Why we no longer aspire towards kids 🪴

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[@reginesinatra8213]

The people who judge. Have pieces missing within themselves. When you are so happy and full , you are too busy being happy to judge. Thank you for your inspiration.

[@tatiananugent8434]

Yes, yes and yes! People who are on an authentic journey are often more focused on their own growth and fulfilment, which leaves little room for judgment of others. They recognize that happiness and fulfillment come from living in alignment with their true selves, whether that involves having children or not. This mindset fosters a sense of respect for the diverse paths others may take in their lives. Embracing authenticity means understanding that there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach to happiness, and that everyone’s journey is unique and valid.💖

[@reginesinatra8213]

@@tatiananugent8434 beautiful x

[@ccjohnson6251]

Have you ever thought about what you are saying, you sound like a parrot.

[@beaulieuc8910]

I am 58 and childfree. No regrets. I have lots of hobbies and I volunteer. I don't have pets but I love my wildlife in my garden. I am learning to be alone as one day I will be

[@ronnyb9416]

We have NO kids... retired at 47... we have lived overseas and we have been traveling the past 15 years... No money issues and we have good health....... best decision ever with no regrets at all.

[@JeanVoronkova]

happy to hear you are happy with your choices and no regrets. Thanks for sharing with me 🙏

[@kathleenwang]

that's my goal as well!!!!!! retire early is what I look forward to. im not into kids, like other people's kids, but children is not my thing maybe..

[@jade-oh5wn]

It's not too late. Have some kids!

[@ljkoh20052000able]

Great life!

[@wordsw]

​@@jade-oh5wn have some respect. It's not on everyone's path.

[@simpelminimalistischleven]

People like to judge everything that is not standard. We have four children and that is regarded strange and selfish by many. Just as having none. You do you 🤍 People will always judge when you deviate fromthe norm whatever that may be. Our job is to not be bothered and live our own beautiful lives 🌸

[@rod1424]

4 is strange and selfish? Where you from?

[@erikt1713]

​@@rod1424Here in Switzerland it's the same. If you have more than two kids you are seen as promoting climate change. One thing is sure - if everyone globally had 4 kids it would be unsustainable. However, it balances nicely with the childfree.

[@mylesleggette7520]

People don't just judge nonstandard things, they judge EVERYthing. Finding your own self and peace with that is a journey universal to all humans.

[@christineflygirl]

Having kids is a 20 year commitment (or more...!). I have two sons in their twenties now, I have no regrets, they are my pride and joy, but many of my friends have chosen not to have any, and I totally respect that. It's a harsh world out there to raise good and compassionate human beings. Enjoy your life the way you choose to live it. And ignore people who would want you to change it!

[@JeanVoronkova]

I love that you have kids and they light up your life but you don't think everyone else must be poppin out some and can see that it's just different life paths

[@Bav92]

20 years out of 75 honestly doesn’t sound bad at all. I’m not a parent but I would be happy to spend what is probably less than 1/3 of my time with kids. Especially because they can also enrich your life and bring out traits you never knew you had.

[@Fan-zx1lz]

​@@Bav92Having kids into this over populated world is doing a crime to the children Born, they have to fight for basic necessities like food, Water due to high inflation.

[@BeingHumane173]

Fellow Childfree by choice person here. Well said, marriage and Motherhood are every woman's personal choices, not obligations, no matter what. Stay strong and stay happy !

[@2622Valerie1]

I do not have children. I am 48- 49 ( in August). I do not regret.. in contrary… ! Good luck

[@asavannah7439]

I am 46 and definitely also do not regret not having children.

[@gogicbasic7629]

You chose Life! Great choice girl! 👏

[@berserk9564]

Not sustainable way of life for humanity. Liberal and secularism indeed bring humanity into doom

[@Johanneslol11]

I am 33 and my wife is 30. We both dont feel the need for a child. We are happy together, we enjoy going out together. My mother always says "don't create a new life until you have lived your own life" you meaning do the things you want to do first and then you can have childeren if you choice. And if you don't, that is fine to. 😊

[@Kat-s5f]

Your mother is a wise woman. My husband I are similar in age to you and your spouse. For the longest time… I was against having kids. Then all of my friends starting talking about having them because a lot of my friends were getting pregnant. I started to feel like maybe I was missing out… and now I’m back to not wanting any kids. Any time I think I want them… and then I am around someone’s child… I instantly change my mind. I want to work on myself more and ensure my husband and I have an amazing life together. I don’t want to struggle financially or have strain in my marriage or identity to have a child.

[@sansan838383]

“You are called crazy or worse, for dancing because they don’t hear your music.”

[@michellehuynh8451]

My partner and i dont have kids and we totally agree on everything you said. We feel like we are having an amazing time and life goes by soo fast, we just dont want to be bogged down with kids. Cheers to a well-made decision. 😜 🍻

[@jaredheymann]

Thanks for sharing, Jean! I'm very happy to have found your channel. My wife and I also decided not to have kids, and we've been married since we were 23. Each year, we had "the vote" if this was the year. As time went by, we looked at our life together, and decided it wasn't right for us to interrupt what we had, and we continued to grow and be fulfilled with our relationship. We've had some amazing opportunities to travel and gain experiences that wouldn't have been possible if we made other choices. We celebrated 20 years married this week! No regrets! Live YOUR life!

[@phooongtion]

Same here: no kids, a nice investment and retirement portfolio, time, hobbies, healthy relationship! I've got a great life that works for me and I'm happy :)

[@ccjohnson6251]

what else can you do? You need to accept it, and you might as well try to convince yourself you did the right thing.

[@phooongtion]

@@ccjohnson6251 u mad?

[@phooongtion]

​@@ccjohnson6251 U mad?

[@ccjohnson6251]

@@phooongtion Short term thinking is a sign of low IQ

[@shivasuresh5957]

My 8 year old son is such an important part of my life. The joy I feel when I spend time with him is so special. That said, I don't judge others who don't feel the same way about having kids. We are all different and should have respect for those differences. One path is not better than the other. Thoughtful video Jean...

[@dukey4771]

Everything comes down to the same thing, so long as you're happy and not harming anyone then that what's right for you and your life.

[@Childfree_Jerra]

Amen!!

[@bumblebee_ms]

I'm the same, childfree for now. Selfish are those who have kids and abuse them.

[@JeanVoronkova]

yeah i'm with you. Nothing sadder than having kids only to neglect them and resent them for wanting your attention.

[@anewcreature7]

@@JeanVoronkova that’s right. most can’t even take care of themselves (financially and also mentally/physically) yet they want to bring an innocent baby into this world thinking they can ‘take care’ of them?

[@KertamoAybir]

"I will always be grateful to my parents. They truly loved and supported me. I try to give back to my elderly mother. Looking back, although I had a great life, I can see the struggles my parents went through. As a child, I already felt like, 'I don't want that type of life.' In my twenties, I decided never to have children. Now that I am in my fifties, I realize that only now do I have the maturity to have children. So, I made the right decision."

[@dr.gaosclassroom]

You are a lucky man!! I think you will be a great father if you choose to be one!!

[@rpaafourever7908]

@@dr.gaosclassroom Yes but he shouldn't be with a much younger woman now just to have kids. He ought to choose a woman in her 40s at the very least to take the chance or adopt or get an ethical surrogate.

[@MazGun]

Me and my older sister choose to child free too. For her it's because she doesn't like children to begin with, and for me because i enjoy living single. More freedom and i can take care my true self properly. Being people pleaser in the past making me forget to love myself. This world is already jam packed too, making younger generation hard to live. Bless for you all.

[@KatAsp312]

This is true for me too. At 37 it’s now time to start looking after myself well and enjoying my life, and I’m actually grateful I didn’t go down the kid-road or it’d all be about that right now, and I’d still be neglecting myself. Best wishes to you 🙂

[@mylesleggette7520]

You do you, and I'm glad you're enjoying living for your self. But please don't spread this nonsense about there being too many people. Every country in the world bar a literal handful has a negative birth rate, and promoting a culture of childlessness only accelerates this trend. The path to a lonely, depopulated world is already laid out, and it will be a struggle to change course.

[@berserk9564]

Glad i had good father that has a trad principle and legacy

[@whitneyanders5945]

Such wowserism! There are more births than deaths globally so what’s the problem? If the birth rate is above zero, it’s not negative. There are and will always be humans being born. A smaller population is a good thing. Nothing good can come from more and more and more people.

[@drnicolebeaumont7884]

I don’t have any children and never thought l would. I am 54 now. Happily married for now 14 years.

[@shapeoftimes]

Same here, we're both 54 and don't have children. We did try though, for a number of years, but I think it was more due to the pressure of society and parents, but it didn't happen. We've been married for 31 years and have no regrets. Maybe everything does happen for a reason 🙂

[@asavannah7439]

My husband and I are 46 and 49 and happily married for 19 years without children.

[@IvanaRock]

You have a roommate

[@JazzyLou18]

I’m 39 and spend time supporting my friends going through divorce with kids. It’s hell on earth for them. Kids are great when it all goes well.

[@JeanVoronkova]

i do think the saddest is when they get saddled with adult issues that they had nothing to do with...

[@siara6461]

I love this. I'm a mother and I love being a mother but I totally see the appeal of a childless/childfree life, so much freedom and fun. You do you girl

[@rohitk9429]

Great video and message. Main takeaway is that there are many ways for us humans to live a meaningful, fulfilling mortal and brief life in this eternal reality, and it needs inner reflection to find our own paths. Also, not caring about conventional thinkers is important as they are living an outdated reality and will project their own misery/toxicity onto you. There's only one way to live a miserable life - and that's not living the authentic life meant for you.

[@wordsw]

Thanks for sharing. I am 51 no kids. Love the freedom.

[@JeanVoronkova]

us too 🌻 life is good :)

[@angelwings5705]

I’m turning 43 only child never been married. I think finding the right partner with similar values is Crucial. To grow old and have friendship with. Having a child it is a blessing and not everyone can have one.

[@beaulieuc8910]

not everyone wants kids

[@ART-kp9cn]

Great video. I have a two year old and while I love being a parent and have absolutely no regrets, I can see where having kids is not for everyone- the sleepless nights, the time commitment, the seemingly constant tantrums. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent, so people should always respect other's decisions. We all take different paths in life and the route to happiness is different for everyone.

[@IslandGal96816]

I don't have kid, either, and don't want to have one because I know I am selfish, I want free time, do what I want with my own time ... like if I want to sleep/watch TV, I just go sleep/watch TV any time and in peace ☺️ Hubby is with me. He once told me, better to have niece/nephew, they come and they go home 😂

[@shannonchristopherphotography]

I've watched your videos for years and have gotten great value, but this resonated above all the others. To top off no kids I'm also single and very content. Ironically my career as a family photographer gives me great purpose. Thank you Jean for posting a video I'm certain many will grateful for. I know I am.

[@JeanVoronkova]

thanks for leaving us this kind note. It is a very fortunate thing to be as we are, content & living each day with purpose 🌻😍 so happy you're in this place

[@Debbiesdilemmas]

It’s everyone’s right to do what’s right for them as a couple. The sad thing is if you want and cannot have. My husband and I tried for years with no success. Long story short we adopted and that was the right choice for us. I believe you can be equally fulfilled with or without children depending on the lifestyle you choose and that both partners agree. I see Jean and her husband living this amazing life and obviously it is the right thing for them. I’m sure many people would be jealous of this beautiful life and I think I would have been very happy living this life up to a certain point. I am so grateful that my husband and I pursued parenthood to the point of adoption as I know in our hearts we would have regretted it had we not.

[@dalaov5258]

Nobody's Business what you do with your life. And you are contributing and having a valid Life by sharing your experiences with this video and channel. Keep up the great work

[@martinatravers330]

Thank you for sharing something so personal. Nobody as a right to judge you. It's your life. You only get to live once so life your life not the life others think you should live. ❤❤

[@hellotinashe]

I’m 39 and my husband is 51, we had our son 2 years ago. I never grew up vision boarding kids and instead was such a career woman (and still am, just with tremendous balance) but boy, having that little guy has been my biggest life reward.

[@wheatstonebridge]

Isnt that way too old to have a kid?

[@Isaidso-hz7kg]

​@@wheatstonebridgeyou are being rude

[@MichelleNovalee]

@@wheatstonebridgeit’s only too old to have kids when in menopause. Nature makes the rules. Many unexpected pregnancies happen later in life because that’s when women dump the most eggs.

[@hellotinashe]

@@wheatstonebridge 35 and 48...I guess we were lucky :).

[@thesarahstory]

I would never have a child for many reasons. I‘m 33 and married and I‘m very happy without a child. I‘ve so many other plans for me, so many dreams. I live for me and my dreams and that‘s okay.

[@domtam6571]

As always, thank you Jean. I see you as a life coach. Your channel continues to inspire me to LIVE and not worry about the small stuff.

[@lion5352-z1s]

Not to mention the price tag they bring along with them .. You also must be financially stable and 90% will probably have to work your ass off until 68.. It’s a huge responsibility to have kids ..choose wisely..

[@uyouhaveyou]

Society does not support families well enough. Parents struggle to get time with their children for having to work all hours. Yes, it's a tough call and one needs be brave or loaded to think of raising children.

[@arthurshannon1851]

"Kids are a fortune, and it's gonna cost you one"

[@SuiGenerisAbbie]

People do not need to have kids. It is not legally mandated after all!

[@anewcreature7]

Even if it is ‘legally mandated’, why would you just listen to them? Stand up and fight.

[@SuiGenerisAbbie]

@@anewcreature7 Fight? With whom, pray tell? My comment was meant to reassure Jean that choosing not to have kids, aka ankle biters, is a wise choice and nothing to feel guilty about. That's all.

[@anewcreature7]

@@SuiGenerisAbbie I’m an agreement with you, just saying even if it is ‘legally mandated’ that shouldn’t be a reason to have kids, if you don’t want to.

[@keylaquesada3462]

I am 38, married and 3 kids and never before I felt so in companion as right now, planning all together, travelling all together, learning together or just staying in home preparing the meal , always there is something new to do everywhere, monotony doesnt exist in our everyday, you learn something new with kids and from them. Never before I have been so active phisically and emotional as I do now 😂😂and I don't regret, the only I regret is ;why I dont have them when younger? Planning a family is a carefully decision "of two", not an option. If you or your couple have doubts or insecure about so stay alone and dont try it.

[@uhnschlek8827]

A child was never asked for their consent to be pulled into this world. So, I imagine, whoever is pulling that soul into this realm better have a darn good stack of resources to provide for the child to make amends for the kidnapping.

[@DE6553]

A big THANK YOU for sharing your thoughts so honestly and reflected. I am 59 and have raised my son (32) as a single working mum. I got married and had him because everyone else around me did so. But my marriage failed within one year and raising him was hard and challenging, but also brought out the best in me. I love him very much and wouldn't want to miss him. However, he does not want kids, his girlfriend neither - it was difficult for me to accept and part of me still hopes they will decide to have kids because I would love to have grand kids. But I know, this is one of the not-so-good reasons you mention. It's them who should WANT and FEEL it to be able to cope with the challenges kids bring along. Yes, they might regret it later on, but I also regret a couple of decisions in my life that are irreversible, and yet I am a happy person, so what's the point.

[@SurpriseMeJT]

I have hobbies and after I travelled enough, I realized that those experiences started feeling less amazing (it's really just consumption afterall) and adding more so-so experiences really lost it's luster after already having so many awesome ones. I'm an older dad and despite the extra work involved with raising children, when I look at my children and watching them evolve, its just so satisfying - moreso than taking another trip or buying more stuff. When I look at my children, I look at them as vessels of me and my wife which will continue on once I'm we're long gone. It's not just culture which expects us to have kids, it's basic biology.

[@patriciaavery9001]

This is just SUCH a good video. Calm, measured, thoughtful, intelligent. Thank you. for making it. It is my first time seeing your channel.

[@jasonjason1196]

Beautiful video Sis 💯💯 Totally agree with all the messages.. and really love the peaceful theme and feeling your videos always bring with it. Wish ❤️❤️ You and Hubby V ❤️❤️ have a very meaningful and happy life together 🙏🙏💫💫❤️❤️✨✨🙏🙏

[@fatalframer87]

Fantastic video. You really have to be honest with yourself whether children are for you or not. I'm 46 and all my life so far I was never once interested in children. If it doesn't interest you, don't do it. With lots of hobbies, as well as being a world traveler, I feel very fulfilled as a person with no children

[@ringotan5244]

Wow! At last, an overdue question and answer! 👌

[@michaelamuro]

We have same life perspective as yours. I support you. From Taiwan.

[@mamaliping]

Brave and introspective sharing!!! And often a topic I deep think about. It's the same thing concept as being married or being single - no one is actually better than the other. We choose what we suits us and bring us the best in us. To me the worst is really just doing something because everyone is doing it. ❤❤❤

[@chailatecookies7341]

You’re so beautiful and intelligent, you guys are lucky to have each other. God bless you both and your marriage. ❤❤❤

[@simpleflylife8189]

I am 47 and have always been child free. I now realize I missed a big blessing by choosing not to be a mom. Overall, I am very content with my decision and I wouldn't undo it. But as my friends are turning into grandparents, I realize I forfeited something huge in life. I wouldn't go back and do differently though. Just make sure you are clear about your why - why you have kids or why you don't. All the best to you and your hubby!

[@nikiedewael3766]

I think it is the fantasy you are craving now. Years ago when my colleges had (young) kids I was never jealous. I never wanted kids, the responsibility, cost, risks, no freedom. Now these colleges are becoming grandparents and that is a whole different dynamic. Sometimes I feel left out and that is a strange experience but still I can not say I want kids!

[@SagaJohanna]

SUCH an amazing video, and so eloquent and well put! I recently interviewed Cathrine Forner who said that biologically, only around 25% of people in a community had kids, and the rest of the society were makers, and hunters, and gatherers and helped raise the children or helped the community in one way or another. I love this kind of thinking!

[@anthis4297]

Wonderful video, thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤

[@JeanVoronkova]

glad it resonated 🙏🌻

[@corporatebreakoutcouple]

Before we started our hawker stall in 2018, we made a decision to not have kids. The hawker business took all our time, attention and energy literally 24/7. Now that we are early retired, we are living our best lives sans kids. Thanks for making this video. We totally resonate with all your reasons ❤

[@tubeEseen]

Beautiful and intelligent couple❤

[@dianeridgway8070]

Totally agree with everything you said. It is a personal choice. My husband and I are childfree and have been together for 27 years. We enjoy our freedom.

[@ms.rivera7898]

This is the most beautiful Childfree video I have ever seen. Thank you. 💕

[@alert-mercy]

I agree 100% and am of a like mind. The sad thing is that you WOULD make great parents...you would be wonderful role models and very likely raise an amazing person who would in turn impact the lives of others in a very positive way (hopefully). We need more balanced people in this world. Too many people are having kids and it being "no big deal". I think it is the biggest deal. Think of the love you have for your fur babies being increased exponentially (negative and positive :) ). I am 45 (f) with no kids and love my life...I literally do not want it to change lol...the freedom! :) That said, I always wanted kids but refused to without finding the right man (father) and having a peaceful wonderful home life (like you two have). I do not mean to sound like I'm pushing you in any way...but please consider it IF you are even slightly tempted :) I love your video

[@migracion.la.gran.leccion]

We felt the same way at the beginning. Then we decided to adopt. It is not easy, but we are so happy with our decision.

[@angelm1112]

Jean, thank you for your honesty. Not everyone is supposed to have kids and I think if most people were honest about their reasons for having kids, those reasons are mostly selfish. That responsibility is not the path for everyone. 🙏🏼 Being child free is such a blessing 🙏🏼

[@Indeana]

"We should live it well"......❤️❤️

[@jessiquilla1]

I fully admire you for living your truth and choosing the right path for you and your husband!! You said it all beautifully

[@SN-hg6bx]

It s really about being a « family »…..in the short and the long run. For me, after three kids i educated on my own while working full and overtime……loved with all my heart and gave every second of my life 24/7……and seldom see anymore……🤷‍♀️. I still cherish those amazing ordinary extraordinary moments of everyday shared with them. I wouldn t be the same today. Would i do it again?………🤷‍♀️. I totally understand your position. In my wisdom hears now, i wish we, humans, could start now and live for another 60 years 😊. We d be such better parents and life teachers. Thankyou for sharing dear ❤️

[@JeanVoronkova]

I really like your very measured perspective even though you obviously loved having your 3 kids so much. Thank you so much for sharing your story. And very valid point. We'll probably mostly be much better parents if we can live life fully first and then be contented, (hopefully) more learned role models for the kids.

[@hedge931]

Thank you for touching on all these key points with such kindness.

[@goodcatfilms4276]

It’s hard to no if the pressure comes from external or internal forces on whether or not it’s wrong to not have kids… that’s what troubles me the most. Still childless at this point at the age of 32 it’s now a full time curiousity

[@tanyarenaissance8829]

I think having kids is about having them with the right person.❤

[@raysorayaray]

You are free to chooce, always in your self by your self, norhing to do with others. Enjoy your life just thevway you are🎉🎉

[@britniandben]

Well said! We have the same mindset about this topic and we are very happy with our child free marriage/lifestyle. We love that our friends and family who have kids are enjoying their life as well! All about focusing on what true happiness looks like for each individual. Thank you for sharing these thoughts and points on this topic. Have a wonderful day!

[@Childfree_Jerra]

Very well said! Your life isn't less valid because you chose not to have children. Also, being childfree is a very VALID, personal lifestyle choice. P.S. I love Bali, Indonesia & I love your channel! Much love and success to you and your husband!💜

[@JeanVoronkova]

thank you

[@Childfree_Jerra]

@@JeanVoronkova You’re welcome 🙂

[@Fazevedoadv]

I think that wanting kids is a feeling that comes with a person, such as liking banana or a pineapple. There are some that like one or another. The problem is that society make feeling wrong to not liking banana.

[@philippkrueger4410]

Well said

[@thepainphantom]

You have a kind aura!

[@monkeychops1585]

And who says your life or anyone else’s has to be meaningful anyway? It’s up to you. Having the courage to do it your way is the real test.

[@СофьяЧемоданова-ы4я]

I was a childfree in my early twenties. There were times wnen I could say to a woman with kids: "I don't understand what's the reason of having a baby!" Now I'm in my late thirties and a mom of two teenagers. And I really can't believe that can produce such perfect human beings!!!😊 So proud of them❤ But I understand your feelings as a former child free. We sometimes just can't imagine how life may turn up. It's still a miracle for me.

[@philippkrueger4410]

Im currently living a childfree lifestyle and I am glad you are happy with your decision. Its a very difficult one to make for some and simply didn’t want to flip the coin just to find out if its a win or a loss.

[@gabriela.castellanos]

Thank you for this video 🙏🙏🙏

[@mayclark6818]

As long as you are happy for your life ! Enjoy it, life is too short . Don't care others thinking!! ❤👍👍👍

[@mylesleggette7520]

This is a very nice, mature, and positive alternative to many of the silly "childfree" pride messages we see so often, thank you! That said though, the part about the business of life being to acquire memories is silly on its face. The business of life is to propagate life. Everything else is secondary to that. (But since one can propagate life indirectly too, that hardly means childlessness is in conflict with that purpose!)

[@LamNguyen-qb4ic]

No kid is much better and give you lot of freedom to retire early. Enjoy your life and whatever make you and your man happy that's all matter. Good luck to you.

[@wk.t2161]

I totally respect your choice to not have children. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have 8....and really really wanted them...and feel so blessed and have enjoyed them all.

[@hannapineda6292]

Hi Jean- thank-you for sharing your opinions.

[@MN-wg8qd]

Never was too interested in kids, but was open to it and we had twins without really 'trying' and its great. Its hard work, but brings a lot of joy. I am not trying to convince anyone of anything, I think that people should follow their hearts. I'm glad to have busted ass in my 20s and saved a lot before them. I can absolutely see how having kids really locks you in and kills plans. We are still going to retire/be FI in our 30s though which is the exception and are going to make our travel plans work too, but we will be restricted. I think that if people want them and FI then they need to make adjustments to make it all work. But I think its absolutely fine if you don't want them. I know its a common saying, but I find it true that YOUR KIDS are different. I know its bad to say, but I don't really give a fuck about other kids or my non-blood nieces/nephews, but I love the hell out of mine and love watching them learn and grow.

[@JeanVoronkova]

Thanks for this note I'm really glad you shared your view without making us feel pressure about our choices. I'm really in love with my furkids and they make me wonder if I should reconsider about children, but at the same time I feel like my cup is so full with the 2 of them and our family as it is already and everything is good as it is. It's wonderful that you have twins and you're so in love with them! And fab job with the FI for 4 😍👍

[@TetyanaBurgers]

Mom of 2 here, expecting my third. Fully understand and agree with her point of view. I think the main reason people don't have kinds is just because they have a choice not to. Kids are hard work, they take away a lot from you - physically, mentally, financially, career wise etc.etc. The list goes on. Despite all of it, I'd still choose to have them over and over again, but that's just me, guess I'm just a sucker for pain 😂

[@lindajmorrison]

Would not forget the challenges - sleeplessness - but I lucked on great kids - that chose me. And was pregnant and breastfeeding for 4 years straight as they were close in age. And I have been transformed for the better with these challenges. Strengths and confidence ms developed I would have has had to access if I didn’t have to support for them and have them show me what unconditional depth of love is. Having looked after in our wellness businesses thousands of families everyone’s experience is different. But choosing to be a parent is not always a conscious choice … life/ god/ universe whatever you believe in sometimes has a better/ different plan for you, kids or no kids. But child birth and all the stages , even empty nesting I have never thought it suck balls even 6 years of not sleeping.

[@siaec3094]

😀 Brought back precious times! Just be happy, always. ☺

[@gregorypierce7473]

One of my favorite videos. Thanks for your insight and sharing your experience.

[@JeanVoronkova]

glad it helps :)

[@Lik3ToSing]

I tried hard for my life. At 35, i ve experienced all things I wanted in life. It took me another 2 year to desire to have kid. I was worried that I might not able to have kid due to personal circumstances, age and health. The decision doesn’t come easy but I asked myself if there’s only one thing left in life I want to do, what is it? The answer is clear to me. It is also due to the fact that I feel full filled with myself at the age that I can still have my own kid. If i was 45-50, I might not have one

[@sjcobra84]

Single. Childless. Never been married. Living the merc life and that's how I like it.

[@lindajmorrison]

Parenting is incredible and never sucks balls ... It is truly the best thing I have ever done and I have achieved a good amount in my short years - The toughest thing has been empty nesting. DO not ever think otherwise. WE grow completely for and through them it is truly unexplainable to anyone whom have not stepped through this experience. Choices are fine. All our lives are valid. If we live full and well. We make our best choices and also children come to us even when we do not choose.

[@andrewholly9129]

parenting NEVER sucks balls? as an empty nester, are you forgetting the early years when babies can cry nonstop and toddlers can tantrum for hours, fight sleep, whine/screech if they don't get what they want, and basically wreak havoc everywhere? not saying that your kids personally did those things, but they are common challenges to consider when deciding if you want to have kids.

[@niasteadley]

In the thick of parenting with a 2.5 year old and I can assure you there is plenty of ball sucking times 😂 and even more wonderful ones

[@lindajmorrison]

@@niasteadley toddlers are my fav… enjoy. Some teenagers can allow you to know you are really living. Especially the fiercely independent ones!

[@tubeEseen]

When you say it is unexplainable, I don't believe you. If not you, surely someone in the history of the world has found the words.

[@stloh3475]

If I can do it again, I will not have children. My wife have to stop working for 18 years when we had the second child. We exhausted our saving, sending both for further study. When they start working they have our new cars & never return it plus we have to pay for servicing. They bought house we have top up their downpayment. I don't expect them to take care of us at old age with their past & existing performance

[@deschua76]

Both of you made the choice to spoil your kids. Yours is a good example of bad parenting. Morons..

[@thecowegg]

Need to set boundaries. Might sound harsh but it is what it is. We need to have some for our old age as well, even so it might not be enough what more to say if we invest everything in them 🥲 Chrildren make us laugh and cry but end of the day it's us old couples that need to live it thru our old age. 😃

[@deschua76]

Both of u spoiled your kids and you got what u deserved…

[@beaulieuc8910]

you made that bed

[@martypoll]

I never had kids. I never had the urge. I got a vasectomy at 40. That was a great decision. Fortunately I never got pressured about it. I’m 68 now. No regrets. Population decline is a real phenomenon though.

[@lisajaneparker]

You just gave words to how I feel 🥹

[@vivxx5939]

Jean I wish we could meet a couple like you guys to travel with us. I´m the same age as you and no kids either. Many other similarities too. xx

[@bobmarker6812]

I'm 63 and have known since I was 17 I didn't want kids. I like kids but didn't want the responsibility or expense. Retired at 57. Life is great. Alot of people my age have their adult kids living at home and are raising grand kids.

[@TheMaxymama]

6:20 the cutest puppy in the world 😢

[@zxia6096]

Thanks!

[@ConsciousOriginals]

Thanks for sharing. I've never really wanted to have kids. Not my dharma. And I'm pretty happy to have never felt any pressure on that side. It's not a requirement. ;) I like your videos.

[@philippkrueger4410]

I wonder how many parents exist not because they wanted to be parents but because they were pressured into parenthood due to societal expectations and norms.

[@taberfrench]

I always knew kids were not for me from the time I was a kid myself. All my friends would babysit for money and I did it a few times and HATED it. Hard pass.

[@JeanVoronkova]

i think its prob smtg we shd affirm as we get older ... but i guess some people are consistent from an early age 😊

[@sokkimly8182]

Can anyone notice about the landfill, there are mountains of trash around the world. It’s ok to have kids if you’re ready. But how many people out there ask themselves that one question.

[@mindbodyhome102]

No kids here and single woman in mid sixties....no regrets! In 9th grade biology we were shown a video of "natural" childbirth. All the other girls were saying how beautiful it was and I was screaming "that is the most horrifically disgusting thing I have ever seen!" I knew right then and there that I would never have kids! I was 13

[@edelweisskai]

It’s different life, both are good, with kids without kids. I have kids, I always imagine no kids I would really enjoy, maybe even more

[@philippkrueger4410]

Both decisions are good if they are made for the right people. Childfree could also be horrible if your desire is to have a family etc, being a parent could also be horrible if you desire more freedom and didn’t want this lifestyle

[@svetla1star]

Jean, I love your energy and your videos. Thank you!! Also, can I ask if you can recommend Bali locations with less tourists and good for surfing? You may have a video on that, but I am not sure. Thank you!

[@tinycookie1704]

I have the exact same thoughts. My wife doesn't agree with me sometimes because she was born to be a people pleaser. She says we'll be happy after we have kids. I say we should have kids after we are happy with ourselves. I don't know, it's a struggle.

[@shamekabenjamin8010]

I’m sorry for your struggle with this decision. Having children is not really something one can compromise on.. you can either have them or not. So I hope that you both are able to make the best decision about what is right for the two of you. However, if you’re not already happy right now… then bringing a child into a marriage that is still seeking happiness would not be in either of your best interest in my humble opinion. I agree with you, happiness THEN children, not the reverse.

[@beaulieuc8910]

mismatch

[@xiaomei3137]

The reason why people choose a child free life is because in their past lives they already experienced raising children so in next life they want to try something different

[@lidna82]

We will never be ready for everything - marriage, kids, bungee, scuba diving or pursue a new learning... etc. What usually holds us back is the absolute lack of understanding of what the next minute or future entails or the fear of not being successful including parenthood.

[@mandylee7377]

I never wanted kids. Alnost did when I was 21 which made me decide that it definitely wasn't for me. I was told because of a few gyneocological issues I'd have problems in pregnancy and childbirth. I dont regtet it at all.

[@unsaltedbeurre3411]

Same here. I've never wanted kids, or to be more precise, I've never wanted to sign up to a profession called 'parent'. It's just the same as me never wanting to be a doctor, a pilot, a soldier, etc. because I know what those jobs entail and I know what being a parent entails and it's a big no for me. My partner, on the other hand, has adult children and he said parenting was easy and fun, only because he wanted it. So, like you said, it comes down to being honest to ourselves and taking responsibility for our own decisions. Unfortunately, too many humans have children when they actually don't really want to and shouldn't. That's why there are so many troubled humans out there. People often say to me it's selfish to not have kids. I always reply to them it's even more selfish to have kids when you aren't sure or don't want to but go ahead and have them anyway just because they're scared of not following the herd or scared of being alone in old age.