What I meant to say was “when the parents don’t care, the CREATORS of the app should.” I’m not the most well-spoken person. Thank you for all of your feedback on this topic.
@kat52522 жыл бұрын
We knew what you meant, don't worry ❤
@SailorMoonX4202 жыл бұрын
Bravo 👏 I love that you had the guts to talk about the ugly side of TikTok. It was a good app but now its turned nasty 🤢. Thank you for shining light on something that, like you said, no one wants to talk about.
@detective_cheese2 жыл бұрын
The app absolutely should as well! There is absolutely more they could be doing but they're so nonchalant about this. I've reported stuff like this multiple times and get the same generic response as you. Creators and the app itself should absolutely care as well! Love you Jaime!
@LoriCrabtree312 жыл бұрын
Yuck, this made my skin crawl. Another issue with this stuff is people who are watching children in their bedrooms also use the children's cameras to watch them when they aren't streaming. People even sell access to other creeps that want to watch children. Baby monitor video feeds are also a hot commodity since parents don't realize this is a thing and don't block access to the web. You can be as serious or as funny as you want, you put out great content!
@MzClementine2 жыл бұрын
I am so proud of you for bringing this up. Brava. Jamie this is so important to talk about. I'm not even on that website app whatever it is. But I know anything mixed with adult and children and flip in videos and live is not good. Not good at all. Brava darling. Talking about this in bringing awareness is extremely important.
@RawBeautyKristi2 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU for making this Jaime. This is SO SO SO important!!!
@kayleigherwin98362 жыл бұрын
Two of my absolute favorite influencers interacting and pushing for this behavior to change just makes my heart happy to see. Like Kristi said, thank you for speaking about this Jaime, I’ve also seen some disgusting things come from tiktok lives and I’m glad someone with a huge platform decided to speak out about this. I’m so happy to see both of you promoting safety and love especially for children who can’t advocate for themselves. 🥺❤️
@Daanis992 жыл бұрын
aaawwe... pretty lady.... i wanna send this to sloan as well you guys
@88mbmason2 жыл бұрын
Oh how I wish you two would collab!
@shavedparmesanprosciuttoan43172 жыл бұрын
Why don’t you have a check mark girl???
@darkangel41852 жыл бұрын
This is why sex trafficking is at a high right now. Social media makes it so easy. Social media is the devil. The wild wild west.
@mommyfindingfit2 жыл бұрын
I'm so tired of people making the argument, "well you put yourself out there". What about that means you deserve abuse? I also leave my house to go out in public. That doesn't give anyone else the right to rob me, attack me, or bully me because I went outside. Victim shaming at it's worst.
@BleachBlue042 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU 👏🏻
@ohhh2.02 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY. Someone was trying to tell me "If someone can't handle negative comments they shouldn't even be on the internet." as if that's a solution when the internet is a big part of society today.
@blowout162 жыл бұрын
I screenshot this comment as an example to show people how ridiculous they sound when they make that argument. Thank you 👏🏼
@kate_m_k882 жыл бұрын
I agree that “putting oneself out there” is not, in any fathomable way or stretch of the imagination, deserving of the insanely disgusting, foul, ignorant, hateful, pathetic, callous, and unnecessary comments, behavior, and absolute fuckery that far too many certain people in this world, especially nowadays, direct towards people, entirely. Now, let me clarify that the following does not justify, dismiss, or validate the foul-ass actions of those who engage in acting like a little “C you next Tuesday” *[excuse my “French” and hostility; I, quite simply, am growing increasingly frustrated, disheartened, and concerned with the ever-present and expanding attitude, behavior, mentality, way of “thinking,” and so on from people lately, in general],* whatsoever; there is, however, this shameful, ridiculous, unfair, and wrongful expectation that someone needs to consider, unfortunately when putting themselves online, which is that they are taking a chance with being on the receiving end of the foolish and out-of-touch, not to mention the wildly insensitive bullshit that a plethora of particular individuals seemingly feels the need, desire, they want to, or they “can’t help” but to exhibit and direct towards people, regardless of how unbelievably unacceptable and unfair that is, unfortunately. There is a vast difference between any of us walking around in the “real world,” so to speak, or our daily lives with the interactions we have with people and someone getting on the internet, which is an innately vulnerable thing to do, to begin with, and “putting themselves out there,” even more so on a live feed, for all of those people who can't or won't, and for whatever reason *[the possibilities are “endless”],* dare to act the way that they do towards people when online and safe behind the screens of their devices in real life to people’s faces/out and about; the internet and being behind a buffer or safety shield brings up an exuberant level of false-confidence within way too many people. None of that makes the crap that people like that say to others innocently participating in something that so many others do “okay,” “reasonable,” “rational,” validated,” or not incredibly wrong and unacceptable. This particular argument reminds me of the nonsensical justification that many people attempt to give for the harassment, hateful comments, degrading, demeaning, and all of the same types of things that people say to those who upload on the internet, in general, towards celebrities and how “it’s a part of the job” and how “they should expect it, deal with it, or get out of the business,” when in reality, what needs to happen is people learning how to be respectful, courteous, compassionate, empathetic, morally inclined, as well as decent human beings who understand and utilize common courtesy and human decency-The same goes for those who treat others like shit online. Is there, technically speaking, a level of expectancy for this type of bullshit from people? Yes. Does that make it okay? Fuck no, lol. There shouldn't be any expectation of this crap whatsoever. However, until we, as a society, figure out why on earth so many people think this is okay, feel the desire to act that way, and how we can turn things around, then this will unfortunately continue. You wouldn't believe the number of people that I have come across and interacted with who genuinely, for the life of them, could not understand or identify how this insanely disrespectful, unnecessary, and callous remark that they said about someone specific was just that-disrespectful, unnecessary, and insensitive. Not to mention that they will argue, and with the most arrogant, ignorant, intellectually struggling, and holier than thou attitude, that the thing that they said is not any of those things and that they are merely “sharing their opinion,” lol. There is a noticeable decrease in people acquiring basic/fundamental morals and values, kind of like, “if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all” type of sentiments. These issues are so much more complicated, deep, and complex than the immediate disgraceful actions and comments they make. Personally, when it comes to a solution, and I have been reflecting on this general thing for a while now, I have no idea where even to start.
@anni13482 жыл бұрын
Exactly. And what would be the solution? Never enter the internet? That's dumb and not possible today, the internet is a extremely big and import part of our society. That's like saying you're supposed to lock yourself up at home and never leave your house, when you don't want to get robbed, attacked, r*ped, sexually harassed etc. This argument is just ridiculous and like you said taking the responsibility away from the one who's the actual problem, the criminal/pedophiles on the internet who made the conscious decision to target children, and it gives the responsibility to the victim instead. Victimblaming at its best/worst.
@rachelzona73612 жыл бұрын
As a parent of an almost teenager this was a great way to open the conversation with her about internet safety and bullying. She was upset because I won’t allow her to download apps on her cell phone ( which she has because it is used as a medical device). I had tried to explain over and over again how it is not safe and people take advantage of kids her age all the time. I let her watch this video and it was eye opening for her. We were able to have a good conversation.
@Kathywake23 Жыл бұрын
I am so happy this was a convo opener for you. I don't have kids yet but have always contemplated a way to show them how to be safe without scaring them too badly. I watched dateline as a kid and that was not the way.
@lisapeesalemonsqueezah3241 Жыл бұрын
I love that you’re using videos like this to show her. I was victimized as a teen by men online and I wish my mom taught me a bit more about how adults take advantage of young girls (though to be fair, my mom didn’t know any better because in my community it was considered normal for adult men to date teen girls)
@WritingWomen2 жыл бұрын
Marginalized creators get banned for “violations” when they talk about discrimination but people can creep on teens and stuff with no consequences
@SisterGertrude8422 жыл бұрын
I know! It's twisted and makes no sense. I reported a commentor on KZbin who was being racist, homophobic, and slandering religion which is in clear violation of community guidelines and got the same crappy message Jamie did. I still see the user posting comments occasionally. It's stupid and they really need to step up the precautions and reviewing of comments and content.
@CJ-qm9xz2 жыл бұрын
Hosting mature conversations is NOT equivalent to being negative. This was really well done. 👌
@cleoc38612 жыл бұрын
Well said!
@valkyrie59482 жыл бұрын
I had NO idea this existed
@currybread52982 жыл бұрын
Agree. When did it happened, that conversations like this are just being negative.
@dampearthdave2 жыл бұрын
"when the parents don't care, the app should" YES. Love this and you Jaime
@rachaelmccarl2 жыл бұрын
YES!! and all other decent human beings.
@ItsEricaBeyetch2 жыл бұрын
You are putting too much trust in China
@LittleMissStamper2 жыл бұрын
To play devils advocate.....it's not always that they don't care....sometimes they don't KNOW it's possible and kids are slick. KZbin...which I am on daily.... implemented a live chat feature....which I had NO IDEA existed until months after catching my daughter talking on it and I was like ....WTF is this??? Since when is THIS a thing? I THINK it's gone now.... And she hasn't had KZbin since.....but these apps change things and and rules and you THINK its one way and it's not. Also YES I did check her KZbin to see what she was watching but the chat feature was off in a weird "hidden" place and since I didnt know it existed....I didn't know to go digging for it. With that said ...ALL of these social media platforms let HORRIFIC things go on and they KNOW they are going on.
@StandYourGroundHomestead2 жыл бұрын
@@LittleMissStamper do they have a live chat feature on the kid side of youtube? If so then that's pretty sketchy. Good on you for jumping on that and being a responsible concerned parent either way. 👏
@LittleMissStamper2 жыл бұрын
@@StandYourGroundHomestead it was regular KZbin with age restriction turned on. She was a teen so a little beyond cartoons and some of her favorite creators who are kid friendly.....were not on kids KZbin. So I turned on all the restrictions, checked her watch history...THOUGHT I was monitoring and being on top of it. Until you walk in the living room and they close their laptop suddenly and you're like......what the hell was THAT? Busted. BUT....they didn't have chat on THIS side of KZbin then either...until they added it out of nowhere and I didn't know. I THINK it's gone now ....I hope it's gone.
@saylesswithmonique2 жыл бұрын
YES! The amount of times I’ve reported literal sociopathic behavior and I get “this doesn’t violate community guidelines.” It’s total BS. Thank you for speaking to this.
@pavlal.4552 Жыл бұрын
That's because it was created by Chinese government, no joke.
@angelamonahan23772 жыл бұрын
As a mother of 2 young girls, I HIGHLY appreciate you for bringing attention to this. (I've LOVED the comedy and entertainment you bring on your channel for years, but now I respect the heck out of you too.) It is a very fine line between "inappropriate" and "dangerous" and there is ZERO rationalization for why children should ever even be in these situations in the 1st place. Adults should be adulting with other adults, period. Why aren't kids able to just BE kids anymore? Thank you, thank you, thank you for making this video, Jaime! 💜💜
@lostandfound5145 Жыл бұрын
I am also a mom to kiddos in the “TikTok” age range and cannot allow them to use the app. It’s just too dangerous. My 11 yr old son uses Discord for video games and I already have to take that away or do something drastic as he has been talking about his “friend” a 16 yr old boy who lives in Russia (that’s the story, anyway) who is constantly discussing his sexuality. With my 11 yr old son My son came to me literally in tears worrying that if he turned out to have some bizarre sexuality or kink that I would kick him out and never speak to him again Because the kids on his video game for kids constantly say these kinds of things. These video games and apps are trash. They’re all total trash My son said he was having nightmares about this for months but was too afraid to ask me. And I’ve had this talk with him back during sex Ed. I’ve told him repeatedly that I would love him no matter what and been so very open and loving to him I would never in a million years turn him out or cut off contact with him. There is nothing he could do or be that would make me stop loving and supporting him But he’s just a little kid. These other people terrified him People talking about being “Furries” To little kids. On a game for little kids. It’s sick
@thesandravshow2 жыл бұрын
I hate the “it’s their parents responsibility”. Let’s advocate for kids who don’t have anybody to advocate for them! On top of that kids become adults in our communities, do you want all these traumatize kids walking around out there being someone you have to deal with? Whether you look at it as wanting to protect them or even just wanting to be selfish about it, there are so many reasons why we should care. Thank you for this video I had no idea.
@Iamyl42 жыл бұрын
Yesss!!!!! This!
@lexwithbub2 жыл бұрын
It takes a village to raise a child. As a community, as a society, it is our responsibility to protect them.
@onemooreperson132 жыл бұрын
Well put! You said it better than I could! Thanks!
@sigynlaufeyson36312 жыл бұрын
Plus a parent isn’t generally with, say a 13 year old, all the time. This whole thing shouldn’t exist in my opinion.
@melissafraser21902 жыл бұрын
@@sigynlaufeyson3631 agreed. I am a parent and I am not naive enough to think that they are always doing the right thing all of the time where ever they are or that there friends parents are also watching them 24/7. It is a very scary world and sometimes, having a dialog with your kids about safeguarding themselves and being candid about what to look out for is the best thing you can do.
@underscore_exclamationmark21802 жыл бұрын
I have to share my story! This happened to me and my cousin back in the 2000s when chat rooms where a thing. My cousin started chatting with a guy from prison, he had access to the internet even before smart phones. He started stalking and harassing her from prison. When her mom intervened, he found my address and phone number ( I don't know how) and began stalking me. We were 14!!!!! This happened before acess to this stuff was mainstream man, it took me years to realise how scary and damaging that was. As a kid, I didn't understand how harmful and dangerous it was. Thank God I had the soundness of mind to phone the police. This guy turned out to be in prison for the horrible things he did to kids, and here he was doing it from prison....please be safe, protect your kids and teenagers, protect yourself. 💜💜💜💜💜
@groovystoovie2 жыл бұрын
This reminds me of all the creepy adults I encountered online around the year 2000. I was just trying to play Neopets! Predators and apathetic adults will always take advantage of avenues to reach children. Edit: Jaime I love everything you put out, especially your new stuff. You make me laaauuuuugh, girl!!!
@trailertrashley2 жыл бұрын
I’m not sure you know what apathetic means.
@lisajones61072 жыл бұрын
❤
@kluv4202 жыл бұрын
😱😱😱
@kluv4202 жыл бұрын
I had a neopet
@kluv4202 жыл бұрын
My neopet probably is dead bc till right now I forgot it existed.
@OnePersonOneOpinion2 жыл бұрын
internet safety seriously needs to be part of school curriculum these days (i say as a high school teacher, who is trying to fit it into my lessons) thank you jaime for talking about this!!
@TKC-op8nr2 жыл бұрын
100% agree! If social media is going to be such a big part of our lives, safety guidelines should be taught in school (or anywhere for that matter) so kids at least know how to be responsible using it.
@cptjmd58122 жыл бұрын
Same. I used to try the same thing with my high school students. The interactions they were having and content they were posting online was SO risky, especially considering they were all advertising what school they went to/basically where they lived.
@CertifiedClapaholic2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I really want THE STATE teaching my kids about the internet with their BS propaganda 🙄
@OnePersonOneOpinion2 жыл бұрын
@@CertifiedClapaholic well like jaime observed often parents dont teach it either, likely bc they didnt have to deal with it. its just basically "don't talk to strangers" again lol
@jessicajordan41652 жыл бұрын
As someone hoping and trying to have a child, I’m doing as much as I can to be prepared to teach my child about responsibility, consequences, and safety where the internet is concerned.
@whatthewindblewin2 жыл бұрын
You know, this almost made me cry, actually. As a Millenial, I remember having a computer in our house around 12/13 years old. Even back then, it was kind of crazy how technology moved at such a rapid pace. There weren't any safegaurds and my parents were from an entirely different generation, so it was just kind of like "figure this new digital community out yourself." I had no idea what the potential dangers were. I was allowed to have Facebook as a teenager which, looking back, was NOT safe. Then instagram and Twitter came out and by then I was 21 (I think). I wasn't aware of the actual audience (the world): it felt like I was just posting from my parent's house. The gravity and potential danger never even crossed my mind. Now, as an adult, I look back and think, "wow. I really didn't have a clue." Now we have tons of dating apps, Snapchat, and TikTok and kids and teens just don't understand. It IS like a game. Their brains aren't fully developed yet. And what's so sad is that there's so much bullying and harassment that DOESN'T get reported. Kids don't know what to do in these situations. I really hope this kind of thing gets more traction. We need companies to wake up to this because it's high time someone took a stand. If I could go back and rescue that little boy I once was to erase some terrible situations, I would. And we have the power to do that for other kids. Thank you, Jaime.
@laurenelizabeth64472 жыл бұрын
You explained this PERFECTLY. Seeing how I used Snapchat when I was younger, I really had no clue I was really putting myself in danger. Now as an adult, I'm working on deleting my Snapchat, Facebook, (this is part of my 2022 goals) and even down the road I might get rid of my Instagram. Technology has taken over our lives and it makes me nervous about how I'm going to protect my own children from the internet world. It's scary.
@riot.poof992 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad that you spoke up about this, Jaime. TikTok is such a toxic app in general, and this is just the cherry on top. So often, I have friends ask me if I have the app and I give them an overwhelming NO. Don't need that crap in my life.
@celinajohnson7442 жыл бұрын
Hey Jaime! Thank you for bringing this up. You're not being "judgy", you're being discerning. For the last 10 years or so, being "judging" has been called bad, but the undeniable fact is, it is healthy to judge. Healthy people do that all the time; "is this right, is this not right?" "Is this safe, is this not safe?" "Is this healthy, is this not healthy?" We are SUPPOSED to judge!!! And it's only unhealthy, manipulative people who say judging is bad. What IS wrong is condemnation. i.e. "you did something wrong, so you can never be forgiven or make it right." THAT attitude is what is wrong. So you making a judgment call on the unsafe, unhealthy practices of TT is spot on. Keep up the good work!
@snippets9812 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh, thank you for this post! What an excellent way of breaking it down...
@miovicdina7706 Жыл бұрын
Very well said❤
@ryleeann69642 жыл бұрын
As someone who was groomed and stalked in real life by someone I met online when I was 13. This is extremely scary and I am so happy you brought it up Jamie. I had no clue this was even possible on TikTok
@Wheezersmom022 жыл бұрын
You should consider sharing your story. Do these young people even know they're being groomed? I was too, but had no idea, and really to this day, am not even completely sure what all was included in gaining my trust. It is SO gradual.
@kluv4202 жыл бұрын
Me to 12 , 13 years old many men groomed me in front of my family ...
@kluv4202 жыл бұрын
They are making pedophilia a thing
@alynsak2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry that happened to you. It's something we should all be more aware of and try to look out for.
@TheSwauzz Жыл бұрын
Out of curiosity, did you tell your parents or try to? If not, why didn't you? If you did tell them, did they ignore you?
@haize-ew3hr2 жыл бұрын
Jaime, I can tell you from personal experience that nothing good can come from a grown man opening up to young girls about his feelings. It is setting the stage for grooming. The same thing happened to me years ago. I was 14 when it started and he was 35. Thank you for bringing this to the forefront. I wish more people that have platforms would speak up. Peace!
@thisisourchannel35892 жыл бұрын
Exactly!! I've experienced the same and children are generally caring so they engage. It's such a psychological mess and even very loving parents can be completely manipulated. Like under a spell.
@brandonxmoody2 жыл бұрын
That's exactly the vibe I got from that small snippet. He was putting on a sad mopey story to gain her sympathy. A young teen girl is not qualified nor emotionally available for a whole ass grown man to be going to for emotional support. If someone can't see the danger in that then that is super scary.
@AlabasterMuslim2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry you went through that. Jaimie was definitely alluding to the fact he was grooming her. So sick.
@sairuhbeth64672 жыл бұрын
A grown man who doesn’t have bad intentions and who isn’t a predator, would never try to engage with a young girl as if they are on the same level. You’re right. He knew what he was doing. And nothing good comes from that 🥺
@snippets9812 жыл бұрын
This!!!!!!
@WitchOracle2 жыл бұрын
I had a huge pit in my stomach watching those. You're absolutely right, even when it seems perfectly innocent, there is so much opportunity to manipulate kids this way, it's sickening. I do wish app makers would feel more responsibility for taking care of their user base, but I can't imagine how that would ever come about.
@Sentientpotatoh2 жыл бұрын
Every day I am more afraid of parenting in this social media age. My child is only 2, but I know I better prepare myself quick for what is out there. Thank you for sharing.
@allie_burris2 жыл бұрын
You can do this. Don’t be afraid to be the weird parent. ❤️
@ipseityhealingstudio1386 Жыл бұрын
You got this. My kiddo is 11 and I've talked with them frankly about why I don't allow them to have social media or unrestricted internet access. They agree wholeheartedly and don't want to be exposed to it either.
@Sentientpotatoh Жыл бұрын
@@ipseityhealingstudio1386 thanks for sharing that. It's great to have open communication and agreement like that. I wish I hadn't seen some of the things I did when I was a young kid and the internet was new.
@SinnabunVT2 жыл бұрын
This is honestly more terrifying then what I went through as a child myself. To me this opens more chances for pedos to find children. When I was 12, I was exchanging emails with someone I met in a game who said he was about my age. After some weird things, asking where I lived and personal information, there was a search on him and found he was a man in his 40s in another state. That was in the 2000s, the fact they can live chat or live stream makes a mother instinct kick in. I don't have children but I would be terrified of this situation. You're not crazy in this Jaime.
@Leslie-wb8cb2 жыл бұрын
Yeah-- I remember being a senior in hs, in 1998 and having creepers coming for me in like, scrabble. WTF
@TheJessicahammerly2 жыл бұрын
Yes when I was early into my teens.. maybe 13.. might've even been 12.. I had made a friend in a chat room and talked a lot with this person.. then they started asking more personal questions and said their family was going to be coming to the state I live and wanted to see me.. yes I told what state I lived in but I always lied and said a big city an hour from me.. but anyways.. then one day I gave them one of the house phone numbers(the line that was for internet that no one used) and they called to talk to me and I expected to hear a young voice and it was a VERY deep man's voice that had to at least be in his 40s or later.. it really frightened me and I knew instantly this person was lying.. I was so scared afterwards that I thought he would somehow be able to track me down and I'd be kidnapped.. and I might have been if I had given out more information.. or accurate location.. so I really keep a close eye on my kids things.. and luckily they actually come to me and tell me pretty much everything.. so if something is sketchy or inappropriate or even if it's someone they see making fun of other people or saying things they probably shouldn't.. my kids show and tell me and we have a dialogue about it.. I just got they will always continue to do this, knowing I have their best interest in mind and they can freely ask me anything or tell me anything without judgment and will get an honest and age appropriate answer..
@lainasketches67112 жыл бұрын
yes, I've had a few viral videos on tiktok and after that happened my whole fyp turned into a weird feed of gross greasy old men duetting CHILDREN like 10years old. My husband is a teacher and children have gone missing and trafficking attempts have been made through tiktok. Its made me like rethink everything, really scary
@ahoward35032 жыл бұрын
My niece was 12 when she got a tik tok and her mom just thought it was just for fun and only saw things like dances and stuff. But then she there were older men just randomly following her. It freaked her out and they deleted the account.
@NickaLah2 жыл бұрын
Even as an adult I had something similar happen to me, and it's creepy AF when you find out the person you've been talking to isn't who they say they are...
@kumaasmr90232 жыл бұрын
Yes, it’s terrifying and extremely harmful to our children. It should be monitored or honestly completely banned.
@lbo60502 жыл бұрын
I don't see that platform going anywhere. It goes disturbingly deep with China and just why and how that platform took off so fast and stays relevant.
@Web202182 жыл бұрын
Not trying to bring politics but Trump did attempt to ban the app, I believe Biden reversed it. But they did try to ban the app I believe it was for security reasons.
@withsisu23242 жыл бұрын
Trump tried banning it, idk why it didn't go through but yeah it's unfortunate it wasn't banned honestly. 😬
@somethingcleverrrr2 жыл бұрын
@@Web20218 honestly I think Trump's reasons for wanting it banned were different than what's mentioned in this video, but that's just all the more reason for us to realize that taking a stand against pedophilia isn't a political statement (or at least, it shouldn't be). It's literally right versus wrong.
@kam12032 жыл бұрын
@@Web20218 that’s only in usa. i live in the Caribbean and there’s lots of inappropriate content made by adults here. It doesn’t really solve the issue. Also vpn exist :/
@alexandria17912 жыл бұрын
This needs to be talked about Jaime, thanks for shedding light. Even if you helped ONE parent or kid realize the truth, and think before they go on ANY app, your video was worth making. You are so genuine, we love you!
@GingerKid6862 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate you making this video, this is 100% an issue. Imo any "argument" is defending grown humans to potentially creep on children. I was 17 and was manipulated by a 27 year old man. I'm 28 now and I think back, there is nothing I could relate or want to talk to a child about. It's just creepy and people need to stop defending/victim blaming for grown humans actions. It's not okay
@isaacmuth70972 жыл бұрын
You can tell it’s serious to her (as it should be to all of us) when she makes a video unlike any other video she’s made just to address it.
@emanuela93172 жыл бұрын
You’re right Jaime. Even if it’s not “explicit” these lives are incredibly dangerous. Thank you for making this video.
@GenXfrom75 Жыл бұрын
I was groomed via a 1-900 chat line in 1990. It's SO much easier to access our children today. I have discussed these VERY REAL dangers with my sons before they ever got a phone (on their 13th birthdays). We've drilled into them what's appropriate to share and what is not. Parents, please talk to your children. Predators never LOOK scary, at first. 💔
@tayalcu67502 жыл бұрын
Social media terrifies me for so many reasons, this being one of them. I dont see how the world can move forward without it, but how can humankind continue using it when the studies prove it fosters addiction, poor self esteem, and creates loss of privacy - all in the best case scenario. So sad and scary.
@jill18122 жыл бұрын
I 100% stand with you on this. You’re not a Debbie downer, you’re standing up for something and shedding light on a problem that a lot of people don’t realize is happening.
@watchdog80582 жыл бұрын
absolutely! i went to my daughter and immediately had a conversation about this with her. i have spoken with her about it before but i did not think another conversation would hurt.
@TessLikesStuff2 жыл бұрын
Don't doubt your intuition, Jaime! You're not a "Debbie downer" - you're a f*cking advocate for these kids 🥰
@kyreeseq2 жыл бұрын
This!! ☝🏼👌🏼🖤
@dangusdong72532 жыл бұрын
You are spot on with this. People don’t understand that the more we keep damaging our children, the Worse the worlds gonna get. It’s heartbreaking that they are not protected more.
@fiemouse2 жыл бұрын
TikTok should get rid of the TikTok Live option; this whole thing stinks to high heaven for manipulating children by adults who know damn well what they are doing with children.
@UnicorNE0N2 жыл бұрын
This seems like chat roulette all over again except now they can track the people they chat with by following their personal pages. That's... Terrifying
@why71892 жыл бұрын
Id say its even worse
@JamieLBW2 жыл бұрын
That was my thought exactly.
@babywigeon2 жыл бұрын
I'm scared for the kids growing up on these platforms. And I'm sure lots of parents aren't even technically prepared enough to teach their kids internet safety!
@CloeCorpse2 жыл бұрын
parents are not prepared to teach their kids internet safety - at least they weren't in my day. my parents used to scold ME for talking to guys online, when they should have been protecting me and scolding the predators out there. parents can be damn useless..
@scray002 жыл бұрын
I’m 54 and there was nothing about strangers, but there was stuff about drinking and drugs. As kids we could go where we wanted as long as we weren’t out causing trouble. Predators have been around forever they just don’t even have to leave their homes to get to kids. This was a big topic/problem when chat rooms on aol started forming, and it’s only gotten worse from there. As a parent all we can do is instill the knowledge kids need to make good choices, but it’s up to the kids whether they stick to the rules or not. With 5 yo kids with their own laptops and cell phones they have 24 hour access. Parents can’t hover over their kids 24 hours a day. I know there’s parental control on these things but what if Johnny down the road doesn’t have them on his phone, then that’s where they go. It’s a f’d up situation and I’m glad my youngest is 20, and both kids are going out with people from town that we know.
@1hanagima2 жыл бұрын
Children in this time have parents who grew up with technology- parents are knowledgeable of online dangers
@scray002 жыл бұрын
@@1hanagima this is true.
@elizel902 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jamie for exposing this. I feel like I'm the only person that really REALLY hates Tik Tok. And this video just fuels my hatred for the platform even more.
@user-ni1ji2jt5m2 жыл бұрын
it’s easily the most disgusting app. it influences people so much in terrible ways. i hope it dies
@courtneyspinks15492 жыл бұрын
So glad you shared this. I don’t think you are being a downer at all, you are only showing a mass audience what they need to know. Having children of my own, I am always trying to be aware of their safety. There are too many creepers, bullies, and random things out there that we should all be aware of. Thank you for sharing!!! ❤️
@maxzytaruk85582 жыл бұрын
MAJOR respect Jaime, using your platform to talk about stuff that needs more recognition
@CathedralRabbit2 жыл бұрын
When an internet creator says "this is not a good place" about an internet community it's probably worth listening. The internet is great, but can also be dangerous, you are completely right with "when parents don't care, creators should" parents don't always have the knowledge but those who do, have a responsibility to keep themselves and others safe
@maddykitty8052 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for speaking up about this, Jaime! As a public school teacher, it is extremely difficult to know that my students are exposed to this. We can't stop technology and the growth of social media- it's part of our lives and clearly it is here to stay. However, we need to do better to protect children! I agree with you 100%. If the parents don't care, the app should!!!
@nataliesiemers9332 жыл бұрын
Thank you! As a single mom, social media has been a constant nightmare. Apps like SC which would delete messages and show where your kid was on a map, everything that you said about TikTok (for me it was Periscope) is such a necessary conversation. Not growing up with this has made it feel like a constant learning curve. I’m grateful my son is finally “an adult” but as a mom, I truly, truly hope that a platform would take responsibility not only if the parent doesn’t care but if the parent misses it or doesn’t even know it’s happening. As a school nurse, seeing suicide rates increase in younger and younger kids is heart wrenching! From the most painful and worried parts of my heart, thank you for speaking up!!
@skoontz41532 жыл бұрын
Ugh sick to my stomach, I hate this so much. So terrifying and not ok at all. I just went to a class that a therapist gave on how to protect children from abuse and this has every red flag imaginable, especially what you pointed out about the ease of manipulation and adults creating these relationships with children. Completely inappropriate and horrifying. Thank you for speaking up.
@Faith.M222 жыл бұрын
Me too. This world is so f up and these platforms are not making the situation any better.
@KonwTheTrut2 жыл бұрын
No, Jamie, you’re being normal about this. It’s super easy, don’t mess with kids. Leave them alone. Appreciate you making this video. Appreciate you being concerned about our children.
@emthompson76742 жыл бұрын
Thank you for addressing this! This is actually why I don’t have TickTock because I have a six-year-old and I feel there’s no censorship on there. Even if you are a parent that cares, it’s too late when it’s live. There are times when I’m letting my son have screen time specifically because I have stuff I have to do and I can’t 100% watch what he’s watching so I need to know it’s a movie or show we have seen. It takes a village to raise kids so it helps when other people care about our children, too ♥️
@jenlang19 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking out about this. It is absolutely dangerous and inappropriate for kids to be talking to grown strangers. Even if alot of these conversations are harmless the problem is that some of them are not and you have no way of stopping kids from seeing or hearing something inappropriate. Or then emulating the behaivor. Yes parents should be keeping their kids safe but even the most protective parents can't keep their children from this at all times..if your kid has any friends at school with a phone then they can go on tik tok without you knowing or monitoring their experience. Tiktok defiantly has a moral obligation to protect their underage users. This is outragous!!
@Safemama2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes parents DO care, a lot. But also don’t understand some if these apps and don’t know when new features come out or how they work. Very frustrating for those of us who try to stay on top if it. I literally had no idea TikTok had this feature. Now I know, thanks to you! But TikTok and apps should take SOME responsibility for what they’re enabling.
@aliciar.94602 жыл бұрын
Tik Tok knows what is going on. They are a huge platform and need to be doing more to protect children using the app. Thank you for talking about this!
@sethralavode90122 жыл бұрын
Twatter doesn’t care either. They won’t shut down pedos.
@NotOncebutTwice9052 жыл бұрын
I work in the criminal justice system with kids who are victims of all kinds of abuse/assault/etc. can’t tell you how many times these kids told me that they were groomed or manipulated by people on the internet.
@ashleypacker25842 жыл бұрын
Thanks Jamie! Such an important thing to talk about. Had no idea about this on TikTok but I’m not surprised. Children aren’t cherished and protected in our society and there will be long term horrific conferences because of it. As a mother of young children and an aunt to 35 children I can say that parents don’t have to let their kids have free reign over devices. Take them away or at least strictly monitor them. Be courageous and intentional and your children will be grateful in the long run.
@lbo60502 жыл бұрын
First off... that is absolutely without a single doubt prison. Secondly, Jamie.. thank you. Thank you so much for speaking out about this. I can't tell you how long and how often I speak on these issues and TikTok in particular. I genuinely wish everyone could truly see just how many monsters are on these apps, you'd be shocked. I hope something changes. ♡
@FrancisFabricates2 жыл бұрын
I find TikTok deeply creepy
@kaylanicholle2 жыл бұрын
I'm so proud of you exposing this! I can only imagine how hard it was for you to come forward especially since your channel is mostly silly and fun. It takes guts and I am so thankful that you did!
@rustpotion Жыл бұрын
Glady you spoke out about this, I dislike tiktok for this exact reason! As a parent I have to speak out against those saying if our kids our on tiktok we don't CARE, I absolutely care! My daughter was shown tiktok and someone else, like a friend with a tablet or someone elses parent helped her sign up for an account without my permission of knowledge, and I discovered her account with videos of her dancing and she was 8 years old at that time! I tried to get the videos and the account taken down and tiktok did nothing, I even reported the content and same as what happened in your video, they did not deem it against any standards... terrible apps like this need to have verification safe guards especially for live chats or videos that compromise or exploit them.
@sidrock27542 жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking out about this. I think it’s really disturbing the fact that people just go on about it like nothing is wrong, like how detached are we?
@tatumdean63022 жыл бұрын
I love the serious tone you took for this, all to often topics like this are turned into jokes, making it seem like it's not a big deal. As a parent I understand it's my responsibility to safe guard my kids but I know I can't monitor everything they do all the time, that's why it's so important for these apps to have proper moderating to protect the kids when parents either can't or won't. ❤
@SakuraaaHarmony2 жыл бұрын
it's important to teach your children internet safety, it's not really these apps responsibility, they don't care about the safety of your children like you do.
@laranadesign47642 жыл бұрын
I agree with you. Websites that display adult content MUST by law safeguard against minors viewing that content. Phone apps should be treated the same. "It takes a village to raise a child."
@laceyw4762 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Every generation will be more tech savvy than their parents. I remember being real sneaky online when I was in middle/high school. You can try your best to monitor your kids online activity but most likely you'll never know about everything. That's why it's so important to teach them to be cautious and discerning when you're not around and keep an open and understanding line of communication.
@jilliang18952 жыл бұрын
I respect this SO much. Not only do you bring up an important topic that needs to be talked about, but you did it in the most realistic and intelligent way. This is how we create change! 👏
@hafizzlep2 жыл бұрын
Yes!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@thisistheday5972 жыл бұрын
How are people just hearing about this? It was discovered this app is owned by an outside source which was known to capture and store data of children! One of the executives for the North American corp office even testified before various senators during a senate hearing and refused to answer questions regarding this fact. It's not a secret all kinds of content on this site targets minors. And worse, foreign entities now have access to millions of American citizens phones and personal information by way of this technology. Glad more awareness is being made because the media will NOT talk about this.
@AspenFireflyGaming2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this Jaime, thank you for posting it and you are absolutely correct. This is a big issue that NOBODY is touching. I remember when our generation was young, the whole "be careful about interacting with strangers on the internet" thing was really hammered into us, but these days that mentality seems to be just... completely gone. Parents, schools, nobody seems to care anymore and kids aren't being warned about how dangerous this exposure can be, and it seems to me that with apps like tiktok the internet has become even more dangerous than ever. I mean, at least when we were kids the creepy guys in chatrooms didn't have livestreams of us in our bedrooms! :(
@CandidSlice Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU for trying to make sure parents and kids are aware of these safety “gaps” in TikTok’s live-streaming technology. This was not a downer video; it was informative on a very important subject matter. I wasn’t aware of all these things happening. Thanks for making us laugh with so much of your content - but equally thank you for making us aware!
@KelleyBroussardMackaig2 жыл бұрын
Man, Jaime. As a mother of two teens - thank you for this. Being a parent in the age of social media is an entirely new animal that is super frustrating trying to strike a healthy balance. I was born in 1980 (yikes) and was raised with old fashioned values - and I always believed that I would raise my own kids by the same values. That being said, those very same set of old fashioned values sounds really great - but at the same time, it can make it difficult for kids to figure out how they can incorporate themselves into a society from which they were kept from assimilating to. I used to think that going against it's grain was a good and positive thing to do - and while it sounds really good on paper - I have found that in my 17 years of parenting so far - that it is actually a bit disadvantageous to raise a kid who will eventually and ultimately have to figure out how he's supposed to incorporate himself into a society, that he was raised to be steered away from. My husband and I feel that it's our job as parents to help our kids prepare for all the things that are out there in the real world - good, bad and indifferent. Especially while we are still the most influential people in their lives - we can help them decipher between what is right from wrong, what is good from bad - and basically how they can make the best judgment calls that they can. Once they are adults, they will be navigating this world without our constant and perpetual guidance. My obligation to my kids as their mother is to prepare them the best that I possibly can for the world that they will one day be sent out into, so that they will be equipped with all the right tools in their arsenal to make the best decisions for their journey as adults. You are amazing - I love and appreciate you so much for having the courage to call this out - because you are SO right - it's incredibly dangerous and we as parents have to be as informed as possible so that we can battle this in the best ways possible. Lord help us.
@klynne84102 жыл бұрын
I'm also a mom to 2 sons ages almost 10 and almost 12 I don't let my kids have internet access especially unsupervised.
@amnoirgg85632 жыл бұрын
This should be talked about more. Hope this video blows up so TikTok can stop enabling nasty predators.
@ButterbiscuitH2O2 жыл бұрын
"They're not doing anything inappropriate, they're just having a conversation" Uh yeah, an inappropriate conversation.
@AmeliaLidstrom2 жыл бұрын
exactly thank you
@pennylee92532 жыл бұрын
You are totally right for being bothered! I have 2 preteen kids and they aren't even allowed to have TikTok and I even closely monitor what they can watch on KZbin! These parents should all be ashamed of themselves for either A. Allowing their kids under 16 to even make an account with a fake age or B. Be ashamed of letting their kids under 16 participate in tiktok related activities. That app should NOT be used by anybody under 16 and I personally think parents should be charged with a crime if they allow their kids to lie and make one. That is just terrible parenting!
@nataliaalfonso26622 жыл бұрын
I’m generally against all “live” anything on the internet. It’s not appropriate. In real life, when we go see something LIVE, whether it be music, or theatre or sports or whatever, there’s tons of planning, preparations and above all else safety and security measures in place. When people create “content” whether on YT or TikTok or even just post random IG pics, there’s a huge distance of time and space from where you are when you’re creating it vs where you are and what you’re doing when it’s posted. People are WAY too comfortable posting exactly where they are and what they’re doing and what they’re wearing and how easy wherever they are is to get into online. It’s never sat right with me, even for adults. Like we’re really out here FaceTiming THE WORLD? I don’t let people that have known me for years FaceTime me without first doing my hair and makeup and making sure my living space is clean. It all seems kinda nuts, frankly. Like people have no sense of self preservation or metric of social intimacy.
@whittkatt2 жыл бұрын
Bravo, Jamie. Continue to to voice your concerns and convictions. People have to stand up.
@chessaconcari20502 жыл бұрын
As a parent I super appreciate this. I don't do the tik tok, but I think this is a really important conversation to have. I also have sisters that are teenagers, and have felt weird about the app in general but haven't been able to put a finger on why. Also shoutout to your 90's cup, it brought me joy.
@erinhunter42842 жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking about this! This is almost word for word the discussion that I had with my 13yr old daughter when explaining why she was not allowed to download the app. Even monitoring like we do, that app makes it impossible to keep my child safe, and I will not willing facilitate situations like this.
@linuxtheferret2 жыл бұрын
The fact that there was a response to your report in 5 seconds makes me think it's a program or bot that is analyzing and responding automatically. Not to mention the paragraph they responded with would take longer than 5 seconds to type. I'm willing to bet that the AI detection/filters they use to identify guideline-breaking content is connected to whatever complaint service they have in place, and uses some sort of scoring system to determine what might require actual human interference. For reference, I'm a web developer and I've been in the programming field for over 15 years. So my take on what's happening is based on the bits and pieces of information I've collected on how these types of things work. I 100% agree with you, this is not okay. Thank you for making this video, and I hope more people follow your lead on bringing this issue to light! Technology and AI is only as good as humans can make it. While we are not always perfect, the technology to protect children on these platforms *is* out there, and these money-hungry companies can absolutely spare the resources to do better.
@micahcook24082 жыл бұрын
Also there are inappropriate videos (clearly intended for an adult audience) being automatically included as “For Kids” on this platform when those owners of those channels are long gone (which there may even be some that’re probably included on purpose by some owners). It’s just a sticky mess, man.
@EmilyRose723_2 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate you. As a mommy with 4 children, it’s important that big creators talk about this openly.
@juliencassidyofficial2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jaime! I agree with this 100% I got rid of all my social media over a year ago from how toxic it can become and dangerous it is to our society. Awareness is always the best step so thank you
@Keriedawayy2 жыл бұрын
100 percent on board with you about the lack of shielding and moderating. This reminds me a lot of the show catfish that we never have the full picture or know someone’s intentions just through conversation. Its manipulative and unsettling and the “community guidelines” are overdue for heavy rewrite to keep our youth safe.
@manda-rin43112 жыл бұрын
Stuff like this makes my skin crawl, it’s why I’m so private about my sons online presence as well as any of my nieces or nephews. I was a preteen at the very heightened age of chat rooms and the amount of predators who did not care that I was 11 and wanted to “talk” is insane. And of course you think nothing of it when you’re young because it’s cool older people want to talk to you but the older you get the more you realize how upsetting it all is.
@Lenci_the_Nugget2 жыл бұрын
Right! It's so creepy. Even just on Facebook, the amount of comments and requests I get from random creepers is ridiculous. I actually did an experiment where I used an editing app to turn my face into what I'd look like as a man and I got zero harassment and a grand total of one friend request from some random woman. Makes me so mad. I appreciate parents like you who protect their kids online.
@lucasl16042 жыл бұрын
i was groomed and abused online and the trauma it has left over has honestly ruined my life. it makes me so angry that people jump to blame the parents because they may be less vigilant than they could be at times, but my mother was so careful with me and it still happened. it's yet another workaround to continue blaming victims instead of addressing predators.
@HeidiWilde2 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Kids don't understand just how young they are. I remember being 11, 13, 15, etc, and I did not think I was a child. My family's genes mature early and I was mistaken for being in high school when I was in 6th grade and in college when I was in middle school, etc. So a lot of older guys approached me. Some creeped me out because they were way older, but some I thought were so cool because they were high school or college. Bad things happened because my emotions and mentality did not match my physical appearance and I didn't know what could happen until it was too late. On the flip side, I worked at my Grandpa's motel when I was 13-15 and one Spring Break I was there hanging out with my cousin who was my age and similarly did not look her age when a couple of guys checked in then ran into us later on our way back from the convenience store and started chatting with us. When one asked how old we were and I said 14 they yeeted themselves out of the conversation so fast that the 14 year old in me is still a little disappointed to this day. The grown up woman in me is overjoyed that they were decent. But I remember not going out and looking for dudes, not even knowing what a "hook up" entailed, but I just liked talking to people because people are interesting and I as a child didn't see the dangers or how it could be problematic. I don't like talking to people anymore. A child isn't going to understand why they shouldn't be going into these lives with these adults (in general, I mean, I'm sure there are some who now understand very well, sadly) because it's fun to talk to people and cool for someone older to pay attention to you. Gah, I don't know why I'm rambling so much or if anything is making sense, but yes! Something needs to be done to protect children because a lot of the time they don't even know they need to be protected until it's too late.
@brisebastiano49742 жыл бұрын
Debbie-Downer my ass, this is excellent👌 TikTok is disgustingly negligent when it comes to enforcing any semblance of healthy safeguards and boundaries! I'm really glad you said something, good on you🙌
@valkyrie_offline Жыл бұрын
I'm so grateful that you made this video (even though it's been a while). I saw someone making sexual comments to a child and reported it just to get the same generic messages back. So clearly they have not resolved this issue. Just another reason, along with many others, that my children will be sheltered from social media. There's too many sickos out there, not enough safeguards in place and i love my children enough to not risk anything like that possibly happening to them.
@ashleytalwar81302 жыл бұрын
Agree 100% Jaime. As a mom it’s terrifying what goes on. And not every child has a parent that actively looks out for their safety, or that actively speaks to them about potential dangers on social media/the Internet. There are so many kids who do not have parents who actively participate in their lives, even when they live in the same household. Not trying to mom shame or dad shame, but it’s just the facts that there’s a ton of kids that don’t have that. And the potential of even very young kids being exposed to some of these behaviors should concern everyone with a conscience.
@meghanlynch87252 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree. Unfortunately, parents are unable to fully monitor what their kids are doing or seeing on social media. Tiktok has to have a certain responsibility to create a safe platform and enforce their own policies. I’m so glad you are talking about this. Thanks for keeping it real.
@stephaniewozny38522 жыл бұрын
Given that it isn't even an American company, there is little we can do short of stop using the app.
@goldiefatale2 жыл бұрын
Don't give children a cell phone. It's time to stop that
@weB3now2 жыл бұрын
Parents CAN monitor everything on their kids’ phones and computers. I know, because I do, and have done it, for years. There are many, many programs that are specifically for monitoring, blocking, notifying, and controlling everything a person does and sees. Parents also have the ability to disconnect their children from electronics, if they want to. Are there parents who don’t care? Absolutely. But this app is not American owned or operated. It would be responsibility of Apple or Google or any of the app download sites to take the app off their sites and not give anyone access until safeguards ARE put in place. Given that they are profiting off the app as well, that won’t happen.
@mcdc1012012 жыл бұрын
All of these interactions between adults and kids is called grooming. And it's dangerous!
@serenapimentel73722 жыл бұрын
It is 100%. This is very disturbing.
@Mama_Bear5242 жыл бұрын
💯. There’s no explanation that makes this ok.
@izzymom27452 жыл бұрын
Yes! And that one clip where the mom was talking to the people posting comments to the little girl 🙄 That poor child!
@chloereed24342 жыл бұрын
Totally agree its good that they can understand how to have a conversation with an adult and be comfortable but that was just uncomfortable to watch. Adults still need to be seen as somewhat mature around kids and that man was literally trying to make the child feel sorry for him and her be the voice of reason?? Something that many predators use to manipulate. It really scares me that alot of people dont want to talk about this side of social media but this comment section has given me abit more hope in society and the fact that it might not be me just feeling like I'm going mad or over reacting.
@serenapimentel73722 жыл бұрын
@@chloereed2434 The thing is. Tik Tok isn't going to fix anything. No one is. We have to not use these platforms and set the example for out kids.
@kodeefreeman53992 жыл бұрын
Way to go Jaime! 👏👏👏 I do not allow my children to have ANY type of social media because I'm terrified of things like this. Thank you for speaking up on this. I loved you before but I'm loving you even more for this. Its a terrible and scary world we live in right now.
@aritombolesi26282 жыл бұрын
This world can be really gross and weird and sad sometimes. Thank you for bringing attention to this. The minute 16 year olds started getting fame and fortune from shaking their butts and moving their hips to a beat for TikToks I knew the app was sketchy and careless about what content they allow and who they allow to create.
@sarahsonshine17292 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad this is being brought to light. The children of this generation are in trouble. The world is full of evil and it's only going to get worse. I will definitely be praying about this.
@maddy6802 жыл бұрын
The world has always been full of evil but now children can connect to it with just a few taps. Children are more accessible to people who have bad motives. It’s horrifying.
@emmaprinny25502 жыл бұрын
this makes me stomach turn and my heart ache for where we're headed as a society if this is considered ok and normal. Thank you for highlighting it Jaime. I have a 9yo son who is begging me to let him explore TT and I had my suspicions about it, but now I'm 100% not going to bring this into his experience of the world.
@PinkLove77492 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I was thinking! No way in hell my kids are getting on these apps
@emilyeaston85062 жыл бұрын
I completely agree... In a sense. While I do think 9 years old is too young to be out exploring these apps on their own, I also think that totally trying to shield children from what is out there isn't the answer either. As children get older and begin to be able to explore the world separate from a parents influence (even if that's secretly at a friends house or under the covers at night after everyone is asleep) they should have the tools to help identify when something is wrong or off and why that is so. I'm not advocating for showing kids disturbing things to "prepare them" but maybe exploring some of these apps with an trusted adult at a younger age could foster conversations about what is going on and why it is wrong. Maybe I'm cynical but I just don't see these apps doing much to try to protect kids and if they aren't protected shouldn't they be prepared?
@nataliaalfonso26622 жыл бұрын
9?!???? Yeah no way.
@fonnireed2 жыл бұрын
This is so scary. I don’t have a TikTok, nor do I go on that app. If I see TikTok’s it’s usually carried over to Instagram or KZbin. I had no idea that this was happening. Thank you for speaking up…protecting children is so important.
@mariahgina12242 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Internet safety was such a huge deal when I was kid but it seems like no one cares anymore. It's sad
@Shammayyy2 жыл бұрын
I work for a family law firm and minors being involved in inappropriate interactions on tiktok has come up in a couple cases. It’s unbelievably unsettling every time.
@vtetrooo13122 жыл бұрын
Stop apologizing! You're doing what a lot of. other creators should be doing: using their platform to speak about possible dangers on social medias. This is really disturbing and a LOT of wrong people could use this for harm... Hopefully other creators will speak about it too!
@lolibeth81092 жыл бұрын
Jaime, you have been a favorite of mine for a while now because you remind me of how my friends and I are around each other. This video solidifies that you are a genuine person, full of humor that is so relatable AND point out the obvious flaws. I know my nephew accidentally went live on Tik Tok one day while doing homework. I hopped on to see what he was doing- and I had to text him to make him realize he pressed something! He’s 11. And people were already watching that I didn’t know. Now, he was doing homework and just talking to himself. But it freaked me out! I told him just to watch it because people are mean. He has a good enough understanding that strangers words don’t matter. But, with mental health where it’s at- this is the LAST avenue bullies need. Thank you for bringing this up. It really is a brave thing to use your platform for!!!! We need to protect our youth. 15 years ago high school sucked…. And I didn’t have all of this social stuff around me. I pray for these people taking advantage of young people.
@CellarDoorWhispers2 жыл бұрын
No. I'm glad you're discussing this. It needs to be discussed. TikTok honestly scares me with things like this because of how lax it is. It would be great if we lived in a wonderful world where people could be trusted with things life that, but we all know that's not the case and this it's just... The sheer potential of things that could go wrong is horrifying. Also editing to add jfc, the video below this one was about a sheriff finding a missing sixteen year old girl in a hotel room with an adult man she met online and if that's not screaming the point here idk what is.
@dpie02802 жыл бұрын
It’s a dumpster fire, for sure. I was internet “friends” with a woman and I was in her live one night. I knew she had issues but her behavior freaked me all the way out. She was literally doing the high as a kite head drop, eyes crossed and almost closed. She did that several times. Ultimately I blocked her but I see things like that all the time. Thank you talking about this!
@silverxstar012 жыл бұрын
What the nay-sayers don’t understand is that even when nothing explicitly inappropriate is happening in these interactions between adults and children, it still isn’t right and it has the potential to evolve into something even more sinister. What if that guy who was dumping his marital issues on his viewers uses that sympathy to his advantage to prey on these children? TikTok predators are certainly not unheard of, so it certainly isn’t a stretch. Much of my childhood and teenage years were ruined at the hands of online predators, and my heart breaks for these children who will undoubtedly be exposed to the same horrific things I was. It should not be this fucking easy for adults who may have ulterior motives to get in contact with vulnerable children.
@Allisonmarie5672 жыл бұрын
THIS👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@samalvarez87762 жыл бұрын
I really hate the idea that a strange adult can talk to teens "as long as it isn't inappropriate" that's literally how grooming happens wtf?!
@leslieroycroft35692 жыл бұрын
Jaime this is important and I’m glad you made this video. I’ve never been a big tiktok fan because I literally always have a kid over my shoulder and when first joining, it doesn’t seem to have your algorithm pegged yet so it shows everything. BTW I’m sure someone else has told you but there is a lawsuit pending from an actual moderator claiming that her and thousands of other moderators were paid to watch hours and hours of disturbing videos and it has effected their mental health. I mean, it’s nowhere near a solution to this problem but I hope it lands in the favor of the moderators and there’s no “out of court settlement”🙄(read: money to shut them up. So damn sick of money and power totally ruling who gets punished and who is left off the hook) If something positive does come from it, it’s great groundwork for future lawsuits and moderation
@carrieswank2 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU! I have two kids; ages 9 and 17. I HATE when either get on TikTok. It is SO dangerous, because kids take everything seriously and they think everyone is truthful.
@maryoneil16242 жыл бұрын
Thank you for talking about this. 💞 I've been trying to stress to my niece (and her mother) that TikTok is NOT appropriate for children and NOBODY will listen to me. I'm genuinely worried about not just my nieces but all the kids on this app.
@elizabethalyn2 жыл бұрын
I wonder if your niece's mom would watch this video! I'm so sorry they're not taking it seriously.
@maryoneil16242 жыл бұрын
@@elizabethalyn I've sent her other videos like this and they just fall on deaf ears unfortunately. 😔
@jaynadrury9762 жыл бұрын
Well said! I couldn't agree more. This is a playground for predators.
@FrancisFabricates2 жыл бұрын
TikTok may as well be called a high end pet store cause damn it’s filled with groomers
@erynbradbury10242 жыл бұрын
And this is one of the major reasons I love you. I applaud you for using your platform and your voice for legitimate, authentic concern for others. You're an absolute gem of a human being.
@maryyelloweyes8312 жыл бұрын
I can’t express enough how much I respect you even more then I already do as a creator! Using your platform to speak about this is so awesome & amazing of you! I’m a mother of 4, 2 teenaged girls and 2 smaller boys.. the fact that my 2 oldest are on this app it worries me so much about the creeps on there and the app doing nothing about it! Just had this convo not too long ago.. but thank you Jaime!
@b-boy8smom8732 жыл бұрын
As an avid true crime watcher, I am all too aware of things that may seem innocent often aren't. Sometimes it's at simple as "see something, say something" that makes the difference. Great job following your gut Jamie💜
@Debo_OG2 жыл бұрын
Yet one more reason for me to continue to restrict my 11 year old from social media.
@TaurusWitch292 жыл бұрын
This makes me super scared. Tik tok is absolutely accountable for this and need to do something immediately. My son is 13 and I won't allow him to have a tik tok, but there's other parents who do and he thinks I'm being irrational, but I know I'm not. And this just proves my point. He doesn't understand I'm trying to keep him safe from exploitation and predators. I'm one of those moms who regularly check his phone to see what he's doing. He has his privacy and I trust him, it's the grown adults trying to get close to children that I dont trust. He hasn't even went through puberty yet and still plays with action figures, and I just want him to be able to enjoy his childhood before he grows up too soon. There needs to be safeguards in place and I absolutely agree.
@photogurrl122 жыл бұрын
You are an incredible person. I have an 11yo daughter, and I worry about this stuff every single day. I use the bark app on her phone, and it gives me a little more peace of mind, but still worry about it. There are some very sick people out there.
@amberlygoff2 жыл бұрын
Yah.please speak up. This is crazy that this thing is available to ANY kid and the sad thing is inevitably the creeps come out…
@Lish09282 жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing this to my attention. I am not really "in the know" as a parent with some of the social media apps. My daughter who is now 14 was only just given a phone last year because we didn't think small children should have access to social media or even have their own phone. However, I've never heard of tiktok live until now so it's something I will be discussing with my daughter. Thanks again jamie!
@augustsettecase2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jaime!!! Not on Tik tok but I have kids and this freaks me out so much , thank you for bringing light to this
@sebastianamero42172 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I find I'll be scrollling through TikTok and I'll get a random video or a random live stream that has NOTHING to do with content I typically watch. A lot of the time, the weird videos I get also don't have a ton of likes or viewers watching a live. So if I can get these videos just casually scrolling my FYP, I'm sure a lot of younger people are coming across these videos and I've seen some weird ones. I remember coming across a livestream where someone was preforming exorcisms on random people in a crowd.