It's Not Just Us - Bubble Bath

We going to call this "It's Not Just Us". Please let us know what you think in the comments section.
Shawn and Katie Links:
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[@ShawnRyanShow]

We are going to call this "It's Not Just Us" and make it a regular thing. Let us know what you think in the comments section. Thank you

[@JudeFunk37]

I love this idea!! This here is such a healthy thing for a relationship! Even if you don't record it and show us. I love the idea 💡 🙏🇺🇸

[@CharliehuethePuff]

100% Please keep these going. Your channel and openness are doing a service to society that I can't thank you enough for. Much love to you both!

[@1440Defense]

Absolutely love the idea. I was laughing so loud at some very relatable parts of this, that my wife and I started in on our own "it's not just us" stuff. Stay classy lol.

[@Michaels_Coffee]

Very brave 😍😍....I thought you were going to talk about the Ukraine 🤣

[@coryvinson8343]

Yall are doing great. You're both awesome. You're both the best parents to your kid there ever could be. Your feelings of being protective over your little one are natural and good. Momma is gonna be Momma bear and boys will be boys. This is a healthy verbal reconciliation of the two.

[@RogueWeasely]

I'm a young guy with no wife, and no kids... But I loved these kind of videos! The honesty from the both of you is super wholesome. A guy like me can learn a lot from these discussions.

[@singlechristiancowboy]

Same, man. 28 and never had a girlfriend. Partly due to figurin out life as I go and makin mistakes that cost me a few potential relationships. Also partly cause I ain't found a woman honestly worth the effort. I don't by the "All" talk......"All women are....." "All men are......" A women think........" But it's definitely hard to find the kinda woman I'm after in today's world. Thankful to see a relevant couple givin relevant advice through personal experience in a logical, adult, level headed and rational way. Tryin real dang hard not to be jealous!

[@cbvickers4044]

@@singlechristiancowboy - hang in there Cowboy. Don't give up. My son is 29, 1 girlfriend at 20.. She is his baby/mama, bi-polar (untreated) and is a NIGHTMARE. It's taken him several years but he is finally getting interested in girl company again. He told me last week he would definitely take it slower, get to know the girl and wait before taking it the next level. Good luck!

[@singlechristiancowboy]

@@cbvickers4044 Thank ye kindly. Sorry to hear about his situation and especially sorry fer the youngin. Wish folks would follow God's word in what to do and how to live, but not everyone does or will. Even at that, It'd be a heap better if they sort out whether they can live together or not BEFORE they have any youngins. That way, it keeps the youngins from bein subject to a unhealthy relationship they didn't ask to be in but have to witness and deal with anyway. I get envious of good relationships I see, but I'd heap rather be where I'm at than in the WRONG one.

[@gage1428]

Classic examples of why kids need both parents. Moms will be protective(sometimes overly) and dads will allow learn by experience (sometimes overly). Awesome to see you both discussing it openly. It may well save your marriage imho. Thanks for being good examples for us all.

[@ShawnRyanShow]

Absolutely!

[@alantinoalantonio]

Amen. Father and Mother. God made it so for a reason.

[@landonhodge4422]

Well said man

[@marcuslooney1874]

100%. Couldn't say it better.

[@Ninja47Monkey]

Both parents. So fucking important

[@sniper161718]

Nothing better than having a wife who thinks alongside of you. I'm blessed much like you bro.

[@ThunderDog]

I'm grinning from ear-to-ear, because I remember my wife and I "disagreeing" over the dumbest stuff when our kids were that age.

[@kalanipitmon7817]

Hows ur relationship now if theyre grown up. What do u n her argue about now

[@Shadowwolf7774]

We love it!! Keep this up because we love you both and we do agree with you both , most married couples act like this. Please don't be helicopter parents, I am 60 years old , I grew up with no seatbelts, no helmets on bikes, my father put me at 3 years old in his lap holding on to the steering wheel me driving down the streets of Oklahoma city. My friends did the dumbest crap and yes we got hurt but it made us stronger and smarter. Thank you for letting Sonny just cry it out. Babies are real smart and they will rule over you once they know they have you wrapped around their finger. I know this has been addressed before but when you felt alone in this upside down world, I wanted to slap you and say wake up. There are more of us than the minority that is trying to shove this crap down our throats. We are the common sense majority but they won't let us speak. So hang in there! Much love! And yes we have been praying for you. And PS. my wife says you and I are the same person in different bodies. I took the Red pill 30 years ago and I am the biggest control freak in the world and a political junkie. 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@BillOBrienArt]

Can totally relate. 28 years with my bride Hang in there, you're doing exactly the right thing, being honest, talking it out, and giving space. BTW, the name you came up with is brilliant.

[@ADHDawesomeness]

This made my husband and I laugh and hug. We are about five months ahead of you, and we have experienced all of these things. The over protective mom is REAL, but it does get better. I said “it’s not just us!” Multiple times during this story. Hahaha thank you for sharing. Please keep this up.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

You are just new to this, you all need to give yourselves a break, you are doing fine. I’m sure some of your own reactions, are a surprise to yourselves at times. It’s actually, fascinating, and kind of cool. Growing and learning together, is a pretty profound, incredibly deep experience. One of the best of life.

[@mipbap4936]

As a son of divorced parents it’s really refreshing to see u guys have disagreements and understand where each other is coming from, I think that talking things out, and talking about the uncomfortable stuff is what keeps a family strong. Your son is very lucky to have parents that want to get better as people for the purpose of raising a great young man. Keep it up bro I love all your content and u help a lot more people than u think

[@tommyfoley462]

Your a lovely couple,well done to both of you

[@CrackedCandy]

"I apologize." Wow. She's a keeper. "I realize that I hover." Self awareness and accountability. That's rare in a woman.

[@dharmadharma3960]

I know. My family of origin is full of awful toxicity. This is so healthy.

[@kwilliams454]

Thank you very much!

[@jilllathers9215]

I agree. She’s a good one. ♥️♥️

[@Williamb612]

agree…however he could meet her half way and say that he might he a little too sensitive…this seemed to resolve with her taking apologizing and taking full responsibility for their “disagreements”

[@DamianTTC]

(47 yrs of marriage) all hubbies have felt..."I feel like everytime...". BUT you 2 are talking about it! Wish we had. GREAT job u too!

[@arthayday5133]

First child? Prepare for alot of heartbreak amongst the wonderful lasting memories. Fact is you cannot protect them from everything. That thought alone breaks your heart. You guys are doing an awesome job. Grow with each other because you are going to need each other. Don't be afraid to let the kid play in the mud. More upset and heartbreak to come so protect yourselves when it happens. Stay strong in each other and guide the best way rhat you can. God Bless you.

[@SG-MT]

This is like relationship/marriage advice without it being intended that way. If only more couples would have such open and honest communication like this, more would be saved. You two are so brave to share your personal couple/parenting experiences with the world. Thank you!

[@CannibalWarthog]

You guys are communicating a lot better than most. Keep it up and be patient with one another.

[@MrRoadliner113]

You two are doing great things! Keep doing what your doing and making great memories. As a 50 year old, grandfather of 6, I can now sit back and enjoy watching "new parents" and remember the fond memories. BTW, the momma bear thing never goes away. LOL

[@shootermcmillan]

Reminds me of a cartoon I saw once. First day of kindergarten all the moms are peering through the school windows....... by the first day of 3rd grade they are peeling out of the parking lot to be, ANYWHERE else! You guys are new parents, you'll find a balance. I've been a single dad for almost 14 yrs , I was super paranoid at first, that gave way to laughing at ALL of it. Mine gets more interesting all the time. BEST JOB EVER!

[@chizzelfingers]

love this. I'm 46,I'm 4 yrs older than my wife. we've been together since she was 16. she's the love of my life. I don't deserve her. u gotta fight for that shtt. we've gotten thru weight gain,kids,missing hair,jealousy,money problems ,drugs alcohol on my end and she's fkn rock solid . love how u 2 talk about this stuff in public. thats how real love can last. its a battle man. but it's fkn amazing and hard to explain if u don't have it.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

Sounds like a rich, eventful, deep, beautiful bond. Now it’s time to enjoy some easier times. Some reflecting. Have fun together, appreciate every moment. It was worth it.

[@littlemonsterpants]

When Shawn said in the last 5 seconds "I'm missin out on cocomelon in there, I'm gonna go get him......" I fully expected her to say "ok, be careful"😉

[@kwilliams454]

Haha! The camera cut early! 🤣

[@chriskenna421]

I haven't laughed that hard in awhile. I feel like this definitely is every relationship, great episode keep them coming. And no advice, you guys are great parents!

[@kwilliams454]

Haha! Thank you!

[@jrod96819]

This is definitely every relationship🙃

[@brittdriver4453]

What is the purpose of a family? Families are central to God's plan for His children. They are the fundamental building block of strong societies. Families are where we can feel love and learn how to love others.🙏❤🙏

[@shawnp6653]

Great series name! When Shawn said "I'm gonna go get him" I was waiting for Katie to say "Be careful!" 1st kiddo is hardest because you are learning - - source of a LOT of funny stories, but a lot of growing together too!

[@savage22bolt32]

My parents wouldn't let me ride my bike past the end of our street. A few years later my little brother could ride all over town. So yes, the first one gets more protection, also more time with parents.

[@sues3218]

@@savage22bolt32 So true. LOL

[@savage22bolt32]

@@sues3218 So funny, I had to look back & see what I said. Shawn Ryan is one of my earliest yt subscriptions. Seen a lot of growth here. (Hickok45 was my very first!)

[@Boomercantsignin]

First child is A LOT of anxiety because of feeling protective. Kids are so resilient. Boys are incredibly resilient. Dads are super protective.

[@georgecoull1883]

UFC champion Cain Velasquez shot the man that was raping his son and he's facing 20 year's in prison and rapist is literally getting away with it scot free! Any good protective father would do the same, but the justice system is broken

[@l3joint]

@@georgecoull1883 he shot at**

[@georgecoull1883]

@@l3joint ☝️ ✅ you got me, thanks I hear he hit a bystander in the arm?

[@georgecoull1883]

@@l3joint honestly don't know how I did that smh

[@l3joint]

@@georgecoull1883 Don't sweat it.

[@MrKmichaelw]

The best part of parenting is that kids will slowly and methodically rid you... of the worst parts of you... which is you! [meaning: selfish you, self-absorbed you, impatient you, arrogant you, etc, etc] Shawn & Katie are fantastic. Hope they have many-MANY children.

[@forrestt610]

It's the first little one. Lol this brought back memories. Wait till the 2nd kid. All these little things won't matter, he/she will eat dirt and you two will say does it taste good.

[@savage22bolt32]

So true!

[@chuckvawter8464]

OMG....43 wonderful yrs this month. Trust me (lol) with grandkids she still shoots me down then kicks me.....it's wonder. I hear your sense of humor. Great stuff!! Love this. I am in!!

[@MattyBEightyThree]

This is healthy and great to share. This is what being new parents looks like. I’ve lived it too. The unhealthy version of this disagreement is when you both say nothing and just quietly resent each other.

[@bryanbruns4745]

I really enjoy u two ..finally a couple of people being real not fake...it's worth time listening ...u guys got this...two things live and forgiveness very important...she brings out your soft side shawn...I've seen those photos of u when u were a seal.. watching you ..that hard Part of you..know when to be gentle and when to be hard...thank you ..for this ...cheers from an 58 yr old school metalhead from Kansas city...

[@danielg1965]

Thanks for allowing us into the bubble time you both are way cool!

[@stephaniesallie8968]

" not just us"... Amen to this new Journey .. Bubble bath. 💐⚓💐

[@JefferyCombs-u6i]

I let your mom go if thats what she wonts i always love her and i never take from her and i never hurt her no more i give her every dim i get to take care of you all and dont care caise i no in my hart she doing what she needs to to make shore you all get what you need i love my kids no matter what dispite what they think i will keep them promises and i keep going forward and keep my head up but i will be onest when im done im done and i dont wont to go on with out all of you i will not be like my parents and i always love your mom dont think funny when im down cause every word i say at this time true and id change for all but i need you to move with me i got us but i wont do it with out you all and not trying this or saying this to get you fill sorry

[@winchester94ae44mag]

Great Americans make great couples great couples make great parents and we as a nation need a lot more of you.

[@harnellholliman4265]

Y’all are so right…It’s not just y’all….it’s life….everyday life…blessings…ups,downs….hurts. Communication,communication,communication

[@brandonshuler7820]

This is a very healthy way to talk about shit without it boiling over. What a great example of a healthy marriage

[@RonaldSusca-wb2dd]

Love “Not Just Us” please do more! As a mom who raised 8 kids and 3 foster kids, I want to say you’re doing great! We are a blended family and early in our marriage we realized that we are a team and if one person loses, the team loses. So we look for a way that we can both win-because the most important thing you can give to your child is parents who are in love.❤️

[@roundrock63]

Yes, you are not alone. This was the biggest topic of “discussions” between my wife and I with our son. Literally the same topics!

[@lindseyhigginbotham6645]

Absolutely normal struggles of first time parents. It’s a good sign of a strong marriage that you can sit down and work through the frustrations. It gets easier, then harder, and goes through this cyclical cycle. Communication and your marriage needs to always be a priority!

[@jasyski01930]

Welcome to parenthood kids! The toughest job you're ever going to have. You both are doing great. Especially talking things out. Cheers to your beautiful family.

[@johnchisolm4033]

One thing I have learned is that when a Dad says "what about this or that" its because he saw an opportunity for a really great moment he was going to experience and share with his child. Shooting it down can be a little heart breaking.

[@mondavou9408]

Parenting advice: 1. Give/show them more love than you think they need 2.Don't do anything for your child that they can do for themselves 3. Don't let them do anything that make you resent them 4. Let them talk to you / listen to them (like a coach not a authoritarian ruler)

[@Buttercup624]

For me this is mostly a trip down memory lane, but I appreciate having my memory jogged and I truly enjoy the whole dynamic!! It kind of feels like the more things change the more they stay the same. Love ya guys! 🌻🐝

[@Last_Chance.]

I wish I could talk like this with my wife. I envy the communication y'all have. Nothing but love and respect for you and your family brother

[@pekarr1]

It looks wierd to me... i prefer just talking normaly not 1 meter away sitting face to face in garden

[@snakeoo7ca]

@@pekarr1 you're the weird one believe me

[@space78511]

Maybe it’s time for counseling or to be re-married. Life is too short

[@twentytwo138]

@@pekarr1 As the other comment said, you're the weird one.. They are talking normally, and maybe they would sit next to each other if it wasn't a youtube video. For me it's more weird when couples sit in front of a camera and turn their heads towards each other and look at the screen in the same time..

[@bluefan651]

Last Chance, you CAN!

[@PlumbingArkansas]

These are the best! I’ve watched all these but my wife and I are on a trip and I’m letting her listen. The trials of marriage and raising a family. Have to love all of it

[@mummbamiester6338]

My wife and I just starting trying to have kids. I appreciate you both being so open and sharing your experience. IT'S NOT JUST YOU.

[@servantofyeshua2313]

You guys are adorable together. God bless your family!

[@Fightosaurus]

Love the name, it really encapsulates what you do. Bringing light to important topics from perspectives we are otherwise denied, for various reasons.

[@WARBIRD13]

I appreciate your willingness to be vulnerable and have REAL talk in front of the camera. THIS....THIS right here can help sooo many people in THEIR relationships. My wife and I have 3 kids, 6 grandkids and have been together for 30 yrs. One thing I've learned; keep it upbeat, fun and go with the flow. Parenting is rewarding and the learning is flexible. Don't be so hard on yourselves. You have a Budweiser; a new baby is harder, buy ya got the tools to make it. Enjoy Sonny and enjoy each other... everyday! Semper Fi

[@juliang7698]

You guys have to keep this going!! Talk about a ray of sunshine in the middle of all the stuff going on these days! You guys are great!!

[@judybarclay-cs3js]

You guys are awesome..such open honesty. Mamas are overprotective because of Love...it's hard for men the first year because a mothers instinct is all about her pup..even though it may be just a bubble bath." It's not just you"😊 thankyou for all the raw honesty and sharing❤❤

[@jakecox1398]

As young man seeking to join the marines who would love a family, im glad to see the big bad seal cia guy can eventually have a family and life outside of the contractor world. I for one love this and as an incredibly idiotic person at times love the advice and example. Thank yall. Really.

[@HowDeeDo]

It’s a never ending cycle no matter how old the kids get…but it’s all brand spanking new with that first baby! Being able to talk about it to each other is the only answer imo. My hubby and I have 4 kids, 18, 20, 22, and 24 and we’re still learning. Our parenting has shifted because we’ve never had adult kids before. My 22 yo daughter has said twice recently I don’t listen to her…and I was like oh please… yesterday we had a moment that proved I don’t listen completely. It was the 3 millionth time I said to myself, “ oh.my.gosh…I sound just like MY MOTHER!! “ I have to adjust and adapt as they each need us in different ways now, more a support role per say. But we were SO much like you with the baby years! It took a bit for me to let go, let some dirt and boo boos happen and I found watching my husband be a father and bring to the kids lives what only a dad can, was freaking awesome. He taught them to face fears, try new things, and I can tell you a plethora of ways I see those lessons now in each of them. I don’t usually give advice unless it’s asked for, but the main thing we found in every stage of raising them is to talk to each other. Call each other out on what doesn’t make sense. And very soon, you’ll see little man mimic how you communicate. Even now he’s learning. Teaching him to talk to you both is essential for a balanced kid. I could write a long-winded novel on our mistakes and victories over the last 26 years. But now we’re in a new chapter parenting adult kids so I might as well wait until I can write out the whole experience 😂 obviously I need work in listening but I think the key is HEARING the other person. It’s the greatest adventure in life in my opinion and worth every negative moment because the positive ones far out number them. And other couples need to hear your experience, to be able to say that it’s really not just us! We had many great couples to learn from and I remember thinking, “whew, ok, I’m not crazy” as a wife/ mother because of their honesty. So kudos to you guys!!! I love your willingness to share! I’ll shut up now…

[@briangrant2005]

Y'all are kickin ass! I pray to find a partner that's willing to call out my s*** and wants us both to be better people every day. Cheers Y'all!

[@ShawnRyanShow]

You will. Just be patient my friend.

[@brutusb1858]

Me too man, me too. Its rough out there, and the dating scene has changed since I last dipped my toes in

[@TheRealRenn]

It’s not easy when another calls out our $&!?….especially when the tracks of pride have been laid for many years.

[@Achromania]

Having a child does change some things. You go from primarily making decisions about your own lives, actions and consequences as individuals, as a couple of individuals. But something changes when your trying to agree on decisions for this beautiful, new, perfect human being that you are now responsible for. That you love like you never even knew was possible. It's a big deal. But don't sweat the little things, like bubble bath (I'm pretty sure its safe or I don't think they could sell it). The most important thing is not to let little squabbles diminish the love you have for one another. That is, after all, what led to the creation of this glorious bundle of joy in the first place. And having a mother and father who love one another, seeing and feeling that every single day is infinitely more important than a scraped knee here, or a runny nose there, or even... bubble bath. (not piling on I promise). Anyway, congratz on the new baby boy.. spitting image of his daddy for sure... poor thing.

[@codyduncan5414]

You can feel the love between you two!

[@Elev8minh]

THE WORLD NEEDS THIS RIGHT NOW. PLEASE MAKE MORE EPISODES!!!!! AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR SACRIFICES AND SERVICE YOU MADE TO THE AMAZING COUNTRY I LIVE IN!!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@lawrencesmith43]

Love the concept, Shawn and Katie Jean! It's definitely aptly named "It's Not Just Us." We had two kids, but they were nine years apart. It was a lot like having an only child twice. Things we thought we did right with the first, didn't work at all with the second. Thank God there was no internet or social media to judge our mistakes or drown us with unsolicited, "expert" advice. Great guidance from Jordan Peterson is his Rule 5: Do Not Let Your Children Do Anything That Makes You Dislike Them. It seems to have worked for us (and our kids), despite being ignorant of the rule when we were in the child-rearing trenches. God bless you both--and your Wee One!

[@policeboy1981]

Great first time parents at learning and figuring it out TOGETHER which is amazing as well as communicating with each other. Definitely keep communicating with your partner whatever may be..and the rest will fall in place... Father of 3 hooyah

[@briangrant2005]

This is awesome! It reminds me of your mindset video talking about how to "build confidence in public situations" video! Having the confidence to throw it out there is the best thing you can do to increase inter-personal communication

[@ShawnRyanShow]

Love that!

[@rusnsc7622]

Classic! Reminds me of our early child rearing days. Our marriage survived, my kids who are now adults survived. I have no doubt all y’all will too. Remember enjoy the journey, cuz in a blink of an eye you’ll be singing the the Little River Band tune “Reminiscing” like us….👍🙏

[@lovingmymamalighter102]

That baby boy is gonna have soooo much fun as he gets older on ur property, he's gonna get into stuff u never woulda dreamed of.

[@lovingmymamalighter102]

Plus he's the son of a Navy Seal, which has to b the coolest thing ever!! He's gonna have sooo much fun growing up out in the wilderness!!

[@sues3218]

Loads of laundry for sure. LOL Hope they keep the first aid kit well stocked too. LOL I wish I had property like that when I was a kid. The fun and adventure is going to be epic.

[@donlovell6708]

Great title, she is one of the coolest women on the planet, you are both funny and inspirational. Reminds me of when my kids were little and the struggle for communication sanity with my wife

[@Sigsupporter]

This is a a great idea! And y’all are communicating about these issues amongst one another is awesome!

[@cynthiagraven3343]

You two have a great dynamic. Any it is definitely not just you having these challenges. Parenting brings out nuances in our personalities that we may not have realized were part of us. But listening to each other, being willing to take a step back, & being willing to adjust your perspective & responses is part of the process of maturing as adults & parents. Great job!

[@p.VAZ.]

Damn!!! Your wife rocks!!! She said to you, “its a safe space.” Yes keep making this. Definitely helps me to reflect with my relation with my wife.

[@cbvickers4044]

Very smart.....airing the "issues", talking about it, documenting your apologies and future changes of behavior. Love it, thank you for sharing.

[@AwakenedOne447]

Keep hovering! Please keep hovering! We are in a world where the evil wants our children younger and younger. Fight that evil by hovering! There’s going to come a time when you won’t be able to! Hover! Hover! Hover! Great segment. Thanks 🥰

[@calmutualhomes]

You guys are adorable!❤ Shawn, thank you for your service to our country btw. It takes a real man to be in tuned with his emotions and be able to communicate those to the ones you love. I used to be a guy who gravitated in anger. I have two beautiful grown kids 25 and 28. Girl and a boy. Love them with all of my heart. I their mother and I divorced in 2000. Now I have been married to a new gal for the last 7 years. One lesson I've learned is that love and communication are your greatest friends. Life and marriage are both difficult l, however with love and communication happiness is guaranteed! God bless your beautiful family

[@codymcclellan8790]

It’s tough sometimes as a dad to feel connected to the child, so when an idea gets shot down by mom, it can feel a bit personal. Me and my wife have had to talk this out more than once. The big take away is that we both love our daughter and have nothing but good intentions, and we just need to work on better communication with each other.

[@tinaknutsen]

I loved this! It brought me back in time…my 5 sons are all grown and my daughter in law has been having contractions on and off since early this morning…their 1st daughter; my first granddaughter…my other sons gave me all grandsons 😂so super excited…anytime….hurry up have that baby! 😂 Forwarding this video ❤

[@DRFelGood]

I like to refer those hubby, wife moments as “Spirited Conversations” Like & Love your Vlogs, content, context and guests 🇺🇸

[@ShawnRyanShow]

I like that name.

[@A1phaB8a]

This is what's happening right now with me and my wife. So glad I saw this because I have been feeling the same way, "well imma just do me and wait until she is older," it's definitely difficult but we have been talking more and my wife can see the problems and we have been working on it. It's been about a month since we had our first conversation and things are finally starting to get a little better. But thank you for sharing. It's nice to see we are not alone. It's crazy how things change when you have a child.

[@vikingtractor6065]

This was great. The wife and I have disagreements that at the end of the day mean nothing and we move on. Creek time and Coco Melon are the best!

[@ShawnRyanShow]

My man! Cheers

[@kwilliams454]

Damn right! Cocomelon!!!!

[@AH-gu4jy]

It’s very rare to find anyone in social media or yt being this authentic. You guys are awesome Shawn. The things you guys are experiencing as new parents is not uncommon. My boys are 15 and 18 now to say they get to that age lighting fast is a gross understatement. Here’s my advice. Slow down, enjoy every second with your son and your wife because you don’t get do-overs. Be quick to listen, slow to speak. Pick your battles and learn to let the small stuff go. NEVER go to bed angry or upset. Compromise, Don’t fight in front of your son. This one is a must, make GOD the most important thing in your life, in both your lives. I wouldn’t be married today almost 21 years later without his love and mercy on me. Pray, the greatest tool you have in life is prayer. 👍 Best of wishes.

[@meganbliss7284]

You are doing great! The healthiest kids I know are the ones who play/played in the dirt and got messy. Our immune systems grow with us. Nature is good for us. Sounds like you both have good sense and are willing to work through issues, and that the most important thing- communication! Talk through everything. That will also teach your son to do the same. Above all, don’t be hard on yourselves and have a great time. Laugh. I’ve heard angels can fly because they take themselves lightly. I am absolutely loving your shows. Thank you for all you do!

[@Brian-xn3be]

Thank you both and I hope to see more of these!🙏🏽 Godspeed

[@jdlee6383]

Love this. As parents of 3, (7, 11, 13) my wife and I are so busy with our work and our kids and their 4-H/FFA projects, baseball, volleyball, basketball, etc, etc...that we fail to communicate the things that we feel are important in that moment. We (mostly myself) just back off and say, (it's not worth it, pick your battles)...Refreshing to see 2 adults talking about things like this and coming to a resolution without making one or the other feel belittled or have to admit guilt in the moment, which is usually happening so fast, that there is no time for discussion. Lol. Be it bubble bath, or what jacket a kid can or can't wear, or what is acceptable behavior from a 13 year old and what isn't, we need to follow your and your wife's example of communicating when there is time for thought and reflection, and not being too proud to admit fault, however small the disagreement. Thanks again, A Fan From Oklahoma

[@MostlyPeacefulCombatVet]

Y'all are not only opening up and talking about it, but you're doing it in front of thousands of people. The way you communicate with each other is fail safe. You won't lose! And the kiddo is going to be just fine! I like this episode. Feels even more personal than the Shawn Ryan Show. Take care y'all! GOD BLESS AMERICA 🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲

[@rsurdyk]

Yes.. daily .. the morning coffee enlightening.. love it.

[@benjaminmruk5673]

Its all new parents. You guys are amazing and a great example THANK YOU!

[@thomasmarchese2808]

I love seeing this. A respectable adult not overly serious conversation. This is how it’s done people. Good job to both of you. Congrats on your marriage, son and business. This is why I watch. The content is, real, quality, content.

[@nickbrown8950]

Welcome to new parenthood, I have 5 kids, and the first one we both were hovering over him and overprotective but by number 5 we have learned that kids are super resilient. You guys are doing great and every serious parent goes through the stage that you guys are in. ENJOY THE JOURNEY

[@joemyers6016]

You guys are great parents. Thanks for being vulnerable and this is good therapy for couples in a down to earth way. One way to take a moms overly concern though is to interpret it as her care for you and her family. It’s so easy to take negatively but most of the time the motives are pure. If she didn’t say anything, then I’d start wondering if she cares. God bless you in this new venture.

[@joshuamcbroom2370]

Some good advice I heard is “ as along as you keep your child alive until your child is 5, you did well. Now a different fun begins….. my wife got caught up in what the doctors were saying about milestones, dieting…. She lost focus on how we grew up and how our parents raised us. We turned out just fine. Common sense goes along way with raising your child and your marriage. It is not just you. We still have moments and our boys are 9. Keep doing what you are doing.

[@jodiah5]

He’s alive! You’re doing your job!!! I remember how scared we were coming home from the hospital!!! I was thinking I’ve just got to keep this little thing alive!!! 9 years later… it’s a blessing!!! Congratulations love this!!!

[@wykittypreps5794]

God bless you both for airing like this..... every couple goes thru this type of challenge.... especially because men are from Mars and women from Venus. Yes, let the boys have Their time!!!

[@kimberlyvanhelden8100]

I loved this!! One thing to remember is us women had almost 9 months to bond with our baby as they are growing inside of us. When we give birth it's now time for the father's to bond with our kids, as scary as it sounds but father's need this time to bond. I remember when my son was months old he was crying because I put him to bed after a feeding and I wanted to go to him so badly. I told my husband you better hold me down because every cell in my body wanted to go to him. I knew our son was ok except he wanted to sleep with us and he needed to learn to sleep on his own. But know, this is the easy part because you guys will have to deal with the terrible two's and the horrible three's. As I say this my son turned 14 years old yesterday and dear god help us all with the teenage years. I am totally thankful for my husband and having him here as we lean on each other through this hellish and yes I said hellish hormonal, hair growing everywhere teenager years! Just remember never fight or disagree in front of your kiddo, as parents you have to show a united front. Kids are smart and savvy and if they see a crack between you two they will absolutely 100% use that to their agenda. And keep laughing with each other because trust me it's better than crying 😄! Also keep taking time and reconnecting with each other. All of us parents can totally relate with each other. Just have fun and remember if you feel safe with your husband and you know he will protect you, know he will do everything in his power to protect y'all's kiddo. As parents when we have kids we suddenly become this huge emotional bundle, kids make us cry, laugh, they make us pissed off and angry but they also make us proud of them. Thank you so much for sharing, I really enjoyed this!!! 💜

[@rld1278]

I think you're right about not fighting about parenting in front of the kids, 💯. However, I think it's healthy for parents to have disagreements in front of the kids to show that it's normal and to be an example of it between people who love each other and have their best interest at heart.

[@Downsouth1796]

It warms my heart hearing y’all laugh. My wife and I have been married 5 years and we have never had a full fight. I grew up with my dad always fighting with my mom. So my wife and I have disagreements but we just talk it and move forward even if we agree to disagree

[@georgecoull1883]

The first six year's is very important for bonding and teaching. You two will be amazing parent's 💯 God bless 🙏

[@chamucorattlehead373]

As a father of 5, and definitely not perfect... loving thoughtful conversations like this are the way to get through these situations. You guys are, and will continue to be damn good parents. It's not her against you or you against her its both of you for each other and what's best for the kid. 👍

[@michaelshea5427]

It's not just you! You both are doing great! The fact that you both care so much for you son means you are doing an excellent job! You were both attracted to one another because of your similarities and differences. Just remember that when caring for your son. You want both of your qualities to shine through in Sonny. My wife and I went through this with our first child, the exact way you guys are. Don't expect there to ever be "your first argument" or "your first fight". This doesn't have to be a normal thing for a relationship in which 2 people always respect and care for one another. Especially when both of you are trying to achieve the same goal. God Bless your marriage and your son!

[@curiousman1672]

Such classic parenting evolution. Know this, we've ALL had this conversation. Mine happened to occur 25 years ago. My son lived, thrived, and has a 4 mth old of his own. And btw, they're going thru the exact same thing..........control, boundaries, "do it my way", "you need to___________". Since the beginning of time.

[@neilmcdonald6366]

I can't like this video enough! As a father of 3 boys this was defiantly an issue with our first son. Seeing you guys work it out by talking and not just letting the issues build up is awesome and shows how great yall are doing as parents. It's crazy how resilient children are but as new parents all you do is worry, not sure if that really ever changes but it does get better. Love the vlogs!

[@inhale.exhale.2527]

7:34 "i know i'm guilty." awesome. a keeper. 👍😁

[@alexanderross4]

God bless you two and your beautiful marriage and family. 🙏🏼♥️

[@jarrodyeager]

Communication is probably my biggest weakness. Raising children is super stressful for a relationship. Great content. Love it.

[@hoffadanorthoff4800]

It’s not just you guys. Two is even more challenging and this video does a good job of showing a complicit agreement. It’s more about getting it off your chest and making your spouse aware than about the actual issue. Being open instead of just building resentment is huge.

[@christinescorner7026]

What a cool concept. Just a regular couple talking things out. Letting people see the discussion…and you’re right “it’s not just you” As a relationship expert, whose literal profession was born out of those exact same “issues”with my husband, I think what you’re doing is awesome. By the way, It’s a classic relationship pattern for a new mom to want control things due to supreme fear for the baby, even if it’s illogical. (Meaning she knows dads got this, but also she’d feel better if she was in control of Most of the Situations!) It’s also classic for dad to “back off” to avoid the argument. (Cuz dads wanna bring the play factor to parenting and fighting brings stress and aborts the play) If you’re looking for wisdom, I think mine would be to watch for any pattern that shows up again and again. Patterns exist to alert us to a glitch in the system. If we watch for them, and learn from them, we can resolve them. Parenting brings up alllll the unresolved stuff. The places where we have felt ignored, abandoned, powerless, inferior, alone….all the stuff we’ve tried to avoid feeling. It’s God’s way of growing us, I think and it’s the best work a couple can do on the planet. Sunny is really lucky. Wishing you many blessings on your parenting journey!

[@davidweidenhamer9595]

Great title....loved the topic of this video. "Discussions or disagreements" whichever you prefer to call them.... Just remember in the end it's ALL about the love you share with each other and your son.

[@averyneilson12]

This reminds me of my wife and I. I think the natural instinct of a mother is to due too much for their kids and be overly protective. The natural instict of men is to encorage indepence and let kids learn the hard way. The truth is this is why partner ship between men and women is so critical. Men could certainlty learn to be a little more sensative and nuturing and women have to understand you are not raising children you are helping a child learn to be an adult. Their is a difference. Men are generally more rational or logical and women are emotional. Both are equally important elements to having a healthy home. Thanks for the video guys it was great!

[@Amanda-dt7kq]

Extremely relatable. I have been told I always or often shutdown my husband's ideas or suggestions. He also expressed feelings of nothing he does is right. The discussion still creeps into our marriage but I have made it a rule for myself to never say no to anything he says. Though I sometimes forget or fail. Thanks for the video. Looking forward to the segment.

[@lemoineml]

I laughed watching this because it sounds like every new parent I know. It is natural for mothers to have that overprotective instinct and it keeps us dad's from doing anything to risky! Ya'll are doing great enjoy your new experiences they go by so quickly.