Who's getting married first? 🌹 [4 Bros have Marriage Talk]

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[@JBRODUCTION]

Feeling better starts with a single message! Get $100 off with code JBRO : bit.ly/3yD01PX Let us know your thoughts on MARRIAGE. such a fascinating topic that everyone has an opinion on.. are you looking forward to getting married? are you married ? . PS. we are taking a flight out to Los Angeles in 9 hours. SO EXCITED. Stay tuned for very serious vlogs in California. ❤️❤️ LOVE, JBRO

[@aha_Sai_Ra]

Early start to Memorial Day weekend vacation, I see!! But knowing the JBro it will be a "working", *Super Productive* holiday/LA trip, of course!! 😎

[@tatacathrina.9120]

Marriage is a very big leap for me but very exciting too, it's like a glorified pinnacle that's true and I definitely feel like I have won something when I decide to get married, because I know, that's what I want and that's what I choose and that's the peak of my happiness when I can live together with the man I love, it doesn't mean without obstacles, but with love, I think all problems can be overcome, marriage is not easy but if both of them want to try and have the same perception and taste, I think marriage will remain stable and lasting until the end of time.

[@seljiang]

Can you guys please come to Ktown? 🥺 I want to see you guys!

[@ExoBau]

I’m 31 not married. Marriage for me is not a must thing to happen, although I believe you should marry the one that you know will be with you the rest of your life, that one man that you can see together holding hands even in your 80s. I used to keep looking for the person who I was gonna get “married” to but one day I decided that maybe is not gonna happen to me or maybe it will be later years so I stopped worrying about it. I know I want to be a mom one day and of course I want a father for my kids, but it’s not something that takes away my sleep at night.

[@kaifianaaz9986]

@@ExoBau wow u spoke my mind and trust me You spoke for almost all the girls around regardless of the age. It has to be a partnership and not a burden. A space and not suffocation.

[@EvaMariposa]

That screaming kid in the back had the perfect timing to help them decide not to have kids 😂

[@JBRODUCTION]

John is used to crying kids so he will get married first..

[@EvaMariposa]

@@JBRODUCTION lol yes, i'm sure his selective hearing is in top shape 😂

[@dixieeillen]

Have dogs instead 😉😁

[@jia03130]

😂

[@upthedown1]

Haha crying babies and loaded diapers🙄

[@NoH2O4U]

Life is rough, marry someone who makes you laugh.

[@leirabetances4553]

I disagree a little i think is good is that person make you laugh but I think the best is if they don't make you cry. Because is she/he make you laugh only because they make you cry is not worth it. But I understand what you think. 😁

[@NoH2O4U]

@@leirabetances4553 The most tragic life stories are held by comedians because laughter turns sadness into hope. Every human being on earth has caused someone to cry. Every human being has found solace in being able to laugh. I wish world peace, end to hunger but most of all the feeling of a hug for all.

[@Mayalalala11]

Your cmt hits me :(((

[@chanmi.j]

A friend once told me that "the one" isn't a specific person that you wait your life to find, it's the person you CHOOSE to pursue, fight for, and love.

[@sarahkimchan550]

When over the years someone has seen you at your worst, and knows you with all your strengths and flaws, yet commits him- or herself to you wholly, it is a consummate experience. To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. -Tim Keller. This is what marriage is to me. Striving every single day to receive and give this kind of love.

[@axbeta0079]

Beautiful and true words.

[@benp3485]

I love this quotation, are you single Sarah?

[@eriannegutierrez3661]

As someone who’s single and spends majority of her time studying medicine, I am actually seeing myself in the future as the single aunt who loves to spoil her future nieces and nephews 😂

[@mevans3291]

It's not my first choice and I wish I could getting married but I think you and I will be in the same situation

[@thepassionatereader839]

Exactly

[@sandrak4032]

Same, but to be honest I actually want to focus on my career!

[@arshpreetkaur9]

@@sandrak4032 me too.

[@safiaahmed724]

I have a friend who fits your description. She is the single aunt who loves her nieces and nephews. Her siblings have their own lives and she is the ones who had taken care of her parents until one just recently passed away and was left to concentrate on the surviving parent. She’s very alone since her nieces and nephews have their own lives too. She often wishes she had pursued relationships instead of concentrating on her career.

[@pumpkincitygirl1682]

So nice to hear ya'll talking about this...John almost fainting when his turn came to speak was hilarious 😂🤣

[@JBRODUCTION]

Marriage is not his forte😍

[@pumpkincitygirl1682]

@@JBRODUCTION we never know he could be the first one amongst you all😷🤣🤣

[@OlyaZakharova208]

Almost fainting is hilarious 😅

[@mitchi9677]

Me and my boyfriend are in our mid 30's and have been in a relationship for almost 7 years and only last year we talked seriously about getting married. You see, we are both independent and bless with having amazing jobs, financially stable and bought our own house individually. In the end, we have the same goal of having a family, kids and to be able to provide for our future. Guys, don't get pressured when your close friends settling down with marriage. Stay focus on your goal. Finding the right partner may take some time but it will be worth it when you find the right one. Cheers and all the best.

[@dragonboy718]

perfectly said...plus, there is nothing like good friends (bros) to hang out with , which will drastically decrease if you become married

[@roseannerandoy1840]

I want to keep in mind your last sentences. At my age now I am quite anxious as I see my friends being in a relationship. But I still believe that God has something for me. I just need to hold on and pursue my goals. 👍 Fighting

[@pkay2227]

I used to think that getting accepted to medical school (insert goal of choice - dental school, pharmd, finishing PhD, etc) was the pinnacle of my education. Little did I know that that was only the beginning of a very long journey. Marriage is hardly the pinnacle of a relationship. It is truly only the beginning of a long journey.

[@CutiePie-jg6oy]

Its a long journey...even after finished residency and became a consultant...

[@jadew8018]

I actually agree with Jason on discussing serious future stuff during the bf/gf stage. And to kinda give you two different perspectives on marriage from a convo I had with my ex. Some people like myself (romantics) view marriage as being with your best friend every day and learning to love and grow together but with that comes sacrificing time, energy, and money to give as much as you can to this person. The other side, my ex's viewpoint, was that he felt that he'd never get married because he couldn't love someone more than he loved himself and he wasn't willing to care for someone who needed to be cared for if it was something that was a lifelong illness or challenging issue (like for example if you had a child who had developmental issues or if his wife got into a bad accident )(his words). There does need to be an element of respect and trust that if you don't reach it mixed with not talking about how you'd raise kids or how you would react to random stressors (loss of a job, getting in an accident, loss of a family member, financials) you can blindly jump into something that later down the line you might resent the other person for or your different opinions might make living together very taxing. A lot of people get divorced over financial issues, wanting/ not wanting kids, and not spending enough quality time together. But that's also why a lot of people will marry others in the same profession or similar profession as them or similar schedules to help with that whole schedule thing. I could write more but definitely think about taking a class on marriage from a licensed marriage therapist even if you're single it really changes your perspective on everything.

[@tatacathrina.9120]

I know what Jason means, that the person who was his girlfriend might change when she becomes his wife and Jason is scared that his love will fade away once he finds out that his outlook and mindset is very different from his wife's, well that's why Jason, when we go out with someone, or dating her, we do not just have fun or eat at a restaurant, but when we approach and date someone, it's good that we discuss a lot of things with her, including ur personal problems or etc, so we know the mindset and future goals of marrying her... Similarity of goals and mindsets is very important when we all getting married, so we must discuss it before marriage, so that we know what the desires are and the purpose for u and ur patner to live together and make a commitment 😁

[@JBRODUCTION]

The wisdom in this comment though 👏👏👏 As a "married" bro couple, we approve this msg

[@tatacathrina.9120]

@@JBRODUCTION 😅😅😅I'm honored 😁 and I know I look "pro" in this situation, but this is actually a normal thing, because if we want to get to know someone "deeper" of course we can't just have fun all the time, the quality of the conversation is important here, and both parties must know what they want, how their future lives and what their goals are, because equating vision, mission and goals in marriage is not easy, it is as difficult as combining the views of investors with clients and how much the broker should get from clients 😅😆

[@neycongjuico7395]

This! Communication is very important. It’s something that was so lacking in my own asian experience and I saw that reflected in my parents and in my own upbringing. And everyone communicates differently, so even that needs to be compatible with your partner. Or at the very least, take time in the relationship to understand how the other communicates, as it is often the lifeline of a relationship.

[@northmann5837]

Marriage is not for the weak, the selfish, the insecure.

[@yoda1mama4]

Amen to that! There is no marriage that is PERFECT…❤️ But there’s 2 imPERFECT people that decided to LOVE & RESPECT each other, and make that commitment. May GOD help you find that imPERFECT person that you can do LIFE with❤️

[@onyxmistique]

I’d like to share with you guys my fave quote: “A true relationship is about two imperfect people coming together and not giving up on each other”. I am just 6 months into my marriage and have learnt so much in just these couple of months, and me and my partner’s love for each other has deepened even more (Beyond our 7 years of dating 😳). Prioritising your half and knowing he/she has got your back all the time (in fact a lifetime), it’s a beautiful thing. 😊

[@Lyssie710]

“I don’t know about marriage...let’s talk about bachelor parties.😏” Me: Envisioning them dancing in the bathroom mirror again 😁

[@herbertchin3171]

Just booked a dental appointment for my 5 years old and I was thinking if we live in NY, I will take her to John 😀😀 love to watch your videos. But, from my own experience, the more you analyze about marriage, the more difficult to enter one. Listen to your friend, just go with flow. 😉 good luck! You will find one eventually.

[@JBRODUCTION]

Senor Chen and Senor Chin = wisdom

[@gwillis01]

Marriage has a huge effect on every single part of your life. It is either the best feature of your life or the worst feature of your life. An appropriate partner makes your life blissful and calm. An inappropriate partner makes you feel empty, sad and even more lonely than if you were living alone on purpose.

[@fromaudreykao]

tbh being a dad seems like john's calling!!!

[@JBRODUCTION]

That's why he is papa john~

[@graceyfreeman2502]

That's why he's in pediatric dentistry

[@thaethazin8490]

Marriage isn't just about two people in love getting together. I can't speak for all but as a woman in her late 20s, I have started thinking about marriage and kids. I don't necessarily want a kid as I am still in the early stage of my career but there is this biological clock that concerns me. Not only that women usually have to put their career on hold when they have a kid and it can be very stressful. Marriage is hard work. So, when your long-term girlfriend asks you, "What's next?". Don't freak out and be honest about your intentions. We are all at different stages in our lives and have goals and ambitions. If you aren't ready, LET HER KNOW. Don't waste someone's precious time by keeping her in limbo. It's always best to have these conversations with your partner openly. ✌️

[@wonaugust5721]

On the contrary, John looks like the most capable/ready for marriage 😀

[@littlelilacbunny]

🥹🥹🥹

[@Txtysbth0304]

About the marriage, inspite of being a woman and “biological clock” ticking ( i am 33), I never felt a rush because the reason for marriage at this time is so irrational. They say one need to get married for partnership but at the moment people hardly give it all to keep this partnership. If child is a reason, we never knoe how they will turn out in future. If the reason is to be taken care in future, ample resources can guarantee that. In the current time, marriage doesnot hold the same meaning as before. One of the selfish reason, is not being wanted to tied down. As of now there is enough in the plate with dishes of responsibility. So to add another person in life is like being more chained. Having said all this, there was one time in life i felt just a deep loneliness while listening to song called marriage by moon moon. After listening to song with subtitle, i broke down to tears for correctly picturing the life i was living.

[@nainasingh2863]

No one is 100% selfless tho.... It's just something we learn gradually when we're with people we love and cherish it comes naturally.

[@madhvidaxini4120]

I so so agree with John when we said about his perspective of marriage. ❤️ You never hesitate or feel skeptical about marriage when you find your "THE ONE" .

[@EliBananie]

It was really nice to hear guys’ perspectives on marriage. I’d like to think I’d get married one day. And that person is someone who I’d fully commit to. I don’t really consider things as sacrificing time, energy, etc for because I’d want to give them my time, energy, etc. because they’re worth it to me. And it’s a life long journey to keep bringing out the best in each other (though I’m sure there will be disagreements). But learning from each other and continuing to be better is something I’ve always wanted in a partner. Someone that inspires me to keep improving! Of course, no talk of marriage until I have a stable career and get my DVM. I think as a woman watching this, I’m just happy that not everyone is getting married in their early 20’s. I don’t feel so bad now that I’m almost 30 and single. I was worried for the longest time how I kept growing older but haven’t found “the one” and my class mates all being married just made me feel like I was behind the curve.

[@s.s.s4269]

Simple, I'm a romanticist, so I believe in marriage, no matter how people view marriage is. Giving your lifelong commitment to someone is something I long since forever. The problem is that, most of us haven't found THE ONE yet that's why we "feel" like marriage is not for us. That's what I believe😂😂😂

[@JBRODUCTION]

Wow that is deep 😭😭

[@s.s.s4269]

@@JBRODUCTION That's because everyone I met they said the same thing about marriage; they feel like marriage is "unnecessary" etc. But once they found someone they truly love, most of them forget what they've said or viewed about marriage. 🤣🤣. Like my dad said, once you fall in love, you just dunno what's gonna happen😂😂😂

[@natashakerrigan]

Watching these conversations about marriage with you guys is extremely interesting. I think it has a lot to do with the generation you have grown up into. Marriage became a “fantastical” idea rather than a natural and comfortable progression in life as you grow. What I mean about fantastical is that you seem to describe it in terms of ideals and some what unrealistic “hypotheticals”. Perhaps it is a cultural thing. I am Korean but was adopted. I consider my culture to be American but my heritage Korean. All I know to be true is that marriage isn’t this pinnacle of life to be reached. It’s a true moment of finding someone that you perhaps never imagined meeting. Having an indescribable connection that you realize you never want to end. When I was single I always was asking “how do you know” to my married friends. To what they responded to, “you’ll know when you know.” What a horrible reply to a single girl who wants the specifics!! But they were right. When I met my husband - we were engaged 2 months later after meeting. My family was nervous about how fast we were moving so we waited a year to get married. That was a bad idea looking back at it. We shouldn’t of let my families opinions change our plans. But in the end it all worked out. My advice that you aren’t asking for is simple. Be open. The more I’ve listened to a few of your discussions it seems the longer you go being single talking about ideal types, marriage aspirations, relationship standards the more complicated it comes off. I want her to be like this. I want it to be like that. The problem with having all these “I’s” or these standards is that it leaves very little flexibility in meeting someone who is extremely special. Before you even enter the relationship world there is a box to live in for her and for you. Just keep approaching it with a KISS philosophy. Keep it simple stupid. Lol. This means that you keep looking for “the one” rather than settling for anyone. Have your standards sure. But leave room for how you “both” want to see your relationship grow. I’ll be honest with you. The relationships that last the longest are the ones people are more willing to say “we” rather than “I”. True love isn’t a feeling. It’s a decision to say that you’re willing to put someone else’s needs above yourself. Not in a toxic or unhealthy way that is manipulative. But simply - things like - she worked a long day I’m going to make dinner tonight. You maybe had a long day also, but you’re concern your mind is on her. In response, she wakes up early in the morning to make you breakfast before work because she thinks, “He has to eat a good meal because I know he doesn’t have time for a good lunch today because of his schedule he told me about.” It is a constant mutual effort to express this selflessness and commitment to each other. It will not be perfect. There will be conflict. This is natural. What you do with it and how you navigate it will make all the difference. Be willing to listen before speaking. Forgive and grow through it. Remember that you love each other and that your worth the work it takes to keep moving forward. My marriage hasn’t been perfect. I didn’t sign up for perfection. My vows said it all. For better for worse. That’s what I signed up for. Celebrating 16 years - May 20th and our beautiful 4 kids. God is good. I commend you both for putting so much thought into your futures. Just asking for you both to consider leaving some space for the unexpected but yet welcomed stuff that surely is bound to happen. 😉

[@gracew5225]

You guys are awesome- positive, optimistic and always inspirational. You really deserve genuine love. Best of luck!

[@kaomouaher6866]

I love you two!! You’re so inspiring and the stories you tell bring so much hope, joy, and love.

[@billionsandbillionsonly2663]

thanks i have literally watched all your videos in a week & have been sitting at the edge of my chair for yall to upload huns

[@happysmilees]

Wow my feeling of marriage is so similar to John!! I need a part 2 of this.. I think it all comes down to meeting the right person at a good timing of your life. It’s so interesting how marriage culture differs between the states though. From Texas, and in my mid 20s and half of my friends are married and the other half are single af 😅

[@AngelaYu]

just love how straightforward John is, no dodginess

[@beaneeb418]

First ... you fellas crack me up! Luv your channel! For me the essential mindset, as it relates to marriage (even a healthy relationship) is to truly know yourself first. Really being HONEST and TRUTHFUL about who you are as an individual both in simple and complex terms. Your likes and dislikes, strengths and weakness, moral compass, aspirations, goals, etc. Even understanding the kind of lifestyle you feel would be compatible to who you are. Once you are in tune with those elements, I believe you then have a better idea of compatibility and if the traditional institution of marriage is something you are open to consider. I'm very pragmatic so I don't believe in idea of there only being 'the one' out there. That is way to limiting in my book. I think compatibility can be vast and in varied degrees. Then there is that element of the unknown. What I call the “IT” factor … you know that feeling you have when you are with special someone that fills you up in such a magical way. Some call that chemistry, fate, tethered strings, etc. I don't know if it is destined or determined but you just know when you have feeling. So hopefully logic combined with that 'it' factor is within the same person. Ultimately, it’s also about taking a leap of fate to place your heart info someone's hands. It's a risk but I think the risk is well worth it when it's mixed with the right degree of love, trust, compatibility and even uniqueness. The best mixture possible.

[@dawnp9805]

Just stumbled onto your channel and love it! It’s refreshing to see men discuss topics in a very human way that doesn’t take away from the seriousness of it. As someone who WAS married before; I can only speak from my experience. Date for at least 12-18 months to learn as much as you can about one another. Second, pay attention to red flags about their character because in the end, these things you may ignore for attraction, quirks, etc; will be the very things you will not be happy with long term.

[@natesha1449]

This was a nice and honest talk about marriage between bros both in the Vlog and the one on one. But one thing I have noticed the one who always say " No I don't see myself being a daddy or married" when love walks in their life all that talk flies through the window and they end up marrying first. 😊 Gr8 video guys. Oh Ps: you asked I think it was you John who asked about the girl who has been with the guy for 4 yrs and (wait I think it was Jason who said that) anyways, I just to say communication is never enough. If you are not ready to be married talk about it with your partner. Year 1 have that talk, year 2 etc. Keep the line of communication open but never feel pressured both of you to get married until you are ready. And nothing is wrong if you don't want to have kids like the tall one said but ensure you both have that talk as well. Don't go in thinking "she knows me" no talk, talk, talk. Ok byeeeeeee😊💚

[@trishanamckenzie8656]

The reason why a lot of marriage fail now a days is because of lack of commitment, the vow states for better or worse but many people want to dictate what worse looks like so when its not the worse they sign up for they quit. I have never heard any couple say they have been happily married for 40 years, we are all human, they get tired of each other I bet but they stick it out until the love comes back.

[@PerfectNightHere]

My parents are happily married for 41 years. So so are my friends' parents. ALL OF THEMMMMM. I think its just generations thingy.

[@sheila3936]

I think higher divorce rates are a change in the times too. With the world at our fingertips it’s easier to grow in different directions and eventually no longer be compatible. Also, women being able to work outside the home has allowed independence that many would not have had before. When hubby was the only one earning money and controlled the finances women were financially and socially trapped.

[@PerfectNightHere]

@@sheila3936 you sound like women are the one causing higher divorce rate. Lol.

[@sheila3936]

@@PerfectNightHere statistically, women do initiate divorce more often, around 70% I believe. I’m not saying women are at fault if a marriage breaks down; it takes two people to create a good relationship. But I do think women have a lot more independence and freedom than before so we don’t have to stick around if it’s not working. Lower divorce rates in the past doesn’t mean they were happier or more committed, it could largely have been there were fewer options and societal pressures. From a man’s stance generations ago, divorce would be difficult because who looks after the children, one income might not support two households and the social stigma of no longer being a good “family man”, so I’m sure some of them felt stuck as well.

[@SamanthaCorrie18]

Excellent topic to talk about, JBros. I am personally at a point in my life, I want to have a lifelong relationship with someone who can be supportive, loving, funny, and ambitious in life. Marriage does not have to happen; I mean, it is a legal paper. You do not have to justify your love for one another by getting married. I mean, you can be in love with each other and not get married but be supportive, open, honest, trusting, and loving to each other. Over the years, my view on marriage changed from I wanted to get married by the age of 25 and have a family to now, being 31 soon, marriage is not essential. I believe in working on my career, and down the road, find a companion who is willing to be there for me, as I will be there for them. In my humble opinion, any relationships take work, honesty, open-mindedness, communication, and trust to build a lasting partnership.

[@jendle07]

Went from Michellechoi -> Freesiapark -> Esther's podcast&YT and now I'm here lol. Love the depth of discussion in the video and comments. Just wanted to share that the more I get older, the more it makes sense to me why my family tells me that love, especially during marriage, is a principle. It's a choice you make daily to love and communicate with your partner to make the relationship work. Have yet to experience that for myself but I'm hoping one day it will. As my dad says, "One of the greatest gifts that you can have in life is marriage/family." Until then, I just hope not to be too pessimistic when it comes to relationships and keep working on myself and what I want my life to be in the future.

[@jodyatienza6153]

"Let's not talk about girls" - coming from Jason 🤣 And the level of seriousness that John gave on this vlog 🔥😆

[@JBRODUCTION]

To be fair he lasted 12 seconds 😂

[@jodyatienza6153]

@@JBRODUCTION 🙌🙌🙌 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

[@That_SamSam]

Wow! I think it's wonderful to watch and learn from a man's point of view. I appreciate how everyone was respectful and receptive of each person's thoughts/views on marriage. I've been with my man for 19 years and we still aren't officially married. We have kids and I always joke he's my baby daddy 😂. All jokes aside, we've come to the conclusion that we are "married" based on how we've grown together and how overtime we have become selfless because it sure did not start out that way.

[@anamenouknow5197]

Most of my friends are in some form of relationships but I am not and i used to feel kinda low about it. But you guys are so relatable and that's why I love watching you. Nowadays, I understand love ain't that important.

[@christinayu2872]

Can't wait to see you guys both find the love of your lives and get married! :) Looking forward to that video to come one day!

[@12025623V]

I stumbled upon your video and I can say that its rare to see such honest content over the internet nowadays - I really enjoy watching your videos. The kids screaming in the background is perfect timing 😂 and about marriage - Open communication has to be a priority in a relationship and not just the dating stages. Marriages falls apart because both parties has stopped communicating what they feel and what’s on their mind. The insecurities and expectations in life goals, career, family, relationships and etc needs to be addressed and worked on as a couple. If you’re gonna skip all these talk before discussing marriage, *logically* its bound to head to a dead end, no? But hey, what do I know? #single🤷🏻‍♀️

[@bean7808]

I just can't take you guys seriously 🤣🤣🤣 You had me on the floor in 30 seconds 😂

[@aga1234talom]

I have exactly the same thoughts on marriage as John. I felt happy to find that I am not the only one who thinks the same. Sometimes my friends tell me that my views and ideals regarding marriage is unrealistic and they tell me that I might run out of time and end up single in life. But I think one must never compromise in life at least on things such as marriage. It is better to stay single and enjoy your own company rather than compromise and live a pitiful life with someone. I believe that one will definitely know when you find “the one”. I also believe that marriage is a journey not the ultimate destination. Life will keep on going. Finding your special someone will make the journey more enjoyable and blissful. As for Jason I think he has still not found “the one” 😁 and that is why he has so many doubts about his commitments for someone. I hope that he finds “the one” who will clear away all his doubts.👍

[@majaremigio7729]

In marriage, always remember your commitment. Be willing to learn and grow. Learn how to move on from arguements and laugh it up. Pay attention to little things. 😉

[@JBRODUCTION]

So simple but not easy haha

[@majaremigio7729]

@@JBRODUCTION exactly! 😉 Before getting into it, you only don't think once, twice but a million times. It's either you're in or out. That's only a one time commitment. 😊

[@Nursetildaedison]

As individuals and married couples, we all have challenges that comes up throughout our life time. The only way a marriage can last is if both are ready to make a lifetime commitment which is really hard these days to find to two people willing to sacrifice their happiness at different times to make the marriage work.

[@AznDarkAngel]

Excited for the video!

[@creativecarecorner9436]

I hope that you can find more people who let you know more about marriage than just the difficulties of it! With anything in life, there are unanticipated hardships that people seem to focus more on. Then, the positive/happy parts of marriage are an afterthought, or labelled as "the honeymoon phase" or something like that. Before marriage, I personally was at a point of my life where I pressured by traditional Asian parents, to get a boyfriend and get married and buy a home and have kids (as fast as possible, in that order). It felt as if my other accomplishments of graduating university, having a stable career, etc. weren't good enough. So, purely influenced by others, I went on a crazy search to find a boyfriend and in that process, I lost myself. Thankfully, a truly amazing girl friend of mine took me away on a long vacation to reset. I came back to my hometown and let go of all outside opinions about "how my life should be going". And then "the one" came suddenly without warning. As John said, it just seemed natural to marry him. My opinion of marriage now is a journey of two people challenging each other to become their best selves, learning the true meaning of compromise, and overcoming this crazy life together. I really appreciate you guys talking about these topics, and please continue to honestly talk about them. I wish that your channel was around when I was going through that crazy time in my life! Sending love from Canada

[@CiocoLoco97]

I personally can relate to this too. Most of the friends and people that I know are married and have kids. But at the same time they have a stable life (job and income). So I think the time to get married to the person that you love is when you know you want to spend the rest of your life with that person and that you are stable financially (I think that's obvious😅). I personally am too, a little nervous because of my friends getting married but I try to remember myself that I'm not really ready for that part of my life because I don't feel like this is the right moment for me. I still want to study and to achieve my goals so that I can be happy with myself. And about the fear of a not so happy marriage, I think marriage is about working and overcoming the problems together. In every marriage there are some ups and downs, and I think as a couple you have to try to understand and overcome them together. At least that's what I think. 🙂

[@KassyLynnRose]

Yasss love getting the notification for a new video!!

[@jodyatienza6153]

Some people get married because they're madly inlove, and some because they just want companion for life.

[@JBRODUCTION]

Which one are you?

[@jodyatienza6153]

@@JBRODUCTION First one! 😊😅

[@RituVerma27]

@@JBRODUCTION none

[@boogeybaby12]

You guys are way over thinking it. Your friend is right. Just kind of go with the flow. My husband and I met rather randomly in our early 30s and within a few months we had friends predicting we’d be married. We weren’t looking for our future spouse when we met. It just happened. And in terms of that commitment. It’s not as intense as you think. You keep changing after marriage and after you have kids. The key isn’t to find someone that you will sacrifice everything for. The key is simply to find someone who you can be honest and authentically yourself. You will change together and communication will be key to whether you change in the same direction or opposite ways. No one is expecting you to complete lose yourself in a marriage. In fact you shouldn’t ever do this. Marriage is simply a way to share your life with someone and multiply the joys together. My husband and I have been together for 15 years and we love each other now more than when we met but our love looks completely different. It has nuances we couldn’t have predicted. Don’t be so harsh with yourselves. It’s not so complicated.

[@user-yk8ho4yr3u]

The topic that you covered was great and very interesting!Keep up good job guys👐🏻😎

[@ehdzlehdzl2]

Hearing them talk makes me feel so lucky to have a boyfriend who is always giving me his 100%

[@nivedithananda4276]

I have used the same analogy as you John previously. Glad to hear that someone also have the same perspective. what I noticed is with family we are accepted for what we are completely along with blunders, stupidity at times & lot of silly habits n all . In relationship we are judged for the mistakes not accepted completely. when we are understood and accepted instead of being judged every marriage is successful I feel. I love kids alot. In the process of being adults, we unknowingly learned to assess others(positive , negative, good, bad etc.. ). kids always teach to be selfless towards every living form around them. Won't it be very lucky to have a partner who see you beyond the words, just focuses on intensions and having kids who makes you love without restrictions. So I'm going to ask myself Can I live with the other person without changing anything about him before my marriage?

[@pikapika88888]

Wow so deep, I really like Jason perspectives. So true coming from a married person.

[@norazzwa8610]

I guess, you guys can take your friend’s thoughts to follow the flow. Marriage is like destiny, when you are ready and you meet the right one, you will be ready for the journey in marriage. It's hard but when you can understand each other, you can deal with it well.

[@aha_Sai_Ra]

I just wanted to share here, I mainly watch this channel for the JBro curated commercials!! 🤑🤑💸💲💵💸💰🤑🤑

[@kaeuL18]

Finally!! Been waiting for latest vlog!!

[@catherineborje4580]

It's the first time I heard somebody say the exact words in my mind that I've never heard people ever say... no matter how much our eyes see them but people tend to ignore: the difficulties most married people go through. So true! Most of the time people will ask a single person, when are you getting? Or will you ever get married? And married people get asked, when will you have kids? Like it's gonna be your misery if you never got married nor have kids. But people never realize the hardship that comes along marriage. That's why people have to be very ready and really think a thousand times before they jump into marriage. Having kids really is life-changing event, and it's never easy. People who don't rush into marriage are not selfish. They are actually very responsible people who think that they'll get there and be there, when the right time comes. For the good of the spouse and for the good of their children. Responsible parenthood. Cheers to JBro!

[@florayxl]

Always loved the bro talk! y'all should have start a room in clubhouse! It's gonna be lit. :)

[@aakankshasingh8459]

Marriage is a very touchy subject especially in Asian households. But things are changing and this is probably one the biggest life decisions you’ll ever make . So it’s Very important to be ready for this level of commitment. Good communication & being friends with your partner will make the relationship last for sure!

[@coolk1610]

Hi, randomly today while surfing, came across your channel. I like topics you choose to discuss.very relatable, also give different perspective. Good going 👍

[@cathartic1102]

Finallyyyy I waited so long for the second part, checked thrice for the update😆 The vlog was so natural and engaging, also Jason's voice gets so therapeutic at times he could do asmr😆❤️ 7:38 - the classic serious discussion Asian dad pose😂😂😂 I'm 18 and only thought I have over marriage is it's a struggle that you'd happily chose every single day like your career/passion.

[@GreatGospel97]

I wanna encourage y’all to think about how this grows and develops. I also want to encourage you guys to think about mArriage in the positives, being realistic that sometimes they fail but knowing that you’re going to be ok and avoid that as best you can. Y’all are doing a-ok. Keep developing yourselves and growing but know that the bad of marriage is always the outcome. Hope that makes sense.

[@yvonnedang6614]

I think marriage nowadays are different because we’re becoming more advanced and we tend to focus on ourselves and creating that stability for ourselves rather than thinking of building a family that leads to so many uncertainties. Like you were saying, John, we hear so many difficulties that couples go through after they get married which makes us think “do I really want to get married?” And then like Jason said, how can we be sure that we can be selfless and contribute to the relationship in a balanced way. However, despite the doubts that we go through when considering marriage, I think it’s something special to share a sacred bond with someone and it really is worth all potential hardships in a relationship.

[@elaineyeung7647]

I love how John was so serious at the thought of answering that question 😄

[@vaishnavibalaji8575]

All my friends are getting married and having babies, I'm here trying to get through grad school 😭. It's such a coincidence that y'all decided to make this video. The only thing worse than all this is my desi mom asking me about grandkids.

[@JBRODUCTION]

Tell mom that grandkids are overrated hahah

[@chandaraduongmeas897]

I totally understand, I'm in the same position, trying to get through pharmacy school. I'm sure we make the right decision, keep up the good work, you almost there :)

[@baotruong248]

I was in your boat. High school classmates all married with kids but my college friends are all unmarried being post grad school and doing residencies. I'm three years post pharmacy school and I'm just trying to pay off my six figure student loans. I don't want to get married or have kids unless I'm financially stable. Even with my biological clock ticking, kids are a huge investment of time, money and energy. Unless your mom is offering free childcare, I told my mom to wait lol.

[@vaishnavibalaji8575]

@@chandaraduongmeas897 thanks for the encouragement 😭! It's tough but continuing school is the best thing for our career

[@vaishnavibalaji8575]

@@baotruong248 true! Kids are expensive. Not only do you need to be financially stable to have them, which is next to impossible in your 20s, it would require a lot of sacrifice and hard work. I don't wanna miss out on professional opportunities after spending thousands of dollars in tuition, so that I can accommodate a child I'm not equipped to care for.I'd rather be a selfish childless prick than be a terrible mother. Also, good luck with paying off your student loans!! I hope you become debt free soon.

[@kristycalungsod706]

hmm I’m loving this chill vlog+podcast mix format! ^,^ on marriage: I agree with you both; I’m open for marriage and the natural consequence of having children. But knowing the hardships that come with it, I’m also more conscious of who I see as a life partner and not just who I see romantically. I’ve fallen for people before but no one has sparked that friend+lover+family love yet.

[@uduakantai981]

Great content!! For me I look at marriage as a natural progression. It’s interesting how people desire to be settled in terms of finances, career, and even fitness... But in terms of relationships a lot people fear settlement and commitment. Yet relationship is one aspect that affects other areas of your life. Marriage vs long term relationship. There’s a certain level of security that’s in marriage that’s not present in a long term relationship; prenup... Marriage is definitely not for everyone, and people shouldn’t be pressured into marriage. Ultimately it’s better to be at peace with your self than to be in a toxic marriage/commitment.

[@aha_Sai_Ra]

**Chukahae**, ~*Felicidades*~ , ~*☆Congratulations☆*~!!! On your 'Silver Play Button' Award!!!! Very excited & elated for your channel!! 🤩🤩 I was listening so intently that I didn't realize your discussion in the video ended already? Your current opinions about marriage in a general context may change in the future. We all grow and evolve as we age. In April/May 2022/2023, you both may have totally different perspectives. Just like how you two are not even thinking and feeling the same from April/May 2019. I am stating this as an audience viewer person from watching the your vlogs from 2019 and vlogs now in 2021. Jason and John here are slightly different people now. Slightly older (in age) and sprinkle of wiser in April/May 2021. 😊 Looking forward to Summer 2021 of JBro!!! ☀️🌻☀️🕺🏻☀️

[@ntnweb]

One vote for Jbro married channel haha!! 🙌 Imo, what makes a marriage distintive from a ltr is the level of commitment, compromisation and support for not only the partners but also the respective families which definitely should not be taken lightly. I look up to my parents' marriage (still going strong despite ups and downs) and wanted the same thing, many of my friends are also like that ^^

[@anncayetano8360]

Loving this content❤️

[@yangkia04]

I’ve been in a 18 year relationship with the same guy and we’re not even married yet. We’re 35....I think people are getting married later because they want to be successful, have a career, or accomplish things they couldn’t do while they were in school. Relationships are more than love and if you ask yourself are you ready for marriage, let’s just say you never will be. Marriages will have difficulties just like relationships do, but you have to pick a partner that you’re willing to fight life with through. Some days you fall out of love, other days it’s like you can’t live without each other. No one is perfect. Just gotta pick a life long partner that you’re willing to communicate with, talk things out with, and you two mutually support each other’s dreams, goals, and aspirations in life. Gotta pick that one person you want to fight through life’s challenges with together. Good luck guys!

[@luckofthehijabi4727]

U guys have the same humor as me and my friends do and its just so fun to watch u guys enjoy because it feels like im literally there chilling and laughing with you guys 😂❤

[@angiebela3667]

Someone who loves and threats his mom really well, is a high value man 😊

[@samikxyabts0613]

Yaaassss new video ✊💜

[@WinterScorpio]

I've just come across a KZbin recommend video. I must say it's a very fresh topic (even if it's a century old conversation with friends) it's interesting to hear from men point of view. For me who is in my 40s, my parents had given up asking me to get marry. I can take care of myself. Also know how to make little happiness out of the environment where I am. They leave me alone. I think, its better not to pressure anyone in any age to get marry for the sake of tradition or family or duty. Ultimately it boils down to two person who are involved.

[@kayepizarro2848]

Marriage really takes a lot of patience and understanding..especially it will be different when you were just dating..you’ll get to learn the person’s personality deeper...and it would sometimes get into a point where you just want to breathe and be alone..of course you want to get married when your ready mentally, emotionally and financially...but when your really there in that married life there are things that you will realize that your not ready yet...and that’s when patience and understanding comes in... that’s why both of you should learn to give and take and i think that will happen if you really love and respect each other. And i think that really is the hardest part..to find that person that you really love and loves you back.. but that’s just my thoughts..🙃

[@angellee7788]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on marriage, I know it isn't an easy topic for guys to open up about. I do agree with John's view on marriage though, the part about being able to give your all to your lifetime partner. Also, please share your BGMs for this vid and have fun in LA you guys!!!

[@sjmfalceso]

I'm literally binge watching J Bro episodes now. Haha. Btw, Tim should start his own channel also. 😁

[@leirabetances4553]

Omg at the end I try so hard to concentrate but that song is one of my favorite songs. I understand both of you but for me marriage is a commitment because isn't easy. Marriage is hard no matter how much you both love each other. I think couples need to understand that the other one is an individual too. Sometimes we forget and thought that he or she belongs to us. The best tips: *commitment *communication always [if you get mad say it no matter if the other person get mad because if you keep it only because you don't want to hurt him/her at the end you will be the hurting one. *trust [the moment you dont it will be a caos] *take time as individual is good for the relationship *never go to bed mad to each other *and love the goods and bads of that person because nobody is perfect. Hope you both enjoy your Cali trip. Blessings

[@rayleighd260]

what was the title of the song?

[@hwinseoul]

People might think going into a relationship just like a spark.. but I think it takes time and take steps and get into a relationship. When a relationship bring into a marriage, it's another different stage, meeting your partner everyday, seeing through all the strength and weakness, so i think both toleration is really important. Also, I think marriage always a first priority for a relationship, at least for my previous cases .

[@iammitchykoy7724]

This video came very timely! haha I'm seeing my set of friends with yours!! Been having the same topic with you guys and the reactions are the same except that we are gals and ya'll are guys.

[@athenaenergyshine7616]

I love having a brother. Before I had a brother I was always pressurised because I was the oldest. I was jealous of my brother as a child because he managed to have everything his way. But now I see the benefit. The thing is carrying the family bloodline is no longer on my shoulder. This way I can stay single for life and learn forever if I want to. Life is sweet. Some people are suited to be married some are not.

[@ghuijie]

Great topic guys! I'm not at the stage of marriage yet but I often wonder how marriage, proclaimed via a single piece of paper or change in status would "change" or bring the relationship to another level. Apart from the legal formalities and responsibilities of course, I am for the opinion that marriage might not seem absolutely necessary, if not for kids. Unlike our parent's time, marriage is huge. Marriage literally seals 2 person's lives together. Good and bad though. But it seems like times have eroded the meaning of marriage, which is understandable because it is after all a social construct and our values changes with time, imo. Just feel like we now get into one because it seems like the natural progression and we get out of it when things ain't working out so easily. Quite a waste of resources and money, come to think of it. Having said that and as silly as it sounds, I think it is really beautiful for 2 people to put on THE ring which serves to symbolise their commitment to each other. It's a conscious choice that they wear the exact same item, day after day, especially sweet to see that on my guy friend's hand ((lol, just admiring from a-far, absolutely no touching :D), because it's subtly shouting to the world, "I'm taken". That simple act is just

[@got7ornothing452]

Me being a 25 yrs old single introvert homebody can never relate to marriage. Can't even find a single relationship let alone marriage. Maybe 20 yrs later, i will be saying the same thing, 45 yrs old and still can't relate.

[@upthedown1]

Thing is we are constantly evolving and changing. So yes your spouse will most likely change with time. You have to try to grow together. Never leave your significant other on the shelve. Engage, forgive, be considerate of each other, be nurturing, always put each other first.

[@elifpalyos8151]

All my friends are married with kids and marriage scares me to death. I can't imagine sharing myself with someone yet alone kids💆‍♀️ I plan to stay as the crazy single aunt that my friend's kids love😀

[@aikonography]

Oh my gosh I feel what Jason is saying about not being selfless enough! I think you guys should do live podcast.

[@prekshapatel3407]

Yooo first but love to watch your videos 📹❤

[@aps1472]

You know the person is the one when you couldn’t imagine your life without her/him

[@ninarama1219]

What a timely video HAHAHA my older sister is getting married soon and I can already hear my parents' lowkey remarks on me being the next in line. HAHAHAH but to their dismay, I said, my lifelong goal is to be the rich, fun, single aunt in the family. 😎😎😎 Marriage (or having a romantic relationship) isn't a requirement to live a happy and fulfilled life 😁

[@Acceptheavenshelp]

You guys are Amazing !!!

[@heeckypi01]

Yes to everything john said. Not because im a simp for him (maybe just a little), but because it’s how i view marriage too hahah. However my conclusion is different, im trying to find someone that i’ll fight for. Not seeing his weakness as weakness, but just a part of him. Not expecting him to love me forever, but i’ll still be able to live and smile with him. In a way, i always know that my expectations wont get meet, so im trying not to be naive and set our expectations together :) he’s him, and i’m me, and if we’re compatible, it should be easier to have a talk and work on our relationships together.

[@vini_nooh1234]

Marriage is just another journey you have within your life journey, the fact that we just have unrealistic expectations from partner. Life is quite simple, work hard, have your desired job, try hard to keep up with finances and live your life. Just going with the flow, and accept what life throws at you. Being in mid 20s, I believe everything is a part of life, you keep trying, experiencing and learning.

[@nikehutagaol5529]

this is so funny, maybe if someone asked me about marriage, i would definitely give the same expression as john. lol. 😂 But I agree with Jason. One of the things to fear when choosing to marry someone is the change before and after marriage. that's why I chose to take a wedding class at church to prepare myself to be a good helper for my husband one day. I suggest that all of you can do the same with me😝✌

[@katelyndallke8954]

Everyone in my family has gotten married and had kids really young. Cousins married and have two kids by 21. Right person will walk in at the right time. I am finishing grad, establishing myself in my career field, and happy with the person who looks back at me in the mirror. Marriage and kids are definite want in the future but not something that needs to be rushed.

[@laurafabianmarrero8614]

You guys are so amazing Love your videos

[@shirleywu3035]

I like how John doesn't change his outlook on marriage after hearing Jason's. Most people would change their answers and conform. He stays true to himself. 🙌

[@pandalove9413]

The keyword is "Happiness." Everyone deserves the feeling of acceptance and love.