John and Jackie Talk About Their Open Relationship

[@GrantJackson70USD]

I don’t usually comment on 2 year old videos but I want to thank you for this one. I’ve never heard the concept of an open relationship explained better in a relatively short period of time. Thanks again

[@openlove101]

Glad it helped.

[@wasclit11]

For those new to the lifestyle I would suggest they watch all your videos, read Jackie's book, do a whole lot of talking before jumping off into the deep end. The lifestyle has a variety of levels and I believe the level that John and Jackie are at is a small percentage of those in the lifestyle. I am sure they would admit they had many hours talking what worked and what didn't. Not all experiences are going to be fantastic, but they can still be used as a learning experience. My lovely wife and I were in the lifestyle for about 12 years when we were younger and it didn't hurt our relationship - married 51 years now and I still think she's sexy. Yes kids there is sex at 70. PS: John I would be very picky who I would share Jackie with and I would pity the fool whoever disrespected her. OK so I am still a little old skool - most of us Vietnam vets are.

[@openlove101]

Very sage advice...thanks for the input.

[@wasclit11]

@@openlove101 Update - Oct 5th will be our 54th anniversary. Still loving on her and even though i have to take a pill - well, it's good for 4 hours so turn on the Black Lights, and put in the Barry White tape and let the party begin.

[@haleykb2397]

I love seeing the love and passion that you two have for each other, for your relationship, and for these topics! It's so wonderful to see, and I find it so genuine and wholesome! Thank you so much for sharing your life with everyone!

[@jacqualynnmelfi582]

Thank you for taking the time to comment. We really appreciate such a kind note.

[@xander423]

amazing thats true choice and love no bondage everyone chooses to love instead of holding on so tight wow

[@haroldswick9962]

I have been a swinger in the past. I'm now married 30 years and we don't swing. My wife is fro a different culture and she doesn't want to swing. I like my past life but I'm happy either way.

[@rogerwilco5918]

"Paint ball practice"? 4:50 I don't know why, but as a former infantryman that made me smile. Aint it all "practice" if you're not using lead?

[@eriksmit1804]

Very balanced talk!! Chapeau!!

[@gabrieldean9559]

Great info. Jackie you are gorgeous btw- Not sure if you two ever visit Santa Fe NM but its wonderful place! Come by for vacay explore the very very small scene.

[@DrSKay]

If your relationship with each other is as complete and compelling as you say, why do you think you need a paramour? Is it perhaps the case that your first love is for the fulfillment of your own desires for gratification of your fantasies? That is, you love yourself, and then you love your primary partner to the extent that they assist you in gratifying your personal desires whatever they may be? If we grant that, then to what extent does that love of the self broaden and attenuate over time for as long as your primary partner relationship continues?

[@mhibb9589]

Been watching your channel for a while now and you guys are awesome! It's amazing that you guys are educating the public. My wife and I have been married for 20 years and two children. After 10 of those 20 years we decided to open up our marriage and it has been the most amazing experience to date. Now I can talk for hours about all of the positive aspects of this type of relationship. But overall it's just amazingly freeing, and wouldn't want it any other way :-) Jackie love the new hair color 😊. Cheers!

[@openlove101]

Thank you so much for such wonderful feedback! Like you and your wife, John and I absolutely adore our relationship with each other and we agree...amazingly freeing!

[@haroldswick9962]

Go for it and enjoy yourself you only live once. Good Luck.

[@nickwatland4215]

My girlfriend is kind of insecure . I was going to leave because I couldn’t control myself any longer . I was going to leave because I love and respect her too much to cheat . Brought it up today and she wants to try it

[@ericfreshcorn3590]

@@nickwatland4215 I Am Open For It I Am Single

[@aNaturalist]

This was a wonderful topic, hearing how it started. Please do an episode on single people finding like-minded singles. I would love to be able to be very forward on a dating profile, about wanting an open relationship, and have that actually work. I think even women that like threesomes might not go on a date with a guy that puts too much on his dating profile. Am I wrong?

[@hawkgrunt4182]

Love the one you're with.

[@kimberlyelizabeth4573]

You guys are so amazing ! This was such a great video! I strive to be a partner like both of you. -Kimberly paws-

[@drsardarmajidchohan2062]

i am also in search of such a partner...

[@chriswilson1098]

Are you a hotwife Kim?

[@ericfreshcorn3590]

I Will Be Your Paerner

[@youtubefans510]

I am sure there are people who will criticize open relationships , do they prefer monogamous relationships where people are sometimes unfaithful keep secrets and lie ?

[@amypeterson4615]

John, is that a Breitling "Avenger" wristwatch you're sporting? Top shelf brother, top shelf. Can you tell me what Jackie thinks about it? Please be as specific as you can. Thanks.

[@alhusaini2916]

Love you guys ❤

[@CrashTv3166]

Been watching y’all need to have more and hello from New Orleans

[@larrywarren2431]

She has a nice smile 😊

[@non-ya228]

I'm hoping how can answer how a straight couple can find a place in the lifestyle, when 99.9% of couples, the woman is bi and expects me to play with her, and when I tell couples I am a straight woman, it's like the couple never talks to us again because I won't add the other women "Fulfill her needs " and thus wet don't meet any couples after the first meet and greet that want to talk to us again. How does a straight equal swap couple ever find couples that are also straight that do equal swaps. It feels like trying to find the mythical Unicorn, except we're looking for a straight couple. Any suggestions? My 2nd question is why do all these woman want to bi if they have a man? Why wouldn't they just be lesbians?

[@aNaturalist]

Well, they want to have a hetero marriage, and also est some cupcake too. 🧁 Also, I think a few do it because it's loved and popular. Have you two tried online swinger's adds? List on there that you're straight. Couples with straight women exist, and they're likely not finding Couples super fast either.

[@dwightdodd3734]

Strange...I think most women are only a half dozen mixed drinks away from going to the " Dark Side " always felt that way as women have always been more accepted being Bi..........

[@rogerwilco5918]

"Why do all these women want to be bi if they have a man?" Why do you want to be with another man if you already have one?

[@rogerwilco5918]

​@@dwightdodd3734spaghetti is straight until it gets wet

[@chriswilson1098]

A few questions. Does John setup dates/meet ups for you Jackie? Are you a hotwife?

[@openlove101]

In the beginning of our open relationship, John did help set up dates a few times, but now I set up my own. I've never considered myself a "hot wife."

[@luismedina5129]

What happens when the other in the couple is curious but afraid to try?

[@openlove101]

I remember being curious but hesitant when I first started out in the lifestyle. I made sure to be patient with myself while I digested this very new to me relationship model. John and I spent many an evening walking and talking our way through what our relationship would look like, how we wanted to engage with others and what that meant to us. We really took our time to cultivate our trust in one another and gave ourselves room to adjust to our more open marriage. There is a saying I love, "You can only go as fast as the slowest person." We adopted this approach and it worked for us.

[@winstonsmith6204]

For a woman it's much easier, for a man finding someone is a bit more challenging unless there's space from the main woman.

[@Music-ic3uw]

How many years have you guys been in the lifestyle?

[@openlove101]

Since 2012

[@meteor1237]

What about the folks you are dating; do they know about your relationship and how do they fit in? If there are issues, why did you continue? Why not just stop? Find that’s really who you are? Thx!,

[@arnoldstafford2900]

Yea

[@youtubefans510]

a man's point of view is often sex is sex and love is love , not all men are the same but men find it easier it seems to differentiate between sex and love , which is why men are often misunderstood , also we are all not born to feel for just the one , we may live as humans and try to be monogamous but to be faithful to one person for life , for decades can be hard and is perhaps romantic idealism which can be contrary to reality and nature but the endeavour is a good thing to expect exclusivity and monogamy for a lifetime is a very high expectation if not open about it can lead to secrecy and dishonesty besides if you in general only love someone if that persons feels just for you and has sex only with you the question is whether that love that you feel is either genuine or deep enough because the more conditional love is the less it is genuine or deep enough as I see it

[@TheAntrozz1972]

Let me see if I understand...you guys are also poliamore?

[@openlove101]

yes

[@TheAntrozz1972]

@@openlove101 so....you guys have the best of "two world", many blessing. Take care guys.

[@peterbennett750]

Hello I'm currently dealing with bad jealousy, increasing into a new relationship with a lady that enjoys sex with other men how do I get over this jealousy please before it wreckers this relationship?

[@openlove101]

Hello, one workbook that really helped me was, openlove101.com/product/the-jealousy-workbook/ maybe this book will help you identify triggers and whether or not an open relationship is for you.

[@youtubefans510]

a man's point of view is often sex is sex and love is love , not all men are the same but men find it easier it seems to differentiate between sex and love , which is why men are often misunderstood , also we are all not born to feel for just the one , we may live as humans and try to be monogamous but to be faithful to one person for life , for decades can be hard and is perhaps romantic idealism which can be contrary to reality and nature but the endeavour is a good thing to expect exclusivity and monogamy for a lifetime is a very high expectation if not open about it can lead to secrecy and dishonesty besides if you in general only love someone if that persons feels just for you and has sex only with you the question is whether that love that you feel is either genuine or deep enough because the more conditional love is the less it is genuine or deep enough as I see it

[@jamesolojo787]

How did you start? Still non the wiser. How was the topic brought up? Who brought it up etc etc. You jumped the intro😂

[@openlove101]

When John and I reconnected, he owned swinger clubs, coletteclubs.com/ so the topic came up very early on. I was at a point in my life where I was ready for change. His 20 years experience in the swinger lifestyle and my eagerness to try something new clicked and we've been loving our relationship model ever since.

[@jamesolojo787]

@@openlove101 l really appreciate the fact that you have taken time to explain. Thanks

[@meteor1237]

Very enlightening! Thx!

[@openlove101]

Glad it was helpful!

[@SS-mm5md]

@@openlove101 Long time married and lifestyle active many years, still glad to know we aren't "crazy" and paradigms of society don't fit every couple; even though we're all put into that mold like it or not. Most never try to change themselves and often with lifelong very bad results for a family. We've tried to learn from those pasts experiences and change. Your information is helpful to more folks than you likely realize. Thanks!

[@malingawoo]

Do u guys have kids.. How r u raising them.. What values r u giving them..

[@zaqqquentinz1570]

Neat

[@ericwilliams8408]

What does her love do for you? How is this partnership a partnership? What is this partnership based on outside of consensual hedonism? I don't understand and I want to. Partnership sounds fake. Outside of snugging other people, what do you actually partner on? What is this team based in? Yall are old, kids grown, jobs secure. All that's left is hedonism. And that's not bad; Your business is hedonism. And for that reason this partnership is just about fun......?

[@robmitchell4476]

Hi 😜🤪😋😛😛😝