Screw Traditional Weddings

Screw Traditional Weddings | A Non-Trad Q+A

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@stacym735 4 ай бұрын

My favorite non-traditional wedding ever was "just" a Halloween party, thrown by the couple who ended up being the bride and groom. That's what the guests were invited to, the invite said to come in costume, and that food and drink would be provided. Only the bride and groom's immediate families knew what was really happening - none of the guests had a clue. About an hour after the party started, there was a "can we have everyone's attention please?" kind of announcement. The bride and groom had managed to sneak away to change into vintage, more formal attire, and the wedding ceremony took place. During the initial few minutes of "wait, did that just happen?" confusion, the bride's brothers started passing out Champagne, and then it sunk in. It was a total hoot! No "wedding planning" mess, no fuss, no stress - just a big, celebrational party on the couple's favorite holiday!

@AllieBurch1 3 ай бұрын

Did you just describe a Parks and Rec episode and nobody noticed for 3 weeks lol

@stacym735 3 ай бұрын

@AllieBurch1 no, just a wedding i went to 12 years ago :)

@victoriab8186 2 ай бұрын

It’s expensive, but my longstanding best wedding memory is from a couple who wanted a more child-free reception but knew that most of their guests had kids that would need to be cared for somehow to allow the adults to come. They hired a kids entertainer and essentially stuck the kids in a tent down the other end of a field. We (the kids) had a great time, cos it was a long party just for us. The adults had a good time because we weren’t under their feet, but were being looked after at no expense to the guests

@sampriceandeverythingnice 4 ай бұрын

I don’t know if this was intentional or on your radar, but your merch is very inclusive for queer folks. As a nonbinary person I’m neither a bride nor a groom, and it’s really hard to find wedding things that aren’t aggressively gendered in wording and/or aesthetics. I’m really glad to see more things like this that allow more engaged people to celebrate themselves and their relationships. If you make more in the future, I highly recommend collaborating with a queer artist if you haven’t already! I’d love to see what that collaboration brings.

@bri9irl1991 4 ай бұрын

THANK YOU. It is inhumane to expect an infant under 6 months to be separated from their mothers. They don't even know where their body ends and their mother's begins. I appreciate that being said. I was put in a situation when my nursing newborn wasn't invited to a wedding so I stayed home. I could not have left him behind, it would have broke me. I get it was not my wedding or my call but I felt the couple had no grace for my situation. I think he was only 11 weeks old! Don't separate the mother-infant dyad. Otherwise, I'm all for child free weddings.

@feelosophy1921 4 ай бұрын

Yes, it's fine to have your wedding child free. I don't understand couples who get upset that the parent(s) will not be able to attend. A new mother has a 3 week old baby so of course they'll probably decide not to attend.

@FlowceanSoul 8 күн бұрын

Your merch line is the friggin cutest! The western tee and sweater are literally to die for 😩🖤🖤🖤🖤

@Laure__Line 4 ай бұрын

Hi Jamie ! As a future bride getting married in 10 days, I would like to thank you for all your great advice that has really helped along the way 🙂 We are French and getting married in our own country according to our national traditions, so our wedding will differ a lot from American weddings, but most ideas and principles still remain valid. As for the subject of this video, when we started planning 9 months ago, we did exactly what you've said here : we listed all the things in a wedding day and decided what items we wanted to do or not and how we wanted to do them. The result is a very personal wedding that suits us perfectly. I am going to add one original idea for brides who don't want to do a bouquet toss : as I don't either, I have requested our florist to make a 2-in-1 wedding bouquet, so that I can untie the outer ribbon and offer the two separate bouquets to my mother and my mother-in-law. 🙂

@Ladytulip22 4 ай бұрын

Already married for two years but obsessed with my til death do us part tee from your line!!!

@NoraGuy 3 ай бұрын

Wish I’d seen this video when you uploaded it, as I was dress shopping with my mom around that time. I am 50 - yes, FIFTY!! - years old and she and I got into it at the salon over the color of my dress. I wanted to wear champagne with colorful embroidery, which is very trendy, but I also think is beautiful. Plus, the dress converts to a short dress for the reception. She wanted me to wear white. And criticized the short dress. And my 2” Latin dance shoes. Oh boy. She pulled the “I’m old” card. We finally came to an agreement but I’m anticipating more to come as I reveal things like keeping my name (like I did last time I married), not having a white cake, having a small guest list, etc. Thank you for this content!

@heidilau7527 4 ай бұрын

Hi Jamie. I love your videos and hearing your take on all things wedding. I’ve been married almost 40 years and my son has been married 9 so I have no more weddings on my horizon. I bought one of your t-shirts and it is fabulous. All of the designs work great for newly engaged to “old” marrieds. ❤

@melodyhungcomposer 4 ай бұрын

This video came at exactly the right time ♥️

@brimarie4196 4 ай бұрын

I think a gift is a gift and the gifter doesn't get a say in how it's used. If someone gives you money for your birthday they don't get to tell you how to use it. Yes parents may have the expectation that their gift means they get a say, but then it's not a gift and if they didn't discuss out loud their expectations that's on them.

@ainouzers 4 ай бұрын

I am 100000% getting that western collection for my wedding soon hell YEAH LOVE ITTT

@faithhanson4976 3 ай бұрын

You’re the best!

@heatherellsworth3833 4 ай бұрын

Your makeup looks so good! 🙂

@emmilyn362 17 күн бұрын

I’m not a dress person and I don’t really like the idea of wearing white after thinking about the background of that. I get overstimulated easily, have some health issues and a lot of other neurodivergent family members. I’ve also never been to a party and that’s not really my thing, am not religious and we’re probably not gonna have a huge budget. I’ve also got no idea who I’d ask to be in my wedding party! I love planning things though and making pinterest boards! It’s gonna be different if we do get married, but that’s okay ☺️

@Elphaboy 4 ай бұрын

I think if it’s a monetary gift and they’re like “it’s for your wedding use it how you will.” Then it’s up to you but if they’re part of the planning and paying for most of it… I got news for you it’s their party too, and they get more than just an opinion. Also the child free wedding with the exception of the flower girl and ring bearer that’s literally exactly how I’m doing mine. And I get that for some kids at the wedding makes it that much more special and memorable but for me it just makes the whole night about the kids they’re unpredictable and can cause problems yes adults can too but it’s way easier to throw a drunk fool out of your wedding than it is to ask a mom to take her screaming kid back to the hotel. Watched a kid run into an adults hand with a drink in it, spilled all over her she was crying for 40 minutes… NO KIDS!!!!!

@sampriceandeverythingnice 4 ай бұрын

This is exactly why there need to be clear expectations and boundaries discussed and agreed upon BEFORE monetary contributions are accepted. That way no wires get crossed, and there’s a conversation to point back to if either party tries to change the terms later. Some funds are freely given, others are an attempt to exert power/control.

@Elphaboy 4 ай бұрын

@@sampriceandeverythingnice ⁠yea that’s very true too! But like for example my in-laws are spending $40,000.00 on our wedding and she’s literally just said she wants to be involved. Through every step we’ve kept her very in the loop and even scheduled visits and other appointments with her. $40,000.00 and she has not one time said “ooo I think it should be this we’re doing this” not once! They’re spending $40,000.00 on the wedding and all she’s had to say so far is “I just want to make sure there’s a cake.” And honestly a wedding without a cake is just plain rude to me so there’s absolutely gonna be a cake 😂🤣😂 but yes the toxic relationship around money and a wedding os a way more common problem

@notinvogue4287 3 ай бұрын

My ML wants to see the badge 😂

@brickblums 4 ай бұрын

As a parent, I would want my kids to listen - but, I would also respect their ultimate decision. I just want them to take a little time to consider and not reject my thoughts right away.

@sunnybuzzard 2 күн бұрын

Does anyone have experience with the groom having a best man (or two) and the bride having no one? Especially for the civil ceremony at the town hall, where the best man and maid of honour need to sign, I don't want to feel lonely. On the other hand, I really want to respect the wish of my partner to have a best man.

@mikkabarnes8590 4 ай бұрын

What happens if my husband has groomsmen, but i dont have any bridesmaids? My side will look a little assymetrical and my husbands doesnt want me looking lonely on my side in the ceremony. Can i just borrow some of his groomsmen and put them in colored tuxedos or something?

@blaireshoe8738 4 ай бұрын

Borrowing groomsmen is a great idea, honestly, whether you don't have any bridesmaids/bridesmen of your own in mind or just have uneven numbers. I don't think you even need to change their outfits at all personally, whatever they would have worn on his side is good for your side too, although if you want you could certainly coordinate their pocket squares/ties/boutonnieres or suchlike to make the ones standing by your side distinct. If you can find a rental company that would do it in the colors you wanted, colored tuxes would definitely be fun, though!

@TesriaT 4 ай бұрын

@@blaireshoe8738 I actually love the idea of wearing the same outfits but with different boutonnieres and pocket squares, I think that would look super classy! If someone wants a bit more colour but can't find full coloured tuxes, having waistcoats in the two different colours could work really well as well.

@Laure__Line 4 ай бұрын

You can do whatever you like. It's you day ;-)

@LoraK31 4 ай бұрын

I had 9 bridespeople and my husband had 1 groomsman/best man, so we just moved some of my people to his side. You can do whatever you want, and no need to change their outfits unless you want to!

@leahwilton785 2 ай бұрын

I understand that there's a lot of peer pressure surrounding weddings. However, if you are concerned about a child/children ruining your wedding, why are you inviting their parents, who you have so little trust in managing the behaviour of said children? It just never made sense to me

@MadisonEricksen 2 ай бұрын

What if you want children at your wedding, but want it to be kid free after a certain time?

@victoriab8186 2 ай бұрын

That makes a lot of sense to me! I think some of that’s going to happen naturally (especially if you’re talking relatively younger kids with bedtimes); that might be later than you’d want, but if that worked it might be easier to swing with guests who have kids, because they’re going to have to leave too at that point. If it’s earlier in the day that you’re wanting to transition to no kids you might want to think about childcare or having time that parents might leave and come back without missing anything drastic, but I would think that as long as parents have been allowed to come to most of the day, a decent number would probably be happy with the ‘out’ so they can go get their kids home and have an early night. Idk though that’s just me