Gay Open Relationships

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@erny7823 9 күн бұрын

Jaks - Thank you for your thoughtful take on a subject that I find is way too prevalent in the LGBT+ community. I've never understood open relationships. I tried one and it turned into a disaster right off the bat. I simply wish that when I was your age I could have have found someone who wanted it to be just us. That hasn't been the case. I hope you find that someone in your own life.

@dr.catherineelizabethhalse1820 9 күн бұрын

It should be easy to understand. It is just like any other relationship but with more freedom. You probably mean that it doesnt work for you.

@Nightbird. 7 күн бұрын

@@dr.catherineelizabethhalse1820 Good points. Also, with freedom comes responsibility. What looks good on paper is often much more difficult in real life. There's a reason this topic is so controversial: it's not easy to understand, not easy to implement, and it involves multiple people who, while they may be open to the concept, often struggle with their own ideas of how to do it correctly. Unlike traditional monogamous relationships, where there is a clear historical understanding of what is expected and tolerated, open relationships lack such a history. Thus, you are essentially making up the rules as you go along and trying to get both parties to agree. This is not an easy task, and feelings often get hurt, which is probably why open relationships have such a high failure rate.

@declancrampton2738 9 күн бұрын

As a bisexual 17 year old, I already hate open relationships. I think a one on one is a lot more loving and personal which makes it more special.

@brygram 8 күн бұрын

I don’t share a toothbrush…why would I share the person I kiss?

@SpyderMan59 10 күн бұрын

When I met my ex-partner in the mid-80s, HIV was a real death sentence. Our agreement was to have a monogamous relationship so that way nobody takes home any strange diseases... That actually happened one time. I worked really hard to keep the relationship going. We never use protection because we both understood that we had entered into a monogamous contract. At least that's what I did. During one of my therapy sessions, it was revealed as a hypothesis, that my ex was addicted to sex. It really wasn't about the act itself; it was about the challenge. In a few days, had we stayed together, we would be celebrating 40 years together. Oh well. This is why being brutally honest is so essential when you start developing future plans with that person.

@AloyImpact 10 күн бұрын

Same being in an open relationship is not for me. I apologize i want one dude for my life.

@KeithWilson-ch3cf 10 күн бұрын

Never understood them. Na, not for me.

@dr.catherineelizabethhalse1820 9 күн бұрын

It should be easy to understand. It is just like any other relationship but with more freedom. It just isnt for you.

@foo9877 8 күн бұрын

I completely agree with you with being frustrated with how some open couples can put down those who choose to be closed

@wehojm7320 9 күн бұрын

It’s refreshing to hear a young person discuss views on monogamy. I’m old school (way old school) and I got my “running around” out of my system and then I concentrated on having exclusive long term relationships. A couple didn’t hang together for one reason or another. However, moving from each relationship I learned more about myself and what I wanted and what I didn’t want. I was always exclusive and monogamous in my relationships. If I was to go back out on the dating scene again and become involved with someone that I enjoyed being with the conversation about monopoly would come up and I would go from there. And, if it turned out that they weren’t ready for a committed monogamous relationship then I would have to ask myself if I wanted to stay in that relationship as is, remain friends or say adios. We shouldn’t settle for something if it’s really not what we want.

@DionysianMentor 9 күн бұрын

I agree with your outlook, and am also fine with those who don't have that outlook. My philosophy is that if it works for you, then it works for you.

@kimmann-tg8gx 10 күн бұрын

OMG. One relationship is demanding enough. I can't imagine two. I'll take mine one at a time.

@michaeljdparker 10 күн бұрын

I’m in the same boat with you. I agree with everything that you were saying I am not into friends with benefits. I’m not into the threesomes. I’m not into the open relationship and that is something that I stay right out front. I make it very plain and very clear For my own peace of mind and for the person who may be wanting to date I don’t want them to look for something that may not either now if that’s if that is their cup of tea then so bad I mean, I’m not gonna knock somebody else because that’s something they like it’s not for me. That’s that’s all I got to say.

@l4xx03luyf6l0to 10 күн бұрын

I feel the same way. I just wish I could meet other guys who do too.

@gordon-n6s 9 күн бұрын

Absolutely!

@independentpuppy7520 10 күн бұрын

I wouldn't like that. If I did get in a relationship I would only want one to one. I think that is one of the reasons I stay clear of relationships. I would hate to be cheated on. Hence prefer to stay alone.

@Nightbird. 7 күн бұрын

Saying you are steering clear of relationships because you don't want to get hurt is like saying you are going to pull all of your teeth out because you don't want a cavity. Most men don't cheat, and most relationships break up for other reasons-big reasons or trivial ones. Don't deny yourself the beautiful experience of falling in love and being in a relationship. Nothing-and I do mean NOTHING-on this earth is more important than loving and being loved in return. When people are on their deathbeds, they never say, "I wish I had been able to have more money, things, travel," etc. They only wish they had more time to be with the ones they loved. Sorry for the deep response, but life is short, and I don't want you to miss out.

@kernow9324 6 сағат бұрын

A long time ago I reluctantly agreed to an open relationship, or I would be dumped. I was so in love with this guy that I agreed. The alternative seemed unbearable. My boyfriend was having a field day but I was completely miserable and going out of my mind imagining what he was getting up to. He suggested a threesome, thinking it would help me feel less hurt, but to be honest seeing him be intimate with a stranger and doing things that he had only done with me... That broke me and we split up. If an open relationship works for you, that's great, but it could never work for me.

@marcob2137 9 күн бұрын

I'm in an open relationship... Technically. Me and my partner have been together for about 11 years. Have lived together for about 7 years now. We have some sexual incompatibility. That's what led to opening the relationship. He's not as sexual as I am so he suggested that I could see other people to satisfy my sexual urges. However, I really don't act on that. I've tried, but at the last minute, I would flake. IDK. Even though, I have his ok to see others, it doesn't feel right.

@danieledwards7565 5 күн бұрын

Terrific video!

@jimmymunter8210 Күн бұрын

In my mind open relationship is the same as friends with benefits, it's not for me I want a monogamous relationship, and of course both of us can do stuff that we like separate but also together 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

@edwardestepp5770 10 күн бұрын

I have been involved with a few couples that were in an open relationship.. I tried it once with my last boyfriend. It wasn't for me.

@tnorthrup1986 8 күн бұрын

Lol, it seems your community is largely with you, Jaks. For me, I am kinda in the middle here. I really don't like just hooking up or the early stages of dating, but I get sexually bored with one person eventually too. In the couple times in my life where I had multiple sexual partners this wasn't an issue, the variety was very helpful for me. I'm also a total bottom and I've had relationships with more versatile people where they needed something I couldn't give them. So yeah, I'd want one solid, core relationship where we both have other FWB situations going on that everyone knows about. That is probably a very specific ask, but ideals are ideal for a reason--I'm willing to work with other configurations, but it just gets messy if I get bored or I have needs that can't be met otherwise. Having more partners that you have established connections to and mutual love and respect for makes more sense to me.

@Nightbird. 7 күн бұрын

Most of us can't get everything we want in life, including in a relationship. Personally, the benefits of having sexual variety with multiple partners are far less important to me than being with one person who I know will be there for me no matter what, to love and care for me. You really can't say that about multiple sexual partners, especially when the basis of your relationships with them is just sex. And sex isn't love; it's love that truly provides a feeling of fulfillment, security, and comfort in a relationship. I just don't want you to end up old and lonely in a bar somewhere because you wasted your youth having sex with multiple people instead of building a substantial relationship with one person. I see these older men all over the place, and it just breaks my heart. But I wish you nothing but happiness in the future.