John Gray-How A Man Falls In Love (Different Than For A Woman)

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

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[@josephinewliu]

0:45 your role is to create space where he can feel successful in meeting your needs, and your needs are "to be heard" so do not ask him questions. let him ask you questions. talk at least 5 times more than the guy. So he is forced to listen to you and get to know you. you show the guy your inner world so he can see and feel if he is attracted to that. his desire will help him to get that place unless you short circus his desire by immediately satisfy his physical needs instead of talking more and sharing more and let him DO THINGS FOR YOU, then he gets to bond with you. if he still wants you, now you have the potential to have a long lasting relationship. if he does not want you, then "next" and he is not the guy you wanted and you have to gracefully let go.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks so much for watching and for highlighting some of the video points as well.

[@angelsandocean2853]

Than you ♥️

[@docamtu5031]

I didn't know that. I was at unsafe feelings when I was with him and just kept silent and listened to him. He was my first love, almost a year passed, I couldn't forget him.

[@chanskichanski7874]

What I love about z John is that after listening to him, my heart is filled with love and hope. We need to protect this man!!

[@jellygurl27]

He knows more about my menstrual cycle than I do. 😭🤣

[@siyabeanland9777]

Hahaha. I know right 😂😂 my partner is so attentive to my female "things" 😂 it's such an attraction for me.

[@MaamafricaEsther]

I love that. Lol

[@WhiteAngelLovesEarth]

@@siyabeanland9777 attentive men...I'm a 33 years old woman, I don't date, guys usually make fun of me, I even got humiliated. They were really attentive to humiliate me.

[@siyabeanland9777]

@@WhiteAngelLovesEarth I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully you will meet someone who will appreciate you as you are 🥰

[@WhiteAngelLovesEarth]

@@siyabeanland9777 thank you, *hug* 😘

[@cathyandresiak1975]

Very good information, but difficult to feel safe with most men now days, alot of men are looking for women to take care of them financially or they just dont want to help take care of a women.

[@sharonallison8991]

@@alexakent4352 and how was that??

[@PigeoneerToy]

@Anonymous 2020 lol it's funny because it's true, of course, not 100% but more so than in other places.

[@annamarie3288]

Keep saying this story over & over and that's all you'll encounter. Let's start saying "there are many good quality men out there who are great"

[@latinainwpb]

@@annamarie3288 Law of Attraction! 😉

[@chrysichrysi7889]

Can't see 😎those kind of guys around because I don't even acknowledge their existance once I start to feel those kind vibes comming from them. I start to get an allergic reaction.🤧😌😂😂

[@jacksonposhee4687]

“Use him” lol he is funny

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Yes. That is funny! Thanks for watching!

[@rayveti]

😆😂🤣

[@MANHATTANBEEFMAN]

This guy is actually pretty sharp &...accurate...imo.

[@BBGshop7]

I just want to share something positive. I was out on a Lunch/dinner date with my fiance for my birthday. He is always a gentleman (opening doors and giving compliments.. very breathtakingly charming). He treated me to a buffet. I decided to try the little practice where I would asked him permission to have certain items on the buffet and he would serve them to me. It was very nice. We had great conversation and moments of laughter and gazing into each other's eyes. As a self- sufficient woman, it felt pleasantly different to ask him to serve me. "Oh I would like to have some of that, that looks delicious baby, may I have some?" It was fun, but very intimate. Almost like because of these little gestures it created a deeper connection between us. It was HIS reaction and eagerness to serve me.. wow it really made me happy. That really set the tone. Thanks for these tips. Thanks for helping me access my feminine side. The responses are amazing. I'm eager to try everything! 😃

[@jasminej6281]

Wow thanks for sharing. Ive been practicing this too. All my life I thought being independent and strong was the key but boy was I wrong. I'm now trying to be more feminine, delicate and letting someone to things for me.

[@BBGshop7]

@@jasminej6281 I totally understand what you mean! Same here. This new approach is changing my behavior with him and my responses. It takes PRACTICE to transition from masculine energy to feminine when you are so used to being strong and independent to strive in the workplace- which made me very competitive. As I learn to lean into my feminine side in the relationship, I become more at ease. I can finally exhale and receive, while he gets to feel needed and appreciated. A beautiful win win! :)

[@jasminej6281]

@@BBGshop7 amazing isn't it. We are wearing ourselves out for no reason lol. We have to use them and out them to work. They love it lol

[@kitkat129]

Wow pure gold! ThanKs for share it! I wanna do the buffet thing too. Please tell me how you did it, what you told him to serve you. Should i say it previously like in the car.. or already in the restaurant?

[@cara7675]

John, please talk about dating after menopause, and recovering from having a Narcissistic spouse.

[@danilaroche1156]

Pearls of wisdom. Thanks John and Michelle!!

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching Dani!

[@elizabethbousquet-schmidt5981]

John ore an amazing man I'm 58 and lost my husband in march this year . The way you speak is amazing and so easy to understand. Ty so much

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Sorry for your loss Elizabeth! Thanks for watching and for your comments too!

[@asandakhathi]

WOW I needed to hear this. This guy just freed me. Now I know why my ex and I didn't work out

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

Hi 😍❤🌷🌷

[@SydneyDiva]

John Gray is so knowledgeable - his wisdom helps me so much in my career!

[@dailyexcellentexplore4550]

Great work and amazing content ! I really appreciate it

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too!

[@mbibi5784]

Omg...I am 42. Soooo useful for me right now.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

So glad!

[@cj7girl280]

WOW! He (so far) gives the best advice! Thanks for sharing.. Does he have a channel?

[@jasminej6281]

Yes search for John Gray. He's a author of Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Good book I read it when I was a teenager and learned so much from it.

[@Ellenmdawes]

Thank so much for all this info! You have helped me to understand things about relationships that I have wanted to learn!

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Happy to help!

[@phoenixrising8007]

You ask him a lot of questions... you know you do it 🤣

[@DeliciaTrini]

He's amazing! Love his books!

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching and for your comment too. John is amazing!

[@lisadenlinger9964]

I have learned so much watching these videos, thank you. I wish a man would talk to me long enough for me to employ some of these very principles. 💔🤔

[@SoniaAnastasiaaa]

I’ve been having trouble asking favours of men, what are some good small favours to ask of him to buy or to do for me !?? Would love to have some help with this!!!

[@dreamyx01]

Stop asking. If he's listening to you he will do it without you having to beg to do something for you.

[@tallspicy]

Picking up something heavy, fixing something around your house or asking for suggestions or advise

[@tallspicy]

@@dreamyx01 really? How is expecting men to be mind readers going for you?

[@dreamyx01]

@@tallspicy You're not expecting him to be a mind reader you are telling him what you want but if he's not listening for whatever reason he's not going to do for you. For example you can just have a casual conversation and you mention I'd love xyz. Once me and my ex were at this vacation town three hours from where we live. We walked by a shop and I saw this outfit. I just said casually I like that outfit. I didn't nessesarily want it or tell him I wanted him to buy it for me. Within a few days after we got back he drove six hours round trip back to that store to buy me that outfit. He wanted to please me and listened to my wants and needs without me saying do this or do that.

[@tallspicy]

@@dreamyx01 I would be surprised if you have successful relationships if you feel that passively aggressively saying things in passing when you want something is a good way to get it. And then being mad if you don’t. Honey, will you grab that box???? And then when he does it... thanks sexy, I appreciate you getting the box! That will work much better with all humans. It sets them up to win, what you propose is mind reading. That is a nice story, but to expect that is seriously poor communication

[@shanlynnskinner8477]

I would love to hear a discussion on how post-menopausal women who have been on their own for decades can begin increasing their estrogen levels and accessing the desire to be with a partner. After menopause, my desire for sex completely vanished. I've been divorced for 25 years and want to find a "rest of my life" partner. It's hard when you don't even have a desire for intimacy because your hormones are gone. I eat primarily organic foods to limit the effects of pesticides and never took hormones. What's a girl to do!?

[@sarahhey8654]

John Gray sells supplements for this

[@savvybytes3748]

Fall in love with yourself. Find joy and radiate it. Do new things. Get in nature and feel the sensuous earth. You are part of it. 😘🥰💜

[@annesmith1491]

its okay. just find a guy and be friends. they cant have sex anyways. you can hug and kiss. but more isn’t necessary . so not a problem. 😊👍

[@rachelarmel7547]

@@annesmith1491 It's not true that men "can't have sex anyway." The healthy older men can and want to have sex. Not as much as younger men in their twenties and thirties and forties but unless they have potency issues most healthy men will still want sex into their later years.

[@annesmith1491]

@@rachelarmel7547 yes. most have erectile dysfunction. stats say 10% increase wirh each decade. so 40% at 40 y old, 50% at 50, 60 % at 60 and so on. i actually think its higher than these stats as men will likely underreport this because they are in denial. they WANT to have sex because they remember they liked it. but. the body part doesnt always work anymore. this is why men should get married before they get too old. a married woman is more likely to put up with that than a single woman they are trying to date. he will have made an emotional connection in marriage.

[@matilda4406]

Awesome ! Healthy hormone production is so important, most people are totally unaware

[@marathivedi]

What if he keeps saying NO to everything you say or ask

[@Unaminousverdict]

He’s not your guy move on

[@Butterfly-jk4tz]

Wow 😂 the man im seeing loves to talk and when he takes a breath i jump in and he tells me not to interrupt him. 🤣

[@TheBandoury]

Women, stop taking advice from other women; a blind leading a blind. When shopping for outfits I always ask my young male friend; I love the attention I get wearing those outfits and how they make me feel. Unlike the ones I choose myself with the help of other women.

[@kerim.peardon5551]

I've always heard that women dress for other women because we care more about other women's opinions of us. We want to fit in with the female group because, evolutionarily, women spent more time with other women and engaged in more cooperative activities with them. So we're wired to be in a female social hierarchy. But you're right that that doesn't help you catch a man. I haven't ever thought about it, but I go clothes shopping alone. Now, I like to go bra shopping with my mother and get her opinion on fit (it's easier for her to judge the back, for instance), but I don't ever ask anyone's opinion on my clothes. I know what does and doesn't look good on me. And when my late husband said he liked a certain thing on me, then I would look for more of that style in the future.

[@essence7423]

Can I ask what kind of outfits do the younger male friends like? The more casual, sexy, classy (like business professional) or dressy (like bodycon dress with heels)? I saw an old episode of the Oprah show from probably the late 90s...she had an audience full of men and had women come out in different outfits...almost all the guys each time liked the casual jeans with nice top look or business suit on the women...never the sexy mini skirt, never the tight leather pants with sheer top....has that been your experience?

[@TheBandoury]

@@essence7423 for work or everyday NOTHING slutty, COMFORTABLE but flattering your figure and shape. I do not like or approve of business suits on women,. women look like men in them, I think they take away femininity power from women, but they enhance masculinity on men. I usually choose dresses for work.

[@TheBandoury]

@@kerim.peardon5551 You don't need to play down your beauty to fit in with other women.

[@essence7423]

@@TheBandoury ......Ok is that the look most of your male friends like? The comfortable yet flattering look? (I meant the business suit for women with a skirt and jacket, I'll see if I can find the old video and post it here if you want to see it)

[@mssummerrose1]

...this video should be framed in golden flashlights...

[@naturalbeauty8366]

Always love listening in, thanks. Bless 🤗

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for listening!

[@sterneprinzessin]

Really hard to talk way more if the woman is an introvert and the man an extrovert 😝

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

That can be tricky for sure Mel! Thanks so much for watching!

[@sterneprinzessin]

@@MichelleMarchantJohnson Thank you Michelle! Keep up the great work 💜

[@kp4911]

Agreed. As an introvert watching some of these videos of all I'm expected to do, it sounds exhausting. Also, talking 5x more than a guy...when men make so many unflattering jokes about how much women incessantly talk. How is that supposed to make a woman more attractive when they always say they find talkative women annoying?

[@patrix1987]

@@kp4911 My thoughts exactly! He generally advices doing things I've heard all my life men complain about when it comes to women. Also, as an introvert myself, talking so much is not only exhausting, but often I go 'brain dead', having absolutely no idea what to say or having trouble formulating ideas so that they sounds coherent (and not annoying or uninteresting) .. I do have ideas on what to share but when it comes to sharing them, what I put out is nothing similar to what's in my head.

[@ritasarah7474]

Very good information. Thank you watching from Malaysia

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Glad it was helpful, Rita.

[@cj7girl280]

How do I cool down my hormones so I can listen better and respond to him? Sometimes my brain takes a vacation and I get tongue tied... 😂

[@zanastrange1878]

I have tried John. In the beginning My Husband did all the things you have suggested are the perfect male protective pair bonding things. Now, my Husband says he totally does not understand a word of what I’m saying and that I just talk too much. I have tried the 3 ideas -you pick one- Nope. Has no interest in pleasing me in any way😩 He asks me to do things for him ALL the time. As if, the only discussions we ever have are about the logistics of his errands. I’m feeling a lot of TAKING on his part and very little giving. When I ask for help with something-“it’ll take just a minute” - Nope

[@shanlynnskinner8477]

You deserve better!

[@stormchylde3999]

Have you tried phrasing it like "It would make me feel so good/happy if you'd do X for me" or anytime he does literally anything, say "I love it when you do little things like that for me!" and then give him a hug/kiss. It's all about making him WANT to do these things because he sees it makes his life better (and makes him feel better about himself) by making you happy.

[@lavieaunaturel6566]

This looks like a narcissist behaviour and i know what you're talking about, after 20 years of hoping he'll change behavour and get better, I decided to leave cause I think I deserve better.

[@kaiku00]

Read Alison Armstrong's Queen's Code! That will explain how you ended up in this situation and how to get out of it, simply by changing your communication so that men can understand you better. John Gray is great, but Alison knows how to explain men to women even better.

[@lavieaunaturel6566]

@@kaiku00 Sorry to say, in some cases no "code" works simply because you deal with toxic people.

[@jenniferlego4221]

I just found your channel and subscribed. I liked what he had to say and was blown away by your kindness.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Aww! Thanks for this.

[@Nina-hk7ub]

My fiance talks a lot. Doesn't ask me questions. Lol

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

You can try some of the things John suggests to see if you can get him to talk less. Good luck and thanks for watching! :-)

[@Miswhitness0520]

I know right.. mine won’t shut the hell up

[@annlaughren9060]

Wow, trueful advice. Thanks 😊

[@enelrahcreivaj]

...and this explains the reason for all my crying and sleeplessness (pity party!). Interesting! #pairbonding

[@carolweidig4689]

Thank you for your Insight into HOW a Man Fall in LOVE.

[@destiny2092]

Love your Content‼️

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks so much for watching and for your comment too!

[@tianiemitchell5692]

Best Rouge on I'm 60 and I still feel like I have a lot of estrogen

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

Hi 💑💑❤❤😍😍🌷🌷

[@sadetricadennis]

On point.

[@stephaniehand503]

thank you

[@Shasha8674]

It is progesterone not estrogen that stops at menopause. Most people are estrogen dominant due to meat/dairy/soy/BPA/chemicals/own fat/flax/baby formula/The Pill.

[@KandyKoatedKrafts]

Both hormones stop at menopause....

[@Shasha8674]

@@KandyKoatedKrafts No. Your fat makes estrogen and food/environment raise estrogen also.

[@KandyKoatedKrafts]

You are sadly mistaken!! Educate yourself on menopause!!

[@Shasha8674]

Wake up!

[@CeeceeH1819]

Menopause happens due to the shock of the sudden hormonal imbalance in a woman's body. Estrogen naturally starts reducing in a woman's body after 40.

[@bineschiff2270]

I LOVE THIS!!🥰🙏🏻

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching and for your comments too Bine!

[@stephaniefortney22]

Thank you …. Very Grateful

[@snowyhogsmeade]

What is John's book on hormones called please?

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Beyond Mars & Venus

[@sandraotero5951]

Thank you John Grey.. 😊

[@gabriellayee6472]

Thank you for the video I’ve been listening to you both for a while and I love learning from you two! I however can’t help to notice that the long hair is not the best look for a woman after a certain age! Not for most anyways! Your pretty face would benefit so much more from a shorter more modern cut! I hope you don’t mind me sharing my honest observation however irrelevant it might be!

[@kris0369]

Susan Winters has long hair it suits her just fine so why shouldn't it suit her is bc she's curvy person.

[@christineplaton3048]

65. I have long hair. I wear it up alot. Some people braid it. Don't be ashamed to be who you are. Do we all need to look like a butch?

[@boomerangsruckflug8513]

Thanks 💖🙏💖

[@sarabovenzi378]

Superb. Makes perfect sense.

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching and for your comments too Sara!

[@pamelabassmarsh5262]

Very true!!!!!

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks so much for watching and for your comments too Pamela!

[@norahernandez8980]

Thanks 🙏🏼!

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching.

[@nathalie5238]

Awch, when he gets to know you his sexual desire might drop: he is losing attraction and not in love with who you are, he’s not your man. Happened this weekend. He was all into me... we spent the night together... his desire was nowhere to be found. That’s a though one 😭 and he mumbled it is due to an upcoming burn out. This feels like a slap in my face 😭 How the hell you want me to feel good about myself, especially in these hard Covid times where we’re confined in our homes 😭 I feel devastated 😭

[@angewels]

Pull yourself together and look into John Gray...he is a PhD and has a lifetime of experience in this field and has written many many books and theres also plenty of free content on youtube

[@SC-qw3li]

John Gray talks about how it is normal for them to drop in desire after sex due to a chemical which begins with a P! So this isn’t about you ... Keep doing you and the right guy will *see-* you and love all that you are and what you are not and he will stay 😌

[@stormchylde3999]

Don't discount the possibility that he could be going through something that's stressing him out; stuff like that can also cause a man to have ED issues or just simply not feel in the mood. It may not be about you or how he's feeling about you, but from outside stressors, or sometimes even nerves/anxiety about performance.

[@sunflowerXOkitty]

Never take anything personal...I learnt the hard way to not being hard on myself. Always remind yourself that you’re a queen who is lovable and deserve love

[@annesmith1491]

@Another Day In Space good advice

[@kimt4512]

Soooo true

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Glad you think so. Thanks for watching Kim!

[@celiaescalante]

Pair-bonding 🤔

[@christineplaton3048]

Ok so let him respond, while practicing cautions that he shows no destructive narcissistic tendencies. When, if, he does back away.

[@purplelillyx9895]

What if you are desperate for closeness etc but your need isn't met?

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

It may be that you need to ask for more of what you need or assess if this is the right relationship for you. Good luck to you! Thanks for watching too!

[@ivethm80]

What book is this ? Where can I buy ?

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Search John Gray on Amazon for all of his books.

[@pinkteaforfemininity7958]

@@MichelleMarchantJohnson there are many,.. where can we find this information about hormones please?

[@ksteed1167]

@@pinkteaforfemininity7958 Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice...i believe is the book we're looking for

[@tiffanyschiller8766]

What about birth control?? Does this all still apply the same? I’m on the patch

[@enahsheen2597]

What if you do not share the same language?

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

That does make thing more challenging for sure. Thanks for watching and for your comments too!

[@zanetastefancova1819]

To je rozumom absolútne nepochopiteľná vec a predsa to funguje A nikto nemá dô toho čo hovoriť lebo je to len medzi nimi

[@mjoswong1947]

After five year of marriage my bro has been the only one doing all the house work . His wife only do laundry with the washing machine and full stop . In their 5 th year my bro felt so burn out that he employed a maid .! Not sure that help him to increase his hormone now ….

[@hoiliswu6070]

Strong and all the time join us Men and women amazing prefect conaction and decision making process all possible and successfuli appreciate you taking the time thank you for sharing

[@donnab8345]

He makes a lot of sense in many ways, but his opinion that women create estrogen after menopause by "doing feminine things" or thinking or feeling a certain way, is against the science. Science says, and proves, that estrogen in women decreases substantially after menopause. Thinking feminine, doing feminine things, has no impact on that, according to the science. Gray doesn't explain why he thinks the way he does about estrogen production, and doesn't point to any proof of that. Surely there have been studies documenting increased estrogen after women behave or think a certain way, if that's true? If not, then...I think women would do better to believe the science & proof. There are plenty of older women who are very feminine, domestic, talkative, have their spouses do things for them, etc., but who are growing mustaches because their bodies aren't producing much estrogen after menopause. I'm suspicious of claims by mentors with no evidence of scientific facts they purport are true.

[@karenholtzclaw3135]

😊

[@carrielegg5480]

Can I ask a boyfriend is he attracted to my inner world? He knows all about me.

[@angewels]

That sounds weird...I would say "no"

[@alexakent4352]

I would not ask direct questions like that. If a man is attracted to your inner world, he will tell you without you asking him.

[@tallspicy]

Yikes. Never ask that of anyone. It is both needy and creepy.

[@alisonf6478]

If that’s what the authentic You feels like asking, I say “go for it!” Life is too short to stay with someone who isn’t into you. Are you attracted to you inner world? If you are, you won’t worry so much about what he thinks ❤️

[@jasminej6281]

I let my man describe be in his own time. He will tell me how I make him feel out of the blue. Never ask. It's like fishing for complement. It's such a turn off.

[@antjetautkus5506]

👍🙂

[@sweetangel4761]

Omg 😳

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching!

[@thewrongshoes]

Is this stuff still true ???

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Yes. It is still true. Thanks for watching.

[@jennr8235]

Thank you

[@MichelleMarchantJohnson]

Thanks for watching Jenn and for your comment too!