"Fix This To Look & Feel Younger!"- Anti-Aging Hacks You'll Wish You Knew Sooner | Dr. Mindy Pelz

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I'm thrilled to bring you another empowering episode of Women of Impact. This time, we're diving into a topic that might just make you blush - how to have amazing sex and boost your fun in the bedroom. But guess what? The secret isn't between the sheets or new positions; it's in your hormones!
Join me as I sit down with Dr. Mindy Pelz, as we uncover the superpower of your menstrual cycle. We're unlocking secrets to using your hormones to your advantage for mind-blowing sex and even more mind-blowing success.
Yes, you've heard it right, ladies! Your cycle has everything to do with your libido, connection, motivation, and even the way you look.
We'll explore why women are twice as likely to find sex boring and how we can shift this narrative. We'll delve into understanding our hormones and using them to strengthen our relationships. We'll discuss how to teach your partner to get you in the mood, starting right from breakfast (because foreplay starts way earlier than you think!).
And here's the kicker: men get testosterone every 15 minutes, while we get it once for 5 days out of the month. How do we navigate this and is this a huge disadvantage for us? Listen up to find out!
Mindy is also going to tackle some never-before-discussed conversations about women's hormones that will give you a “home” team advantage. Understanding when your confidence will peak, and how your own hormones and his hormones can coexist is the ultimate GAME CHANGER.
If you want more superpower knowledge from the incredible Dr Mindy Pelz check out her book, Fast Like a Girl: www.amazon.com/Fast-Like-Girl...
Chapter Markers:
[00:00] No More Boring Sex 🙌
[11:47] Power UP Phases of Your Cycle 🔁
[25:40] The ‘Hormone Crash’ Gaslight 🚫
[33:26] A Work Routine That Inspires 💦
[44:50] These Things Are Killing Sex Drive 🫦
[56:58] Fasting Like A Bada** Girl 💪
[1:15:25] The Men-O-Pause Diva 🤪
[1:30:46] Anti-Aging Secrets with Cynthia Thurlow 💅
**BONUS CLIP: Anti-Aging Secrets of Fasting with Cynthia Thurlow**
Cynthia Thurlow, a renowned health expert and bestselling author, reveals the secret power of fasting for women, emphasizing its potential for weight loss, hormonal health, and metabolic enhancements. Her practical approach tailors fasting methods to women's unique needs, making it an empowering strategy for long-term success.
Powerful Thoughts from Dr. Mindy Pelz:
“Foreplay starts at breakfast.”
“If you’re having a hard time understanding us, understand our hormones and you’ll understand us again.”
“I’m such a bada** that I’m courageously resting right now.”
“We’ve fought so hard to be here, we have equality like we’ve never seen before, now let’s do it a woman’s way. Let’s take this moment and launch into a place where we are working every part of our life in accordance with our hormones, and now let’s see what we’re capable of doing.”
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[@LisaBilyeu]

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

[@aprilholderman5098]

❤thanks ladies

[@aprilholderman5098]

Day 1 as I'm watching 😂😅

[@rknewton]

Great video. The title is not giving it credit where it's due. Would have had more thousands of views by now. Can title be revised to give it due attention that can attract more views from women of different status, relationship-wise? Nuns, single and not searching, widowed and not searching, divorced and traumatized hence not searching for relationships, etc. The information is mind-blowing and helpful. Lisa you are a blessing to this generation. Great interviewer!! Thank you all the way from Africa.

[@PoetOnTheRun]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart 💓This is THE conversation.....I know it's my demographic right now but women in their 40s, 50s, 60s need to know IT IS NOT ALL DRIED UP AND OVER. We are facing different challenges in this age- emotionally, physically, mentally. We will NOT be pushed aside as deemed as "over". I am 50 and having the best sex of my life. Please to all women out there....go find the help you need and do not be quiet or complacent until you feel good...thank you to Lisa and Dr. Mindy...❤🧡💛

[@ButternutBanyana]

Wow! I am so happy know women continue to have amazing sex well into their 50s. Are the orgasms as strong? I am 41, glad to know that part of my life goes on. 😄💃💃💃

[@leahparsons7907]

57 and never stopped loving sex.

[@user-xk7hw4tc8d]

Çheers Siztah ❤️😎

[@user-tg7xq5et1g]

Not by self lol ❤🔥

[@user-tg7xq5et1g]

​@@ButternutBanyana Yes !!! Absolutely girl I'm 73 female. Nothing wrong here

[@BFNLEO]

When I finally started tracking my cycle it was such a revelation for me. I could see the patterns in my thoughts, energy, mood, etc and it blew my mind. I really thought I was just crazy.

[@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers]

Can you imagine since the beginning of time how many women were let go at jobs or from relationships because someone thought they were too moody, or compared them to other more cheery people when hormones were the cause of the behavior (not smiling, not laughing, not thinking a gross joke was funny and faking that it was). Another leg up on women that men don’t have to deal with.

[@carolallison9685]

The major thing us older women can do is manage stress and eat right. When you hit menopause, the adrenals are supposed to take over for the ovaries. If you keep your adrenals constantly working their poor little selves to the bone because that guy cut you off, or a coworker made a comment that didn't sit right, or your teenage son is moody, well how are they supposed to also keep working hard to produce hormones once the ovaries retire? I find that premenopause has been a walk in the park for me because i eat right, and im never stressed. I wouldn't even know i was starting this next chapter if it hadn't been for the fact that my periods became very light and only last a day, which made me see my doctor. In fact, my libido went through the roof the last year, much higher than in my 20s, so diet and stress management can change your life

[@Deedor72]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Heidi_10134]

I have been following Dr. Mindy's wisdom for awhile. It's so amazing that we have a platform today that women can learn. Thank you for bringing awareness to these issues that EVERY biological woman will go through at some point in her life. The most important part is educating ourselves so that we know what to do and that there are options.

[@MsNinestars]

This is pure gold. Pass this onto every woman you know of all ages!

[@littleiodine9480]

I had a boyfriend for a lengthy time that was brilliantly wise on this subject. He said” Making love starts the second the last love making session ends!” We could not get enough of each other for years. Something far different than any of that was the reason we had to part ways. He spent time giving me attention, little pats here and there, etc, etc!

[@suzy8455]

The best interview I’ve EVER seen on You Tube!! Lisa asks perfect probing questions (such an amazing woman) and Mindy (I just love her infectious positivity) makes perfect sense, I feel everything about my mood and energy is falling into place now (40 years into my life but never too late to learn!). This is life changing stuff! I’ve even logged all the hormone shifts in my calendar after listening to this! 😂 I highly highly recommend watching this ❤

[@LisaBilyeu]

Ahhhh I’m so glad you liked it homie!!

[@suzy8455]

I was literally almost about to start the pill, I remember the doc said I might not get any cycles/ periods… Quite flippantly as if it was no big deal. Say whaaaaat?!?! To coin the lovely Lisa’s phrase!! 😘 I love my cycles so much, my emotional state is inextricably tied to my hormonal changes and it helps me navigate through difficult situations, basically being kind to myself when needed e.g. during PMT. I have painful ones and good ones. It’s concerning that a lot of women have lost track of their cycles through the pill, with bleeds turning up at random, not knowing when the next one is or how that might affect their state of mind. Females have this superpower that’s deeply in sync with the universe and we must harness it!! Just as Mindy says. Thank goodness I saw this video in time. I’ll brave the copper coil I think . ❤️

[@Deedor72]

Very insightful ❤

[@NaturalLifestyleLounge]

Women hit their sexual prime later in life. Mine started around 35 and is still going strong at 50.💙

[@leahparsons7907]

Yes totally agree. 57 and still going strong

[@slushere]

Super insightful for a man striving to understand his wife! Thank you!

[@leahparsons7907]

I find most males that i had in my life were way moodier than i have ever been.

[@samco63]

Agreed. Funny that so many men (not all) on here just use this to discredit women, or blame all women’s moods and emotions on their cycles… hate to know what those guys are like at home with their partners .

[@moonafarms1621]

Big fasts and big O's... Dr. Mindy changed my life!!!!!! Our divine, female bodies are incredible!!! What a wonderful collab.

[@user-xk7hw4tc8d]

Well said Lisa 💖 " I was trying to be perceived as equal to men and it was detrimental to my health " Its so True that women want to be treated with the same respect that men are given without having to compete

[@melissahernandez8899]

I am so thankful for this conversation!! I cant begin to explain the relief I felt knowing it is really in our control and having the knowledge and steps to make the adjustments is the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you, thank you , thank you !

[@JessicaMillerNashville]

This is absolutely the very best advice that every woman and man and all the work world should know! I think all female jobs should have hours based on their cycles because it’s like clockwork. This could not be more spot on!!!

[@kristinechambers8659]

Oh my Gosh Lisa!!!! I didn’t even see the TITLE because I was driving and listening and I sent this to my MOM AND TWO MARRIED SISTERS! 🤣 They were like “WHAT on earth is the single chick listening to???? 😂🤣🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lilibethnieto55]

Amazing collaboration with so powerful topic! Love the message,energy and the nuggets from this. 🙏 Thank you!

[@makesitauti]

Thank you 🙏 I’m an obese woman 44 years old. I can’t thank you enough. it’s my 3rd week of workout and eating healthy. My first week of fasting 18 hours cause my lil brother and I are trying hard and I’m so happy to found you Dr Mindy and thanks Lisa ❤aloha Frm Sacramento.

[@nicolegonzalez6178]

Why don’t we know all this information sooner! I wish we learned this in school. Thank you for the amazing content Lisa. You ask great questions and are a fabulous interviewer.

[@margiestephens7281]

Love ya Lisa! Love all your helpful vids!

[@redinkrose8840]

I must be a fluke. I’m 52. Went into menopause at 51. I feel so much mental, spiritual, relational clarity. I love menopause. I love not having the mood. swings from my 20’s. I am loving my sex drive. I don’t want to kill myself. I wish I had had this peace 20 yrs ago. Thank you God for menopause.

[@user-xk7hw4tc8d]

You are quite the hormonal anomaly 😉 please share your secrets to hormonal bliss ✌🏽

[@redinkrose8840]

@@user-xk7hw4tc8d 😃 idk all I can say is praise the lord lol. I’ve felt hot flashes once in a while and my sight isn’t the same and my tendons are sensitive. But otherwise I love everything else. The peace and clarity and still having sex is better than all the chaos of unbound energy and staying up all night. Maybe it’s my diet or something. I was raised by several generations of vegetarians. I’m athletic. 🤷‍♀️who knows

[@nikileach]

20% of women get what we call the golden ticket of menopause where they sail through it 😊. 80% of us go through an absolute shite show unfortunately no matter what we do. Keep on rocking you life, it's great to hear 😊. X

[@user-xk7hw4tc8d]

@@redinkrose8840 All three sound good to me 😍 Peace, clarity and unbound energy

[@deb.m.7458]

Menopause is a blessing. I just wish I had felt this when I was my younger self. Life isn’t over. It’s better. This is when you find your super powers.

[@pharmclare]

Amazing insights from both women. Thanks for sharing.welldone

[@stoneman2023]

Another really good one, thank you 👏🏻🥇

[@Gingerinthesouth]

Great discussion! 1st time watching Lisa love your energy ❤big Dr Mindy fan long time

[@user-xk7hw4tc8d]

Women and men are wired differently and both have different strengths and limitations. We need to honour ourselves and eachother with mutual respect ✌🏽❣️😎

[@latinaprepper6184]

Thank you so much for this video my head is mind blown 🤯

[@andreeabuliga1890]

I appreciate the amazing conversation and the wealth of extremely helpful information! 💛

[@Hope-cz4fg]

Thank you Dr Mindy and thank you for sharing your problems Lisa❤

[@mollymoerdyk1682]

Thank you for discussing the question of doing Intermittent Fasting if you have an eating disorder. I was a binge eater addicted to sugar and junk food. I had been sugar and junk food free for 5 years and struggling with my urge to binge. I started IF in October 2022 and found over time my urge to binge decreased to the point that I go for days without even thinking about food. I eat during my eating window and clean fast the rest of the time. With a shorter eating window I can't binge, my body stops me. And I just want to eat high quality foods. Food is enjoyable, and it is fuel. And fuel is real food.

[@janespitfire9884]

Excellent video. Thank you. I learned many new things about the human body!!

[@Mel-uk8si]

No one explains hormones in detail like Dr. Mindy Pelz 😊

[@Indudevidasi]

Hi, thanks for the great video! To the point of : getting rid of the Hormons and supporting the liver in that task. I had a major lifechanging breakthrough. I had really heavy pms to the point where I was stressed when I saw something moving. And I would scream at everyone. And than my husband was into TCM(traditional Chinese Medicine) and looked up the symptoms. And their was a tea mix for pms that would help the liver let the Energie (qui) to flow and process emotions since the liver is the organ that digests emotions (in TCM). So it was bitter as hell but I was feeling like a normal person… AN ACTUAL NORMAL PERSON. So this was lifechanging. If anybody wants to try I can send you the recipe. Thanks again! Sooo helpful your video. 🙏🤗

[@simonaca468]

I’d like

[@Indudevidasi]

Hi Simon! Sure it’s my pleasure: horehound herb 5g elecampane root 5g yarrow 6g Lady’s mantle herb 6g anise seeds 3g caraway seeds 3g peppermint 3g Everything grinded into a fine powder and than 2-3 g per cup maybe twice a day when I had PMS. I can buy all the ingredients in the pharmacy here I don’t know how it is in your country. Good luck!

[@laurodren]

Lisa around 24:30 would be great if you have asked more about how to “get rid of hormones” that’s a new concept for a lot of us and it seems it’s the key to combat PMS thanks for bringing this guest

[@evka24]

Thank you lovely ladies ❤

[@evelynramos445]

You look good Lisa, healthy and great talk!

[@noellerizzato3914]

I am courageously resting !!! LOVE IT !!!!!

[@Olurii]

Dr. Mindy is the best ❤🎉

[@kimjaniga7517]

There is a major theme in this episode and several others: women are simply unaccepting of being in their feminine energy where it’s about BEING versus doing. This is the main issue that leads to unhealthy behaviours. Stop wanting to be a “badass” productive human, that’s not what we are built for.

[@ashleybowman2498]

They should teach this in school ❤to all women and men everywhere. Im 36 years old and this is news..well some of it. It also gives a aha moment like oh that's why this happened😅

[@neroboosh7846]

A lot of what she says is good for men and husbands out there. Listen to it with an open mind and although she wasn't completely accurate on the fasting and keto, much of what she is saying is great to add to an already great healthy lifestyle.

[@lajeit]

What wasn't accurate?

[@dtheog8537]

Go believe anything you watch bimdee ​@@lajeit

[@kaptynssirensong2357]

I love Mindy!!!

[@cynthiasoto7098]

This is wonderful and informative. Is there any information available on how women internalize their hormone schedule. When Dr. Mindy brought up the work month so many of us just don’t stop not only because we need to but also because we loose our position if we display “weakness” . Dr. mindy how does that affect us hormonally?

[@MelaniePhoenix]

Thank you so much ❤

[@ruthslater6364]

I was in early 60's and having great sex. It's all in your head.

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

Menopause can be difficult… but it is also liberating!

[@shelleyoconnor1609]

I love love love this!! Instead of saying what’s wrong with me why am I all over the place!!! Ahhhh! Progesterone that’s why I want to be cozy , stare at the snow flakes falling and why the sweet potatoes taste so frigging good!! Forever grateful!💙🌻🙏with compassion and grace for myself!!

[@cherylschmied9851]

Ok, what about for older woman 68 yrs old ?

[@arlamarie4697]

Wonderful content, outrageous amount of commercials! Can’t help to urge you to cut half at least of all the commercials that are not even related to the content of the video.

[@pstoevagallery365]

Aw, girls. Thank you. Just, thank you. ❤

[@nicolescott89]

Such an interesting convo. So for the time that is not the 5 day heaven window ahaha what can we do or men do to keep the connection or love or wanting going? How can we please ourselves and our partner outside the 5 days window. I don't have a partner but I'm so interested to understand 😊

[@petitemaam]

I don't think this video should be labeled start having amazing ... this video is so much more than sex.

[@sloene72]

I agree. The title is off

[@Candy_Mountain]

Dr Mindy is the shiz

[@tck3041]

A male friend who is now 64 had 3 children, all girls, to 3 different women exactly 9 years apart. The women coincidentally were all Geminis and their kids were all born in March meaning the 3 Mums became pregnant around their birthdays.

[@bobbijon]

First comment! Never before happened!!

[@Priya_the_princess]

Why these things are not taught at school instead of history and geography ! Bcz we should know ourselves first 😢

[@winig5558]

hi team, Dr. Pelz's information in the description is missing, its showing Jameela Jamil's info and business instead

[@Lindamorena]

I have PMDD so the later half of my cycle is rough..

[@ssmith5127]

It's a very interesting conversation. And I truly believe our world benefits greatly when women play active roles in multiple areas of our societies. But how on earth do the needs of businesses function with us as key players if we need this critical down time? I don't expect Fortune 500 Companies would find it practical to schedule important deliverables around our individual hormonal cycles. That seems like a huge ask not to mention a scheduling nightmare. It might even be a more difficult issue in smaller businesses with fewer employees.

[@Elethia441]

Sorry but I never really noticed much changes or partners during my cycle, and I never struggled with emotional PMS issues. I can't relate at all to any of this.

[@user-xk7hw4tc8d]

Women need to be appreciated and respected 💕 for being women

[@AnitaPerezMetaphysician]

I have found that my desire is much greater and more constant than any man I have ever known. Most of my female friends are like this too. I don't understand how this popular notion of men's libido being so much higher, when experience says the opposite.

[@KI-mg4sc]

What about when you’re pregnant or when you’re postpartum and don’t have your cycle back yet? I’ve gone through pregnancy then breastfeeding with no cycle, and now pregnant while still breastfeeding my two year old… I don’t know what the hell is going on with my hormones from day to day and it’s making me feel very lost.

[@tequilachanel7312]

Foreplay starts at breakfast?! I love this women 😂

[@lifeisall488]

Im 33 and raising two kids and married its hard at times to enjoy intimacy

[@erikajoslin6640]

I must have a high testosterone level. It’s rare to find a guy whose sex drive matches mine 🙈.

[@Bunny11344]

Same girl same

[@rebeccasnyder6719]

What about women who no longer have a period. Is there ever a time when a women have more estrogen and testosterone.

[@tequilachanel7312]

Naw I get more than hormonal I go into a depression, I cut ppl off it bad I need some type of hormonal regulating pill.

[@kaylabates8196]

i must be going through my bitchy time of the month lol my husband could not stand me yesterday. he said i was acting like a teenage girl 😒 loved this video though!! it makes me feel like i’m not crazy.

[@Magicisreal66]

And in Ancient civilizations, When women were Respected and revered respected respected and revered, and allowed to be "women/ priestess", they were extremely healthy, And enjoyed sexuality a great deal! because of the herbs and the plants that they knew to Ingest. And with religion taking over, they burned and killed a lot of women for their cultivation/knowledge of plants ect.. and Deemed them witches. She needs to do her history a hell of a lot better. I understand she's doing the best she can, but Our creator would not have made things so hard for us and so unfair.

[@amandajunior1604]

The first 2days of a woman's period r crappy - abdominal pains, low energy n mayb lack of appetit. Entrepreneurship mindset comes in when yo out of that bloody cycle😄.

[@hadiza1]

💜💜💜

[@user-uu9yi7hj9g]

What happens when we’ve had a hysterectomy at a young age of 35??

[@henryvillalona7833]

5:20

[@user-xk7hw4tc8d]

Interesting that estrogen and progesterone are opposing forces but both are necessary to keep a womans hormones balanced thus keeping women balanced. Its a synergistic hormonal necessity like gasoline and engine oil to keep cars running smooth and efficiently 😉

[@jenniferpoitier]

#CourageouslyResting

[@emilysemple3263]

This is not my experience at all. I really question the validity of many of her statements, because doesn’t seem to apply to me in the slightest. Also not to other women and men that I know well. Where’s she getting these theories from?

[@thereiters07]

The commercials cutting in every 5 minutes makes this video completeky unwatchable. I'm 30 minutes in and after 6 commercial breaks I quit.

[@nicoletheramos]

How do we create a work environment where women’s cycle is honoured? Well the simple answer is: God did that when He put the man as the head of the home and the bread winner. The home is the one place where the woman’s cycle can be respected. Where she is the boss of her affairs, her schedule, her children. Unfortunately, we’ve deviated so far from this ideal that most women are now forced out of this safe space.

[@haveabanana2930]

Worse - we're doing both! Women are doing the most these days - 40 hr work week + caring for the home, kids, man + doing online classes to get further ahead in career, etc. - what else can we put on our plates? It's a lot, lol 😅 sometimes, I wish I could just be a stay at home mom for a few months!

[@charlesdavis2704]

I think learning about this for men and women is a great thing. But I do not like her attitude on trying to change the world to adjust to her as a woman. I think you should be using this information to overcome your hormones. Instead of having discussions about how you would change the work week. 😂... I always try to use information to realize what I can do better. The world will never adjust to you you have to adjust to it

[@charlesdavis2704]

Now I do think most bosses would be okay with saying hey for the next 3 days because of my cycle I might not be my best but I'm going to work extra after that to make up for it. That makes sense

[@peacepocket]

I hate to say this, but this is why many believe that a woman should never be in a leadership position that requires her to NOT be emotional. Saying that women are only productive at certain times during the month due to hormones is a problem. Thank you for shining a light on this issue.

[@lajeit]

Companies also have cycles... there are pases of development, of testing etc... also think that this is only the case before menopause. Most women in power are post menopause. Also, take into account that performance-wise women tend to be better (yes, even better than men) overall despite the dips. Women pay more attention to detail, more organized... it depends on the field you work in. Women tend to be more creative, more empathetic, they are better at multitasking... Men are more stable and reliable 100% yes. But women bring some things to the table that men cannot. I think it depends on the field. For something like finance for instance... I would think requires stability. But a LOT of projects could benefit from the hormonal "chaos".

[@Anonymous-sv9yd]

Yet men aren’t able to control themselves either.

[@emilysemple3263]

I also honestly would be highly offended if a man would ask me what time of my cycle I’m in, so that he can have a conversation with me. It feels very condescending. I think women are usually just more emotional than men, regardless of when in the cycle they are.

[@kristinetank3959]

This chick is on something!

[@dtheog8537]

Lmao some 70 yr old lady giving this advice 😂😂😂😂😂

[@kimjaniga7517]

Can’t believe it. I love Dr. mindy but At 32 minutes, she explains how she needs her cave time just like a man and her husband wants to talk about his day just like a woman. Roles reversed, it’s awful!

[@peacepocket]

They need to teach women how to take control of their emotions during that time. I understand that hormones are up and down, but it’s not an excuse to treat people bad. Once you have this knowledge you should do something about it.

[@ssmith5127]

Trust me when I say that we women spend several years trying to understand these things. It's quite confusing for a few years. And it helps immensely when someone takes the time to bring understanding of and self awareness to these fluctuations. My early twenties became much easier once I understood what was happening and I could take ownership of it as opposed to believing there were external causes. I stopped blaming others and learned to recognize what was driving my own emotions. And there was more than one instance where I had to ask for time to sort something out on a different/better day.

[@healthright3657]

😂 we’re sorry

[@evka24]

Treating people bad has nothing to do with hormones it’s a character thing…men can give women hug and reassurance and she would calm down…sometimes aggressive behaviour is sign of frustration or resentment…or call for attention and affection it’s not given for a positive things ..freely

[@kimjaniga7517]

There is a major theme in this episode and several others: women are simply unaccepting of being in their feminine energy where it’s about BEING versus doing. This is the main issue that leads to unhealthy behaviours. Stop wanting to be a “badass” productive human, that’s not what we are built for.

[@haveabanana2930]

Most people don't have a choice these days - one income is not enough to get the bills paid and put food on the table. It takes two for most households, so women - who once had the choice to work or not - are now forced to do both the caretaking and working full-time to help provide for the family.