9 Things Your Guests ACTUALLY Care About

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When it comes to your wedding day, you're not just celebrating your love story, but inviting your family and friends to be a part of the celebration as well! So, if you want to maximize the guest experience, follow these 9 key tips to ensure happy vibes all around.
1. The Date, Time, and Location. I know we don't all have unlimited resources when it comes to these factors, but if you have the option to, select a date not near a major holiday, a time that is feasible and reasonable for most involved, and a location that is convenient (or really worth it!).
2. The Weather. Don't plan an outdoor event if it'll be too hot or too cold! And don't forget the heaters. I know they're an added expense, but your guests will thank you for it.
3. The Parking. Parking should be close, accessible, and free or low cost.
4. The Timeliness. While there may be circumstances out of your control, starting on time sets the tone for the rest of your event.
5. The Entertainment. Hire a great DJ! They will make or break your event, and the good ones are worth their weight in gold if you wanna boogie in your blue suede shoes.
6. The Food. Feed your guests well! Make sure there's enough to go around, and try not to skimp on the appetizers.
7. The Booze. You don't need fancy cocktails or high end spirits to make your guests happy. Just make sure there are some options beyond water to pique your guests' interest. And avoid a cash bar if you can. But if not, know your guests are grateful for any amount of alcohol they can get their hands on!
8. The Flow. A good coordinator and a good DJ are clutch for this. They help to ensure the event flows smoothly from one detail to the next, and no one will notice a thing. And trust me. If guests don't notice anything, that's a GOOD thing.
9. The Connection. They came to celebrate with you! If you have the time, go around to each table and say
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[@HalfKort]

I’m a DJ and I approve this message.

[@heliosfromacrossastar878]

HalfKort Hi! Do you have any tips on how brides and grooms can screen for a good DJ? And a bad one? :) Thank you very much in advance!

[@aimeebourne2780]

@@heliosfromacrossastar878 Personally I'd go through all the reviews, or experiences you or people you know of which were good. Always check reviews

[@francescaplowright975]

😂LOVE IT!

[@DeeDee-vt3li]

Ha lol

[@alexismartindale3110]

I respect everyone’s decision on how they want their wedding day to be. This video however pretty much sums up why I chose to get married on a cruise with family only. I just feel like having a traditional wedding is for everyone but the bride and groom. The guests have such high expectations and the couple spends all of their time and money trying to meet those expectations. Many of those people aren’t even close the couple. I don’t feel the need to have a crowd of acknowledgement in order to feel excited and content with my marriage. I can’t wait to celebrate our love for one another on a vacation with those we love most!

[@kirstyash7590]

A M I’m glad to see I’m not the only person feeling like this ! I hate all the formality with getting married and how family expect you to do xyz . I’m kind of up in the air about eloping atm because I want certain aspects but I don’t want the drama of having to please everyone else 😩 did you have any regrets about having a small wedding ? X

[@alexismartindale3110]

Kirsty Ash my wedding date is May 20th 2020 so I will let you know but if you have fear of missing out on celebrating with friends I suggest having a low key party like reception at home afterwards

[@allyd5395]

The last wedding I went to, the groom (my friend) came over and chatted with me for a while. It was nice. I appreciated that. I know he had a lot of people to talk to.

[@nadas.5643]

I cosign this message I went to a wedding were they took photis for 2 hours. No appetizers and no alcohol. By the time the DJ started to play, only the wedding party was left.

[@isabellelewis1511]

We are having our wedding in August in Florida. We are having both our ceremony and reception at the same massive location. I absolutely loved your suggestions.

[@moni23me]

OMG THE FLOW IS SOOOOOOO IMPORTANT!!!! It really makes allll the world to your guests!!!

[@brittanyallyn2935]

My wedding is in about a month and I am so glad I found this! Just watch this video and the 12 things guest don't care about and it was very helpful thanks! I was on the edge between making programs or not and now Im glad I don't have to feel like people will care. Also, we decided a 1 hour open bar and then the rest of the night the bar tender is there for people to buy their own drinks.

[@SjofnBM1989]

My cousin in laws had their wedding on Victoria day weekend (the first long weekend of spring/summer in Canada) and the brides own parents left early so they could go camping 🤦‍♀️

[@dlaine5]

Omg i love you and need alllll this great info and tips!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@abradley8008]

I went to two weddings where the bride and groom barely spoke to guest ( it made me wonder why did I even come here) and one was during this covid ( which made me even more upset with myself, thinking my life is worth more than this)!

[@illbuythatforadollar7706]

“ people do do... do do hehe” you mam, got a new subscriber

[@irenekristine]

Food is a huge thing!! I’ve yet to attend a wedding with a cocktail hour with enough food 😭😭

[@tiernyt2051]

Jamie your awsome,, your information is on point... thanks

[@angelasong3065]

Wow. Jamie. You are truly amazing!!!!!! Thanks to your videos/suggestions/tips/ideas, my wedding (which won’t be happening for another 2 years) will be just as I had imagined! It will be a perfect one, as I will be more than prepared with 2 years of planning. Your tips are - can’t stress this enough - beyond helpful. Thank you!!🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@rainbowbookworm]

In the UK a cash bar is more or less the norm. It's because British people (and yes I'm British) drink A LOT at weddings. It's not unusual for a normal 'average' larger/beer drinker to consume 10-15 pints or bottles throughout the duration of the reception and evening party. A welcome drink, payed for by the bride and groom, is also usually served on arrival at the reception venue which is usual champagne, if your going fancy, or bucks fizz - a combination of fresh orange juice and sparkling white wine. Wine is also provided for the tables during the meals at about half to one bottle per person or a soft drink. A further glass is also served after the meal for the toasts which is usual champagne or more commonly Prosecco or sparkling white wine. These are almost always expected by guests. It's also seen as rude to not provided water (in summer only lol) and tea and coffee for after your reception meal. Also most British weddings seem to last longer than American weddings (from what I have gathered from KZbin.) The latest wedding ceremony I've attended was at 2 pm. Most start at between 11:30 and 1 and go on until after midnight depending on your venue and thus guests get fed twice or even three times; once at the reception which is usually a three course silver service meal or a served buffet (although some people are bunking this trend now and going for different things such as pizza, fish and chips, curry, street food or giant hog roasts) this is then followed in the early evening by a more relaxed buffet, pizza or BBQ in the summer. 'Package' weddings are quite common, although i'm not too keen, where the bride and groom pay one set price for the whole event. You tell then your colour scheme and just turn up on the day and everything is sorted for you. DJ, food, table wine, decorations, staff etc. but although there tend to be cheaper there are conveyor belt and every wedding is near enough identical. Dry hire and outdoor receptions are becoming increasingly popular as couples are wanting to put their own 'stamp' on thing. However, as the UK wedding industry has started to notice this the dry hire venues and hire companies are starting to charge more and 'package' wedding venues prices are starting to come down.

[@CanalHEventos]

Perfect video! very interesting points!

[@woolfythegermanshepherd2732]

I am from Mauritius and a cash bar would be considered as SCANDALOUS here. I know in uk it's done but here it would be totally unacceptable. The best option is to find a venue where you can bring you own alcohol even if that means playing a corkage fee...

[@472winniethepooh]

I don’t even have a boyfriend let alone a fiancé and I love watching your videos😂

[@mirsey93]

It's hard to stick with an open bar. I was thinking either we'll have an open bar for cocktail hour and then cash bar afterwards. Because my parents are non drinkers so I don't want people getting over the top drunk. I want everyone to enjoy themselves of course but there are people who drink more than others so I'm meeting the need at a halfway point. Or we would have beer, wine and then a signature drink or 2. So it wouldn't get too crazy expensive. I think there's a lot to be said about alcohol at weddings but if you can't afford a cash bar, don't let people make you feel bad because you can't afford it. Do what you can with what you can afford

[@sarahsnider9326]

I am looking for green and environmentally friendly wedding tips and tricks. There are so many things that could be done, but the question is, what do guests care about and what don't they? If I go vegetarian buffet, will it start a food fight? What experience have you had with environmental weddings and how guests accept/follow the wants and desires of the bride and groom?

[@AfiaBelle]

lol I love your personality & this video was very informative!!

[@HonkSpookPrince]

We're doing a cash bar just cuz we got some individuals, that may dry up the bar if left to free booze xD

[@rosarioconde]

Hi!! I love ur videos like thank vos for ur videos cause I’m a newbie and I would be screwed lol but I need some advice I hope u can give me some tips! I’m having an outdoor wedding in my huge backyard I’m a little lost in what month I should have it I live in newyork and also if I should make it BYO wedding please help :)))

[@leanyland8933]

My entire family of 8 left a table up front because we sat through 6 bridesmaids making speeches ...it was like 630 and they havent even started the music yet . they spent sooo much on this wedding and tons of people where leaving

[@chellyherrera4493]

hey! new Sub here! have you ever done a Christian wedding? no alcohol and no dancing.. we are doing games and mocktails for drinks... i'm nervous. Wedding is in 11 weeks... ! HELP what do you recommend?

[@alicias9518]

How important are floor length linens? We are doing shorter linens bc they are free and also Easier to maneuver around. But... I don’t want it to look tacky.

[@TheUnveiledBride]

Alicia S People aren’t going to notice the floor length linens - stick with the free ones and use that budget somewhere else!

[@ApostlicNinjaGirl]

So I have a question for you. Due to religious reasons, there won’t be alcohol or dancing at my wedding. I’m not really afraid for the people I’m going to invite since most of them either share my religious background or understand it, but I’m afraid my fiancé’s guests will be bored and irritated. Do you have any suggestions on what I should do to counter that/in the place of dancing and booze?

[@kathi9026]

So putting the Date near vacation time you can reduce your costs because fewer people will come?🤔

[@sugerbiskits]

What do you think about having a wedding on a Sunday?

[@Catherine3385]

Sunday brunch weddings are becoming a thing. I think they sound awesome

[@lwolf101]

Martian Mommie dont do ot

[@jackievalerio8345]

I’m having a Sunday wedding 🤷‍♀️ it’s cheaper..

[@mandymarten9932]

I hear a cockatiel in the background............

[@16handsoffunfunfun]

1:31

[@melicord]

1. Date, Time, Location 2. Weather 3. Parking 4. Timeliness 5. Entertainment 6. Food 7. Booze 8. Flow 9. Connection

[@lmmm1459]

Might as well summarize all her videos. Thank you :)

[@irenekristine]

Food is a huge thing!! I’ve yet to attend a wedding with a cocktail hour with enough food 😭😭

[@elizabethyattaw4012]

I’ve been reciting to my fiancé what guests don’t care about. I’m like we don’t need a cake, guest book or favors, and you don’t have to reach up my dress for my garter and I don’t have to throw my bouquet. Thanks for confirming this. What I took from this video is entertain and feed your people and keep that party going!! Haha

[@erinnichols4866]

Elizabeth how was the wedding

[@kaitlinmccoy9279]

Can you do a “come along with me to a wedding”???

[@chantellem6457]

I've noticed open bars are much more important in the US than in the UK. In the US it means have around one drink an hour, in the UK an open bar means take as much as you can get! So in the UK we have drinks packages from the venue (eg. One at cocktail hour, 2 for dinner, one for toasts) and then the guests pay for their drinks during the party part of the reception.

[@chantellem6457]

Jamie Wolfer Sort of. In the UK you have the main wedding breakfast and then a buffet is usually expected in the evening. Would you say that in the US the food at cocktail hour is more important than party-time food?

[@JaneSmith-rx6kx]

German weddings usually have a few games in between. I organized a lottery for my brother in laws wedding that had everyone laughing. You could buy the tickets ( all proceeds for the happy couple) and could win "awesome " prizes. They are all pun based,so not all translate to English. Some of the prizes that do translate were a analog notebook ( college block with a pen ) ,a candlelight dinner ( can of soup and a candle) you get the idea we used it to fill the gap between the main meal and dessert

[@shystudyspy]

Tolle Idee! Was waren die anderen Preise? Ich würde sie gern wissen!

[@natibet7546]

Yeah I was surprised that games are not so comon in other countries. We got married in my husbands home country and they would have very disturbed by playing games haha 😄😄

[@wie_lil6674]

I am about to marry and am planning the game @jane Smith was waren die Preise und wie hast du die Lotterie genannt ?

[@marielasalle5039]

Great ideas!!!!

[@gailberryferguson3101]

Good idea

[@lucygonzalez3692]

By far my favorite wedding KZbinr! Thanks so much for your input and realness!

[@katealberto8406]

Do you know any others? I'm on a wedding consultant binge, I suppose!

[@dariantompkins4067]

I want a cash bar so that it hopefully helps control the guests from drinking too much. 😂

[@pixiebubbles2628]

I would definitely do that too. Last time I was at a wedding, a fight broke out between a couple drunks. Cops got called and party was cut short.

[@sophier315]

Can you do ”Wedding game/entertainment ideas”? Love your channel😀

[@cindyadu]

I find it interesting that you say cash bar is a no-no. In the UK, a cash bar is very common and it work's very well. I haven't yet been to a British wedding with an open bar. Usually, there is free wine and champagne but the guests have to pay for any more drinking (British people drink a lot!). I'm originally Nigerian and my Fiance is British. In Nigeria, you can't let your guests pay for drinks during your wedding whereas in England it is very much the norm. We have decided to meet half way on it.

[@Eliiseey]

Cynthia Adu I’m so glad you confirmed this! I was feeling so guilty about the bar !

[@jenniferfernandez7840]

However in states this is highly frowned upon, I've been to 12 weddings and all have been open bar. The only variables being is just beer and wine as opposed to liquor. Then once liquor is added whether is bottom, middle, or top shelf.

[@candysmith8724]

It's considered tacky in the US

[@kittyshay4000]

It's the same in South Africa. Most weddings serve wine & sometimes beer, but everything else you'll have to pay for.

[@rebeccac5051]

Cynthia Adu open bars are very rare, unheard of really, here in Ireland too - if we had open bars weddings would get super messy super quickly!

[@PottersGirl785]

So I just discovered your page yesterday and honestly you have been a God send in helping me plan my wedding. I just go engaged last month and was scrambling for some clarity in all of this wedding haze. Thank you soo much!

[@jennymermaid8136]

Hey Jamie! Love the video. I had an idea for another. Was hoping you could make a video on how to be the best bridesmaid. I liked your video on being a good guest, so something like that. I recently was a bridesmaid for a first time and there was a lot I didn’t know ahead of time and would do differently if I could have a redo :/

[@jennymermaid8136]

Jamie Wolfer for one I would have worn more sensible shoes or brought flats to change into, I forgot how much more the wedding party has to be on their feet compared to a guest. I also would have made more of an effort to get to know who I’d be spending the day with beforehand. I was the grooms sis and didn’t know his fiancé’s friends so it was kind of intense to come from out of town and jump in with her closest friends with no prior contact. I’d also put more effort into self care surrounding that day. For someone with social anxiety being a bridesmaid is taxing. I’d eat more too. I’d also have taken more time to show appreciation to the bride and groom for including me.

[@relationshit3]

Jenny Mermaid amen!!

[@cheyennehubbard339]

Jamie Wolfer YES! I’m going to be MOH in a few months and I have NO CLUE what I’m doing! (That’s actually how I found this channel!) A video about expectations would be great!

[@theburtsnest]

A MOH guideline would be awesome too!!

[@sgreig97]

Great idea!! Brides do not know how important it is to choose supportive and helpful people to stand up with them

[@poppy7415]

I live in Scotland and have never been to a wedding without a cash bar. Personally I would rather pay for my drinks and get what I like rather than having only beer and wine as an option which I don't like and would probably leave early. Its super common here to have a cash bar. Also the grooms father typically buys the first round. However at my wedding a cash bar will be present at night but up until after the meal we will have alcohol that we have supplied and juice so guests can have some drinks for free.

[@OfftoShambala]

Do you have a top ten list of the best wedding buffet foods/dishes.

[@TH-eb5ro]

Last few weddings we've gone to did not have alcohol other than the wedding party toast. Event program, one per table if there is something tricky such as service inside, outside for cocktails, inside again for the reception. The last one all guests toasted with a sparkly. Everyone still had a good time and no drama or dui concerns. I drove 13 hours to attend the last one, held at a chic barn in a very small town. This is all good information.

[@cookfamily6141]

Daughter just got engaged! I’m watching all of your KZbin and downloaded all your podcasts. My wedding was nothing like hers will be (95% all her and the grooms ideas) and I need all the help I can get to keep her sane.💗💗I’m so happy her dad and I can help her.

[@naomi6372]

Yess, I feel touched/humbled if the bride interacts/acknowledges u 😅

[@jordangilliard7186]

I feel as though the bride and groom should go around together

[@catinabox3048]

I was at a destination wedding where they planned an outdoor wedding and reception. As the reception was about to start, it started raining. Since we were at an all-inclusive resort, a bunch of us basically just ducked into the closest restaurant and started chatting over (free since the resort was all-inclusive) alcoholic drinks until they were able to get the reception set up at a conference room inside. It was actually a nice way to get to know some people. Didn't ruin the experience at all. Also, I'm surprised to hear that people care about the DJ. Unless the only music was rap the entire night, I wouldn't notice the difference.

[@brad_in_yyc]

My (ex) wife and I had an outdoor wedding on December 6, in Canmore, Alberta, Canada. We got pretty lucky that the weather wasn't terrible. It had very light snow falling. But Canadians are a hardy bunch as well, that know how to come prepared for cold weather. We also had a large bonfire burning near the front to keep people warm, and everyone was served hot chocolate or tea on the way out to the ceremony. It worked amazing. But I could DEFINITELY see where it wouldn't work. Thankfully, if the weather didn't cooperate, we had a venue that would serve as our ceremony place as well.

[@Paykwee]

I love all your videos! As a newly engaged woman it's so stressful to plan a wedding when I know nothing about the industry. You take some of that stress away. I'm so glad I found your channel! P.s. what are your opinions on things like excluding kids from the wedding or having a Spotify playlist in leu of a DJ? Thanks!

[@MariahRayneArt]

I appreciate your videos. Just for the fact that I am realizing, I don't want a wedding. They are very interesting and all but really not for all people.

[@ebayyyyy]

1:24 Now I wanna plan a pajama party wedding. Not for myself, but just to mess about with in the back of my head for fun.

[@Mindova]

You're so insanely helpful for helping me understand weddings! I've been binging your videos because I'm a typical broke bride with not a lot of thrifty help. Thank You!

[@caitluvscoffee]

I've been getting really overwhelmed with wedding planning and loved this video! It helped me get back on track & focus on what matters :)

[@Slaterladies]

⭐Connections / Receiving line alternative: Receiving Lines for guests can take a long time, and create some anxious energies. An alternative is for you and your sweetheart to usher people out and you get to have a little connection with each person before sending them ahead to the reception where hors d'oeuvres are waiting to satisfy their rumbling tummies. We did it with a sanctuary of about 150 guests. We were surprised that it took about 10mins to file everyone out. Plus they got to snack on yummy food while photos were being done

[@ashleysanders9453]

A month later, 4 THOUSAND!!!♥️ Also your channel is phenomenal and has already helped me so much!

[@baotruong2794]

This sounds like a stereotypical asian wedding. My parents were adamant on have the Chinese style catering which included 5 courses and bottomless beer and wine as well as 1 bottle of spirit (Hennessy) on each table. It was also customary we go to each table take a photo with everyone and have a drink before moving on. My mom said everyone will remember and talk about the food decades later if its good or bad... 😂

[@alisehp1]

You mentioned keeping guests entertained. Do you have recommendations for games or something for guests that don't dance?

[@stacieb4780]

Cornhole and giant jenga go over well.

[@BrwnEydGrl878]

Hey! You’re over 1000! 1024 to be exact! Congratulations! You deserve it!

[@kitty62862]

To me, you absolutely MUST make the rounds, table to table, once early and once late. Guests spend a lot of money, on whatever your gift is, plus whatever they’re wearing, plus hair, etc. To not stop at each table at least once is extremely rude. That says you don’t care. 2 rounds of cocktails. One with appetizers. One after dinner. Champagne toast. Period. Most states have liability laws, regarding a guest getting drunk at your event and then getting hurt. Either there or somewhere else Be aware of that.

[@valerielinares2068]

"Also, don't skip the appetizers. That is way too long for people to go without food. Hangry guests are not happy guests." 100% correct! I grew up going to weddings where they NEVER served appetizers while the wedding party was off getting pictures taken. As a kid, this sucked. As an adult, this sucks. Because by the time the bridal party returns from pictures, you don't give a damn about the grand entrance or the first dance. You're just hungry and want to eat already!! THIS is why, if I were to marry, I would absolutely want appetizers served for cocktail hour! Cause I absolutely hated sitting there hungry as a guest!

[@RinaHendriks]

Beer and wine will not suffice in South Africa and Namibia. You will be expected to have Whiskey, Brandy, Tequila, Vodka, Gin, etc - BUT cashbars are TOTALLY acceptable and actually expected. :)

[@JustlikeAmber]

Great vid! But FYI i just recently went to a beyonce concert and had to pay $40 for parking! So i guess i would pay that to see beyonce! Haha! 😂

[@brittneybellfield9232]

do you think guest will care if booze is NOT present at all? My soon to be fiance wants nice clean fun and I think that might kill the party vibe of the reception. As a professional what do you suggest? Thank you and love your channel

[@karaa7595]

Brittney Bellfield sounds like he's worried about the cost. You need at least red and white wine and a light beer option and regular beer option (bottles not cans) at a wedding, unless this is like a wedding for future missionaries mostly inviting the members of their church. Keep in mind weddings can be depressing for people who have lost their spouse, are divorced or over 30 and still single. They need some booze. 🙂

[@brittneybellfield9232]

Kara A Thank you so much we have decided on a signature drink for the night(one per guest) and wine 🍷. He was worried about"those family members" who don't know there limit and end up dancing on the table.lol Thanks again

[@karaa7595]

Brittney Bellfield and then there are those relatives lol.

[@cianap.281]

Dry weddings are a lot like any other dry event. People who have stopped drinking-- for whatever reason-- usually find that others react in a wide spectrum of ways, from finding it admirable to it being a non-issue to being disappointed to taking it SUPER personally and being hostile. And, having fun without booze actually takes a little practice if you're used to the opposite. Maybe y'all could get involved with a community of non-drinkers and start practicing, see for yourselves how to have fun without, how dry parties get going, etc., and then apply that knowledge to your wedding.

[@jtoland2333]

I think that's a great question. What do you do if some of your guests are in recovery? Some people can be around alcohol and not be tempted, but some can't.

[@bncsmom1]

I can say that when I went to a recent wedding, I felt it wasn't very well coordinated. There wasn't a seating arrangement and it ended up that some people weren't seated where they should have been, there was nobody keeping the guests entertained between the end of the wedding and the beginning of the reception, so it was somewhat awkward. The bride and groom had maybe ten minutes in their seats before they were up and doing photo after photo after photo after photo with guests and groups of guests, not always with their professional photographers, either. It was a lovely wedding, but the reception definitely seemed very chaotic.

[@MewKiyoko]

After watching so many of these, I'm so sad that my venue doesn't allow a DJ. ;^;

[@megasuperawesomestuf]

Great video!! I watched the other one as well about what the guests don’t care about. Very helpful!! I am actually a newly wed and my best friend and my brother in law met at our wedding and now THEY are getting married!! What a love story to be had!! I’m still enamored at the thought. Anyway. So, the one thing that I couldn’t and wouldn’t do without (and having just went through our wedding recently, I definitely know what I would and wouldn’t do...like an outdoor barn wedding in early September in the Midwest. We were dying from heat stroke but our photographer was a gem, the photos don’t give it away at all.) What I want to ask, my BBF said that she is going to just have someone else “be in charge of music,” but I definitely agree with you that I would NOT do without a DJ and our DJ was A-MAZING. He came to the rehearsal and even put together a bunch of Christian songs even though he wasn’t at all familiar with them before and it was so perfect! AND my dad couldn’t make it to rehearsal so he acted as the “stand in” for my dad which was just so awesome!! My question (finally) How do I tell her that I would spend the money on the DJ? He was only $600 too. And I’m telling you. He was BOMB! I almost want to ask her if I can pay for him just so she can have it taken care of........ Let me know what you think!!

[@LangBellsChannel]

That story made me cry tears of joy and I dont even know your friend. 😭❤

[@SophieMelissa]

In the UK a cash bar is more expected I think, otherwise people go crazy! We have a drinks package so everyone gets a drink on arrival, half a bottle of wine during our meal and then champagne for toasts, then in the evening after the second meal there will be a cash bar, but unlimited soft drinks. I’m hoping people will be ok with this!

[@TheUnveiledBride]

Sophie Melissa I think this will be perfect! I agree cash bar later in the evening is much better - you don’t want it to get too crazy!

[@moondraco2447]

I live on a tropical island- when my mom anounced her wedding was going to be in america- all the guest were so excited

[@aislingmeehan9862]

I'm super digging your videos!

[@keturahsandikienyenpan8407]

I love your room. And could listen to you all day 💕

[@lisaelias8151]

Do a video about good ways to entertain guests please. I'm having a small wedding next year and we are having quite a few more elderly and conservative people who aren't crazy about the now a days stuff. So stuff that is all age friendly would be amazing

[@alisonpadilla2559]

PLEASEEEE DO A video on how to choose a good DJ

[@marymaryquiteyaknow]

On an outside wedding / reception - is it worth it to spend more $$ on wooden fold up chairs vs metal fold up chairs -

[@raqueltoby855]

Your content is amazing!! I am planning my wedding now and I really love every video that you post. They are all so helpful! Thank you so much!!

[@lissediaz3190]

I always worry about how I am doing my wedding. Most of my guests are religious and non alcoholic but I also have a few friends and family who do drink. The FH and I decided to do a dry reception. We're keeping the reception short but giving plenty of time for dinner and planning on having games, prizes, photobooth, cake, etc. We're not very traditional on these things. But.. because we are doing the dry reception we also decided to host an after party with the guests who do drink at our home( not a big list btw). Most of them were happy with that and preferred not to get intoxicated in front of the religious family. All in all this made me feel less stressed. My guest list is all family and friends I'm close to and they respect my decisions. Even most of them told me they didnt care if the reception was dry. They're there to celebrate us and arent going for the booze. 😭 (I had gotten so caught up in all those blogs where other brides bash dry receptions, it got to me)

[@janicedevereux2839]

Cash bar= we are cheap and don’t care whether you drink or not. As my mother always said “if you agree to host a party, do it right…. OR…don’t do it at all🤔. Rent glassware if you are doing a DIY affair. Nothing says tacky like paper plates and red Solo cups. Close parking is OK if you cannot have a valet… Not even a prostitute wants to walk in stilettos. If your Dancefloor is empty… Get to that DJ and tell him to change the music. Remember you are paying him/her. Lots of “good” food and good music makes a fantastic party… save the Baked Ziti for another time, not at your wedding.. it’s boring.

[@hellya2666]

I can't wait for my big day! I never thought I would get married (like for real), I dreamed about it but not that much either... Your videos have really helped me so far!

[@YourDailyDoseofJillish]

My fiance's family are all at least 10 hours away and most of my extended family are 8 hours away, so I'd like to hear some recommendations or info on non-destination weddings where 70 of 90 guests are from out of town... for example, what about the rehearsal dinner and hotel blocks and such

[@JB-qp3qu]

Jilly Bean hotels usually have rates for blocks, call your local hotels and ask them. Also some AirBnBs are big enough to rent and host groups together such as families in one AirBnB

[@bogieboog]

Great tips. One of my relatives had an outdoor wedding in the summer but after the sun set it got so cool my grandmother got real cold and one of the waiters had to wrap a table cloth around her. Not good😟

[@AlishaZuniga1028]

What month was it in? I'm having an outdoor wedding in August 😬 but it will be close to 6pm once everything starts so shouldn't be too hot.. I hope lol

[@jonathansmith283]

? - backyard wedding - serving beer/ wine/ waters/ juices - do you allow the ''bartender'' set up a 'TIPS ' jar ? what do you think. - the bartender is being paid. opinion-

[@bailoutthebaileys2644]

Your videos are so helpful. Thank you!!! 💃💖

[@natalieaguilarhernandez4924]

Thank you so much for these videos! I truly appreciate them. I have been stressing since we booked the venue in February and your videos opened my eyes on what to truly focus on and what I can save my money with 🙌 my wedding day is December 20th of this year and will most certainly be using your videos as a guide 🤍

[@Courtneyburns90]

I find the free bar idea strange it's just not a thing in the UK. I have never been to a wedding with free drink other than fizzy wine for a toast or maybe a bottle of white and red wine on the table. Fuck I'm getting my guests to pay for their own meal instead of a wedding present. Only £13 a head (approx $16) so I'm not gonna be buying alcohol 😂

[@stina51093]

Glad I found this channel at the perfect time. I just put a deposit on my venue this past Sunday. My head has definitely been spinning since I started wedding planning. But your videos have been helping me out.

[@sunshineflowers6531]

I know she says no to a cash bar, but I come from a family of alcoholics and my fiancee and I are getting married on a yacht. We just figured maybe that would combat my family from getting drink and doing something stupid. Anybody else have any tips or advice for our situation?

[@alexisrose5764]

Hi, How do you feel about buffet style weddings rather then a serving style?? Some people think it’s tacky and others prefer it but I was just wondering about what your personal preference is about the matter. I have a very small budget for my reception and I’m having trouble with the food portion. I hope you respond. Thanks 💞

[@alexisrose5764]

Jamie Wolfer okay thank you so much !!

[@nicolep.9440]

Buffet style actually helps the flow of the wedding. Just make sure there’s a variety.

[@btsarmyforever3816]

In India, we do not have this concept of "Pay to park for this amt of time" like nobody would do it lol. Don't know why this concept even exists. I don't think I have seen this in other Asian countries either. We have free designated parking lots alongside walks or the building we go to has parking lots there. Why do we have to pay just to park our vehicle?? The govt certainly did not pay for my vehicle so it makes no sense for me to pay "Time" for it. We also pay road tax to use the roads and maintain it.

[@tatumgross9391]

Is a cash bar worse than no alcohol? We don't drink and I can't justify paying for the alcohol, but I'm worried if it's not provided people will sneak it in.

[@anniefeng3795]

What about for food if buffet or seated dining matters?? I really want a buffet only because I personally would love unlimited food and getting to choose many options. Full open bar… always.

[@hayleykitty401]

I heard they were going to raise the drinking age in NC to 25. What do I do if I'm getting married at 23?I'd honestly have wine anyway and drink "underage" because I'm 23 and it's my wedding day

[@toria.rey.]

Question about the DJ: my fiancé’s family are all Baptist and they don’t dance.. what do I do about this?

[@Abmarp]

Have back ground music while People. A string ensemble or something. And instead of dancing, interactive games sound good.

[@cbflazaro]

In the UK I find DJs a waste of money. Dance floors always empty. they all play the exact same playlist and dont read the crowd. Meanwhile every wedding i do where's a band, everyone is on the dancefloor all night.

[@sydneyloomis3875]

One of the venues I am looking at is a historical building that doesn't allow dancing in order to preserve the building. My fiancé and I don't care but do you think guests will be upset if there is no dancing? How do you even plan a reception without dancing?

[@Delyndra]

I need advice. Creative way to keep people entertained w/o fundraising. If it takes about an hour to get everyone into their ceremony seats, how do I entertain the first to arrive. I thought about having drinks available, but I dont know if that'll be an option.

[@ShainaDesotelle]

Cash bars don't bother me at all. Tardiness and having too much time between ceremony and cocktail hour/reception are my major peeves.

[@laurennasca-davis7747]

My fiance is sober and doesn’t mind guests drinking, but we are going with a a cash bar bc he doesn’t want to pay for all the alcohol

[@SuperWerewolf123]

My boo and I plan to only cover bar tabs for people who do community service hours. Why would we pay to get someone drunk if they don’t contribute to their community?

[@stacieb4780]

Definitely doing a cash bar bc most of my peeps don't drink but wanna have it available. But free coffee bar.