Iyanla's Eye-Opening Exercise Helps a Mom See Her Pattern of Neglect | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

Judy, 63, has a history of ignoring the messes around her in favor of pretending that everything is okay. Judy's sanitized "reality," however, is only creating more issues in her broken family. To demonstrate how life can spiral out of control when you don't tend to the messes, Iyanla gives Judy a solitary task -- making oatmeal for breakfast -- and then sneaks in potentially disastrous distractions that only compound the mess as Judy gets off track. For more on #FIXMYLIFE, visit WatchOWN.tv/Iyanla
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In the popular self-help series, “Iyanla: Fix My Life”, bestselling author, spiritual life coach and television host Iyanla Vanzant goes behind closed doors to help people whose relationships and lives have broken down.
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Iyanla's Eye-Opening Exercise Helps a Mom See Her Pattern of Neglect | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN
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[@ChrisH124]

I am obsessed with iyanla. She’s so wise.

[@pontshorampooana5867]

You can say that again..no wonder Mam Oprah just couldn't give up on her..now it makes sense..

[@BigAsh551]

For real

[@humanfairy]

Same

[@reggeesexpressions]

PharaohCharming I’m going to see her on the 2 of August

[@saliyaahmariee]

Same

[@laurenhahn890]

“Its just for the kids!” 😂😂

[@agueromessi5973]

That went over everyone's head tho boo

[@santefeaster460]

@@agueromessi5973 It didn't, I was waiting for the lady to catch on at that point.

[@twdjt6245]

@@agueromessi5973 speak for yourself

[@Neliciae]

She kept smiling but I think she noticed that statement but kept on because iyanla was still going on lol

[@francenorzel2636]

@@Neliciae she definitely caught it

[@ingridapollon645]

Interesting...Iyanla is very gifted! God is using her in a mighty way. She's amazing!

[@sarandaakens3647]

Amen yes he is

[@beautifulmind1834]

I Absolutely Agree 100 %

[@pontshorampooana5867]

I'm just in awe of GOD, I mean, of how HE can use a human being like this..I've seen it with Mam Oprah and now I'm seeing it with Mam Iyanla..GOD is truly good..

[@torrihoward9729]

Yes 🤗🙏

[@rockstherocks8157]

Ingrid Apollon yes maam

[@cgrepresentative01]

This made me cry. Moms have so many tasks and we dont get enough credit

[@FlyGirlManifested]

who cutting all these darn onions around here....

[@negrilgyrl]

Very true

[@J.White777]

Yep! We never get the credit or recognition but when something isn't right, who does everyone call??? MOM!

[@kirahoward23]

So true

[@KimothyBrown]

I do think the credit is in how your child participates in society and how their lives turns out.

[@jadeiman3094]

I swear man iyanla fix my life is one of the realist shows. 😩 I be crying like I ain't a thug 😭

[@puddincup9879]

Jade Perrin 😑

[@naturallynene1119]

AshTheOne “Thug tears “ 😂😂✌🏽

[@missnene9157]

Right!

[@sonyaethaniel]

💯

[@nicquema]

Me too!!! Thug tears though 😭😭😭😭😭

[@myshanamakisi6063]

Love it when regular folks are on the show.

[@carladw3380]

Myshan Amakisi Me too!

[@J.White777]

It seems like the celebrities never fully recieve the message anyway!

[@icameisaws4829]

Me too. Celebrities try TOO hard to protect their image that they never really open up. Like when they have to talk off camera and stuff like that. Regular people put it all out

[@kylesummers7478]

Well it’s mostly regular people, and I think that’s what touches so many people. We can all see ourselves in at least one of the guest, if not more than one.

[@diamondis4ever]

i love that judy was able to receive!

[@jaibanks7151]

Yessss!!!!!

[@JustLikeAFlower]

D B not even her ability it was her readiness to even receive it because most people go on this show but aren’t ready to receive their truth not ready to see the path may not be for them but this woman was passed being ready

[@msthang5366]

So important

[@pragz100]

D B yes and she got the message

[@ShiikaneTv]

watching her demeanor change when she realised what was happening was so sad to watch :(

[@valtyme7340]

Iyanla you sure know what to say and how to say it 😱

[@ChinaWhite4life]

Valerie G I love your hair 💯

[@valtyme7340]

@@ChinaWhite4life Thanks☺

[@ChinaWhite4life]

Valerie G 😩 I loved it ❤️😍

[@MissPamR]

My grandma use to say “ you can’t put sugar on 💩 because it’s still 💩.

[@notmebutyou8350]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Grandma knew what she was talking about, didn't she?

[@MissPamR]

Not Me But You She sure did and she didn’t have a problem telling folks.😂

[@MrsLLWB]

Pamela R And let the church say amen!!!!

[@CLM1988]

what a great saying !

[@mishylove]

Grandmas don't waste time beating around the bush! I love it.

[@Nichii3]

Lmao she was putting her in the biggest loop I’ve ever witnessed 😂

[@madwalka6402]

-Stephie I was like where is this going? 😂

[@user-cc616]

Yea Iyanla is so visual😂

[@MorganMingo70]

And with such ease... so smooth!!!

[@branflake19141]

Lol

[@tannamoorer6119]

I was crying from the beginning. It was like she was talking to me. My mind is constantly in overdrive trying to multitask. She is gifted. I only have two kids and it is so hard sometimes. I admire all mothers single or not. Sometimes you can have a spouse and still feel single like you have to do everything.

[@a.caicedo7552]

My life

[@dezirec7543]

My life as well .

[@Pink_MobStudio]

My life in a nutshell sis married but I’m definitely alone

[@amberbdabbin6248]

Wow .. you said it gracefully

[@dreamkitty]

it’s not hard you just not built for motherhood

[@keepitallthewayfunky3448]

Is it me or is Iyanla getting more and more beautiful.. her healing makes her Angelic or something..I love it!

[@JEOGRAPHYSongs]

Denial can be an attractive coping strategy, but it is seldom wise.

[@Logansbl]

This is profound

[@puddincup9879]

JEOGRAPHY beautifully said!

[@shadyritaB]

JEOGRAPHY wow that really hit home

[@darkfeather6857]

It really depends on the situation. Sometimes life throws so many curveballs at you the only way to stay sane is to deny.

[@JEOGRAPHYSongs]

Yes, that can certainly be true for a time.

[@jacksprat2178]

Iyanla is educationally shady, and it's perfect.

[@Michelle-jz8vl]

Iyanla💕 So freakin gifted! Interesting the way she shows you your life’s mess..

[@demetriuswilliams5620]

Iyanla is a beautiful soul, deliverance is powerful it has absolutely nothing to do with church and being loud and shouting but simply getting to the source of the problem and showing compassion. That's Grace and it's GOD'S work for all of us to do.

[@honeysreality3673]

DEMETRIUS WILLIAMS amen amen.

[@cherishdeb]

Casting out devils is one COMPONENT of deliverance. It’s not all there is to it.

[@pontshorampooana5867]

Amen to your statement Demetrius!

[@dsmith7684]

wow...

[@torrihoward9729]

We are"to be the Church"!

[@kiathadiva7]

Lol being a mom period is hard .... but just being present for your children is all that matters !!!

[@BeNechelle]

Do you really think so?

[@kiathadiva7]

@@BeNechelle are you a mother ?

[@Brownie8986]

AMEN!!!

[@carolellamuch9571]

You need to take care of yourself first if you're not healthy mentally & emotionally you won't be a good mom. You can't give what you don't have. I am a mom and I had to learn that

[@BeNechelle]

@@kiathadiva7 No.

[@rooterdevin]

This idea was smart

[@JustBree716]

I had my daughter at 17 and never even thought I'd be my childs friend. Hellll no. And i definitely wasnt puttin no man in front of her. And i did this as a teenager. There was some obstacles and i have laid down the law by myself and with the help of my parents. She's 21 now and on her way praise God.

[@rivermoon8682]

This is everyday life for a single mom, you do what you have to for those kids. This is real life.

[@jumpscare1530]

Why are you a single mom?

[@babyree2901]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@emmajunewood3913]

Siobhan Fogarty yes, because every man is a great father and worthy of being a husband. Of course. How could we not have known that?!

[@samone7667]

@@emmajunewood3913 that's why u get to know people before having kids

[@ericasterling7224]

​@@samone7667 A divorced mom is still a single mom. A widowed mom is still a single mom.

[@negrilgyrl]

"Did he ever get arrested?" That's enough to raise someone's blood pressure.

[@HolyScript.]

Iyanla makeup is flawless

[@allthingstonya8931]

The process is extremely hard. I pray for god to continue to help me daily. Through this journey called parenting. Anyone struggling out there stay strong and prayed up. The man above has you

[@klcjohnson2]

People can say what they want about Iyanla, but most of the time, that sista be on point with her delivery and strategy.

[@kuselwa6715]

This was me for 20 years... Powerful lesson, thanks Iyanla

[@flavarz]

Wise women. One who knows she needs help... listens and is receptive. I need to learn especially when I don't ask for help🙏

[@tamara317]

Id Give ANYTHING 4 Her 2 Straighten Me Out I WUDNT FIGHT NONE OF IT HELP ME PLEASE!!! 🙏🙏🙏

[@ladykray4eva]

❤❤❤ Asking forvthe help is the 1st step. Blessings on your journey.

[@Ericamidwife]

Rough Ryder317 same here, my only obstacle is doing it on TV.. I wonder if she’s available off camera for a few of course. I’d pay it

[@simplykierra6163]

Rough Ryder317 girllll I feel the same😩

[@876tisha]

Girl I am right there with you

[@liveyourlife1777]

Rough Ryder317 . Awwwww I just wanna give all of y'all a big hug. Keep y'all heads up!

[@BLUNTDEZ101]

I love how she realized what Iyanla was doing and just accepted the lesson. You can tell her eyes were wide open after that.

This was deep!🌟❤️wow! I cried.

[@joyce9857]

I was on the verge

[@shrondasmith7544]

Iyanla looks very pretty, this mother must have been so overwhelmed with just everyday struggles. I don't see her treating this lady differently because she is white, you treat people accordingly in this line of work. The real thing is in life when you have people's best interest at heart you tell them the truth.......

[@dreamysunset4720]

Shronda Smith excellent point ☝🏼

[@shrondasmith7544]

@@dreamysunset4720 hey this is shronda thanks for your feedback be blessed....

Shronda Smith true

[@shrondasmith7544]

@ hey this is shronda thanks for your feedback be blessed...

[@bigglypuff0420]

She let her daughter get molested...

[@TheUltimateLady]

The preview of this show was very moving. Can’t wait to watch!

[@AlexisShaniceYT]

Damn 😥🤧. I gotta find me an ‘Iyanla’ here in Philly

[@jamiedodson3402]

I'm still looking for one!!

[@dariencashaw5751]

Iylana is good at what she do. Thank god for MS. Iyanla.

[@rjbmore]

Iyanla be breaking them heaux down 😂😂😂 the way she did that though! ✊🏿

[@ayshaahmed5193]

When iyanla said no time 2 even enjoy ur gift i started doing the ugly cry,that struck deep and made me think bout my own life

[@xosham]

“Of course cause it’s just for the kids A hmm hmm” 😂😂😂

[@user-ur2wd8du4z]

3:21.. compassion, togetherness, EMPATHY.. in just holding her hands... wow.. powerful!!

[@DANCINGequalsMYLIFE]

Loved this . Whew Chile my eyes got a lil watery

[@Bundleupbeauty]

Oh so familiar to so many women Broke my heart

[@ZenLioness]

Iyanla just gets more and more beautiful with time. ✨💕

[@buttermoment2748]

Why do Iyanla's techniques always bring me to tears ... and the story aint even mine! .... lol ... I'm so soppy

[@Tracie__91]

I want to meet her so badly and tell her my feelings lol and I want a hug from her

[@myarenea1125]

Misty H same

[@msgould5731]

Same here. I don't know why I am tearing up damn

[@PorcheJohnson]

So gentle. Made me cry when she did nothing but listen when she realized what was going on. Beautiful soul.

[@Dezdamoonbear]

There isn't a therapist out there that has anything on Iyanla. She is untouchable!💜💜💜

[@ChastityChained]

Iyanla is very intuitive. I love the techniques that she utilizes to communicate the message. Her techniques don't impact everyone (mostly b/c those ppl aren't truly ready to receive her advice to begin with), but her methods typically allow ppl to see other perspectives.

[@Lollii_Popp]

Ms. Iyanla is so amazing and gently, that they way she relayed the message to this vulnerable lady, was just amazing. Almost made me emotional. Such a lovely lady, Ms. Vanzant is. ❤❤❤

[@rebeccaramos3246]

Im so heartbroken with her. This is exactly me. My goodness my goodness I am just struck by how much I needed to see this

[@laughalotitsgoodforyourbod7627]

I absolutely love this women!! So warm and loving.

[@karenwinston2833]

I call this, a teachable moment!! 🙌👍😍

[@dewandaf6451]

Oh wow Dr. Iyanla is so amazing, she's truly a blessing to the families that she has helped!! 💕💕

[@evelynj.amponsah8417]

Iyanla your makeup is on FLEEK. IV is good at her gift.

[@agalewatson11]

I almost pooped my pants with laughter when she pretended to accidentally throw stuff in her pot in front of the woman

[@Karla-wh2nh]

I love the hands on lessons she teaches people.

[@mwbdlr2446]

Watching Iyanla over the past years has truly made me more aware of my conscious decisions that I have made and can make as a mom that have and could affect my son. I am very grateful for the different perspective that she presents that sometimes you just may not realize .

[@loccdogg3174]

I love the way miss iyalana brings it all home man i love this women and her gift

[@kathleenyvonnewestbrook7307]

Aw, gift of heart! Thanks.

[@teej1657]

Damn iyanla is baddddd

[@juliedavis7445]

bad as in good right? lol

[@teej1657]

@@juliedavis7445 yes..lol

[@loyrishaloaucoin258]

You were working with that mother, but this blessed me so as the realization you brought to her was true for me as well. You fixing my life through your work with others. I thank you!

[@Kuskuam206]

I saw this video many times . Wow really appreciate you and love you iyanla.

[@4knewt505]

She would've had me hands on my knees crying by the refrigerator when she said no time to enjoy your gift

[@crystalaiken7570]

That was beautiful and made tears roll. Wow so many of us do this.

[@stephenchristian3636]

I Love me some Iyanla!!! ❤ She always speaks the truth & she's a realist. Also I love how she gets thru to ppl. I'm a Sexual Abuse/Domestic violence survivor an can totally relate to this story. I'll try my best to be on this show

[@nikita8096]

Wow! Her techniques are life changing.

[@lindsay6343]

Shes so beautiful inside n out. I love her!

[@deserelewis3905]

See this, I liked she wasn't to extreme and got her point across. I felt that, and this lady received it.

[@sirbruce5978]

Wow, Ms Iyanla. I watched starting over house regularly when that was on reg tv years ago. I watched because you allowed me to safely see me. I just stopped by today to see what you were up to. You are still bringing people out like only you can. You are a case study for operating in one's gifting. You can do what you do the way you do because it's your gifting. Seeing you in yours helps me zero in on and honor mine. Thank you for your service

[@maimohamed3590]

That's an eye opening thing for all of us for sure, thank you😊

[@terryflowers7837]

Yoooooooooooooo !!!!!! Amazing this woman and the people that work with her !!!!!! Her and her crew are amazing !!!!!

[@Meeeksss]

Oh my God.. Miss Iyanla... just love you!

[@ItsAllLove4Real]

Iyanla is a powerful somebody...I'm so done with HOW she gets her point across, lol. And they never even figure out what she's up to until she's done it...God bless her and ALL of the families and individuals who put in the work and used the tools given them🥰.

[@1SweetQ]

Iyanla is the truth!! I love binge watching her on the OWN app.

[@tamaraosamwonyi6041]

Yes !! This is her ministry 💓

[@TheKaren_makeup]

Moms have so many task in life even forgetting about themselves..Iyanla is so correct.

[@Gisellej80]

Mums have so much they go through i like this lesson nothing is organize in life

[@onlychimerically]

this is crazy...everything iyanla said goes RIGHT over her head. oh to be deeply unconscious...

[@MJ-zk7ne]

onlychimerically right reading these comments I can’t believe people aren’t catching this

[@locojazz5770]

I know.. it’s like my mind keeps becoming more thirsty for clear logic.

[@NubianPrince85]

beautiful...im learning lots

[@luciamixon8119]

Wow! Truth.

[@debbiep99]

This made me cry

[@Charlenedoesstuff]

Very powerful lesson...I started crying!

[@rebeccaclement99]

This was so beautiful.

[@dahna4822]

Ms Iyanla is Such a Gift🙏🏽

[@joyous1212]

Such a powerful video!

[@m.xoxo.b]

I didn’t even realize what she was doing until she dropped the marbles lol 😂

[@HeauxTalesTarot]

Child that exercise touched my soul whew iyanla sure know how to bring it out you

[@jaybae2316]

Powerful lesson as always.

[@celiwemalindi2489]

powerful...

[@82laina]

Wow this was very deep and emotional. 😢

[@singlemotherfoundation_]

Whew.... I'm so emotional 😢

[@cherylross4040]

That is powerful.

[@faizaahmad1298]

I am this mom right now with little kids growing up...how can i watch this entire episode so i too can learn how to be present and enjoy my gifts? I am obsessed with Iyanla, i wish you were my friend that i could call up and get advice from

[@latoyawoods9361]

Whew the tears! This lesson resonated with me!

[@MsCromartie1]

Wow!!!! I swear I love her!

[@OWN]

She's great, Keisha! Thanks for your kind words. Watch more of Iyanla: Fix My Life here: bit.ly/rtu85rd OWN ~ Molly

[@nursebynight14]

Amazing and true rarely are we present

[@boredomania9245]

That was an amazing exercise, and an eye opener

[@stephanieacierno2584]

Wow what a great excercise !!!!! Loveee Iyanla !!!!!! 🥰

[@selotetafili43]

Love her shows amazing

[@fountainmay4175]

IYANLA VANZANT is simply genius..... She knows how to set up the situations that the people can get the point without feeling that they are being told what/who they are.... bravo IYANLA, well done. Kisses😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

[@Omo21000]

Wow this made me tear up, Iyanla sure know how to break you down

[@highlyfavored4595]

WOW HOW POWERFUL