Jameela Jamil on Mastering Confidence, Set Boundaries & Take Your Power Back In 2024

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Step into a world of empowerment with me, Lisa Bilyeu, in this riveting episode of Women of Impact featuring the fiercely authentic Jameela Jamil. In our conversation we dig into the heart of societal pressures and expectations that women are forced to navigate daily.
Jameela shares her personal journey of overcoming criticism and standing strong amidst the chaos. She selflessly shares her wisdom of breaking free from the suffocating standards of perfection that society has been imposing on women for too frikin long.
Hopefully our conversation encourages you to silence the noise around you, listen to your inner voice, and set boundaries that protect your peace. We’re exploring the importance of facing fears, making mistakes, and more importantly, owning them.
“You can’t find out who you are if you don’t make mistakes.” -Jameela Jamil
Jameela challenges us to do something just for ourselves and to find joy in pursuing what we love. This episode is a call to action and a movement to help you take back your power and stop striving for an unattainable reputation of perfection and start embracing their authentic selves.
Are you ready to master confidence, set boundaries, and create a new you? Let’s go homie!
Chapter Markers:
[00:00] Introduction to Jameela Jamil
[00:14] Break The Shackles Of Perfection 🤨
[11:27] Mistakes Are Opportunities Homie 😲
[18:16] F*ck Body Positivity. Try This 🤬
[40:18] Drip Confidence With This 💦
[50:19] Finding Your Own Path 🚶
Powerful Thoughts from Jameela Jamil:
“I didn’t really believe that I had the right to be happy, or if I did it would have to be so long as everyone else around me is happy first and then maybe I’d be allowed some crumbs of happiness afterwards.”
“It’s very hard to completely transform yourself around people who’ve known you for your whole life because people naturally want to cling to the person that you were cause that’s the person that they bonded to.”
“You can’t find out who you are if you don’t make mistakes.”
“I weigh the sum of all of my parts. I’m no longer going to be defined by a number on the scale. I’m not a fish, this is ridiculous.”
“I can’t love my body. I may never love my body, I may never love my face, but if I can just move away from hate, then I’ve already made a massive victory.”
“I don’t trust myself to become self-absorbed and self-hating, that’s my weakness.”
“I don’t need more than I have and to be able to say that is one of my greatest achievements.”
“Find your niche weird thing and do it, and don’t set a bar of success that makes that validated. Just do it.”
“Run towards failure. Failure us where all of the color, and the fun, and the crazy ideas that turn out to be your best ideas often happen.”
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[@johnjoseph9929]

@LisaBilyue. Hi Lisa, I am a regular at your videos. I request you to kindly interview me . I wanted to bring my story to the world to know how they can be more carefull before making any decision in their life. Not many people know this and end up in many problems. Please Lisa , would you write me ???. Lots of love to you

[@patricehoward9831]

You're talking about taking our power back and setting boundaries when you have stalked strangers for years, literally 24/7. Pathetic.

[@femmefatale71]

@@patricehoward9831What is wrong with you? Seriously? Seek help. This is a POSITIVE energetic space. Not for you.

[@ricardajames5769]

A woman does not need a man to validate her. A woman is ENOUGH as she is!! ❤❤❤

[@flooferwoofenschnizz3858]

Amen to that!! 🙏😊💛

[@flooferwoofenschnizz3858]

I’m 40….and I’m still figuring it out…It does not end.😊👍💛

[@Maria-kh2bd]

I’m 53 and I’m finally getting my power back 🙏❤️

[@crystalgreen6027]

Me too at 52.

[@angelab4759]

Amen sister! 51 here

[@kuiwanguistephanie]

Amen

[@angelina30425]

You go girls 😉😍🤍 queens for queens 👑

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

congrats!! ❤

[@barelybrunette]

Wow Lisa, by far the most powerful episode… and you have many! Thank you for having her on, this is a message every female needs to hear ❤

[@maryannkeenan851]

Yes, I agree with you She's amazing Thank you for having her Lisa ❤

[@LisaBilyeu]

Wow thanks so much! So happy you liked it 🥰

[@bitchenboutique6953]

I love the “I am cringe but I am free.” I had to get to my 50s before I got even CLOSE to that.

[@Magicisreal66]

Now these are the guests that you really need to have on your show!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

yes, wonderful guest ❤❤

[@sonia7778]

Wow, great interview. I was in tears has she described how she changed her outlook to that of being her own best friend and living truly living to worship our own self in the way we want. Very powerful

[@LisaBilyeu]

So glad it resonated 🥰

[@seagirl1481]

Protect her at all cost!! Thank you for this important conversation. I’m early 40’s and have finally started embracing and finding gratitude in my mistakes. ❤

[@samramajeed5315]

I have been crying over a heartbreak more than a year now like every day but these podcasts are helping me so much to heal and distract myself from crying so excessively. I have lived my life taking care of others putting myself last and being the scapegoat in narcissistic family. But i am on healing journey it just gets difficult sometimes when i hear or see harsh stuff about women it triggers me but i am trying my best to change my perspective

[@Tricia6793]

I see myself in Jameela and currently at my 26 also, am fighting for my power. Just wish I can have a conversation with you Lisa.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

good luck!! ❤❤

[@sherrymurphy855]

"Make a list of what it is you think your shackles may be".... good idea.

[@allwellandgood8547]

What.A.Woman..Incredible, as someone now in my 40s and resonates with this so much, it gives me hope to think that things can shift for future generations❤🙏 Thank you both so much ❤❤

[@AugustAdvice]

I can't believe how we as females are so engrained from such a young age to get married and have kids otherwise you're "not a good woman", its in everything from the moment we're handed a baby doll at age 5 to take care of, to Disney movies where the only goal of the woman is to win over the man's love and be happily ever after. We live in an era where we now have the choice to not be forced to get married or give birth, so choose wisely for yourself. It took me my entire 20s to re-examine what I REALLY want. I was a caregiver for my elderly father since the age of 14. I am wiped out, most women won't feel that "wiped out" feeling from caregiving until they have kids. I've already experienced it and I am not naive to it like a lot of women are because they dont know how exhausting that role is until they're in it for years. I want the second half of my life to be peaceful. You also need to ask yourself if marriage is right for you, or if you'd rather live alone. Each has its pros and cons. Loneliness is real but so is regret.

[@samramajeed5315]

Thank you Jameela so much relatability in your story. You are truly changing women as i learnt many things today from you. We are facing so much in our country Pakistan and i am turning 28 and was crying over 10 months because of such non sense about women but trying my best to get myself together. These podcasts are helping me so much ❤

[@Willowparks44]

Extremely powerful & impactful. Loved every moment 💜💓💜. Thank-you from the bottom of my heart.

[@glowinthadark]

Incredible how a lot of people find it hard to stand up for themselves it's almost like a real not being true to yourself and trying to appease others feelings when the reality is is you should be paying attention to your own feelings and how you feel and sitting and maintaining boundaries better conducive to a happy standard of living. Like being true unto thy self! The true definition of loving your neighbor as yourself is to truly love yourself in that means saying no..often!

[@yayanicole9245]

First of all, you are STUNNING Jameela, and people would pay to look like you!!! Please send the link for your outfit...got me over here googling black and white pant suits lol!!! Another AMAZING episode Lisa!!! Please keep the content coming!!!💜💜💜

[@Whippet4Life]

This woman is gold! Amazing mind& soul, thank you ❤

[@LisaBilyeu]

Wow, thank you!

[@angelab4759]

This podcast has been the most inspiring! I have a fitness back ground and have been Is in great shape For a big portion of my life. I got diagnosed with follicular lymphoma and Palmer in 2015 at 43. I had my first relaspe last year and in maintenance treatment treatment. The first treatment left me with quite a bit of limitation. What struck me about this was how we are wired to be ashamed and hyper focused of our bodies. I'm 51 year old woman and I do have salt and pepper hair which i love! . And I'm not Able to stay in shape like i used to be because of the neuropathy, bone pain, etc. I'm passionate about health and taking care of the body so the I weigh movement It's something that I absolutely love and would advocate for. Jameela is young but so wise in her approach to her body and life! Her purpose to help others will benefit us forever! I have had yrs of therapy and doing EMDR for C-PTSD. Mental health and movement is so crucial for overall well-being! I think thinking outside of the "box" that doesn't need to exist is exactly what women need! Thank you, thank you, thank you! I endured sexual abuse and that makes a for turbulent relationship with one's body so I felt this in my soul. I recently have taken my power back in my life! This podcast felt so empowering😁 I will follow this movement

[@IndigoWisdom1]

I understood her point AND I don't think there is a requisite to give up your life or whole or half self to be a good mother. I love her being clear on what she wants though and ability to clearly articulate it. There was just somewhat of an implication that women who Do choose to be mothers Have to sacrifice who they are/what they love and I think there is more nuance to play in there. It's just like any relationship. Just as her boyfriend can accommodate her need to be selfish, her children (or any other relationship) could accommodate this as well. I think sometimes we feel we need a Big reason to explain why we don't want to do something. I think it's ok to just say "because I don't want to". Sometimes we project this huge case of imaginary negativity onto what we think the Other decision will look like when it literally does Not have to look like that at all. People forget that for eons of time, mothering and parenting was a Communal experience, similar to how she already feels in wanting to improve the collective society for children vs one-on-one parenting. She is still a parent, in that sense. We all are. I think Parental Neutrality could be an applicable thing here, as well. 😊

[@Dana-op6ex]

Love your podcast!!!!! "Find out who you are, and do it on purpose." ~Dolly Parton

[@kuiwanguistephanie]

I love this podcast too!

[@AndrewsOpinion15]

HAPPY 38TH BIRTHDAY JAMEELA JAMIL !!!!

[@BonBonHassan]

Not speaking my mind is a big factor behind me hating myself and being so angry all the time

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

I wish you the best in healing this! ❤❤

[@felishataylor1323]

So powerful and the fit, 20 snaps! love it!!!

[@hookrice9138]

✛2348102689570👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾🔥🔥🪴🪴❄❄🔮香港的决定令人高兴。

[@tinahurley743]

The best video I have ever watched and listened to!!! Immensely grateful!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@meganhenry5795]

Jameela is incredible! I can relate to her story so much! 💖

[@barbara6840]

This was spectacular! Sharing this with my 18 year old daughter. Also I am loving growing my gray hair out. Bravo video.

[@ntombikayise_herjourney9648]

Lisa you wearing your hair sooooo beautiful fully showing your gorgeous face 🥰😍😍 I love your channel💯 Ntombi from South Africa Johannesburg ❤

[@kuiwanguistephanie]

I know right, she is rocking those cornrows ❤

[@AlexiaHDIntuition]

She is fantastic I can totally relate with her experiences even at 53 😉 thanks Lisa for this great share again 🙏✨

[@autumnk-h4473]

honestly, this all hit home right now in my life. I feel like the universe, karma, whatever brought me here to remind me of everything I've been realizing, learning, healing and achieving in the past year. You both are a couple of my favorite people that I look up to, and this was just amazing. Thank you for everything you do!! Keep kicking ass!!

[@sonjakeri4934]

Full respect for this young lady ❤

[@chaichat2.0]

She is so deep. She made some great points and opened my eyes to a lot

[@sultana_467]

Her humour😂 another brilliant podcast Lisa. Thank you so much to you both🩷

[@LisaBilyeu]

Haha right! There were so many moments I had to keep my laughter in so it wouldn't drown out her audio 🤣

[@sleeprelaxingmelodies]

she is fun and very honest, very powerful full episode

[@29soph]

Great video 🩷 Jameela Jamil was my idol as a kid, it’s nice to appreciate her as an adult now 👸

[@cierraariel]

Such a powerful message ✨🤍

[@riversedge69]

I am listening to this, as I am working, and I can’t even begin to tell you how much insight there was for me within this video. I am definitely going to rewatch it and make a list of those enlightening moments that I had while listening as well share it to my social media. After I make my list, I will come back and share those moments that hit deep and where I will start to apply changes for myself. I wholeheartedly appreciate this video Because it provided so much clarity.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Wow thanks so much! So glad it helped!

[@chaichat2.0]

I love her from the good place one of my favorite shows because of her 😂

[@maryh661]

J is making me tear up 😢 when she speaks about having Enough. ❤

[@IndigoWisdom1]

This conversation is gold. ❤

[@chanda3x]

I totally see myself in this woman. This was a delight.

[@LisaBilyeu]

Ahhh so glad it helped homie!

[@jenniferpoitier]

This was phenomenal when i first started watching I was like who is this chick to be on this topic she’s so gorgeous and then to hear her story and hear her talk was so moving so inspiring . 100% relatable. The reframe. Having a neutral relationship with the body was revolutionary. Thank you so much I’ve shared it with my daughters, and I wish that every young lady on the planet, could hear this conversation with you too remarkable women! Thank you thank you thank you

[@evonyevans]

Could you have Candace owens on? I would love hear her talk about her story and how she overcame her own adversities.

[@jessicakarenmartin]

Powerful, love it. Thank you 💜

[@anetamironska3996]

I just love it! Love the message love how you both empower women. Thank you ❤

[@DirtyDaisy]

This was amazing! I love her! and exactly the inspiration I needed right now.

[@sreunard]

👏🙌❤️ Amazing episode! So inspiring.

[@musicbeyondwithboushra]

I love this episode!!

[@milena.zalyan]

Been waiting for this❤😍

[@mariyajaveedkhan159]

Love love loved it❤❤❤her thoughts absolutely align with mine

[@KG-uo7jv]

All kidding aside AMAZING intro in less than 5 minutes🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟💝💝💝💝💝

[@JLTravels]

Fabulous interview!

[@tiny.giant1]

This was beautiful.

[@rcz2023]

Thank you for sharing ❤

[@00sassbot]

This is in some ways the most powerful interview I’ve watched you host!!! I am changed! Thank you

[@LisaBilyeu]

Wow thanks so so much! She was amazing right?

[@user-pixiecatgen]

Omg love Jameela ❤ and we should definitely be looking at video's of kangaroos making friends with goat's 😂

[@LisaBilyeu]

🤣🤣🤣

[@AngelMaggieGeorgeSwan.]

You sound like what I've gone through in my 20s and teens I have cptsd and I'm starting the EDMR stuff. The only voices I get in my head are voices of nasteristic men and women who have aboused me telling me everything I do is wrong and that's because of PTSD. Bullying nasteristic emotional controlling behaviour even from famous people who have bullyed me. But I listened to this and you sound like me. 🙂

[@vickygutierrez1504]

By far one of my favorite episodes!!! 🙌🏻💯🥰❤️🙏🏻

[@Wandertheworldwithme]

Lisa you are glowing! You look beautiful as usual.

[@PrizrakCho]

Great interview

[@raishadcosta2512]

This is such a beautiful episode 💜💜💜 Being a brown mum in London i could totally relate to so many things. Im glad I watched this episode

[@TheSherriefoster]

So powerful..

[@majam.3161]

Fantastic interview ❤ Fantastic women ❤

[@aprilwilcox5065]

This video came to me at a good time.... As I'm listening to it I'm 62 years old and I feel my entire value in this world is in my body.... I ate food yesterday and contemplated purging.... I was riding in a vehicle and it was the only thing that stopped me... As I said, I'm 62 years old and wear a size 3 and I still feel that I'm fat ... As I'm listening I'm on my Bowflex weight machine trying to rebuild muscle and fight gravity especially since I've lost so much weight.... In my head I know that there is no way I will ever have a body of a 20 yr old but because of the perfect body image which we all know is enhanced by filters and Photoshop I feel like I have to do this to try to be of any value.... I wish right now that I could accept myself

[@LisaBilyeu]

Thank you so much for your transparency and vulnerability here! Please know we are all a work in progress and you have absolutely come to the right place to help build your mindset and confidence. I cant promise it will be easy but I do promise to create a place where you feel safe to come and learn and grow while you are on this journey! YOU GOT THIS HOMIE!!!!

[@indiegogogirl2662]

I had a very outspoken mother and never have felt any of these things so maybe it's possible that it's the example the mother sets for her daughters more than anything men do..

[@naginafarida2105]

I'ved enjoyed the conversation❤

[@treasureatuhaire]

Jamil gyal, you look absolutely beautiful and fine😚...this is just to add to the voices of those that may be telling you the same.

[@KatOriginalMusic]

very wise woman🫶🏼👑✨

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

yes she is!! ❤

[@user-cf3ss8td4r]

What an amazing podcast

[@LisaBilyeu]

Thanks so much!

[@cocoagatewayoracle9213]

Lisa you look amazing 😍

[@inunarugo]

I was 32 when I spoke my mind at my job. I had all the receipts to back it up, but it did cost me mentally 6. When I thought I did something right they hit harder. I had managers look down at me and attempt to fire me for something they did. I left the job in the summer and went to another, I do see the same thing happen, but is too afraid to speak my mind. Although it may feel great to get it off your chest, what is the cost? Not everyone is okay with what you say, so how should I counteract that?

[@femmefatale71]

You can work for yourself!! Believe you can do it, look into your astrological birth chart! It will change your life! I was where you are and although scary and financially risky I would not Have it any other way!!! Xx

[@P.e.m.a.]

I love her shirt 😂

[@LisaBilyeu]

Right?!!!

[@saraht8474]

I don't feel terrorized from the idea of "failing". It s the sensation in my body that i am terrorized or i don t like and i dont know what to do about it. And I feel like lost in those dark waves....Worst when you dont have a good support system or they dont consider your feelings, your hurts.

[@terrymarie3738]

Your hair is gorgeous today 🔥🔥🔥

[@larisaivalinova3893]

44:32 CANNOT AGREE MORE :D

[@nelsav8858]

❤❤❤❤

[@kattydeleo9035]

❤

[@MODISHYE]

Please invite Ms. Shallon Lester next😊!

[@Dirona_Albolineata]

❤❤❤

[@jaanireel]

00:01 Challenge societal expectations and find true empowerment 02:06 Reclaiming happiness and setting boundaries 06:10 Taking control of your life and making changes can be scary but empowering 07:59 Challenging societal norms and the impact on women's expression 11:51 Embrace mistakes and failure as essential for growth. 13:51 Overcoming fear of failure and embarrassment by using humor 17:44 Building a community of learning and self-discovery 19:16 Overcoming toxic body image messaging 22:54 Embracing body neutrality for liberation 24:39 Embracing body neutrality and treating the body with kindness. 28:05 Overcoming face dysmorphia and setting boundaries for self-image. 29:43 Empower yourself by resisting airbrushed images and societal beauty standards 33:13 Changing the narrative on women's image 34:56 Embracing natural beauty and setting new beauty standards 38:11 Prioritizing rest and joy for women's well-being 39:53 Preserving the inside is key for confidence and attractiveness 43:18 Social media is rewiring our brains to hate ourselves 45:03 Recognizing and addressing self-doubt. 48:26 Focus on meaningful connections and purpose, not material acquisitions. 50:14 Be open to new paths and opportunities 53:25 Supporting women to kick doors open together 55:16 Embracing personal freedom and happiness 58:54 Standing firm in decisions amidst backlash 1:01:01 Reclaiming power and advocating for oneself 1:04:31 Reclaiming exercise from the diet and aesthetics industry.

[@guadalupesilva9763]

I love this episode

[@LisaBilyeu]

Oh I'm so pleased! 🥰

[@gungputri7235]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@sabrinacoolest]

What hair products is the host using .

[@cleopatrajones7096]

@@tartanpi1isn’t that the guest? The host is probably using gel

[@katielewis6128]

Was planning to go to the gym today because I noticed I've been gaining a bit of weight, but now I'm questioning....who am I going to the gym for?

[@LisaBilyeu]

Wow thats a very powerful question!!!

[@KG-uo7jv]

Cat blouse💝💝💝💝💝🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

[@NiinaSKlove]

One thing I don’t understand is this; when people for an example as in this case, who comes from England, can just move to the US, - how is that possible? If you’re not allowed to work while in the US, and only live there for three months, aren’t you actually just visiting the country? Wouldn’t moving to a different country (US in this case) indicate that you’re staying for more than a few months?

[@MetaPhysStore0770]

Please help Men, most will ignore nice average women, and date/complain-about only "cosmetic queens", "mascara mamas", "hundred dollar hair-do hustlers", "creepy claw plastic nails", and "punched-in-the-mouth looking puffy injected lips".

[@deshanpillay3064]

Pls bring Esther Perel as a next guest on your podcast

[@LisaBilyeu]

Working on it!!!!

[@jesgomez1485]

This video explains why Beauty contests should disappear and women must stop participating in. They are telling women since a very young age that their looks is their worth.

[@angelinavitaleco9640]

These are two skinny girls one of them at least is happily married and they're talking very badly about marriage seems kind of weird. Otherwise I really love the show❤

[@angelinavitaleco9640]

Lol. Being skinny is actually extremely healthy all of the research says that the skinnier you are in a healthy way of course the longer you live. The more you fast the less calories you take in as long as you have enough nutrition and everything and vitamins and you eat enough is best for you. And getting married to the right person can be one of the best things you ever do for yourself.😂

[@scamp9360]

Totally on some of her points but not my fave interview Lisa has had. I think she contradicts herself so much. Her critiquing Pamela Andersons and how she’s beautiful is the SAME case with her. She totally spends time on herself and she presents herself. And that’s ok! Not patriarchy.. self love can present itself in many ways.

[@chrisharper7950]

Yikes….man hater. Doing great but MUCH more work to do.

[@phyllismcneal880]

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