Making It Work With Enneagram Type 7

[@catchmeifyoucan6731]

Ugh. You nailed it. There's so much of what you said that makes me so proud to be a 7 and absolutely horrified of the damage I can do. Very accurate and helpful video.

[@elaarahmentangour4504]

The only half an hour video length i've ever watched in my life

[@JohnnyRecently]

I believe a mature 7-6 and a 9 are a good match. After the 7-6 sows wild oats he/she can be very trustworthy. 7-8's often times are emotional sadists. 7's make great parents. They understand the commitment to children and so they are reluctant to become parents. However if they have children they give their all.

[@melancholikak6844]

Crawford Glissadevil I'm dating an estp type 7, yes when mature they are ridiculous loyal. Estp and 7s get a bad rap.

[@alexis3030303030]

"7 with a to do list" I've made so many... and never used any of them

[@seanorton9333]

I think your videos are just fantastic! I'm a 7 and my husband a 9. "Making it work with 9s" has been one of the most helpful videos to me. You do something that hardly anyone else does. You remind us about the good things, the things to appreciate in each other along with the things to be aware of and work on. Thank you so much!

[@thomass.6833]

One of my best friends is a 7w8, so this should be really helpful! You are absolutely right about 7s being deeper than they appear. My friend and I have had some very deep conversations about things that I never would have thought he would care about. Good video!

[@vixenxiiiv]

Im a 7 w/ 8 wing and an INFJ .. I can relate to the "unquestionable need for time to myself" .. nailed this video on the head. Im 33 and finally able to understand myself on a deeper level!!!

[@angeliquegrace6625]

Just started dating a guy that I believe is a 7w6 , bubbly , energy , head type . Our first date was very entertaining to say the least ... thank you for explaining this more in detail what I was observing . 6W5 here 😀

[@pacifictrufflegrowers]

I just love how you put this all into "layman" terminology! I (7) might actually get my newly wed husband (8) to watch this. Thank you!

[@vixenxiiiv]

Pacific Truffle Growers how’s the new marriage going ? I’m a 7 and my boyfriend is an 8 been dating for 11 months and I can def see him proposing to me in the future 😬

[@AlanaL3]

I’m an 8 w 9 married 14 years to my wonderful 7❤️❤️❤️❤️ There’s a lot here that’s him and a lot that’s not...

[@Gabriella-rn5lx]

SO accurate. I'm only 1/3 of the way through the video, but so far, I would agree with the vast majority of your points. It's also been helpful, as a 7, to hear an outsiders perspective on the 'late arrival' habit and how it's perceived by others. Us 7's view punctuality very differently, so it's refreshing to hear another point of view. While we're on the subject: I love how you touch base on the negatives and not just the positives. These days I feel that most people are too scared of offending anyone to give honest insight anymore. So kudos to you!

[@tedtalksrock]

Also, just an a thought, you seem MUCH more like an intj than an infj. You may want to revisit that. But thanks for putting this out there. Enjoyed hearing your breakdown of the personality types and I thought the info you presented was VERY insightful. Thanks!

[@bowbrat4012]

She is def not an infj. Zero empathy.

[@Ms.Gollygosh]

This is so true!!! Great points all around! Being a 7 (ENFP), I was in a relationship with a very unhealthy enneagram 1 (worst match possible). I felt more like an enneagram 9 by the end of it. Would love to find a healthy 2,6 or 9 someday :-)

[@alexis3030303030]

Type 7 in a netshull: makes elaborate plans to prepare for how they are going to do something but then never follows any of those preparations.

[@Levigna1983]

I've had a very bad experience with an unhealthy 7. She hurt my feelings a lot for all the reasons you said. I see the point of why they can be "useful" but at the moment I am better off without them XD

[@dannastowe7097]

Wow! I needed to hear this! Wish you had one on each type!

[@palindrome02]

I am a 3W2 and my husband is Type 7 . 😸 I find this video really helpful. Keep up the Good Work !!!

[@tedtalksrock]

Nice video but one correction: The 7 doesn't just 'say' they didn't see the chores that need to be done. The thought of doing something repetitive makes them want to literally blow their brains out. And YES, you SHOULD help the 7, if you have that in you, to do the repetitive tasks, because if you do they will LOVE you forever.

[@SmellTheRoses]

OMG yes!!! Help the 7 out! Please! That would be my main correction on this video too. As a 7, I have so many things on my 'to do' list (yes I have one to keep me on track) because of all the adventures and shenanigans I plan, that a lot of times I forget to take care of basic needs. I always do the dishes and vacuum and do all the monotonous stuff when I can, but a lot of times, I'm so overwhelmed with daily hobbies or projects that I can't get to them. By the time I get home, sometimes I'm just exhausted and so I can't seem to get the basic things done....I even skip dinner a lot of times because I'm too tired and making dinner just creates more dishes. I literally have to schedule entire weekends where I just clean and organize otherwise I have a hard time keeping up. So if someone actually helps me out by doing some of these small things, it means THE WORLD to me!!!! Doing those little things for me helps make my life just that much easier and I usually return the gesture in my own little 7 way by taking you out on an awesome adventure or buying you dinner, etc. Acts of service is the way to my heart.....seriously!

[@jensinegrace]

YES! i 100% agree with this! as a 7, i fucking HATE doing seemingly “boring” activities. so if there’s someone who could do those with me, it’s SO much easier for me to make those activities fun. thus actually enjoying “boring” chores! and i will love you forever for turning something boring into something fun with me. as a contrast though, if i’m with someone who also hates and avoids chores; then they try to help and i try to make it fun and then they shove that fun out of the way bc “these are chores and they suck and they’re not supposed fun in any way” that honestly just makes it worse than doing it by yourself.

[@melancholikak6844]

7s seem to truly want a "partner" in all things; taking the pain out if mundane tasks would be one of them.

[@candacemyers2718]

This is my love language. I have a to do list ALWAYS, but it never gets done. One thing I appreciated about my ex who is istj enneagram 8 is his list was started asap and finished as soon as possible. I don't know how to complete a list 😂

[@themoonbleu627]

tedtalksrock I disagree we say we didn’t see

[@katieluann2054]

I'm a estp 7 and I say sorry easily. And I mess up all the time! My husband is a 5 intp and really doesn't give a shit if I mess up or not. I bring sparkle to his life! The prefect match for me! My boyfriend is a 7 entp and also says sorry and feels really bad when he realizes he's been thoughtless and mean. He's worth keeping around because he brings so much fun into my life.

[@katieluann2054]

I do remove the stick from people's ass' all the time. and i use that term all the time! 🤣

[@poppyseed5056]

why do you have a husband and a boyfriend...

[@soraiaveret]

You have a housband and a boyfriend ?? That wouldn't happen with an 8 xd

[@christophersharp8235]

7 wing 6 and entp. Worked bloody hard on completing whatever I start as know this is my major weakness. ALso notice huge benefit to yoga, tho dont do it enough.

[@MrRufe0]

I have been with a 7w6 for 5 years + and loved the video!

[@SirenoftheVoid]

I see myself a lot in those things. As far as i can remember i have always apologized,pretended like i was gonna do what was asked of me but then not have the will to act on the words i said. And yes i tend to do chores mostly when i feel i can't put them off anymore but that has been improving a bit as i have done more introspection and realized that i am somewhat tired of my life going in the wrong direction.

[@davinadhani7302]

There is definitely a disturbing number of similarities between 7's and 9's. I relate to this a lot as a 9.

[@edwinfalkner152]

Great video Jennifer, really insightful and to the point... As an ENTP 7w8 I felt the urge to Debater your points but i'm trying to improve, so i'll not defend my ego. God bless the internet and the possibility to quickly find unicorns.... i mean, INFJs (sorry).

[@christina2311]

INFP 7w6. And schedules made by other people annoy me. I like gatherings where I can come or not, come late, and it wouldn’t really matter or hurt anyone’s feelings either way. Our mentality is that people should chill out and stop making a big deal out of things.

[@rufaedarasheed3250]

literallllyyyyy so trueee

[@M.Moadeli123]

Weird. I'm a self typed enfp 7w6 sx/sp, and I put my relationships above me. I have a strong 2 as well. I'm also very reliable and follow through with my words. What gives?

[@learninglifetogether7683]

Sarah Jasmine M Maybe those are instances where the type 3 and 2 are more dominant. I’m a type 7 overall, but I know there are a few areas of my life and aspects of my personality which are controlled much more by the type 3 in my 7w3 personality. It sounds like for you, those are two areas where your 6 and 2 are a little more dominant even if you’re a 7 overall. And it sounds like it is serving you well! Those are traits you listed are fantastic personality characteristics to have! 😊

[@jcr-studios]

Same. I found this video really harsh and unrealistic for 7’s. Not sure if I am one yet.

[@M.Moadeli123]

@@learninglifetogether7683 Only just saw your comment. Thanks for the sweet response. Its rare for me to get praised in those qualities which I try live up to. 🤗

[@candacemyers2718]

I'm an infj 7w8 and really like hearing your perspective of this type. It doesn't always fit me because my enneagram is so different, but generally it does resonate with me. Also, coming from experience 7s and 8s together can be explosive after some time.

[@reynabreuring1920]

As an enfp type seven, I feel like you might have generalized sevens as thinking types. While some sevens might be like your mother in laws sister, not all of us are.

[@maritzasantoyo3046]

Reyna Breuring I’m an enfp 7 too!!

[@jensinegrace]

i felt this too.. bc i’ve always tried very hard to cater to the people i love, and anticipate they’re needs. it was only as a young adult i realized it was healthier for me to just “do my own thing” sometimes

[@ashlenjackson8283]

Reyna Breuring Yeah I’m an ENFP 7w8. And the 8 part of me cannot stand when people aren’t considerate of others, by not playing their role.

[@groawning1345]

@@jensinegrace I think the social 7 instinct does that too

[@amphibeingmcshpongletron5026]

Thank you for making me feel so attacked. I needed to hear this lol. Especially around 20:00 😬 - 7w6 SX ENFP

[@GneissTee]

Wow, just discovered enneagram yesterday after finding a MB test for my cousin to take. Helping her to discover skills for retirement income. In any case. I'm a 7 of course and lots of this is about me... but I'm also a Cancer Sun/Scorpio Moon/Libra Rising, so I"m actually a bit more considerate of others' feelings. But, I cannot commit to a boring relationship and 99.9% of my relationships ended because the men said they could not trust me. I have never cheated, but having lots of male platonic friends made my relationship men feel that I was cheating. But, thanks.... this video was so ON POINT.

[@suzannebennett1542]

Hola , thanks very much for this insightful talk , yes, this is confirming what I intuitively reckoned to be the way to go with my 7 partner , I’m a 9 ..I appreciate your level of understanding , maturity at 29 wow ..

[@Stoffendous]

From 21:10 onwards I knew I wasnt gonna show this video to my girlfriend.

[@jcr-studios]

I’m trying to figure out whether or not I’m 7 but based on this video I don’t want to be one. Why focus on all the potential negative traits of a type?

[@emilielehmann705]

Sorry but this is such a type 7 answer! “Why focus on the bad things?” is how type 7 is typically described. I think it is important to remember that the video is about dealing with a type 7, so it’s only natural to focus on the bad stuff. She also said a lot of nice things! I’m a type 7 and I can recognize many of the thought processes in the video but that does not mean I follow all these “bad” patterns. When I discover I’m following a stress pattern I can choose to act differently. The Enneagram is a way to understand yourself not define and limit 😊

[@ashleyching7894]

When you did this It leads me to feel/think this I’d prefer if you did this

[@rufaedarasheed3250]

literally spot onnnnnnn! i love this!!!

[@BossBattleHub]

I’m a 7, INTP and Sagittarius.

[@ecarl12]

Oh so accurate of a friend of mine. Thank you for this helpful video. :).

[@soraiaveret]

I don't know as an 8, you say there is a match between 7 and 8. Well as an 8 i got REALLY attracted to a 7. but soon enough, he "left me behind to do his stuff" as you say, things started to go bad. And him and I have this taste for adrenaline rush, so we started kindof taunted each other a little bit but. The way he has to avoid responsibility, accept sacrifice from me but can't return the favor, can never say thank you, can never say sry, can't accept to agnoledge that he hurt me, and trying to avoid conversations when I try to talk (by putting responsability on me and making me feel guilty) makes me think that its kindof hard for an 8 to be with a seven, at least from this experience I had. but thanks for video, very interesting !

[@dorcashealey3265]

I would put the vitamin in the ice cream :D 15:45

[@joesickler5888]

No one gets fashionably late?

[@Sheristen]

19:01 is PEAK sevenness! I will do this thing anyways, byeeeeeeee

[@malindaeckert2300]

Hey i know this is 3 yrs old, but you just said youre an infj 6 wing 7... Are you sure you're not an entp? I don't know what it is exactly but you really remind me of an entp. Specifically when you follow that up with the being tbat harbinger of truth. Bc you want someone to be healthy. You've got reality check written all over you

[@bowbrat4012]

Maybe you can be less controlling and forcing others to be the way you want. 🤷

[@ashleyching7894]

Want to do over relationships

[@ashleyching7894]

If you get angry, they’re gonna bail

[@ashleyching7894]

Emotional & intellectual depth

[@ashleyching7894]

Spontaneous, high-energy

[@ashleyching7894]

Independent lives or go with 7’s agenda

[@ashleyching7894]

Tell them if you hurt them. Be independent.

[@diannecobb1506]

I am 100per cent 7 but I'm not a extrovert

[@weedarussell2945]

Geez, am I THAT bad?

[@MrRufe0]

I happen to be an infp 4w3 lol

[@neptuniankamie9]

Ugh. I'm such a 7 wanna be lol

[@jennywawa88]

LOL. To be fair, I'm pretty sure that most people are SEVEN wanna-be's. Except for maybe the THREES and the EIGHTS who seem to me to be completely satisfied with who they are. (For the most part.)

[@Lavender1775]

@@jennywawa88 Everybody?...um ok