John Crist - The Problem with Gentle Parenting

[@tscarletespin2261]

“And now your kid is in high school and identifies as a furry”!!! 🤣🤣🤣😂

[@your_name_here2158]

Identifies as a furry, or fury? Lol hehe

[@tscarletespin2261]

@ hahaha! Oh yeah! Thanks! I’ll correct my typo! 😜

[@Lady_ETHNE]

Okay but for real though, as a 19 year old with no kids, please discipline your child. I was at work and somebody's kid just started running around and going into places he clearly was not supposed to go. Behind the counter, into the breakroom, outside unsupervised and all over the place. The mother just stood there doing nothing, so I, the worker not the parent, had to chase his butt out of the break-room. And then he started screaming, like ear-piercing screaming, and the lady just goes "he does that when he's unhappy." Listen I get it, parents are probably tired as heck. But I'm a college student working in costumer service, I'm tired too. And if I still do my darn job as a worker and a student (not perfectly but I'm trying), than parents need to do their darn job and discipline their kids. Appropriate discipline is not physical or mental abuse, but this neglect is in it's own way.

[@avafisk4375]

And disciplining isn't JUST spanking. It's giving consequences. For example, if the kid makes a mess the punishment is that they have to clean it up. In your example, that's when parents are given the opportunity to TEACH THEIR KID how to express and regulate their emotions! I'm strongly against parenting because there is so much more harm and good and surprisingly (I'm being sincere here when I learned this I was actually surprised), the examples I just gave above work far quicker than spanking does. Personally I believe that it's because you teach your kid what TO DO and not what NOT to do. It also supports their development as a whole by teaching what it looks like being less ego-centric stuck up rich kid. But that's just my two cents. Most gentle parents these days are actually permissive parenting where the adult becomes a door mat rather than a parent.

[@sburris65]

Amen!

[@rosanna415]

When I worked at Target 13 years ago, a kid was tearing up the toy aisles. I asked him to stop throwing toys everywhere. He must have told his mom I talked to him because she came back to my area, looked me dead in the eyes and started knocking the packages of toilet paper and paper towels in the floor by walking away. I was livid, and management did nothing. I will never work in retail again.

[@jenniferromero571]

My little guy has always been allowed to scream when happy and excited. I would be upset though if he got away and went behind the counter. Extremely embarrassed.

[@Lady_ETHNE]

@@rosanna415I’m sorry that happened to you. People need to learn respect, retail workers are people too darn it

[@jerushieful]

Bring back *_“Critical Parenting”_* !!!! 👏 👏 👏

[@ferretyluv]

As a teacher, please get rid of gentle parenting. It’s ruining kids.

[@wendygore2709]

In your defense, I believe the paddle should be brought back in school. Was still being used when I graduated HS in 92' 🇺🇸💪🏻 If you got in trouble, you had a choice: the paddle or pail. Mr. Pail was our principal & a hard ass. Most students took the paddle. Slight tap on the back of the legs & if it was a girl, another girl student did the swat, not the male teacher. In a way, it was kind of a joke, but it was also very rare that it had to come down to that. We had an amazing teacher staff 🙏🏻❤️😎

[@Stepher45]

“When y’all’s kids do bad stuff it’s a reflection of your parenting” Truer words have never been spoken

[@samanthashirley206]

Except for the case where the kid is neurodivergent and the parents have tried everything and nothing works. My daughter is adopted and she was exposed heavily to drugs and alcohol in the womb. People judge us so much for her behavior. It's like, trust me, if spanking worked on this kid, we wouldn't be here. Nothing works. She is a dysregulated, emotional mess. Throwing fits like a 2 year old several times a day. She's 8. My mom works at Walmart and said she has stopped judging the folks w out of control kids. She used to think they needed to go take their kid in the bathroom and spank them. Now she realizes they may just be a kid like my daughter. Mind you, I think a neurotypical kid acting that way (same as my kid w brain damage) is proof that spoiling children harms them and even changes their brain. But we never know what another parent is dealing with. My daughter looks normal.

[@cherylrevell3081]

@@samanthashirley206 You're not wrong and there are a lot of cases like this, I know because I know one. BUT, generally, this "gentle parenting" thing has forced on us at least 2 generations of utterly selfish people that think the world must cater to them and F you if you don't. those are the ones "raised" to lie, insult and threaten you if you disagree with them. "Gentle parenting" was authored to be an attack on us.

[@samanthashirley206]

@cherylrevell3081 I do agree with you. We are in the midst of a very self centered, self care generation.

[@CrossingJordan]

My parents’ idea of gentle parenting was not using full force with the belt😂

[@ComedianBobFarrell]

Same

[@sisanmcneil]

Ha!! Love this!!

[@ConstanceAndres]

Or not using the buckle!! Ouch

[@michaelhawk8230]

👏🥇

[@mlo321-3]

Right?!!! Same!!

[@Jinok76]

“We’re Really Working With Caleb on His Emotions and Expressions and We’ve Told Him That Hitting His Mother is Not on His Top 3 Options” 😂😂😂

[@jilllatif2330]

Yes! Spanking your child shows them love and security and how to be fit for society.

[@ericcire7709]

My parents idea of gentle parenting: This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you….

[@recynd77]

“I’ll give you something to cry about!”

[@BasedZoomer]

I don't do any spanking of my kids, it hurts me too much... so my husband does all the spanking 😂 I do have a spatula for the most dire of situations, though, when a whap on the bum is necessary at that very moment.

[@lucrisserblake4955]

Right!!!😂😂😂

[@kmckelvey]

My parents version of “gentle parenting” was: “wait till your father gets home”😫

[@pammentzer3584]

Yup! The waiting was the worst part of the punishment!

[@Stepher45]

lol my dad isn’t scary at all. When my mom gets mad though… 💀

[@admar6934]

But if you don't a father that threat don't work

[@debraseiler4148]

John’s work keeps getting better. Thanks for keeping the funny in comedy!

[@aprilselbo1822]

I did terrible one week at school. My choices were 9 days of dishes or 9 wacks with the belt. I chose dishes...3 days in I wished I had chosen the belt.

[@Psychiatricnerd]

That’s a good one, I’ll have to try that.

[@TheSuburbanBase]

I'm still jealous of kids who had a choice. I wasn't even bad and still got hit.

[@AuntAngie48]

When I was younger, my sister, my baby nephew (couldn't even talk yet) and I were at the babysitters' (a nice couple with a kid of their own) now I stayed out of trouble because I knew if I caused problems, I would get a spanking at home. My nephew kept playing with this lamp. the man would each time sit down with him and talk to him about why he can't play with the lamp. so, after the evening meal my little sister and the babysitters' son went back in the son's room to play while I finished my meal. My sister and their son got in a little argument the babysitters' went back to settle it and talk to them about it, My Nephew was standing on the couch I got up and went over to sit by him and he started playing with the lamp I listened to see if I could hear them coming back to the living room I couldn't so I reached over and smacked my nephew on his bare leg, he looked at me in shock never cried but didn't mess with the lamp again either.

[@Psychiatricnerd]

😂 I love that you did this.

[@Glyphic1972]

Parents should definitely tell their kids why something is wrong, so they understand it and it’s not something that can be easily overridden by a little bit of brainwashing but one time is enough, second time is earning you a smack 😂

[@mesmarriott127]

John is spot on!

[@randydavencal1259]

Well, well, comedy is making a comeback! Gettin’ real and honest!!! Love it!

[@chaseh2371]

I know this was a comedy skit, but yeah we got to get rid of “gentle parenting”. The crazy excuses I hear parents say trying to justify their children’s rebellious and abusive behavior is insane. Spank the dang kid, and tell him/her you love them and then spend some time with them connecting with them. My 3 year old was over at a friends house and that family practices “gentle parenting”, and when we picked him up their “precious little boy had some hard emotions” and ended up hitting my son in the head with a hockey stick and peeing on him. He was then told that was not his best option for responding to hard emotions 🤦‍♂️

[@sharmanmurphree-roberts4018]

I hope you never went back. 😑

[@crystalthompson507]

I workin a daycare type setting. "Gentle" parenting sucks. It's just ruining kid's.

[@Psychiatricnerd]

This is gold. Thank you for not being PC. Keep it coming.

[@lisachapetta6060]

Was at a preschool play group and heard a mom plead to her misbehaving child, “Don’t make me use the ‘N’ word”… The word was NO.

[@justamags]

Oh for goodness sake. 😐 That's ridiculous .

[@Psychiatricnerd]

😂 can only imagine why her kid was misbehaving.

[@angelpjc]

Frickin..DA parents

[@JerryBob-b2m]

Almost 1 million subscribers! Let's goooooo!

[@Jiggajsmooth89]

I read the title as “The Problem with Gentile Parenting”…..As a professional Gentile parent I was intrigued, but a tad disappointed when I realized it said “gentle”. Still was a funny bit!

[@DarlaBaltazar]

I was gonna say this too HAHA

[@becauseIrock]

I feel kind of stupid for having to ask, but what is a "professional Gentile parent"? I actually Googled it, lol, but that was no help. It's mostly the professional part I'm confused about.

[@DarlaBaltazar]

@@becauseIrock for me I just plainly misread gentle as "Gentile", from reading too much of Paul's letters 😂 no deep meaning haha

[@Jiggajsmooth89]

@@becauseIrock so the Bible refers to anyone that isn’t a Jew is technically a gentile. Since I am a father of 2 and don’t have an ounce of Jew in me I was just saying I have a lot of experience parenting as a gentile 😂

[@heathergabbertrdnearthange7078]

I thought it said gentile too! 😅

[@wendygore2709]

Back in the day (70's) my mom was NOT above slapping someone else's child if they were acting up or being disrespectful 😂💪🏻😇

[@abbierivers1]

The amusement park is true. My grandmother dropped me off at Opryland came back 6 hours later and picked me up .

[@akio1666]

Heard some of this bit in the blue room (In missouri). Great time!

[@-mey5392]

More short clips like these please!!! Hahaha hopefully u do the clip of the part where u say "tell me your truth"😂😂 so funny

[@vl7827]

This is Gen X approved.. I still have welts on my ass.

[@tuxedoplanstoday]

😂 Gen X here too

[@PrincessPanamaFelange]

Preach

[@avengingemmapeel]

I was a senior in high school at the dinner table, said FU to my mom, my dad reached out and slapped me, my glasses ended up in the apple sauce, and we started grace. By the time grace was over, my glasses were clean, and my mom was handing them to me. I asked if I could be excused, and my dad said, "Hell, no; there is no excuse for you." Most uncomfortable dinner on the planet. One of three times my parents ever spanked...or in that case slapped...me. All three...richly deserved!

[@thelivingfaithfulhomeschoo9906]

We got the belt, wooden spoon and then as time evolved we got the plastic serving spoon. I’ll take the wooden any day 😂😂

[@wendysmith8298]

I got the fly swatter. 😂

[@AlexDMast]

Great to see a painter broaden his horizons!!

[@harrisonhanson2998]

🤣🤣🤣 “watching tucker Carlson!”

[@mikemcconeghy4658]

He's so rich he can buy candies and toss the ones he doesn't like, lol.

[@jerushieful]

Nice Dude!!! 🙌 *Let’s Goooo!!!* 😂😂😂

[@brittanyfehlings6838]

I remember hiding under my bed, knowing my mom was coming with a wooden spoon

[@terrirojas]

me was the hall bathroom because it was the only door that locked 😜and she didn't even have to come at me, all she had to do was flex at the drawer with the wooden spoons in it.

[@fabulousfamily564]

Y'all are acting like you have to beat your kids, or they absolutely won't behave well. There's a happy medium. You can have healthy boundaries without resorting to violence or verbal abuse.

[@Chills40]

Says basement: points up Says attic: points down Lol 😂

[@ChaniChastain-mi2xo]

Love you man!!!!!

[@dguice765]

Exactly obedience.

[@joscelynpease6656]

Some parents take it too far so good to encourage other options. Discipline with love, hard to love someone that beats you mercilessly. Plus some of the most messed up children I've ever met always talk about how they were beat as a kid. This is yruly sickening that a grown adult has norther option that fear and intimidation.

[@youngswoll3]

There’s a difference between spanking and beating a kid til they’re black and blue. Fear and intimidation is how the world operates- why don’t you drive 110 mph on the highway? Due to the fear of being caught by the police and thrown in jail. Why don’t you yell at your boss when you’re upset with them? Due to the fear of losing your job. Etc etc

[@Anakuya1]

The intention isn’t just to beat a kid for the heck of it. Good parenting is giving a memorable yet justifiable consequence for their actions. Spanking is a good form of that but parents that beat their kids is another thing and not what everyone here is promoting. Discipline and bullying are two different things.

[@rlight7334]

Don’t forget, he is a comedian so he is going to exaggerate and we all know he doesn’t mean beating a child.

[@terrirojas]

@@youngswoll3 omg I just realized how ridiculous it is that we don't not speed out of the fear of death, we don't speed out of fear of the law 😜

[@hootiehootheblowphish4109]

There's a difference between reasonable physical discipline and abuse. I think a good rule of thumb for parent is to always remember to discipline as correction/consequence, not to take out one's anger on their kids.

[@kekelauren6251]

I honestly see spanking as a last resort option but it requires alot of framework. Like, you dont spank a child when you are angry or being a hypocrite yourself. It is more the consistency of consequences to actions. If i say clean your room by whatever time, it will be clean by that time, or the aforementioned consequences will happen. And that consistency of cause and effect should be in place from toddler. No need for spanking when you are consistent and fair in your parenting.

[@BG-mh6pc]

I don’t do “gentle parenting.” My kids got spanked when it was warranted, and they are healthy, well-adjusted, respectful, and kind kids. And we have a great relationship. I’ll never understand gentle aka consequence free parenting.

[@fabulousfamily564]

That's not the correct name. Permissive parenting is consequence free. On the other hand Gentle parenting does have consequences, boundaries, manners, and the parents are in charge. They just aren't hitting, and they try to teach first, and let kids make mistakes, and learn from natural consequences. For instance, if a kid regularly forgets his lunch, he learns what hunger feels like, and remembers next time. He's not getting saved. If he doesn't like dinner, he can eat tomorrow. If he won't pick up his toys, they might get bagged up and donated. If he won't wear a jacket, he's gonna be cold. It helps to have routines, and do things in order. Make bed, and THEN go to the park. Go put on pajamas the first time we say, and don't wait, or it will cut into story time. These are all natural, and logical consequences. My teens like to rebel more, so they get to do their chores, and then their phone will work. They leave the pets hungry, then they get to be hungry, and see how they like it. So far, they are well liked. Adults are always telling me how polite and intelligent my kids are. They get jobs, and earn their own money. They get good grades. They attend church. Last thing, I used to spank my kids. The older ones got spanked, and the younger ones haven't. The ones who got hit did not behave better than the ones who didn't. They all behave better now that the hitting has stopped. They all try to do right because they want to please me, and aren't mad at me. I noticed a long time ago that they follow my example. When I am kind and understanding to them, they are kind and understanding to others, especially each other. It's just not true that only hitting can produce good people. And it's not accurate to call gentle parenting consequence free. My husband was never hit in his life, and he's amazing. I was hit quite a lot, for really dumb stuff, mostly. I don't talk to my mom much. Yes, she absolutely overdid it, and most parents are not as crazy as she is. But if people knew HOW to parent effectively, without hitting, they would find it easier. It really is much easier to have boundaries, and natural consequences than to try to be judge, jury and executioner, as well as referee all the time. There's another way.

[@harrisonhanson2998]

I remember my mom came at me while I was sitting on the stairs & out of reflex I threw my leg out & she ran into it & fell down the stairs & YEP! My dad came outa nowhere & BEAT MY ASS!!!

[@kevinchahine7553]

More standup!

[@shawnsms29]

Gentle parenting is basically not parenting….

[@fabulousfamily564]

You mean Permissive parenting. Lots of people get the name wrong. Gentle parenting means there are consequences, but hitting is not one of them.

[@notthefbi7932]

Best thing ever was my parents whooping me when I messed, and as I got older the less I messed up 😉

[@HGAtribe13]

Are you going to do Dyl’s unplugged and reimagined albums?

[@tisha7252]

We are scared to hit our kids. If I even threaten my daughter she reminds me “Mom’s are supposed to be nice.” 😂

[@CoachKepler]

Send me the yellow Starburst!

[@justaphase]

Totally! Yellow and red!

[@CoachKepler]

@justaphase I'm color blind. I love all colors!

[@d.d.wulbee]

Gentle, or Gentile?

[@jennybens1]

The kids today are built different. My parenting approach is far from gentle but my kids still hit me and talk back in ways that I, as a late GenX/early millennial, would NEVER have even considered doing with my parents. I had a built in respect for parental authority, they have none.

[@estherruth4692]

The schools are worse for sure, so if you don’t homeschool, your kids are being primarily influenced by gremlins.

[@randydavencal1259]

Maybe consider taking your kids out of gov’t schools

[@DangerousLiberty-t3x]

My youngest is 16. We have six. None of them would ever dream of hitting their mother. None of them ever talked back. You discipline and give no quarter when they are very small.

[@megb4050]

Don't let them do that, not ever. They need a strong consequence immediately for that stuff.

[@Psychiatricnerd]

😂”we gotta start hittin’ these kids again”

[@ladyelainefairchild3546]

To be fair “knuckles” is stupid and part of the loser adults want to be pals problem.

[@stefs3460]

Being able to throw away the yellow Starbursts is at least upper middle class!

[@stantonterrell7015]

AMEN BRUTHA 🤣🤣

[@SometimesMyself]

I’ll take your yellows!

[@tahuyachris]

If you spare th rod, you hate the child!

[@fabulousfamily564]

But the rod is guidance. "Thy rod and thy staff they COMFORT me." Shepherds guide sheep, not beat them.

[@OHAsmartkids]

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[@dellathompson]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Gotfish]

Wait. What?? You guys stopped hitting your kids?? When did that happened? lol

[@ianalexander7082]

Why, when a man stands up on stage and say grown ups need to hit children half their size, do grown adults cheer like all their birthdays have come at once? My parents didn't hit me and at 42 I have love for them and have always shown them respect. They weren't even perfect parents, they just didn't need to resort to violence.

[@deborahlawing2728]

That probably says more about you than them. Every child is different. My mother could crush me with just a look. Not so my sister or brother. 😅

[@fabulousfamily564]

Thank you! All these people acting like violence is the only way to raise kids, and saying Gentle parenting is the same as permissive parenting. They are not the same. Gentle parents use consequences, frameworks, and sometimes tough love, but it doesn't involve hitting.

[@fabulousfamily564]

My husband's parents never hit any of their kids, and they all had different personalities. They all turned out respectful, law-abiding citizens, who love God, and treat people kindly. They work hard, have careers, and families of their own. I have older kids, and younger kids, with a large gap in the middle. The older ones got spanked, and now none are. The ones who NEVER got spanked are actually sweeter, and more anxious to help than their older siblings were at the same age. The older ones are much happier, and kinder now that the hitting has stopped. How I treat them is how they treat other people.

[@ianalexander7082]

@@fabulousfamily564 for me that's it. If I was to say that I ' teach my wife respect' with the threat of violence, people would be rightly outraged; but say the same about my defenseless children and some would applaud it.

[@fabulousfamily564]

Gentle parenting does not mean Permissive. I don't hit my kids, and my kids do not hit me. Yeah, I have to take away their phone, and have clear boundaries and what I won't do and allow, and reward. I'm saying, you don't have to hit. My husband was never spanked in his life, and he's a hardworking, well behaved, angel. I was spanked a lot, and got really good at lying.