Answering your BURNING questions

[@tiffcrawl]

Thanks!

[@JessicaKent]

As thank you so much! You didn’t have to do that 🥹❤️

[@laniejones8747]

This really helped me be more positive. I changed from saying “I have to _____” to “I get to_____”. Like I get to do laundry because I have more than one outfit and I have easy access to an automatic washer and dryer. I get to load the dishwasher because I have one, etc. ❤ So nice to see you so happy.

[@PlutosAsleep]

i love this ❤❤

[@JessicaKent]

I love this!

[@danalinnan2596]

Im about to be 25, I became a teen mom 19, and when I was 22 I got a serious concussion at work after a student struck my jaw with an iPad. I wish I had this advice back then. I ended up getting concussed after being head butted by a student. At the time I was in a long term relationship with a narcissist and he was so mad that I was so injured (I also had two sprained wrists and a loose knee cap). I could barely shower and had to keep working to pay the bills. If I had this advice I think I would've left that man a lot sooner and felt more at ease about every day pressure. I'm also on the spectrum 🙃 thanks for sharing this and I'm definitely gonna pay it forward

[@MScrista24]

Switching to this mindset saaaved myself in early recovery

[@WhitneyStone-d3b]

Me too!! I would recommend for everyone to read this book called the waiting game it's like a workbook to like really get deep into like what's going on it's honestly like a therapy session know it's called what are you waiting for by it's a practical guide to knowing what you want and making it happen now and it is so good the author is Shelly bronco

[@JessicaKent]

I know the audio isn’t great but I didn’t want to refilm bc it isn’t ever the same lol

[@Shelly-bts]

Audio is fine. No worries

[@dinamolinaro8829]

Sounded fine

[@hydrorouge]

It sounds totally fine! 🖤

[@NaturallyCrazyKilla]

@jessicakent sounds like you're in the beautiful UT

[@FragranceEuphoria]

@@NaturallyCrazyKilla Stop speculating on where she lives she said she wants it to be private for safety

[@ZoeF.O]

I just love how your face is lighting up, only when Berner's name comes around and you just need to say it, because someone is asking about you two! It's not possible that other people can't see how much you two are happy, and so great for one another. You have never been so young, so shiny and absolutely amazing and disarmingly adorable. I can't not to tell you that again and again. It's crazy what real love can do for a person. In this case - it's both of you. He is also so much see-through, it's absolutely adorable how vividly he is into you. And I think I have never been so happy for someone that I have never seen in real life. This is huge coming from me, because I'm not used to be so positive and painfully honest and so serious about it. I'm not quite a sunshine, I'm mostly seeing myself as moon-semilight. 😅♥️

[@SummerGoforth]

This comment is everything ❤

[@StarlightEdith]

Shiny you say… I know what you are - say it … - say it Prison KZbinr!! 😅

[@o0venusinfurs0o]

Nothing prepares you for when your kid starts saying "Bruhhh" and rolling their eyes 🥲😂

[@betsybabf748]

I just got a t-shirt that says "Mommy, Mom, Ma, Bruh" of the transition through the years.

[@Naturefan354]

My 10 year old already does that 😂

[@clycreative]

Oh my gosh as someone who also struggles with adhd and mornings… I have never heard a statement more true than “the lights are loud” 🤣❤️ so accurate. I love your videos and I’m so excited following your journey with your new family and everything ❤️

[@Shelly-bts]

I never knew the name of “gentle parenting” until about a year ago. My daughter is almost 16 and I have been doing that since birth. I can also be a helo parent.

[@WhitneyStone-d3b]

I have a grown daughter n I'm a nana. I also gentle parented my children but we can only set them up and you know hope for the best and set them on the right path because that's the hardest thing I think for parenting because I mean I'm truly proud of my daughter she's a great mother but I'm just saying.. you never quit worrying you never quit

[@CorgiDaddy2]

PTSD vs cPTSD for those who wish to know (this is a generalization). PTSD is usually what happens when there is a single event such as one episode of SA or a medical emergency etc. cPTSD is diagnosed for someone who experiences repeated trauma such as childhood SA or a war zone or an abusive relationship.

[@WhitneyStone-rz4iu]

Yes exactly and people will say they think they have a people will go and have a physical literal physical reaction like it was happening like it's there is a spectrum of it.. imo

[@goodshotman]

I didn't know that either! Thank you for the clarification!

[@natashaw401]

Thank you

[@sciencenotstigma9534]

Also, just a reminder that when you’re dealing with old folks like me, they may be diagnosed with PTSD, but would be diagnosed with complex PTSD, today. Psychiatrists didn’t make these distinctions. ❤

[@marry632]

Your whole energy in this is so different from what it used to be! You're giving centered and calm vibes and I love that for you, so here for it! ❤

[@brandiconnors7474]

“The lights are loud” YES

[@MyEndoJourney]

Jess, YOU using your voice against abusers has been HUGE for me during a trauma anniversary. I wake up drenched in sweat from vivid night terrors. Your videos have helped me and I know thousands of other women SO much! Thank you!! I love your authenticity and soul! Keep smiling & shining! 🫶🏽

[@PlutosAsleep]

so happy that berners baby girl has a motherly figure who will love her so well ❤

[@amandipa8368]

When you talk about life, sometimes I just get the urge to cry, in a good way ❤️ just beautiful to hear a woman walking in her truth even when it is difficult, and being honest about the challenges every step of the way. When you mentioned gardening with berner at your new place, I got teary. So happy for you, thank you for being a light in this world, and a force of authenticity and love. You rock for real !! ♥️

[@michitariru]

Top thing I wasn’t expecting out of this video was a Peter Griffin ‘tadaaaaa’ with your mug shot and I nearly did a spit take with my coffee laughing so thank you for the good laugh Jessica 😂😂

[@PurpleWillowArts]

I think you and Berner are doing an awesome job with your kiddos. From what you’ve showed us they look so happy and free. I love that. He seems like a great Dad too. 💜💜

[@lizatheking]

i have cptsd, bpd, adhd and depression. got all diagnosed at 20. I was like HOW did no one in my childhood did anything about my symptoms

[@ZippyKittyCat]

I really liked hearing more about you and your day-to-day life and positive things that are happening for you. 😊 I’ve really been enjoying the more casual content like cooking and decorating and hearing about your family trips. ❤

[@crystalerios]

OMG I CRIED when you said about people with adhd and lovebombing because FINALLY someone puts it into words how I think

[@crystalerios]

Not me geeking out cuz one of my fav KZbinrs loved my comment ❤️

[@NormaJean951]

Can you talk about your Antisocial personality diagnosis and how you cope with that?

[@hannahb7038]

She's since mentioned in a video that that video was deleted due to finding out that it was a misdiagnosis. Which made me so happy/satisfied because I KNEW she didn't have it.

[@JessicaKent]

I was misdiagnosed. My diagnosis per 3 different doctors (a 4th agreed right after my move bc I obviously needed to change doctors since I no longer live in Illinois) is C-PTSD and severe ADHD ❤️

[@trisha1217]

LOVED this video you seem so much more happier and that makes me happy!

[@hattiesimpson6941]

I totally needed this video tonight! I left someone who beat me weekly for 10 years only 8 months ago and I’m in a relationship now with someone I’ve known for almost 15 years and I struggle so hard with not feeling guilty but it’s amazing how right something can feel! I wish yall the best in every way!

[@hattiesimpson6941]

My new relationship reminds me so much yours with Burner and I love it so much for us!!!

[@JessicaKent]

It’s very difficult to not feel guilty at times but that’s normal. I mean… abuse isn’t normal but what you’re feeling is normal considering what you went through! ❤️ I’m so proud of you for leaving and I’m very happy you’re safe and being treated right. ❤️

[@hattiesimpson6941]

@@JessicaKentaww thanks so much!! It’s so crazy feeling secure in a relationship, who knew knowing and learning real love could be soo hard!

[@alanfeuer6337]

Congrats enroute to 1,000,000 subs!!subscribers!!! Long time subscriber from your home state NY Rock on.

[@CharlotteWinslow]

Thank-you so much for your realistic perspectives 🩷

[@ACTbarrera]

I don’t think it’s your “fault” for being with narcs but I soooo appreciate you talking about you having a role in the relationships you’ve been in. It’s not victim blaming, it’s being human with past stories, traumas, experiences that lead us to where we are- sometimes unfortunately. Luckily we can heal ❤❤❤❤❤

[@MaddHeather]

I don't comment often but Jess you are glowing and can tell you are truly happy now😊

[@jojosworld956]

"the lights are loud" 😂 had me Rollin. It helped btw. Makes so much sense. You've actually helped me with a lot of tiings (Jamaican accent) lol

[@mommabear3979]

Much LOVE to you beautiful Jess an Burner an those precious babygirls! This old lady in Oklahoma loves you forever and always! You’re the light in a dark world! You’re a survivor time and time again! And now the universe has brought this beautiful union of imperfect souls together to help brighten our paths we walk! Love you sweetheart 💞🧘‍♀️✨💖

[@holliewheatley5723]

Honestly, I’ve seen such a positive change since you’ve left that toxic situation. You can see you’re happier, you’re having more fun and making jokes, you look far more comfortable and at ease than before. It’s so nice to see you coming into yourself, you should be so proud of yourself for getting out of that and moving along with your life xx

[@freetobree5323]

How do you think having different dads affects Micah? Knowing Her bio dad’s story, then Reese being her dad, now burner.. do you think she’ll have lasting effects?

[@tanyapage9319]

Omg I laughed out loud at "she is very fast"! This was a great video, Jess. It's wonderful to see you so happy and peaceful. Your serenity shines through and it makes my heart so happy. The difference from last year is mind blowing. I am so proud of you, and happy for you. Life is good and you so deserve it 💜💜💜

[@acatnamedjimmy8060]

As a nanny so did I. I legit had to pause the video and compose myself 😅

[@HeatherLeiigh]

OMG! I love love loove the song "Here comes the sun"!! That's been my song this summer tobmy freshly new 2 year old daughter 💛🌻🌞 It's definitely one of those feel good kinda songs ✌🏼🌝

[@pearljamin]

Girl if you are going to garden check out all the black flowers. One of my favorite places to get seeds is baker creek. They have black tomatoes black everything

[@paulamacdonald7070]

Laundry will mever ever be done. If your children are happy, fed and growing into responsible people you are doing it well!

[@nybsbfan18]

Thank you for being honest and candid, Jess.

[@F-dp1rp]

Not trying to be rude, but we do care about a crying baby. I know it’s not on purpose and it’s just what they do, but I have sensory issues and a baby screaming is bad. I appreciate when parents step out with them. Not everyone is used to it and can ignore it

[@freetobree5323]

*we* you mean YOU. Your sensory issues don’t mean life doesn’t go on. Babies cry, horns honk, dogs bark. Can’t deal with it, wear sound cancellation headphones or excuse yourself. You don’t actually matter to the public

[@RulesofPepper]

Get earplugs! I have bad misophonia and sensory issues but i take charge

[@Anna-ry4nz]

WoW.. Hi Jessica 👋From OZ🇦🇺 Just came from watching the Mama Jones video - scrolled through Insta to try and get a sense of what’s happened, seeing as the Mama J vid was 4 years ago .. And holy sh*t - Been one heck of a journey.. Man you’re strong, incredibly sweet and have a great deal of emotional intelligence. So.. I just want to say Hi, and I’m glad I came across your story .. I’ll be cheering for you 🙌🎉

[@patriciaflickner5392]

I love listening to your stories. All of you are great

[@marry632]

Uh you saying berner knows how to plant things and bake bread is THE BIGGEST GREEN FLAG, I'm in love :D

[@graceglaros8072]

Ok, this is so funny, I’ve literally been binge watching your videos all day, I went back and watched all your videos about the drama that is 2022 and 2023. I also just became aware that while you were going through all that shit last year, you also had a TON of people gaslighting you, including your “friends.” I only became aware of the drama to do with other youtubers you know through you posting stuff on the community tab the past few days. For the few people like me who don’t have TikTok, Only if you feel comfortable, would you please address the drama between your “friends” for the people who are not caught up with it?

[@JessicaKent]

Thank you for watching my content! I appreciate it so much ❤ As for the drama I keep that on Patreon. I feel safer over there to share more ❤

[@moderator7169]

​@@JessicaKent12:25. YOU SAID. TO SEE HOW BERNER WANTS TO SPEND TIME WITH ME AND IS KIND TO ME... AND DOES THE BARE MINIMUM FOR ME LOL LOL. THIS IS HOW U CAN TELL YOU DON'T BELIEVE YOUR OWN WORDS...... CUZ OF U SPOKE A TRUTH.... YOUR WORDS WOULD MAKE SENSE. I LITERALLY SAID BERNER DOES THE BARE MINIMUM LOL

[@soapiesoap5649]

For me that’s really worked with task paralysis. I have the general month calendar and calendars on my phone but I write down in my notes at night in bed before I go to bed what I have on the next day and what I need to do and I don’t deviate from the order I’ve written it in so if it’s a cleaning day I’ll have: Get up Feed cats Clean cat litter Unload dishwasher

[@acatnamedjimmy8060]

@@soapiesoap5649 How are you able to stay on task and actually follow the list? I’ve tried this and I still seem to migrate away from my list and get distracted doing 50 other cleaning things that aren’t on my list and I always end up so frustrated with myself. I haven’t tried making the list the night before, but I usually always make them first thing in the morning to the point that I have lists everywhere around my house. I’m so glad you’ve found something that works! I’ll definitely try doing the list at night and see if that helps me.

[@ambramarrs7325]

I’m 63, so I come from the old school- everything had to be done and perfect era… Sadly, I realized too late that it was at the expense of time I should have been spending time with my daughter- You are correct - they won’t remember if you didn’t do the laundry or dust or vacuum- they will remember you brushing them off and feeling like they were not a priority for you at the time- Take time for your children…

[@Adrienned414]

This was a great video I'm so happy to see that you're doing great and are in such a better place. ❤

[@TheMicheleri]

So good to see you so happy and relaxed, love that Burner is a green flag thrower! We all need them, all that matters is you are both happy, fuck the haters, love ya!

[@MercuryLeo555]

Hello Jessica, sometimes relationships are their to let us know what we don't want in a relationship and what we do want. I'm glad you are doing better, and your happy. Have a great day! Love and Light. ❤💕✨️🙂😇

[@carolinebreidenbaugh6488]

You guys should do a garden tour!

[@ginawhite1451]

You look fabulous . You have such a glow now. Love seeing it 😍😍😍

[@mariannecalnan6782]

I have a question: How do you tally your boyfriend's 'patience and kindness' with the fact that he put someone in a vegetative state? (Do correct me if I'm wrong about the ladt part)

[@madambosss_]

13:00 🤣🤣💯💯💯🤦🏼‍♀️ I owe myself endless apologies

[@madisonwaugh21]

I didn’t know you did your nails yourself! Looking on your Amazon but can you show us how you do them? 💛

[@kbeventinfo2562]

You go Jess! im cheering you on from Australia!

[@roxette24]

Thanks for reminding me to pay the damn water bill that I’ve been forgetting for like two weeks 😅

[@renr4056]

hey jess

[@ZoeF.O]

But Jess, you just have to admit that the Cat is making EVERYTHING better. Right? 😬

[@WhitneyStone-rz4iu]

Yay for the 3-year-old for getting the communication skills plus that's the age where they test you you know and I mean shout out to him and shout out to you for stepping up. I see you're slow soul glow up❤ I mean I have done everything slow and procrastination is not laziness slow and steady win the race. I'm so happy for you❤

[@shippo4093]

You seem super grounded and at peace. I'm happy for you!

[@estherlouisamay]

You look much happier since you have been with Burner 😊😎 and healthier 😎.

[@allison7483]

Thank you for sharing all of this!

[@emmalemonade4550]

While it is absolutely true that no matter where you are, there you are...there are, however times you you have to drop a match, step off that bridege and focus onky on the future. Start fresh.

[@natashaw401]

Love u sharing diff types of views diff prison all over the world or prison recipes

[@natashaw401]

Yes u seem so much happier really cool

[@AmandaK8Panda]

Green flag for a green thumb 😂 lol sorry it just popped in my head. But y’all are so good together!!!

[@WhitneyStone-rz4iu]

Okay wow I can't believe how many people have are so into people's other people's lives it's just very odd to me I think it's odd to her too sometimes. You can only change yourself and then once you love yourself then you can only truly loved and I can see he's so understanding with her

[@Mel.H_]

"Repo the KZbin Plack" 😂😂😂 Love you girl❤❤❤

[@FirstLast_Nba]

May God bless your house and family, and protect you and yours from all the evil eye you get from the countless haters.

[@janewaysmom]

20:53 GARDENING TIP: Tbh, Google "(your state) native plants" or else Google "growing zones USA" and find your area on the map, and then Google "zone (your state) native plants". Those are the plants that will grow in your area with the least amount of work. Trust me. My raspberry bush (native to my province) got literally half crushed by construction people, and it's fully recovered and totally fine. I haven't watered it in two years.

[@beccaroo1990]

For the girl who was asking how you deal with a screaming baby, like Jess said, ask for help & what also helped me, knowing it isnt going to last forever...& also, walking away. If you have to lay your baby & walk away & take a breath, do it❤

[@sashabenoit1518]

Burner always reminded me of those Doodle Bears from the 90's😅

[@beccaroo1990]

Did u watch the whole video where she said she's heard that one 1000000 times?🤔

[@imdva]

@@beccaroo1990and she’ll hear it 1000000 more 🤣 it comes with the territory

[@JessicaKent]

Doodle bear. Desk in detention. Fell asleep at a party. Sharpie. Kids drew on him. We hear it all day everyday.

[@sashabenoit1518]

@@JessicaKent It's not a bad thing, Doodle Bears are cute! I meant no disrespect

[@brandypresley1869]

I stay n my shell for a reason. I dont have friends cause i dont trust people. They wannna be ur friend to ur face and try and hurt u behind ur back. NO ONE WILL LOVE U AND TAKE CARE OF YOU LIKE YOU CAN! So i stay to myself and im happy by it

[@mollyjo17]

Not Berner needing to get sprayed by Lysol lmfao 😂😂😂😂

[@ashleyklover]

MY GIRL is in my top 3 . I thought I was the only one!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@sheloveswilby]

My favorite is prison recepies too :)

[@lonmorgan5260]

You are so awesome. I'm glad your happy and have a good life now. 😍

[@mamabehindaphone3967]

I really love your advice!! And I have a gardener guy myself!! ❤ I work at a farmers market those are great!!!

[@BareBohemianBeauty]

“We both like ramen so it’s working out” Best answer ever!! Gotta have those things in common lmao

[@Lauravann2409]

20:28 haha the pre-teen stage! Yeah that's hard! 😂 their whole world is against them! And we most definitely have no idea what they're going through.. (note sarcasm) lol

[@maryannedelaney]

I love all of your videos ❤

[@michellexobelle]

Hey Jess! Do you have any good pointers or suggestions on how to stop people pleasing as a trauma response? I know therapy is the best solution but I cant afford it and I really need to break this cycle.

[@JustTheJesters]

Random but what skin creams lotions or soaps do you use on your face?? Your skin is so pretty! And what foundation? ❤

[@freetobree5323]

Jess has been looking so good lately.. you’ve come so far since the old days lol

[@hydrorouge]

Girl, “spicy PTSD”! 😂😂😂 I’ve got to call it that from now on. I’ve had it for years but was only diagnosed two years ago. I definitely have a ways to go with it - especially because the past couple have months have literally been the worst and most traumatic period ever in my life - but as with many things, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. 😊🖤

[@Makingofabetterlife]

Sending some healing your way. I can relate as I am also in the most traumatic time in my life too, finally coming out and seeing some sun but it's been the year from hell.

[@DavidPearl23]

Are you ever gonna do locked up with again? I love that series.

[@JennerationOfGrace]

I'm very ill-informed, is the divorce with Reece? I had thought the wedding never ended up happening. But so, so glad to hear life is looking so much better ❤

[@jelah4972]

Berner reminds me of Sid from Toy Story

[@julieihearth2o661]

You look great. Pumped that Invisalign seem to be back on✅

[@BaddeGrasse]

Youre such a legend ❤

[@cassiebellay3025]

Interested in patreon. When you go to join it says two videos available. Jw are there more then just two and can I see all of the patreon videos you have made to date? Love you girl thanks

[@JessicaKent]

I have hundreds of videos / posts on Patreon..

[@natalie23569]

Woahhh people pleasing feeding the ego *brain explosion*

[@marykm85]

The captions in your thumbnail😂

[@aron898]

I hope you moved to Texas!!! My girlfriend moved from Chicago to Texas and she absolutely loves it here 🙂 Granted, she lives with me, so of course she loves it 😁 But she also loves the state.

[@PaperTerrace]

Hahahahahaha I have a 12 year old too and yep he’s in his room a lot except way too sweet. But rarely see the guy hahaha.

[@dannabarrett2948]

Our ADHD has similar traits. I’m glad someone gets it

[@chelseamelton5807]

All I have to say is that I’m so happy for you!! Who cares if he has tattoos on his face. However I bet he is very handsome if you could see his face. Lol. Love ya Jess

[@Makingofabetterlife]

Uh this came across as an insult. The man is beautiful and you don't need to remove the tats to see that. 🤷‍♀️🤨

[@janewaysmom]

19:13 Look, I wasn't gonna say it, but yeah, he REALLY looked like a cop.

[@natashaw401]

Oh my gosh he stepped up and took full custody u said pretty quick really great for that

[@Rtytanicj]

I’m glad you’re thriving. Miss you guys 💜

[@mariaalejandradelgado4928]

Do you go to NA meetings? Did you work the 12 steps?

[@JessicaKent]

I don’t work the program and haven’t ever worked it. I was court ordered to go to the meetings for many … many years but I don’t agree with the model ❤️

[@natashaw401]

3 year old have a lot of energy

[@ThomRealEstate-k1y]

Yo Jess,did you ever graffiti as a kid? I saw your photo album pictures and the one of you at 15 you looked like the twin of a graffer I ran with back in 1973. As for narcists they are the hardest to nail. My wife had to deal with one that had done a lot of BS to her. My step son and I have been keeping the spotlight on him. Abusers have to work in secret,without its they fall apart. My stepson has cADHD and this has been getting him over it. Your program has been a huge inspiration for me,I have to confess that it’s fun watching narcissistic abusers implode.!

[@thefrenchiestfry8147]

I’m pretty sure she wasn’t even alive in 1973 haha

[@ThomRealEstate-k1y]

I’m definitely old enough to be her father and I’m very impressed with her wisdom. I see people who are my age and older who are less mature than an 8 year old

[@ThomRealEstate-k1y]

I have to correct myself. My stepson has c PTSD,not ADHD,my bad.

[@lilnugget5961]

It sounds like my house in upstate Ny😁❤

[@natashaw401]

Way way cool he bakes, plants stuff