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@initiatorhater06883 жыл бұрын
i wish conversation-skills, conversation-ability, was taught in school in our teens, social-skills, social-dynamics, etc.
@victorc.45323 жыл бұрын
That`s a great warm up! Thanks! People just need to realize that this is just an ice breaker. If they did this the entire conversation, it will look like an interview or like they are beeing nosey hahahaha
@so96053 жыл бұрын
Great tip for an introvert as myself. It’s hard to believe that once, you were a socially awkward person . You give me hope.😅 Thank you.
@CarlosSilva-xe8mm3 жыл бұрын
"How many chardonnays you had?" might be a difficult question to answer ;) In magic we use questions for misdirection and we know there's a difference between "internal" vs "external" questions. For example, "is it cold where you're sitting?" would be an external question and "do you feel cold where you're sitting?" would be internal. External questions are easier to answer because they relate to the environment. Another example is when we find a card in a card trick, we ask an internal question “is this the card you’re thinking off?”. And that has more impact than the external question “is this the card you’ve picked?” Do you have similar definitions? And have you study applications of these topics in the context of magic and misdirection? :)
@augustuscaesar99953 жыл бұрын
I like your advice. As for the Chardonnay question, if it’s difficult to answer, then you’ve had too many
@ScienceOfPeople3 жыл бұрын
Fascinating! I have not yet studied them in the context of magic...add to my list = )
@footlongsubzero11283 жыл бұрын
This comment has sparked my interest greatly, internal vs external questions. I've gotta find out more on this 🤔. Thanks for bringing this to my attention
@smallgalaxy75093 жыл бұрын
This is great, my mind always goes blank at open ended questions. I freeze. Its good to see i'm not the only one.
@ScienceOfPeople3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! You are so not alone = )
@yurkouki3 жыл бұрын
Great. From now on I’ll start with number question. And my favorite will be “Hi. What’s your ss number ? “
@JiyainIzzatKaySath3 жыл бұрын
Yes, with introverts, it's a great technique indeed.👍💯
@JiyainIzzatKaySath3 жыл бұрын
Yes, you are right regarding VIPs as well.👍💯
@JiyainIzzatKaySath3 жыл бұрын
@@MasterTalks Thank you.🙏 Stay blessed and protected!🤲 Aamin Summa Aamin!
@alexandertye32443 жыл бұрын
Nice to know that I was doing this unconsciously I loved peeking all the details of someone life to get a good vision about there life so I can give the most effective advice they will ever hear
@footlongsubzero11283 жыл бұрын
I use this often but was unaware it was a numbers question thing. Now that you've brought it to my attention, I'm gonna add a few more to my repertoire. Thanks to you and Jerry
@CharlesHartman3 жыл бұрын
Brilliant! I will be adding this technique into my consultation process.
@paulaa.68333 жыл бұрын
Your smile is completely disarming. It makes me smile every time. Thanks! I think smiling is underrated and if done authentically it can be perceived as honest and more approachable. And that's why I watch your videos. Great tip on number questions. Will definitely apply it.
@marksgameoflife84463 жыл бұрын
Love the way you explain thing simple, clear and with examples!
@sudarshanmahadev41713 жыл бұрын
That’s a great tip. Take an initiative with a numbers based question. Then proceed with other questions. Vanessa, can you please make a video on storytelling?
@ScienceOfPeople3 жыл бұрын
I will add it to my list!
@sudarshanmahadev41713 жыл бұрын
@@ScienceOfPeople you are the best
@amanda.doskocil-music3 жыл бұрын
Love that show and thank you Vanessa. ❤️🙏😁
@tanyaazarov073 жыл бұрын
I love you! You get me and give the most brilliant advice! You help me so much. Thank you!!!
@humanize.project3 жыл бұрын
EXCELLENT HACK! Thx Vanessa 👍👍👍
@royrieder21133 жыл бұрын
My gosh, this is a great channel! Lovely content; this tip is the best I've heard all day!
@Rose-oq2hn3 жыл бұрын
NEVER ask someone how many drinks they’ve had. They won’t like you.
@LaurelKashinn3 жыл бұрын
Great tip! Thank you!
@a7xfanben Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the tips!
@ScienceOfPeople Жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@farhanarahaman19753 жыл бұрын
Love your every single video
@tamilagil3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for such an amazing idea that surely help me a lot ... Love from india❤️
@sindypetronella3 жыл бұрын
Amazing
@FactStorm Жыл бұрын
After they answer how long it took them to get somewhere, where are ya left off? LOL..I get the point of this video but there is no hack to the jumping point of conversation..it all comes down to skills & experience.
@anapatrizcastrillo53603 жыл бұрын
Is that also the reason why I love math and I hate essays? Im an introvert...
@carelschilp85923 жыл бұрын
So, when I meet a woman, I should ask "So, how old are you?" ;)
@alexandrakurapova9963 жыл бұрын
Tell us after you try it 😆
@carelschilp85923 жыл бұрын
@@alexandrakurapova996 Okay..., How old are you?
@Candican23 жыл бұрын
hahahaha!
@ScienceOfPeople3 жыл бұрын
LOL this is so good. While it is a numbers based question, I would chose a DIFFERENT number to ask about ; )
@carelschilp85923 жыл бұрын
@@ScienceOfPeople Hi Vanessa, glad you like it. I enjoy your work on KZbin a lot; keep up the good work. If you want to know more about the underlying mechanisms of things like social anxiety (internal and external considering) and identification, read up on P.D. Ouspensky and G.I Gurdjieff if you haven't already. I can recommend "In search of the Miraculous" Pretty heavy stuff, but it explains human behavior and, after all, humans and that's what we're here for on our journey. Thx. for the comment. Greetings from Holland & Regards, Carel.
@ToddChandler3 жыл бұрын
How many numbers questions can you think of?
@janetstraw1913 жыл бұрын
What about doctors, dentists and hairdressers??
@jlingviolin3 жыл бұрын
Have you ever had a first view? I have now!
@Kinging763 жыл бұрын
try asking age of a women
@nobodysperfect063 жыл бұрын
I assume your husband had to make the first move or ask you out first