]

It’s not Jack,that’s why.

[@RainbowJoJo]

Dude, I did research and found that when you have bad knee problems it's best to do a full knee replacement. I just had mine done in April 2023 and I'm 41 and not even close to good health like you all and it was the best choice I could have made. I had a meniscus tear and they did a surgery and removed it and it did the same thing as yours so I said do the full replacement. No regrets at all.

[@kimberlywatson3530]

Girl…I can relate to you so much. My husband is on week 4 post op from ankle surgery and it is ROUGH. I have 3 small children at home and sicknesses are constantly just circulating through the house. What seemed to work for ME (it’s kind of harsh, but this is how my brain works and how I cope) is to not let myself feel sorry for me for a second. No one is coming to save me from taking care of everyone (sometimes grandparents help which is appreciated) but it doesn’t do my mental health any good to feel sorry for myself. I hope this comes across helpful🙏😂 The work is nonstop until the kids are in bed and then I give myself a few hours to refill my cup before I go to bed, but during the day it is full on! Praying for your family!❤️

[@beverlyt.5526]

God Bless You and Your Family 🙏💕✨🌹!!! Great Job Keeping It All Together, Woman Rock ❤!!! NY Here

[@kimberlywatson3530]

@@beverlyt.5526 thank you so much!❤️

[@sharondoan1447]

One consolation that has worked for me is to remember this too will pass.

[@joyceperkins6590]

That's what happens when you have kids live with it till they grow up.

[@amymartin120]

I've had both the surgeries. The full knee surgery on my left knee. It actually went well. Long recovery, but I've had no problems afterwards, it's been 33 years. Then after a dislocation on my right knee, just had the laparoscopic surgery. Sadly I've had a lot of problems with it. I'm actually in a knee brace now for extra support because of the knee being very weak. I wish you the best. Jack and Sunny are growing up so fast.💜

[@MicheleWalkerWebb]

Good luck. Sending good vibes.

[@ednanelson1897]

I can't believe Sunny will be a year next month. Wow! I pray this surgery goes smoothly for you. Safe travels during the holidays. Enjoy 😊

[@dreed1058]

A) Give your knee time to heal COMPLETELY! B) Get some respite time for Sarah by hiring help if needed, and schedule your hobby/alone time & stick to it! C) The kids are FINE, they will go with the flow - thankfully you tend to lift one another up!! LAST, darn (pun?), I plan on using that ThredUp discount😂❤ Hugs to all.

[@lanaslepecky1675]

As a single mom who injured herself on the last day of vacation. It is a struggle having an injured leg/knee while trying to take care of two kids and a household and work full time! I totally understand how you feel sarah! I myself injured both legs as well its rough on both ends! Sending healing prayers!

[@cindibush8880]

I'm hoping your surgery goes well. I had a very similar surgery many years ago . I'm 70.. blew out my knee snow skiing 30 yrs ago. I had one mean surgeon. Army guy(retired) bedside manner of a Cobrar.... But.. he did a good job Even today this could not be done orthoscopically..So I have one large scar..It took a year of therapy..But.I was back on the slopes the NX season and did great.(just a good intermediate skier.) I really miss it.....I still have staples...and my arthritis is terrible..But I've got a working Knee..🎉❤🎉❤ Good luck. Love your beautiful family 💜💜💜💜

[@kaylabruner1045]

Ortho surgeries are always so difficult -- for this time around, no matter what you choose, since you are near your parents I wouldn't hesitate to rely on them more in this season of your life. Grandparents can be lifesavers! Wishing you both the best xx

[@caliblue2]

Guys I’ve been there- probably the most important thing is hiring someone to help with the kids. They are super active and Sarah can’t do it all. I like to make some meals in advance and freeze them. Put an ice cooler next to the bed to get your own drinks. Get everything as set up as you can for immobility. Don’t guilt trip yourself out or worry. Do lots of gentle stretching before and after. Oh and stay barefoot on the beach the entire time you’re in Hawaii 🥰🌺🌴🌊🌅

[@emeraldtears5621]

I’m in awe. Sarah you are blessed with loving family and many many friends. Utilize them in this time and be grateful for the people in your life and not such like I can’t it’s too hard. You are very privileged and it makes me feel some type of way that your like what do I do? You just do it and stop with resentment.Hobbies? Get over it

[@sunburnz]

You sound resentful. How bout you just let her feel how she feels and stop acting like you know her well enough to critique her

[@emeraldtears5621]

@@sunburnz how about they asked for suggestions sooo I have mine.

[@2BOutspoken]

December 6th is mine; she is going to be so much more awesome than she already is. And I'm super clumsy and spent most my childhood at the ER at Hoag hospital in Newport Beach, CA. I hope she grows out of it; I never did. Last night at almost 65 I tripped over a big rock and fell on a bunch of other rocks. Also I have had this horrible cold for 3 weeks now, I feel my voice will never come back. Hope you all get better soon. Good luck with the new surgery. AND>>>>> I miss you guys when you don't post.

[@emmshelley]

We call the way Sunny sits "the wicked w" in dance classes, as it can stretch the inside of your knees and cause pain as you get older. Not much you can do right now but encourage new ways of sitting, amd try to reposition when you notice shes been there for longer than a couple seconds ❤

[@nilanjasa007]

I sit like that too voluntarily. It's very comfortable for me. Is it bad?

[@nilanjasa007]

I sit like that too voluntarily. It's very comfortable for me. Is it bad?

[@cindiallain8542]

Feeling interested in sharing the crepe recipe? I’d love to try them. Derik you are correct about Sunny’s knees. That is the worst position for them to sit it. It can do damage to their legs. Good of you all to stop that. My suggestion. Hire a friend or a nanny for 6 weeks to help Sara. Or if family will rotate weeks that could help too. Have you heard of a meal train? Usually between friends or Church groups. Every night someone brings a meal in for you. If you want more info on that I can get you a link. Pray. Never enough. Derick I had back to back knee surgeries only mine were replacements. In Jan a partial and in August full replacement. Unfortunately, to the same knee. It is no fun. Would you be able to use a Walker vs crutches? Take your pain meds as prescribed for at least 2 weeks. 🎉 keep the knee elevated. Ask your Dr for a machine that sends cold water thru a hose to your knee. Those are so much better than holding an ice pack. In mine we used bottles of water frozen . I’ll look up the name if interested. I’m really sorry you have to go thru this again. I’m still waiting to be able to drive again. I’ll be praying for you both.

[@jeromejackson1029]

Feel for you Derick. I had to have three surgeries on my meniscus on the same leg. It hurts but after the third surgery it finally worked. Will be praying for you and your family! God bless you all!

[@MicheleWalkerWebb]

I'm glad it all worked out.

[@AshieC119]

7:20 as someone who sat like this my whole life, I would recommend mentioning this to her doctor, I sat like that my whole entire life and now I suffer with hip dysplasia (not life threatening, just very uncomfortable) and my knees are not the best either. Read up about the W position sitting. I didn’t find out till I was 18. It can be fixed before it gets to my position.

[@patriciasmith2827]

Hang in there Derek and do what you have to do to make your life healthy. Sarah, this is the "through sickness and health" part. You are right in needing to pursue your hobbies to keep the "you" part alive and balanced. Lean on your families at this stage. Love to you all during this holiday season! ❤❤❤❤

[@catherinemartinez5542]

There's actually not that many. It's mostly positive. Stop trying to stir the pot.

[@patriciasmith2827]

@@catherinemartinez5542 I don't usually comment on their posts. I did not mean to "stir the pot"; so, thank you for bringing that to my attention. I have removed the offensive statement. Have a lively and lovely holiday season !

[@sharonrimsza7960]

Yes, negative comments are really not necessary. People are being judgmental based on their experience in life, not what is best for Sara and Derek’s life.

[@patriciasmith2827]

@@sharonrimsza7960 is my comment still negative? Please tell me so I can correct it and myself. TIA

[@bonnieplattner3094]

Dont get upset by the comment police. Anyone that makes money by puting their lives on social media can expect others opinions. Yours is totally appropriate.

[@cecilehoare3053]

After helping my husband through two knee replacements within 6 months I would suggest to Sarah, schedule a babysitter outside of the house. Make it a schedule for the sitter and for you! You need time for yourself, you need time for keeping the house up, you need time for you and Derik! The kids will bounce back and it will also help them with growing through the separation anxiety. Go to the gym, go get your nails done, go get your hair done etc. Get Derik an in home wheel chair, they are narrower. Get a shower seat so he can tend to his bathroom needs easier. If your shower doesn't have a hand held shower sprayer, get one installed before the next surgery. Prep some meals before hand. When you make dishes now, make enough for a second meal and freeze them. It's cheaper and easier to pop out and defrost or put directly into the oven. I don't know if you have them in your area but do grocery order pick-up, you don't have time to be wandering around the grocery store, let someone else do that! When the kids go for naps, all of you go for naps!!! That's a few things I could recommend, hopefully this time Derik's knee heals and this is the last of the surgeries...

[@Maryb-j5k]

Hopefully your surgery goes well, Derrick. We love you guys ❤️❤️ please take care after the surgery this time

[@kimcook844]

Glad to see you all again!! Missed ya lots. Praying for you Derrick. Can't imagine how much you hate another surgery. You are su h a hands on dad but, im sure Sarah can hold down the fort. Youbguys are a team and thats what ya do for each other. My hubby never helped me with our children or housework or anything. He saidnhenworked n bought home the bacon n that was his job!! 70's man!! Lol!! But we just celebrated 48 uears together. Love u guys! Please try to put out more videos. Good luck and may GOD bless you all!! Keep looking up!!❤

[@forestforthetrees1111]

Derek's famous last words: "I maybe pushed it too much." Will he ever learn? Stay tuned.

[@CocoTheDiamond]

Derik you are going to have to listen to your doctors and actually REST and do nothing for a year. i know that's hard. but you're not going to heal if you keep fighting this. do it for your family... no activity, none, let the knees heal. stop fighting against it. hope you guys have an amazing time in hawaii.... happy thanksgiving... please do more videos! you've barely posted in a long time!

[@lisaloschiavo8874]

Do work on Sunny with the sitting. That kind of sitting often accompanies poorer core strength. It's also harder on joints. Pediatric occupational therapists can help guide you on this. Early intervention is best. Coming from a momma who had a kiddo in OT.

[@btuller1772]

I'm a daycare teacher and this maybe a good or a not so good suggestion. Maybe look into part time daycare during this time. A couple mornings a week to give you time to get things done, to rest or do your hobbies. Depending on your kids it may not be worth the adjustment they'd have to go through adapting to a new environment but they also might love it. Other kids to play with, other toys then at home, fun activities. Just a thought. Also might not be worth the time looking for a good daycare or getting into a daycare as space can be limited.

[@carolewynn9407]

Just remember how lucky you are, yes you've got to have another operation, but it's not life threatening. You have so much more than many people, no worries of losing your home, or being unable to pay bills, when you're recuperating, think of the positives.

[@lindahinds8388]

😢 sorry to hear you need more surgery. I can sympathize with you. I destroyed both my knees at 8 years old. I popped both knee caps out of place and was drugged around in a circle for about 3 minutes. That was back in 1964. Surgery was extreme back then. With no guarantee that the surgery would even help so my parents decided that there wouldn't be any surgery. I now have no cartilage, bone spurs and severe arthritis because through the years they continued to pop out of place. So once they do this surgery please allow your knee all time needed to heal, I know that isn't going to be easy.

[@chrisderouchey1491]

Definitely ask the ped about how Sunny is sitting asap. It’s called the W sit and is really bad for their leg/hip development.

[@aprilrich807]

Circumstances like that are very stressful. My oldest son was just 13 months old when my second son was born. We came home from the hospital on Thanksgiving Day. My husband returned to work the following Monday. He severely burned both hands that day. So…I basically had total care for him, our newborn and 13 month old. And I myself was still recuperating from childbirth. It was a very rough time, with a lot of tears. But…you just do what you must and take it a day at a time. 🤷‍♀️

[@wilmalugar4502]

I had a complete knee replacement. Had no problem. I had therapy for 3weeks and it was great. No problems.

[@francesmeehan5647]

I can't begin to offer advice but I hope your surgery is successful in every way. Derick please be careful with the knee. It won't be easy and I will have many fingers crossed. Sarah, you are a wonderful and beautiful Mom and wife. With two small kids and a husband who has just had surgery to deal with each and every day until Derick is back on his feet will be hard. Take time for yourself and do something you love to do. I wish you all the best through these trying times. Enjoy your trip to Hawaii. Love you all and love watching your adventures.

[@karanorris578]

Sorry to hear the bad news 😢 about surgery. Hopefully this goes well this time. Happy thanksgiving from your Canadian neighbour! Safe travels have a great time it’s beautiful there.

[@bethdeaton4649]

my husband had reconstructive knee surgery in 1986 and is still on his feet ... has a couple bolts and what not but he followed his dr and swam everyday at our local YMCA for close to 18 months .... we had been married one year when he got hurt at work .... no kids but we heat with wood & you pick up the chores as needed ... i remember the first bath after his surgery ( that was to be routine fix othroscopic but took about 3hours) i about puked and that was just about all the movement for that day ... could not imagine having two kids in the mix ‼️ enjoy that Thanksgiving trip 🍂🍁🌾

[@marytomlinson290]

Awww the kids are growing sooo fast, Jack looks just like his mommy, Sunny looks just like her daddy!!! Such a beautiful family

[@enigma_-_79]

😂 I think it’s the opposite way around. Jack is the image of daddy while Sunny definitely favours mommy.

[@melissathomas7402]

I agree that Jack is the spitting image of his mom and Sunny looks just like dad!

[@enigma_-_79]

@@melissathomas7402 🤣👍🏻

[@carylgilmer]

Sorry for your wows. My husband has had two knee replacements. Best thing he ever did. The only draw back is actually getting on his knees but he is much older so that may not affect you. I hope all goes well. Enjoy your families over the holidays.

[@ElizaaKin]

I wish you and your family the best, and all the love! ❤❤❤

[@judyann-lc7eb]

To help your knee heal and prevent further complications drink unfiltered aloe vera juice twice a day. 1/4 of a cup. You can put the aloe in a smoothie. Or if you can simply down it straight (like me) go for it. Also take 3 omega fish oil daily. I guarantee your knee will heal 60%faster. Also, continue this regiment throughout your life. I had a serious sky accident when I was 22 yrs old. I never had the surgeries on both my knees, although the knee doctor said it was necessary. Instead I started drinking aloe vera and taking omega and fast forward 50 yrs I never had to have the surgery

[@Jedi2024]

My daughter sat the same way. Could not break the habit. At a well check up the pediatrician I was informed my daughter had shown Hip Dysplasia and Issues with her knees. Had to see Ortho - pediatrician. There was still time to save and reversed. A funny note. I had to put high top tennis shoes on her at bedtime and tie her shoes together. 😂 it was very hard to stop her from sitting like that. She even slept like a frog.

[@jenniferlumberry3728]

I’m 35 & was just diagnosed with hip dysplasia & my only option now is hip replacement. Definitely good when it’s caught earlier

[@robinwojcik5196]

Good luck with your surgery. I’m getting a total knee replacement on the 29th. I had major Rotator cuff surgery just 6 months ago. A good support system is essential to good healing. Sarah, you know what is expected of you. Just be there for him. He needs you. My husband is my rock. He takes great care of me.

[@leighanncronin6905]

Ive noticed how alike that Jack and Ozzy are. Both full of energy...and Sunny and Stella are more quiet and always so happy. I know we only see a small part of your lives, but I think Jack and Ozzy take after their Moms and Sunny and Stella take after Derik and Tanner.😊❤

[@jennifert8224]

13:33 i think you need a humidifier in the house. Or at least in your bedroom when you sleep. 😊 I live in Alberta Canada.. Rocky Mountains.. and the winter gets sooo dry! I bet that’s what’s happening to you guys. I would try a humidifier.

[@Baba_Wawa]

Wishing Sara & Derik’s knees a speedy recovery! 💜 & 🙏🏽’s!

[@leannekenneally9488]

Derik. Not Sarah.

[@Baba_Wawa]

@@leannekenneally9488 I meant Derek’s need & Sara as she mentioned she’s been feeling unwell for sometime. Perhaps I should’ve worded that better.

[@apriladaum1020]

⁠@@Baba_Wawa - I understood what you were saying, but I do feel Sarah needs a little extra ❤️ tlc because she does it all during his 6 week recovery, taking care 💯 of their 2 little cuties and then Derek needing her for almost everything 🥺 and it seems like a lot more is going to be done this time around. Sending love and prayers for them both and hopeful that this is the last knee surgery and he will never need it redone again 🤞🏼🤞🏼

[@CraigBarron-z4f]

Knee pain can be a cryptic thing....I am 63 years old and have extreme knee pain and am unable to rest on my knees yet after x rays, there is no evidence of arthritis, only a little calcification around the bones.....Very frustrating!!

[@Syl_Lac]

Aww man, that sucks Derik 😓. No big suggestions for you guys on how to navigate this big bump in the road. Just take it one day at a time 🙏🏻. Don’t worry about what you think needs to be done. Just take deep breaths and prioritize what is needed to survive for that particular day. Sending so much love and healing your way Beestom Fam 🫶🏻❤️🤗 Super happy about you guys going back to Hawaii!!! I can’t wait to see the videos (if you do decide to share😅). Enjoy your time in paradise ☀️🌴🌊

[@carriecastro8182]

Been through similar situation as a young couple with young children. My advice…..hire a couple teenage girls from your church to come over and help with kids in afternoons to help Sara. More time for weekends and they can help with laundry and chores too and so she gets breaks and can run errands or just go to lunch with a friend. This will help a lot! God bless! This to shall pass! ❤

[@andreaelliott728]

Sarah, check the humidity in your house. A lot of times stuffiness is because the air is too dry. Somewhere between 30-60 is comfortable. ❤

[@Chantal_4107]

I second this. I had bought a new condo, and had so many congestion and dryness issues until we realized the floor planks were separating in some places and called the construction manager back to have a look. He said the humidity level was very low at 20% and to humidify the air. That made such a huge difference for us! Apparently new construction sucks up all the humidity for a while.

[@christinagleave9185]

Definitely needed our humidifier when my family went through the cough/cold virus we all got. Still coughing at random.

[@kierstinchambers8346]

Chronic stuffiness makes me think of mold

[@alyssahamlett]

I had a double hand amputation in July and its been hard on me but hard on my significant other also he has to help w everything and its been a huge adjustment. Sarah make sure u take time for yourself, if u can hire help w cleaning, kids, cooking just whatever u can to get yourself some free time for self care (guilt free) also make sure u take some time for u and Derek to reconnect

[@pennylehrer1306]

Hopefully you'll take care of yourself, Derik. STAY OFF IT!! NO GYM!

[@yvonne8786]

Or trips to the lake

[@emcooper3031]

He won't. He never does. Life is about doing what he wants as much as possible despite the consequences to him or his family.

[@GrammaNay]

Good luck with the surgery, D! When I had surgery when my kiddos were young, my hubby was awesome! I had a full hysterectomy at 29. I was able to ship the younger 2 kiddos out to my sister-in-luv for the initial part of my recovery, and my mother-in-luv came over for another couple weeks to help out. I was fortunate that my oldest was 11 at the time and could help. The Church we went to all pitched in with meals, so there was one less thing to worry about. Let friends and family help, even if it's to go pick up a grocery order or prescription, fold clothes. Take D to PT, whatever. Ya'll have a wonderful support system. Use it! One day, you'll be able to return the favor.

[@marisagreen2206]

Quick edit: I am not trying to be negative or make it seem like you’re not doing the right steps. The fact that you’re noticing it is enough! Physical therapy can help a lot! I just got to the part where Derik was talking about how Sunny sits, and I agree definitely work on getting her to sit differently. I grew up sitting in the “W” position and I developed PFS ( patella femoral syndrome, or runners knee) by the time I was 15. I deal with a lot of pain to this day, I’ve found ways to cope but there’s not way to fix it at this point. My parents just never knew it would be an issue back in the day, and most kids grow out of sitting that way. But I never did lol. I am not a parent and not at all trying to tell you what to do, just thought I would put in my experience since he had expressed concern.

[@neecie9075]

I have had Rheumatoid Arthritis for 31 years since I was 24. My husband has been my caregiver for 26 years. So many surgeries, etc.!!!! My advice to you both... be kind to yourselves. Don't beat yourselves up. Some things are just out of your control. But, having the right mindset is key and is something you can control. Patience is difficult, especially when you are active with children. But, just keep following the doctors advice. You will get better, and the love for each other and your children is the support that will always see you through. Always. ❤ I have a painting in my bedroom. It's the first thing I see when I open my eyes. It's a goldfish 🐠 wearing a 🦈 fin which says, "Mindset is everything". Keep up the positive mindset, and that's half the battle. You all have this! Best of luck with this next surgery. 🙏

[@annielecorguille711]

Ooh Sunny and Jack are so cute 🥰🥰good recovery to you Derick . Take care of yourselves ❤❤❤❤

[@mariajones8210]

Ahh look at your little ones they're getting so grown up now jack your a genius dude keep it up your going to teach your baby sister so much 😊 As for mummy and daddy bless your hearts this news isn't what anyone wished for you but we now how tough you guys are and im so sure youll get through it together i know its hard but team work makes the dream work as i say , your trip sounds much needed and christmas of course but dont ever be ashamed to ask friends and family for some extra help if and when you need it guys we've all hit hard times at some point in our lives and the support takes the load off , i myself had to swallow my pride and ask when i had my 3rd baby although i have a good age gape and my 2 boys are wonderful and my family are around to help i still like to do things myself but after giving butth naturally and having a lot of problems in birth i had to have alot of physio therapy and still do now but its been 18months now and im walking and ligting and getting back in track but the hardest part for me was asking for help however i was so glad i did , ny oartner works full time whilst im the stay at home mum pkuss dealing with my muddle child who had additional needs can be tough but we find the energy and motivation through our loved ones so i know your gonna be ok guys , Sarah you rock girl and try to schedule in 1 night week for some rest and dont feel bad for it hun your husband already knows your a super star so treat yourself , thanka for the code i shal have a treat myself now too 😊 The throwing game can be a little too much for babies however the comments are rigjt about shacky head syndrome however i can see how gentle your being with including baby into yours and jacks game bless you , 💙 ❤

[@jenfehr1]

My heart goes out to you guys. I pray that Derrik’s knee heals SO quickly this time around! And that you will still be able to thrive through it all! 💕

[@Ralphies_Mom]

Ask for help. If you need to send Derik to his parents or bring them to you, hire a part time nanny to help out, hire someone to come in and clean and do laundry once a week. Have a friend come over to help meal prep and freeze some things. Don't be afraid to throw your net out wide and get help, be creative. Dont be afraid to say no during this time, dont take on too much. Keep life as simple as possible. Prayers and hugs. Ignore all these people trying to act like you cant parent. Also, remind yourself "this is temporary, its not forever and things will get better." I practice one day at a time every single day and it has saved my life!

[@lindaaugusta9102]

Sarah, have you considered allergies. Maybe you should consider talking to an allergist. Builders use all kinds of things to put a new home together. You could be allergic to the brand of paints they used or the glues used to put stuff together. You could be allergic to the carpets or whatever was used to set down wood floors or linoleum because sometimes glues are terrible. Also, my allergist said no carpet in the bedroom. They tend to gather dust.etc. no matter how much you clean. I also notice when I vacuum, there is a smell from it that makes my eyes water and my nose plug up. I am also allergic to dust, trees, and all kinds of flowers. Not supposed to have my dogs on my bed. Too much hair problems and stuff they bring in from outdoors. I take two allergy pills a day and use a nose inhaler and a mouth inhaler twice a day or more in the spring during polin season. 😢 Hope this helps. Also, I am sorry that Derrick has to have knee surgery again. But at least you are going back to Hawaii for a visit. I am so envious!!!!! 😊 Have a good time! SECOND THOUGHT: get a humidifier for the bedroom that puts outs moisturizing the room. I have one a d I love it. Try that before the allergist. I also agree - get a nanny and a housekeeper while Derrick is recovering from his next surgery. You still have not recovered from moving into the house by yourself and putting everything away, taking care of Derrick from his surgery, dealing with two small, busy children and their problems adjusting to sleeping in a new environment, and everything else you do. You are exhausted and need to take care of yourself. Try taking a nap when the kids do. Have Derrick get them up from nap and play with them so you can sleep as long as possible. Otherwise, You will have burnout going into this😢 next surgery. You deserve a break.!!!!!

[@wendyodell356]

You make some excellent points. We've lived in our new home for 10 years and I'm still having allergies and allergic reactions to all that stuff from it. Plus where they disturb the ground to put the slab, it imposes a threat to whatever was living there. We battled field roaches for the first 5 years and are still dealing with the fire ants. And this was a rebuild from the ground up, only bigger and in a little different spot. Everyone I've known that's had to have that 2nd Meniscus surgery (and it happens a lot) either has had problems with their knee for the rest of their life or just break down and have it removed. One day soon there will be all kinds of interchangeable body parts, so we won't have to be fixed, we'll just get a newer better version. Have a great day 😀 ❤

[@amyralls6218]

Ultimately, what a total of 12 -15 weeks is a drop in a bucket compared to a lifetime! Just be very careful in the future with that knee. You may consider wrapping it every time you are doing something that will put extra pressure on that knee. When he gets his next surgery, you need to call on the kindness of friends and family! I suspect that just about EVERYONE told you to contact them if you need help, but I bet you really didn't until it was time to actually move into the new house! Remember, you'd be more than happy to help out your friends and family if they had surgery or illness and were in need of help! Let them help you, too! Spread it out between your friends and family! Don't put it all on one person, but make a schedule! Everyone knows how challenging it is to try to get things done while your kids are underfoot! Have someone come in a couple of days a week to watch the kids (and help Derek with getting something to eat, etc) while you get stuff done around the house, run errands, get work done, etc.! I know you probably hate to ask for help...I know I have a hard time asking for help...but then I remember, I'm happy to help other when they are in need, they will feel the same!!

[@territ3548]

My advice is 1) Derik absolutely rest your knee like in bed rest for those first 6-8 weeks and 2) Sara you need to get a nanny for this period of time to save your sanity. Enjoy your Hawaii trip!

[@vanessabastian5760]

What if she were a single Mom & couldn’t even imagine affording a nanny? She’s pretty fortunate. They work from home & make videos. At least he can still technically work!😬 It definitely could be worse!

[@judithstrenio9552]

If she was a single mom she wouldn’t have to be nursing an injured husband!

[@territ3548]

@@vanessabastian5760 From personal experience as both a single mom & undergoing multiple knee surgeries (3 of which were knee replacements) & knowing the amount of bed rest Derik will be advise to take, a nanny would be an option in keeping Sara’s sanity. I know how hard it is to take care of small children (and even teenagers) by myself. Couple that with caring for my husband who just had a second knee surgery, yes a nanny would help. I’m sure family steps in and helps too. I wish them well through this difficult time, and like so many of us, want to see a successful outcome for Derik’s knee & happiness for this wonderful family.

[@nancybarnett7984]

Agree! Get a nanny to come daily and have a cleaning lady come once a week.

[@melindamorrison4010]

​@vanessabastian5760 I am sure that being the lovely people that they are, they do appreciate their circumstances. No need to lecture them on perspective, dear!!

[@kimeverhart6253]

My suggestions for you to help cope with your upcoming life situations: Accept what is coming and don’t fight it…embrace it. Know it’s a blessing that Derick will be eventually healed because we live in this time and place. Hire a nanny and a housekeeper. A clean, orderly home will make you feel so happy inside. A nanny will free you to do your work, let you have some alone time and give you the time to do your errands and rest when you need. She doesn’t need to be full time, maybe 3 days a week will give you the time you need, at least for awhile. Meal plan, at least breakfast and dinners. Your mind, household and budget will run much smoother. These things will all give you peace. Wishing you all everything good and Derick much success and healing as he moves forward in his health journey. Xoxoxo Kim

[@tricia907]

It’s great to see you all back. So sorry to hear you’re going to have to go through another operation Derik. Xx

[@dianecote3136]

Love the thred up clothes!!!! I am so sorry Derick has to get surgery again!! I understand I went through 2 surgeries one right after another 😢. But I am feeling better now. It just takes time!!! You have your whole lives ahead of you….. don’t rush…..I know it will be hard , but it will all make you stronger!!! Sara , you are amazing!!!! Derick , you are too!!! So are Jack and Sunny !!! I will be praying for you both !!! You’re all going to make it through!!! Sending all my love to you all 💕❤️💕❤️

[@MaryLou-ht6iw]

I love seeing your family and how you live your life. Please mention the way Sunny sits to your pediatrician. It’s called ‘W’ sitting and can have issues with her core.

[@mawmawd627]

Agreed.

[@alexandracosta2471]

I am 58. I always sat and still sit the way sunny sits. I am very flexible because of this Actually it’s my favorite sitting position

[@mawmawd627]

@@alexandracosta2471 that’s great Alexandra. We now know that with “W” sitting the sitter is using their legs to keep them balanced and not their core. It can cause issues with gross and fine motor development Sitting in the W-position too often may create tight muscles in the legs and hips. If the muscles are tight, they may inhibit normal motion, affecting the child’s developing coordination and balance. The muscles that are affected include the hamstrings, hip adductors, and the Achilles tendon. W-sitting may be a sign that your child is avoiding coordination and/or independent movement on the right and left sides of the body. Sitting in the W-position limits motion of the trunk and discourages reaching across the body.

[@kimcook844]

Holy wow!! My daughter n husband always sat like that too n they are both fine!!!❤

[@mawmawd627]

@@kimcook844 that’s great! It just means you use your legs for balance as opposed to your core. As long as you don’t have balance, gross motor, crossing midline, issues then it’s not an issue! It’s always good to get the little kiddoes checked out just to make sure there are no underlying issues. The “w” sit is also associated with Autism so it’s always good to get it checked out. Glad you guys don’t have issues! 🎊

[@susiepingleton3614]

You have to really do exactly what you are told to do! I could not bear any weight on my etc foot for 3 months! No joke. My doctor was firm. I did exactly what I had to do and I healed!? Plate with ten screws! My heart goes out to you!

[@sineadsmyth846]

The way Sunny sits is something that I’ve always seen members of my family do, including me. We actually call it the Smyth sit! My husband found it so funny when he came into our family.

[@suzydmb94]

It's good news that your surgeon recommended the open knee procedure for your revision! I just had MY 2nd TKR 5 wks ago (and 4 scopes over 20 years before replacement!) You can do it, be diligent with weight bearing, I know it's hard and frustrating.. but important. You need to heal but Sara, you need a helper/assistant. Even if just a few days a week. To help w the kids, laundry, etc. would relieve some of the demand. You're both worth every penny for what it would potentially cost. Being a caregiver is draining and emotional cuz seeing your spouse in pain is hard to deal with sometimes! Safe travels & happy Thanksgiving!

[@sharoncowart2206]

Yeah! Derik is back to complementing Sarah! 💕💕💕💕 Sorry you have to go through the surgery again. Praying everything goes well with you Derik, and prayers for Sarah, for extra strength and extra help while Derik is recovering! Have fun in Hawaii!

[@lindakirsch1193]

I had two broken legs at the same time. Then after those healed i had to have a full knee replacement at age 75. So I feel your pain. For Sarah I would ask a few friends or family to watch the girls a few hours or half days so you can have some me time. It's hard to ask for help but learning to do that is very important for your peace of mind. I'm sure the surgery will be after the trip and the holidays so enjoy that time and then gather your thoughts for the positive outcome. 😊

[@kathrynhall7021]

Sunny is too small for the tossing game...please ask her pediatrician ❤️

[@ellentownsend4106]

One thing to keep in mind mind is that y'all are still in your first 1/3 of life! While it seems like dealing with the knees is an ongoing bummer, you need to get it done correctly. I am a 62-year old mom & wife. Had my left meniscus repaired 9 years ago and that helped, but because of other stuff it tore further so I had a full knee right placement 6.5 years ago. Now I still have the last 1/3 of my life to enjoy.

[@victoriaaletaaustria2817]

Not for anything else, saw in your vlogs you have not really completely healed yet but you assumed many usual things like socials like wedding, on an active adventure trip in Lake Pal, maybe others which we didn't see, so if you did follow STRICTLY the caition to observe and the time to wait you would be healed, then it would have been complete healing. Patience is a virtue, aside from you're not that spring chicken anymore, you are prone to accidents but fond of procrastination too instead of taking prompt medical attention, you first prioritized adventure and trips. If you would be operated again to fix the miniscule problem again now, it's fine but practice patience and restraint now to be completely healed. As for the total OPEM KNEE surgery, THAT WILL TAKE LONGER time to heal and if you didn't patiently wait again to completely heal, then more contraints later on. You might be totally crippled. You should note that going under the knife has risks too and the major operations have more. And throwing kids like that is not good for kid's health. Sunny's spine can be injured like Jack's. God gave you normal kids and hard if they develop illnesses later like deformities in spine or mobility issues.

[@susancruz2985]

Keep in mind life happens.... you do your best to go with the flow and remember the ride is not all lows the highs will be sprinkled in there for you. Sarah, remember to take your self care and self soothe moments when taking care of the kids and Derek while also working full time, Derrick remember the correct amount in the correct way downtime will help to heal you up the next time around and try to take as much enjoyment from watching your 2 little angels grow and learn how to people on their own. Loves to all enjoy your Thanksgiving trip

[@reneduffy3922]

🥺 the first sunny toss my heart dropped

[@maryhardy6123]

Please take all the time you need to heal properly. My first surgery didn't heal properly either. I can't have another one because of complications. Follow through with the p.t. and Don't walk dogs. A nasty 2 falls is what caused the complications. I am in a chair for life now. But it's o.k..I am 65. I've had a great active life. You still have years ahead of you. Love your family.

[@JustJennyKelly]

Praying for your knee 🙏🏻 I had a full knee replacement at the end of July. Whole on replacement… we have 4 almost grown kids and they’ve had to pitch in the last 3 years I was on crutches. My issue became a femur necrosis and shiny bone on bone situation. I turned 40 this year and this was a long process. My heart goes out! The knee really sucks but my 2 cents is do what you have to- get your quality of life back ♥️♥️♥️

[@stinepedersen-w7y]

remember how lucky you are. Some people in the world are not as lucky as you, and cant go the hospital. You signend up for a family, so you take care of your famile. It realy is nok that hard. Just be thankefull for what you got You'll get through it

[@lumday1063]

Ohh please please correct the sitting on the knees. Thats considered W sitting and is SO SO bad for them. Its one of the top things we look for as pediatric physical therapists.

[@callofdutyfan45]

Two things that I just want to bring up. Please go and get Sunny checked at a doctors for the way in which she is sitting. Secondly make sure you ask the doctor what other structures can be damaged as I too have had an ACL reconstruction and a meniscus reattachment . While attaching, the meniscus back to the bone, they accidentally hit my Peroneal Nerve causing foot drop. I had absolutely no control over my foot and it took eight months for the nerve to heal. It’s been over a year. I’m still recovering as I still have lost The sensation on the leg, so my leg still feels numb, I am able to move the foot now, but I have a lot of pain and a lot of walking issues and I’ve recently had another MRI because my knee is still not right so just be aware that foot drop is a thing that I am finding out has happened a lot to people that have had both knee surgeries and hip replacements so just make sure you really know everything

[@KarenClark-i4w]

Jack looks just like his beautiful mother and so smart too ❤

[@Dragonfly31133]

As someone who has had repeated knee injuries. I have had a small tear in my ACL I opted for no surgery and wore a huge brace for about a year. It did heal. My meniscus tore and I opted again to just leave it. It does go sideways every now and then. Not like with an ACL tear though. It’s too late to tell you to take extra care of your knees. What I will say is I don’t think I’d go for having them open it all the way up. I’d way the pros and cons of just leaving it like it is. The more and more they go in and screw with it the worse it will get. In my opinion the worst pain in my life has been knee pain from osteoarthritis. The more the screw with it the more scar tissue. You do what you feel is right. Can you snow board/ski and surf without the surgery? Or if this huge surgery is done is it going to improve your ability to do the things you want. As for the stress at home with recovery. How good is your insurance? Sometimes they will pay for a caregiver to come in and help out. Which would be extremely beneficial. Or having family come help out. The most important thing Sarah is take care of you hop in the shower, put on your makeup take 15 minutes of meditation or a run/walk everyday! Sending love, strength and prayers your way 💞

[@mickiejonesy1712]

I love watching the Beestons' videos! You are incredible parents! Please don't worry about the negative comments! Sunny's brain is good! You don't put her high in the air at all, and yes, you always support her neck and Jack's, landing on huge pillows! I'm so sorry Derick, that you need surgery again! My heart breaks for you! Sarah, you made it through taking care of a newborn, Jack, who was two, and your husband, plus you moved with Derick not being able to help with that, nor could he unpack much. You did a fantastic job and made it to the other side! You can do this again! Ask for help, and get friends to babysit at least once a week so you can do some much needed rest doing what you love! Pamper yourself everyday with one thing you love: food, a movie, a walk, shopping, a nap. You've got this! Prayers for both of you, especially for Derick! God has you! Now Sunny's W sitting. I sit that way, even now as an adult, and I still fold up all the time. Lol! I was borne folded up! Long story. Please know that she's okay. Have her pediatrician check to see if there's any issues. I'm extremely bowlegged and mine was never checked. But, she may just feel more comfortable sitting that way. She's my tiny kindred spirit! 😂 Your precious babies are gorgeous and you are wonderful parents! Have a beautiful Thanksgiving in Hawaii! 🙏😊🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@cindyfitzgerald4500]

Some of those comments are so ridiculous!! They are amazing and loving parents ❤

[@margarita7243]

Sunny is so cute she is W sitting snd yes Derik you are right doing that put stress and promotes internal rotation and strengthens her muscles turning in. This posture usually shows core weakness and she is looking for a.wide base of support. Im a a pediatric OT you can get her evaluated by a PT in Early Intervention. Once shenis in the system if she doesn't talk by the time she should then you are at least in EI.

[@loz3135]

Sarah your hair looks real pretty like this.❤

[@jojolaam8367]

I had my meniscus removed from my right knee at 16yrs. Old an I'm now 37yrs.old... iv had no issues or pains any different than my left knee..... U might want to consider removing it completely!

[@Calamitygirlchannel]

Derik, I have had that surgery before in 2010. You’re prolly gonna always have issues with the knee, but not as bad of course. Arthritis will be a banger for ya, but at least you can take advil for it and that helps. God bless you both! Ciao fro Jackson Hole, WY

[@stephaniemccabe7836]

It is so difficult when you are in pain like that and have little ones around. My husband and I are going through it too. I’m glad there is going to be relief for Derek, there is not really any relief they can give my husband for his pain at the moment, they are trying but it’s not really working. Continue sticking together, I’d say that’s the biggest thing I’m trying to do and it’s so difficult sometimes. You guys make it look easy. Tons of good thoughts headed your way ❤️❤️❤️

[@aqualife88]

I would be super careful with throwing sunny on the bed pillows like that. I know it seems harmless, but her brains verrrry gentle like jello, and that can cause shaken baby syndrome.

[@debramehan8644]

I thought the same thing when i saw him do that.

[@GrammaNay]

@aqualife88 My son used to do that with my grandkiddos, but he made sure to hold their necks on the way down.

[@realpixiestix]

They shouldn’t throw her at all. It only takes one bad throw and she is in the Peds ICU. There is no reason for them to throw their kids like that.

[@ja_Iam]

Painful to watch. Please educate yourselves on the risks. They may enjoy it, but it’s not safe.

[@Applefan101]

Exactly

[@eliz49]

Last summer (six months ago) I had a TKR - a total knee replacement…. Huge surgery, BUT… best thing I’ve done in awhile. I can hike again! Patience however is key. I know you’re not at that level- just know that patience and protein drinks are key..( and assistance from others ) Hang in there- you got this!

[@pamthompson3812]

This is just a small bump in the road of life. You will get through this so keep your faith and trust in God

[@shembu5965]

I am so full of sunny and I am so happy , my little fresh of joy. Babies developmental growth is different some may have delays but if sunny is well I think there is no problem with that just consult with your peads to get the best advice❤️ thank u for sharing sunny to us❤️ our cute little sunshine