TikTok's Tech Bro Creeps On Women

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[@finx3]

hi 🙊

[@nekoshadowwolf]

Cool

[@melanieeilish5412]

Hi

[@BugBestieLily]

Hi bestie

[@emmaganther8916]

Hi

[@AerinMoriarty]

This is such abuser energy and I'm so glad people are calling this shit out

[@ericarabito2580]

fr, i truly can’t believe that people are seeing this as anything other than deeply scary

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I personally feel like if my partner has so much anxiety and fear that I am cheating on him I don't care if it makes him feel better by keeping track of my movements and messages or whatever. I have nothing to hide and my partners peace of mind means everything to me. Trust is earned. Not the default. Too many people have a giant ego and too much pride and would take great offense or even dump their partner for so much as insinuating they don't trust them. I just don't get why anyone would make a big deal about it if they have nothing to hide. Doesn't your partners peace of mind mean more to you than your own pride? Clearly it's not personal and they have been hurt badly in the past or they wouldn't go to such extremes. You would think people would have a little empathy and understanding for the person they claim to love and are in a relationship with. Trust isn't automatically given as the default for some people. Some people have been hurt and suffered so much at the hands of someone who claimed to love them that they can't easily trust. Their trust must be earned and there's nothing wrong with that. Do I think it's a little unethical to spy on your partner? yes. Do I think the vast majority of those who do spy on their partners are bad people? no. I think they are hurt people.

[@APleasantDaydream]

@@WhitneyDahlin I think this is a very dangerous way of thinking. I don't think there's any reason why someone would need to track their partner. That kind of toxic behavior undermines their partner's independence and privacy and can quickly lead to control and abuse. If someone is so hurt that they feel the need to track their partner, then what they need to do is heal by learning how to cope with and manage their fear and anxiety themselves, and learning how to trust again. Tracking their partner is simply a way to avoid doing that healing work, and it's not going to help them. Instead, it will enable them to remain stuck in their pain and likely pass it on through their toxic behaviors. I have generalized anxiety disorder and complex PTSD as a result of past abuse in my relationships, which makes it very difficult for me to trust people and feel safe in my current relationships. However, it is absolutely not my partner's responsibility to manage my fear and anxiety for me or to cater to my inability to trust. It's my own responsibility to heal enough to a point where I can cope with and manage those feelings myself and where I'm able to trust my partner until they do something to lose that trust. You are free to let your partner track you if you choose, but I think it's highly problematic to suggest that we all should let our partners track us if we have nothing to hide, and it's especially problematic to suggest that letting our partners track us is a way to earn our partner's trust and provide them with peace of mind. It's not about pride -- it's about boundaries. Boundaries are extremely important for healthy relationships. I can have empathy for my partner and offer them reassurance, but I am not responsible for their feelings, especially at the cost of my boundaries. Being hurt is not an excuse to cross anyone's boundaries or to make anyone responsible for your peace of mind.

[@jijitters]

@@WhitneyDahlin But them having that much anxiety about it and not being able to trust you is the red flag, and the fact that they'd be willing to do all this to "expose" you is not a red flag anymore, it's outright manipulative and toxic. It's not about whether or not you have something to hide. Being this neurotic about keeping tabs on your partner isn't okay no matter what the reason or result is.

[@D_YellowMadness]

It's especially messed up because there are only two possibilities. One is that he'd make assumptions based on the private info he finds without ever giving you a chance to explain yourself. The other is that he'd confront you about it & expect an answer even if the actual explanation is none of his business & he's putting you on the spot by pressuring you to talk about something that maybe you don't wanna talk about. Some things are just genuinely no one's business but yours. Actually, there is a third possibility. That he's a violent psychopath who responds violently, with or without explaining or questioning.

[@bec7080]

Obviously if her device isn't connected she decided to not stay home instead of just run to McDonald's or something. And that means she's cheating. So it totally justifys stalking. Totally. Totally.

[@hongkongdad928]

Imagine you invite a friend over to hang and the next time you see your partner they start screaming at you for cheating

[@helplessheroine2641]

Sometimes my wifi stops working on my phone and I swap it off for a few hours, he should know wifi is just dumb sometimes lol

[@hongkongdad928]

@@treeofrage7622 why not take it a step further? Your SO doesn’t need family either, or pets, hell, just murder everybody in the city they live in so it’s just you two. No trust issues then, atleast for other people

[@morre6894]

@@helplessheroine2641 Yeah, I just run on the 4G nonstop, something dumb as hell got even dumber

[@uhohmemebiggestboy212]

Yep that's a sign of an over obsessive person people like can quickly become abusive

[@stinkybritches8174]

Buddy is straight up teaching young kids how to be a very insecure stalker.

[@cloudshad0ws]

After the recent SCOTUS decision, all they will need to do is claim that they didn't intend for their stalking and harassing to be threatening. Because nothing bad could come of that.

[@tiffanyh1274]

I used to date a guy like this, I literally got anxiety watching this. He’s stalking people and teaching others how with impunity. This is so scary.

[@Z3firk0]

Guys like him are the reason why stem and compsci courses need more and seriously graded ethics course. Because guys like him run current tech world and make every app collect every single piece of data on you.

[@hexlart8481]

That and the whole mess that is ai/crypto. It feels like as a society we are currently prioritizing new ideas over ethical concerns and its disturbing af.

[@Xionarra]

EXACTLY

[@angeldivine408]

@@hexlart8481this! We need stricter legislation on interception of communications and jail sentences for all these creeps

[@soniaequihua3019]

Giving me hope that my uni is doing something right haha, I'm studying data science and right now I have a course on ethical decision making, and later on there is another one on ethics, don't really remember what though

[@Nuibuddy]

People are aware of ethics, good and bad, they have the ability to do that themselves. They don't want to. It is not in their interests. No amount of ethics courses changes that. The incentive is there and to someone's morals are on sale.

[@meowmeowmeoww69]

Yeah she obviously is cheating if she leaves her house, DEFINITELY not going to a restaurant, grocery shopping, or even taking a walk. That would be ridiculous of her to do🙄

[@SoManyRandomRamblings]

And she can't be out visiting family, let alone friends. 🙄

[@ananxiousmessoo1789]

Yeah, woman definitely don't leave their house to go to work or school 🙄

[@yuki97kira]

"Im staying home today.. Oh.. Oh shit im out of food, better head to the convenience store" This shit man: YOURE CHEATING

[@meowmeowmeoww69]

@@SoManyRandomRamblings never heard of those👩🏽‍🦯

[@meowmeowmeoww69]

@@ananxiousmessoo1789 women work?🤨 nah they stay at home and do nothing. My favorite activity is actually watching paint dry😌💞

[@emilymyers447]

As a woman who lives alone, this is sooooo concerning. I hate the idea that anyone who had my wifi password could tell whenever I'm alone! Eeeeeeek

[@PanicattheDiscourse]

Great moment to set up a guest network, and replace the basic setup admin password on the router to something only you know.

[@matt0121]

He’s lying to stir up controversy. The admin password is different than your wifi password, although it’s a good idea to change it from the default one. It’s also (generally) impossible to access the admin control panel from a device not connected to the network, so he would have to be sitting outside of your house to check anyway.

[@emilymyers447]

@@matt0121 my boyfriend works in tech and said the same thing, but I still find it concerning that it's possible to do at all-sounds like a good way to decide when to commit a crime against someone 🙃

[@emilymyers447]

@@Samulise that's good to know, I didn't ever think to change mine until now.

[@hi_im_angie]

Yep, I just learned a valuable lesson and will never share my wifi pw again. Thanks, Jarvis!

[@PeachysMom]

As someone who was surreptitiously surveilled with a keylogger by my ex husband, it is really toxic and scary when you realize you didn’t have the privacy you thought you did, despite not having done anything wrong. It’s a super creepy feeling.

[@PolrisTired]

That’s actually insane, I’m sorry he did that to you

[@PeachysMom]

@@PolrisTired thanks! Appreciate it, it sucked really bad.

[@user9267]

I'm so sorry about that

[@ejynk]

did u ever end up pressing charges against him? i 100% get that's a hard, expensive road to take but i was wondering bc using a keylogger to track someone is very, very illegal

[@ranjanbiswas3233]

WTF THAT'S A CRIME.

[@blaynemyers9163]

I imagine a girl left him because he’s toxic and said she found her soul mate.

[@lolasdm6959]

he can get a girl? She has to be mentally disabled to fall for this

[@just_vibing_7994]

@@lolasdm6959 heyyyy we know the guy sucks but lets keep the ableist jokes to ourselves

[@lolasdm6959]

@@just_vibing_7994 I honestly don't believe anyone in their right mind would ever date this guy, his a walking red flag, half the word out of his mouth are red flags.

[@Ari-ze8wm]

Obviously 🙄 lol that’s why he’s being a creep he’s jealous of the people in relationship

[@cloudshad0ws]

That's almost always what it comes down to with these people... And based on the number of grown men who constantly whine about paying alimony and child support, they never grow out of it.

[@Patterrz]

I feel like this dude would be exhausting to be around

[@Z5Z5Z5]

Definitely nonstop talker trying to sell crypto and NFTs

[@can0cringe]

Thinks of himself as an alpha male but never mentions it

[@errortryagainlater4240]

He'd probably assume that all his guy friends had the same opinions + interests as himself and exclusively talk about either crypto or weirdo fringe shit 😭🤢

[@anthonylindsay6470]

Patterrz I didn't know you liked Jarvis Johnson the more you know (also love your nuzlocks I actually did a gen 8 nuzlocke while watching yours)

[@OGimouse1]

@@can0cringe That's because he aLrEaDy KnOwS wHo ThE hIgH vAlUe FeMaLeS aRe

[@errortryagainlater4240]

Lmao when he said that "30% of them responded to my DM!!" the example on the screen was just "thank you" with a happy face. Wow, what a _harlot,_ being polite when she's complimented 💀 and the fact he didn't show any more screenshots makes me wonder how successful he really was.

[@SomeStupidBastard]

You should definitely trust the tech engineer, *definitely*

[@completlynormalhypernova666]

Omg she responded saying thank you to a compliment. Shes rebounding and looking for a relationship. Not at all possible that she is being nice

[@gwest3644]

This guy takes misinterpreting politeness as flirting to the next level

[@VibesOfChaos]

@@gwest3644”Hey, what’s up?” “Nothing much, what about you?” “WOAH, I have a GIRLFRIEND.” “….ok?”

[@6Shots_ofEspresso]

@@VibesOfChaos “hey, im sorry about your dog dying” “thanks, its been rough lately” “YOU *SLUT* , YOU *HARLOT* DONT YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND!?? “…huh?”

[@esbenm6544]

I work in IT, and using this kind of "life hack" never even crossed my mind. Technically I could install a key logger on every machine I get my hands on but I also realise the legal and ethical ramifications, which are quite severe. Like a locksmith probably shouldn't be robbing houses on the weekend. These guys know fully well that pulling something like this in a professional capacity would mean they're done, over, but because it's their personal life where people aren't all tech savvy, they feel completely confident they can get away with it. It is sociopathic behavior.

[@liketheTaj]

Apparently he already got fired from Cisco for this kind of misogynistic creep behavior so 😀 no wonder

[@KenJee_ds]

This might be super nerdy... but the first thing I thought of was how funny the conversations would be when he inevitably matched with another bot.

[@LostStarzOfTheSky]

bateman vs a sexbot, who will win.

[@iniyama]

if you have the means to make it happen, please do it. for science of course

[@lobstersonskateboards3988]

@greatest greg I second this, I would pay to see that happen

[@lobstersonskateboards3988]

@greatest greg If they make a bot together, they could mash their names like... Jenny, or I guess Karvis if you wanna be funny lol

[@LilacMonarch]

would you date a robot? asking for a friend. i am not a robot. i have skin.

[@OpeningTheBox]

wild that not only are there people who do this sort of thing but they're confident enough in it to publically brag about it to the world

[@kevinchen5167]

The thing is that when they brag and broadcast it to the world, usually it attracts similar people, while relatively normal individuals kinda just avoid the account. Usually it creates an echo chamber for the creator and their followers so that they can justify their questionable behaviour.

[@yuzu-tsuyu]

honestly if i had to guess, this guy isn't as wealthy and successful as he claims, and this is just stage 1 of building an incel following that he can shill his 'ultimate dating course' to in a few months...

[@BbVortexMortinghan]

"You can actually set it up so you can access it remotely" is definitely a cybercrime / regular crime (?) if you don't have permission. This is classic stalker thinking.

[@komal146]

They know there are no consequences. Also a reason why they mostly won't date women with similar education, wealth and skills.

[@ggundercover3681]

@@kevinchen5167 all I can hope and pray is that these weirdos out themselves very easily and quickly in real life so anyone would know to dump them real quick or avoid them. they don't deserve a chance because it's so hard to not see how this is wrong

[@alysemyers4230]

Thank you Jarvis for finally voicing what women actually want and romanticize. A rodent cooking us pasta. 🐀❤️🍝

[@charlx8979]

Remmy was pretty romantic, he helped whatshisface the human chef with his romance Im kind of happy i can only remember the name of the rat from ratatouille and not the human dudes name :D

[@alexaotto25]

@@charlx8979 “whatshisface the human chef” got me chuckling lollll

[@alicine-sims8988]

@@charlx8979 I feel like you NEED to know that his name is Alfredo Linguine. ALFREDO LINGUINE.

[@charlx8979]

@@alicine-sims8988 as an italian, that feels vaguely racist of disney to name him that, hes french anyway!

[@AleksandarBell]

@@charlx8979 it wouldn’t be racism it would be xenophobia as “Italian” isn’t a race

[@lindseyevans9289]

i absolutely hate how creepy he is... checking someone wifi or whatever to see if they are home or not literally deserves a restraining order at LEAST

[@blackqweenmars]

It’s like saying that knocking on someone’s door is creepy

[@cranburrey]

​@@blackqweenmarsThat is NOT the same thing

[@roseyoung44]

​@@blackqweenmars not equivalent at all. Its more akin to setting up a hideen camera inside someone house.

[@ClownHoundII]

​@@blackqweenmarsknocking on a door is not the same as keeping track of a woman's movements all day, checking her texts/app usage, and checking to see who is in her apartment after hacking into her wifi router.

[@peach7079]

fun fact about this guy: he was fired from cisco after he made tiktoks encouraging his followers to report strippers to the irs

[@lanskandal1181]

A creepy misogynist who is also trying to make sex worker's lives harder? Shocking!! When have we ever seen this before?!

[@stydcgnvnhfmuj-9pufkhccfj990]

Wtfff

[@starlight8554]

Checks out, honestly

[@SwizzleDrizzl]

brand new sentence

[@emmamlis927]

Just dropped

[@Rose-hh7mk]

I'm so sick of people saying "if the roles were reversed". If a woman on TikTok showed how she stalks men through their WiFi, I know that everyone in the comments would be upset about it. Why? Because everyone knows that stalking and harassment is NOT okay, no matter the gender.

[@gregothy9190]

You get the same thing whenever there's a video of a woman assaulting a man in any way "if the roles were reversed". Like it's putting words in the mouths of people you've never met, in fact people whom you don't know.

[@botanicalitus4194]

actually if the roles were reversed thered be more people angry. Think about it, there are so many alpha male men's rights activists/lnceIs defending this guy specifically because he's a guy. Those types of guys hate women so they will ALWAYS be on the guy's side, whether or not the guy is in the wrong But when a woman does something bad, they dont have the same bIind support. Most feminists care about justice and they dont bIindIy defend women who are wrong, feminists are usually on the side if the victim regardless of gender. so these women who do bad things dont have support from the same type of sexist fanatics as guys who do something wrong. Basically, when a guy does something wrong, normal people condemn him but sexist MRAs and lnceIs defend him. But when a woman does something wrong, normal people condemn her AND the sexist MRAs also condemn her. Honestly a great example of this is the Johnny depo situation. Amber herd is obviously a horrible person, and literally EVERYONE is condemning her. This is because all the normal people AND the men's rights activits and lnceIs are condemning her. But if the roles were reversed (if a man did to a woman what amber did to johnny), you would have so many men's rights activist blaming the woman and saying that the guy is being faIseIy accused. And funny enough, you would get a ton of men saying "iF tHe RoLeS werE revRsEd no one would be supporting the guy". But as we can see from the massive support johnny has, thats false.

[@DwynTwo]

Seriously though! Also, when the roles are reversed, the red pill movement and even people outside of it hate on women much more I feel like. The bar to hating women is so low. Hell, Jenny from Forrest Gump is considered the villain of the story despite the fact that her behaviour was way more harmless than the behaviour of 90% of the male love interests in YA movies, who literally abuse their partner, cheat on their partner, gaslight them, yell at them, stalk them- but it's okay because they have childhood trauma.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

The psycho girlfriend is like the biggest trope out there... what are they even saying?

[@andrew3404]

The fact that "reversing roles" here makes it still fucked up just kinda validates that theory. If ur goal is to look at the world through a lense if complete egalitarianism, role reversal is a logical conclusion to find inequality. I think its unhealthy to do, but still logical if you subscribe to that.

[@jessday4712]

“By the way, never do that. It’s not a tech hack, it’s abusive behavior” 👏

[@noarms1171]

(late to the party here but) i find it extremely funny how he says "i created an AI based on the combined personalities of these characters" when it's not AI in the fucking slightest, it's just a movie quote bot plugged into tinder dms

[@MidnightFox2189]

This sounds like such a creepy and horrible situation, I feel bad for all the women involved

[@heatedrindo]

i feel bad for.. everyone who found out about him

[@wyatt-mv6pd]

The way this comment is written, there is no way you actually watched the video before commenting

[@AA-cf4es]

They could sue him, btw.

[@m0bz0mb38]

I'm never giving anyone my wifi password now😭😭😭 Unless it's Danny

[@m0bz0mb38]

@@wyatt-mv6pd Why do you say that?

[@TeamAPS]

People really love equating "kinda smart with tech" with "totally normal and not psychotic at all". 😔

[@wabbajocky8235]

Ayo team aps here

[@1nfiniti484]

Jarvis is also my favorite Yugituber. Glad to see we have things in common

[@FeeshUnofficial]

As someone going to college to study tech: we're all totally normal and not psychotic at all... totally

[@Nolshae]

pls dont use psychotic to mean evil people, its a disorder and making villains out of mentally ill people only makes it worse ^-^

[@sunrise.system]

@@Nolshae yeah, people are way too comfortable using mental disorders as insults if you ask me

[@eggymoon]

Most of what he does is straight up illegal... By having an account on a dating app you agree to a bunch of terms and services and there is probably one about infos having a personal use, but by showing them in a video (doxxing is illegal btw) he puts them to a public use, and it's illegal in most country I would love to see instragram or hinge lawyers see these videos

[@abzurdo]

also the huge copyright/trademark infringements of his fake live app

[@gabrielgarcia7554]

Depending on how he is hacking these apps they may not constitute a crime by the Computer Fraud and Abuse Act (within the US); they may violate the TOS as you mentioned however that is not a crime. At most they may be able to send a cease and desist to him and ban his external IP address/account/email but that may not be worth their time and he can circumvent this with VPN, proxies, new email/account, etc . Instagram is also notorious for allowing its platform be used in crimes; you can literally find drug marketplaces and money laundering operations in the open. Wired did a good article just this month (August 2023 for future readers) about how these accounts openly advertise their crimes by paying Instagram to advertise their criminal enterprise. Meta literally doesn’t care. Now for Hinge one of the things he did was swipe on all the profiles instantly; that may be a violation of their TOS however you can probably do this with Python and an application called Wire Shark. Wire Shark uses a method callled packet sniffing; basically it analyzes the TCP/IP packets you send to Hinge’s server. Based on certain actions you do in the app different packets are captured and analyzed. He probably found out what the “right swipe” packet looks like and created a Python script to send that packet to that server every 3 seconds until there weren’t any more matches. Since he can configure the app to the people he wants he can make those changes on the app side. Sending a packet automatically without being there to swipe and not to be used in a DDoS attack I do not think inherently constitutes a crime under the CFBA. It is still creepy as all hell what the fuck he is doing but this type of behavior is probably not illegal; it is what he does next I think that it could constitute a crime depending on the jurisdiction and what he does next.

[@Aly-ym9yi]

“Reconsider this, Queen” is one of my favorite quotes of all time

[@SfmGamer9]

Partner: "hey babe, I made a new account on insta" Other partner: "ok I'll follow ur new account and unfollow ur old account" Our dude: "HELL YA THEY BROKE UP"

[@SfmGamer9]

Dumb 2am joke:3

[@sachmassare3538]

on my way to start using "reconsider this, queen" as an official contrary of "go off queen". thank you jarvis.

[@kaemincha]

its a kind and gentle "that is not correct"

[@SomeStupidBastard]

Where's the harsh and chaotic version of "reconsider this, queen?"

[@sachmassare3538]

@@SomeStupidBastard go away queen ?

[@pokemonthatisdisappointedi9605]

@@SomeStupidBastard your opinion is absolutely incorrect and you shouldn't have said that, queen

[@dokibunni]

@@SomeStupidBastard hey queen!! what the fuck!!!!

[@eyeclipper]

I can't believe Jarvis didn't use this perfect occasion as an opportunity to show his comically large Computer Science degree

[@alexxpanda6412]

Right, I think he didn't want to flex too much haha

[@errortryagainlater4240]

The job description said "only a _small_ amount of experience", leading to Jarvis pulling out a comically large degree.

[@ryang9802]

@@errortryagainlater4240 said no tech job ever, unfortunately 😭 job postings for new software engineer grads be like “have 15+ years of experience working with swift”

[@OGimouse1]

I was hoping he was going to pull a John Oliver at the end lol

[@frosty_teacup]

@@ryang9802 now it's going to be "10+ years of experience in Carbon" even though it was just released last month 😭

[@shyguypro9876]

The decision to base his dating bot off of Patrick Bateman says a lot.

[@WickedKatze]

the sheer amount of like. disdain and bitterness you have to have toward women to think that developing an app to "expose" their "lies" about being soulmates is some kind of flex

[@Ellbat]

“Thank you” being taken as moving on has r/niceguys energy

[@charlx8979]

“A women breathed in my direction! SHE MUST BE FLIRTING WITH ME THE HARLOT!” The incel mentality vibes are strong with these dudes

[@jacobash5904]

@@charlx8979 Just look at her! She has her ankles out and all!

[@WildArtistsl]

​@@jacobash5904hide your shoulders it turns men on!

[@Zeu55]

@@jacobash5904Ankles? How scandalous!! She should be sent to the Tower of London!!

[@kait112]

To me, what this guy is doing just makes dating apps even more creepy and off-putting. It’s like catfishing to a whole new level

[@juliemadelyne4638]

This is women feel uncomfortable putting themselves out there

[@Error0101]

@@juliemadelyne4638 Doesn't everyone feel uncomfortable putting themselves out there? Dating apps mine away at your self-esteem bad. The amount of feedback you get quickly becomes your measure of your own value. At least for men. For women, I'd guess it's moreso about the quality of feedback? Am I onto anything? Maybe?

[@violence6628]

@@Error0101 no, its the fear of being victim to creepy/violent men

[@jakerockznoodles]

@@Error0101 Only if you let it. You and only you can determine your own value. If the app is "ruining your self esteem", you need to step back, get off the apps and learn to have a better relationship with yourself. I seem to find a lot of guys in particular tie way too much of their own value into external sources, and this is why we get stuff like nice guys & incels who blame women or other men or dating platforms or "modern society" for why they're miserable when it's them, it's all them. I'm not saying it's easy to put yourself out there or that rejection is nice, but way to many people have an unhealthy outlook on (and fear of) rejection.

[@genericname8727]

@@jakerockznoodles yeah, rejection is a normal part of the process of finding those who you are actually compatible with

[@fishainsley]

“Not to victim blame, but I don’t know that I would want to date someone who failed the Turing test” is the best line of all time

[@cordingdesert9566]

I wasted thousands of women's time and did the exact stuff I acuse other women of doing... I'm the good guy.

[@joelhicks4599]

This guy almost makes me embarrassed to be a computer science student. About five times I had to shout "THAT IS NOT (an app, a tech hack, a database, etc), THAT'S JUST (an overlay, a bot, a macro, etc) WITH EXTRA STEPS"

[@godfinger8016]

I see so many guys with that same mindset at my college, overblowing the programming feats they accomplish. The Dunning-Kruger effect really shines in the Computer Science industry lmao

[@resneptacle]

I'm also sure he alone reverse engineered several dating apps and literally grabbed a couple databases all neatly structured and in plain text. Yeah.

[@bingusenjoyer197]

to be fair to him, the worst thing he did was definitely admitting to stalking through their router, but goddamn that patrick bateman AI tiktok was fucking hilarious to watch. still creepy tho.

[@cloudshad0ws]

@@resneptacle yeah, he was able to do all of that, yet doesn't understand how to correctly use the microphone connected to his headphones

[@fuzzyotterpaws4395]

It IS an app. It would take a lot to do stuff like that. I don't know tech at all and any app on the store is an app. Duh.

[@SirValiantIII]

Hey Jarvis, not sure if the other comments have mentioned it, and I know you have a tech background too, but in many (maybe all?) states, it’s illegal to access a router or device like that without authorization. Sharing your wifi password is not authorization to access router settings, which is what you’d need to do to check if their device is connected. So it’s not just immoral, it’s *actually* illegal.

[@iniyama]

good to know in case I see his videos and want to report them

[@lykos832f5]

@@iniyama Pfft, as if tik tok’s moderators would actually take any action. They never do anything, look how it took them forever to deal with those videos of the guy shooting himself in the head. They were circulating for ages.

[@iniyama]

@@lykos832f5 sadly that's a good point and one of the reasons i stick to my "following" tab on all of these sites, i do *not* need to see shit like that

[@lykos832f5]

@@iniyama That’s a pretty wise decision. Sucks that the world has to be this way though.

[@ponykazy3725]

Gonna break the law to invade my gf's privacy to see if she leaves/invites people over 🤪

[@butoutofcontext]

I hate when people say "if it was a woman/man" like stop. Focus on the actual problem.

[@squirlis1189]

True that. If a woman did this it would still be just as gross

[@sadielappin8862]

im kind of obsessed with the idea of getting a message on a dating app that's just lines from the scene in American Psycho where everyone is having an intense conversation about business cards.

[@z.zomb.z]

This is a man who's internalized the toxic masculine requirement to distrust and hate women. Which hate sounds like a big word, but his need to validate his narratives around women is what fuels his videos. That narrative, puts women as the villain every time. Rage.

[@SwizzleDrizzl]

how is that a 'toxic masculine requirement'?? thats just being fucking mean and abusive, it doesn't need a label to imply that men somehow are drawn to be like that- also im a women so don't play the 'you're a man' card on me

[@kittencorp.3295]

Dude… that’s one HELL of a reach.

[@SwizzleDrizzl]

@@ismailabaza411 Personally i think its misogyny because he acts like women are super unfaithful or can't be independant

[@kittencorp.3295]

@@SwizzleDrizzl wasn’t there one example of this, right at that start, that wasn’t gender-specific?

[@releasethealbum6190]

@@ismailabaza411 I'm not sure either but in most of his videos, all he does is encourage his fans to harass women or strippers, and usually projects his problems and insecurity to women. I guess that has something to do with that

[@anna-pn8jv]

the type of guy who thinks girls dont like him bc hes a nerd and not bc of... all of this

[@zammymynakersnackstbmoth]

SERIOUSLY!!

[@GalaxyDogenut]

Nerds are hot. Stalkers are not.

[@kobrilakkuma]

him: "I like your work" his victim: "thank you :)" him: she wants me so fuckin bad

[@yammytho]

This guy basically just invented lying with extra steps. I can see the appeal of maybe pranking people into thinking you have a ton of followers, but benefitting from it is gross.

[@Unlimited_Powah]

*YOOO DANNY DEVITO!!! I DIDNT KNOW YOU LIKE JARVIS TO!!* ps. I have a body pillow of you that i kiss everyday... Now put your signature on my eyelid

[@gerbenrasing]

Can we stop linking tech abilities with being smart. Being good at tech means you are smart within the world of tech. It doesn't mean you can name every country on the world map. Him calling himself 'big brain' mostly just makes him look shallow, which he is.

[@creepersonspeed5490]

also good at tech != well-intentioned or ethical

@@creepersonspeed5490 the != was a cute reference to code

[@michellel9739]

I actually prefer that shallow people out themselves right away so I can run away.

[@patiencewallace8453]

Idk if naming every country on the world map makes you smart either… there’s no purpose to do *so. Being good in tech is considered “smart” because it’s incredibly useful and it requires skill; not everyone is overly skilled in tech

[@slonmish]

@@patiencewallace8453 a counter argument for the argument’s sake

[@dimike96]

How does someone not see web scraping to get push notifications for breakups as one of the saddest things you could do with your time. Thanks for the great video Jarvis!

[@macandfries6765]

He made it to see how many people who said they were soulmates under a sound were still together after 6 months

[@mandark1727]

@@macandfries6765 yeah we watched the video dude. The decision to make it was sad, bitter, exploitative, and creepy lol.

[@ggundercover3681]

@@mandark1727 and it's also like obvious. like he discovered something I knew. not that hard to know most "soulmates" aren't soulmates but people being happy in the moment. also his evidence of them moving on was just replying to a simple comment. literal desperate sad guy trying to find validation to think that was moving on

[@TheVivaciousNerd]

@@macandfries6765 Yeah, that's really fucking pathetic

[@Purplesquigglystripe]

It is interesting to see how long those couples tend stay together, but yeah, it’s weird to want all those couples to break up or to act like you’re trying to prove some sort of point.

[@ilonachan]

Ever heard the term "ethical hacking?" ...I can tell you this guy hasn't. These awful people are just constantly out there giving us tech ppl a bad name, in EVERYTHING, it's not even funny anymore.

[@M___888]

Tech bro:“You’re cheating, I saw another device connected to the Wi-Fi!” Girl:”I turned on my iPad, thanks for letting me know you’re a creep. BLOCKED.”

[@Soladat]

This guy is literally stalking people- confessing to (bragging, even!) and showing other people how to do it. How is this shit allowed on tiktok but god forbid you say "kill" or "bitch"

[@ravenpotter3]

Or say words my diagnosis “autism”… I’ve been flagged for that before once

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

China and America are the same lmao

[@adamisgreatfightme]

My sister got banned from TikTok for saying the word lesbian... JUST THE WORD

[@anthonylindsay6470]

Its TikTok the app is famous for creators spreading false information constantly the whole app itself radiates stupidity

[@ithoughtiwascishet1316]

@@adamisgreatfightme god forbid a woman not be attracted to this lovely, totally-not-creepy, outstandingly normal tech bro!

[@peylavv]

its so gross how he knows he’s being creepy and toxic but just doesn’t care

[@consentclub8431]

It's kind of surreal to see someone embrace the creepiness.

[@ranjanbiswas3233]

He has money.

[@KandixKoatedxBatz]

this man is one slight inconvience away from keeping someone in his basement and eating their limbs for fun

[@Edgeworth99]

Unsurprised that this guy doesn't actually understand American Psycho. The entire point of the movie and novel was that Patrick Bateman was seen as a generic loser by other people, and he had such a hard time standing out in the sea of 1980s yuppie culture that he was frequently mistaken for other people and could literally confess to murder and nobody would believe him, because they wouldn't think that the most boring guy on wall street could be a serial killer. He even says that, even if you were to hold his hand and feel flesh, there was absolutely nothing there.

[@zatharos6427]

Theres no fucking way his “audience” aren’t just bots

[@Top-Code]

He made an app for it!

[@xanderguyer7512]

It's great to imagine that he thinks he's playing 4D chess, but he's just showing his video to a bunch of bots he made.

[@lawrencelopez9839]

he attracts young impressionable teens and incels with a hollywood hacker aesthetic. Basically delusional and vulnerable people.

[@Pharoah2]

@@xanderguyer7512 tbf, botting views to get into the algorithm and then gain real followers is a pretty solid strategy that has been used by many creators for years

[@wayln2591]

No. His and many other misogynist males have huge audience that is males who believes in what they say . This is why you avoid males in general. They are toxic asf

[@coco604]

The fact that this guy’s brain went from “cool, I spent the night at my gf’s house” to “wait, she said she’s “staying in”?! I have to digitally stalk her to make sure she’s not hanging w/ friends or having any contact with the outside world” is terrifying.

[@redpietheythem]

not even gf, just a random girl he stayed over with.

[@zubetp]

yeah guess i can't go to the grocery store or have a friend bring me wendy's when i said i was staying in for the night lmao. reminds me of when i was a child and stayed home sick, and any attempts to get up and play a video game or whatever was evidence i had faked being sick. only in this case i'm a grown-ass person with my own home lmao

[@adnamafett7862]

You just know that if the tiktoker he dmed said something like “hey thanks, but I just got out of a relationship and I don’t want to flirt” then it would be “WOW SHE THINKS SHES SOOO HOT THAT A SIMPLE COMPLIMENT IS FLIRTING TO HER”

[@aleeyaderlatka7159]

My dad did almost all of these things to keep an eye on me. When I came out, he lost his absolute mind and could see where I was, what apps I had, what/who I was texting (he could see entire conversations), would check the router for “other” phones (I’d get trap phones), could see when a window was opened in the house, had cameras inside and outside, and the list just keeps going lmfao. I understand wanting to make sure your kid isn’t doing weird shit on their phones n shit but I was in a literal prison where if I wasnt acting like a straight Christian woman in the real world and within my phone then I was punished.

[@NickolasBickle]

This situation litterly warrants child protective services.

[@maddies144]

Talk to a woman? No. Program a serial killers personality into an AI to use dating apps for you? Hell yeah.

[@ghostyon3399]

The funny thing about Bateman is that you could easily interpret his character as not actually being a serial killer himself, just a pathetic guy who is constantly imagining that he is and suffering from delusions of grandeur

[@errortryagainlater4240]

Yep, even in the book he's an unreliable narrator who contradicts himself a lot. There's even a theory that Patrick isn't real, he's an imagined concept made of all the other character's fears. It's kinda left up to you to decide how 'real' he is.

[@kjaxthegrate]

@@errortryagainlater4240 I believe the author actually confirmed that the character of Bateman was only imagining the gruesome murders as a way to deal with the frustrations and anger he feels.

[@bingusenjoyer197]

to be fair to this guy, that patrick bateman AI tiktok was fucking hilarious to watch, especially considering the fact that hes definitely not being serious or actually using these things to get dates, it’s sorta like michael reeves type of content, just a little more messed up, but also hilarious.

[@tabula.rasa.]

It's a valid interpretation but I feel like it sort of undermines the social commentary of the movie. I like the idea that Bateman is so trapped by his own birth privilege that no matter what awful, depraved deed he commits, he will never be held accountable for it, and as a result nothing he ever does or will do changes anything about his life at all.

[@jdm1993]

you are so classy about this it's almost painful because this guy is so sad and it's almost frustrating to see someone treat that with kid gloves. this guy is making the pick-up artists seem cool and likeable by comparison. like good lord at least Mystery hat guy had some pizzazz.

[@tebbydear90]

"facts don't care about your feelings, Marie" "uhhh" "I have a graph" 😂😂 why is that so funny

[@chandlerisboring]

creating a whole app just to figure out if random couples you see on tik tok are still together …. that’s . unhinged

[@chandlerisboring]

@@aniadraws i didn’t even think about that. its even more deranged somehow

[@Jessica-wr4zu]

"Tell me you're bitter without telling me you're bitter" That's just... a wild thing to even .... want to track?

[@whuuuut2035]

That first "hack" is SUPER illegal. Cyber stalking, breaking privacy laws, low level "hacking," and breaking several trust and terms of service of the device of the victim and the devices he uses to "hack".

[@minananananan1842]

We need more ethic and sociology classes in engineering degrees because the way they operate is so whack

[@matrixodlum4969]

“reconsider this, queen” is golden i’m gonna start commenting that on everything

[@biguattipoptropica]

This entire video is gold, this is the most I've laughed on a video since the last Jarvis Johnson video. "I have a graph!" "How... How did you know that?" have ended my life, please donate me to science then bury me with my phone.

[@Yami-pu6it]

Women will literally go to therapy before training an AI to quote an early 2000s movie serial killer to decive potential partners

[@Jellyfish146]

3:11 feels like what your teacher says before you leave for a field trip

[@sugar_.official4551]

14:49 bro got a adopt me chat as comments 💀😭

[@salem-01]

LMFAO

[@cherricandy]

You’ve gotta love how both guys he chose to base the AI off are: a serial killer and a sociopath who kills dozens of people in every movie he’s in. Ah yes, the ideal man, the one with absolutely no morals who’s willing to kill people without batting an eye! So dreamy!

[@BearlyAwake13]

For real, Patrick Bateman in particular feels like a self report tbh

[@tdelioncourt1268]

because Nice Guys finish last/s

[@despres380]

murderer = alpha i guess

[@darkyoumemento5307]

You say that, but tons of women are sexually with serial killers

[@neoqwerty]

@@askinredroads5132 Maybe the women who write to serial killer inmates, but I'm pretty sure being attracted to murderers is classified as a legit paraphilia

[@solarmoth4628]

The two male characters he based his AI bot off of are definitely known for treating women well. They are kong’s with zero toxic masculinity that every man should seek to emulate when dating /s

[@crabulonbestgirl9130]

I could get James bond if he hasnt watched a bond movie but. Patrick fucking bateman???? Did we watch the same movie????? Thats like trying to appeal to trans people and getting jk rowling

[@marksmidt8225]

For a second I thought he had gained self awareness and was doing Patrick Bateman for a joke but it legitimately looks like he isn’t 😭

[@jamul_cos]

Kongs

[@Funcijej]

@@jamul_cos yeah my dog loves kongs

[@mags-lv8hb]

You dropped this, kong 🦍

[@alli97253]

I’m just bummed that he has the skills and creativity to be doing some cool shit but instead he chose to use his powers for evil

[@elliieebit]

Tracking a person's router gives the same energy as when my abuser used to track my car miles and hide cameras in my house.

[@EduardoMartinez-rs3bu]

This is all terrible but it's also incredibly impressive He ain't being toxic he's radioactive

[@Clemenbee]

he was bit by some radioactive code, that's how he became this way

[@EduardoMartinez-rs3bu]

@@Clemenbee makes sense to me

[@elen5871]

dang now I gotta imagine all these dragons 😭

[@takeyiatwitty2216]

@@elen5871 Welcome to the new age...I guess.

[@thequeenofcringe1585]

Like if Chernobyl was a person

[@4nn4h]

I think assuming that a couple broke up because they're not following each other on social media is a bit of a reach. It definitely won't be true every time, and would introduce a margin of error I'd consider unacceptable. The whole thing is also just fucking gross lol

[@D_YellowMadness]

Yeah, one of 'em might've just gotten a new profile so their partner stopped following the old one. Or maybe they stopped following because notifications about a person they're already with all the time became redundant. Or maybe one of 'em stopped using the site entirely.

[@errortryagainlater4240]

I never interact with my boyfriend's facebook account because I haven't used that site in 4 years, I guess that means we don't love each other anymore 😔😭

[@aikotitilai3820]

Yeah like only someone who spend too much time on social media would thing that not following your SO on Insta means that you broke up with them

[@monicarenee7949]

My husband and I unfollowed each other when we were still dating. His social media accounts were more focused on his business, which I supported in real life and even served as an assistant. We were even still not following each other when we got married lol. I didn’t even tag him in pictures if I posted them online. People are so weird.

[@jlayne6205]

This is so gross and so terrifying. That is downright stalking. And him giving this information wholesale to incels on the internet is going to get women killed.

[@Schylove12]

For such a big brain nerd he used “your” instead of “you’re” at 8:27 “…until *you’re* 60”

[@axolotlsareverycool]

Your is actually correct in that context. It expresses your possession of something, whereas you’re is the conjunction of the words you and are

[@Schylove12]

@@axolotlsareverycool the conjunction is needed because he is saying “until you are 60”. The possessive your is correct earlier in the sentence when he says “your soulmate”.

[@axolotlsareverycool]

@@Schylove12 yeah I realized that earlier like an hour after I posted my reply, I felt so dumb lol

[@salem-01]

I mean, a lot of people are really good at tech and stuff and awful at spelling and grammar.

[@jenicafetters4245]

These dudes really need to stop HUNTING women. It’s creepy and no one likes it.

[@neoqwerty]

It's not only creepy to women, but it also makes women more scared of more well-adjusted men, too. More of us dudes need to call this shit out, instead of turning full manosphere raging misogynybro because women feel unsafe around men when men act like predators and other guys don't speak out about it.

[@caithenry8429]

Not only was American Psycho a horror film, it's also a book! One that is so graphic that the film is essentially the kid's version. I was able to make it through Requiem for a Dream, could not read all of American Psycho it was so brutal. So this dude purposely emulating Patrick Bateman is truly horrifying and I worry for the safety of everyone who works with or lives near him.

[@FirstLast-fl1co]

holy shit, show idea. Every one of these famous tiktok fragile masculine men get on a reality show where all of them try to act like patrick bateman but they're all on the same set and none were told about the others coming nor were giving a script and nobody replies to them when they ask about it.

[@errortryagainlater4240]

Yes, the murders in the book are _brutal._ It also requires the reader to think for themselves a bit due to Patrick being an unreliable narrator, so 100% above this dude's reading level lmao.

[@caithenry8429]

@@errortryagainlater4240 I started the book as a summer read like a moron and it took months for me to finish it. It got to the point where any section named after a woman I skipped

[@walmartbrandrapunzel3957]

the book isn't so bad, i read it when i was 14 and enjoyed it. definitely worth finishing :D

[@PeachysMom]

@@walmartbrandrapunzel3957 same, it’s a witty and clever book.

[@mar-nyan]

when i first watched that tiktok about “soulmates” breaking up i totally misread it as the dude just poking fun at how unstable most of the relationships people post on social media are. then i took a closer look at his content and yup, he’s definitely a creep. great video, i really appreciate men who call out other men’s toxic behavior

[@GD-sf5ze]

"Reconsider this, Queen" is my favorite quote of all time

[@lisapink1997]

I study CS rn and I have to sadly say that especially in acedemic settings the amounts of this certain type of douchebag is shocking. As a girl in a 70-80% guy study I met the wildest guys who were so full of themselves that they belittled me or other people. I particular dating story stands out where I went on a pizza date in a really nice Italian restaurant. He repeatedly said that I talk too much, made fun of me for being "not as fast/good in the courses" as him and after we were done he was like: "okay now for a nice walk" We payed (split because I want to pay for myself) and went for a walk. After like 10min he asked me "why do you follow me? You don't live here, but over there" Ah yes and he then wrote me a message where he said that he really liked our date and wanted me to come over for Netflix and wine. DUDE Oh and he for real called me "my lady" once but in a belittling way for making fun of me not passing the course. I whish that that was just a singular experience. One guy was a huge homophobe and me having 3 gay friends it's a no-go. (It would be a no-go either way lol)The other was just a mayor creep always wanting to hang out with him in his home for drinks and on and on and on... I met really really nice people too though, but I have to say I am now more focused on finishing and my mental health than a relationships.

[@savagecatgt]

Wow what horrible experiences. I'm glad you got away from those creeps.

[@neoqwerty]

As a dude who's self-teaching tech stuff (nothing big, just game modding stuff and CSS because I like web design), I am SO sorry you met a Soup Can Puzzle Logic guys like that. Glad that they're not all like those three in your class!

[@GalaxyDogenut]

@@neoqwerty ayy, that’s an insult to soup. I love soup. :p

[@justayeet5905]

Aye yo I’m a spot late but good on you homie!!! Men are wack a lot. Ima be honest I’m asexual so I don’t really be lookin for dudes but I’m pretty involved in my city’s fire department as a cadet/trainee kinda person. It’s pretty funky being the only woman in. A 15 mile radius tbh. There’s always gonna be guys out there who think you’re not as “worthy” as them or whatever but honestly, you’re already better than them just by not being an absolute ass. Good luck with all your classes man you got this!!

[@Kushagra.j]

Maybe it's his preference to not have Homosexuals as his friends? Why are you judging him ma'am?

[@pineconequeen6691]

Imagine how the “WiFi router hack” could be used in a case of domestic abuse or stalking. Imagine how bad it is to use this because you don’t trust your partner, and have them find out, or just live with the fact you stalk someone that you’re supposed to trust the most.

[@ethanhobbs7278]

10:55 I don’t know why you’re asking me but it looks like you’ve got enough context to me. Thanks for asking.

[@alanbalsan]

And my college friends thought that ethics class in an IT career was dumb.

[@gorilla-grip-pussy-support7976]

This is illegal, if I were any of the women involved I would be pressing charged to atleast scaring him out of doing this stalking again. Because that’s what it is, stalking. There’s tech for everything, doesn’t make it legal or morally correct.

[@bennystrong5254]

Thanks gorilla grip pussy support for keeping the world happy.

[@Filbie]

The last bit is COMPLETELY unethical… He’s subjecting these people to an experiment without being aware.

[@TheVivaciousNerd]

Dude all of it is unethical, he literally stalks the women he dates 🤢

[@consentclub8431]

And cyberstalking isn't??

[@ri907]

That "Nice!" at 7:50 about the push notification thing was hilarious & I started to snort laugh bc it caught me off guard. ALSO it's reminiscence of the Wii Sports Resorts, "Nice Shot!" in their golf game announcement.

[@peachtea1318]

Dating apps are difficult, I get it. I’ve had bad experiences on dating apps before but I also met my partner on a dating app. It will take time but at the end of the day being genuine is going to get you way farther than trying to roleplay your way into getting a date.

[@JinStreams]

Also dating apps are super bad for your mental health, it boils dating down to a numbers game that has (probably directly) contributed to the recent wave of incels

[@xanderguyer7512]

Maybe he should try "social engineering" some friends by going outside and being kind to others

[@manslaughter3180]

The fact that this man uses his skills and knowledge to be edgy, spiteful and stalk people online is the lowest of the low. Bro, you could...you could do so many helpful things, why are you making someone else's relationships your business??

[@charlx8979]

Could he actually do helpful things? Its not like what he’s doing is very hard… these aren’t super high tech level skills, just moderate ones He probably couldn’t get a job doing anything actually good for the world because he’s mid skilled loser, and he’s insecure about that so he goes full creeplord to compensate

[@roxassora2706]

Not only that but he said paganism isn't real.

[@ClownHoundII]

​@@roxassora2706I guess I'll just disappear since my religion ain't real. Lmao. 😂

[@roxassora2706]

@@ClownHoundII I'm with ya

[@alexandriageiler687]

Lmaoo he could've struck gold by having the dating app quote Mr Darcy from Pride and Prejudice or literally just any other character than Patrick Bateman 😂

[@eliaslittle7362]

You making yourself laugh at 15:38 literally made my day lmao

[@rachelplummer8955]

Jarvis I always admire your commitment to being fair, but I honestly think you're giving this guy and those who applaud him a bit too much credit when you suggest they're doing these things because 'dating is hard and they want to find love'. Feels more like some kind of power play, 'revenge' on women (as a monolith) who they feel are rejecting them.

[@pythondrink]

Or maybe dude enjoys being a villain? I feel like y'all over analyzing.

[@ItsActuallyKate]

@@pythondrink why are you under everyones comments defending this man lmao

[@pythondrink]

@@ItsActuallyKate first of all, I only made two comments so I don't think I'm "under everyone's comments". And I'm not defending him. I'm simply applying common sense. You may find him weird and disturbing but to assert that he's an abuser based off of those videos is just extremely stupid. Moreover this video is misleading. I was able to see things for myself after I watched the guy's TikToks. If you don't understand, that's on you.

[@AA-cf4es]

@@pythondrink you could just write "i am a man bla bla bla". Obv you don't understand and it's not your place to speak.

[@sarasaeed6349]

@@pythondrink you’re an incel of course you agree with him

[@jissi1184]

This type of behavior should be checked and avoided not use it to your partner because you're so insecure 🤖

[@ggundercover3681]

honestly videos like these are perfect for vetting your partner or potential partner and even friend group. show it to them and see how seriously they respond. make sure. you get a proper response, not a joke to make sure their intentions. it's amazing how easily people give themselves away. just take a mental note and get them out your life cuz it's a red flag if they are ok with it. I rather have no friends than potential creeps

[@JoaoVitor-ge4le]

The "app that makes you look famous" bit is hilarious because he literally made a TikTok filter and is talking about like it's the second coming of Jesus Christ

[@maggie5633]

“Haha you fell for me using murderer quotes… LETS GET MARRIED.”

[@Relaxinghypnoasmr]

I’m so glad I’m a woman. It must be so awful to have no purpose in life but trying to “get girls,” and “win” at hooking up. That seems like such a depressing existence, and I am seeing a lot of men seeming to give up in life just because they can’t get the girl.

[@stephanief5794]

literally i love having hobbies and self-confidence

[@LeBatteur]

To be fair, these bridge trolls are doing it to themselves by being the actual worst.

[@asmbeats5369]

I can just feel that passive aggressiveness reeking from your comment.

[@ithoughtiwascishet1316]

@@askinredroads5132 i feel like that's more common for guys to do then girls though?? unless you're seeing something i don't

[@neoqwerty]

@@askinredroads5132 The people who do that are people to run away from REALLY REALLY FAST. Like, it's okay to say you think Z actor is hot or Y character's sexy... But when someone's just rating someone on datability or feckability, RUN!!!!

[@SoniasWay]

I’m glad people are calling this out. This is such an abuser energy

[@pythondrink]

I mean, he's weird asl. But to call him an abuser? 💀 I can understand why someone would find that fun. Feels like a movie lol.

[@piersondenbeau6325]

@@pythondrink lmao wtf, he lied, manipulated and stalks strangers and his significant others. Abuse isn’t just physical

[@pythondrink]

@@piersondenbeau6325 the irony of you talking about his significant others. You don't even know them . Now explain to me how lied, manipulated and stalked ppl. Genuinely asking lol.

[@piersondenbeau6325]

@@pythondrink ah gotcha see I would talk about how monitoring someone’s internet traffic to see if they’re home or cheating is stalking and abusive (abusing the trust you were handed being given their wifi password) but you’re obviously a close friend so I’ll defer to you. Do you think he just came up with that out of thin air? No one I know would come up with that as “content.” That just looks like someone utilizing their toxic, abusive behavior as a content machine with a ✨hint✨ of software engineering (just lazy hacking and app dev but whatev). If someone is constantly demonizing women and perpetuating the toxic trait of not trusting them for adultery then I doubt they’re keeping it contained from their significant others, sooo ya. I’m curious, why you shilling so hard for this tool? Was it his humor? Do you find this entertaining? I get differences in humor, but wow, you’re really dying on the monotone-manipulative-stalker-engineer-tik-tok-creator hill? He’s not even doing anything interesting in the world of software. Low level data scraping and single screen apps is about as bottom of the barrel as it gets.

[@user-eg3tb3kn7p]

@@piersondenbeau6325 immaculate feminist take

[@theyquixoty]

the joke at 12:48 provoked the BIGGEST laugh ive had all week. amazing delivery

[@PretentiousYogi]

Seeing nefarious stuff like this makes me feel fortunate to have met my wife thru a mutual friend. We were both just tagging along with our respective friends - out to dinner and drinks. We met in person, vibed about books, movies and hobbies. Now we’ve got 2 kids. I feel like our origin is so unique here in the digital age. It’s like I found my soulmate 💀

[@sylviebird]

I was in a really bad friendship with this guy I had known for 10 years when he ditched me for a girl he met during quarantine. When I saw the video at first I thought it was a impressive cool thing to track couples saying they're soulmates. Now I'm in a better place and watching it makes me feel sick. Literally I only thought it was good because I was hurt myself. If you agree with him doing that you have to understand that you are jealous and hurt too.

[@ggundercover3681]

the nice thing is you can self-reflect and understand you were wrong. the problem is these people will never see how gross and wrong it is. ever.

[@sylviebird]

@@ggundercover3681 thank you! I agree. People who don't want to better themselves can't and won't. It's honestly depressing

[@suubisuubi]

@@ggundercover3681 I mean, didn't OP's story directly contradict that notion? They said they once thought it was cool and impressive, because they were in a bad place at the time, but have grown since then. The takeaway for me is that people who are like this have growing to do. Doesn't mean they WILL grow, but it doesn't mean they won't, either.

[@emstink]

@@suubisuubi I think the issue is that OPs situation was caused by external sources, once that external source went away, they had the space to do some introspection and grow. It wasn't necessarily a lack of emotional intelligence. These people's situations seem to be internal, which means the source of the problem won't go away. They also probably lack the emotional intelligence to realise their behaviour is harmful to both themselves and other people. Of course, these people _could_ get better, but there's no incentive, no real trigger. Especially since they're living in echo chambers.

[@sylviebird]

@@emstink I wish the best for everyone! I hope these people are going through something but it does seem like they have blinders on to their behavior. So I genuinely think everyone CAN grow but without self reflection and seeing what they're doing is more than messed up I don't think they will! :) Thank you guys for being so sweet.

[@000maddie]

this is what happens when stem majors don’t have to take ethics classes

[@queencleopatra007]

Are ethics classes not required in every major? I studied CS and I took an ethics class

[@consentclub8431]

Painfully accurate

[@yaboicolleen]

this reminds me of when at my first college the professors in the business department got really mad that the course on business ethics was offered as a philosophy class instead of a business class, bc it meant that it would be taught by **gasp** a philosophy professor?

[@orion10x10]

“That’s not FBI level 1000 it’s creepy and abuse” that’s actually what makes it FBI level 1000 😂😂😂😂

[@THEmermaidghost]

Adding “reconsider, queen” to my daily vocabulary